Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Mental Health Problem or Magic . Manegra
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il como Catherine. So the Allahu La vie, the topic we have today is
a very, very vast topic. And in some sense, it's actually quite a
new topic. In fact, one of the first things that I want to
mention is that a lot of people who have not been used to the
concept of mental health, they've while they may have not been used
to the concept of mental health and maybe characterizing,
diagnosing their personal fields or feelings of
various different mental health issues as mental health.
The word when you bring that up as this person has mental health
issues, it sounds extremely negative. Now I know that's the
proper term. And that's what health practitioners therapists,
that's what the industry, that's what the Health Association's
that's exactly what the word they use. But maybe you can resonate
with this, there's a lot of people who, when you tell them that you
may have a mental health issue, they get quite worried about the
whole, they freak out about the whole mental aspect of it. Because
for very long, I mean, mental health issues have come more to
the fore. I mean, they've always been around, we've always had
mental health issues humans have had mental health issues, right.
And of course, you know, year by year, as time moves on a lot, a
lot more are being diagnosed or a lot more categorizations are
taking place. And there's quite a bit of shift in the
categorizations some things which are considered to be mental health
issues for for many decades, for time, immemorial, immemorial. Now,
they've actually been taken out of
being mental health issues, they quite normal, that people say that
that's absolutely normal, and there should be no problem with
those issues. Then you've got other issues, which are now then
being diagnosed as mental health issues. But the concept of mental
that because it's been used as a kind of an insulting term, as an
insult a derogatory term, you know, that the person's, I mean,
in colloquial language, and so on. I think when you tell somebody
that you've got a mental health problem, and we as people who are
answering religious questions, just like doctors, right, you
know, doctors, they answer they're trying to respond to and trying to
alleviate people's physical ailments, physiological ailments,
whereas we are trying to deal with people's juridical issues,
spiritual issues. And that's what we have a lot in common scholars
have a lot in common with with doctors, one word of a scholar,
you know, can really calm somebody down just like the doctor, let's
just say you've got a pain somewhere, you've got this strange
feeling, and you go to the doctor, you know, you could be thinking
though, it could be cancer, it could be this, it could be that,
but in a doctor, he makes a few checks, he does a bit of
diagnosis, then he says, no, no, it can't be cancer. That relieves
so much stress of you. It's amazing how much stress it can
relieve of you. Likewise, with the scholars, they say a few good
words, it can make such a massive difference. So when we get a lot
of questions,
we can now tell I mean, a lot of scholars can now tell that these
questions are actually going to be recurring questions because
they're based on OCD. Right, the based on OCD. And that's why it's
very difficult for you to just keep giving responses about it
because the person will never and never stop asking questions
because they're it's the same question. It's the same problem.
It's a mental health problem. Not telling somebody they've got a
mental health problem doesn't always sit well because people are
not willing to accept it. In fact, to be honest, most people, I don't
even want to say most people, many, many people, they're
probably more accepting. If you would say to them that this is
probably needs some kind of
gin Buster intervention, right. You need some kind of rookie or
you need some kind of serious Amil and serious, you know,
practitioner of this kind
have, you know this kind of therapy to try to help you,
they're probably more willing to accept that at the back of their
mind than it being a mental health issue. It's almost like as if
mental mental health issue has a stigma attached to it. Now, nobody
wants to have a mental health issue right now, that's
understandable. I mean, nobody wants to have a mental health
issue. I mean, you don't want to be seen as suffering from that.
But likewise, nobody wants to be seen as suffering from issues of
spell and magic, and
the evil eye and all of these kinds of things as well. So it
takes quite a while, or it's quite a bit of work to try to sift
between these things. But I think we're going to have to come the
community is going to have to come to terms with mental health
issues. And sometimes, you know, it's just easier to tell people
that that's my problem, I've got an issue so that people know. And
I think when more people are able to say this, I think the stigma of
it will be detached. And that will go away, so that it'll just be
easier for people with mental health issues to function, right,
and people to give them the excuse to give them the leeway to give
them the room. Right. So all of these things are very important
things to think about. Now, I want to try to give a few ideas today
about how Islam views, things, these things and aspects of this,
related to
mental health related to concerns, worries, anxieties, depression,
and then it goes beyond that schizophrenia. I mean, there's so
many different mental health problems that we can't, you know,
we just can't bring them all up today. But the Islamic system, I
mean, at the base, I'm just going to give you some universals here,
the Islamic System
is a system that aims to create a balance, right, to create a
balance in a Muslims life, psychologically, by giving them
by putting all of life's matters in perspective, right? That's very
important. What Islam tries to do. What Islam wants from us to
understand is that there are going to be challenges in this world,
there are going to be moments of anxiety, there are going to be
difficulties. And there are going to be things that will not happen
the way you want them to happen. And the biggest example of this is
that even prophets, the prophets, Lawson made a very, very profound
statement. He said, I'm BIA, I shall do not see Bella, and that
the prophets are sometimes the most intensely tested individuals,
they have, they go through some of the most severe tests. testing in
the spiritual world, is always according to the ability of the
person, if the person was a religious person, Allah subhanaw
taala
will give you a test, a psychological test, if that if you
have to undergo it. And he'll give you the ability if you ask him, to
tolerate to deal with it, and to overcome it to surmount it. That's
the beauty of the system. So Islam, once Islam is trying to
create a balance in a person's life, by putting all of life's
matters in perspective, rearranging priorities, you see,
life is all about priorities. There's various different forces
you're going to have in life. You know, on the one hand, there's the
demand to do this, there's a demand to do that there's a demand
to do this, which one should I do first? I can't do all of them at
once. Which one should I do first? Which one should I, sometimes
it's, you're gonna have to sacrifice one over the other. I
can only do this, if I do this, I'm going to miss out on this. If
I lose this, I'm going to gain this. Those kinds of decisions.
