Zohra Sarwari – How To Get Out Of Depression

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			um, well, when you were talking about how efficient it is for us to set our goals and everything
like that, sometimes we find ourselves just failing to reach that goal. For example, you know, in a
month, I want to lose 10 pounds, which was a your example. And a lot of times we find ourselves,
okay, you know, I didn't make it and then people go through that phase of, okay, maybe I didn't do
good. And maybe I'm not good enough. Or maybe I'm not doing the right things. And then for example,
they might go through a depression phase, which is what we call it here. How do people deal with
that? Because as we can see evens panel amongst the Afghans is getting a big problem, right? And I
		

			know you have your degree in psychology. So how does this work? How do we how do we deal with people
who are for example, what do we tell them? We're going through this phase of depression, or feeling
down or feeling like they're not doing the right things? They're not doing enough? So Pamela, I love
that question. One of the chapters in my book is failing your way to success. It's vital for people
think of failure as something that it's down. And that's what depresses them is when they fail. I'm
saying if you fail, think of it as a stepping stone to success. Because every failure, if you take
every failure, and you add it up, you can make books out of you can make stories, you can teach
		

			people what not to do. So instead of looking at it as such a negative perspective and thinking that,
oh my god, I can't do this, I'm not going to do this, I won't do this, and getting yourself all
worked up for the wrong way. I'm thinking I can't handle I didn't happen. It wasn't meant to be, you
have to, again, have deeper knowledge of Islam. And why I said is because Allah subhanaw taala
doesn't give us more than we can handle. So that means that Allah azzawajal knows we can handle what
is given to us. So if this comes to us, we have to say what's the problem? If Allah, Allah gave this
to us, and we should know that he knows best and he knows we can handle it. So okay, so it might
		

			have not worked here, we might have not lost the 10 pounds. But let's make another goal, maybe we
can lose five pounds in a month by doing a little bit less work a little bit less strategies, but at
least you're trying to get, and maybe the second time you're successful. And by being that
successful, every success is a stepping stone, it guides you to the next level. So that what does
that do it gives you confidence to get to the next level. People give up too easily. And that's why
we get into depression because it's so easy to give up. That's it, it's getting, I'm saying lower
your you know, expectations, but keep working on it. And that'll slowly give you more confidence. So
		

			you don't say for example, I mean, suppose I didn't know how to read the Quran in Arabic. You know,
when I started learning it, I didn't say oh my god, I'm gonna learn it in two days. I said, Okay,
I'm going to learn in shelter. I'm going to put in an hour a day, the best time I can and this is
how we do it. So within time SWAT my students don't increase I'm learning more and I'm giving it's
giving me much more confidence to do it. But it doesn't mean that you quit Does that make sense? And
it was hard Mashallah learning Arabic language and dealing with touch with it's not easy, but the
whole point behind it is you can't give up
		

			does that