Youssra Kamel Kandil – What are your Ramadan goals

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah you better care to Ramadan. Now I know we all in Ramadan are focusing
on fasting and not eating and not drinking, right. But it's very important just as you focus on the
physical fasting, you have to focus on the first thing of your heart from things that displease
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			And the best way you can do this is set a goal for yourself, think to yourself, What is one thing
that I know I am really weak at, that I have a weakness in my heart towards and write that down,
frame it or put it somewhere where it's, you know, visible to you, and practice and work on that one
thing, right? This year, me and my kids decided to do this. And I asked each one of them to write
one thing they know that they really are struggling with. And you know, so one of them said, you
know, I always get angry my brother and sister when they you know, touch myself, the other ones like
I always argue with them. So I'm going to try not to argue, and so on so forth. And we wrote it down
		

			on paper, as you see. And we just put them in very simple frames. And we put each one of them and
each one of us signed their name, somewhere where we could see them. So we can always remind
ourselves of what is this goal that we're going to work on, and how we're going to really try to
help our, like our hearts fast from things that we know that we have a weakness towards right. Now,
my goal this year was actually based from the conference that I went to. And when the Sheikh said
this, it really hit me very hard. He said what he said, My reaction is a reflection of my heart.
Right? When we react towards people, when they do something, and sometimes people do things that
		

			will totally drive you insane, whether it's at work, or it's your spouse, or a friend or family
member, or your kids, of course, especially the kids, they'll do things and you're like, Okay, how
do I how do I you don't even have time to react, you just react, that reaction is not a result of
their doing. But the way you react, tells you what your heart looks like. So when you just somebody
does something and you just are fully angry, or you're upset, or, you know, you just kind of snap.
It just shows how your heart is. And that's very scary and very intense. And that's what I decided
to kind of put down for myself and remind myself and I wrote at the bottom, what more patience
		

			especially with my kids, because kids are kids, you know, their job is to kind of drive us crazy.
100 ALEMI Allah guide them all. And I signed my name down mom. So I'm going to ask you to do
something practical. Think of one thing and be honest with yourself. Nobody knows you, as you know
yourself. See what this one thing is that you're struggling with. Even if you have 100 Things start
with one thing you know that you're really struggling with. It's a weakness in you and write it down
on a piece of paper doesn't have to be fancy just a piece of paper and put it somewhere where you
can see it. And try try to kind of like you know, push yourself to really refrain from doing this
		

			action. Try to push your heart too fast from this action that displeases Allah subhanaw taala and
remember that saved the Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said what? In nama wise to live with a
mimic animal.
		

			I was truly sent what to kind of like perfect good manners and behavior. The most important thing it
doesn't matter how much you pray, it doesn't matter how covered you are and how big your beard or
how big you're in a club is. If your manners are not the way that you know would please Alon His
Messenger than our salon and all these other things do they really count? Ask yourself, try to fix
this here and try to fast fully with everything in you. So you can watch achieved the full purpose
of song and that is what Lana Comdata coin. So you can have the taqwa in everything that you say and
do your pick your goal, write it down. And remember the way that you react as a reflection of your
		

			own heart. salamati alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh