Yasmin Mogahed – How To Transform A Broken Heart

			patterns, but we aren't seeing the results that we want. How can we break out of that? How can we
start to transform our lives? How can we start to see these changes that we desperately need in our
lives? There is a formula that Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran, he says in Allahu Allah,
Allah, you remember, Coleman had dilated Mab and footsy him, Allah does not change the condition of
a people until they change what is inside themselves. We need to take this journey of internal
change if we want to start to see external change in our lives, if we want to start to break these
painful patterns. If we want to improve our relationships, if we want to improve our our lives in
		

			general, we need to start to take internal steps to change ourselves. How can we do that?
Transformed is a class that I've been teaching for many years about a topic that I'm extremely
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relate to Allah subhanaw taala and how they relate to the experiences that they're that they're
		

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			what the heart is and how to purify it. The second module is about the difference between true love
and false attachments. How to ascertain our instruments and how to break them and set ourselves
free. The third module is about how to cope with hardships and pain, how to understand the things
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			Salam aleikum everyone Zack Malachite on for joining out with the bIllahi min ash shaytani R rajim
Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim o salat wa salam ala Rasulillah while Ali was mine. Rubbish rally Saudi
were yesterday Omri. Well, hello looked at me Lissoni of a home Collie. So just echolocate and for
for joining. I want to first make sure can everybody hear me? Okay? So just let me know in the chat
if you can hear me. You can you can see you're all in and then inshallah let me know where you're
joining from. So unhemmed Allah, we have a global community. And I always love to see where our
brothers and sisters are joining from. So you know we have Senegal coming. We got we got people
		

			coming in from the UK. We're looking now. Yep. Lots of people all over us. We got let me know if you
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			Madison, Wisconsin. That's actually where I am currently. It's probably a family member downstairs.
		

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			India. hirji. Well, great. hamdulillah just just keep letting me know where you guys are at. We got
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			South Africa, Cape Town. I love Cape Town actually really miss Cape Town. Subhanallah New York
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			Iraq. Wow. Michela Cape Town again. Saudi Arabia, really hoping inshallah to have a safe trip to
Saudi Arabia for Imran Shala soon. India. Qatar. Cool Chicago. My neighbor at the moment. Queenstown
Okay, wow, Cape Town. So UK are awesome sir. SriLanka awesome Masha Allah, USA. Okay, so inshallah
as you guys are coming in, I want to thank you, UAE. Michelle, I want to thank you guys for joining
Pakistan represent Nigeria Mashallah. So, first of all, I want to I want to thank you for joining.
This is a really, this is a topic that's very near and dear to my heart. You know, the concept of
transformation through, you know, through spirituality is kind of it's been my passion for a long
		

			time. That's what I've been studying and trying to teach for the last decade. And really, this class
transformed the class that I just spoke about in the video. Is it
		

			is really kind of a collection of a lot of the, the content that I've been teaching all over the
world, you know, in different courses in different classes, and a lot of what I've sort of
experienced my own life lessons about transformation, you know, how can we really change our lives
through these very, very powerful tools that Allah subhanaw taala and His Messenger give us, as well
as, you know, using the the tools that were that we have from psychology, and kind of how to combine
that. So transformed is really a very, like, you know, I take this content that I've been teaching
for a decade now. And I really just sort of distill it and concentrated into one course. And this
		

			course really covers so many topics, a lot of the topics that I cover, you know, I touch upon and
reclaim your heart, as well as in my other book love and happiness. But what I do is I take these
concepts about, you know, things like heartbreak, like we're going to talk about a little bit today
and Shala, about, about pain, about relationships, about love about our relationship with the
Creator, and how that is connected to our relationship with the creation, I talk about hardships, I
talk about, you know, how we can handle how we can understand our hardships, how we can rise through
our hardships, and become stronger through our hardships, you know, really learning, you know, one
		

			of the concepts I cover in this class, is how we can not only survives in our storms, but actually
thrive through our storms, that using our storms to actually become stronger, to become closer to
Allah subhanaw taala. And to become better. And so it's really a very, very concentrated sort of
content about all of these topics are all within this course. And so what we've done is I used to
teach this course, in person. And so I could only really access a specific, you know, city in a
specific country at a specific time. But now Hamdulillah, thanks to you know, an Maghrib in
technology, and Hamdulillah, we've been able to actually make it available online. And so now,
		

			anybody can can access this content. And you can actually, once you, once you register for it, you
get this content, you get access to this content, and you get lifetime access to it. So you don't,
you know, it's not like it expires, you can use this, you can rewatch it as much as you can, as much
as you want. And the other thing that that happens with the with the registration is that you get
the opportunity to attend for live q&a s and each q&a is an hour. So it's a lot of access,
basically. So you get to sort of the the nice thing about it is not only does it provide you kind of
this, like you know, it you It allows for like this global opportunity right to, to this content
		

			where I can now I can touch a lot more people without having to be contained to just one specific
city. And you You also have access anywhere in the world. So you get that access to the content. But
the other thing that's really, really good is that you also you get to like interact, interact with
the content, but then you get to come. And then during the live q&a, you get to ask your questions.
So there's going to be four of those, each one an hour long. So you get this, this this opportunity
to sort of interact with the content cuz because the main thing that I want to focus on it, you
know, within pretty much everything I try to teach is making it practical, right? So a lot of times
		

			we learn concepts like, you know, we learned the concept of Leila and Allah when we were when we
were little, right, we learned the concept of, of, you know, taqwa fear, or what does it mean to
fear Allah subhanaw taala. We've learned these concepts, since we were young. But the question is,
how does how do they apply in our lives? Right? And that's really where I want to focus. And that's
where I focused in this class. And where I hope to continue throughout, you know, the, the live
interactions as well, how do you translate it? So I want people to interact with the content. But
then I want people to like, also think about how does this apply to me? And then how can I, you
		

			know, how do I apply this in my life? So you're gonna have questions, and so we have that
opportunity to do the live q&a as well. But having said that, if you are if you do want to register
for it, it's a mega red dot online, and you can just check the pinned in the chat in the chat box.
But what I want to do is jump into today's today's topic, because what today's topic is it's really
kind of a
		

			I guess it's it's a snapshot of what I go in depth and speak about in the class transformed. I
really, I really believe
		

			In this in this course, because I think that it gives you concepts that are literally life saving,
not because they're my concepts, but because these are things that Allah and His Messenger have
given us. And then I also try to extract things from psychology and from positive psychology
research. And try to combine that with an Islamic lens. And honestly, these are life saving
concepts, and I know this from personal experience, these are concepts have saved my life. But these
are also concepts that I've saved countless people who, whose experiences people have shared these
experiences with me. And it's like, it literally gets people, you know, these concepts, literally
		

			get people through
		

			experiences in life, that that you can't even wrap your mind around, you know, like tragedies, you
know, loss, you know, a lot of things that that life will inevitably throw at us. And this literally
saves saves their lives, these these ideas, these concepts. So, I, I teach it because I believe in
it, I teach it because I've, I've done it, and I've experienced it, and I've seen it done. So I'm
really, really encourage that, you know, getting that more in depth sort of experience. But when you
talk about the idea of transforming a broken heart, so I like this title, because it's it has the
transformation. But it also talks about the concept of pain, right and a broken heart. So the first
		

			thing we have to understand, before we talk about transforming a broken heart, but not only that,
but transforming through a broken heart. Right, so I'll explain what I mean by that. But the first
thing we have to understand is why do we experience pain in life? Because this is one of the hardest
questions to answer. You know, and a lot of people get lost in that question, why is this happening
to me? Or Why did this have to happen? You know, it's not fair. You know, we sometimes get stuck in
the why, right? And when we get stuck in that why we can't move forward. So I think it's very
important that we have an understanding of what pain is, and why do we experience pain? First and
		

			foremost, we know from an Islamic perspective, we know as believers that this life is not perfect
that this life is not Jenna. And rather, this life is a is a period of a temporary period of test
for us. Now, when we say that this life is a test, we also should not misunderstand that word.
Because sometimes when people hear, you know, when they learned the idea that this life is a test,
but then they think that it's a test in the sense of
		

			like, like a professor tests you right? So when a professor tests you he or she gives you a test
steps back doesn't give you any help, and doesn't know how you're going to do right until they see
the test. Well, Allah subhanaw taala is tests are not like that. Number one, and this is essential,
is that Allah subhanaw taala is with us in our tests, Allah does not go away, while we're being
tested, and just leave us to ourselves. The only time we are left to ourselves during a hardship is
if we leave Allah subhanaw taala if we close the door on Allah subhanaw taala if we distance
ourselves from Allah, but Allah will never leave us unless we choose to leave Allah subhanaw taala.
		