They're quite organic, normal decisions that happen, you know,
they're existential issues. They happen in life. That's exactly
what it is. The quicker that we can come to terms with this, the
easier it is to understand. So broadly speaking, Allah subhanho
wa Taala
provides a lot of general guidances, which we're going to go
into, to see if that inshallah can help us if we focus on them.
Slowly, slowly. I mean, it may not change over a day. But slowly,
slowly, if you focus on this, if you read the Quran with meaning,
you will actually start seeing how a lot of mental health issues a
lot of confusions.
A lot of confusions about the world and the way the world works.
And incidents in our life can actually become very, very clear
for those people who actually read the Quran because there's so much
in the Quran to reflect upon other people's anxieties, other people's
challenges, punishments, joys, successes, victories, all of these
things can actually help us as well to you know, It read, it can
resonate with us, and it can give us a better understanding and
guide us that's essentially the purpose of the Quran. So,
Islam what it wants to do is that it wants to rearrange our
priorities accordingly to that balance system, and harmonize the
circle of relations
Ship between the individual and his inner self and his outer
environments. So we as human beings, there are two forces that
we deal with on a day to day basis. We have our freewill. And
there's no doubt about freewill that you know, we have personal
choice volition, we can choose what to do and what not to do. But
there are two really, really profound factors, right, which
will govern, effect, and sometimes constrain how we do things or what
we choose to do. One are inner feelings. And the other one is our
external factors. So for example, you want to go somewhere, you're
already to go but the transport broke down, your own car broke
down, or you were supposed to go with somebody, they did not turn
up, or there was a problem outside and you couldn't go those are
external circumstance, or the meeting got cancelled, for
example, internal circumstances, you became extremely sick, you
became extremely ill. You woke up with a fever. You just had a big
stitch. You had a big cramp, and you just couldn't go, there could
be so many things. And these are such things that we need to learn
to deal with Allah subhanho wa Taala says in Surah tell us, what
does the female Turkey Allahu Darla Hera wala attends Nasi
Beckham in a dunya well as in come X and Allah Who Eleague what a
double confessor the fellow in Allah, Allah, your humble
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seek the life to come by means of what Allah subhanaw taala has
granted you what Allah has granted you, you need to be using that to
seek the afterlife because that's a big life, that does not mean
that you abandon this life. It's just that if you have the focus on
the hereafter, you will also make this life work in accordance to
that it will just adjust it. Do not be neglectful of your rightful
share in this world. Well, Thompson of Ciba COVID-19. Allah
is saying that himself that while you focus on the hereafter, don't
forget your share of this world.
I don't know if you've ever heard that properly, because our focus
is, you know, in preaching in in exhortations in barns, in
lecturers, it's always about the hereafter. But Allah subhanaw
taala is also saying, Don't neglect don't forget about your
part in this world that you have to play as well. Do good. Then
Allah says obviously says do good unto others as Allah subhanaw
taala has done upon you and do not seek to spread corruption in the
land for Allah subhanho wa Taala does not like people who do that.
People feel depressed or sad. When this balance that Islam seeks to
provide and creating a human being. Right when that equilibrium
is disturbed, that's when people feel depressed.
When you don't have balance in your life, you feel anxious, and
you feel depressed.
Now, Islam steps in at this point, it's supposed to if your Islam is
living and working for you, because you have adopted it, and
you've using it, and you seek answers in it. Right? Then it
steps in at this place, and says, Well, firstly, don't condemn this
feeling.
Right. So number one, we're not going to condemn this feeling
because it's something that could happen to all of us.
But to provide solutions for regaining that psychological and
mental balance, attaining maintaining rather, a mental and
psychological balance is very, very important. The way to do that
is in a number of ways, firstly, I think everybody should just you
know, if you realize that challenges, difficulties, pains,
problems, calamities are old as man himself as old as humans. So
they're going to happen, we don't want them to happen to us, but we
need to be ready if they do happen. So if they do happen, then
that
in itself should not
just bowlers over. It's something that we need to start thinking
about that if that does happen, how are we going to deal with it,
the next time that it happens, we need to have a philosophy, we need
to have an approach to these things.
So now let's just quickly throw in this concept of depression that a
lot of people are struggling with today, right? What exactly is
depression? Now? Should a Muslim have depression? This is a big
question that's asked that Muslims should not have different period
that you know, you hear people saying Muslims should never be
depressed, they got so much going for them. They've got such a
worldview. Why are Muslims still depressed if they've got such a
view? If you saw and provides an equilibrium if Islam provides a
balance, it gives you answers to many different things. We had such
a profit and so on. Why do then are there Muslims who are
depressed? So now we have to understand there's actually two
types of depressions broadly speaking, right? You can
categorize depression in two ways. Number one is situational
depression. Now, situational depression is essentially a
temporary form of deep distress or sadness, a temporary form of
anxiety because of something that happened and you feel very
depressed about
to write, it's the moment, right, there's something that happened,
you shortcoming, you lost something, something went wrong,
you didn't attain something. So that's the situation reverse, you
don't always like that. That's, that is one type of depression.
Right? A Muslim should not have problem with this one. The second
type is a clinical depression. Now, clinical depression is a
mental health disorder, right? A clinical depression is a mental
health disorder, that just kind of takes over your whole being, it
remains for much longer. It takes over your work, your study your
sleep, the way you eat, and your enjoyment of any kind of
pleasurable activities, any kind of joys, any kind of pastimes,
effects, everything, it's like, it's just this cloud that comes
over you, and it stays for a very, very long time.
Now, where do these things come from? The first one is quite
simple to understand that it's just a moment. I mean, everybody
goes through something like that, when something it doesn't go
according to your liking. Now, the first one, which is the
situational depression, the temporary one, it's just like a
passing mood, it could be a mood swing, it could be hormones, it
could be so many different things. It's not necessarily a sign of
personal weakness at all. That one should go away. However, the
second one, which is a clinical depression, that's when you call
it a depressive disorder. Right? It's more than a passing mood. So
when it's something more than a passing mood, then that is
considered a depressive disorder. Now, that is not just like a
temporary weakness that you're going through, or it's just that
you can snap out of it so easily. Sometimes, it's not something that
can be just easily willed away or wished away. Right? Because what's
happening in that is that the brain, right, the chemicals the
neuro chemistry, has been, there's a change in that. So you need
some, some more deeper intervention, of course, with the
with Allah subhanaw, taala, as assistants, every everything can
change. But it's good to get such a person generally needs to get
some kind of therapy, because it's a much more deeper issue. It can
trigger certain moods, and you need to get professional help and
treatment in that case.
Now, how does this come about?
There could be various different causes of this. Sometimes if a
person doesn't deal with the situational depressions properly,
and they allow them to build up because they just don't know how
to react sometimes, eventually, they could be overcome this way.
OCD from what I've seen, also develops in this way, it starts
with something small and just becomes bigger and bigger and
bigger until a person
is overwhelmed, is overwhelmed. The Prophet sallallahu sallam said
about this, that nobody's going to try to place a burden on the deen
until it will actually bowl them over and overwhelmed them. Right.
So sometimes this whole OCD issue gives rise to questions of your
arcade. I mean, I've dealt with all of these right questions of
your Aqeedah is this shake is this Cofer? Am I when I bow down, I
feel like I'm bowing down to the devil instead. So I can't even
pray anymore. I mean, anytime when your OCD leads to an issue where
you're gonna have problems with your worship your obedience, and
you have to understand that from the shaytaan. Now, that's from the
shaytaan or it's just an override of your system. That cannot be
from Allah subhanaw taala at all, because Allah subhanaw taala is
not going to, you know, actively stop you from doing good from
doing good deeds, generally speaking, you know, some cases
that's a possibility when Allah places a seal on the heart because
of some bad deeds that a person has done.
So one has to really, really understand that then sometimes
it's about Tulloch issues, have I divorced my wife, it gives x
expression in that. On other occasions, it's about am I pure or
not? Have I am I period is my wudu or hosel completed or not? So
generally, I have to tell people that for you to spend any more
than three to four minutes in will do is haram because you're wasting
your wasting water for you to spend any more than if I give them
seven to 10 minutes of hustle of bathing, then that is haram for
you. Sometimes that helps them what scholars have had to do with
such cases because it's a reverse kind of psychology. They've had to
get some OCD patients to actually pray their solid outside the
toilet door. Right? Just just to kind of get them used to the idea
that it everything that you consider impure is not necessarily
impure. So there's a lot of this kind of stuff that
a lot of the time what I would suggest is that if you've got
these issues, all right, you should see the therapist and not a
scholar, because this becomes an OCD issue which is a mental health
problem and most Alama if
And, you know, judging from myself, are not trained to do
this, you know, on a professional level, they're not trained to deal
with it, they can give you a response, they can keep giving you
a response, to be honest, what I've seen with OCD patients, is
that they ask you the same question over and over again. So
what I've had to do on many occasions is that I've told them,
or sent them something written that look, no, you are not
careful, you are excused individual, I must ignore these
thoughts. And I said that every time you come across these
thoughts, you just read that you're gonna have the same same
answer. There's no point emailing, emailing me, there's one
individual who has emailed approximately 50 to 60 different
scholars and institutions in the world, right to try to get an
answer for his problem. And he's looking in the wrong place. And he
complains when he can't get an answer. When when some of these
institutions, some of these scholars, when they when they
respond to him, you know, in an angry way, sometimes or whatever,
he gets really upset. Try to tell him your problem is not a
religious one, your problem is just manifesting as a religious
one. It's actually a mental health problem, but people don't listen.
So then he's, he will send others like myself, some really bad
things about what others have done, you know, what other
scholars have done. But we all understand what's going on is that
this person is severely but it's very severely dealing with OCD
problems. It's a mental health problem, and he's coming to the
wrong place. I'm not joking. How do I know he's been to about 5060
Scholars is because what he will do is that he will sometimes email
all of us at once. And you can see every single email that he sent
questions to every data lifter in the world that you know, you can
find every other public scholar down there, you know, all the
famous scholars, he's somehow found the emails or whatever, and
he just emailed all of them again, you can tell he just puts it all
in the CC, right. And this person, all they need is they need to go
to a therapist. The confusion here is that because
it's manifesting as a religious issue, Talaq purity, filth, have I
spread filth? Right? Have I spread filth in places? Or Holmatro?
