Yusha Evans – The Effects Of Drugs And Alcohol

Yusha Evans

The Effects Of Drugs & Alcohol On The Mind And Soul

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The speakers discuss the negative effects of drugs and alcohol on individuals, including mental health and addiction. They emphasize the importance of avoiding alcoholism and not letting it affect their future. They also discuss the negative impacts of drug and alcohol on families and the need for trained professionals to deal with addiction. The importance of educating children on the potential negative effects of drugs and alcohol on their lives and communities is emphasized. The speakers also emphasize the importance of avoiding certain foods and drinkings to avoid damaging behavior and harm to the brain. They encourage parents to find time to spend time with their children and seek out solutions for mental health issues.

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			smilla hamdulillah
		
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			wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah where Allah Allah he was actually he
		
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			was in Isla de la ma wahoo luxury Kara Why should you enter Mohammed and who was Zulu?
		
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			A man that was sir Mr. Ajay Kumar amatola here better care to
		
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			that's it. You guys are dead from last night. Got no more left. Chef karimun Shaka Shan Shan Ji Suk
Rola you, Sarah Marie como wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		
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			This topic,
		
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			addiction to drugs and alcohol.
		
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			This topic I could go on for hours about I want to try to
		
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			be brief as I can to let you obtain the information but
		
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			I'll also let you know that this is something that's quite personal to me.
		
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			And you might get some information today that nobody's heard, except for my wife.
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about intoxicants in the Quran in many places. I'm sure you're going
to hear many things about addiction today. But when Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about karma,
specifically and Al Quran.
		
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			Before it was prohibited entirely, there was a step by step process due to the logic of Allah
subhanho wa Taala understanding that
		
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			these things have great grips on people. When people become addicted to hammer, it's something that
takes over them almost entirely.
		
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			So Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah began by
		
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			saying that there is some good in it, but the the harm outweighs the good. Then Allah subhanho wa
Taala forbade coming towards the Salah, praying Salah while you are in a state of intoxication,
showing that this thing is not very good.
		
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			And you have to understand the atoms at the time were people who were very given to alcohol. Many of
the companions were known to be people who loved alcohol very much even
		
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			love wine was a man who was addicted to alcohol.
		
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			Then when I lost the panel who went to Anna had placed such firmness and Eman and understanding of
the companions in their heart.
		
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			of the negative effects of karma he finally forbade its and said it is impermissible.
		
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			And the night that Allah subhanho wa Taala for beta and the Prophet alayhi salatu was Salam
announced in the streets of Medina, that alcohol is now forbidden. It entered into the hearts
wholeheartedly the streets ran with the wine and hammer because the companions tossed it to one of
the companions said he himself was serving alcohol at the time of its being forbidden. And he threw
out that what you had in his hand, people who were taking sips spit it out, there were some
companions who would even drink who made themselves vomit in order to get it out of their system,
Allah subhanho wa Taala, eradicated it because he knew the companions were ready for it.
		
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			But we live in a society now where alcohol and camera and drugs and all of these things have become
part and parcel to daily life.
		
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			And none of you should be
		
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			ignorant of the harm that drugs and alcohol do to the individual. They destroy their bodies, they
destroy their minds, they destroy their lives. Is there anyone who does not know the effects that
drug and alcohol have on the person who ingest them? Raise your hand, if you don't know what drugs
and alcohol can do to you personally, yourself.
		
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			Okay,
		
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			you're destroying yourself. And Allah subhanho wa Taala forbade us from letting ends become our
destruction.
		
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			But something that I can talk about, because I've never been a person addicted to drugs and alcohol.
So it's very difficult for me to explain that mentality.
		
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			But one thing that I do know is that drugs and alcohol, especially alcoholism, affects not only the
person who becomes addicted to it, but it affects everyone around them. It has lasting effects on
society.
		
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			Just having an effect on the people around you will go on to affect them for the rest of their
lives.
		
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			I wanted to tell you guys something today.
		
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			And this is not something I've shared with anyone. Chef Kareem has probably known me since I began
my doctoral work in 2007. And Dr. Solomon, he was over PGM a Mashallah. And I was doing lectures at
George Mason and other universities. And I've told my story about how I came to Islam. How many of
you have ever heard my story about how I entered into the religion of Islam, raise your hand
		
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			heard my story, how the Bible led me to Islam.
		
