Yasir Qadhi – Rewards for Being Good to Family & Relatives

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The concept of "hams" in Arabic is used to describe a woman or family, and its rights include the parents. fulfilling family ties and being good to the entire family are important, and the importance of sharing love for family members is emphasized. The importance of learning one's own culture and family history to build a strong foundation is emphasized, and the need to deal with difficult family members and avoid embarrassment is emphasized. Consent to sharing a message of Islam and connecting with people who have cut off from one another is emphasized, and the importance of not letting family members get out of a situation and not letting them get out of a situation is emphasized.

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			In Al Hamdulillah Muhammad who want to stay in Ohio and still fiddle with that, oh the villa
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			Yeah Johanna SUTA Cora Kamala the Hala Coco MINDEF. Sinha Haider wahala come in Huzzah. Jaha Weber
Theremin Houma de Jalan cathedral one is what hola hola de Tessa Ilona be here well or harm in
Allah. How can I lead Cooperativa a Mulberry and we always begin our hotbar with this ayah from
Surah Nisa and it is something that is from the sunnah of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
that he would typically begin his sermons with this hope but that Hajra that is called and included
in it is the first verse of Surah Nisa and this verse goes as follows yeah Johann NAS Oh yeah,
you're living in Amman. Oh you believe it to Allah Allah to Allah to fear Allah subhana wa Tada it
		
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			Allah fear Allah azza wa jal who created you from a single soul, and from that soul created its
mate. And what Allah Hala de Tessa Luna b He will Erhan fear Allah. So it's repeated twice in the
verse, fear Allah, in whose name you ask each other for what you want, and also have Taqwa of our
ham. What Takala Halliday Tessa Otonabee he will or ham. Now this idea has caused our scholars to
try to interpret what does it mean that Allah is saying fear thee or ham? What are ham? What does it
mean to have Taqwa of our ham and what is our ham? Or ham is the plural of Rahim. And Rahim
translates as quite literally the womb. You call the womb of a woman you call it a Rahim. But of
		
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			course, there is a deeper connotation, and that is the connotation of family. The connotation of
family. The Arabic word for family, and for kinship is a Rahim from the word for root womb, because
obviously, all members of a family, they go back to one person or one couple, every tribe, every
group of cousins and second cousins, and third cousins, eventually they all go back to one womb. And
so the concept of family in Arabic comes from the word womb or Rahim, Allah says in the Quran, have
Taqwa of Allah, in whose names you ask things for and have Taqwa of our ham. What does it mean to
have Taqwa over ham? Our scholars have said this verse can be understood in one of two ways. Number
		
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			one, Allah is saying,
		
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			have Taqwa of Allah,
		
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			in whose name you ask people to give you things, meaning what you say I asked you by Allah helped me
by Allah, I asked you to help me. And in the name of the family, you ask people to help you. So this
means you will go to your brother, your cousin, you will say for the sake of family, we are brother,
we are cousin, I need your help. So Allah is reminding that the family unit takes care of each
other. Another interpretation is Be conscious of the rights of Allah, and be conscious of the rights
of the family, have Taqwa of Allah, and have Taqwa of the rights of the family. And both of these
interpretations are valid in the Quran. And what they imply is that the family has a pie privilege,
		
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			second to Allah subhanho wa taala. We all know in the Quran that Allah puts the rights of the
parents after Allah, this is true. But the reality is that the rights of the family come after the
rights of Allah and within the family, the parents have the most right. So in the Quran, you will
find versus that it's Allah and then the parents, but you will also find verses that it's Allah and
then the family. And there's no contradiction, because who deserves the most amongst the family? It
is the parents. For example, in Surah Al Baqarah, ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada says, way the hot Allahu
Mitaka Bani Israel he'll remember when Allah took the covenant with the children of Israel, you
		
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			What was this covenant? What was this covenant that they worship Allah subhanho wa Taala and they be
good to their parents will be they will koruba and their family, while your time and the orphans
while Moroccan and the poor, and Surah Nisa the exact same thing why would Allah want to show you
could be he che and why bill while he then he axon and won't be the quarterback while your time I
will Misaki in a while Jerry the quarterback will join me we'll saw a bill jump the same essential
commandment that Allah has commanded you to worship Him alone. And don't associate partners with
him, that you be good to your parents and to the relatives, and the orphans and the poor, and the
		
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			close neighbors and the foreign neighbors and the companions and the traveler and the verse goes on
and on. Notice, Allah mentions family, before even mentioning orphans. Allah mentions family before
even mentioning the full Quran and Moroccan worship Allah be good to parents and fulfill the ties of
the family and be good to the orphans and be good. So notice where does family come after Allah and
the parents comes the family and as we said, the family includes the parents. And in fact we learn
from the CRO of the prophets of Allahu Allah, he was seldom that in reality, this is of the very
earliest commandments, Ahmed of nabasa came from Yemen to Mecca. And he was searching for the truth.
		
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			And it's a long story we mentioned in the syrup. This is before the Prophet system began preaching
publicly. And he heard that there's somebody hiding in Makkah, or hiding means he's not public, not
hiding that he doesn't that people don't see him that he is not public in his message that is
preaching a separate message. And so I'm going to Abba he found out who the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam was, and he went up to him and he said, What are you meant? So the Prophet
salallahu Alaihe Salam said, No, Nebby I am a Nebby. So he said, Woman it'd be what is an OB? He's
never heard of an OB. So the President said out of Salah and Allah, Allah has sent to me, Allah has
		
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			sent to me and the Prophet and the ambit of an Abba said, What has Allah sent you with? What has
Allah sent you with? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, out of southern Allah who
Allah has sent me with what? Number one, that we worship Him alone, and we destroy idols. And number
two, that we fulfill the ties of kinship with Bill and Ersan. This was the only commandment at this
point in time, there is no other commandment, there is no Salah and zakah, there is no hedge, what
has Allah sent me with? Number one, that he'd be worshipped alone and no idols. And number two, that
would be good to see that will or ham, that will be good with those of our kinship and our ties of
		
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			real relationship. And if you see how clear this understanding was, when you look at other incidents
of the zero, when the Muslims migrate to Abyssinia, and the Negus, calls Java Nebuta. And he says,
What is your message? What has the process I'm told you? And once again, we find the same paragraph,
he has said, sent us to worship one God and to avoid false gods, and to be good to our family, and
to speak the truth and it goes on and on. But the second commandment was similar to our ham.
		
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			The same goes in front of the Emperor of Rome, the Roman emperor, when he hears of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he calls Abu Sufian. And he says, What does he teach you? What is
the prophets message, and Abu Sufian at the time was not even a Muslim. But he knew what the message
of Islam was. He said, He is teaching us to worship one God, and to be good to our family.
		
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			Look at how the message of Islam was perceived by the early converts, and even by the early
rejecters, both Jafar and Abu Sufian Jaffa is early convert of Luciana at the time as an enemy, but
both of them summarized Islam with the same paragraph. worship one God and be good to the thriller
tool or ham and Senator ham as we as we said, it means to be good to the entire family, not just
parents, siblings, cousins, uncles and aunts and the extended relatives. And the in fact, the
concept of fulfilling the ties of kinship is so strong that Allah commands the early Muslims to
guard the relatives more than to guard their relationship with them or has grown and Ansara which is
		
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			the highest status of the sahaba. Allah explicitly says that the family ties are even stronger than
the ties of the Mohawk children and the unsought and your love for them. Imagine that the family
unit and the family ties are stronger than
		
