Yousef Bakeer – Cultivating Patience A Path To Inner Peace And Mental Strength

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Muhammadan Abu

Asmaa, WA says, In the Quran, yeah, you. Haladina, Amanu, it

Taku la itaku, lahat, katu, Kati, he wala, Tamu, tuna, illawah unto

Muslim moon. He says, oh, believers, have taqwa in Allah,

Azza wa jal, which means that we should be conscious of him. We

should be aware of him, and we should protect ourselves from his

punishment and his wrath, and we should never allow ourselves to

die, except in a state of submission to our Lord Sid of la

ilaha, illAllah, muhammadun rasulallah. I begin my khutbah by

asking Allah azza wa jal, first and foremost, to send blessings

and prayers upon our Habib, our Rasul, our NABI, Allah salimah,

Barak ala Nabi ina wa Habib I Muhammad in WA, Allah Ali wa

sahbihi wa Sallim, Talim, kathyurah, Ahmad, My Dear Brothers

and Sisters in Islam as salaam alaikum, warahmatullahi, taala,

wabarakatuh,

there is this quality

of a believer

that Allah frequently mentions in the holy book of Quran frequently

speaks About this quality, and he actually

says that this quality many messengers and prophets,

especially Ulam, those who went through difficult time giving

dawah to their people, like Prophet NUHA salaam, or Prophet

Ibrahim, alaihi salam, Allah, has described them with this quality

of a believer that I'm About to actually reveal inshallah to Allah

into this hut, but

beautiful characteristic of the of the of the believers, as Allah

subhanahu wa says, Yeah, you haladina Amanu is spiru, wasabi,

ru water. Obviously,

we're talking about this concept of patience of SABR

as Subhanallah, one of the most profound definitions of patience

that I found, that I thought that this is really interesting to

actually, you know, address with this beautiful community is that

patience or suburb?

It means this, this internal coping mechanism that gives us the

ability to regulate our emotions and control our emotions. What do

I mean by this? Well, one of the really strength that we have as a

human beings, this is how Allah has designed us, this is how Allah

has built us, has made us, is that we have strength. Everyone here

has this internal strength, and that is called SABR. And SABR

comes when difficult times strike.

It comes when difficult times strike, and also it comes when

you're about to make a very important decision in your life.

SABR will come in place, and I'll explain why,

and I will start with the second point, how SABR plays a factor on

the decision making of all the human beings Well, as we make a

crucial decision in our lives, sometimes we make These decisions

according to our emotional state, and when emotions are high, what

is down? Logic is down. So I've seen it. It's a recurring theme,

big decisions in our lives. I want to get to marry I want to marry

this person. Now, my mind is telling me something and my heart

is telling me something else. My emotions are attached to that

person, but then my logic is just telling me, No, this is not the

right decision.

Many of us, we make this mistake. We make a decision, a permanent

decision based on temporary feeling. I feel something now I

feel attached to that person, even though I know that there are

serious issues in this relationship, and yet I make that

decision. Why? Because I let emotions control me.

Now, SABR comes in place because SABR regulates your emotions. It.

Else you know, hold on now, your your situation with that person.

I'm just giving marriage as an example, but you can actually

apply this to all life aspects you know about to, you know, to get

into a certain career, and we're about to actually study a certain

you want to get your measure in certain you know area, or you want

to make a decision of having children, many, many aspects in

life. You can apply this to everything again. SABR comes in

place and tells you make the right decision. You see red flags. You

see big issues in making that decision now consider what's good

for you, even though it's painful, but that's temporary, because SABR

is the tool that actually gets you to build this. This, this coping

mechanism, that internal coping mechanism, that you can actually

be able to get over that phase.

Let me. Let me actually rephrase this again, because this is

important. This is important sometimes just see that this, this

is a relationship that will fail. Why? Because there is no

compatibility and but the two persons are just attached,

emotionally attached, to each other. Do you want to make that

decision? They want to marry?

I think she's an amazing person, but, and yet, I see a lot of

serious issues, but I think it will work out.

And I want that white dress. I just want that day. I want to get

married. I think he's cool. I think he's a good person. And yet,

I see that there is a huge issue in his financial situation, or I

see a huge issue in his relationship with Allah, but it's

okay. I think it will work out. We will work it out after marriage.

Right now. What are we doing here? We're letting emotions control us,

control our decision

and why? Because we're afraid that once we let this go, we will

struggle

until, you know, make the right decision and endure SABR, because

it will give you the ability to get over this period of time. You

see it now. So that's number one. SABR does what it gives you, this

internal coping mechanism. You actually make you jealous, you

make you make you strong and go through it, make the tough

decisions, so long as it is the right decisions, you don't let

your emotions play you and control you. That's number one. Number

two,

when going through difficult times, when go through difficult

times, many things happened to our psychology, to just to internally,

things happen. One of these things is that we think that that's it.

It's over.

It's very difficult situation. I don't think I will get out of this

position.

I think it will take too long for me to get out of it. But then

Allah, subhana, Allah tells you what, yeah, you are. Ladeena.

Amanu ista Ainu, the Sabri was salah,

by the way, patience. I just don't like the word patience because

it's not giving justice to the word SABR. SABR means consistent

patience. It's not like you're just having patience a little bit

now I'm just being patient a little bit, but then I will lose

that patience. No, SABR. SABR is consistent patience. And that's a

that's a very unique quality when things go tough, when things go

rough, we say, well, as a believer, yes, the ayin besabri

was salah. I will endure patience. I will know that this is temporary

feeling I have now, and eventually, Allah, Subhanahu wa

will show me a way out. That's the thoughts of a believer and

SubhanAllah. The old Arabs used to associate

SABR with sabbar. The fruit of sabar. What's the fruit of sabar?

Is the prickly pear.

Why? Because the prickly pier grows where in the desert

and this and this planet, or this, this plant or this fruit can stay

years without water, but knows how to actually survive. And if you

look at it from the outside, it has all of this, you know, all of

these thorns, and it's ugly from the outside. Why? Because a lot of

a lot of things going on in these years of not getting this water

and sustenance right. But what is inside is this sweet fruit

that's patience. Sabbath is

from the word SABR means, what means consist.

Patience consistent SABR. I will be patient. I will protect myself

with with with SABR, from all of these ill thoughts and negative

thoughts that that's overwhelming me. I will be firm on the deen of

Allah I know Allah ma sabirin in Allah, ma Sabir, ma sabiri, ai

sahbat Sabri in the companion, in the companionship in the company

of the one who has SABR, Allah is with you. Allah is with you

in the lahat. Ma Sabir, amazing quality. And you can actually, you

can actually see the impact of this on especially our youth.

Anyone who lacks this quality, why there is this huge rate of divorce

in the first five years, or why there is this huge turnover rate

when fresh graduates coming into jobs in the very first five years.

Why? Why are we too quick to quit? Why?

Why is it? What are we lacking? Obviously, there are legitimate

reasons, of course, not dismissing this, but I'm talking here about

the vast majority of the issues.

What is the reason? What's making me quick to quit.

You'll go back to the same concept that we're talking about, this

concept of SABR, of patience. I will end inshallah to Allah with

beautiful poem of Imam Shafi, about patience, about SABR.

He says

that I am at afal Mata Shaykh. I Da I am a Taal matasha Just is

telling us, don't worry about

the Qadr of Allah, Subhanahu wa don't worry about things that you

have no control over. Eventually you only have control over your

means. And then he says, wat nephadal. And when things go

wrong, and you know that it's beyond your capacity, be

satisfied. Have riba be satisfied. Go through it.

Be tough and go through it.

Know that Allah masa Beren, one more time,

will take nefs and also acknowledge this difficult time

that you're going through. What is happening is that some of our

internal mechanism, we actually deny what's happening in our

lives. I myself

as a father of an autistic child. At the beginning, it's tempting

not to process everything and to deny just you know the fact that

you have this challenge in your life, ma'am Shafi tells you no,

no, no, no. Have SABR and understand that this is the Qatar

of Allah, Subhanahu wa it. And then he says, wala a tajiza, Lina,

azilat al la Ali La atajiza, ali nazila talali, going through

difficult time you will eventually have to, you know, face this

moment, this moment that's bringing you down, this moment

that you feel like you're in the dark, these triggers that happen

to anyone who's trying to heal from a trauma, from from from

difficult time that he went through. Let ajiza Ali, nazila

Tala Ali, when you just feel this, when you go through this difficult

time, remember in Allah, Hamas sabirin, Allah is with you. Allah

is next to you. Allah is supporting you.

Family. Hawai'i, duniya, bakau, wakun, rajulan, ALA, Wali,

geladan, washi, matuka, a Sama, Hatu wa wafau, beautiful,

beautiful words of Imam shafa, he said, It's just when we're going

through this difficult time, just remind yourself, always,

constantly remind yourself that you have this tool. This is

strength that Allah subhanaw taala has given you, and also show Wafaa

and Samaha. Sometimes, when we go through difficult time, it has an

impact on us and how we demonstrate these, these, these

emotions that's happening inside us to the outside. So sometimes we

come up as tough or as rough people, or you actually just, you

know, be disrespectful, sometimes, just a lot going on. And so, like

I have a lot of frustration. Imam, as Shepherd, is telling us, no no

no no, just calm down and show Samaha.

When things get tough, remember you are. You are a person, a

believer of Allah, with somebody that you have you show goodness to

the people around you. And I will end with this wallahim. It will

always talk about support system Allah. Subhanaw taala has

mentioned it in the Quran. He said, he said, was bir NAF.

Second. Maladina Rabbah, he said, Yes, don't forget, while going

through this difficult time

and you're trying to maintain that suburb that we spoke about, be

mindful of the importance of being around people who can actually

help you get over this difficult time. Endure the these you know,

difficult situations. Endure it with Sabbath. Sabbath gives you

that to him, Allah, subhana, taala, make us among us. Sabarina,

rabbal, Alameen, because Allah himself said in NAMA, you Wafaa,

sabiru na ashlahom BelAir, he said only one category of people who

will go to Jannah on the day of judgment without hisab, Allah

would not going to Allah is not going to ask us about our deeds.

You go without hisab, without questions. You go to Jannah. Why?

Because you endorsed this beautiful quality of a believer.

SABR, SABR, SABR May Allah, subhanaw, Taala and

Abu Asmaa, rahman, rahim, salatu, salam, ALA, rasulallah, kefir,

Ahmad band, My Dear Brothers and

Sisters in Islam,

with all what's going on in the world, it requires also supper.

Supper means what you don't burn out. Sometimes it looks like it's

overwhelming. It looks like the Ummah is struggling. It looks like

everything is going wrong, and as an ummah now, that's a quality

that we need to build. As an ummah, we need to build the

quality of SABR, because it's not about this current moment. It's

not about our present. The ummah of Allah azza wa jal needs to look

forward. This is not it's not over yet. The ummah of Prophet

Muhammad, sallAllahu, Sallam needs to build this ability of ability

to survive, ability to grow through difficult times. And may

Allah, subhanaw taala and this blessed moment of yawmah, we ask

Allah azza wa jal to bring nothing but relief to our brothers and

sisters in Philistine, ya rab al Alameen, Ya Allah, Ya Kareem, ya

Rahman. We ya Rahim. We ask you to bring nothing but relief to our

brothers and sisters in Philistine, Ya Allah Ya Rahman, we

are Rahim. We ask you, and we beg you to heal the hearts of those

who lost their family members. Ya rab al Alameen Ya Allah, we ask

you to heal the hearts of the fathers who lost their kids. Ya

rab al Alameen Ya Allah. We ask you to liberate maje al ahlameen

Ya Allah. We ask you in this blessed moment of yawmah, we ask

you to grant us the ability to pray in Majd Al Aqsa. Ya rabal

alameen Ya Allah, we ask you to make us among those who will be

able to pray in majel Abu Alameen Allah, whom masalah and abiy now

Habibi na Muhammad in WA Allah Ali he was Abu Asmaa, kafira wa dawana

an Alhamdulillah. He Rabbi la Alameen Abu