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			If not, if you ever want to spend two hours of your day staring at my horrible face, then go on to
YouTube and look up how the Bible led me to Islam. It's about two hours long.
		
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			In that story, little question and answer. I said, I was raised by whom?
		
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			See, you really listen to the story. who raised me, my grandparents? The thing I've never told
anyone. And I'm going to tell you this today
		
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			is why I was raised by my grandparents.
		
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			No one's ever asked me that. Now it's quite odd to me. The only person who ever asked me was my
wife. Why did you Why were you raised by your grandparents.
		
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			It was because of drugs and alcohol. More specifically, alcohol.
		
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			My mother and father had me when they were very young. My mother was 17, when she had me and my
father was barely over the age of 20.
		
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			And this was in 1980. And my mother and father were both on their way to becoming alcoholics.
		
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			They like to party and drink. And alcohol led my mother to walk out and abandoned me. At the age of
three. She dropped me off at my grandmother's home,
		
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			not realizing why I've never told this story before.
		
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			She dropped me off at my grandmother's home and did not come back for three years.
		
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			And my father was still in his party days out drinking and partying. And my grandmother and
grandfather said you're not going to raise a child like that. So they took me from my father, and
they raised me for the first few years of my life.
		
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			My mother would come back around when I was around six or seven years old,
		
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			and tried to get back into my life. But she was a full blown alcoholic at this time.
		
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			And she was only given visitation rights to see me every other weekend.
		
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			My father was now living with us at my grandparents house.
		
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			But he wasn't much of a father figure when I was a young man.
		
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			I remember
		
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			sitting outside every other weekend waiting for my mother to come and pick me up. She was supposed
to pick me up on a Friday afternoons at six o'clock. And when I got home from school, because even
though my mother wasn't really in my life, from a very young boy, there is no doubt about the
relationship between a boy and his mother. Boys are Mama's boys. That's that's just the way it is.
It's something that Allah subhanho wa Taala has placed in boys the same way like girls are daddy's
girls. The relationship between a boy and his father will determine him for the rest of his life.
The relationship between a daughter and her father will determine her for the rest of her life. I
		
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			found that out after having two boys and having a girl. I said to my wife and handler, we had the
girl before we had after we had the two boys because I might have stopped her here.
		
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			But I would sit outside and there would be many weekends when my mother would be too drunk to come
and pick me up on Friday afternoon. And I would just sit there and wait and wait and wait. And my
mother my grandmother told me she had a really tough time coming out and telling me that my mom just
wasn't coming.
		
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			And then due to the alcohol lifestyle that my mom was living the alcoholism, she ended up with men
who were also alcoholics. And two of those men that she ended up having extensive relationships with
were extremely abusive. I'm talking about not verbally abusive and kind of physically abusive,
slapping around No, I'm talking about putting her in the hospital abusive. So even on the weekends
when she would come and pick me up.
		
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			And I had a younger brother as well that my mother had while she was gone for those few years of my
life. So he's about five years younger than me.
		
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			When I was around 1011 1213 years old, I would go to my mother's house. And
		
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			a lot of times a lot of my memories of my childhood were mom with my mother. Were me trying to
protect my younger brother from seeing our mother. Get her. You know what beat for the entire 72
hours that I spent with her and sometimes having to watch her go to the hospital
		
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			and almost lose her life on two occasions.
		
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			The effect that that's left on me, for the rest of my life is not something that can be fixed. You
can't fix things like that. You can't it does irreparable damage, irreparable damage to both me and
my brother.
		
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			This continued on me watching my father fall deeper into alcoholism, my mother deeper into
alcoholism, watching her get abused every other weekend that she did actually come and pick me up
and trying to give my brother some type of normality in his life. Because this is all he saw. He
lived with them 24 hours a day, seven days a week, until I was about the age of 15. And I decided I
had had enough and
		
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			I went to the man who was abusing my father.
		