			So the the first sort of an, like unlearning, that we have to do when I understand the idea of a
test is that Allah doesn't leave you in your test, just for you to depend on yourself. And then he
steps back and sees what you're going to do. Rather Allah subhanaw taala is with us in that test.
And without the help of Allah subhanaw taala absolutely no one. No one could ever pass this test.
Nobody could be successful without the help of Allah soprano Pena. So the first mistake when we when
we, when we're dealing with a broken heart when we're dealing with pain, is that we depend on
ourselves. This is the first mistake that people make even very religious people, even very
		

			spiritual people, even very practicing people will sometimes misunderstand the idea of being tested,
and think that they have to depend on themselves. So many people will harden up. This is also one of
the coping mechanisms that people will employ in order to sort of deal with the test. So what
they'll do is they'll harden up, they'll, they'll depend on themselves, they'll, you know, they'll
you know, they'll be like, Okay, this is a test. I can't show any motion. I have to be strong,
right? And of course, the false definition of strong use
		

			usually means I have to feel nothing, I have to show no emotion, I have to be stoic about this.
Otherwise, I'm not being patient. So these are all concepts, I cover more in depth in the course.
But the idea here is that one of the biggest mistakes that we make, and one of the, the main reasons
why we actually cause further suffering to ourselves is that we depend on ourselves when we are
going through our difficulties. We think that Allah is testing me, and therefore, I need to depend
on myself, I need to harden up, you know, there's this idea of sub being equated with a heart
hardness, right? That I don't cry, I don't show sadness, I don't show emotion. These are all false
		

			concepts of sub. And so to understand that, actually, number one, Allah is with us in our hardship,
that the test itself, we are not left to ourselves unless we leave Allah subhanaw taala. So so so
not to feel that we are on our own not to feel isolated in our difficulties, and not to think that
Allah is expecting you to do it on your own. You know that that actually, the idea is that Allah
wants us to turn to Him, and He wants us to reach out for help. Now think back to the example of the
professor with the exam, right? If the professor gives you an exam, and you're having a lot of
trouble with this test, right, you're struggling, you don't know any of the answers? How many? Like
		

			what would happen if we raise our hand and say, Professor, I don't know what I'm doing? Can you help
me? Like, we know that we cannot do that? Because that's cheating, right? We all we all know that.
You can't ask the professor for help during an exam, because that's cheating. Right? So we sometimes
apply that same logic to Allah. Right? So when we're in a test, when we're going through a
difficulty, yes, we were believers, we understand this is a test. So many of us also believe that
it's cheating to raise our hand and ask for help. We don't turn to Allah for help. And we think we
have to depend on ourselves, on our own intelligence on our own problem solving this is one of the
		

			most common things that we do when we're faced with a difficulty is that we, we turn inward, instead
of going to Allah, we turn inward, and we and we say, Okay, this is a problem, right? Now, let me
figure out with my mind how I'm going to solve this. Now, this isn't to say that we don't look for,
you know, solutions, and we don't use the means. But this becomes our what we depend on, we're
actually depending on ourselves to solve the problem entirely, right? Where instead of, you know,
asking Allah for help, instead of turning to istikhara, instead of turning for esteana, asking for
help from Allah subhanaw taala, instead, we rely on ourselves to problem solve. Now, what that
		

			actually leads to when you are relying on yourself, rather than on Allah, is it actually leads to
more suffering, in this case, it will lead to a lot of anxiety. So when you're relying on yourself
to solve a really big, impossible, you know, you know, a really difficult problem, you end up
actually causing yourself a lot of anxiety, a lot of pressure, and you can't sleep at night, and
maybe you can't, you know, you can't relax, you can't stop thinking about the problem. This is a
sign that you're relying on yourself, instead of relying on Allah subhanaw authentic. Now, again,
and this is, of course, something I go, you know, more in depth about in the course. But there is a
		

			beautiful balance between, you know, using the means, you know, this concept of tying the camel and
relying on almost subhanaw taala. But what has to be clarified, and of course, this is a deep
concept, it can't, you know, it's something that needs more in depth, explanation, but just to kind
of summarize, we need to do both, we need to rely on Allah subhanaw taala. And we also need to do
our part, we also need to, you know, try to use the means, you know, if we're sick, we look for
medicine, if we're, you know, if we're if we're, if we have an issue, we look for therapy, if we,
you know, if we if we need a job, we look at and put out our resume, we you know, we want provision,
		

			we go out and we seek a job, etc. However, however, it's very, very important that we're clear where
is our reliance, our reliance should be on Allah subhanaw taala. So, when we face pain, the same
rule applies. We should not rely on ourselves. To solve the problem. We should not rely on ourselves
to
		

			Get through the problem. And we should not rely on ourselves to heal the problem. We can use tools,
but we should right rely on Allah subhanaw taala them. So the first lesson really, that we that we
have to understand is that Allah subhanaw taala is not testing us, in order for us to do it
ourselves. And Allah does not step away like a professor, but rather Allah is there he is close. In
fact, he is closer than our jugular vein. Allah in fact, and this is really deep. Now this kind of,
you know, brings us to the question of, of the concept of pain in general, why do we go through
these these heartbreak? Why do we have to, you know, why do we have to go through it anyway. Right.
		

			And what's very interesting is that one of the reasons why we experienced difficulty and there are
some, there are many reasons why Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran and the Sunnah, that we
experienced difficulty, but one of the reasons is ironically, because Allah wants us to raise our
hand and ask for help. So here we are thinking about Allah Subhan Allah like a professor, like, I
can't ask, I have to do this myself, right? I have to be patient, I can't show pain. I can't show
sadness. I can't ask for help. I gotta be strong, right? I can't cry. And that's the complete wrong
answer. In fact, Allah wants us to turn to Him and cry to him. Allah wants us to turn to Him and ask
		

			for help. Allah wants us to raise our hand and say, I don't know what I'm doing. I need your help.
That's what Prophets did. That's what Prophets did when they were broken. That's what Prophets did
when they were in difficulty. That's what at you violate his sin. Hampton. That's what Eunice la he
said, um, did when he was trapped in the in the fish. That's what Mohammed sly Salem did when he was
at the hardest time of his life, which was politics. And he tells us this later he tells, this is
narrated in a hadith by Aisha on the line. This was when she asked him what was the most difficult
time, he said it was the time of life. It was a time when he had just lost his wife and his beloved
		

			uncle. And then the people were, you know, off top, if had had had very violently and very
aggressively pushed him out. And it was at that moment, he said, was the hardest of his life. And it
was at that moment that he turns to Allah subhanaw taala in a very, very profound, too. And don't do
I apply if I advise everyone to really study this dot, because within this DA is a formula for
healing. It's a formula for how to really deal with a broken heart. First thing he does, he says, I
complained to you. So this is also a very important concept when it comes to dealing with with pain.
And that is that we don't
		

			we don't complain about Allah subhanaw taala we don't say Allah, it's not fair. Yalla why me? Right?
That is something that is a contradiction of sub, but, but we complain to Allah. And there's a very,
very deep difference. Complaining about Allah is when you are saying, Why me? It's not fair. How
could you do this to me, God, complaining to Allah is when you turn to Allah and say, this is hard,
and I need help. And that's what Allah wants from us. And what's so profound is that's what Prophets
did. The Look Look at, look at Yaqoob Alayhis Salam, like Yaqoob alayhi salam, his patients is
referred to as Southern Germany, right? He had beautiful patients and look at his dua in NEMA a
		

			schoolboy with the what Hosni and Allah, He says that indeed, I complain of my suffering and my
sadness to Allah subhanaw taala. So he was also complaining to Allah. He's not complaining about
Allah. He's not saying it's not fair. How could you take use it from me, he's turning to Allah, and
he's saying, I am suffering, I am sad. That is what Prophets did. And this actually is the most
powerful way to heal a broken heart is to take the broken heart to Allah subhanaw taala. Not to
pretend that it doesn't hurt not to pretend that you're strong not to pretend that you've got it all
together, you've got it all figured out, that somebody's going to make you suffer more. But to take
		

			that that brokenness and turn to Allah with the brokenness, and Allah heals the broken hearts, and
Allah loves when we turn to Him. So what happens is, when we do that a few things happen. Number
one, we actually get closer to Allah through that broken heart. And this is why Subhanallah bringing
it back to this concept of transformation, that not only can we transform a broken heart, but we can
also transform through a broken heart, that the brokenness itself changes us. And and if we do it,
right, it makes us better. It makes us stronger. It makes us it develops us. It grows us
		

			And so you see that transformation actually can happen through the broken heart itself. We hate to
feel pain, I mean, that is just part of human nature. But, but I'm going to kind of change your
perspective a little bit here, Inshallah, and that is looking at a person who goes to the gym,
right? A person who wants to get in shape a person who wants to build muscle, my question to you is,
what do they do? Right? If someone wants to get strong? Do they sit on the couch and get
comfortable? Or do they have to go to the gym and lift weight, right. And so we understand this
concept in the physical world that in order to get stronger, in order to get fit, you have to
		

			actually do work, you have to actually struggle a bit. Yeah, you have to actually lift weight. If I
tell a personal trainer, hey, I want to be in shape, right? I want to be strong, I want to be fit,
that trainer isn't going to tell you how to sit on the couch, that trainer is not going to get you
comfortable. In fact, any and anyone who's who's who's gone to a trainer knows it's not comfortable.
It's not, it's not necessarily going to be something that's easy, right? In fact, it is it involves
some struggle. And it may involve some literal pain, right? No pain, no gain. Now that pain of
lifting, and the pain that anyone who goes to the gym knows that comes after is part of the process.
		

			It's part of the process of what you know, you never see, if you told your trainer, I want to be
strong, and I want to be fit, right? And then your trainer says, Okay, here's how you're going to do
it. This is what you're going to do. This is your regimen. You see, though that weight over there,
you're gonna have to pick it, you're gonna have to lift it, nobody hurts, but you're going to have
to do it, that's how you're going to get fit. That's how you're going to get strong. You're not
going to go and get angry at the trainer and say, Why did you do this to me? How could you make me
go to the gym? Or how could you make me lift that weight? How could you make me do resistance
		

			training? How could you do this, you're not going to get angry, because you know that there's a
purpose, you know, that this, this this period of pain, this period of struggle is for a purpose.
And that purpose is to make you stronger. And that purpose is to is to develop you literally to grow
you.
		

			And it's exactly the same thing with Allah subhanaw taala, and the pain that we experience in life,
but we have to respond in the right way, in order for it to grow us, in order for it to make us
stronger, we have to respond in the right way. Because just like at the gym, if you do it wrong, you
can injure yourself. And, in fact, you can really, really hurt yourself, right? It's the same thing
that if we don't respond properly, if we don't understand how to deal with the pain, if we don't
understand how to respond to the broken heart, then we can actually suffer greatly. And that's why
it's so important that we learn these tools, and we have the right concepts, and we respond
		

			properly. So what I do in this course, is I talk about, you know, kind of the whole spectrum, right?
From understanding the concept of attachments, because it's all connected, right? The the pain that
we feel is connected to the type of attachments that we have, when you have an unhealthy attachment,
for example, and inshallah I talk about this more in depth, obviously, in the course, I'll also be
touching upon this topic in in part of the series and Schulen, upcoming, you know, courses in the
series. But when you have an unhealthy attachment, it affects the type of pain that you experience.
It affects the type of suffering that you experience in times of loss. So let me give you an
		

			example. The
		

			when we talk about heartbreak, not all heartbreak is created equal. All right? Not all heartbreak is
the same. So you might look at one person and you're like, How in the world can they handle this
tragedy that I couldn't even imagine. Whereas you find someone else, and maybe something that you
don't think is as big of a deal has completely shattered them. Right? So this happens in life,
you'll find, you know, one individual you can't even imagine how are they getting through this
absolute tragedy, and then someone else you maybe you don't really understand why it's breaking
them. Now, the first lesson here is that we really cannot judge. We cannot judge another person's
		

			pain. We cannot judge another person's trauma for sure. But why do we have sometimes these
differences? One of the reasons has to do with the nature of the attachment itself? What what did
this thing mean to me?
		

			Where was this? You know, this thing that I lost? What type of relationship did I have with it? And
more specifically, and in sort of the spiritual terms that I use in my course transformed is? Where
did it? Where did it reside in my heart? At what place? Did I hold this in my heart? Was it
something that I held? At the core of my heart? Or was it something that I had in my hand? You know,
this idea of where do we hold our gifts? Very, very deep concept. And I also talk about this, in one
of the chapters of reclaim your heart, is that where do you hold a gift, you know, when you hold a
gift, in the wrong compartment of your heart, let's put it that way. Whether it's an individual,
		

			it's a person that you were very attached to, maybe it's your job, maybe it's your money, sometimes,
and very often, it's your children. And you can actually love these people in a way that is
unhealthy. You can actually love your money in a way that's unhealthy, you can love your career in a
way that's unhealthy. And when you do that, losing, it becomes something that isn't just upsetting,
but it can become absolutely devastating. It can be a absolute devastation, depending on many
factors, but one of the factors has to do with the type of attachment. So what I do and transformed
as I cover the, the whole spectrum, sort of starting with attachments, understanding the nature of
		

			attachments, understanding, you know, what's the difference between a false unhealthy attachment and
a healthy attachment? And very important, what is the difference between love and attachment. And I
explain that when when we talk about unhealthy attachments, it is very, very different than healthy
love. Because some people can become very confused and be like, Okay, I don't want to get hurt. So
I'm just going to, you know, I'm just going to close myself off from everything, right? That's also
very unhealthy. Because obviously, we know, Mohamed Salah Salem, he loved his wife, he loved his
children, he loved his companions, but he did not have an unhealthy attachment to them. And in fact,
		

			nobody lost as much as he did look at I mean that the prophets, I seldom lost every single one of
his children, except one. You know, think about that, not just one, he lost his parents when he was
a child, he was an orphan. He lost his wife, he lost his uncle, he was constantly dealing with loss,
he had to bury all of his children except Fatima are the line her. So he knew loss. But he also
loved them. So how did he do that? How did he handle that? And, and, you know, you might say, well,
he was a prophet, but but in fact, he was a human. And we have to remember that he was a human, he
wasn't an angel. He was he was a human being. And Allah subhanaw taala chose him as an example. Why
		

			so that we can emulate him so that we can relate to him, we have to stop, you know, thinking about
prophets as something that we can emulate. Because what's the point then, they were sent as human
beings in order for us to emulate, right? We're not going to become like prophets. But we are meant
to emulate them. And that's why they were human, Allah subhanaw taala sent human beings rather than
angels to bring His message. So here we see that the prophets I send them, he dealt with heartbreak,
again, and again and again, how did he do it? And it begins with having these healthy attachments,
this the healthy type of love, you don't close yourself off, but rather you and you don't go to the
		

			other extreme, either, which is revolving your existence around these things. So So you know, we see
this, this extends to extremes, where on the one hand, there is the people who for self
preservation, they say, You know what, I'm just not going to love anything or anyone, I'm just going
to cut myself off, or I'm just going to harden my heart, right. I mean, maybe they love but they
become very detached, right, very detached, very hard, maybe they become numb as as a sort of a
		

			self preservation as self preservation and as a protect. This is, you know, a protective measure
that they use. And, and so by by becoming numb, though, that isn't healthy either. Keep in mind that
if a heart is numb, it also cannot connect to Allah subhanaw taala properly. Right. And you probably
have been through experiences like this, where maybe you dealt with trauma, and without healing that
trauma. You you became numb. And maybe while you were numb, you realize that it actually took away
your joy. Yeah, maybe it took away the
		

			sharp pain, but it also took away your joy. And maybe it also took away your closeness to Allah
subhanaw taala. So it robs you of, of maybe the pain, but it also robs you of the joy and the nd the
deep joy of connecting to Allah subhanaw taala. So numbing yourself isn't the solution either. But
then there's the other extreme where, where we actually revolve our lives around these objects of
attachment, whether they're our, you know, our, our children, our spouse, our parents, sometimes
I've heard many, many cases of people who actually have very unhealthy attachments to their parents.
Sometimes it's our job or money status. Sometimes it's just generally what other people think,
		

			right? We become so obsessed with that. And it becomes a very unhealthy type of attachment. And so
when we are tested in those things, it doesn't just break our heart, it shatters it, it devastates
us, it breaks us. And so understanding it at the root, where we talk about attachments, is very,
very important when talking about how to transform a broken heart and how to transform through a
broken heart. So this class is something that, like I said, I was able to really put it together
online and and make it accessible globally, right. So what it does is when you register, you get the
access, you get this lifetime access. But you also get the access to these, these live q&a is where
		

			it's a lot of time I just rattle through these questions, you get to interact with the material,
then you get to come back and ask your questions live. And you get these of course, all of this is
recorded, you get access to it. So if you can't attend live or you can't,
		

			you know, you want to rewatch any of the material you have all of that access for like for lifetime.
And registering for it, you can go to the to the link on the chat. But it's an mecanum zone online.
I've actually literally just launched today, the the access to register, it's just open today. So
basically, if you're watching this live, you're getting first access, it's just literally dropping
right now. And it's only going to be open for a limited time. So they just open registration for a
limited time. And then whoever registers during that time, inshallah will have that access. Now one
inshallah wrap up with this. When we talk about healing, right, when we talk about broken hearts,
		

			when we talk about why do we experience pain, there's a specific area in the Quran that always jumps
out. And and, and I think it really summarizes the formula for healing. And, and one thing I think
is so beautiful about this area, so this area, and it's two areas at the end of sorbitol hedge. And
in this area, Allah subhanaw taala, he addresses the prophets, I send them. And he says, first of
all, something that's so comforting, he acknowledges the pain that the prophesy centum is going
through. And I just I just want to say that, you know, there's a lot of research in psychology and
in counseling, that points to the fact that just having an empathetic ear is the majority of
		

			healing, when it comes to therapy, that they found that, you know, when they when they examined all
the different techniques of therapy and all the different techniques of counseling, they found that
the vast majority of it is just
		

			feeling that someone is listening, that someone understands and that someone cares, and that that
actually was the most effective aspect of of therapy. And that's so powerful, right? Because it's
exactly what Allah does. Allah subhanaw taala acknowledges our pain, Allah sees our pain, Allah
subhanaw taala says when I have ocra Bucha human Haglund worried And We are nearer to them, then his
own jugular vein, the jugular vein is our lifeline. The jugular vein is what keeps us alive, right?
If you and if you want to end like like when when when they're slaughtering an animal, then you go
for the jugular, because that is the quickest way to end the life. Our jugular is our lifeline and
		

			Allah is closer than that. So Allah is closer to us than our own life. Allah is closer to us than
our own self. He says we're not going to get caught up with a human hug Realty. So coming full
circle back to the idea of a professor, right? Where are the professors far away during our tests,
the professor can't help you. The professor has to sit in his or her chair away from you while
you're in your test. But Allah is not like that Allah is with us, with us in the test. And we are
not doing the test on our own. Allah is with us so long as we turn to him, so long as we're not
turning away from him in our tests, so long as we're not closing the door and just relying on
		

			ourselves. Allah is with us. And so Allah is near and Allah sees. Remember that Allah sees every
single thing that you're going through Allah Subhan
		

			fantasies, every tear that you should, Allah's fantasies, every wrong that's been done to you every
oppression, Allah sees it. And that in and of itself is healing, just having it be seen and having
it be understood, not just by a human being, and that's, that's its own, you know matter when it
comes to therapy and very important by the way, but that Allah also sees it. And first and foremost
Allah sees it, and Allah acknowledges it. You know, so many times in the Quran, I'm just blown away,
but how much Allah acknowledges the pain of people, you know, when he acknowledges the pain of the
prophets, I send them in this at the end of sort of a hedge. He says, I know that what they're
		

			saying is, it's hurting you it's, it's causing distress, you know, this narrowness in the chest. He
says, I know that it is it is hurting you. Allah is acknowledging the pain of the Prophet size. And
then Allah subhanaw taala acknowledged the pain of a woman who had to put her child in the river, he
acknowledged the pain of Musa and she's not a prophet. She's a, you know, a regular lady who Allah
subhanaw taala honors and acknowledges he acknowledges her pain. Allah subhanaw taala acknowledges a
woman who was complaining about her husband and so that then McGeady Allah, Allah sees, and Allah
acknowledges, so recognize that you're not invisible. You know, I think a huge part of why we suffer
		

			is when we feel like we're all alone in our pain, or that no one knows or no one sees. No one
understands, you know, this isolation, where people feel isolated in their pain, that is what
really, really makes people suffer. And if you can, if you can realize that you're not alone in your
pain, and that and that and that you're not
		

			invisible and that Allah sees and you know, subhanAllah one thing that totally blew me away is when
Allah subhanaw taala said in the Quran about only Musa the mother of Musa that he returned her child
to her and when he says why I'm just I was it like actually blew me away
		

			what other now Elomi he came to Korea I know how Allah Hassan so Allah says that we returned Musa to
his mother and look at why now this is really really deep just listen carefully. Kato quadro I know
her, so that her eyes so that so that she would have comfort? Okay, so so that she would have
coolness to her eyes is literally what it means. So that she would be comforted. Okay, so think
about this. And I just want to remind you, she is a woman, a woman in history, right? And she's,
she's not a prophet, she's a woman. Think about this, the pain of one woman was so important to
Allah, that he returned Musa and Islam to her, and then put it in the Quran. For the end of time,
		

			that this is how important the pain of one woman was. And Allah did something like he, he did. He,
he, he made this miracle happen, right, the return of Musa to his mother was a miracle, it was
divine intervention, he made this miracle happen, just so that one woman could have comfort, and
look at the next part, while and so that she wouldn't be sad. And I was so blown away by this.
Because I think that when we're when we're in the midst of our sadness, we sometimes might feel like
no one cares, or no one sees and no one understands. But look at this, look how important. And you
know, I think another thing that sort of happens when we're in the midst of sadness is that we feel
		

			like our feelings aren't that important. Maybe maybe because they aren't important to the people
around us. Right? Maybe we're surrounded by people who kind of,
		

			sort of, you know, like, de legitimize our feelings, or maybe diminish our feelings, maybe don't
acknowledge, don't make it very important, maybe sort of kind of, like, you know, get over it, or
like, you know, like, like, stop complaining or be grateful, right? And sometimes, because of that,
we might feel that our feelings don't matter, or our sadness isn't important. But Subhanallah look
at this, look at how important the sadness of one woman was to God, that he returned, he did this
miraculous thing that would be remembered until the end of time in the final holy book. Right? Why?
So that one woman could have comfort and that she wouldn't be sad. That's so deep right? Because
		

			you know, the K letter so what other now we let only K to zero? I know how well that lesson, so that
her her she would be comforted. And she would not be sad, while it's ILM and nawada LoJack. And then
the final reason that he says, is that social
		

			She would know that the Promise of Allah is true. So Subhan Allah, Allah sees the pain, Allah sees
the sadness. And Allah subhanaw taala as promise is true, what is Allah subhanaw taala as promised,
Allah subhanaw taala is promise is that if you turn to Him, and you depend on Him, He will always
save you. And just like he saved every single one of his prophets, and every one who came before who
turned to him, and who relied on him, he saved every single one of them. And subhanAllah we see this
throughout the Quran, he saved Yunus, from from this impossible situation in the belly of the whale.
He saved he saved Musa alayhis salam in this impossible situation in front of the Red Sea with an
		

			army behind him of Pharaoh. He saved Iacobelli Salam you returned usif to him and Binyamin to him.
He he saved hagit In the middle of a desert. What do you do in the middle of a desert, there's no
one there, there's no water, and you're alone with a child and you're near death. And he saved them
through miraculous means. And so this is what Allah does. He saves his slaves, he saves the ones
returned to him. And that is the most important takeaway, honestly, is that ALLAH SubhanA
phantasies. Allah subhanaw taala cares, Allah subhanaw taala understands. And Allah subhanaw taala
saves. And that's why when Allah subhanaw taala told the prophesy Selim and say, so he acknowledges
		

			his pain we know, Lord Nullam, Allah says, Indeed, we know that, that that it's constraining your
chest, what they're saying that it's hurting you what they're saying, the words of people are very,
very powerful. They can they can, they can build or they can destroy a person's heart. And so we
have to acknowledge that our words are very powerful, and words are very powerful upon us. And then
finally, ALLAH SubhanA, Allah says, He gives them the formula, he tells him what to do with that
broken heart, and the pain that's being caused to him for sebec behandelt obika or Stockfish know
Allah subhanaw taala tells him to actually to elevate or to to exalt Allah subhanaw taala.
		

			So, so there's actually two parts to this to this formula. One is that he tells him to exalt Allah
subhanaw taala so exalting Allah, making Allah subhanaw taala bigger in your life, that is going to
heal your heart faster, that when you exalt Allah subhanaw taala this, this facade. It doesn't just
mean saying Subhanallah but just exalting Allah's position in your life. Rather, so it's it's it's
facade the facade back behind the Rebecca. So it's, it's, it's exalt with the praises of Allah. So
you have here, it's exalting Allah in your life, but also hand hand is praising Allah, it's thanking
Allah, it's gratitude, right. And this is its own subject, which which I do touch upon in the class,
		

			but the but the power of gratitude, to heal. And then finally, what could mean a sedge dean? And be
among those who humble themselves? Who who prostrate. So the formula Allah sinusitis given the
prophets I send him in his time of heartbreak, is exalting Allah, thanking Allah praising Allah and
humbling oneself, humbling oneself, not to people of course, we are humbled with people, but when we
break we break to Allah subhanaw taala and humbling yourself to Allah subhanaw taala is the fastest
way to heal. According Cody Heather was stuck for a lonely welcome in our Hunan Rahim Subhanak Hello
behind that shadow Ana Illa, Allah and iStockphoto to like, encourage you in sha Allah to register.
		

			The link is on the chat. You know, please do you know those whether you're watching this live where
you're watching the recording, let us know your comments, let us know, you know where you're tuning
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community. It's amazing that this OMA is connected through La ilaha illallah all over the world and
and Hamdulillah we got technology to connect us we have technology to provide, you know this course,
which was before, not accessible, you know, all over the world. You know, I could only be at one
place at one time, but it hamdulillah it's made it accessible. We can get your questions live and
		

			show them when you register. But right you know, share with us share with us your thoughts, your
feedback, again, whether you're live or watching it recorded and let us know where you're where
you're joining from. Shall I look forward to seeing a lot of you know, in the class, you know,
coming up, it's just open today it's gonna it won't be open permanently. It's going to be closing
and Schulen just a few weeks and then in sha Allah once we launch the class and shall I hope to see
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