Masada is another one. What happens is that they think it's a
religious issue. So I say, Look, I'm going to give you an answer.
Remember, this is the answer. This is going to be the same answer,
right? But you need to get mental health therapy. That's what you
need to be able to solve yourself. Some people have been cured
otherwise, right? Because they've changed scene or they've gotten
involved in another activity A lot of the time what would help
certain people is that they get involved with something else to be
able to manage manage their situation, this is with a lot of
anxiety issues, if you can help in that sense. So then there is the
over overlap that some people they then start going to animals, they
go to practitioners, Rokia practitioners and so on. Now Rukia
from the Quran and Sunnah cannot be harmful for I mean, it's it's
always beneficial for people to read the Fatiha for people to
read, qualia, your caffeine and coolala, who had cloud available
for the Colorado Bureau bidness. Especially the last resort as the
two hours that we have AYATUL kursi Surah Al Baqarah 10 verses a
day until you complete it or more. All of these things cannot be
harmful. They're beneficial Hamdulillah, you know, to read
fattier, blowing some water, drink the water, all of this can be
beneficial. But sometimes the issue is a psychological issue.
That's what's important to understand. We have to come to
terms that mental health is a genuine problem. Just like there's
a wound, there's a pimple, there's a wart, there's a pain, there's an
ulcer, you know, that there's, whether you call it heartburns.
Just the way you have all of those things in growing toenails. I
mean, two things, there is mental health problems, right
psychological problems, they exist. They're not always to do
with magic. The one example I can provide very quickly is that
I was once consulted by the police force, about a particular incident
where a Muslim woman hijabi practicing Muslim woman had killed
her children, right literally taken a knife and killed her two
children. Right while her husband was at work and carved out some of
the organs and it was quite crazy. I mean, it was quite gruesome,
quite crazy. And after the investigation, they noticed that
on the walls on her computer, printouts of lots of rakia, it was
lots and lots of research that she had done on rakia on magic on on
the evil eye and all of this kind of stuff. Right? And so they
wanted more understanding. They told me about the case and I
explained what the situation was. So she was obviously taken in and
her husband is absolutely shocked. He knew that he was she was
obviously had a disorder of some sort and are struggling with stuff
but he never knew we'd go to this go to this level. They put her
into a hospital and after about two months, she was fine after
they gave her the medicines and it
anything like that? Now what, what my understanding is that, judging
from her practice, she was doing rakia for a very long time,
meaning for a few months, it looks like she had been a few weeks at
least, she'd be doing Rocky. But it wasn't helped helping her
because she was rakia is going to be helpful to a certain degree.
But if you've got a mental health problem, the Rukia is not
necessarily for the unless you do, you know, unless you've got a very
special way of doing it in that way. Right? Because this had
nothing to do with gin, you had nothing to do with Eva, like it
was a, it was a chemical imbalance.
And this is what the problem is, then she she was not willing to go
and do that a lot of people have asked, when they have these
issues, they're not willing to go and find out. Right, they've had
so many issues, but they're just not willing to go to a therapist,
to be honest, sometimes if it's not related to certain things.
It's just best to go to a therapist, even if it's a non
Muslim therapist, especially with OCD issues, because the underlying
problem is probably this is probably the same anyway. Right?
So
the causes for depression, I mean, could be many, many, it could
sometimes run in the family, and those people have to be much more
careful. They need to and there's lots of therapies out there.
There's lots of ways of actually preventing that from happening.
Right? If you know that your parents, grandparents or some
other uncle Uncle doesn't have this issue, there's ways that you
can actually because it's maybe just some kind of chemical
shortcoming, right so that there's something that you can do to
preempt these things, right?
Because the causes of all of this can be genetic, psychological,
there could be some environmental factors are involved as well.
Right? The relationship between the chemistry of your brain and
your experience in life is always a two way street, you have to
remember that, right? There's certain experiences that we will
internal internalize, for example, I've got a I've got a friend who's
our mashallah he's been worshiping with us in the masjid for such a
long time. But he's had a tough childhood. Right? Is that a very
tough childhood, no love at all. I think, from what I discovered
later, neither from the mother, neither from the Father did split
up anyway, but neither from that. And sometimes he,
he acts, you know, he reacts very angrily for no reason, you think
for no reason. Now, if you don't know about his problems, we will
probably respond to him and retort to him in an angry way. But his
brother just told me recently, that all he needs is a hug. That's
all he needs, that when he gets angry, all he needs is a hug, he
just needs love. So
he's told me about some of this stuff himself that
because he was, you can say punished for keeping his nails
long or whatever, or others in his class, or others that he knew
would be punished by the teacher for keeping long nails, for
example. Now he has this habit of constantly cutting the nails to
like, really, to the skin. Once I think he had a problem crossing
over the street, and he had a bit of an accident. So now he's
extremely careful, like he wouldn't cross even, you know,
insist to go, you know, to the zebra crossing, or whatever the
case is. So sometimes it's events, if they've not been dealt with,
right, if not, if they've not been dealt with correctly, they can
actually scar you for life sometimes. So if you do have those
things, you need to get help, because there is help to be able
to unravel these kinds of things is a lot of therapy out there.