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			And May Allah forgive me, I put a gun to his face and said, if you ever put your hand on my mother
again, you will not live another day. And you need to pack your stuff and leave and never come back.
And from the law, he left and he never came back and my mother, I tried slowly starting to get her
some help. To get off of the alcohol. It was a struggle, she relapsed many times over until in 2004,
she was diagnosed with cancer, with stomach cancer and liver cancer that eventually spread
throughout her entire body.
		
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			And for those past couple of years, through 2004 to 2007. Me and my mother started to build a bond
and a better relationship.
		
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			And I started to feel like I actually had a mother again, because she would call me every single
day, asking me how I was, if I was eating, okay, she would call me even though she knew I was a
Muslim. And I was doing my best to give her that
		
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			she would still call me on holidays like Christmas. And she would say I know you don't practice it.
But I'm your mother and I can call you anything I want. And that's just realities, my mom, and I'm
always gonna answer the phone.
		
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			And then finally, she entered into terminal illness with cancer.
		
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			And I was at this time living in
		
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			Maryland, in College Park,
		
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			trying to go and see her as much as I could. But then I got a phone call in the winter of 2007
		
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			that your mother is in her last stages of cancer because she kept telling me she was okay. She's
okay. Then she went to the hospital. And I thought, okay, she's in the hospital again. My brother
called me and said, No, if you want to see your mom come and see you come and see her. And the funny
thing my brother told me, he's like, you know, he said, because they had sent her into hospice care.
		
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			And put her on a lot of morphine and a lot of pain medication just to ease the last few days of her
life. And my brother called me and he said, Look, you need to come today. Because the past two days,
I went to see mom and she keeps thinking I'm you and she's asking for you. And she's asking for you.
And she won't, she won't shut up about you.
		
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			So I drove from Washington, DC, down to back to South Carolina, and I went to my mother's bedside.
		
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			And I stayed with her for two days.
		
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			And I was showing her pictures of my oldest son saying that this is your grandson because she had
not got to see him yet. He wasn't very old at the time.
		
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			And finally,
		
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			my mother, on a Monday morning, she was laying in my arms. And she kept looking at me. And she just
kept saying to me over and over again. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. And this is all I could get
her to say. And I kept trying to tell her it's okay. I forgive you. It's it's done. It's past. And
the very last words my mother ever said to me when she died in my arms on a Monday afternoon in 2007
was that she was sorry for the damage he had done to me in my life and it and I lost my mother at
the age of 44 at the age of 44. In 2007 alcoholism destroyed my mother's life and eventually gave
her cancer that would kill her.
		
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			And I'm still struggling with a father who's a recovering alcoholic, who's now in ill health. I'm
actually flying home to see him today. He's actually in a medically induced coma as we speak.
		
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			He had a stroke. He had spinal surgery the other day and he had a stroke on the operating table and
he's under medically induced coma. And that's why I'm flying as soon as I leave here so that you can
take him out of the coma only when I'm there, because my father has many illnesses now because of
the abuse that his body has sustained over 30 years of being an alcoholic.
		
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			And the reason I've told you this is to show you
		
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			I'm 37 years old now. I remember these memories as if they happened yesterday. I have nightmares
about these memories of watching my mother getting beat not knowing if she's going to live or not.
Not knowing if I would ever see my mother again. Now, every time my dad gets sick wondering if I'm
ever going to see him again. We didn't have the greatest relationship growing up the best
relationship me and my father had had is since I've been a Muslim, and I've been trying to give him
that I will make dua for my father when I leave here today. If
		
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			wake up from this coma, I'm going to be begging him to take Shahada.
		
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			I just want you to know that alcoholism and drug addiction does not just affect you. If you want to
go and destroy yourself, that's one thing. That's one thing. Go alone by yourself and destroy
yourself. It's only between you and Allah subhanahu wa Ayana. But when you become addicted to
hammer, these intoxicants, this drug, this alcohol, it affects everyone around you. And it affects
them for the rest of their life.
		
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			People who are children of alcoholics and drug addicts, they are altered for the rest of their
lives. I really struggled to overcome the problematic relationship I had with my mother and my
father. This is why I say that my grandmother is probably the most important figure in my entire
life. Because if I did not have my grandmother, as that mother figure to step in, my mother was gone
about who I had and what kind of individual I would be today. But this has affected me till now it's
affected every single relationship I've had.
		
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			And this is one of the reasons I decided to study psychology was so that I could figure out what
causes people to do things like what I saw my parents doing when I was growing up to understand how
the human mind behaves and works and things of that nature. And also to be able to fix myself a
little bit, because I was broken and damaged.
		
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			there is good reason whenever Allah subhanho wa Taala forbade something from you, like the way he's
forbade and toxicants. It is for a reason that is
		
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			beneficial beyond your capability to stand it. Because most of you, I'm sure in this room, have
never been addicted to drugs and alcohol, or never even known someone that has been addicted to
drugs and alcohol or had someone your family has been addicted to drugs and alcohol. But for those
of you who have if anyone who has had that, you know the damage it does, it destroys everyone you
know, in love. So please, for the sake of your own soul, we stay away from those things which Allah
subhanho wa Taala is forbade. And I end with this last little small note.
		
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			A drug drugs are not just weed and cocaine. And alcohol is not just wine and liquor and beer. A drug
is anything that becomes so addictive that it changes the way your brain processes serotonin, and
endorphins and the pleasure centers of your brain. Now, one of the greatest drugs I think our youth
face, our social media, social media becomes a drug. To many people, many people become addicted to
these things. Many people cannot live without looking at their phone. It has been studies have been
shown that children are around the age of my oldest son who is 11 or hamdulillah. who get addicted
to this phone and these video games and YouTube videos and Instagram and Facebook that when it is
		
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			when they are looking at it. The same pleasure centers light up in their brain as someone who is
addicted to drugs and alcohol when they take a drink or get a shot. And when it is taken away from
them, they
		
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			they experience some of the exact same withdrawal symptoms that you find for people who are coming
off of heroin and coming off of drug and alcohol they find the same withdrawal symptoms in them. So
parents be very mindful of what your children are becoming addicted to. It's not just drugs and
alcohol anymore. It can be video games, it can be the internet, it can be social media, there are
many things that your children can be addicted to that is detrimental and harmful to them today,
		
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			but know that when it comes to specifically drugs and alcohol,
		
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			it will ruin your life and ruin the lives of everyone you know, around you. I have worked very hard
to overcome the effects of my parents being alcoholics and drug addicts for most of my life. My
brother is someone who I've worked very hard with he's had a lot tougher time than I have because he
lived with my mother 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year he didn't have grandparents
because we were half brothers. He did not have grandparents, like I had grandparents growing up. And
this is why I'm
		
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			very sad that neither one of them were alive when I accepted Islam My grandmother was but she did
not live very long for me to even be able to understand how to give her that one. So if you know of
someone that is addicted to drugs or alcohol, get them help. Please don't be embarrassed. Don't be
ashamed. I know within the Muslim community. It is a very
		
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			shameful thing to have this type of addiction. And so we A lot of times, just cover it up, just
shove it up under the rug and act like nothing is happening. It is not something that you can play
around with, because it will destroy the fabric of your entire family and the entire fabric of
everyone they know if it is not dealt with.
		
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			It almost destroyed me. This is why even before becoming a Muslim, I was not someone who liked
alcohol. I've not ever been someone who drinks because of the fact that what I've seen it Do I know
the effects. I know what it can cause and what harm it can do. And this is for the greater society
as well as that we need to be advancing the causes of eradicating drug addiction and alcoholism in
our society. Because it is destroying the very fabric of the communities that we live in. You're
raising your children here in this community, you're raising your children here in this society, you
might be from back home, but you haven't gone back home yet. So while you're here, your children are
		
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			being exposed to all of this nonsense. So you need to educate your children on the effects of drugs
on the effects of alcohol. You need to educate them on what it can do to them in their lives.
Because will law he will law he will like it is not a repairable
		
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			situation. Once you become damaged like this, like I was damaged by my mother and father, you don't
fix it, you learn to overcome it. And that's I think something that's given me. I would not want
anyone to have to go through what I went through, but it has made me an individual who is very
pressive persevering. Someone who is very tough. Someone who does not give up on things easily
because I've been through a lot in my life. But you do not want anyone to have to experience this in
their own life. So we need to educate ourselves and educate our families and our children's our
children about the effects of drugs and alcohol don't learn the way I learned barakallahu li calm
		
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			Jimmy and was Salam or aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
		
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			inshallah, tada we can open the floor for just just a quick quick question answer session inshallah
tada if you have a question, please raise your hand if your sisters are feel comfortable, they can
bring up a note
		
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			on the subject inshallah, please try to keep it on the subject as well. The question is, what is the
religious solution to the addiction problem? So now, hello, Sara, Sara masala. The religious
solution to the addiction problem is twofold. Number one, we need to deal with it on the
understanding of how Allah subhanho wa Taala has dealt with it, and have the person understand that
this is not just haram because it's impermissible by Allah. But because of the detriment and the
harm that it does to the individual. religiously, this is very clear. And even people who might be
Muslims and Muslims and addicted to drugs and alcohol, they know what's wrong. There's very few
		
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			Muslims who are going to be doing drinking alcohol and not know that it's impermissible. You
understand.
		
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			So within the religion, this is something that I like to put forward as well. This is the reason why
I'm continuing my psychology degree as we speak, I want to finish and do my masters and actually
become a psychologist insha Allah. And there's a reason why, because
		
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			the religion of Islam is anything that Allah Subhana Allah has revealed and His Messenger revealed
also that which we know to be good and truthful and beneficial, you understand? Does that make sense
to everyone?
		
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			For instance, we have people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol within the Muslim community. Does
that mean that we can only treat this with a book of Allah? Yes, you can with some people, but some
people actually need Clinical Health, Clinical Health that has been laid out by people who might not
even be Muslim. Does that mean it's not permissible to use these clinical
		
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			solutions just because of the fact that they're not found in the port under the pseudonym but we
know them to be valuable and work know.
		
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			The Deen of Allah subhanho wa Taala encompasses all known knowledge, you understand? All no
knowledge is within the religion within the realm of Islam. We just contain that knowledge into
understanding that by the religion of Islam, you understand if it doesn't fit within the deen that
we know it cannot be truth, like these theories of evolution and all this other nonsense science.
The reason why I'm still working to become a psychologist, is because we have many not just drugs
and alcohol. We have many people with mental illness within the Muslim community. Agree to disagree.
We have a mental illness problem within the Muslim ummah. Right? Raise your hand if you think we
		
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			have a mental illness problem in this ummah. Yeah, we do. How do we treat it most of the time?
		
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			Rokia
		
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			we can beat it out of him.
		
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			Sometimes that
		
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			works. Sometimes this person has other issues you understand. This person might have a chemical
imbalance that is causing this within their brain.
		
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			That will not be remedied just by raffia, you understand that there might be a person who is
suffering from bipolarism. Rocky is not going to necessarily always cover that you understand. We
need people who are in the community that are trained within these fields that can help these
brothers and sisters, because I've met many people who have told me they've been getting Rokia for
years. And yet they still have mental problems. And after sitting with them, even though I'm not a
psychologist, yet, I've studied psychology for a very long time. After sitting with them for 10 or
15 minutes, I tell them, Look, you need to go and see a psychologist, there is there is something
		
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			wrong with you more than just having some gin or some iron or something. Or you might actually have
a chemical imbalance, or you might have bipolarism, or schizophrenia, there's an issue going on
here, you need some professional help you understand. So we deal with it within the religious
capacity that we get this person to understand. Because if they understand that is haram, and they
understand what they're doing is wrong. Now we need to start taking steps to bring them out, and
wean them off, you understand. But we need to know how to do that the right way. For instance, if a
Muslim came to me, and said, I've been addicted to heroin for the past year, and they're taking
		
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			large amounts of heroin every day. Now, if I just become very strictly religious about it, and say
that's Haram, you must stop right now. Guess what I've just done to this person, if they listened to
me?
		
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			What if they stopped just like that I'm done.
		
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			They're gonna die. They're gonna die. They'll be dead within a week because of the withdrawal
effects. So no, you need to get off of this. But we need to do it the right way. under some medical
advisement, you need to be slowly weaned off of this drug. Your body needs to have a staggered
dosage of this medication in order to avenge you, you understand what I'm saying? So we deal with it
within the religion of Islam, but we also need trained professionals within our community or
associated with our community so that we can deal with addiction, drug and alcohol abuse, as well as
other mental illnesses and things of that nature. That makes sense.
		
