Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Imam Sha’rani’s Code of Companionship Series Praise Each Other and Visit Each Other
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Once a person has passed away, it's a different story. But then
we're told not to bother with people who've passed away anyway,
they've gone to what what they've sent forward, there's no point,
then criticizing somebody who's already gone, he's gone. If he's a
bad person, the world has been relieved. Hamdulillah. So they
say, they say that. Don't keep the janazah for too long. When a
person dies, hurry the burying. Because if he's a good person,
then let him go to where he wants to go. It's full of bliss for
that. And if he's not a good person, well then relieve
everybody else of him. Get him into the grave as quickly as
possible. But do not criticize somebody who's already gone,
because they've gone to what they've already sent forth.
Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim.
Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam Wardha. So you will
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This is just about having general respect, treating people according
to their status, but everybody with at least some level of
respect and difference.
So everybody has to be treated with some level of respect.
And if they have a special merit or a special distinction, they
have a some kind of position or knowledge or whatever it may be,
then they'd have to be treated that much even better. It's just
the way social the way we are social creatures. This is the way
of social interaction anyway. So he says a teddy bear who you
Akira, which is to respect and honor the person last see Yama, it
has the hacker Erlich gotten got a gun I'm gonna rule him up,
especially if they're deserving of special merits. For example, they
are of their own home in homiletical coronial Corinne or
they carry the Quran with them, which means they are half is of
the Quran. Oh mean at roti Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam or they are from the family of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wasallam.
So, he mentioned these three distinctions. Today respect is
given to the people who are most violent, who people are scared of
people who are powerful, because they have money and influence and
position
not because they have merit that will go beyond this world
influence that you have in this world based on a worldly aspects
will not go beyond this world, necessarily unless you use it to
the benefit. But these things a person is from Loredana a person
is of the who first, a person is of the family of Rasulullah,
sallAllahu, alayhi wasallam, this has potential great benefit that
continues beyond this world as well. So this is something of any
decent person, a person with wealth with generosity, he is to
be respected. Not because you expect money to come from him, but
just because of the fact that he spent so much in the path of Allah
subhanaw taala.
For his love of the deen. So whatever it is, there is respect
that should be given for that. According to Imam nawawi.
He says let justice look ahead and do not belittle anybody. Just make
that you're
just make that your approach to everybody do not belittle anyone,
even if they seem to have
some kind of,
you know, because commonly Alhamdulillah in this country, the
one thing that we do enjoy here is that
there's certain respect or at least greater tolerance for
disabled people, people with disabilities, because the laws of
discrimination are there. Because even buses are accommodating where
they
they are lowered down at bus stops. There's access for disabled
people in many, many different places. That's why it's quite
amazing. That's why there's a number of people who would rather
live here than even in certain Muslim countries because of the
respect that is given to disabled people, people with disabilities,
that's a great point of merit. So hamdulillah in this country, we
generally have a better approach towards disabled people. In other
countries. You see, in some countries, disabled people are
literally they treat them as if they're mentally disabled as well.
Somebody is physically disabled but completely mentally sound they
made to they have to act like they are mentally disabled as well
because of the way people treat them that people make. Sometimes
it's the approach of people that will force somebody to act in a
particular way as well.
because there's no positive reinforcements.
So there are things that we have to be thankful to Allah subhanaw
taala for that we have in this country, no doubt about that.
May Allah give Tofik to do even more.
So Imam no is approach was, do not belittle anybody for in Olathe.
But I'm Antonia turn, because the final state of any person is
hidden. It's rolled up, nobody knows about it yet only Allah
knows. So for us, we only seen the state right now. But there's life
to continue and people change. This is the reality of life. So
the ending is an is unknown. When Abdullah de Bhima Yorktown hula
hoop, and nobody knows how his own ending will be for either either
ASEAN so then he gives an example. He says, Look, if you see a
disobedient person, a sinner, a transgressor.