There's a lot of therapy, that you could even try yourself online.
There's a lot of self help manuals, it's a good idea to do
this, because these are psychological issues. This is
exactly what we're speaking about. These are psychological issues,
right? So it's a two way street, our experiences and the chemical
makeup of our brain. I mean, I'm not a brain expert, I can't
explain to you exactly what it is. And if I'm making some mistake in
this, please forgive me. But generally speaking, both of these
things have an effect on one another.
When it comes to Islam, so to be to become a good Muslim, we
generally submit a will to Allah subhanaw taala to only Allah
subhanaw taala nobody else. There's some when we when we are
Muslim, the word Islam means to submit yourself. So what does it
mean by submit yourself, submitting yourself to Allah
subhanaw taala. Right, means that you must also trust Him that He is
in charge of events, and He'll take good care of me. Even though
I'm having a slip up right now, even though I'm having a
shortcoming. I'm having a challenge. Something has gone
wrong. You know, I've been deprived of a certain thing that I
was really seeking out. You know, there was somebody I wanted to
marry but she got married with somebody else. So he got married
with somebody else. You know, however that is
The part of most Islam part of being a Muslim is that
you have to have trust in Allah subhanaw taala you have to realize
that he knows everything. See without understanding the names of
Allah subhanaw taala and the attributes of Allah subhanaw taala
you can't you don't really know Allah.
The more I think about this, the reason people are so far from
Allah subhanaw taala even though they say they're believers, is
because they've not taken the time out to understand who Allah is.
I don't think there's enough books out there or enough lectures out
there about the names of Allah as well the names of Allah are so
important that they actually have to become part of our life.
Because that's who Allah is. If you don't know that Allah subhanaw
taala knows everything.
That Allah subhanaw taala is the wise one, that Allah subhanaw
taala doesn't oppress even in the least, like he can't even make a
mistake. He can't even mistakenly oppose someone, like, okay, he's
got, you know, sometimes they say that, Oh, the person has some very
good intentions, but he made a mistake. Right? It was a genuine
mistake. Allah does not make mistakes. He knows what's going on
now. And he knows what's going to happen 100 years afterwards, like
forget, two years afterwards, or forget just after the event, or
just, you know, next year or whatever. He knows what your great
great, great great grandfather grandchild will be doing right
now. He knows what the last person will be doing. Allah does not make
mistakes, everything is planned. And he knew everything from
beforehand. Now, if you don't know that, that is such a powerful
knowledge, bit of knowledge that can affect the way you think about
Allah subhanaw taala. So I think one of the most fundamental
problems that is that people do not know who Allah is, even though
we say we believe in Allah, we pray to Him and everything. But if
you don't know Allah subhanaw taala is omniscient that he knows
everything in detail in minut detail, right? Number two, he's in
control of everything. Number of all the factors. He's planned
everything. There's a reason behind everything. Okay? Allah
subhanho wa Taala loves believers. Write numerous verses in the
Quran, about Allah subhanaw taala is loves for the believer, Allah
subhanaw taala loving the believers, Allah taking care of
them, while Allahu Allah you will mean Allah Who will you will let
in numerous, numerous ways that he takes care of you. If you don't
know that you won't call on to him because what shaytaan will make
you do is to look elsewhere is to say, No, God hates you. Right? How
do you know that God hates you? Yes, if you've been committing a
lot of sin, maybe maybe he's going to punish you. Yes, that's
understandable. That doesn't mean it's not open. Allah subhanaw
taala is the forgiving one, numerous versus numerous. In fact,
numerous names as far as often as I fit in them. CarBody Tobin Allah
has a far in Allah has a foreign
right. There are so many words and so many names so many
characteristic he uses to explain so really taken.
Study the Quran because the Quran includes the names of Allah
subhanaw taala names have to become part of our life. We need
to call out Allah subhanaw taala with his names,
right according to the need of the time, we're looking for
forgiveness, then we call out with her for Dr. afar. If we're looking
for opening that there's a difficulty there's a constraint.
Yeah, Fatah. Yeah, Fattah if there's a subtle issue, yeah,
Latif Yeah. Latif Latif, if there's cure, it's an issue of
sickness and illness. Then we have to remember the verse of the Quran
that ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada says that he is the one who gives me
Shiva Ibrahim Ali Salam Ibrahim Ali Salam said that Allah subhanho
wa Taala is the one who gives me He gives me she felt he gives me
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ALLAH SubhanA whether that's why I think the one of the main thing is
get to recognize Allah subhanaw taala undertake a study of the
names, the 99 and more names of the Quran as mentioned the Quran
and other places, we have to understand that Allah subhanaw
taala has all the power has all the treasures has all the
resources, and we as human beings, right, we have limitations. Then
we look positively according to the Hadith of the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam the price that Allahu alayhi salam said, that go
and avidly seek out which is to your benefit. So Hadith in Sahih,
Muslim, gone avidly seek out what is going to benefit you
is Allah Maya and Pharaoh koala charges and don't sit down, sit
back and be debilitated and be important. And sit back in
weakness. You do your best to leave the rest in Allah's wisdom,
if he wants that it's going to turn out in the right way of
Hamdulillah.
