Abdul Nasir Jangda – Msa West 2012 Occupy Yourself
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The importance of praying for the Prophet and understanding the practical and real roles of praying is emphasized. The speakers discuss the loss of family members and the importance of protecting diversity and finding a home for one's life. The importance of learning to control behavior and reflect on words and actions is emphasized. The success of a salon's program in helping people live a life change of style is also discussed.
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not a fan of having my biorad. So I usually do that I just kind of walk up in the middle of the water reading the Bible, and that's usually what happened to them.
So, but nevertheless, I was really enjoying the system to share our beloved children in this wonderful discussion on how to benefit from our Salawat, and how to better benefit from our prayers.
What I'd like to do inshallah, in this session to talk about prayer, and this was off and create a little bit of perspective, about surviving about prayer is highlighting.
Because I think one of the tragedies that we have in our times today is that as our shaylen was explaining to us, for a lot of people salon is a mere ritual. It's very procedural, it's a routine, you go through the motions. And that's pretty much it.
And I think what we all can benefit from this to understand the true role that prayer Salaam is meant to play in our lives, the practical, tangible role that salaat can play in our lives. And in order to understand that, in order to highlight that, I think it will be beneficial for us to take a little bit back, take a look back into our history, and take a look at a significant historical role that prayers law has played in the life of the Prophet so
that we go back and look in the light of the lessons from the losses. And we look at the huge role, the impact that the prayer in the salon had the practical benefit that it served for the profit of a loss of body. So I think we'll be able to better understand and wrap our minds around our head around what salon means to us, or what it could mean to us what it was supposed to mean to us. And in order to do that, I'm going to take us back to a time period, from the life of the messengers of Allah, volume seven, which is from a personal perspective,
personally speaking, could be described as the most difficult time of the life of the messenger. So
it was such a difficult time in his personal life, that the scholars referred to it as
the year of grief and sorrow.
And what happened during that year, is that in the 10th, year of profitability, after the profits, a lot of them have been preaching and teaching the message for 10 years in various forms for silently and then publicly, after 10 years of profit, but the profit of apostles suffered a huge personal loss, he suffered the loss of his uncle.
Now, I always explain this, and I actually was talking about this last night in Houston, that one huge problem that we have. And something that I highlight to my own community quite often
is when it comes to the peran, when it comes to the life of a messenger solomani. So unfortunately, today, they have either a, what I like to call a Wikipedia approach, or we have an entertainment approach. What I mean by Wikipedia approach is, there's just a list of items, it's just bullet points. And then in the event here, Prophet of the uncle of the Prophet peace be upon him dying. Next, click Next, you just scroll on down and you click Next. And you go to the next page. Or we have an entertainment like approach are here is an unbelievable amazing talk about so long. When I come up here, everyone site shows he's going to talk about the same thing again.
Or imagine if the next session at six o'clock was going to talk about prayer again. It's like, we already had a session on prayer. I think I'm gonna go grab some coffee.
Right? That's our approach. While we already talked about prayer. Today, I want to talk a little more about prayer. It's entertainment already. You heard it. I already listened to it already read it. I already saw it. That's how that's how we deal with entertainment. Right? If you've seen an episode of a TV show, once you turn on the television, and that same episode is coming up again. What are you going to do?
Alright, this is one of those cracks. If you see an episode of a TV show, once and you turn on the TV, and that same episode is coming on again. They're rerunning it. All right, what are you going to do?
You're going to change the channel. You're going to change channel not gonna sit there and watch it again. Let's say you put through some of the channels there's nothing really else on the feature interest, nothing else worth watching. Then you might watch it again like you know
One, might as well just watch the show again, let's say
that you turn on the television for the third time in that same episode is rewriting. It's coming along again for the third time, are you going to sit and watch it again?
Absolutely.
Guys, I know what's going on with you.
You're not going to watch it again, you're going to change channel, I like to say it was just there's nothing else on and it was the best episode of that show that that has ever, it was hilarious, it was great. You might want you to third time, by this point, you can see the lines before they say you're delivering the punch line you for later. But then you turn on the TV and that shows go on for the fourth time, are you going to watch it again?
Hopefully not. Because if you are like other shoes that we can help you with.
Those are other problems. So you're not gonna want to stop, right? And you're gonna move on. That's entertainment. If you read if you read the news, you know, you read this issue of this magazine, and you're sitting, you're sitting in the waiting room and you pick up the magazines, the same old issue from last month that you read inside out, you're not going to send them the UI, though, you're gonna put it down and you're gonna find a lot of money to be isolated works. Right? That's entertainment. When we sometimes talk about this, especially I think this particularly dress when we talk about seeing all the life of the Prophet told us already read it. Oh, you heard it we have electronic last
week. But what we really need to learn to do is to really wrap our heads around that really like put ourselves in the in the in those shoes, try to understand prior to experience, make an effort to understand what that must have been like for the profit. So when I say that the messenger have a lot of peace and blessings be upon him as a tunku. Right. What does that mean? Let's understand what that means. You know, when I see somebody's uncle died, that said, anybody who sadly died was definitely
passed away. But it's not like your world doesn't like come crashing down. Right? It's an uncle. It was sad. You're sad for a few days.
Right? It's an uncle. I mean, it's not like one of your parents died or something.
Right, I'm trying to put it into context. But when we say that the uncle, the Uncle Uncle profits, once you understand what that means, I'm going to ask you a few basic questions you guys kind of get the way I like to handle this. So you guys are interacting. Now I'm not taking part. So I'm going to ask you a few basic questions that I like to call some expert questions. All right, so I want you to answer them. When the father of the prophets a lot he sent a pass away
before he was born,
how old was the prophets a lot, he said when his mother passed away,
six years old. All right, he was six years old when his mom died. Now both of his parents are gone. Whose care was he and after his mother passed away.
Grandfather.
How old was he when his grandfather passed away? Eight years old. Now let's connect the dots. By the age of age. What's an eight year old and eight year old is a child.
By the age of eight, this child had lost both of his parents and his grandfather and had no biological systems.
This child for all intensive purposes was alone in this world. He had no immediate family
all by himself.
The man who took care of him then was his uncle and took care of him. You know, whenever we tell the story, why did he say that? He treated him like one of his own. I will call him denatures the profits alliances like one of his own.
He treated the profits a lot better than he treated his own. That sounds impossible. Like how could you love somebody else's child more than your own? I have children. I don't think I can love anybody else's child more than I love my own. brother Paul, it proved
that it was possible. The books of history the books of sia, actually note the fact that the profits a lot he says I'm pleased to see the profits of licensing the lack of more than at his own children and he would never let the profits out of his sight. He loved him so much.
And so was the man who raised the prophets of Allah says from the age of eight all the way to the doctor. He was his family. He was his parent. He was the man who raised him Domaine took care of him.
So when I say that I'm the uncle of the prophets, Allah doesn't die.
It's not even like losing one of your parents. It's like losing your mom and your dad your whole family all at once.
Imagine how difficult that must have been.
Imagine how painful that experience must have been.
And the profits from this
and a couple of months. And actually there's a story in the books of syrup, which talks about natural passing. It just it breaks your heart every single time. You thought it was a pretty old man and he had been sick for quite some time. And you know, sometimes when somebody is in the hospital and they're terminally ill, and then you get a phone call, like you need to come here now you need to compete with them, you need to come say your farewells.
The prophets, got them call
the profits a lot, brushed over to college bedside, fell by his bed, held his hand,
tears in the diet with that his uncle
says Uncle, please,
Uncle, please just say
recess depending on once proclaimed the faith in this religion just once.
The narration actually says that the leader of the opposition to the prophets of Allah Himself and His message was present.
And then arratia says that uncle john started to scream loudly of the college and old man and he's in the pants of death. He's dying. He already can barely hear and then scream loudly.
Don't forget the religion on your
phone, started streaming over and over again loudly so that I could not hear what the prophet salami said. I'm saying I will not encourage to his nephew and says I can't hear what you're saying. The narration says that the prophets have touched his mouth to the ear of a baton and pressed his mouth up against is here. And he whispered into his ear.
Just
whispered into my ear
and said his nephew loving it
to his nephew, you know how much I love you but I can't do what you ask.
And the prophets of autism lost his family.
In the process of walked out of the room,
you could tell from the look on his face, he was crushed emotionally.
He just lost his family, a man in raising demand he was.
But when I was kind of bottling up for answers that
excellent example the ultimate role model. A lot of counterintelligence has done for a reason.
There are different durations that you went from two to six months.
But about two to six months, majority of some of the more classical books of Shiva say two months, two months after the Prophet Elias on bosses.
His wife Khadija,
again, we read a book, the wife of the province of Watson.
Teachers are dying, click Next.
Understand what that means. I know it's an MSA conference, the majority of you are young.
So maybe you won't be able to relate to this. I have to relate to this either.
But we can try to appreciate the fact
that she wasn't. It's not just said those four letter word life.
So much more than that.
The province of Madison had been married to habito at this point for 25 years. It's an MSA conference. So this is going to help me make my point. Raise your hand if you're under the age of 25.
Of course.
But that's good. I want you to understand that the province of London some had been married to Khadija love the love that you've been married to this woman longer than all of you who have been alive.
Their marriage was longer than your lifespan.
Think about 25 years or so lifetime. Think about spending 25 years of your most personal intimate moments when
you become one.
You You know what the other person's thinking you know what their what they want. You can finish their sentences. You know what they're going to say before they say
you know that person completely
forgiven him. Everybody see, I mean,
that's my new thing. So
but think about spending 25 years of your personal intimate moments with someone. I know it sounds cliche, and sometimes it makes some people from a from a slight
different culture may be a little uncomfortable. But I think there's no exaggeration to this and it needs to be said
was the soulmate of the Prophet. So what she was the love of his life?
Choose a lot of this life.
You don't want to let you get back. We find narrations that years after the alumni passed away.
How do you possibly serve? remember her how we used to think about her? And how would he be by the memory of
about four years, five years after she passed away? Five years after she passed away, the Battle of other occurred. I'm going to kind of go through this quickly in the Battle of other one of the prisoners of war was the southern model.
And one of the agreements was that the prisoners of war would be released if they can either they were literate educated, they could teach children how to read or write, or their families could their loved ones pretend to ransom for them, and then they'd be released in exchange for them. The daughter, eldest daughter whose husband had been taken prisoner, she sent a necklace to Zeno Obama and actually sent the necklace to secure the release of her husband. When the necklace was put in front of the profits all of a sudden that now we have this prisoner and this is his ranking. The processes looked at that necklace and tears began to stream down his face.
I'm not talking about top dog. I'm not talking about just kind of pausing. I'm talking about tears and the Sahaba on appeal, so good luck.
I can't,
can't help it this Khadija necklace
she gave it to my daughter I
asked submissions from the Sahaba lobby on the pillar of justice and fairness. He asked permission from them that it's okay. Along with releasing my son in law, the necklace is also sent back I want my daughter to be able to hold on to this memory of her mother's
10 years after the profits after
more than 10 years after she passed away a decade after she had passed away. The province receives a very expensive gift.
He calls one of the students one of the young boys who would run the errands for the profits of his assistant he calls them and says Go Go and deliver this gift to such and such woman no lady down the street over there go deliver this gift to her. On the wives of the prophets of Allah Hassan says we're pretty sure she's not related to she's not from your family. Who is she? and her sister Nice hit
the profits. She's one of Asia's old buddies.
And I'd like to talk today I like to remember to check on her because she's hunting just from
its beautiful narrations I want the younger people who never knew Khadija they've never met and seen and they never knew personally that he may Allah be pleased with them. He asked the prophets also we hear so much about our mother Khadija. Tell us a little bit about her. What was she like?
The prophets. Alavi salaams response in the narration says he said in Ghana dot.gov, what kind of
how you would write down? She was and she was, which is more common language, the way we would talk. What the processor was saying. Is that, where do you want me to start?
Where do you want me to begin? I don't even know where to start.
Either. You're nowhere, just understanding how truly amazing she was. This is a decade after she passed away.
She was the mother of his children. Can you imagine
looking into the innocent faces of your children telling them that mothers are coming back?
I was mentioning this one time and a brother came up to me after the lecture says you know when she says today really hit home for me. I said What happened? And you know, sometimes we talk about these things. And you know, we can never truly understand or appreciate what it was like unless we go through that a lot of us see I mean everybody. But you know, sometimes diversity is a blessing from the last century so much if you have
a
better understanding of what that has been like.
Man comes up to me and he says, you know, he was he says life was going good. I was finishing up my medical residency, I was going to get a good job. We were going to buy a house, buy a car, all that good stuff. I was younger, the wife and the two small babies, two small children. And I come home one day from work
to find my wife.
I see my babies sitting there next to her. They're crying and they're awake and they're getting fussy
To catch the attention of the mother and my wife has lived her life. She just passed away.
And he says my world fell apart.
He says, For two weeks I didn't, I locked myself in a room and turn off, the lights come out of my room. And I stayed in the dark for two weeks, I didn't hold my children in my head for two weeks.
Life didn't make sense to me and more, he said, it took me a year to recover, to at least kind of get back to normal start going back to work and taking care of my own kids.
That is what the prophets who lost his family, his uncle abandoned, raised it. And then he loses his wife and mother of his children. Imagine what that must have been like. But this is where I kind of bring it all together. And you might say, I thought the session was about was supposed to be about prayer. what the question is, how can somebody recover from that?
How does somebody bounce back from that? How would you heal that?
I can't even imagine.
And the answer to that question was I was kind of a toddler shortly thereafter, called the prophets of Allah,
on the most miraculous journey any human being has ever taken. And that's
the journey back to Jerusalem and the ascension above the heavens. And there are lost power tools, I gave him a gift.
We're in lies the secret
to bounces back to recovering to healing, to dealing with adversity to dealing with difficulty.
And that was the 5 billion printers, the salons that are shipped so beautifully put, we take for granted.
We take for granted, it's a burden, it's cumbersome. It's the greatest gift of whatever game.
That's why when you look at it from his perspective, it makes sense. What did the prophets mean when he said during that?
Allah, the coolness of my eyes has been put into prayer.
The coolness of the of my eyes have been put into prayer. You know, coolness of the eyes is a very common it's an expression from classical Arabic. We kind of are familiar with it. It's in the Parana certifications. But what does it really mean? To understand the figure of speech, you have to look at it from the perspectives of the people who use that figure of speech.
Imagine being out in the middle of the desert, it's 120 plus degrees outside it's a desert. Beautiful California. Desert 120 plus degrees outside, burning scorching heat of the desert. The hot winds are blowing, blowing the hot sand into your eyes. How much do your eyes burn and get dry? And the engine that you want to scratch? Does it feel like you're on fire, and you're walking around like this wanting to rip your own eyes out.
And then you find some cool clean water.
And you take that pool clean water and splashes into your eyes. How refreshing does that feel? How amazing does that feel?
the profits of
my worries go away. My problems of home, my wounds are healed.
That's what prayer is. That's the kind of opportunity prayer.
And I know my time's up, I just need a couple of minutes to kind of be able to give you something tangible.
There's a very valid question that is a follow up to this discussion.
Maybe somebody here is thinking brother, I pray five times a day.
I pray five times a week.
But my prayer does is refresh me. My prayer doesn't solve my problems. It doesn't heal my wounds. It's not helping me. What's missing? There's one key ingredient. It's the key, which starts the mechanisms. That is the saliva and it's all of its blessings and all of its benefits. And that is what the
options are first us for sure.
We don't have time to get into a discussion on the meaning of or summarize the understanding of tissue into one word for you. And that is quality,
regarding quality in our prayers, and unless and until we don't have quality, it won't deliver on its benefits. But that leads to the million dollar question that I'm pretty sure all of us have wondered at some point or another. How do I get people sure in my salon, how do I get quality is my prayer. That's what I wanted.
Again, that's part of a larger discussion. Shane was telling us about his teacher who teaches a course on this. I suppose I teach a one weekend seminar called meaningful prayer that focuses on the same issue. But I want to summarize it in just two minutes real briefly.
Dozens of scholars and
scholars have written entire books on for sure. I'm just gonna give you three areas of improvement
that will help you start to gain quality in your brain and you will start to feel the benefits in your career.
Number one, a change of lifestyle.
As the sheriff mentioned, that when you live your life,
you know, and you don't care about how you live your life, you're lying and you're cheating and you're cursing and you're swearing that you're, you know, you live a completely immoral lifestyle. You cannot practically expect that I live my life however I want to live. But all of a sudden when I stand up to pray, for instance,
right, there's no phone booth outside of the machine where you go inside and come out.
You * the cake.
fliess value I'm behind you doesn't work that way. When the man comes up to the prayer and he turns on the microphone.
You don't tell your brother in the back, could you turn off the generator, but that's the fan the one next to it.
And they need to flip on the switch and say
doesn't work like that? how you live your life the decisions you make how you conduct yourself will impact the quality of your brain. gotta clean up all right. I have to clean up my app if I want quality in my brain, for one to feel my brain from an experience. That's a question I always tell people ask yourself, don't ask yourself. When's the last time you prayed? Or you offered this a lot where you perform this a lot of that one really makes me laugh. I'm not sure what that means. performed a lot like
what does that mean? Right? no windows, I send you experience. When's the last time you prayed and you felt like it changed your life? it solved your problem it answers your question and healed your
will if we want to experience a life change of lifestyle. I gotta clean up my
secondary.
Is salon has to become an event. It has to be an important part of your business. Can you decide detail?
It's like going to work or going to school. It's like coming to the NSA conference to take a few jabs at you guys. When you know that the session starts at 10 o'clock. And it's a 10 minute walk from where you're staying. How much before that 945 you want to leave your hotel room to grab some coffee and leave that session at 10 o'clock? How much before that once you start getting ready?
It's okay. You can be honest. All right, some guys can be 944.
Sisters, I'm not gonna say anything.
Sister, the wife and two daughters, I am terrified
to run my life.
But you know what I'm talking about?
Things you gotta
get ready.
extreme example, because it serves my purpose. How can I bring something fun, just let me give you the procedure. So
you have the route from your bed to the sink mapped out so that you could walk in with your eyes closed in the dark.
Why? I'll tell you why.
Because when you wake up for pleasure, you don't want to have to turn all the lights on. Because then it makes you sleepiness goes away. You know, nobody gets rid scissor. Everybody knows what I'm talking about. You know what I'm talking about.
So
don't want to turn on all the lights. So you wake up and you do the zombie walk.
And as she has mentioned, when you make them do you have perfected the art of the 15 seconds model.
It's not even at this point. It's like a magic trick.
So
Trump got me off the stage.
I'm tough cookie. I got this like five minutes ago.
So
and then you pray and the procedure I like to call stop and you pray right next to your bed and you stop dropping.
There's a football game on right now.
Terrible timing of the MSA conference. Forgive them everybody. I mean,
I don't care about this game I hate this angel a fortnight
have we played
football games have
been preparing a football game. It's like you wait for a timeout, or a commercial break. And it's like there's no.
Right? And then one guy face on that one guy in your garden you can do.
So
volume and TV are loaded on here.
And I want it to be a lot of deception. I don't want it to be all automated, sad. But to rein it back in a little bit about your new job. How sad is that? How
shameful it really well managed.
properly, dressed properly. You know, even Kathy has a quote, he says, Oh, sure, you've suddenly been found
to be attained by the wonderful entities is freezes hard for the prayer, a practice of our predecessors in the super high
was that before they prayed, and especially in the age of being distraction, we live in the age of destruction, right? And this time in this culture, it's very, very important that we do this. Take your phone, turn it off, turn off the television, set the screen of your laptop, shut everything off, sit down for 60 seconds.
Just Just don't just just editing everything.
Because otherwise, how do
you touch somebody? Where do you want to go? After you've done?
Right?
So he is about three years so far, system 60 seconds, I know it sounds painful and difficult. We have applications sitting 60 seconds doing nothing of a Facebook status, getting ready for
60 seconds, energy,
peace and quiet.
And the third area of improvement.
And I'll talk about this quickly because I talked about it quite a bit. And that is the actual prayer itself will continue improve.
First of all, knowing the basic structure, the skeleton, the technicalities of prayer, which in technical language we call the fifth Uppsala, knowing how to play properly, that'll give you the outline and the skeleton. But in my humble opinion, the spirit and the roof of the prayer is the reflection.
to ponder to reflect, to understand or comprehend what you're reading or what you're saying. You know, I've been talking to you for 30 minutes, you're paying attention. One primary reason for why you're paying attention is you understand what I'm saying? If I can stand in front of you speaking in a language you don't understand you don't comprehend. I've been speaking in Chinese for 30 minutes, how long before you would stop paying attention?
Beyond the
10 seconds
10 seconds?
How different that as silly as that example is why would I stand here and talk in a language nobody understands for 30 minutes? How different are prayers for that?
We send up in saliva, saliva saliva yesterday.
So kind of
everything we read through the program. We don't grasp or understand a single word of what we're saying. Instead of what the game focuses on. Sometimes
we have to learn the meaning properly in depth of what we read and what we say within our prayers. And when we do that. We have the liberty to reflect the ability to ponder on what we're saying and that will begin to solidify our basis.
So that's just a real brief short discussion. But May Allah subhanaw taala allow us all
To really truly realize what a blessing salon is, I mean
mailwasher Hotel it gives quality in our prayers. And may Allah subhanaw taala make our prayers a means of us becoming closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala. My apologies to the program organizers for first of all being late and then going over my time. My sincerest apologies I sincerely do apologize does not come up.