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			The love we should feel for the Mahajan and the unsolved and Allah mentions is in multiple verses in
the Quran of them. They sort of tell us that ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala mentions an EBU Ola Bill mininum
and unfussy him was Why did you Omaha to him? Well, oh no, our hammy bow go home. Be involved in fee
Kitab bIllahi min el Medina will Mahajan,
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is closer to the believers. He cares more about the
believers than they care about themselves. In other words, the prophets of salaam cares more about
you than you care about yourself. And his wives or their mothers was watching Omaha to whom? Well
all our ham, bow to whom I will be bow family members, they have to have stronger ties with one
another than even the meaning and then we'll hygiene should have ties with them. Now, the context of
the verse is primarily about inheritance primarily. But the wording is very clear. The family unit
is supposed to have very strong ties. And I already mentioned that in Arabic the word for family
		
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			comes from the word for rule womb, and that is a regime that all of you also know when you hear the
word Rahim that another thing comes to mind. And that is the concept of mercy or a hammer, or Rahman
it is from the same root. And this is not a coincidence in a hadith in Sahih al Bukhari in
admittance I hate Buhari our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when Allah created the
creation and he finished creating the creation, r Rahim stood up. Now how could the womb stand up?
How could the family stand up? This is from in Malay we do not know the family the concept of family
stood up. AR Rahim stood up and here we translate Rahim has the concept of family. Family stood up
		
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			and family said to Allah subhana wa Tada. This is the time now to seek refuge in you and to get the
status that I deserve. What is the status I have? So when Allah created the creation, everything has
been created. Family stands up however we don't understand how. And family the concept asks Allah
now that I've been created, I want to know my MACOM what is my MACOM in your eyes? And Allah subhana
wa Tada says, aren't you content that I shall associate with those who associate with you assume and
was lucky the Arabic is very powerful. Whoever associates with one's family, I shall associate with
them.
		
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			And UK firemen Kotaki. Whoever breaks away from their family, I shall break away from that person.
Aren't you happy? Aren't you content, that I shall be associating with those who are associated with
you. Whoever fulfills the ties of family, I shall be with that person.
		
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			And whoever breaks off the ties of family, I shall break off from that person. This hadith Sahih
Bukhari and Sahih Muslim the most authentic book of Hadith, what a powerful Hadith and what a
dangerous warning to those who cut off the ties of the family in a similar version slightly
different in Santa Ana Timothy and others. The hadith goes as follows that the ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada
says, so the person says that Allah says, Allah who will honor Rahman, I am Allah. And I am a rush
man. And I created the Rahim and we're under right man to rhyme. So there is a clear usage of the
term of Rahman and Orion. I am a Rahman, and I created the family. And I derived my name from the
		
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			Rahim Chak Tula Essman ministry. So from the concept of family, Allah is saying, I derive my name or
Ramadan. In other words, the name of Ramadan, and the concept of family are linked together, not
just linguistically, intentionally by Allah subhanaw taala, the word for family and the most
powerful name of Allah after Allah is the name of Rahman.
		
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			And Allah says, My name is Rahman, and from a right man I created a Rahim and from a Rahim I
extracted my name in other words, the two are linked together, family and man are linked together.
And that is why in the same Hadith, ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala says that whoever connects with a Rahim
has connected with me, right man, and whoever cuts off from Orion has cut off from me a ramen. So if
you want the wrapper from ramen, you have to be connected to the Rahim and if you don't want the
Rama
		
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			All right man, then cut off from the Rahim. This is what the hadith is saying. If you want Allah's
Rama, you have to be connected to the rhyme Silla tool or ham, the concept of connecting with your
kinship. And in fact, cutting off from one's family is one of the very few acts in the Quran that
brings about Allah's Lattner Allah is Lana is the most severe punishment. It is worse than Allah
either. Not everybody who suffers either is under Allah's law wanna hear me carefully, not everybody
who suffers I love is under Allah's Latinum because there will be many who will undergo either but
then be forgiven after that. There will be many who will be punished in Jahannam and that is Allah's
		
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			adapt, but then they will be forgiven and they will enter Jannah but there is a category that is
worse than Allah's either, and that is Allah's Laettner and Allah's law, Anna is the ultimate
punishment,
		
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			who will be given to what the Quran mentions around a dozen or so just two dozen and one of them,
one of the categories upon whom Allah Allah Allah is given is the one who cuts off the Rahim Allah
says in the Quran, when we're leaving well Lavina young Cadorna Allah him in the Mita he while
Yakata I'm not Allah who be unused Salah what you see doing out of Hola, hola, como, Lana to Allah
homes who are the ones who break off Allah's covenant. So to commit the major sins our scholars have
said, and the ones who cut the ties that Allah has commanded them to fulfill, why Yakata onomah I'm
not Allah who be unloosen and this is the family. So the one who cuts off the ties of the family,
		
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			and the one who spreads facade in the world, he spreads evil in the world, he's genocide and evil in
the world. These are the three people Allah says Allah, Allahu Lattner, they have Allah, Allah Anna,
and they shall have the worst abode in the hereafter. So of the people whom Allah has cursed in the
Quran, is the one who cuts off from the family. Now the question arises, what does it mean to
fulfill the ties of kinship? What does sila tool or ham mean? The Quranic term and the Hadith term
is similar to our ham. And by the way, I gave a quote, but he recently what is the very first
hutzpah that our Prophet sallallahu Sallam gave when he entered Medina, I gave a whole book about
		
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			that, that the prophets have said and said that, oh, people spread the Salaam and feed the hungry
will see our ham, and be connected to your relatives and feed and pray when everybody's asleep usual
intergender in Salem, notice of the earliest commandments even in Medina, we'll see Lulu or ham
Scylla to Rahim, what does it mean? Siddhartha Rahim, Silla and Wasaga means to connect what Salah
means to connect. And our Rahim as we said, means the family. So see that on our hand means to
remain connected with your extended family in a manner that is acceptable and according to the
culture of one's time. So what this means is that you are in touch with your family, it means that
		
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			you're showing them love, you're showing them kindness, you're showing them concern, it means that
you're aware of what's going on. Have the one of our scholars of the past said that giving salaam to
your relatives is of the acts of Senator ham, simply giving Saddam and of course, in those days,
there was no phone to get giving. So that means you have to visit them. So visiting your relatives
is of the highest acts of servitude or ham. Simply going out of your way to visit your relatives is
an act of Senator Rahim. And of course, in our times, we haven't hamdulillah the phones and the
WhatsApp and the messages and Facebook. Being connected with one's relatives is a sign of Eman, and
		
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			it is a part and parcel of what all of us are commanded to do. Now the question also arises to what
level is selected or ham necessary and mandatory and the response comes at the Shetty I did not come
with the specific coding guidelines, the Shediac came with general rules. And this varies from
culture to culture, and time to time and place to place. Obviously, our connections to our brothers
and sisters, our blood brothers and sisters should be much stronger than our connection with our
first cousins. And our connection with first cousins is stronger than our connection with our second
cousins. And it is human nature that after a while you lose track of your third and fourth cousins.
		
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			This is all something that is understandable. But definitely our actual siblings, brothers and
sisters. They have the most right over us after our parents and their children and our first cousins
and generally every one of us is aware of our first cousins we know all of our first cousins no
matter how many we have, generally we're aware of them. There should be a contact there should be
the occasional phone call. There should be the invitation over to happy occasions which is what
		
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			culturally is accepted and the norm and many of us are aware of a good quantity of second cousins as
well then again, the second cousin is not like the first cousin. But the point is that as the
strength of the relationship is stronger so to the ciliata Rahim should be stronger as well. And of
the greatest acts of Senator Rahim is to take care of financially of our family and extended family,
those that are in need. If you have anyone in your extended family, your cousins, your second
cousins, your third cousins, if you have anybody who is deserving of charity, then find them and
give them money over anybody else. In a hadith our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that
		
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			giving to the poor is sadaqa but giving to the relatives is both sadaqa and Seletar Rahim reported
in giving to the poor sadaqa that's good give to the poor, but giving to all CORBA the family this
is both sadaqa and being good to your family. And Allah subhanaw taala mentions that the Quran and
with this verse will always conclude the hood but what is the last verse everybody says around the
world in Allah Hi yah Maru with with what Bill Adley what ehsani was number three, what eata is
still CORBA giving money to the relatives. Allah is commanding you to give money to your relatives
who need money. So especially when it comes to sadaqa even when it comes to Zakat, and you don't
		
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			have to tell your cousin, your second cousin, you're giving zakat and it is not just permissible it
is most to have to give your extended family years ago and your saga now you cannot give the car to
your mother and father. But you can give the car to your your siblings and your cousins and your
aunts and uncles. Just the general rule is you can give zakat to them but not to your mother and
father and not to your son and daughter. But other than this, yes, you may give Zika and of course
you can give sadaqa to everyone. So sloturi Erhan means to show love to show kindness to show
compassion, to be in touch with them to invite them for what needs to be invited to visit them
		
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			whenever possible. And to help them financially. How far back does Rahim go? While there is no
limit, in the end of the day, every one of us is connected with everybody else. And I want everybody
to let that point sink and even though we know it, but every person you meet in this whole world,
even your worst enemy and your best friend and your acquaintance and your colleague, at some point
in time, the two of you shared the same womb. At some point in time there was one person in the womb
of a mother in the womb of a woman and the both of you are linked to that person at some point in
time, every one of us is linked to one another. So there is no technical term that after the third
		
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			cousin it is cut off. In fact in a very powerful Hadith a very strong a beautiful Hadith our Prophet
says and predicted to the Muslims in concert after Hoonah Mr. You are going to conquer missile
you're going to conquer Egypt, this conquering took place 10 years after the process I'm died but he
predicted it in a concert after una muscle you're going to conquer muscle. And the Hadith goes on
until he said when you can't create for us you know either Alia be good to the people whom you
conquer for in nella Han vim 10 will see that 10 Because they have the most status, they have
protection status, and they have family status with you. Now what has the Egyptian family status got
		
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			to do with the Quraishi and the Arab family status hundreds of generations ago who is the mother of
the Quraysh It is harder and where it's harder from Honduras from Egypt. But this is 1000s of years
ago, like literally thought we don't even know the number of ancestors. And yet our prophecies that
have said they are related to you their blood, their your blood, think about that. The Arab race at
the time of the process, and the Egyptian race have a different language, different civilization,
different religion, everything is there, they don't even look the same. Nothing is the same 1000s of
years have gone by from hudgell. But what are the process that I'm saying? Remember, they are in the
		
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			end of the day, your extended family. So there is no limit to when it comes to extended family. But
obviously the point being that the closer people are then the better and the stronger those ties
should be. And a practical advice brothers and sisters and I speak from my own experience here. And
it is a very, very healthy and a very interesting and a very Islamic project that it is I advise all
of you to chart out your own relatives and your own family background to chart out your own family
tree and to discover who your ancestors were and how you're linked with your extended family. This
is a project that will increase your own appreciation of your heritage and it will bring family
		
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			together you will be amazed you will caught up a third cousin you never knew existed and as soon as
you tell them oh I am so and so the son of so and so the grandson of so and so we're linked like
this
		
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			All of a sudden barriers or or you know, a broken doors are opened up and you connect with family
and you feel a part of family and I speak from my own experience having done this for the last six
or seven years, and it is a project that has brought me closer together with my extended family. And
every one of us should do this. In fact, this is what the Sahaba advised, Bob said to them, one Saba
can learn your genealogies, learn your family trees, so that will help you to fulfill the ties of
kinship and amongst the Arabs at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it was
considered to be a very noble science to know family history and genealogy and Abu Bakr Siddiq, Radi
		
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			Allahu Allah was respected amongst the Muslims and non Muslims of his time, because he knew the
genealogy of all the Arabs, you could ask him of any two Arabs and he would be able to connect them
no matter how many generations back it went. And it is amazing that to this day, especially the
tribe of barrage, you know exactly how any two core issues are linked together. When you go back to
the books of Sierra any Karachi with another Karachi they have preserved their lineage and their
history. But in our times, of course, all of this is now becoming a law science. Nonetheless, we
should keep it alive, especially brothers and sisters, we have broken away from our extended
		
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			families back home, and we're starting new families over here in America who don't even know maybe
even your first cousins your children have no idea who they are. So it is your responsibility to
pass that knowledge down and to keep it preserved. And this is of the ways we will come closer to
Allah subhana wa Tada. Brothers and sisters Allah says in the Quran for RT del Cordoba haka, who
will Myskina webinars Sebby give the rights due to your family and give the rights due to the
miskeen and to the Wayfair that ICA hyrulean let you know you don't watch her love it that is the
best thing to do. If you want the pleasure of Allah, and those are the true winners. May Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala make us of those winners, Barack Obama who would have been wonderful anyway, yeah can
be my favorite. It was declared Hakeem Akula Mathis Marone was tough for a lot of the money what
what they said was him you called them in for sell food, who in the Hall of affordable Rahim.
		
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			hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah. Hill wa had a had a summit Allah de la mia did what a mule Mueller
Voila, Mia Kula who Khufu and I had wobei two brothers and sisters. Every one of us without
exception has certain members of our family who are problematic to deal with and this is the reality
of human existence. Sometimes we feel oh, only I have that weird uncle or that harsh cousin or that
demeaning? No. Every human being is tested with family members that are problematic to our sanity,
our calmness, this is the reality and Allah says in the Quran, we have made groups of you to be
tests to others what your bowel doc only Baldon fitness and atoss bitone. We made groups of you to
		
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			be test and difficulties to others to see Who amongst you will be patient. And no doubt brothers and
sisters, that in dealing with such difficult family members, our iman will be tested. One of the
biggest tests of this life is to deal with difficult family members because we are battling between
our egos and submission to Allah. Really, that's as simple as that. It is our ego. My uncle said
this I'm not going to forgive him. My cousin did this at the wedding. I'm never going to stay say
salaam to me again. This is my ego speaking. And we know the commandment of Allah subhana wa Tada
when it comes to family. And it's very difficult to battle one's ego when it comes to the family
		
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			issues. But this is where Eman is demonstrated. Now, no doubt caveats here. No doubt if a family
member is physically harmful to you, we're not asking you know anybody to get physical harm. And no
doubt some family members are psychologically so traumatic, that it will affect your image or you
feel you will not be able to control your temper. So in those cases, when it's psychological, it's
no doubt that you need to act wisely and perhaps not expose yourself to a situation where you will
fail. But even if you decide that there's a psychological trauma, you don't want to be with this
family member, then make sure that that is a temporary intention. You are not allowed to boycott for
		
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			more than three days and boycotting a salon and in your heart make it your desire that insha Allah
will heal this over time some practical advice what to do with difficult family members, five simple
pieces of advice number one, number one, think long and hard about the source of the problem and
remind the source of the law meaning your egos I'm trying to say not the actual incident that
happened because always these incidents happen and remind yourself that the test is not
		
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			To prove yourself in his or her eyes, the test is to prove yourself in the eyes of Allah. The test
is not to come out looking the winner or the loser when it comes to your relative. The test is to
come out the winner when it comes to Allah on Judgement Day. Remind yourself of the verses of the
Quran of Ceylon or ham of the Hadith of the Prophet says I'm about the concept of family and ask
yourself, don't you want to come out the winner on judgment day? Number two, give any problem some
time. Time heals all wounds, time heals all wounds. This is of the facts of life, no matter how
bitter and angry or with your cousin today, in sha Allah one year from now it won't be that bad. Two
		
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			years from now it will be even better. So give it some time, and is of the greatest it is of the
greatest ironies of life for some bizarre reason, that at times of weddings when everybody should be
happy, family strife comes up, and perhaps the worst arguments take place. And it is the greatest
ironies, the ironies of life, that at the time of death, families are mended together and wounds are
healed that says of the sunnah to Allah if you're healthy, but why should we wait for death and what
if the person you're angry with dies don't wait for a janazah to healed wounds with members of a
family number three, number three make dua to Allah subhana wa Tala to soften your heart and the
		
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			family member whom you're having a problem with. Ask yourself this. If you cannot even make dua to
Allah to wound the hearts, then you really don't want selected or ham. Really it's that simple. If
you cannot raise your hands to Allah and say, Oh Allah, soften my heart and soften his heart so that
we come brothers again, cousins again, uncle and nephew again, if you cannot even raise your hands
to Allah and nobody's hearing you, this is in the privacy of your house and you say Oh Allah,
Cleanse my heart and his have any animosity, any jealousy. Let us be friends as we used to be, let
us be friendly as we used to be. If you cannot even make dua to Allah, then Allah you do not want
		
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			cinnamon or ham. So don't kid yourself and don't fool yourself that somehow he is the worst of the
two, even if he is what do you lose by raising your hands up to Allah and saying, Oh Allah guide him
and guide me to be close again. What do you lose? And remember what Allah says in the Quran,
regarding the pagans of Makkah, and the Muslims when they embraced Islam, the pagans of Makkah and
the Quran, when they embraced Islam, what does Allah say? You could never have imagined that you
will be friendly with those people. Low unfactored Marfil are the Jimmy and Matt I left the Boehner
kuruva him well I can Allah Allah for bainham if you spend the entire money in this world, you
		
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			wouldn't have brought those hearts together. But Allah was the one who brought those hearts
together. So of the names of Allah Yum, or elephant globe. Oh, who brings the hearts together. So
make dua to Allah with the name yam will live on Hulu, and that Allah joins those hearts number four
and then number five, we're done. Number four, try to begin with a positive gesture. Try to begin
with a gift with something good and be the better of the two and remember what our Prophet salallahu
Alaihe Salam said he doesn't say Behati the true wall says the True One who connects with his
relatives is not the one who treats the relative the way the relative treats him if your relatives
		
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			kind your current if your relatives mean your mean no, but true Watson was salad or ham. The true
connector is not the one who treats the same but rather the one who connects one the other has
broken off his head he doesn't say body. The true connector Walsall, the one who does Silla, taller
ham is not the one who treats the same. No, that's not Watson. But the one who when your relative
cuts off, you try to mend and you try to connect that is the truth. So the total ham and last but
not least brothers and sisters, if all else fails, then be selfish and do silicone or ham for your
own benefit. And this is completely halal and permissible. What do I mean by this? The last Hadith
		
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			will mention our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
		
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			Whoever wishes that Allah gives him a longer life, and that Allah increases his money and risk and
that Allah saves him from an evil death. Now, who amongst us does not want to live longer and live
richer and die a peaceful death? Think about that. The three greatest worldly incentives that are
possible to imagine
		
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			whoever wishes that Allah gives him a longer life, and more money and a good death for yourself.
Rahima Who let him be good to his family. hadith is authentic integrity, and a process and why is he
telling us this? Because sometimes all this else fails, and we just do it because we want more
money. We want more risk. We want more life and you know what is headed Why is it headed because we
know that we're doing it for Allah and Allah will bless it will bless us with risk in the end of the
		
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			It is linked to Allah and it is Allah. So if all else fails, be selfish for yourself in this case,
it's Helen. And you say, Oh Allah, I'm doing this because I trust you. And I trust your Rasul Allah
who said, If I have Eman that if I am the better person and I fulfill the ties of kinship, that you
will give me a better life and you will raise my financial status and you will let me die a peaceful
death. This is Emma and isn't it right? Because you're doing it because the process of them said so.
So it's all halal. And therefore brothers and sisters, it is permissible to use this as an incentive
to connect with those who have cut off from you. And we conclude this hadith with a stern reminder
		
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