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			Are there any items of the Quran? Yes, absolutely. There are many chefs that could help you out that
when I'm going in sha Allah with Allah because they are numerous.
		
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			J,
		
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			chemical stuff, we can destroy your body. Yeah. And it does not come with the rupiah. So I was
thinking, do you know any of us if our IR from kelompok that can help these people to get rid of
this drug addiction?
		
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			When there's no specific if there's going to remedy a physical addiction to drugs and alcohol, it's
a mental state that we can get them to understand through the eyes of the plan. And sometimes Rukia
can help the person mentally and spiritually be able to ready to deal with this situation
understand, but we also have to know and be ready to deal with the chemical dependence. Drug and
alcohol addiction many times is based on a chemical dependency that must be treated, that needs to
be treated physically. You understand? The Quran has the answers to everything. But one of those
answers is also to look around you and find the solutions because the Prophet alayhi salatu salam
		
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			said that there is no disease, which alcoholism is a disease. drug addiction is a disease there is
no disease which Allah has sent, which he has not sent a cure for it, you understand? I'm not
referring to spatial alcohol or drug, sharar some drugs, which are taken for the treatment were, say
narcolepsy. xrm is the most common drug, okay. And everybody, and people become addicted to it. What
do you do? I'm not familiar with that drug. So I can't, I can't speak on that one. I'd have to go
and look at that. I don't want to speak about a drug that I'm not familiar with. There are a lot of
Muslim teens in high school involved with drugs selling using, what would you advise the family who
		
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			often know nothing about drugs, to go about helping with your child, especially when the team is
refusing help? If you have children who have drug problems, and they are refusing to get your help,
or to take help from you, these are your children. It's time to take action and to intervene into
that situation. You understand? This is something where parents have to be parents.
		
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			There is a big problem. And I'll speak on this very briefly. There is a problem that we have of this
new generation of upbringing our children, and we have the softball approach that we want our
children to be our friends, and we think that if we're friendly with them, and and and they look at
us as their friends, then they are more apt to listen to us. Don't fool yourself. That's not the way
it works.
		
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			You are not your child's friend, you understand you are their parents.
		
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			And I know the world looks at stiff upbringings a little bit differently these days, it's not like
it was when I was a child, when the belt was a very logical solution for my grandfather, now they
will take your children from you. But we still have to learn to be very firm with our children. They
need us to be their parents and look at us for guide and direction.
		
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			Even with my children, my wife tells me all the time that I don't, because I don't spank my
children, I don't beat them. But she's like, I don't know what you do to them. But every time they
do something that they're not supposed to do when when you're gone, the first thing they'll say is,
please don't tell me that. They'll beg me Don't tell them.
		
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			And my children know when they're doing something they shouldn't be doing. When I look at them a
certain way. They get this kind of fear in their heart,
		
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			that they know they need to stop doing what they're doing. This is the way my grandfather raised me.
I loved my grandfather to death. And I knew he loved me to death. But I was also definitely afraid
of him. If he got angry, I would look for anywhere to be other than in his eyesight. Because I knew
he didn't play games when it came to that. But that is a very strong upbringing. because let me tell
you something, if your children do not have a healthy, healthy now healthy fear of you, and a
healthy respect of you, how are you going to teach them to have a healthy fear in respect of Allah
subhanho wa Taala Allah whom they can't see?
		
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			If they don't even fear you?
		
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			Or have any respect for you whatsoever? How are you going to get them to respect and fear Allah
subhanho wa Taala, whom they can see, parenting is a part of teaching our children the fear and love
and respect of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Anna?
		
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			Does that make sense? So your children, yes, love them, baby them, spoil them a bit here and there.
But always at the end of the day, you have to be their parents, they should have some healthy
respect of you. That's the way it should go. Yes, brother. Well, speaking of addiction, and you
know, the modern addiction of two phones and tablets, anything electronics? What do you recommend
for the kids that can stay the whole day without moving without doing anything? Finding pleasure and
switching from this page to that page? And when you talk to them? Yeah, they don't like you. What a
islamically? How should we approach them? Is that okay for them to be connected to holiday to that
		
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			device? And it's like you see right now look around somebody connected as we speak right? Now, what
is your recommendation, so this new generation, just like calaca,
		
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			there's a time and a place for everything.
		
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			My children all have a device. Unfortunately, even my daughter who's three has an iPad. But there is
a time and a place. There are certain times where my boys are allowed to have their devices, and be
online and things of that nature, just like anything else, they have a certain time. And then once
that time is gone, it's gone. And also, I am very regulated about it. Like my son, my son knows that
he's not allowed to have a passcode on his phone that I don't know, I must always know your
passcode. And you better know that at any time, at any place. While you're at school, I'm going to
go get your phone, and I'm going to go through it. And I'm going to look at everything.
		
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			So it's having that understanding that we have to let our children grow up a little bit. They need
to be in tune with these types of devices and communicate because it's the world today. But we need
to know and when how to limit it. And when it's becoming too much. And when it's becoming too much.
It's just like anything else just like with video games, just like sugar, candy, your kids love
sugar. It's like, you know, they get high off of it. My daughter has a piece of chocolate The next
thing you know, she's like, flying all over the place What's going on? Because she doesn't get it
that often? Because she likes it? Am I going to give it to her all day long? Absolutely not. There
		
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			has to be a time and a place when they can have these types of things. So there's a time and a place
for everything we regulate it. But parents please you need to know what's going on in your
children's lives, especially on their phones. 90% of our teens lives these days is occurring on
their phone 90% of their social interaction is happening on their phone, if they're going to begin
anything impermissible of harm is going to happen on their phone. So keep an eye on these computers
and gadgets and know and be limited to it and have a time and a place for it. Insha Allah who to
Anna, can you expand on how depression plays into addiction? Yes, I can't expand on how depression
		
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			plays into addiction, depression.
		
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			clinical depression becomes a state where the person cannot bring themselves out of this state of
doom and gloom and, and and and and
		
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			you know, cloud over their heads, clinical depression and a lot of times when people become
depressed, especially within the Muslim community, they don't go and seek help for it. Because they
feel like it's a sign of weakness. It's a sign of weakness to become depressed and
		
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			What do they do, they try to find something that they can become dependent upon something that makes
them feel better. This is why a lot of people who are depressed become self medicated, they become
alcoholics, they become drug addicts, because while they are drunk, then they're not depressed
anymore, because they've altered their state of mind. And when they've taken that hit of drugs, they
don't feel like that anymore. But what happens is that the pin that addiction becomes so dependent
that it takes more and more and more to overcome, because what they're doing is through that
dependency, they're pushing themselves farther into depression. And since they're going farther into
		
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			depression, then their dependency on the chemical substance that's altering that state becomes
higher and higher and higher and higher. If someone becomes depressed, they need to seek out
remedies and solutions for that insha Allah who to Allah, and clinical depression is a serious
thing. And Muslims do suffer from it. Absolutely. And a lot of women women suffer from depression
more than men, especially our sisters who suffer from things like postnatal depression, after having
children and things of that nature or miscarriages or whatever. It's it's an issue that needs to be
addressed. So these types of things, this is why I'm encouraging more brothers to go into the field
		
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			of psychology and myself and trying to, you know, write papers and things about psychology in
Islamic community, because we have issues like this that just don't get talked about in the Muslim
community. They don't get addressed, and we need to be addressing them. I think any huge Muslim
community should have someone just like we have doctors in the community. We have lawyers in the
community, we have architects, we have engineers, we also need to have people who are in the
sciences of the mind, people who are psychiatrists, and psychologists. If this community doesn't
have one in house, then they should be liaison. Have a liaison that deals with the community that
		
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			can be referred to on issues that the Imam or the community cannot deal with in sha Allah hota Anna,
because mental illness in the Muslim community is a major problem. But Allah houfy come for your
time. Unfortunately, I do have to run Forgive me for having to leave I hope I can take your
permission and forgiveness to go to my father and so that they can take him out of his medically
induced coma so I can see how he was doing. Please make dua for him. What
		
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			was said Mr. de como Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh