Abdur Rahman ibn Yusuf Mangera – Have you Heard of the Middle Class Hijab
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The importance of being aware of one's own circumstances and avoiding fear of being the first person to make a change is emphasized. The need for caution and a modesty in clothing are also discussed. The importance of covering one's body for stylish appearance and the benefits of being formal and avoiding flirty are also emphasized. The need for faith in one's Islam is emphasized, particularly for those in their conservative and conservative side of religion. It is suggested to start with the conservative side and slowly transition to the women in their upper classes. It is also emphasized the importance of finding people who need to take responsibility for their actions and working with others to make changes.
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Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran, Allah you Dina Xena tahona
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Dina Xena Tahuna Illa. liberality Hina. And and until the end of the
verse, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam then said to a
smart, minty have you back are the Allahu anha yazma in the numerator
either Bella what? Allah Muhammad laying your Salah, a Euro minha
Illa Hurva wahana what Ashara Illa witchy waka fi so this is a Hadith
narrated by Imam widowed Allah subhanaw taala also says in the
Quran, further Tada and a beanpole for Ultima Isla de vie will be
murdered or killed Napoleon now rufa.
Okay, so based on these Hadith and these Quranic verses, the
discussion I want to have today is something that's going really back
to the basics, something that there's a lot of discussion about
already, there's, I'm sure many talks about this, and I'm sure
you've heard this. And it's something that a number of women
actually contemplate all the time, there's a guilty feeling inside,
if they're not observing this, there's a guilty feeling inside as
to when should I start observing this, this is speaking about the
hijab covering, essentially to cover up. Now how much to cover
up, that's a different discussion. And that's not what I want to
speak about today, I just want to speak about just the whole focus,
I just want to put the whole focus today on drawing closer, closer to
Allah subhanaw taala.
Externally, which obviously has to come from the internal, of a human
being, that when their mind and their perspective, etc, change,
then it will give rise to this external, external expression.
Many of us you'll see, you'll see many people Subhanallah, we've
grown old, and they're still not, for example, making salats you
know, they're getting older, they've got children now as well.
They're happily married, they've got no issues, you know, that it's
not about, they have to show it to anybody, or they have to display
to anybody, but it's just this mindset. I mean, really, what else
is it that is preventing somebody from drawing closer to Allah
subhanaw taala. And fulfilling these external observances, other
than a mindset other than some kind of thought that if I start
doing that, then I'll be in a different league, I'll be seen
differently. Now, this is just purely psychology is just purely a
mindset. And it needs to it needs to change because to draw closer
to Allah subhanaw taala, we need to make differences. We need to
make an effort to make a difference, to do things that are
differently, to show things that are differently and enhance
ourselves if we're the same, that we were, you know, 10 years ago,
and we haven't really, you know, made any difference to ourselves,
then. I mean, what's the point? What, Where are we going, when are
we going to make this difference? Subhan Allah, people die all the
time. People don't die at appointed times known to us, they
die at appointed times known to Allah subhanho wa taala. And for
some people, Allah subhanho wa Taala writes the appointed time to
be in a very surprising situation, in a sudden situation in all of a
sudden, at a young age, you know, 20 years old, 30 years old, 5060,
whatever it may be, there's, there's no guarantee for anything,
just the fact that we have comfortable living, and money and
wealth to spend etc, doesn't mean that you're going to live longer
than somebody who doesn't have these things. It's up to Allah
subhanaw taala. Allah works with his own timetable. Now, the thing
he is very clear, what I want to mention here is that most people,
they can't make this difference because they are scared, they are
frightened of what others would say. They don't want to be the
first one to make that difference. They don't want to be the first
one to make the change. Maybe they are among a group of a group of
people who are all in a similar kind of situation, and they don't
want to be the first to do it. Now, the thing here is that this
is an opportunity, this is an opportunity. The reason why this
is an opportunity is that the first person to make this
difference and have to face maybe a barrage of criticism or jokes or
etc. Whatever the case is, they will be rewarded for every single
joke that is made about them every single tone that they receive
every single criticism that is directed their way. And whatever
it may be any joke or any any font that's made of them, but
eventually, it will stop I mean, people don't keep bothering
somebody.
forever and ever, you know, once they once once they've changed,
then, you know, they try to they try to make fun of them for a
while. And then after that they stopped because there's just no
point afterwards you become silly and foolish. So you have to
realize that it's only a short while, it's only for a short
period of time that you have to face these things. And after that,
it just becomes quite normal. That's what you have to realize.
The stakes are very high. Here. You see, the fact that many of us
do things based on our influence from from external influence is
something that cannot be denied that there's, you know, there's
girls that we know, and because I'm speaking to women here, that's
why it's about this. So it's I'm not trying to be male chauvinist
or whatever it is, it's just because we're speaking to women
here. That's why this discussion is about that. And you know, I
don't speak about this all the time. But this is it has to happen
sometimes because mashallah, you know, we have people who have
great capability, we have people who love Allah subhanho wa Taala
in their heart and want to get closer, but they just lacking in
this ability to take this step. And that's what I want to just try
to help out in this in this regard and try to give some
encouragement, and to show the benefits. Remember, if you're
among the group of people who are not observing a sunnah, in fact,
forget a Sunday, you're not observing a font, right? You're
not observing a necessity, something mandatory, something
that is obligatory, then if you are the first one to start it and
then inshallah others will follow you, you get the reward of
everything, you get the reward of all of this plus, you get the
reward of enlivening Asuna in a time, when it's a time of
corruption among your group of people. Because, you know, there
are lots of other people who wear hijab mashallah, if you go to, you
know, our local girls schools here, you know, our local secular,
you know, a government run girls schools here, you've got majority
of them are wearing hijab, you've got so many people outside wearing
hijab, I find it very difficult that a woman in this time and age
in London, especially, you know, in these areas where there are so
many Muslims, and there's just so much hijab and niqab out there,
right? That somebody would find it difficult to do, you know, that
there has to be some major impediment in the psyche for them
not to do it is just really surprising, right? Honestly
speaking, you know, I can understand if you're the only
person in town, I mean, like, I, we were like that at one, you
know, at one time in, in America, in one area, where we were the
only kind of you can say Muslims in town, dressed in a particular
way.
That that is difficult, but you can still do it now in a place
where others are doing it, then it's only a few people that you
are fearing and the question is why you fearing people, why aren't
you fearing Allah subhanaw taala tomorrow you're gonna have to
stand in front of Allah subhanaw taala and, and give answer to
that. And the problem there is that in this world, that the
problem is there as compared to this world is totally different.
In this world, you know, you can overcome the foolishness of people
against you, but in the hereafter you lose, you lose it's it's a
loss. And then we have to be you know, punished in hellfire if, if
that's what Allah subhanaw taala seeks from us. So just to give us
some foundation, this what I want to what I want to mention is Allah
subhanaw. Taala says in the Quran, Allah Tala and a bill called Don't
soften your voices when speaking to men. Don't soften your voices
when speaking to men, like try to keep it very formal, essentially,
keep it very formal and official, and don't try to get flirty in any
sense. And a lot of the time, you know, it's just the fact that
there are some people whose voices are very attractive and this is
both in male and female, some people's voices are very
attractive, you just have to try to not soften it to that level and
just try to actually be a bit more, a bit more formal. That's
very important. When are you Dina Xena Tahuna Illa, Mahara minha a
person should not reveal themselves. Now. One is that you
just go out. The other thing is that you actually go out with
revealing yourself trying to accentuate parts of your body or
your hair or, or your clothing or whatever it may be, just to be
more attractive, that is really even worse than just going out
without without a hijab on, right in your normal state. I mean,
they're both bad, but the to accentuate yourself to put perfume
as well to, to wear something extremely flashy, to, you know, do
things like that. I mean, that's another category on its own. So
many of the women who don't wear hijab, they're going to be
complaining about women with hijab who cover their hair, but then
they've got all these weird types of, you know, makeup and clothing
and hijabs, etc as well. There are two different things, you know,
one is not wearing something, not covering yourself fully, that's a
problem. And then the other thing is to be a, you know, to make
yourself out to be attractive. And that's what Allah Subhana Allah
says, Allah Ube Dena, Xena, tahona you've got Xena, you have
adornment? You Allah has given you this adornment. Don't don't it's
not to show to others who is not halal for it to be shown to.
That's the thing. For example, one of those things
would be that I was in, I was in a, an Islamic program recently.
And on the women's side, right, which the men could not see, but
there was a sister was one of the organizers. So you can clearly
tell that she's got some love for her Deen for her religion, she's
sacrificing time, you know, etc for this, but she's got these, you
know, really these high sounding shoes on our footwear on. So when
she's walking around because she's the organiser, she's not one of
the, you know, people that just who's come to listen, so she's not
sitting calmly, she's obviously walking around trying to organize
this, that and the other. She's that, you know, her her her shoes
a resounding in that whole entire whole. I mean, why does somebody
need to wear something like that in in that kind of situation?
Right? Because with every tick tock, you are inviting you're
you're attracting attention, you know, whether it's positive or
negative attention, it's attracting attention. So one needs
to be very careful about what they're doing. Because at the end
of the day, we we are the servants of Allah subhanho wa Taala were
the servants of Allah subhanaw taala we want to satisfy him. Now,
you know, sometimes we want to do something selfish for ourselves,
but you know, this is Subhanallah this is this is an issue a smarter
the Allahu anha as related by Imam Abu Dhabi. In his son, the Prophet
salallahu Alaihe Salam said to a smarter the Allahu anha
that when a woman reaches menstruation essentially when a
woman when a girl reaches the age of maturity, then it is not laying
your Salah it is not appropriate at all, that anything should be
seen of her except her face on her hands, except this and this.
That's what he said and then he directed towards his face and
hands. Then you have you know, I don't want to go into the whole
niqab hijab issue but this is the Hadith generally used for people
to say niqab is not necessary only hijab is necessary. When I say
hijab, I mean, covering the hair, and you know, the head and the
neck, etc. And niqab. By that I mean covering the face. However,
there are other deals for niqab for those who consider that to be
necessary. I consider both of them to be completely established.
Right. And I consider I consider both of them to be established and
a goal in themselves to get to the there's a hadith in Bukhari and
Muslim as well, that a woman came to Rasulullah sallallahu and said
that what about if we don't have a jilbab? A jilbab means an outer
covering? Right, a full covering? If we don't have one, then what do
we do? So he says that little buzzer Sahiba to Hammond, Gil
Baba, little Bishara Sahiba to humming Jill Baba, her friend
should borrow her one, a friend should loan her one and give her
one to use. Now you can see that there's encouragement here that go
out of your way to get one, go and borrow one from your friend. If
you have to go outside and you don't have one, then use one of
those things. Now these are all general I mean, you know, these
are all kind of general narrations that we need to form a picture
through. Now all I what I can say is that the one of the benefits of
hijab one of the benefits of covering up in general is that it
should help to create some modesty in your it's one step. It's better
than not doing it at all. Right? So it's a step. It's a really
major step. And I think and you know, especially in cities around
the UK, and in places like you know, even other countries in the
west where you know, mashallah lots and lots of women are wearing
it. I don't see any issue whatsoever. You know, at the end
of the day, it's your relationship with Allah subhanho wa taala.
It will make you feel better, it will make you feel closer to Allah
subhanaw taala you've taken that one step along with that you need
in a modesty that's very important, because the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that modesty, chastity bashfulness
goes together with iman. And if they are inseparable, essentially,
if you lose modesty, you've lost a massive aspect of Islam, and Iman,
because it will then help, it will help them diminish your Islam,
because in many other things, you will become loose as well, when
you don't have that hijab. Now, the that's a hadith that's related
by your ambi hockey that modesty and Islam are intertwined. modesty
and faith are intertwined. Like they're interrelated like that.
Now, the other thing that I want to mention is that we're speaking
about us in this area, we actually have a religious middle class, and
a religious you can say, high class or whatever it is. But what
I mean by that these are just these are just terms. Don't read
anything into them except what I'm saying. The reason I say this is
that if you go to certain cities, maybe up north or in other places,
what you see is that there's actually no middle class, in terms
of religion. What it is, is either you've got old guys who don't you
know, who who don't have beards, who don't, you know,
who don't observe externally, or you've got everybody who's got
like a beard and a quota and you know, Islamic throbs and garments
and jukebox, etc. And when it comes to the women, you've either
got those who are totally, like hijab bliss and everything or
you've got those who are full niqab. There's no kind of in
between. Now, what I would suggest what I would say
suggests that you can take it step by step, if you're jumped to the
niqab is, too, it's too much of a jump for you, then at least start
covering up, don't go out in clothing that you would want to,
you know, display to others only, you know, for to show yourself out
to show yourself off, what you want to do is what start off with
just wearing an over garment, you know, an overdue bar that goes
over all your clothes, when you go outside and covering your hair, at
least, you start off with that, no, you know, no makeup, no
perfume, just like that. And then after that, you go out and
inshallah slowly, slowly you get used to that, then you can have
the trophy to do niqab as well. However, if you're if it's the
jump directly from nothing to niqab, then, then that's going to
be a bigger jump, Allah gives you the tofi can Hamdulillah. But I
would say at least start off with this, for those who aren't doing
anything whatsoever, at least get into the middle class from the you
know, from, from, you know, from not wearing anything whatsoever, I
don't want to give that cluster name, right, I don't want to give
that cluster name because I don't want to be derogatory in any any
sense. But at the end of the day, what you've got in certain areas
is that they demand full observance. Otherwise, you know,
it's not acceptable. And that's why it leaves a lot of people in a
limbo, the way I look at it is that we have to get closer to
Allah subhanaw taala slowly and slowly and slowly. And the way to
do that is to start observing in as much as possibility as
possible, as in as much, you know, in whatever amount as possible.
And then and then you get closer to Allah subhanaw taala. Like
that. So
what I would encourage is that among these groups we have in
certain families and other places, the ones who are the bold ones,
the ones who are the people listen to those who are, you can say the
trendsetters, those who are the ones who will, you know, put
people down, those are the those who are the ones who will
criticize others who will be the first you know, who other people
are fearful of, or who people love. Those are the people who
need to take this opportunity because they have an opportunity
that the others don't have. See, among all types of people, you're
going to have people who are followers, they're just going to
blindly follow, right. And there's others who are going to me, the
leaders, they're the ones who set the trends. They're the one who
people either are fearful of or they've got respectful, right. So
those are the kinds of people who need to take this and take it by
the hand and say, This is what I'm going to do. And they need to
start making changes they need to maybe, you know, find a friend who
can start with them and just make a change. I mean, if that requires
you to, you know, to do whatever it is then then then do that. So
Hala, there are people who have been for hajj, there are people
who've had people who have died in their families, they've had all of
these lessons and you know, these kinds of symbols and signs from
Allah subhanaw taala. And yet, we still don't get closer to Allah
Subhanallah you've got people who are grandmothers now, right?
You've got people who are grandmothers, their husbands or,
you know, religious people, sometimes in the sense that
they're doing religious activities, they're part of
religious organizations, and yet they still their daughters are
wearing hijab, and they they don't wear hijab the other kind of weird
thing that I saw once is we had this
person that this couple that came not a couple, but it was it was
the older mother. And it was a younger it was a it was a it was
her daughter who was you know, probably 20 something or 30. The
daughter is not covered, but the mother is got a niqab on and she's
like, you know, 60 years old. So I said, you know, I said Subhan
Allah, I said, How come this is the case? I mean, shouldn't you at
least have your hair covered? I mean, your mom's got a niqab and
when, you know, she's probably at an age when she doesn't even need
her niqab in a sense, because when you get really old niqab is not
necessary for you, although it's good to do so. Right. But yet,
it's kind of the other way around. There's a mentality among some
communities, you know, there's a thought and idea in some
communities that you only wear all of these things when you retire,
you know, when you get too old to not bother anymore anyway, right
to not be attractive anyway, then you start covering your face up. I
mean, that's kind of more than ridiculous, really, it should
start when you're younger Hamdulillah I really my heart goes
out to all of these young sisters who are wearing hijab nowadays.
And look, I know a lot of them the wearing hijab, but then they've
got all this other funky clothing on inshallah they'll get Tofik.
Right, I would encourage that they get Tawfeeq to not do that, and to
come on proper a job, right? That's my, that's my, that's my
dua. At the end of the day, you try as much as possible, and you
always try to get better. Don't ever think I'm doing enough. And
that's it. That's what we need to realize. And again, it's a call to
those people who have influence, you know, they can make a big,
they've got a lot of potential investment in the in this case
that if they do the right thing, Allah subhanaw taala will really
really help them and Allah subhanho wa Taala will give them a
great amount of reward. The reason why this is so important, is
because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made some really,
really severe warnings about women who are outside and who do you
know, just like men who do strange things for women who do strange
things outside where they
showing themselves to be showing off themselves, attracting people
to themselves. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he
gave, I'll just give you one example. There's one Hadith
related by multimedia in Abu Dhabi in which the Prophet sallallahu
sallam said in Almora, either stat thorat that if a woman goes out,
just perfumed, you know, forget about displaying anything, just
put me in imagine a woman even with niqab and but she puts all of
this, you know, she sprays herself with, you know, Calvin Klein
obsession or something like that, right? And just really, like it's
reeking of this stuff for Margaritaville imaginisce And she
goes past a group of people, you know, men essentially for here
together or whatever. So the process allows them then said
she's like this and she's like that, you know, he criticized such
a woman. So this is just one example. I don't want to give you
you know, all the other warning Hadith about this, but this is
just one example. And there's many, many, there's many, many
other examples about, you know, not getting close to Allah
subhanaw taala and this happening and that happening.
And
I don't want I don't want to go in through all that. But may Allah
subhanaw taala give us a little feat to get closer to Allah
subhanho wa Taala and make such changes in our life that do take
us closer to Him and be sincere about it. Working with that one
only hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen