Abdullah Oduro – Hadith #20 The Four Factors in Marriage, Finding a Righteous Partner

			It was Narrated by Abu Huraira Radi Allahu Anhu that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to
her or to the Audubon, the Maliha. Well, he has to be happy with what your mighty have what he Dini
have fought with that he didn't tell you but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the
Prophet, a woman is married for four things for her wealth, her family, her status, her beauty and
her religion. So you should marry the religious woman, otherwise you will be of the losers.
		

			The Prophet SAW Selim this hadith is authenticated on Behati Inshallah, tada. The first point is,
it's very clear guidance on how to choose a woman.
		

			This hadith is Hubbard, it is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying, These are the four
things that men marry women for these four things primarily, there may be other reasons, but these
are the primarily four things that men marry women for. So it's kind of like a guideline.
		

			Basically saying, Look, men usually do this and get married for these reasons. So look at which
reason that you're marrying the woman for, it may be for one of these reasons. It may be for all
four. But make no mistake, it should coincide with the purpose of life. That this is the second
point that the ultimate reason that one should marry a woman is for her deen is for her religion.
		

			Not just because she wears hijab, and I have to mention this point, you know, we've reached the
appointment to where a sister wear hijab, she has cakes of makeup on bro. And she's wearing a hijab,
she's wearing tight clothes at the bottom. You know, this system needs guidance, you know, sister
needs guidance, just as right now, you're watching this, all of us need guidance. But you have to
ask yourself, Do I want to marry a woman at this point to where she's dressed like that? Or she's
putting kicks of makeup on? Right to where she's beautifying herself in front of other men? Is that
what you want? It may not be that she may not even know that she's doing that because she's
		

			following somebody, which is a characteristic that you may not want. Right? So you got to think
about that. As a man. The Prophet saw someone said, Follow the follow up, be that to Dean Teddy
Bucha deck be successful with the one that has the dean, having the Dean meaning that she fulfills
the five pillars of Islam, you're looking to get married to a woman that is going to be the first
teacher of your children when they're growing at their growing stages. When they're young. When
they're 5678. You're able to listen, understand and even articulate, you want them to understand
firstly, what lawsuit behind what data is. And the one that's going to be around them the most
		

			hopefully, is the mother is your wife. So she needs to be someone that when they see her, they see
Islam, simple as that. And from Islam, primarily, they see her mentioning the name of Allah. They
see her acting in a way that's conducive to being to conduce to being a Muslim woman, from them is
praying, praying five times a day that they see her praying in and out throughout the day. They see
you praying, obviously, but they see prayer as a part of life. They don't know what prayer would be,
be like with they don't know what life would be like without prayer. So that's the deen honesty.
When she's sitting at the table on the phone with her friends. She's not backbiting she's not on the
		

			phone a lot. She's not backbiting other people. She's not speaking badly about other people. When
she hears a disaster, she's like, subhanAllah the name of Allah is common. When your wife is
speaking. That's what you want. That's the deen that we're talking about. She's concerned about her
religion. The month of Ramadan comes around. It's a different time in the house.
		

			Right? That's what we're talking about the deen she marries a man because she's concerned with his
Dean. She's concerned with his religious that state. That's what the process some said you'll be the
most successful at that. Why? Because that's the purpose of life. Everything is subservient to what
makes Allah happy.
		

			The third point is when you marry a woman you have entered into her family, make no mistake
brothers.
		

			When you marry a woman, if you try to if you're gonna marry a woman from another nationality, you
need to know the culture.
		

			I highly advise you, if you're marrying a woman from another nationality, and you have no idea about
that culture, you need to learn about the culture, primarily, primarily how the men treat the women
in their culture. What is a common sign of respect in their culture? What's a sign of disrespect in
their culture? What is something that is common within their culture? But in Islam, it's not
permitted. Right? You may find in some cultures, men and women mix heavily. Greeting between men and
women is hugging and kissing on the cheek. Wearing
		

			tight clothing is something that is very common for women.
		

			So when she becomes a Muslim, you know, you're going to go to the gatherings of her family, and
that's what's going to be around. Right? Her cousins may want to come to you and hug you and kiss
you, you know, you're going to encounter these things, you got to be ready for that. If you're
willing to marry her not to say you don't marry because of that. But know that marrying to her
family marrying her is marrying into her family, that can be a decision that you, you know, a factor
that may cause you to halt on your decision. And that can depend on the righteousness of the sister,
you have to ask yourself the question, Is she worth it? Is she worth it? Is this worth it? Looking
		

			down the line, when you have grandkids, you got to consider those things. I'm not saying immediately
make that the determining factor, but you have to consider it. Because that can have a secondary
effect on your relationship with your wife, and your family being your future children. So we will
also point out to make you brothers that choose wisely. Choose wisely. When you choose a woman
choose a woman that you're going to see this year the qualities that I would want in my children,
number one, and number two, does she have the qualities of being a good mother of my children of our
children? Number two, right? So look at these factors. This hadith is all the same for you as a man
		

			obviously I mean we see how it is obviously a beautiful Hadith and looking at these four things are
her wealth, her family, her status, her beauty,
		

			excuse me,
		

			her wealth, her family, her beauty and her religion. May Allah subhanaw taala make you have those
that look at these factors and allow these factors to be a guiding light for you. For really the
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