Yassir Fazaga – Autism Islamic Perspective

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The segment discusses the negative impact of false accusations on society, including negative reactions and negative behaviors. The importance of acknowledging autism spectrum and the need for more awareness is emphasized. The use of negative language can cause confusion and negative comments, and the segment emphasizes the importance of understanding and embracing family members with special needs and the need for a speedy recovery. Facebook's use of tags and keywords can cause confusion and negative comments, and the segment also touches on the use of "will" in various cultures.

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			Ebola la Hiral Howdy, how do you Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Name of Allah, the
Compassionate, the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah and make his peace and blessings be
upon our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Indeed the best of speech is the book
of Allah. And the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. May
Allah Subhana Allah make us amongst those who listen to the best of speech, the book of Allah and
follow its commandments. And may Allah make us amongst those who come to know the best of ways, the
way of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Nick us amongst his followers Allahumma Amin
		
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			Allahumma Amin Allahumma me, ya por la buena de la vida wala to sofa um while accumulative ledger
and Hola Hola, como piano? What is the goofy HairWorks su worku Lola hum cola Mirova This is a verse
that come from certain Nyssa surah number five in the Quran surah number four in the Quran, verse
number five, where Allah subhanaw taala addresses the community of believers and says, And do not
give your wealth over to those who are feeble minded as to
		
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			what is your own fear, however, feed them Soo, close them. Wako Lola hum cola ma roofer and when you
speak to them, speak to them with splendid words, they say that this verse changed the face and the
way of psychology forever.
		
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			This verse had most impact on neuro ethical issues. Neuro ethics basically is the interdisciplinary
field that deals with the constant information that we get to learn about the brain. And then the
ethical issues that come out as a result.
		
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			Prior to our deal, prior to the Quran, they believed that anybody had who had mental health issues,
they thought it was because they had evil spirits in them. And that is why some people believe that
the very first operation like procedural surgical operation that humans ever did is something called
profanation. And that is making a hole in the skull of the individual to give and make room for the
evil spirits to leave their bodies. And if that did not fix the problem, they would abandon them and
kick them out of the community because they feel that the evil spirits are absolutely they have a
very strong hold on them. Then comes the dean and the dean points out to the obvious. People with
		
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			cognitive developmental issues may not be able to handle financial transactions. So Allah said, you
don't have to put them in that position. But you have a responsibility towards them. What do you do
resume? Me meet their physical needs. Okay, zoom. Close them shelter is very important. And then the
kicker comes in so beautifully. Allah says, We're called Lulu whom our Ma rufa. Speak to them with a
splendid words. You know today, second of April, is the International Autism Awareness Day
		
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			where today we're supposed to become better aware
		
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			with autism spectrum disorder. Were a good number of our community members by our community members.
I'm not just talking about my brothers and sisters in faith. We're talking about my brothers and
sisters in humanity. They're dealing with this with this issue.
		
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			And basically, Inshallah, what we want to do is that, the more aware we become,
		
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			the better choices, the better response and we also fight stigma when we when we do this, simply put
autism in
		
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			is a neurodevelopmental disorder? Why is this simple? Why why do you even say that? Simply because
sometimes when people are aware of these things, they make some silly, inhumane remarks.
		
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			Why do we say that? Because sometimes people feel that somehow the parents made a mistake. Instead,
they told the story of this sister, who had a beautiful child, beautiful soul, her daughter had Down
syndrome. And sometimes with Down syndrome kits, you can tell that they have Down syndrome because
of their, you know, because of the way that they look. So this is the she brought her daughter to
the message. And immediately she goes to the women's section and assist that looked at and she said,
Did you marry your cousin?
		
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			Just like that? Did you marry your cousin? As if see parents who have a child with special needs?
Somehow they feel guilty? They be asking themselves, what did I do? What did I eat? Why did we go
wrong? Now somebody comes and immediately asked this question as if, oh, we're not your fault. We're
just trying to see what is it that you did.
		
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			That's not what Allah tells us. Allah tells us to go to the home owner. Moreover,
		
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			if you have to say something, make sure that these are good words, splendid words, nice words, kind
words, the more aware we become,
		
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			we don't stigmatize other people. A stigma against simply put, is a societal mark, that somehow the
person that we're dealing with because of what they have, or because of what they are with, they are
less humans than others. And as a result, you get to see societal stigma, communally stigma, and
sometimes even stigma within the family. And that is not good, my brothers and sisters, that is not
healthy. And most importantly, it is very inhumane. And it's also very, an Islamic, the person may
be different. But that does not necessarily mean that they are less than us, or somehow that we are
better than them. When we are not aware, we tend to be cruel. This father tells the story, I took my
		
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			son to the store. And because consistency is very important, I told my son who is with autism, he
can only pick one toy. And my son goes there. And now you know, when these kids have to make a
choice like that, that anxiety is just very, very overwhelming. But it was important that the dad
teach his son is going to be one two, only. And the kid was torn between these two toys, do I get
this one? Do I get this one. And he's about to throw a tantrum, and just the anxiety is
overwhelming. So the father wanting to help the child, he said, let's walk to the cashier. And maybe
that way, he will have to make a decision. So they go to the cashier, and when they stand there, the
		
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			anxiety is even more at this point. And the kid is just very overwhelmed. And the people are waiting
in line and the cashier looks at the data and she said, Sir, please, can you take your overdue
Rooney, son out of line so that I can do what I need to do? Father felt very embarrassed. Because
what the cashier was implying that his parenting is not really good. So he said, I ended up buying
both toys. Because somebody decided simply just looking at me looking into the situation, that
somehow the unruly kid, I felt that I was engaged in bad in bad parenting.
		
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			It happens. People bring in their kids to the masjid. And we see them and we see that the way that
they behave, and then all of a sudden, brother, sister, why don't you do one, two ones? Why don't
you respect them? Why don't you and we just go very religious on them. Now remember this. You may
sound religious, but the reality of it is that you are rude. You are cruel, and contrary to what you
believe you're actually not very religious.
		
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			Remember, if our sense of religiosity makes us more cruel, and crude, and judgmental, chances are
we're not worshipping Allah, but we're all sharing our own ego.
		
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			And that is not that is not religiosity.
		
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			Autism is a spectrum
		
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			means what autograph means that some kids are high functioning, and some kids are not functioning at
all. Some kids are so functionally dependent that you wouldn't even believe that they are with
autism, and some kids they need now
		
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			enrichment 24/7
		
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			Because of this spectrum, you will see one person's autism is very different than the other person's
autism. What happens when you have autism or when you are with autism? Sometimes people have
difficulty with social interaction, inhibited social interaction skills. They don't know when it's
appropriate time to smile to laugh, they may even want to just be isolated and be by themselves.
Some of these skits are not verbal, or they have limited vocabulary. I remember one time this
brother came to me and he was beautiful. Solly was just so happens that my son today spoke, I know
his son was six years old. They said, hamdulillah what happens? Now you don't understand. My son
		
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			made a full sentence today. I said, What did your son say? He said, today my son said, Good job.
		
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			My son said, Good job. Dad is the first full sentence that my son ever made.
		
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			told the story in the hotbar after the Hotbot brother came to me and he said, you know, he said, My
brother told me he said, Good job was music to my ears. Whether it comes after the whole band, he
says, you know, is that yes, my son is 15 years old. And I'm still waiting for the music.
		
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			I don't know what my son sounds like.
		
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			Because I've never heard him speak.
		
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			And then somebody comes and decides that you know what's going on? Allah is punishing you.
		
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			Some people believe that when people are given this challenge in life, that somehow this is a
punishment from Allah subhanaw taala. The Quran says, This is rubbish. Why does Allah take joy in
seeing a parent suffer? Why does Allah take joy in seeing another child suffer? What kind of an
impression do you have of Allah subhanaw taala to be making these to be making these remarks?
		
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			And sometimes even when we make these remarks, we may be intending something that is well, but it
sounds silly. What do you do? Or I work with children with special needs, or Masha Allah who must be
a saint? Are you implying that these kids somehow and that is why you think of me as a. So the more
we know, the better aware we become.
		
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			The nicer we are, the gentler we are. Some kids within this spectrum may have a repetitive behavior,
that repetitive behavior may be very violent. I know of this family, the kid likes to bank on his
head. So what they did is that they put a boxing gloves to protect the kid because he can hit his
head very hard. And when that does not work, they make him wore a helmet on top of the boxing
gloves. And sometimes that does not even work. They have to handcuff their child. Somebody looks at
that and say, These parents are so cruel. He you just don't know what is going on with people to be
making these types of statements. So our Dean tells us that we have a responsibility, take care of
		
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			their basic needs. Look, sugam
		
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			close them, meaning that they're living amongst us. They These are not people that we hide away.
These are not people that bring shame to us or to the family. And then Allah says to everybody who
knew him.
		
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			And when you speak to them, when you speak about them, what do you say, say use splendid words, uses
splendid words, you know the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He was such a gentle soul. Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam leaves Medina and Hoon does he put behind in charge of Medina, a blind
man.
		
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			Abdullah had no luck to everybody accepts that
		
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			he may not be able to see that does not mean that he's stupid, or that he can run the show. And he
did it and he did very well. Not only that, but basically the rates in the Hadith the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam can have been in urban markets. Now.
		
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			He would say let's go and visit that locality named Benny. Well, they've said that so we may visit
original bustle you're busy You're the man was blind, but bossy you may also mean somebody who is
see, and they say that this is a strange phenomenon in the r&b language. It's called antonyms. I
smell a bod when you use one word in one way and also its opposite. You hear this in some Arab
cultures say full and man good. Let me see in the RV
		
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			Yeah, hey Annie
		
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			Marie Claire Cove as well. And you will Marie this will be if you carry on who had an enviable time
when you want to stick sharp
		
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			so that sometimes you say that, you know that person is you know is you would say that there are
antonyms in English but they don't really work as well when you say that that was a bad move. What
you really say is that this was a good move, I was a bad move. So an arrow the same used by the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, even though the man was, was blind and could not see but he
referred to him as the seeing as the seeing man. Then finally the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, he was sending a delegation to Yemen. Yemen is a very, very important place. It had the
biggest Krisztian population in the entire Arabia and he needed to serve somebody very important.
		
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			And he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sense more as eligible. When the scholars described more RW
Jebel, they say, work no more as an average work and they share deal knowledge, said that Miranda
bingeable was a learned man. But he would limp and his limp was so severe and it was very obvious
people. That's just bad public relations. Why would you send somebody with visible you know,
disability like this? Mohamed Salah Salem was not interested in any of that, you know, stigma hurts,
not just emotionally.
		
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			They have it that when Hitler started the Holocaust, initially, the victims of the Holocaust, were
not the Jewish community members of the Jewish community. He started with people who were who had
mental retardation. And then he went after people who had visible disabilities. And then he went
after the blacks. And then he went after the gypsies, and then he went after the Jews. But when he
went after the people who was mental retardation, nobody said anything. When he went after the
people who was visible disability, nobody said anything. And then he went after the blacks and
nobody said anything. And then he went after the gypsies are not selling, and then he went after,
		
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			and so on. The minute we tolerate stigma with one group, we risk that one day, we might be, we might
be next. May Allah subhana, Allah increases in understanding herbal Island. Apolo Cola, there was a
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			hamdu Lillahi wa, wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Mustafa, or alum and, sorry, Hector.
		
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			Again, what we want to do is that we just want to understand, we can never claim that we know what
it feels like to be a parent, of a child with special needs. And for all the parents, the brothers
and the sisters who have a special needs child, we wanted to know that this whole book is dedicated.
So that not out of pity, not out of some silly compassion, but we just want to bring an
understanding to our community so that we can relate to our brothers and sisters better. They are
some of these brothers and sisters, I would say What is most challenging brother came to me and he
said, You know what? We have never been out as a family ever.
		
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			So what do you mean, but he said, we have actually never been out to a single event in a single
outing. As a family ever before. What happens and what I got a special needs child. So every time
there is an event, every time we get invited, we have to make the decision, who gets to go and who
gets to stay.
		
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			Brother once said, We've never prayed in GEMA together as a, as a family. A brother said, you know,
the one thing that scares me most is what is going to happen to my child after I die.
		
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			These are like some really, these are some very heavy things to be thinking about. The last thing
that you want to hear is somebody making a silly remark.
		
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			And we hope that we know that person Europa Island,
		
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			because it's inhumane. It is also an it is also an Islamic. Remember what Allah said, was, oh whom
take care of them. Look, Sue who closed them, give them shelter. And then Allah said something that
we are all capable of called ulang our motto, that when you speak when you speak, make sure that you
use splendid, splendid words.
		
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			May Allah Subhana Allah give all the strength and the patience and the peace to L the parents who
have a special new child era
		
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			Alameen May Allah Subhana Allah make that child their gate to Jenna Europa lol I mean, if any of us
or our loved ones are not feeling well may Allah Subhana Allah grant us a speedy recovery. If any of
us or our loved ones are going through difficult times may Allah pantalla ease our pain. If any of
our loved ones have passed away May Allah Subhana Allah bless their souls Europa Alameen if any of
us or our loved ones have lost the way may Allah Subhana Allah bring us back to his way. May Allah
Subhana Allah extend in our lives to witness the blessings of the month of Ramadan and if we do
witness the blessings of the month of Ramadan May Allah subhanaw taala help us in performing well in
		
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