If you see such a person for that data caught them Neff cerca de,
don't put yourself in front of him don't think you're better than
him. Yes, what you can do is you can look at that and say,
Alhamdulillah, Allah hasn't Allah protected me from committing that
sin, you could say that you could thank Allah subhanaw taala no
doubt about it. You can thank Allah for what He has given you.
But that's thanking Allah for what He's given us. It's not demeaning
that person is it. It's, there's two ways of doing this. Don't put
yourself ahead of that person. Because for Obama kind of hearing
Mila he become a common because in the knowledge of Allah subhanaw
taala, he may be of a higher level than you are. And you might wonder
how he's a sinner. You're not a sinner, you think? So how can you
be a higher level in the knowledge of Allah subhanaw taala. And then
we're, well,
he says, because he could be of a higher level than you are. And you
could be from the first 18 in the sight of Allah subhana wa Tada.
And he could end up doing shafa for you on the Day of Judgment, he
could end up doing intercession for you. Because nobody knows the
ending, this person could become a weenie of Allah. And we may fail
and falter, and we may drop down. And then we may need his
intercession on the day of judgment to be thinking
Subhanallah I used to see you like this, what a change that you went
through.
So don't underestimate anybody.
Once a person has passed away, it's a different story. But then
we're told not to bother with people have passed away anyway,
they've gone to what what they've sent forward, there's no point,
then criticizing somebody who's already gone, he's gone. If he's a
bad person, the world has been relieved of Hamdulillah. So they
say, they say that, don't keep the janazah for too long. When a
person dies, hurry the burying. Because if he's a good person,
then let him go to where he wants to go. It's full of bliss for
that. And if he's not a good person, well then relieve
everybody else of him getting into the grave as quickly as possible.
But do not criticize somebody who's already gone, because
they've gone to what they've already sent forth. And then he
says, and then if you see somebody younger than you
a child or just somebody younger than you in general, that can be
under hieromonk then just think Judge in your mind that he's
better than you just think like this. Why? Because he's had
opportunity to do lessons than you have
he's had less time in this world lessons were either eight of
workable amikacin but if you see somebody who's older than you then
what he's more time to do sin
that's if you think that way. But he says no don't think that way.
Also think that he is better than you because he's been Muslim for
longer than you have.
So he's had faith for longer than you had he can you could have done
much more in that time. You don't know.
And if you see a golfer if you see a non Muslim then what what's the
excuse there for that doctor Allah who will be nah don't say with any
kind of certainty that he is going to be in the Hellfire
yes a Garfield will be in the Hellfire but this individual was a
careful you don't know if he's gonna die as a curfew. So do not
say with all certainty that he is going to be in the Hellfire
because it is very possible that he become a Muslim and he die as a
muslim. And that's your responsibility to start with.
That's what you should be thinking about. The next right he speaks
about between brothers is a youth near ID fee but he was he duty.
What are these are very relevant, very valuable points. Each one.
This is another one, which is
praise your brother. Praise your brother, both in His presence and
also in absence
Now this has to be taken with a grain of salt because sometimes
praise will cause the person to bloat and to become too big.
So this this is when he's saying this generally the praise he's
going to be speaking about this. He's saying that praise your
brother both in his absence which should always be the case you
should always praise your brothers in his absence should or they say
something good about them, but also in his presence bit earlier,
the shrubbery but only in the way legislated by the Sharia.
So only in the Sunnah way, not when it's going to cause harm that
would be against the Sunnah and the Sharia to do that. So when you
initially Sheree for in America Rhema ese Doofy sofa in my word.
When you say praise here, we're not talking about flattery. We're
not talking about just making up stuff and just saying things just
to make them feel good. We're talking about
a genuine genuine point of thanks that we give to people Masha
Allah, Allah subhanaw taala has given you great qualities, these
kinds of an encouragement as well isn't it. And if it's coming from
a friend, if it's coming from a person who's close to us companion
of yours, then praising somebody clears the heart of the other
person that I that he's praising me, which means that he thinks I'm
a value.
It helps a lot. If you get praise from somebody close to you. Right?
You actually feel like you're appreciated.
It actually increases the love it purifies the connection and
affection no doubt about that. Because it's not done for
flattery. You know when somebody's flattering you for no reason. This
is not done for that this is not speaking about just any odd praise
about something. This is just genuinely speaking about
mashallah, that's very good. You did that. It's very good. You help
that person
mashallah Allah subhanaw taala has given you a lot of qualities and
Charla, you can even do more with that. So one of this older person
who's mashallah, I believe is already of Allah subhanaw taala
went to visit him and his nephew. I think it was his nephew who was
or was a son, I can't remember though.
Told him to bring some food.
And the person took a bit of time or something, kind of sat around
and said, Hey, what do you have Allah can bring the food. Like we
would say, you know, something bad derogatory, because he's delaying.
So he said, Oh, well, you have Allah gonna bring the foot. So
he's saying something good about him even that stay in that
situation. I thought that was a really nice touch.
May Allah give us a trophy for that as well?
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when a believer is praised, for which he in his face Robert Eman
with the kalbi
Iman grows in his heart, the faith grows in his heart. When a
when a believer is praised in his face. Now you're thinking What
about the hadith of Rasul Allah and Allah Islam which says,
somebody praises you throw some dirt at him, you know, throw some
dirt at him because it's to show that when we all dirt and we all
dust, and Don't flatter me, well, what is what? What is meant here
is
when a complete believer, a proper believer, that's what they speak,
not just anybody. The hadith mentions that when a complete
believer is praised, he will thank Allah subhana wa Tada for
conceding his faults.
He will thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for conceding his faults,
and only giving a good impression about him. So he will know who to
thank for this, he won't think that this praise is coming because
of my own merit. Because I deserve it. Allah deserves the praise
because Allah has concealed my faults because I know how many
faults I have.
So Allah has concealed his faults, and he has just expressed his good
merits. So his Eman will increase in Allah subhanaw taala even more
because of that.
Then he says that this is when you're still building a
relationship with somebody. Once you are totally at a very personal
connection, very informal, and you're very closely related, then
praise doesn't work.
It can still be reassuring, but then it doesn't work because
you're between a husband and wife when praise is very good between
husband and wife, but generally in other situations. Once you have
that relationship, then you have a very informal kind of relationship
then sometimes praise is a bit overdone that in that case so
But one has to look at the context as well.
So it says either software tilma with the to be in a comb in Warsaw
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that once love has been established between a group of
people and their affiliation is very strong, then after that, it
seems out of place for you to praise but then you can still
appreciate
another quality that he mentioned or another right between brothers
is a you crema who either one or the other.
See, he's separating each one out, he has given each one a
significance. So if the, if he comes to visit you, your brother
comes to visit you. Now, remember, I mean, I know this should be
taken for granted, but it's for some of the sisters who are
listening, this applies in that sense as well. This also applies
between brothers and sisters, between them, because that's
another relationship that has to be built up. Sisters and Brothers
brothers and sisters, blood relatives.
And of course, between sisters, if they have this, you know, when
they have this relationship, this is also right between them as
well. Just because he's addressing brothers, that's why he's
addressing everybody as brothers, but otherwise it includes the
sisters and you crema who to honor them if they come to visit. Be and
yet Aloka, who bitter Hebe first and foremost, to welcome them.
Welcoming itself is a touch that really, really, really enhances
the visit. What do you mean by welcoming, welcoming could mean
anything up to going out to receive them? You know, somebody's
coming to you wait out for them. That's a very good touch. Very
difficult for a lot of people to do. You know, they come in at five
o'clock. So you go out two minutes earlier with your family with your
kids or whatever to What are you doing outside? Oh, we're waiting
for you. What a touch
you know when you spit when you're not except expecting that as a
guest? That's quite impressive. Then the Arabs had had words for
this. A Helen wasa Helen warmer Harbor, Ireland.
Essentially Ireland meant a data Ireland, you've come to family,
this is your home.
So immediately Having said this is your home.
