Yasmin Mogahed – Overcoming Unhealthy Attachments

			The prophets I send them, he dealt with heartbreak again and again and again, how did he do it. And
it begins with having these healthy attachments, this the healthy type of love, you don't close
yourself off, but rather you and you don't go to the other extreme either, which is revolving your
existence around these things. So so you know, we see this, this excess these two extremes, where on
the one hand, there's the people who for self preservation, they say, you know what, I'm just not
going to love anything or anyone, I'm just going to cut myself off, or I'm just going to harden my
heart, right, I mean, maybe they love but they become very detached, right, very detached, very
		

			hard, maybe they become numb as a as a sort of a
		

			self preservation as self preservation, you know, as a protector. This is, um, you know, a
protective measure that they use. And, and so, by, by becoming numb, though, that isn't healthy
either. Keep in mind that if a heart is numb, it also cannot connect to Allah subhanaw taala
properly, right. And you'll probably have been through experiences like this, where maybe you dealt
with trauma, and without healing that trauma, you you became numb. And maybe while you were numb,
you realize that it actually took away your joy. Yeah, maybe it took away the sharp pain, but it
also took away your joy. And maybe it also took away your closeness to Allah subhanaw taala. So it
		

			robs you of of maybe the pain but it also robs you of the joy and the nd the deep joy of connecting
to Allah subhanaw taala. So numbing yourself isn't the solution either. But then there's the other
extreme where, where we actually revolve our lives around these objects of attachment, whether
they're our, you know, our, our children, our spouse, our parents, sometimes I've heard many, many
cases of people who actually have very unhealthy attachments to their parents. Sometimes it's our
job, our money status, sometimes it's just generally what other people think, right? We become so
obsessed with that. And it becomes a very unhealthy type of attachment. And so, when we are tested
		

			in those things, it doesn't just break our heart. it shatters it. It devastates us, it breaks us.
And so understanding at the route where we talk about attachments, is very, very important when
talking about how to transform a broken heart and how to transform through a broken heart.