There are people who were rejected by somebody for marriage, and the
person has moved on. But this individual has not moved on. And
they're unwilling to move on. They see a dream and a lot of the time
the dreams are actually because you're still contemplating you're
still brooding over that same idea. So you see a dream. So then
they will write into say that I've just seen a dream about this
person, you know, it's been five months before or whatever. But
I've seen the dream could this mean anything? Well, one thing it
definitely means is that you're still going on about it. You need
to move on.
It's just the way life is you can't have everything you want.
Paradise is where you will get everything that you want. This
world is not someplace where you get everything you want. You just
have to move on sometimes and realize that there's some people
who are waiting for a miracle for things to come back. There's a
person who his wife's gone. He's having suffering in sleep, he's
got health issues, he's got psychological issues, everything.
I said, Okay, well, what are you waiting for? He said, Well, I want
her to come back. He said, It's been three years. I mean, you're
not going to come back. She's not coming back. People don't realize
these things, there waiting for a miracle to happen. And three years
have passed now that miracles do happen. But they happen very
seldomly. And as a fella ones, Allah is giving you a message
already. Move on, move on. A lot of people who move on they
actually make their life much better. See, as a Muslim Muslims,
like everybody else, are going to also confront troubles in their
life. disturbing thoughts come to everybody, just like everybody
else. But the difference should be if you're a believer, and your
Islam is working for you, because you're making it work for you,
Islam works, right? Anybody who's tried Islam has worked for them.
Question Is that are you letting get making it work for you? Are
you giving it a chance to work by studying by learning by getting to
know Allah subhanaw taala. So as I said, everybody is going to be
affected by life struggles and disturbing thoughts. But a Muslim
should be able to deal with them much better. Because a Muslim has
something which a lot of people don't have, which is a clear
roadmap.
Islam gives you a roadmap.
You see,
the reason why some gives you a roadmap and why that helps, is
because if you are in this world, with no end in sight, you don't
know what's going to happen in the future. You have no philosophy
about what's gonna happen in the future this life is it. That is
one of the biggest recipes for disaster. And this is the majority
of the world are probably like this today. Where they don't they
have no idea what's gonna go what's going on. If they're
nominal Christians, they may have a concept of the afterlife. But if
they're not Muslims, Christian Jews are people with a with a,
with a eschatology about the afterlife, then this life is it.
And most people are materialistic today, where it's all about this
life. Now imagine Subhanallah what a limited life people have. If
that's all you think about it, that is so debilitating, like you
don't know why you're here. You don't know where you're going. All
you know is what you're doing right now and what you've done,
and what you expect to do, and you're trying to make the best out
of that. Right? So that means there are no principles for you.
It's whatever makes sense to you today. That's what you call
liberalism. Today, it's just what makes sense for you today. And
there's no one truth. It's whatever the truth is for anybody
and everybody. So you can believe something to be true. You can
believe something, and I must respect your truth and you must
respect me as long as it doesn't harm me. You know, I shouldn't say
anything to you. It's endless. That's why then you can you know,
you're allowed to do whatever you want. Nobody should do as long as
you don't harm anybody else. That's probably the only barrier
in that place, the only curb and only the only limits in that
place.
This is the life which is the problem Matic life now where many,
many Muslims while they have a theology about this, they've not
made it
The reality the reality is that this is the only world. But really
a Muslim, if you allow your faith to work for you, then you are
given a clear roadmap and that clear roadmap map is where you
came from, right? And where you're going, and why you came here in
the first place.
Now, those three answers, if you can have those answers, your life
will change, where I've come from, why I'm here, and where I'm going
to go. That is so important. And these are very, very existential
issues that every human being needs to think about. Because we
as human beings, we can't we are in this world right now, we all
need to have an understanding of where we came from, and where
we're going to go. And that helps a lot. The whole concept of, you
know, the hereafter, this limited world, the purpose of why we're
here, all of this is extremely important for us to understand. So
if you know these things, then you've also already got a head
start. Right? Because you've got this fundamental knowledge from
our Creator, of course, you have to believe in the Creator for
that. So if you are a Muslim, you will be believing in that anyway,
all you have to do is just get that information. If you have this
Insha Allah, you will be saved from existential emptiness, there
won't be an emptiness in your eye, which you'll have to fill up with
doing things of joy every day, doesn't matter what they are. No
curbs, no limits, no barriers, no guidance, just whatever makes me
happy, I should be able to do that. That's essentially what the
motto of the world is, whatever makes you happy, do it, just do
it, just do it. That's the idea. Because there's an emptiness that
people are feeling. And we have to feel sorry for such people. I know
we condemn. And that's understandable. But the main thing
is that we have to feel sorry that this is what the mainstream have
just been led to follow. We have to help out, we have to sort
ourselves out. We have to try to help other people as well. So the
focus should be on taking control over your life, to make the most
of it, according to the purpose that you are here for the once
you've understood the why of why you're here, of our being here,
then you need to get everything you do in this life.
Right? To be full, according to that purpose of why we are here.
Every decision you make should not make you feel worse, should make
the best decision to wrap it up. Allah subhanho wa Taala
tells us that look. We've been told through our Sharia that good
things or bad things will happen. If you have good things you thank
Allah. And don't show off and don't exalt and don't get
overexcited. But if you bad things happen and you be patient and
realize that okay, I've done my best, then the rest is up to Allah
subhanaw taala. Anybody who feels completely lost and alone, in the
face of a crisis, right? That's what happens when new crises you
feel very alone. The normal reaction is they're going to feel
depressed and helpless. But the person who has recognized Allah
in a crisis, they're not going to feel so alone. Even if nobody
helps them. They're going to feel supported by a compassionate Allah
who genuinely cares for them and they felt it in their life. And
once you give that opportunity to Allah, Allah will say, Allah says
that if you come to me walking, I'll come to you running. The
whole hadith is such that it's just to show that I'm, you see, we
are we're the ones who are occupied in our pursuits of the
world and our businesses and our Netflix and everything else. And
Allah is just waiting there. For the time we turn to him, he's
ready. Individually ready for each one of us. That's Allah subhanaw
taala for us.
If we get that understanding, then when we're even in a crisis, we
will feel supported by R Rahman r Rahim, Allah dude. Right? The
compassionate God who generally cares? Who Mooji with that word,
the one who responds to please write the one who grants
assistance to anybody who seeks help. Right? Now, that kind of a
person is still going to be grieved, but he's going to get he
or she is going to get back on track faster than somebody who
doesn't have this, to hang on to and to relate to.
So
Islam doesn't require us to be super humans that we're never
going to have a difficulty difficulties come on everywhere.
Look, how many difficulties came to the Prophet salallahu Salam.
But once you start learning how to deal with difficulties, they
become easier.
They'll still be some pain maybe but it will become easy inshallah.
So, to to finish up what I would what I would suggest is that
we try to make a distinction between magic and the evil eye. We
use rakia. We do have we do I always suggest the multi pronged
approach a multifaceted approach. You do some Rukia it can be
harmful. Write your own rakia, to be honest, you do your own rakia,
we've got
lectures online, about magic and so on. And there's some good
suggestions in there. And there was a woman who just contacted me
a few weeks ago, she was having some issues, you know, some of the
psychological, mental, or whatever it was, it was, I think it was
something to do with some really weird experiences or whatever she
did the suggestion of the Kulu Allah who I had cultivated before
I cut out a bit of bitterness at three times, which I've mentioned
in the other video in the other lecture, and then she you have to
do this between three to five days. And she says, You know, I
did it for three to five days and I felt a massive difference can I
carry on doing it or can I not realize that absolutely, you can,
you can carry on doing it, it takes about half an hour, 20
minutes or half an hour to do and Mashallah. So
multi pronged approach. Try that. But if you don't get cured, go and
seek a therapy, seek therapy, mental health, right? It's not so
bad. It's a problem. That's what Allah wants us. You know, that's
what Allah has challenged us with. There are a lot of good medic
medications as well, you know, and multi pronged approach. But above
all, the first thing that we need to do is to just get an
understanding of Allah subhanho wa Taala is and you will realize that
once you understand Allah subhanaw taala your life will become easier
and simply put, just read the estate far 100 times in the
morning with 100 times salawat and the prophets Allah is in the stick
for will purify our sins or remove darkness is the Salawat de Lucia
from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam will bring us blessings, read some
Quran. Within two three weeks. You see if you do this morning and
evening, you will actually start feeling a connection with Allah
read the Quran try to read through His names. We have lectures on the
names of Allah subhana wa, tada as well. And in sha Allah, Allah
subhanho wa Taala will help industry God, welcome that one.
Anil hamdu, Lillahi Rabbil aalameen, I thought, let's take
some questions. What do you think people you live with, that causes
you to feel depressed, and it could be due to little things like
small comments, or the negative mood around you is also difficult
to deal with this person's most persons might be from the older
generation so that spoken there is only so much you can take me in
quiet, especially because you have to live with them for the rest of
your life.
So some of these questions that if they relate to family members, I
mean, if it's your father, your mother, your older brother
sisters, you know, that's a major challenge. And the thing is that
you if there's a way that you can actually
distance yourself. So a lot of the time,
if you can live separately, but still go and assist people then
assist your parents. That could be very, very helpful. I was
contacted a few weeks ago by a person who is I think, over 30
years old. And he's complaining about his parents that they are
they do this, and they do that and everything. And I asked him how
old he is. And he said over 30 years old, I said, Well, you're
bringing the problems, why do you have to stay they says because I'm
dependent on them. Right? So well, you need to stand on your own
feet. Sometimes, you know, okay, that's maybe an exception issue, I
can completely understand that. Sometimes it's, you know, you're
only 1516. Or maybe you're 20 years old and you're not married
yet, or you're not moving out, or you must stay or whatever, with
your parents, you just have to understand that sometimes
things aren't going to change. So you have to occupy you can try up
you occupying yourself with others, you can try to win them
over in change your strategy, sometimes changing of slides,
because what happens with a lot of parents is that they think that
they that they just keep criticizing, because they think
that
we haven't changed, we have not grown up. So sometimes you have to
actually bring a whole change of scene, you have to really try to
act very mature, to try to win them over. And sometimes it's, you
know, you're never going to win the situation. And in that case,
the only thing you can do is to ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada for
assistance. Right? So if you feel like crying, or whatever the case
is, or you feel angry, just go and put that dua to Allah subhanaw
taala rather than bring it up here, if it's not going to have a
difference, what's the point? You know, you're going to be
disrespectful, you're going to be rude or whatever you have to try
to just minimize. And,
you know, this, this requires a lot more intervention. I think
it's very difficult to answer this question because there's so many
variables in disregard. There's one person who contacted me and he
said that same kind of thing. He was dealing with a lot of
criticism. So what he did is that he started to literally just
ignore his father. Right? His father, his mother, right? Ignore,
which means that even if he's in the room, he doesn't say anything.
He tries to stay away generally, even when he's there. He doesn't
speak much, or whatever the case is. But now after a few years,
he's having problems with this as well. He needs that interaction.
So he's saying I don't feel good about this either. So that's why
if you're
If you can move out and have some distance, but still retain, you
know, the connection and the communication and the love, that
would be the best option. If you cannot you do your best, you find
another hobby to involve yourself in, you assist to the best of your
ability you pay whatever you know you fulfill the responsibility you
have towards your parents, you avoid insulting them, because
that's not going to help them it doesn't make them change, you have
to remember that it generally doesn't make them change and you
just get in more trouble. And you have to release you know you got
frustration, right? You start have to just release that with Allah
subhanho wa Taala by crying out in your own room to Allah subhanho wa
Taala in your DUA as in your Salah, and so on.
May Allah subhanaw taala make it easy, there are just some cases
which are very difficult. Allah subhanaw taala knows you can't
change your parents, that's something you cannot change they
are who they are, that there must be some wisdom or some reason in
this, we have to just try to adjust it. And there's a lot of
people have succeeded in that, where they've tried to adjust the
way they do things, to change the scene to do something that
convinces their parents that they're not the little child
anymore. That, you know, still does the problems that they you
know, that they may have been used to doing or whatever the case is.
May Allah subhanaw taala make it easy, there are probably a lot of
other answers out there that other people can suggest of what they
did in this situation.
Another question,
how to take how do we take control of thoughts, overthinking
especially negative thoughts about the future outcomes.
For future outcomes, what I'm what I'm going to suggest is that you
listen to this other lecture, which is a one hour and 15 minute
lecture, which is I think, a very, very important lecture. Generally,
people are worried about future outcomes because
of past losses, past challenges.
And the they don't have any reliance in Allah, they don't have
any hope in Allah that he's going to make things different. So
that's why increasing I think increasing your love for Allah
subhanaw taala the lecture is don't be depressed, you don't know
your future. So I think it's going to be very relevant to this
discussion. Maybe you can put up a link, don't be depressed, you
don't know your future, Inshallah, that should be able to help you
just really get your head around why things happen and how you can
actually do your best and you can actually make things different.
I'm going to give you some statistics quickly, right? We
didn't have time in the lecture, but there's some really, really
important statistics that I think are very, very helpful that should
inshallah help in this regard.
You see, Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran that in Al Insana,
holy cow, hello, that the human being has been created with
Hello, hello, that means to fret over something, right? To be
distressed, worried, and
a bit restless in certain situations. So the human has a
propensity to become like this, right?
Now, you know, whatever you're concerned about whatever you're
worried about, about something happening or not happening in the
future, these are the statistics and these will be inshallah
helpful, right?
What these statistics actually show is that worrying is actually
unnecessary in most cases, so 40% of the things that we worry about,
right? out of 100% of the things that we may be worried about 40%
of them will never ever happen.
That's the statistic, right? That 40% just will not happen. Okay. So
that's 40%. And now we have to deal with 60% 30% of the things
that people are worried about with our to do with the past, that
can't be helped get over it. It's done. Right. There's no point
crying over spilt milk. No, it's very easy to say this. But if you
put it in perspective, 30% of the things that people worry about are
about the past 40% of what they worry about will never happen. So
that's 70% gone. Now we only have to worry about 30% Can you see how
it's getting smaller?
12% involve the affairs of others 12% of things that we out of all
the things that we are concerned about 12% of that will generally
involve someone else. And it's got even nothing to do with us. So why
are you even worried? That is 82% 82% some part of the past,
some things are just never going to happen. Other things that we're
worried about about other people
10% Then right 10% After the 82% relate to sickness, whether that's
real or imagined.
Now if it's a real sickness, then Okay, let's go and get some
therapy. If it's possibly if you haven't caught the virus or you
have
But you think you're going to catch it again, have, do your best
take precautions, nothing you can stop anyway. So don't worry about
it right now. Deal with it when it happens, take your precautions. So
generally that relates to sickness. 10% relate to see, but
people always worried about sickness. Okay, that's 92% So 40%
is gone 30% about the past can't be helped. 40 So if the 40% is not
going to happen 12% about other people 10% about sickness, how
much is left now about something else that you can be fretful about
8% It's only 8% possibility. That's something you're worrying
about. If it's not on any of those categories, that it's going to
happen only 8%
that means is 92% chance that you're worrying about something
that will never happen to you. Only 8% Hopefully that's helpful.
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forgive us so Allah forgive us, purify us cleanse us of Allah
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of Allah purify ourselves of Allah any issues that we're having with
whether that be with ourselves, whether that be with people around
us, whether that be with our parents, our family members,
whether that be at work, Oh Allah, we ask You for removal of this, we
ask you
the ability to deal with these things we ask you, that you allow
us to deal with it in the way that you want us to deal with it. Or
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