Yousef Bakeer – Transform your anger these Quranic teachings

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The conversation discusses the impact of anger management on physical health and mental well-being. It emphasizes the importance of not letting oneself die until reaching a crisis state and managing one's anger through control and discipline. The speakers stress the need for pride, forgiveness, and physical strength in addressing one's mistake.

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			unto Muslim Moon he says all
believers have taqwa in Allah
		
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			subhanho wa Taala which means that
we should be conscious of him, we
		
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			should be aware of him, and we
should protect ourselves from his
		
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			punishment and his wrath. And we
should not allow ourselves to die
		
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			except in a state of submission to
in the state of la ilaha illAllah
		
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			Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, I begin my
		
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			hotbar by asking ALLAH SubhanA wa
Taala first and foremost, to send
		
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			blessings and prayers to our
beloved prophet muhammad
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik
		
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			ala Nabina Wahhabi Bina Muhammad
in wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa
		
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			sallam to slim and cathedral and
my bad My Dear Brothers and
		
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			Sisters in Islam, As Salam aleikum
wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		
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			Yale University has an interesting
case study.
		
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			And that case study shows that
people who are struggling with
		
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			anger management
		
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			are more likely 10% more likely to
get heart attack than other
		
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			people.
		
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			And the recent case study shows
that
		
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			anger management issues has a
direct effect on the physical
		
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			health. And in Islam, we learn
that anger management issues also
		
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			has an effect on our spiritual
well being or a spiritual health
		
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			as well. Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			in the Quran, Surah Ambia talks
about one of the incidents that we
		
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			really need to reflect and
contemplate and internalize. And
		
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			that is one of the major events
that took place in the life of
		
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			Prophet Kunisada he's Salam. O,
Allah says in this iron, where the
		
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			Nguni is the harbor Mojave been
for one Allah knock the rally, the
		
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			noon the man of the whale, noon in
Arabic language means one of the
		
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			names of the whale is they have a
Mahadevan he was very angry for
		
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			one that Allah knock the rally and
Prophet Yunus chalet salaam filled
		
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			that Allah wouldn't restrain him.
Fernanda follow Matt and then he
		
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			made dua, he supplicate to Allah
subhanho wa Taala Allah ilaha illa
		
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			Anta Subhana there is no God
worthy of worship, except you in
		
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			the consuming of aalameen. Indeed,
I was among those who have wronged
		
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			themselves.
		
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			In the lens of this diet.
		
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			If we were to dissect this, try
to, you know, unpack some lessons
		
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			from this beautiful guy and I
spoke about this a couple of weeks
		
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			ago, but there's so much into this
last panel Allah that we can
		
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			benefit from, as a community as
Muslimeen. Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			starts off the idea by saying,
then Looney is they have a moral
		
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			demon. He's saying that Prophet
Yunus Alayhis Salam was at some
		
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			point angry. And if we think about
this, this is beautiful because
		
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			Allah sent down prophets in the
shape of humans, because we can
		
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			relate to, to them, we can
actually share some of these
		
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			characteristics with the prophets.
If Allah would send angels, then
		
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			we wouldn't really be able to
connect and or feel that we share
		
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			some of these characteristics. But
Prophet Yunus is a human being.
		
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			And he has some point was
overwhelmed, and he got angry.
		
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			So Allah subhanaw taala is saying,
then no need to have a Mahadevan,
		
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			even the Prophet himself got angry
at some point. So that the experts
		
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			say that anger is invisible to
everyone, every single one of us
		
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			will get angry at some points. And
so Allah follows this by saying,
		
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			for one Allah naka de la la, he
thought that Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			would not restrain him, Fernanda
Fievel omet this is so important.
		
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			When someone is going through that
state of anger, Prophet Yunus
		
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			Alayhis Salam, Netherfield
Willamette, he faced his himself
		
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			to Allah subhanaw taala and
repented to Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			right away, he did not let anger
takes over. He took over his
		
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			anger. And this is so crucial
because sometimes when we are in a
		
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			state of anger,
		
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			where we're tend to let sometimes
anger takes over
		
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			and so here the profit
		
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			characteristic of Prophet Yunus
Ali Salam, Allah is teaching us.
		
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			Don't let that takes over to the
point that you start harming other
		
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			people as well. When that man came
to the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu
		
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			sallam, and I told him, give me an
advice, give me an advice, one
		
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			advice. Prophet Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told
		
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			him letterbook, don't get angry.
		
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			And then the man asked Prophet
again, just one, you know,
		
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			different advice. Prophet Hassan
said, I'm told him the same answer
		
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			again, later. Just don't Don't get
angry. This in itself is a
		
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			struggle is a challenge. This in
itself is not going to, you know,
		
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			be solved overnight, it will take
time. And that's why Prophet
		
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			Muhammad SAW Sam told him you
know, you need to get out there
		
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			and work on your anger management.
So Allah subhanaw taala. Here
		
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			again, is saying that Prophet
Yunus Allah is Salam. He realized
		
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			that at some point he needs to, to
put an end to that anger status.
		
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			And so Prophet Mohammed Salah
Salem Subhanallah, there is heavy
		
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			emphasis, heavy emphasis in the
prophetic tradition, about the
		
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			danger of anger and the importance
of controlling their anger. And
		
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			prophets. Allah Salam defined it,
he said, Lacell POJO Surah The
		
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			Strongest Man is not the one who's
able to rustle out Kuwait you who
		
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			I am and Yetta Malika Are we at
our Melaku NAFSA who are in the
		
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			lobby of the one the Kawaii, the
strong man is the one who's able
		
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			to control his anger while he is
in that status. So why because it
		
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			really takes a lot of mental work,
to discipline yourself and to stop
		
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			yourself from getting angry.
		
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			And I'm not you know, putting
those who are wrestling down I
		
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			know some of the some of our
brothers here in this crowd, you
		
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			know, wrestling, but what I'm
saying is that besides this
		
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			physical strength, there is
something greater to control and
		
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			to work on. And which is your
mind, strength, your mental
		
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			strength. And that's why the
Salah, Salah Salem emphasized it
		
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			he said, The Strongest Man is not
really the one who's who's able to
		
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			wrestle. It's not about this
physical strength, it's more of
		
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			your mental strength. Because if
you get yourself if you get
		
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			yourself into this discipline mode
of stopping yourself from getting
		
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			angry Wallahi this is greater than
anything else. And of course
		
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			scientists spoke about this give a
lot of tips on how to control your
		
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			anger, but um, I'm discussing
anger management through the lens
		
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			of the eye of Allah subhanaw taala
when he addressed Prophet Yunus,
		
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			Ali Salam situation. So again,
Fernanda Lumet, and La ilaha illa.
		
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			Anta Subhanak he said, Indeed,
there is no God worthy of worship,
		
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			except you, oh Allah.
		
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			And here is another lesson that we
really can glean from from from
		
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			Prophet Yunus Ali salaam, that
sometimes when we get so angry,
		
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			our pride takes over.
		
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			We don't humble ourselves and
accept the truth if we have made a
		
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			mistake. And here prophets unity
starts off with saying, Yeah,
		
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			Hola, La ilaha illa Anta Subhanak
you are perfect. And I am
		
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			imperfect. La ilaha illa Subhanak.
And then he said, In the con two
		
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			minute volley mean, I have done
wrong.
		
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			I acknowledge my mistakes. I
acknowledge my flaws. And listen,
		
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			this is so hard for someone that
has been preaching to his people
		
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			for so many years. And then his
people rejected his Dawa and
		
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			humiliated him. And then when he
got frustrated, or he got angry,
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala Of course,
blame some of that and so heater
		
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			turned back to Allah and he did
not mention anything that happened
		
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			with him in the past. He just
said, I have done wrong. I
		
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			acknowledged my flaws.
		
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			And subhanAllah This is another
quality, a prophetic quality. Some
		
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			of us were in this situations, you
know, our, our pride gets in the
		
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			way to acknowledge our flaws. And
we tend to point fingers while
		
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			we're in the status, status of If
anger. We point fingers, we don't
		
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			turn the mirror towards ourselves,
and our acknowledge our own
		
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			mistakes. It's so hard. It is so
hard. But here is the perfect
		
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			version of human being Prophet
Yunus, Ali salah. These These
		
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			stories are not for entertainment
in the Quran. These stories are
		
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			for us to comprehend and to
		
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			reflect and try to actually, you
know, follow the path of these
		
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			great men and women.
		
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			And so again,
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala described
Prophet Yunus attitude afterwards,
		
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			obviously he was he was in a very,
you know, hard situation in the
		
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			depths of the darkness, and inside
the will.
		
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			And he kind of realized that I
need to acknowledge my mistake. I
		
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			would turn back to Allah and say,
Yeah, Allah who Allah forgive me.
		
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			But in Islam, there is actually a
step further. Islam when it comes
		
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			to anger management, Islam does
not want me and you or Allah does
		
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			not want me and you to call down
when we're very angry. Allah says,
		
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			We're either ma volleyball whom we
have grown, he says, when we are
		
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			in a state of anger, they forgive
		
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			Subhanallah so they're not just,
you know, calm themselves down and
		
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			control their anger. Allah here is
saying that we should take a step
		
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			further than this. And which is
forgiving those who have wronged
		
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			us this is so hard. And the harder
it gets, the greater reward is so
		
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			how Allah Subhan Allah Allah says
what kind of remain alive while I
		
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			fina and Ines when you are in a
state of anger. And sometimes you
		
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			have reasons why you're getting
that angry.
		
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			And so, and sometimes even you're
not you have not committed any
		
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			mistakes. Sometimes people have
wronged you. And you have
		
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			absolutely all the excuses to get
to that level of anger. But Allah
		
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			saying here there are very few
people that they're actually able
		
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			to not just control the anger but
they get out of their way and
		
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			forgive whatever Mr. Hollywood
whom you're thrown I'll call the
		
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			Mina life they're able to control
that that maliciousness that
		
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			anger, and then well i fina animus
and then the forgive the humble
		
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			themselves and then the they're in
a situation where they go out of
		
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			their way and initiate that
conversations. Allah you me and
		
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			you we have people in our lives
that we have wronged me and you we
		
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			have people we have people in our
our lives that they have wronged
		
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			us.
		
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			And and me and you, at some point
we have the excuses we have the
		
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			reasons why we're getting there
angry.
		
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			But here is different quality,
prophetic quality brothers and
		
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			sisters, prophetic quality, right
here. Allah speaking to us to me
		
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			and you
		
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			forgive,
		
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			forgive, this is a quality that
not too many people have.
		
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			And if we really want to pursue
that path, the path of solid him
		
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			the pious, the path of the
prophets and the messengers, then
		
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			we start with the hardest thing
again, you can easily get
		
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			physically strong, but that the
real hard work is your work on
		
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			your on your mental status. Les
selkoe Surah wala Kindle Kawi
		
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			manyatta Malik and so and a lot of
the strongest man is not the one
		
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			who wrestles The Strongest Man is
the one who is able to control his
		
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			anger. Akula already had our stuff
with Allah you will.
		
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			Smilla Rahmanir Rahim o salat wa
salam ala Rasulillah while al
		
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			yourself Be yourself into Sleeman
Kathira Lauren Murphy Lana lubaina
		
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			with the Viet in our Kurata ion or
Jan Tokina. Mmm welcome Salam.