We bring to you the topic that most of our muslim brothers and sisters are striving with. : Modesty
“Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, âModesty is part of faith and faith is in Paradise…..” [Sunan At-Tirmidhi 2009]
In this lecture, we want to bring to you the importance of modesty in all forms and for both men and women, inshaAllah
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Alright, so we're gonna get started with what is high. Yeah, what is high and why this talk is so important in our lives have shot, the progress a little longer, some said
Is he said, faith belief consists of more than 60 branches and higher the term higher covers a large number of concepts, which are to be taken together. Amongst them are self respect, modesty, bashfulness, shyness, again, self respect, she honor, these are all part of faith. So as we're listening to this, right,
this, I started off with this video, because I wanted you to see the depth of fear is not something like what most people think is just, you know, the woman wearing the job and the men lowering their gaze. This is what the majority of people take the term high activity. But yeah, it's so much more than that. And we're going to go into it a little bit deeper. And today's topic, it's really, really important, because it can really lead us to genma should we follow the advice of the Prophet sallallahu, some of his companions of the Mahatma when when when we think of it, we want to really, really think of it in a broader term, again, not just into, okay, men, lower your gays, and women
wear hijab and dress modestly. It's beyond that, and so inshallah from I hope today's lecture is going to help to identify more. So now, you have to understand that there is many of the Alomar had come up and said that there is actually a good hire, and there's bad hire, until really, really understand this. Well, you know, that's, I would say, the whole nother lecture. So I'm not going to go into the depths of that. But I want you to know that there is a difference between that right. However, as for today's class, I want you to think about, you know, in the terms of the good higher, and the less, we have a bit, the weaker, our humanists in Islam is supposed to help us avoid falling
into situations, which are not good for us. It's supposed to help us remember that a laser is always watching us, whether it's in our speech with relationship with not only Allah subhanaw taala, but relationship with everyone around us. And there's so much more to it. So Bismillah
the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam said, Hey, I will not bring anything except good, to not bring anything because as good as a believer, we know that having a yard is a great characteristic to have. It's one we should probably proud of, and continue working on. And I personally know living in the West, but in the US, it's the opposite. We are constantly told that we should be more outgoing, should be more social, we should be more assertive and aggressive and like everywhere, and those who are shy and those who are modest, they actually looked down upon actually, like all their antisocial and they want to be around us. So they look down upon that. But really, that's not the
case. In Islam, you know, in Islam, it's the opposite. And we really
can't appreciate higher and to really understand are the and I know personally for myself, like growing up. I did have the personality of where I was outgoing. And I was social. And I remember speaking to my daughter about this a few days ago, and I said on the license, you know, at the end of the day, I said, you know, while in the West, that was such a great thing to have. I feel like I probably got me in more trouble than it did for me. And so it's
Really, really better to be on the other side?
Okay, so the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he passed by a man who was admonishing his brother regarding hey, yeah, and he was saying, You're very shy, and I'm afraid that that might harm you on that the promise on the loveliness of the lead him for hire is part of faith. So my dear sisters and brothers in law, this had been proved to us that shine is such a good quality to possess and that men may also have this quality as sisters as women do. Men may also have it and it's good. It's not a bad thing. And, you know, the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu, someone who says that, you know, the majority of people who will be in Hellfire will be females, right? And the biggest reason,
obviously, one of the biggest reasons is because of their tongues, right? So you think a sister or brother is shy and speaking, and, you know, saying the wrong things, and they're controlling that guarding their time? I mean, do you think that Michelle Obama, we're going to go the wrong path, something to really really reflect on
so today I'm going to go over three different points that I'm going to go over number one is in our speech, at my dressing and as well as my behavior, I think all three of them are really really important. And I want you guys to get a feel for them. The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam said indeed from the teachings of the first prophets which has reached you, if you do not have shyness, then you do as you please. And this is exactly what we see in the world today, that if we don't have hair, we do whatever we desire. It's only when we have higher and we're shy especially from Allah subhanho wa Taala if we're shy of
doing something and knowing that he's watching us and he you know aware of it and he's totally like gonna be disappointed in us like that's it really can help stop us and control us. So really, if you don't have China's does not care we do whatever we want to do we say whenever we want to say we dress the way we want to dress and it's like there's no limit overlap.
So
these three points show I'm going to go a little bit in depth with them
and if you think
okay, I might have been a fan of the law and answer if you think he is only a woman Don't forget
that companion with the most higher was found that the law of inertia didn't say that I'm sorry this was the gentleman that
if you guys don't know of his story, there's many of them coming talk about in a minute but you don't have enough time I think was the most of the male companions was the one with the most hated the last one. He was just, I mean, even the angels were embarrassed. So some have a lot like think think about how much modesty he had Mashallah, and that is this is not just for sisters, but it's for brothers as well. It's important that they to understand it, you know,
so many to go over a
scenario of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam talking to one of his companions. The Prophet sallahu wa sallam said, you know, to one of his companions, be bashful before Allah, according to his right to modesty beforehand. And they said, O Messenger of Allah, barely were shy, Praise be to Allah. He said, that is not it. modesty before Allah, according to his right to modesty is a you protect your mind and what it learned your stomach and what ingest and remember death and tribulations attached to it. And whoever wishes for the hereafter leave the dormant of this life. So whoever does all this is truly, truly rational verbalize, oh Joe, according to his rights and modesty, and this isn't at
the meeting. So when you hear this, you know that modesty, shame applies to every aspect of our life, every aspect of relevance and awareness, again, awareness and haven't caught up on lost presence, in the fact that we know Allah is watching us. He's aware of everything we're doing. This surely can help us be bashful. This can help us.
Because when we know that our bosses are looking at us, we don't sit there and you know, go and lollygag on the computer or waste more time we do that we act our best, you know. So, it's the same with this, you know, when we can imagine that my lord is watching me right now. Should I really be doing this show me really wasting my time on this? Or should I really be talking to this person about this, then it really helps us to change what we're doing and and inspires us to get away from the evil and go towards the good and show motala Okay, and of course, the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam said modesty is for faith, and the faith is in paradise. And he has so many
heads on this Mashallah you know, and it's so important that
We remember these constantly, you know, so we've got now we're gonna talk about payoff in our speech, right? The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam said, a Muslim is one who's the Muslim is the one who, from whose time good hand other Muslims are safe. Right? And
this is something I feel like we really, really, really need to all work on tremendously. I mean, in the fact that, you know, we know this, and we've heard it, and we know that probably some of the lessons that speak good or remain silent, yet, I feel, when it comes down to actually applying it, we're very weak, very weak. So when we think about our speech, right, we actually think before we speak, we think about our tone, our pitch, our loudness, our attitude, we think about all of it, you know, and I'll be honest with you, there are some people that we can speak to, and will, we know that either they might
actually say the word, they might either, you know, try to
argue with us, or they might try to say things that aren't true, or they might try to bring some kind of fitness. And there's some people like that, whether they're your friends or family members, you know, some people have these qualities. So when you're about to speak to someone like that, and I do this all the time, upon law, what I actually say my doors before I even go speak to them. And the reason for that is is so that, you know, you can sit there literally connect to going back to your lens and your lovelies help me as I'm about to face a test with someone and I don't want to say the wrong thing to them. I don't want to say the wrong thing to them, I don't want you to be angry
with me. So please, give me proper words proper etiquette, proper way of speaking and helped me do this, you know, the right way. So with that being said, you know,
you come back and you
start again and you go in, in a way I feel like with the blessings of Allah azza wa jal, because you remember a must upon the law, you're applying what he's saying, and then, you know, you're going in and you're about to be tested, and then inshallah it'll, it'll be easy on you. Okay.
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So coming back down to. So you know, we have to really, really, really be shy, especially in our speaking, we have to be shy in saying bad things are using bad language shy, I like to watch all, you know, shy of displeasing him. And if you've spoken in a manner that was wrong and incorrect, then we should feel ashamed of Allah subhanaw taala we shouldn't feel proud and happy. And this is really, really important. Because
we, I see, especially you know, on Facebook, and you see social media, and people think when they're not face to face, it's different. But you can see them going on the site, and you know, something's funny.
Something's funny, and they
sit there and actually use profanity as a way of having fun with it. And they'll use bad words or, you know, say in the end it just, like, funny to them, so they don't think anything of it. But I honestly find it disgusting. I find disgusting and I find it like they, you know, are they not afraid of Allah? subhanaw taala? Or they're not embarrassed to use those words in front of Allah subhanaw taala forget your family, your husband, your wife, your kids. But, you know, are they not? Because a lot of times, you'll see parents will not use foul language or, you know, won't talk about certain subjects in front of the children, right, because they're embarrassed, and they don't want
their kids to learn this. But yet, I would be lucky. When it comes to the times they don't mind because they're like, Okay, my kids are not here. But our standards need to be higher than that. Our standards need to be that we don't do this in front of Allah subhanaw taala at all times, not just in front of our kids or in front of our parents or somewhere embarrass them. It should be we should speak in a manner that's proper and intelligent at all times. And then a matter of
Please Our Lord, because only then inshallah Allah will what we see used as a good deed for us and not bad deeds.
And if we do make a mistake, obviously we need to repent immediately and really think about what we've done wrong, I will have no idea Lahontan said that I heard the Prophet summer long live some saying, a person utters a word thoughtlessly without thinking about it being good or not. And as a result of this will fall down into the fire of * deeper than the distance between the East and the West.
Now, I want you guys to think my dear sisters and brothers, if one word can take us down to the deepest fire, how, you know, between the East and the West, imagine all these other things that we do and say I would imagine our lives our job does not forgive us for it, because we are not sincere in changing, we're not sincere and trying, we're not sincere, and actually following his rules about
and this can become a book of body and listen. So knowing this, we should authors to be careful what we say and how we say, we should be very mindful of everything that comes out of our mouth. And once a believer realizes this, and once a believer can really understand it, and he or she inshallah, Allah will be very careful, not only in front of their children, but alone with their friends with everyone around them. And I say this, and I've said this before, if you have friends or family members who have bad mannerism, and they don't care about Haja, and they don't care, then maybe it's time that you don't hang around them. Maybe it's time you see them. And you said Salaam Alaikum. And
that's great, but they do not stay close friends to you. And it's a fact, you know, and it doesn't matter. Like I love my family, but I love a lot more. So there is no way that I would take them as more important than my Lord. So it's really, really important to remember that, you know, an apostle alone is on set. Obviously, a strong person is not a person who throws his adversary to the ground, a strong person is one who contains himself what is angry, and I've noticed that we become our worst, obviously, when we get angry will become our worst. And we have to remember that we need to work on this. And we need to contain ourselves and hold ourselves back and become our best. And it's
funny because recently I actually sent this idea to my children in Russia, they've memorized so many of these, so they use it against me when it's proper for them, right. So all of a sudden, one day, my younger son, oh man did something, oh my god, a lot. And I'm just like, and my oldest son said this. Remember, the Prophet similan is I'm a strong person is the one who contains himself when he's angry. And I'm like,
really trying to contain myself a lot. My reaction was gonna be totally different because of what my younger son did. So it's really, really hard sometimes for us, but really, you know, good friends, the people around you, if they can remind you of this stuff, especially when you are upset, and in some of our lives, it's really gonna make it easier to help you and, you know, again, bring you back to that path, because we all need to be reminded, and shallot and I read somewhere this
the different levels of social aspect concerning other besides a lot, normally these things come off and regarding with one's relationship with your family, for instance, a child not wanting to do something displeasing his mother or his wife not wanting to do something displeasing to her husband, or even a student who's careful about saying something incorrect in front of his t shirt. Last but not least, is the type of hair which the believer becomes shy of themselves. This is when they reach the peak of their emaan. What this means is that if they do or say or see anything wrong, or even commit the tiniest thing, they start to feel extremely bad and embarrassed or feel extremely guilty
in their heart. This builds a high degree of self consciousness. And what it does is strengthen the believers commitment to a muscle.
And it's really true, my dear sisters and brothers, and we have to literally control ourselves in every aspect and including being able to, you know, what we see, right? what we see. And, and what we hear. And we we say all the time, you know, my hope is like me even including movies or cartoons, or whatever you look at, you know, is this appropriate. And if you don't think it's appropriate, and it's the I mean, again, especially here in the West, it gets above rated g shouldn't be watched. And that's obviously a documentary something where they may be PG do the glory of the bladder, this or that, but not to the language and, you know, vaccines or anything like that. So you really, really,
really have to be careful what even what you see in what you bring into your home and constantly remind your children the same thing, as well as other family members. And the best way to really do this is by your own actions.
A lot. So let's go to the next slide this Mullah.
And I'm gonna talk about the
story of musasa. But before I begin that, I'm going to talk about another Hadith that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, he said, and this is for the brothers, if a woman passes in front of you lower your eyes until she has passed by, if a woman passes in front of you, or your eyes until she has passed by, and this is very important, because it really shows the respect that you know people have for not only their sisters in Islam, but for all women, and it that it's not
proper for us to be staring at people and doing that, you know, because we know especially in the West, we think when people look at you in this area, we think of them as perverts. And now we don't think of them Oh, Russia, this is a great thing. No, like, you know, what a pervert, I would have been that, you know, so you really have to think of this and it's the same thing, you know, lowering our GIS for the sisters, we don't need to look at them brothers, we don't need to be staring at them. I mean, you know, literally lowering the gaze is the best way for all of us to show up. So I'll talk about Mr. Lights, a long story and his lesson of modesty. After waiting for a long time
and accused of being only two females among the all males, someone finally decided to help them, they're able to take their flock of sheep and goats home. Their father was old and had no brothers to the outside chores. So being one of the most difficult tasks drawing water from the world in order to water one's livestock was performed usually by men, a blessed day for them to come home early with fresh water. Their father was surprised about this early return, and when he inquired into the occurrences, his daughters told him that a man who seemed to be a traveler had helped them, the father asked one of them to seek the man out and invite him home. Upon returning to the wild,
the lady approached him shyly. When she was in earshot, she gave him her father's invitation so that he might become, he might recover him for his help. He kept his gaze low to the ground, and he replied to her thing that he had done it for a last cycle alone and required no compensation. However, realizing that this was a love was at seven how he accepted that invitation, or she was walking ahead of him. The wind blew her dress a bit, which revealed part of her lower leg. So he asked her to walk behind him, and point out the way he should follow when he reached a fork in the footpath.
So here they are they arriving to the house, the father presented him with a meal and asked where he was from. The man told him that he was a fugitive from Egypt, the daughters who had brought him home whispered to her father or father hire him, because the best of the worker is the one who's strong and trustworthy. He asked her how do you know you're strong? She said, He lifted the stone lid of the world that cannot be removed except by many together. He asked her how do you know that he's trustworthy. She said he asked me to walk behind him so that he couldn't see me as I walk. And when I converse with him, he kept his gaze low, with China's respect. This was Prophet Musa Listen up
with the mercy and blessings of a lovely upon a good run away from Egypt after killing someone by mistake. And the father of the girls was a God fearing that on the tracks of Madame a man with some lists.
But he had these two daughters. The verse in the Koran tells us the story stresses upon the manners of approaching loose La Silla. So one of the two daughters came to him walking modestly, modestly. So, you know, it's one thing that we approach somewhat, but it's the way we approach them and the way we talk the way we hold ourselves with respect, and kind of a massive overlay that everything moves forward enough. And both the way she approached musala salon, about his hair, not seeing more of her than was needed. At the time as well. The way he approached her was amazing Cipolla, neither one of them had a chaperone work of people see what they did, yet they both conducted themselves
with the utmost respect with the utmost. And this was done only only my dear sisters and brothers, how to fear for the one who sees everything. What was the outcome father proposed to musala salon that he marry one of his daughters will sell my salon consider them a suitable marriage prospect. And he and his daughters also saw in him all the virtues a man needs as a need for, you know, to be a need for a woman to consent for his guidance in their life. So most of us are not accepted. And I was also hired for 10 years as help with as a shepherd of help with the Father. So I really want you guys to think about specially for all the sisters and brothers who are not married. I want you to
really think about
you know, at the end of the day, when you do want to get married, what kind of person do you want to get married to the kind of person that you want to get married to, should be the kind of person that you are? Right? Because Allah subhanaw taala tells us we will be with those who are how we are. So if we're going to be immodest, and we can do all this stuff, then don't expect a modest wife. Don't expect someone with higher
dignity and all that when you're not doing it. And I'll tell you I know, unless you've obviously changed and you're coming to this path and you're doing get Mashallah. But don't expect that either way. And the same thing with the sisters, you know, if you're walking around and you're, you know, flaunting your stuff and you think you look really good and all that and don't go after the brother who's lowering his gaze and being modest, because it's not, it doesn't make any sense. And don't expect your husband most likely to be like that, because we get what we put in. So the kind of person we are, that's the kind of men we're going to attract. You know, and I always hear this is
there's no good men out there, there's no good. Yeah, there's very limited great men very limited, great woman. But we have to keep saying how good are we have we worked on ourselves is a lot happy with us. Because a lot needs to be happy with us to fulfill the other interests, right? He needs to, and then we ask a lot to bring that person into our lives, inshallah. So very important to understand. The next slide, we're going to go into Kenya in our dressing, one of the most common questions raised by non Muslims is, is that from this Muslim woman is mandated to wear hijab, and why is a Muslim man exempt from this obligation in Islam? Why? Well, the truth is that Muslim men
are equally required to polish up and the turkey job, it doesn't just refer to a scarf or a, you know, a big dress covering everything, but islamically in the broader sense, it encompasses modesty, and chastity and men and women's garments, and garden ones. So by guarding our gaze, we do not look not only check them out, but we do not walk towards them as their which we're not like, you know, running after them or laughing loudly or trying to, you know, get attention in any way, shape or form. Right. And so, you know, society, however, has a job is a fabric that covers the head, but that's not it. It's beyond that. So when we're talking about the brothers, right, you know, the way
I look at it, I don't think the men should be wearing tight, you know, tank tops and tight shorts and tight pants, you know, wearing these tight, little top No, no, it doesn't matter if you're a brother or sister, you know, you should be wearing modest clothing, wear longer shirts, covering your behind, wear looser pants, you know, behave in a manner where you're not trying to get attention as well, because obviously, when you're wearing certain clothes, and you want that attention just as much as if the sisters were doing it. So it's important that we all follow this rule in the same way. You know, it's not like, oh, men can wear whatever they want, and they can do
whatever they want. And they're just supposed to lower their gaze now, dignify yourself with your outerwear, just like sisters have to do it. And it's the more we didn't buy our stuff on the outerwear, the more inshallah hopefully, it'll affect our a lot. And we'll go in that game, and we will be dignified from inside out. inshallah, right. So while a woman and Islam have a choice to earn money, or not, men are required to financially support their families, right. So when the brothers are out there, you know, we know the dress code is from the belly button to the knees, right. However, nowadays, we have jobs that, you know, require you to work beyond that, and you have
clothing that is available more to so I would say just, as long as you can also think up, you know, these are my, you know, private areas that I don't want people looking at me in the same way, I don't want them to think, you know, oh, he has a nice behind or a nice chest or nice dessert. If you can think like that, rather than a shallow color, you also follow that and so simply for the sisters job is not just wearing a little hat scarf around your neck and wearing a clothing, new add on that you have to literally, you know, it's not your job number one properly, but your clothing should be loose, and not see through. And they should be really, really not extremely colorful, and it
shouldn't be a touching fabric. It should be nice and represented to you in a beautiful way. But it shouldn't be you know, and your job is not wearing massive amounts of makeup. So Pamela plucking eyebrows, and I think some of the jobs are more beautiful than the models out there, after they've done all this makeup and all their clothes and just like wow, this could be like a model. You know, it's like and you can do them to job and that's not just about your job is about to, you know, take that away. And I know this is going to be extremely hard for a lot of the sisters to do that. But really, that is the goal. It's to not get into that level of you know, when you start give yourself
goals and I know it's not going to be easy day one to stop doing a habit. But you have to give yourself goals and you have to keep working towards your goals at slowly and slowly and slowly stay away from the things that are, you know, attention grabbers, you know, and it's important. Again, it's important to understand it and it's a point to
Keep reflecting on your relationship for the loss of a lot and what you will do to change that. And again, another thing with the job as far as not only dressing but it's
you've got the dress code, we've got all this. And I know in the West, this is like normal, but I have seen it even in Muslim countries now. And I'm kind of disappointed, but it's the men and woman shaking hands or hugging each other that are not obviously there laugh. And that was a very big disappointment to me. Because obviously, we know that this isn't appropriate, right? We know that I didn't know the process of. And so when we're talking about high modesty, we need to remember that it's not just our clothing for the sisters or brothers or lowering our gaze, but it's the whole lifestyle, we need to be able to put it out put ourselves you know, have that boundary that we don't
touch the opposite gender who's not our Messiah, you know, we don't not only shake your head a little hug them or kiss them on the cheek or anything like that. We give ourselves that boundary and make sure that they are aware that we cannot do this stuff. This is part of our family. This is part of our behavior. And it's not just from the clothing but you know, inside out we have to go through that and shut up a lot. And as far as you know, a lot of sisters are talking about as far as growing beards, the brothers blowing beards and the situation many of the scholars that it's you know it it is so nice to grow the beard and I think Mashallah the brothers that amazing with it, and I think
everybody should have it personally. But for those who don't, it's you know, it's so not it's not fun, it's different. And it's, some scholars have said that it's like wearing going to cop the face coverings and others holding much more stricter. So, personally, I think, you know, if you could do that it's a beautiful part of your hijab again, you've got the beauty that the clothing, the lowering the gaze, and follow up on it, it just takes that you really love a lot and you're trying to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, you know? Okay.
So now we go to the next slide.
Okay, so I'm going to go over a story about the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and the garden well, and what is respectable to view between people of course, is very right. So, how much of a woman's body can be exposed to a husband is obviously much different from what she can expose to her brother, which in turns can be much different to what she can expose to a complete stranger and vice versa. This is true concerning was permissible to see between the couples, you know, have the same * so what a father brother or son can respectively view of each other is different from what a man outside the family circle is permitted to see as well as what a mother daughter sister can see of
each other in contrast to a strange woman. So what the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam went into garden and he asked his companion to Allah shot at garden gate in the garden was a well, and he sat upon its wall, dangling his legs inside. After a while, I will recommend the Lahore in case one intention the garden. I also want to tell the Prophet sallallahu is that his father in law wanted to share the garden with him. So the purpose of the law said, Tell him the good news that the gardens of Paradise await him and let him in. So I will record the loved one who wanted to the garden and sat beside the Prophet symbolism, who was who Sarang was pulled up just about his knees and dangled
his legs in the world with him.
A little later, oh, my God, a lot hotter turned up, he wanted to relax in the garden to again have a booster for the Prophet sallallahu. That was permission for him, informing him of another one of his father in law's presence at the gate. He said, Tell him the good news of the garden, the parents that await him and let him in.
So at this time, Alma de la Han comes in as well. And he sits on the other side of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, and he dangles his life in the water next to him as well. Both of these men had the sensitivity to sit next to the purpose of the lesson. And that's the process and was able to preserve
a proper positioning without having to pull his local garment over his knees. Well, sometime after that his son in law might have been affirmed that the law quantum came in. And he at that time, his marriage, his daughter, okay, and so he also saw interested in the garden and whenever Musa transmitted, the prophet SAW some message by saying the garden of Paradise awaits you after some trials. So he told us man that the love and the garden the paradise awaits you after some trials. So somehow Amanda de la one who knew that he would be facing his life. So he let him in as man observed that only the only free space on the well was the one of the three walls that was awesome. His
father was a non occupant, which meant he might see more of the process on his leg than me.
And he hesitated to sit the process of aloneness and hold his run down over his knees, so with mana de la who took the place opposite of him. Islam teaches us that there are some parts of our bodies that should not be revealed in public. And the closer these parts are to one's private areas, the more they
should be prohibited to reveal. Although all of these men who sit next to him were close family ties and friends, but still, it's why he needs to be seen. But we're in the process of trying to essentially expose, he took steps to hide them. So really, really important, my dear sisters and brothers that we think about this, not only for ourselves, but even for our children, we need to dress our children appropriately, whether they're girls or boys. I mean, after they turn, personally, my personal thing is after they can start walking and all that, I honestly think you really have to think about what they wear outside, there's so many towels out there, there's so many
perverts out there, even.
So,
that's my two year old, who knows I'm giving a speech and thinks that it's time for me to hold her up.
So she ran out of the room, even though they had a
good time for her teaching her.
inshallah, everything will be okay.
All right. So,
um, okay, so basically, coming back to the point is that even with your children, you know, teach them how you're at an early show them not to look at the pictures or movies or things that are inappropriate, help them not, look, stare at people of the opposite gender, or even if they're the same gender wearing inappropriate clothing, help them you know,
think about, you know,
think about this thing that a young gay at a young age and I know Mashallah, with us, like a, you know, we've been working on our older children. And now that I see our younger one, two years old, she, even her, like, if she sees a picture that's Basha.
And she'll lower her gaze, and she'll try herself. And it's really beautiful. Because now I'm not sure sometimes she'll say, Mommy, and I want to wear my hijab outside. And I'm like, are you sure you understand? Yeah. And she'll wear it for a few minutes, and then she'll be like, it's hot. So pick you back up. But the idea is that she understands that she knows that she, we, you know, gets to see it. And she's explained to her.
So, you know, while they're young, you know, obviously, they may, you know, have their own things, but just teach them what's proper and what's not, you know, they don't need to wear as, you know, even two year old Daisy Duke shorts, and bikinis and swimming suits, they don't need to wear that they should have even in themselves. So if you start them off with Hey, at a young age, and the short of the metal continue, as they get older, and they will themselves guide their chassis inshallah. So really, really important to you can help us to teach our children.
So, point number three, here, my behavior, okay? Allah Dada says in chapter 24, verse 30, tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest, that is pure for them. No, God is aware of what they do, and tell the Bolivian woman to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of the adornment. Only that which is a parent that to draw their wills over their chest, and to not reveal their dormant. So, you know, we read the fat out of the con plan, obviously, tell the brothers first. But it also tells the sisters, you know, to lower your gaze, you know, and dress properly. I mean, it's really simple. If you don't want men to treat you like an animal, then don't invest like,
and I hate to say this, then I know we should have respect, and I know they shouldn't. But unfortunately, we are creatures.
You know, we are made in certain ways. And there's certain things that they have, the brothers have that make them, you know, have different feelings and certain things for women. And so that's why my xojo has asked us to be more modest. And so it's very, very important because remember, animals follow that instinct without feeling any shame or sense of right or wrong. So if we're going to say we're at a higher level, and we should be able to really, really, really implement this, you know, the more modest we are, the closer we are to be a human being. Islam has mandated so many legislations which induce that sense of modesty within human beings, you know, and distancing
yourself entering from different rooms, you know, that even everything we do, and all of this has to do with martial law, you know, so I advise all of you guys to be shy toward the loss of hunter line the same way you're shy towards someone, you really respected that pious and righteous enough. And as from this client verse, I will read you know,
that just about virtuous woman, obviously advice for men as well and that, like I said, they do have to dress up
a certain way and hold themselves in a certain way, you know, and while it feels like women have a higher, you know,
they have a higher, like, people feel like they have more on their shoulders, we're dressing modestly, it does reflect reflect all of it. But when you really think about it, my dear sisters and brothers, right about like the example in devil, the predator and the prey, right? And their relationship, right, you have to think that the prey, which is hidden escapes, being a victim, the prey, which is hidden, right. And so, it's not to say anyone has a right to do anything at all to a woman or to do this or that. But we do have to control ourselves as well, we have to put ourselves in proper situations, we don't walk around at two in the morning, even with your job and walk around
in the morning thinking, Okay, nobody's gonna hurt me. No, you obviously have to think logically and intelligently. And you have to think smart all the time. Because, you know, you have to put yourself in at the same time, you know, for the brothers, the same thing, you know, they have to constantly have this thing of they see sisters, lower your gaze, it doesn't matter if they're Muslim or not, below your gaze, and the way to really develop modesty. So think about whether you like the female or the male within the way they're doing it in front of their parents, would you do this in front of your parents? And if you have one shred of shame in your heart, and then you would you would not
commit this kind of act in front of your parents. So if you couldn't commit this kind of act in front of your parents, and how can you do it in front of a light is your job out?
So Panama isn't a must mattala with so much more. And so Islam really wants us to consider this. Yeah, I'm a believer in front of Allah, Allah to be a much greater and higher than in front of people. And obviously, you know, deeds are based on intentions, right? You know, whether we get good deeds or bad you have to really make your intentions clear why you're not doing it, you know.
And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, Allah is more deserving than other people have your shyness. And early Muslims used to say be shy towards Allah when you're private in the same way you are shining for people when you're a public. And another one of their thing is Do not be voted in favor of a law in your public behavior. But when you were the enemy
would you shake on to him when you're in the enemy in private, then you do whatever you want. Don't be in those people. Learn to control yourself at all times.
Okay, and then go
learn the story of the profits and the loss of and rebuilding of the Kava monastery. The purpose of the lesson, maybe made the mercy of Allah be upon him was the most prominent transit his personality. Even from an early age, his sense of shame and an open society to Arabs prior prior to Islam coming into his life was amazing. My dear sisters brothers, one time in his life after the treasures had been stolen from the inside the people rebuilding the Kaaba with a roof in order to prevent thieves from entering it again. So Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. While he was still a young man took part of it, he went with his uncle to carry blocks of stones. His uncle told them to put
that Sarang around his neck to protect themselves from sharp edges of the heavy rocks, as he symbolizes a move to comply with the sensible advice. He was overcome with dizziness, and the collapse and death think, his eye gaze pixley skyward as he lay on his back on the ground is around loosened, but still covering his privates. A few moments later, he came on yelling, my clothing, my clothing, hastily, a profit salon and isn't wrapped around security around himself again, never again in his life with anyone outside the family ever even catch a glimpse of his lines. So, my dear sisters with a destroy demonstrates to us and he was told by one of the promises and companions that
the promises on had a strong sense of shame, and a strong sense of shame in covering his body, it was ingrained in him even before Prophethood he was known to be more modest than even a virgin before, both before and after receiving revelation from Allah. And you think about my dear sister.
As a young kid, he was like this, don't you think that we should teach our children as a young children as young kids, we should teach the boys and the girls how to dress and how to behave and how to look and how to act and only then and shall Obama will we be able to understand
You know?
So with that being said, inshallah, Allah, I am done and ready for questions. I apologize that we began a little late today with a technical difficulties, but some of them are, and then we can begin the q&a session now.
Okay.
Is it allowable for women to not cover their heads or wear nice clothes in front of their father in law's on the beach?
says that they're non Muslims
are willing to not cover their heads were nightclubbing.
Yeah.
Other laws? You know?
That's a really good question. I think, you know, that's something to ask the scholars, and I'm a student of knowledge. So I don't want to answer this one. But if you email me and shut up, I can answer shoot, and I can send it back to you, if you email me, via Facebook, and Sharla. Personally, myself, I cover in front of anyone that's non Muslim to me, but along those bestbus father as far as the Father logos, you know,
because because to me, it's, you know, I don't know, I think modesty again, I don't want anyone besides my husband or my own rather than my own father. Beyond that, it's like, I think he gets really faizi you know, or if the kids are really young. So, a good question, email me inshallah, and I will definitely ask the shift.
Okay, is it permitted for a girl to deliver a speech in public with the audience because it's a male, female? And it's not compulsory, it's just a competition?
It depends on who you ask, and depends on where you're living and who you ask. As far as I know, you know,
for myself, like when I'm doing Dawa, I asked, obviously, Dr. Bilal Philips and others if it was permissible for me being a female to go on stage and be able to give talks in front of men and women about Islam and all this and Dr. Below, as well as several other shapes told me it is as long as I dress appropriately, I speak in a dignified manner. I know how to be obviously I don't intermix in the sense of shaking hands or anything like that. And I just keep it very respectful. And it's my part of it that eat. So it just, you know, I guess this one really depends on the situation and where it's at, in order for us to understand and more and you can email me this question as well.
And I can, and but it needs way more details in order for them to answer it, because it seems very vague right now.
Okay, bear with me. I'm going to the next question.
Okay. Is it okay to make it the eyes of an interviewer of the opposite gender?
Technically, you know, we're taught in the West that it's okay to do this kind of stuff, and to look people straight in the eye and Allah. But if you can avoid it, it's better not to, it's better to lower your gaze. And even when you're going to the interview, you could tell them, you know, this is part of our modesty or HIA and explain to them like you know, I usually when I meet people at those opposite gender, I tell them that we don't shake hands and have every once in a while you may look up but I think it may be better to mostly keep lower your gaze. That's my personal perspective on this. Many people would probably agree or tell you to not even go to them and maybe a load with the
opposite gender, maybe they should be a female in the interview as well. And you could keep looking at her and what was once in a blue moon get visa, other interviews,
more details regarding the relationship between Hyatt and EMA. Okay. That's, that would be too long of a conversation, Sister semia. Maybe you have another talk on that show.
Okay,
let's see.
Nowadays in college and university that is sometimes very necessary to interact with the opposite gender, as you maintain modesty in such cases, Lily, you know, lowering your gaze and
talking to them only when you need to not more than that, you know, you whether it's your professors, whether it's your classmates, you know, and when the time comes and you have to be partners trying to be partners that are the same gender as you so you don't have to go into those situations. So when you keep asking a lot to make it easy for your love, I really want to have modesty and if please make it easy for me, I'm trying my best and then you work on it and Allah will make it easy for you believe me, if you really want it and you really want to change our lives I will make it simply amazingly easy for you to show love Allah
is it permissible for a woman to deliver a public lecture I answered this question.
I said if obviously the shoe told me as long as you dress properly and handjobs voices, proper mannerisms proper not
obviously, you know, doing the wrong stuff and as long as the lecturer is obviously retaining too
good stuff I guess I should align it's not all men, you know, audience and stuff like that. So it all really depends but as far as I know, as far as she's dressed properly wearing proper clothing, and she keeps herself in a dignified manner and all that and it's fine some of the show face specially
if it's worth our obviously, but you just have to really know your intentions and why you're doing it. Well, you and I used to travel my mom was always with me. So my husband's always with me. Whether I'm in country, other countries
And I always have him by me. So
is it mother in law and son in law? Are they Muslims?
That's a very good question.
You know,
I don't I don't know this one, to be honest with you, I the Muslims as because as far as I know, I mean, when you get that close, your mother in law and father in law are supposed to be very close to you, and you're supposed to be like your mother and father. But I think, you know, depending on their age, and all that, I think they should always have that high end modesty between them personally, you know, and have that respect of, you know, not getting too close. And along as best as I can email me this question as well. I'm a student of knowledge. So you guys will have to bear with me I do you take classes on Islamic Studies. But this question, I mean, I know that, you know,
your in laws become like your parents and all that. But
I personally don't feel comfortable to be a certain way in front of mine. So what's true and what you feel comfortable is different, you know? And so you can just email me this question, I'll ask us when, as well as follow, what is your email to you, if you go to my Facebook page, you can just send an email from there, messaged me on Facebook,
that'll be the best one because my inbox is way too cluttered and crazy. Okay, it's like a marshmallow good lecture. Question on how we behave, when people have the same data, like meeting a girl, what type of meeting with other girls want to know, all this nonsense, you should still have higher, you shouldn't still, you know, you shouldn't have like,
you know, you shouldn't be crazy. And I'm gonna tell you a few years back, I'd like to say
reflecting now, maybe 1718 years back in my own life, you know, I went to an all girls party. And they were all the same gender and it was all woman and all that. And I was like, he did not these girls were like, dressed inappropriately, and talking about inappropriate staff. And it was just ridiculous at how far they had gone with inappropriateness. And they just because there was no mandate to do this kind of stuff. And I was just so disgusted by this. So I don't think you know, you go to an all girls party, you should be wearing like a bikini or,
or a, you know, any anything, not a program.
And so I think it's really important that you contain yourself that level myself and myself personally, if I went to an all sisters party, all women party, I mean, I, I don't even honestly feel comfortable taking my job off. Like I like to be dressed the same way because I don't know if people have cameras, and they're going to take pictures, or this or that I like to just say I feel more comfortable just being that in that state in case someone
doesn't have.
So that you know, what, as far as I did, I didn't know that you know, you could obviously
be a little bit more freer but you shouldn't be at that point where you're you know, like you just think it's free um, I can do whatever I want I can go swimming in a bikini cuz it's all girls party. I don't think that's appropriate at all. You should have modesty and hire in front of a woman as well. Can the adequate the participant in class in the university, I'm very enthusiastic student, I tend to participate a lot in class. That's good, Mashallah, I think that's that's not a bad thing, as long as you know, your intention of doing that stuff. And as long as you keep your voice and your mannerisms proper, I don't think that should be an issue inshallah.
But don't be over enthusiastic, and over happy, because that might lead some people to get the wrong misconception about you. So it's just a matter of matter of judging yourself. And you, you know, yourself, obviously, better than we can tell you. How should I talk to my husband about being modest and to lower his gaze, bring these I asked to him, explained to him, but it's part of our lifestyle, maybe help him get better clothing for himself. I mean, as starts in several different ways, you know, I like you can get him nice longer shirts and this and that I'm explaining to him, you know, that it's important that he has between the sister and the brother, not just one or the other and
his relationship with the law.
How can I bring up kids islamically?
Well, it all depends on how old the children are, first of all, but really,
you if you apply Islam and your life and everything that you do, it's very not very difficult to bring up your kids in Islamic or in Russia. Like right now we have our two year old Ostia Mashallah, you know, she recites I could see she recites Quran, she recites this she prays with us and that's because that's just a way of life. We do all the stuff Mashallah you know, so it's very simple for her
To get these, you know, this is part of her life. So I think, you know, it's how what you do in your life, and what you're doing in your spare time to really reflect her how they will be, inshallah,
what is the outcome of a daughter in front of her mother and vice versa?
I think, you know, personally, it depends, because obviously, if you're a mother, and you're nursing, or you're doing certain stuff, I think, you know, it's fine. And also between a mother and a daughter or a father and a son, or depending on if you're sick. And you need to see certain parts of the bodies and all that, you know, and the mother needs to help the daughter. I think it's different. I think that should be fine. There shouldn't be anything but and the normal daily basis, I don't think the daughter should be weren't walking around in a, you know, bikini and say, Hey, Mom, how's it going? No, only out of necessity. Do I think?
You know, and I believe the scholars have said the other might have said that it's fine out of necessity to help take care of them. Should they need it because they're sick? Okay, all right. You guys are asking a lot of questions on the show. So bear with me as
I'm trying to.
I got lots of the questions. Let's stop on the question. asking the questions really quick. So I
went down I can't find it.
Oh, my goodness.
Okay, there's a nice saying a woman should cover their butts and not their heads had a woman interpret this to mean their hash rates are different, obviously sister Catarina That's true. But the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu lism said, everything should be covered except your hands and your face. So that obviously told us Your hair's part of that. And obviously, here beautifies us and makes us look so much, you know, more beautiful than just covering our chest and you know, that's part of a woman's beauty. And so a lung is vast.
But the Hadith of the prophets, Allah doesn't bring that.
Is it okay, if you choose not to work? Because environment is a mix of both? mountain? Absolutely. If you don't need to work Absolutely. No, me only if you need to work then you should choose not to. There's no issue with that. Why not? You should be happier being at home study in your family, your kids have so many other things we can do at home as well and help the community in any way. wearing a headscarf is enough for sisters have to wear a bias.
I would say it's best to it doesn't have to be in Avaya, but it's best to dress in modest ways. And for myself personally, I think headscarf and an abaya is the most comfortable, it is the most comfortable waiting really walks really move around, really do things. But again, it's it doesn't have to be that by you could wear a long shirt up to your knees, for example, and use pants, or a new skirt underneath it, you know, with the long shirt. So you could have other clothing. It just has to be you know, loose and nice and comfortable and making you look like a sister. But at the same time. You know, it doesn't have to be just in the way
we ask them for them. And how should she dress in front of her father? Brother? What are the crutches you shouldn't wear tight clothing even in front of your father or brother? Number one, number two, I think you know, short sleeve would be personally that would be the the most I would go like I wouldn't wear a tank top or anything but short sleeves or loose like a loose t shirt. Maybe size medium large. And if you wanted to wear t shirt with pants at home, you could probably work a freeze. I mean, but I think that would be the most I mean, it's how comfortable you are. But I'd say don't quote me on that my father hates capris, he ain't even like a little bit of your feet showing
whether that's my sister myself. You don't wear it anyways, but he dislikes us so much and so Subhan Allah, you kind of got to see what they said. But as far as you know, islamically it would be you know, wear loose clothing. Yes, you'd have to cover your hair your I mean, elbows down. That's okay, you know, but nowhere like, again, no tank tops, no. Tight stuff. No. And depending on how close you are, I mean a few copies will be my limit. I think even when my fallen brothers.
I'm a girl and I look at sisters dresses or how they were his job when they pass by. And is it against him is against? No I think if your intentions clean and you just want to look at how they do and maybe to learn something from them. Or, you know, to get ideas and all that or you think it's beautiful martial law to your sisters in Islam. I don't think that's bad. But if your intentions are something else then Allah knows best.
Okay, what's the way in talking to our sister's husband who's 15 years older and like our brother
The same way you would talk to someone who's not my home in a very respectful, polite way, but you keep your distance you try to lower your gaze as often as you can and you just answer the questions that keep it right to business. You don't get closer than that.
How to Avoid shaking your hand with women if you're participating in some official events won't be the best words to say if this is already raised, I would say you I will put my the way I personally view it and I've met a lot many celebrities in the US many famous people who I mean that's all they want to do is hug you or shake your hand because they're so excited. And I put my hand on my chest I'm sorry, I'm sorry. It's a modesty thing, but we don't shake or hug the opposite gender who's not our immediate families like our fathers or brothers? I explained it to them right there I explained to so they get it they understand like Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know I'm like It's okay. It's okay.
Now you know, so I would explain if they want to have more knowledge and so the whole topic comes up in Russia lining up you go for them is the face cover a must in Islam? No, it's recommended it's not a must the must is only your face enhance can be shown but then a cop is recommended some minus smaller sites a must but the majority say it's not a must job is only covering everything except showing your face and your
okay.
These are your Muslim but here is also
So Mike a few months back I virtuous law Mashallah Welcome to Islam. My family friends don't know about this white dress the way I used to slight changes
though I know what's wrong please guide me and this
sister
messaged me on Facebook and inshallah Allah will have a will talk about this message me on facebook this this could be a longer conversation so message me on Facebook is shut up how I can help
okay I'm actually concerned the eye other words Ahmad is used humanoid means headscarf and let the sister answer
okay
my sister I think you should make them aware and know about it
is it compulsory to cover the face we answer this one I try to have monitoring my job by wearing only why the job but it's with a good and attractive covering up I go I see others looking for the way dress because it really makes a difference for them to really get their attention
they say that I mean the best colors for his jobs in a BIOS usually are the darker colors the browns, the blues, blacks, the grays those are the ones that keep you know
keep attention to stuff away so that's what they're saying
what what is recommended so maybe you might want to try a different color sister.
You know darker colors, see how that works.
Why in peace conference where Mashallah, all the mentions together, there's no Female Speaker invited. There's no Java voice for women and even the scholars who take niqab also but are not given any recognition on stage.
I have no clue. I think inshallah maybe in the future, they might change that for right now. Maybe there's just so many great speakers Mashallah. It'll have
his music allowed in all sisters, because instruments are no instruments.
This is this is a very
what's the word? Very
debatable question. And an all woman's starting all that. Usually, if it is
to say it is allowed, it's definitely not
allowed boys and people to just kind of have fun.
But no instruments regardless, you know, and just the bass drum, basically.
You know, as far as
the people do it or not, I mean, in the past, the time of the Prophet similasan you know, in happy occasions, they did thing and people did like, play the death and they have fun, you know,
but it's not the way people do it now. Now it's like a lot. People just listen to whatever they want to this garbage on there and they just think it's okay. There's no men who can do what we want and that's not appropriate as well. It is a big blow that you have to deal with rejection disappointment may come deal with rejection disappointment comes but until you overcome them, you always hide your trading.
Okay, not sure what that was.
Can a Muslim sister wear a short skirt or dress in front of other sisters
I wouldn't recommend. recommend wearing short short skirts in front of other sisters or
Even dressing in front of other sisters unless you have no choice and you have to. Again, that's part of how Yeah, like I personally like to be covered all the time unless I have no choice. I don't even like to go to the nightclub and change with my two year old. I feel embarrassed to kind of her. So I think it just kind of goes
with you know your thing, but I don't think you know, if you have any choice, it's one thing but I think that is part of our HIA is dressing alone as well as you know, not wearing short skirts and all that. I mean, I personally hate to attend an event which is all females and they're dressing appropriately. I'm like, I don't want to see your legs. I don't want to see your chest. I don't want to see your back. I don't want to use that either. safer for your husband. I don't. So I think it's important that we understand that other sisters are really care to see that stuff either, you know, hey, please do restrict your questions to be relevant to the topic. Okay. All right. So that's all
the questions I have. If there's any other ones I'll answer them now or else we can finish up inshallah, because I didn't have to get to stop because I was I couldn't catch up. But now I caught up. When you are doing a workshop, what are you doing a workshop on homeschooling. inshallah soon when our homeschooling launches, I'll be doing many workshops on homeschooling. Right now I don't have anyone asked me to do a workshop on homeschooling. So I haven't really done that I used to do those live when people ask me
Can you show the feeds Okay, can you show the feed it is highly recommended not to it's highly recommended to wear socks it's better but I do know that sisters show it so that it's highly recommended not to
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is it compulsory for men to wear a cap when they were going to the mosque? No, it is not compulsory for a brother to wear a cap when going to the mosque or anyone else if they choose to wear it have the last if they don't have time to learn the process never gave up or the habit of Ilan never gave anything indicating that they have to work. And as long as
I'm a girl and I look at the suit dresses are headed Okay, we
can we look at women if they're properly job? I believe so. I mean, as long as your intention isn't anything bad? Yeah, there's nothing no reason. I think only lesbians would be in the lie in this case where they shouldn't be looking at a woman either a proper job, but I think if there's nothing wrong with it, you know, I mean, you can look at your sister, your best friend and all that anything that goes on but if I was proper clothing
for men, should they keep their garments above ankle? Yes, yes. Yes. So this is the process and the lessons that that if your pants are below your ankle, then you it's going to be in the firehouse even for myself. Like I'm trying to get my boys pants the same way I'm trying to get them into the habit or I'm getting them shorter pants or I would have to cut it and sew it that way. And I've been working on this with my husband is very important that it be above the ankle. We're not here to impress society, we're here to impress a lot of people think it doesn't look good. That's nice.
Where we'll be the recording. I don't know. You'll have to ask the sisters who put this together? Mashallah. Is it okay for Muslim women to breastfeed in public? No, no, no, no, no, no. I'm big against anyone breastfeeding in public, I think if you have no choice and you're covered really good, maybe. But I highly recommend people do it in the car, you know, or in the house or the hotel room or whatever, but not just go to a restaurant. Okay, I'm hungry. I'm going to eat and eat now. I don't know I am big against it. And I'm in the West when I was
going on speaking tours because I travel in the US and my family and when I would go speaking tours when I had asked yet there's not too much. And I have to nurse her. I would be in the car or I would be in my hotel room. But I would never like to go public and I think that's again part of Hyatt not to be inappropriate and allow those best. My that's my thing.
Okay. And questions are almost ended. So this is the last one. And so how can Okay, so can I saw the girl can I wear loose pants? Yes, as long as your shirt is long enough to like, let's say nice. And you know, you can tell that your girl not a boy. You know what I mean? So your clothing has to look like a female clothing that men Okay, last question. How can we avoid
shaking hands with opposite gender non Muslims? How can we explain to them without hurting they're very easy sister chef in a very easy I do all the time I go on. I meet a lot of people all the time I go on the planes I go on. Wherever I'm going, you know, at these big events, the men come up to me, Harry's or how are you? And I'm sorry, it's a lot of CPQ we don't shake hands with the opposite gender and I explain it. You know, and it's you just have to keep learning to explain it. And it's a really nice thing because they learned that modesty is not just from your outerwear, but it's from your habits and your character and your actions. You know, like we're avoiding fitna. We're saying
We don't want to be, you know, look as a * object so we need to avoid it in every way we can that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam has taught us to and by following his stillness upon Allah that it really does change it tremendously Mashallah you know and people look at you differently than they look at people who don't because you have you have limits to everything you do and our limits and our boundaries are there because Allah subhanaw taala told us these if you follow these limits and these boundaries that inshallah you will not be hurt you will be fine and so we're following it to the best of our ability to the last macula so at the end of the day shallow we don't go for the
shallow and believe me it's much respected once you start sharing with people when you don't become shy or nervous about it and you're really upfront and honest, people do have a big sense of respect and I mean I know guys will say oh the hand on the heart is better than being a handshake you know first thing all these kinds of compliments and stuff and it's like you know they they start to get it so there's nothing wrong with it you just have to be honest and upfront with it
okay with that being said I'm going to say the closing blot inshallah satanic come off more will become big and the shadow amla internal stuff we're going to do, how perfect you are on law and we praise you none has a right to be worshipped except you. We seek your forgiveness and turn to repentance to you.
salaam alaikum wa rahmatullahi