Don't make it as the saying goes that hospitality is that you tell
your guests to feel at home when you wish they were at home.
You tell your guests to feel at home when you wish they were home
meaning in their own house. That's just the negative hospitality. But
in this case, what we have is
you see Ireland so I don't mean you've come to family. So you
should feel comfortable. You're not strange, it's not strangers.
What what data silent silent, silent means soft. Land, what the
the Sahara which means and you have come and treading on soft
soil. Your journey has not been hard. Hopefully your journey has
been good. So it's really taking all of this into consideration.
And marhaba are Hubner become more haben which means we welcome you
we open up our arms for you. So it's all of these things. So now
whatever the culture is to say good things you can say these
things don't say words that they won't understand. The point is to
get their heart and to make them feel comfortable and to make them
feel welcome have a cheerful face taller to watch have a cheerful
face not like you're waiting for somebody to come they come in like
okay
they're gonna think like am I bothered you or something so but
have a cheerful face when you see somebody the profit and loss Some
said that it's from the Sonata that when you meet your brother
you meet them with a cheerful face anyway. So especially in this
case, you have to have a cheerful face tonnato which you call them
well who do who belie now in Canada radula you embrace them you
don't embrace them I mean some days some people are embracing
each other after every Salah
it gets a bit over the limit sometimes doing shaking hands is
not necessary each time especially if two people are speaking and you
go on insist when you see them to go and shake their hands you're
disturbing them.
You yes, if you've Salam is the sun salaam, shaking the hands is a
completion of that when possible.
And hugging, embracing generally is done when you've seen somebody
after a while, generally. So in this case, you give them an
embrace. He says if it's a man, of course if it's a woman, you don't
do that and this is your sister, right.
What are your three Shula who che and yaki
him enough to rob.
Now, in those days, we're not speaking about furnished
apartments in those days necessarily. So you know, you had
couches, I mean, you had, the ground was just like that. So he's
saying and put something, lay something down for them to sit on.
I mean, these days, we don't lay anything down, because it's
already all copied and everything, then you essentially say, Please
sit here, give them the best position, the best place, sit down
here, give a you know, put a few extra pillows here and there. Just
the gesture to make them look good. Make them feel good about
it.
One thing I would say though, that if you become too,
if you become too possessive, and too focused and too in everything,
you know, you don't let them move,
then
that gets a bit suffocating as well. So avoid that be
professional about it. Somebody was mentioning he went to the
Emirates lounge in the UK, in London. And he felt like he was
being watched throughout. Because every moment somebody's has and
there's like tons of attendance and they all going past ask him Do
you want anything? Do you want anything?
He said when he was in Abu Dhabi, it was different. They were much
more professional about it, you feel like you're being watched.
There has to be a level of professionalism. So sometimes you
go to somebody's house, you suffocate, they they want
you move and they're like, Can I do this? Come on, man. Give them
some independence.
Essentially, is to show you're welcome. But not to suffocate
somebody, not to feel make somebody feel uncomfortable.
There's a tact for that. And you have to go by reaction. You will
learn it if you make mistakes as a host. You will, you will learn the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when I didn't even know how
Tim came to visit him. In a delegation. The Prophet sallallahu
Sallam gave him a pillow. He forwarded him a pillow on which he
could sit down. So are the Radi Allahu Anhu then said for us to
annihilate the medic, I then recognize that he is not a king.
He's not a king. He has respect here. Because kings are sitting in
their pomp, somebody else will. If they're going to honor you,
somebody else will honor you're not the king. There'll be
attendance to honor you. But when the when the leader himself honors
you, it means this person is something else. Another rights
that he speaks about a US seller who will magically see either or
this is a wonderful one for in America in my SEO photography, I
tell my word.
When you see the person and he's coming in, then you move up a bit
to accommodate him.
You make arrangements to accommodate him.
There's a hadith in which he quotes half of it, essentially a
person came in. There was lots of space and the prophets of Allah
said but what the Prophet saw some did is when that person came in,
he moved up for him just slightly. Right? You just you know, and the
person said you didn't have to move up. There's enough space. You
said yes. But it's the right of a brother brother on his brother, or
for his brother, that when he comes he moves up for him.
It just shows that you're welcome. If I'm just sitting in comes in, I
just like okay, it just feels like man I'm not wanted here. But if
I'm like oh mashallah, you know, it's like I'm
you shouldn't have to tell them let them tell you budget brother,
as they say.
So as you can see, these are all
fine touches.
Unfortunately, this has become
only the domain of hospitality, hotels. This is the kind of stuff
they study to make their service better than anybody else. This is
what you get five stars for all of these kinds of things.
And you know, you're going to send in these five star hotels, this is
exactly what you'll see.
You know, people will welcome you they will, there's a certain level
that they get their five stars for not just for anything, because
you're made to feel very comfortable paying for that. But
this is all supposed to be muslims are supposed to be five star
throughout in their service to others should be part of just
their demeanor, just the nature.
So the next one he says the next ride is Elia drew who B is me, he
forwards Leia through who B is me he forgot, do not quote him just
by his name. This is a lot probably based on culture.
See in the Arab culture, once a person is of a certain status or
they have children, you do not call them by their name. It's not
respectful.
Indian Pakistani culture, Western culture, the name is is fine,
right? The name is fine, but in Arab culture, you do not call them
by their name. You call them Abu something.
The father of the oldest, the father of the oldest son or
daughter
Whoo hoo they for Abu use of
Abu Aisha oh my gosh, even the husband wife will call won't call
them by their names they will call them by a boo boo boo and
culture. So
that's why he's saying that it's a Psalm one of the scholars in their
counselor says that when you call upon your brother
honor him in your calling as well honor him in your calling. This
will increase the muhabba and love between you and he says that it's
actually part of unfriendliness
that a brother just calls a brother just by their normal name
without using the acronym acronym is abou your father of so and so
or laptop or a pet name like a nice title for them
or love to see other
honorific a name of honor like my master
you know, my master just didn't sound right in Arabic in English,
right?
But in Arabic yeah see you the our leader
our elder
in order to have hazards
so these are different cultural terms that you can use what's in
English, how would you respect somebody in
so it sounds a bit too formal only the Indian say that. The Indian
Pakistanis if anybody calls you say it's an Indian Pakistani from
India, Pakistan. Sir, are you okay sir? Nobody else I serve who say
sir these days? Well, we do we do kind of say but generally you
don't say in common terms right. They do say
How are you sir? It depends on how do you say, Madame.
Certain, Madame. They've even taken the word Madame in Arabic
now. They say Madame Madame So and So Madame Kava. Kava. Yanni they
use what would make me nervous, like when you got your own words,
why do you have to take an English word for
it taking the word hello? Yeah. Hello. So they say
another thing I found out about really, I found very strange
SitePoint SitePoint found very strange
that
for us, most people that are sitting here well, many people
that are sitting here, you're sitting here because it's Ramadan.
Allah give you Tofik to sit even after Ramadan. But you're sitting
here because it's Ramadan. I have a point to make because of that,
right? Allah, Allah be thanked for that. So in England, you've got
all of these programs that are taking these religious programs,
religious rate radio, Ramadan, religious radio programs.
In the Arab world, you've got special soaps,
soaps for Ramadan, and it's the most watched time it's like people
got nothing else to do in Ramadan. So they watch soaps. And we're not
talking about religious soaps. We're talking about
what was it where they say
there was a Western equivalent of some kind of romance love story
coming out of Lebanon, and everybody's watching this it's
like a big hit. They watch it in Ramadan.
I was just shocked us it Subhanallah we're in the West
here. We're turning to our deen in Ramadan we're going to a programs
see many more people are going for programs and in these countries
they watching one of these special soaps in Ramadan is that it's an
article in BBC I'm not encouraging you to go and read it but I've
told you the news
I found that really strange
from the really strange
what a slumber
you got something to be thankful for to Allah subhanaw taala people
generally feel religious in Ramadan
so Sir Madam What else can you say? Out of respect
anything else people
boss
oh the when you go to the markets you hear also is love love is a
big one. Every woman is a love our you love
new one is paid
like some weird name was something can't find anything better than
that.
Sorry, dear. How are you dear? Yeah, I guess there are there are
words in English. I mean, English is the rich language. I mean, at
the end of the day.
There was once I was interviewing a teacher
and there was this discussion that came between about Urdu and
English. So I prefer to do so why do you prefer to do and over
there's a beautiful language just because it's easier to translate
the Quran in which it
is, right, but it's possible. And they were saying that, you know,
you can't say all of these if trying to imply that you can't see
all these respectful terms and everything like this in English,
it's kind of like a bear kind of language. But that's only because
the slang that most people speak, it's their level of awareness of
the language that restricts them. But at the end of the day, most
languages do have some kind of decent lead unless the culture is
really off. I mean, there has been some decent words in the language.
The next point that he makes, is, yeah, and then he says, likewise,
when you address their children or grandchildren, also address them
respectfully because of your connection with them, because of
the connection of the Father. And another right he talks about his A
teddy fellow who will further
whatever merits, acknowledge them, whatever they do good for you
acknowledge them. Also, youth here on who either Mamuka it He
also expressed that I am unable to fulfill my rights towards you.
I'm unable to fulfill my rights of brotherhood, or to give you a
suitable return for what you have done for me saying these things.
Last CMR in Canada, but who be Hadiya, especially if he's come to
give you the gift first, if he gave you a gift first. Now look at
this very, very important. Because look, somebody gives you a gift.
And then you decided to give him a gift as well, because he gave you
a gift,
you may have been able to recompense him for the gift that
he gave. But you will never be able to recompense and reward him
for the fact that he initiated the gift.
That's something he beat you by. So how can you recompense somebody
fully for a gift that they gave you first, which also shows that
the one who gives the gift first is the better one.
Because once you receive a gift, you feel obliged to give something
back, then it becomes reciprocal reciprocal, as opposed to an
initiation.
So take the initiative, he says that this point has been made by
Sheikh Mohammed bin Salman lobby.
Nothing he says that when something good has been done to
you, then let people know.
I mean, of course, if it's a secret, or something that they
don't want people to know about, then don't, because you don't want
everybody knocking on their door tomorrow.
But if it's something good, that should be said, because it will
give him a good merit in front of people. Not that it was going to
become a burden on him. Don't pray somebody for something that's
going to become a burden for them tomorrow, right? Oh, he lent me
50,000 pounds, everybody's going to be at his door tomorrow. He
doesn't have 50,000 pounds, right?
So there's certain things you have to be careful about. But something
they did well, is to say, look, he really went out of his way to help
me
because that will hopefully give somebody else the opportunity to
do to ask for them, and says that anybody who some good turn has
been done to them, they should let others know. Because anybody who
does let others know. Then they have thanked they have fulfilled
the gratitude. Anybody who hides it, then they have been they have
been ungrateful. And Allah subhanaw note and the person who
is not thankful to people is not going to be thankful to Allah
subhanaw taala because you can't see things coming from Allah. You
can see coming from people, if you can't recognize that and you don't
thank them, then there's no way you're going to thank Allah
because you don't even see anything coming from them. You're
going to be ungrateful for that.
And another point he makes another one of the rights is that a Azura
who
could luckily remain on a young every now and then every few days
visits pay a visit
for will Hadith there's a narration which mentions him she
mean an old Medela walk a mile to visit the sick him she may Lane us
never enough Nene, walk two miles, so that you can reconcile between
two brothers who have to walk two miles without do so. And him she
felt Earth to me erlin Xerocon Fila Hey Darla, walk three miles
to visit a brother of yours for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala.
So go out of your way to his and this is one of the big problems of
the modern day. Everybody's saying this. Times have changed.
Everybody's busy. And especially in London, we're even more busy
than up north it's just the lifestyle I mean there's no doubt
about the you visit people in other areas and it's easier to get
round anyway. So you go to one of the you know, the even Birmingham,
even Manchester, it's much easier to get around is much easier to
visit in London, those kinds of people
will hate coming down to London anyway, write it because it's a
nightmare to drive here. In many cases, when I came back from
America, it took me about three months to remove my frustration in
driving. Then I became used to it. And it was extremely frustrating.
Because I was in Santa Barbara, where you literally stopped to let
somebody pass here, nobody stops with anybody. You know, they were
so casual. If you like just cut, it would be really bad. It was
just very casual. And then 10 miles would be 10 minute driving,
because you just jump on the motorway here. 10 Miles Heathrow
is like a horror to get to Heathrow. It's easy to fly. The
worst part is to actually come back home from Heathrow to East
London. The flight is easier. I don't know if anybody agrees with
me. But seriously, that's what I find. There is a saying which says
the one who visits his brother and eats at their house is higher
level
than the one who's feeding.
So because once somebody is at your house, you have to feed them
otherwise it looks really bad. But going out of your way to go to
somebody's house to visit them is superior. Unless that's how you're
living off people. Everyday you visiting somebody you can so you
don't have to cook at home. That's a different story. But we're
saying here is a person who's visiting somebody, you know, to
create a bond.
That was important. He also said that when somebody visits their
brother
and
that person welcomes you and put something down for you. Then he is
also will be protected from the Hellfires. There is another one
which says Zurich villa for in whom and Zara Villa che Yahoo,
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visit people for the sake of Allah, because anybody who visits
for the sake of Allah 70,000 Angels will escort him say the
Ibrahim Al moody he mentions that make sure you hasten to visit your
brothers. Make sure you visit them often. Keep in touch essentially,
if you can't visit them, at least give them a call where you can
turn to and come back behavior yesterday shoe and fair tuna Illa
zeolitic. Don't keep it for so long. Don't stay away for so long,
that they become worried. They feel strange that maybe you've got
a problem with them. And then they are forced to visit you.
For us. We look in our culture, unfortunately sort of tit for tat,
which means we visit somebody, if they don't visit us back, we might
visit them once more. And if they still don't visit us, then we say
there's no point they don't visit us. We're not going to visit
with my relatives. What I've done is I don't care if they visit me
or not. I tell them to visit me. But as people are busy, I don't
care. I just never feel bad that they haven't visited me. I just
don't I just said there's no point feeling bad. When I can I will go
and visit them.
Unfortunately, I can't as much as I'd like to. But at least it's not
in my mind that I'm not going to visit them because there are
people who have not visited me but I will try to visit them.
Unfortunately people I haven't visited for a long time, but at
least in my mind is clear. It's very important. Otherwise this
creates so much discord Ranco hatred between families. Now once
you do this to a stranger if you do it on family, it's really bad.
So don't just just don't keep that in your mind. And believe me if
you don't keep that in your mind, it's not a it's not a problem then
problems are you bring on yourself by these cultural restraints and
curbs that we have previously are liberating. If you do that, it
says that Imam Shafi now you might you know Imam Shafi anymore
Muhammad even know humble Imam Shafi was the elder. He was a
teacher of Imam Muhammad Muhammad Imam Muhammad was a student.
However, even environment would go and visit the Student quite often
at his house, and Imam Muhammad would visit his teacher as well
many times so they used to visit each other wasn't like the only
the student had to visit this teacher but a teacher would visit.
In fact, I think it's mentioned about Imam Shafi. Mr. Muhammad, I
can't remember, once what happened is somebody must have asked the
question, he gave a response, which maybe the person didn't
like, or there was a difference of opinion. They had an argument
about something, and then the person didn't come or something
like that, that he ended up at his house at night and he said, Look,
we know we can have differences of opinion, but our brotherhood
should stay the same. Anyway, they used to visit each other. So once
then somebody asked Imam Shafi about this, that you visit him as
well your visit your student. So then he said in a poem he says,
Call aloo Yazoo Luca Fatah Zhu who call to Alpha Ebola to follow the
command Zilla in Zabadani. For before the Li i was able to fully
fugly he fell for the new Phil Hurley Neela is so beautiful. Imam
Shafi is the teacher when he's asked why he visits Mr. Muhammad.
He said they say
that he, Ahmed visits you, and you visit him. I say that the virtue,
the distinction and the virtue and the merit does not leave his
house, the virtue and merit and all it's all Mr. Muhammad is all
in his house. If he visits me, it's because of his merit, that he
visits me. And if I visit him, then it's because of his merit
that I visit him. And the merit and distinction in both cases is
his. He's saying that about his student. Right, what a love they
had between them. Mr. McMahon heard about this, and then he was
forced to give a response. And his response was obviously no less
than that. He says,
in Surah Turner, for before the mini cut, I'm not gonna Oh, Nana
sadhana for him for the Lilla the fika fella or the mana Kealoha
Laney Minca wala Ananda, la vita min min Kashia Nika. What this
means is, if you visit us, then it's your grace that you're
visiting, that you're giving us. It's your honor that you're giving
us. And if we visit you, then it's because of the grave a because of
the Fidel and the grace and the merit that you have, because in
both situations, we're not to be deprived of your merits. So he
basically responds in poetry as well like that. Finally, one of
the sheiks teachers say, the ideal house, you say that visiting your
brother's increases, the Dean increases the faith. Right, for
the right reason it will increase the faith and abandoning it will
decrease the faith. And
he said that some people said, if your capital diminishes, visit
your brothers. Hopefully you will get Baraka that way.
However, the author does mention,
Faith will only increase by meeting your brothers. If you
fulfill the rights of zero the other above zero.
You fulfill the rights of visitation. Nothing is done to
cause problems and gossip and things like that. May Allah
subhanaw taala give us to feed Allahu mandocello Inca salaam
Tabata theertham God with the Quran Allahumma yada yada yada
medical study hola me. Yemen La Ilaha illa Allah Subhana Allah in
the Quran me nobody mean just a loved one will hammer them out a
lot on a Sunday or Sunday man so you know Mohamed Weider early
season and Mohamed El Burdick are sending Allah don't deprive us of
the baraka and blessings of Ramadan make this month the month
in which all of our sins are forgiven, and were purified and
allow the barcode of the Ramadan to continue in India for the rest
of our lives. Oh Allah allow us to be better in each Ramadan as we
pass it of Allah grant us the great blessings and the mercy and
the Rama grant us the Kadima on our deathbed. And our Allah O
Allah. We ask that you accept our sitting here for these days. We
ask that it be beneficial for all of us and improve our relationship
with each other. Oh Allah, you're the Turner of the hearts. We read
these things. Oh Allah we asked you to inspire our hearts. We
asked you to inspire our hearts we asked you to inspire our hearts
remove the acrimony. That then the hatred and the rancor that plagues
our communities have Allah grant us unity grant the Muslim world
unity grant the Muslim world unity, remove the fire that the
rageous throughout an hour Allah protect us and grant us the
company of your messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Subhan
Allah decarbonised the TRC phone or salaam, animals, anyone whom
they rely on.
The point of a lecture is to encourage people to act to get
further an inspiration and encouragement, persuasion. The
next step is to actually start learning seriously to read books
to take on a subject of Islam and to understand all the subjects of
Islam at least at the basic level, so that we can become more aware
of what our deen wants from us. And that's why we started Rayyan
courses so that you can actually take organize lectures on demand
whenever you have free time, especially for example, the
Islamic essentials course that we have on there, the Islamic
essentials certificate which you take 20 Short modules and at the
end of that inshallah you will have gotten the basics of most of
the most important topics in Islam and you'll feel a lot more
confident. You don't have to leave lectures behind you can continue
to live, you know to listen to lectures, but you need to have
this more sustained study as well. JazakAllah Heron salaam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato.