Yasir Qadhi – Performing Tayammum; Dealing with Abusive Parents Q&A #24

			Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah who are the Adi he was so happy when Allah
Hammarberg Our first question today sister no see her Sorry sister Natasha emails and says that is
it allowed to do TM mum when we are embarrassed about doing will do or when it is awkward to do will
do and if so, how is their mom done? Okay, so in a situation where she's wearing hijab, she's in a
place where she cannot do will do. Can she do tell your mom? This is our question. Realize that term
mom is a divine gift that Allah gave to our Ummah he did not give it to any other OMA before us. It
is a gift that demonstrates Allah wants to make things easy for us and not to make things difficult.
		

			And Allah subhanaw taala legislated to your mum in the fourth or fifth year of the Hijra when in the
return of the expedition of the Prophet system where Aisha was there and her necklace broke the
famous expedition where her necklace broke, and she went out to search for it. And then what
happened happened, this is the expedition where they among verses were revealed. So when her
necklace broke, and she announced her the process and she doesn't have a necklace, so the process
and I'm camped and he sent people to go find the necklace, right? This is the love that he had for
our Isha even though it was not an expensive necklace, it had sentimental value. Turns out the
		

			necklace was underneath the camel. So when the camel stood up, they found that they couldn't find it
until the camel stood up. So it had fallen down and the camel sat on it. Because they were delayed.
They ran out of water because they were one stop away from Medina. And they were supposed to get to
Medina within 234 hours. So they had enough water to last them there. Because of the delay. They ran
out of water. And they didn't have water to do will do. So Sahaba went to Abu Bakr and began
chastising him look at what your daughter has done because of your daughter. We're all delayed. And
this is the reality of frustrated people. They take their anger out, firstly when they shouldn't and
		

			secondly on the wrong people. And believe me, I know this all the time. So they always take their
anger out on the wrong person. What has aboubaker Did Gotcha. It was the Profit System that said
we're going to remain here, but who's going to criticize so they go through Abu Bakr so look at what
your daughter has done because of her necklace we are stuck here. And when the delay continued and
they ran out of water, Allah revealed sulamani The verse six and in it Allah says we're going to
Mordor, our other suffering, oh, I don't mean criminal damage to myself and MTG Duma and Fatah am
Warsaw Eden per year, but from so Hobi will do a Conway D commit. And when this verse came down the
		

			same Sahaba who criticized Abu Bakr, they went back and they apologized. And they said, this isn't
the first blessing that has come because of your family or a worker, all of us have benefited that
we don't have to use water in extreme circumstances anymore. So Allah revealed to me in this
timeframe, and it is in the Quran, and the meaning of Tiger Mom, the linguistic meaning is to intend
something to want to do something. And the reason why we call tam monta anmum Is that all we need to
do is intend to do will do and we do the very minimal things and we have will, simply wishing to
doodle. And then Tom, we have although that's why Tom is called to moon, you just have to wish
		

			you're in Tahara. And you just do symbolic as we'll say, and you're in Tahara. That's why Tom is
called Tamil. The verse is comprehensive. It mentions the causes.
		

			It mentions the cases and it mentions the procedure all of it is in the verse. Allah mentions two
things in the verse that were in control mandala, O Allah suffering and olymptrade. You Duma if you
are sick, or you're traveling and you don't have water, this verse mentions these two cases. Some
scholars have added three which is a part of this we're going to come to and the verse also
mentions, whether you use the restroom, or you have touched women, this is in the Quran, which means
they are mom takes the place of both will do and also this is in the Quran. This is the beauty of
the verse is so small and yet so much is coming from it, when to do to mum how to do to your mom and
		

			the causes of Tamil all three are mentioned in this verse. So Allah is saying even if you come from
the bathroom, or in the language of the Quran, you have touched women, Allah does not use
vulgarities touching women means you have been intimate so in your state of Genova and you don't
have water, then what should you do fattier Mimosa Edom, the Yerba then intend to lift your taharah
sorry lift your Genova or state of not taharah with sorry dumper yerba pure sorry, from Sahara we
will do he come with a decomp wipe your hands and your face, wipe your face and your hands with it.
So this should
		

			owes us Tamil now. So he Buhari mentioned that once Ahmadi Binya sera was on a journey, and he had
to do also he woke up in a state of Geneva, he had a night dream, and he didn't have enough water.
So Amar said, I remove my garments in a faraway location, nobody was there, and I then turn naked in
the sand, all over the sand my body, to do to your moon.
		

			And I then prayed. Then I went back to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and told him what I
had done.
		

			And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Cana, Yak fika haka. All you needed to do was
this. And then he showed him for barber never use Allah Allahu Allah. He was seldom a vicar Fay Hill
are wonderful coffee him up for my mazahub Rahima watcher who will Cafe the Profit System, put his
hands on the sand, blue and then he wiped his face and his hands it was all you needed to do. The
shows us Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim the shows us to her mum is symbolic. Water doesn't become
sorry does doesn't become water. You don't roll over. You don't take sand and you go like this. No,
to your mom is symbolic. That's why it is called Tiger Mom You intend and so it happens and tiger
		

			mom is a gift to this Ummah that no OMA had before. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
Jewry that Leonardo masjid and what a hurrah, this earth has been made my masjid. And this earth has
been made a source of becoming clean. So the Hadith goes a Yuma whatever person of my ummah has to
pray, he will have his place to pray, and he will have the instruments to clean him with him. Now,
to us, we take it for granted the previous nations and to this day the Orthodox Jews follow this.
You cannot just pray anywhere you need a congregation. You cannot just use any water, you need to
use water that is found with a long list of conditions. You know, they're gentle, but they're
		

			hostile, they need to do it in their synagogues. They cannot do it the way that we do, they cannot
do it at home. When the ladies have to do household after the monthly cycle. They have to go to the
synagogue to do hustle because it's a special type of water that is not just to tap water. So the
prophets Allah Selim is saying, for us, our Lord has gifted us what has he gifted us with?
		

			Wherever we are, we can pray. We can pray anywhere. When it's time for Salah we pull the car over
and we just pray and it is allowed as long as the Earth is pure. And wherever we are. We can pure
ourselves purify ourselves if we have water and hamdulillah if not, tell your mom this is a gift and
a blessing to make life easy for us. It was not given to any nation before us. So how does one
determine goes without saying obviously as usual, all of them a diver have some minor differences,
we can just ignore them. I just want to teach you the basics for now. And whoever's advanced student
can go study within the madhhab what is their mum done? Scholars say three circumstances in reality
		

			it is two as the Quran says the third one is number two, the first 1x listed in the Quran, you are
traveling and you don't have water, Why did Allah say you are traveling and you don't have water,
because it is impossible to live at a location for a timeframe. Without water water you needed. You
know, within two three days you will die it is impossible to have life without water. However, it is
very common that you are traveling and you have to ration water. So the meaning of not having water
is that you have to save water to drink rather than to just waste. This is the meaning here that you
don't have water enough for you to purify yourself. And this is something the collective group will
		

			decide that look with this many people we have this much water and from now till we get to the next
stop. We don't have you know four will do something collectively common sense. And if you err on the
side of caution, no big deal because you need water to live. So this is something you make the
decision if you're alone or the group makes the decision if you are able to get water. So for
example, you have had an answer three and a half hours and there is a stop in America. Basically
everywhere you go you will find water generally speaking unless you're in the you know Gobi desert
or something and there's four hours with then a case that you are made with your mom. But generally
		

			speaking, if you can have access to water you cannot do to your mom, if you're going to find water
on the way if it is something reasonable for you to obtain. Now, question if you're going from point
A to point B and your house is in that direction, and water is only in Point C and that's 200 miles
and the other way you are not obliged to go opposite to your house because Allah has asked you to go
home. If you don't have water, you're ready to tell them you have just the water in your car to
drink. And for whatever reason you forgot to have water to do Tahara or you thought you'd get to a
gas station and you're driving there is no gas station. Are you required to drive
		

			to an amount or quantity that is unreasonable, what is unreasonable you use your common sense what
is unreasonable varies from person to person. If you're with kids in the car, maybe 45 minutes is
unreasonable out of your way. If you're all alone, you have the rest of the day like okay,
Inshallah, just go you make a decision. It's not a big deal. If this is something that is in
shallow, you make your personal conscious decision, but you are not required to travel an
unreasonable way out of your journey. As long as it's out of his on your journey that obviously
you're going to get there out of your journey. You're not required to do that. So if you don't have
		

			water, or you don't have enough water to use, number one, number two, Allah says in quantum model
da, if you're sick, there are a few sicknesses that you cannot use water, for example, severe burns.
You cannot just pour water on a severe burn. For example, hadith is in Abu Dhabi. A man was in a
battle and his skull cracked open, they put his wound banded it and then he had to do also he woke
up in the state of Geneva to do also so he said, Do I have to do put water supposed to be dry to
have to put water one of the people around him said, Well, you're in the state of Geneva and you
have to do also I don't find any excuse for you. And by the way, this is the problem of literalism
		

			and of Jehovah is the problem when you don't study Philander, Sharia and you take level one, if it
says it It must be the case Philip is not copy and paste because extracting the laws from the from
the text. So one of the Sahaba said now you have to do Jenna but also let's say you do it so he
poured water on his head, so festered wound, what happened, the wound, festered became putrid, and
he died. Before they got back to me they buried him when the process and found out he became angry,
and he said they murdered him, by that fatwa, that fatwa, they murdered him. Cthulhu they killed
him, I should say, Katana home Allah. It's a statement May Allah curse number seven. These are
		

			legitimate anger, your foolishness and overzealousness harmed a Muslim, but aloo cartera whom Allah
then he said, Why didn't they ask if they didn't know?
		

			Why didn't they ask if they didn't know they just give a fatwa? I think it must be the case. And
then the famous Hadith the same Hadith, Allah in Nima Shiva or IE a su al the cure to ignorance is
asking questions Allah says in the Quran first Allah decree asked the people of knowledge don't just
become mini Google move defer to Wikipedia don't do that ask the people who have studied field and
they will give you the response that is so the second reason if there is a wound or a state that you
cannot put water on it you have you may do a month on top of it and then some are gonna have added a
third which is under number two and they have said if the weather is so cold, and the water in those
		

			days will be freezing if you have to crack open the ice and the wind is blowing and you have to do
will do you might actually cause extreme hardship to yourself in such circumstances they said
humidity or mom now these days if you're at home, you can turn the hot water on and you don't have
the desert When freezing wind blowing at you I have had to do this by the way. And it's a judgment
call again, you know between Makkah and Medina in February and whatnot. Sometimes it is freezing
cold in the desert, you know, and it's not easy to do although if you have the him and you think is
going to be okay, you may quickly do it. And if you think especially with a child or lady that's
		

			sensitive, we're pregnant so you feel it's not safe for them in that circumstance you again it's a
judgment call if you think it's not safe and in reality this comes under number two because you're
causing harm to yourself you're not going to cause harm to you so so these are the conditions where
you may do it animal being embarrassed is not one of the reasons for so if you feel awkward to do
we'll do in a restroom where there's other ladies there or whatnot. That is not an excuse not to do
what you must do although of course you can always take a cup of water and go somewhere else and do
will do as well and you should all of you should learn how to do will do from a cup of water all you
		

			need frankly is even less than half a cup a one day I'll show you you can easily do will do with a
small amount of quantity of water and you can do it behind your car whatever no problem so that is
when do you do will do in the circumstance will say I'm sorry to Mom is also done as late as
possible before the salah so you delay the term until you have to pray and this is common sense you
don't do to your mom and then two three hours later you will pray because what if you were to find
water What if you come across you know gas station like you know you want to pray he's like okay,
there's three hours I'll just return home now. You don't know what's going to happen in those three
		

			hours before you pray. So the scholars say you delay your tell your mom until right before your time
to pray and then you do tell your mom and then there's a bit of a controversy does you're too young
mum last to the next salah. If you don't find water, there's a controversy and you have both
opinions and it's just safer. It takes less than two
		

			Two seconds to do to your mum. So you might as well just do it before the next Salah. So tam is
symbolic and the process them showed, I might have been set out to do it. How did the process of do
he hit his hands on the ground once with the intention to determine you just hit your hands. And
then he wiped his in the Hadith He says his face and then his hands up until the wrists. Okay, so up
until the wrist not until the elbows Okay, so it's just symbolic, okay. And some scholars, there are
other versions that say he wiped his hand and then his face. So again, both positions are found.
Which one goes first. But the point being the goal is not to transfer the sand to your face. That's
		

			not the goal. The sand does not become water. It's symbolic. In the hadith of Amar, he blew, why
would you blow to even remove even whatever is there? It is an issue of symbolism. And what is the
emblem done with? So the Maliki's and the Hanafis they said that tambem can be done with any
material that is on the surface of the earth. Because Allah says fathia Mimosa Eden per year, and so
I eat everything that's on the surface of the Earth, it doesn't have to be actual sand. They said a
rock a stone, even on the edge of a cliff or a mountain, you can just tap it and that is your
anything that is connected to the earth. And is there my own teacher even Northumbrian would always
		

			remarked that anything that dust settles on anything that dust settles on, it's symbolic. So if
anything, so you have now the issue comes dust settle on cloth? That's a good question. I'm not
gonna answer it. But suppose it was not the cloth on here. Suppose it was just this table here. And
it's in the open in public, it means dust is settling on it. Our teacher of entertainment allowed us
to do this that he would say that but if you want to be safe, and you wanted to get the something
soil, something that you know, any type of even rocks or something, that's fine, it's some, some
atoms are more strict about what you do no problem. So you, you put your hand over there. And then
		

			if you want to get rid of it, even blow it off so that there's nothing coming, no problem it is
symbolic, and then you just wipe your face and your hands, one or two madhhab. So you should also do
this some Setsuna and some of that is good. But the hadith of Ahmad is clear. The hadith of
ammendment, which is in Makati, and Muslim, the prophet sesamum, wiped and wiped and that's it. And
this is in sha Allah Allah sufficient. So once again, TM mom is allowed when you don't have access
to enough water, or when you are too sick, or it's dangerous to use water, and all that needs to be
known as intention. Tapping once, once again, some might have said once for the hands once for the
		

			face, but these are trivial issues. But tapping once and then you can wipe your hands and wipe your
face and that is done and then you just pray and think about the psychology of them. If Allah had
willed, He could have said, Just pray as you are. But we would have felt something in our hearts
don't have to and half the Hara. So to make our conscience at ease, Allah revealed a symbolic
tiamont that takes one second
		

			one one and a half. That's it, just to make our hearts comfortable that you have tried to Tahara and
that's why their mom is called to intend to try something. Yeah, ma'am. All right. It literally says
what's the rest of the Quran to
		

			know the other one? to mumble hubby Thurmond, who don't pick on
		

			what is it?
		

			Well, I am mumble hobbies I mean who don't intend the hobby throw term over here means intent.
That's what I want to say the showerhead is that the term is used in the Quran to mean intention. So
Allah revealed to us an ease to ease our conscience. This is the question about
		

			the second question today is a very difficult one. Sister says do not mention my name. So she is
sister anonymous. She emails a long email. She says we always hear about the rights of the parents
over and over and over again. How about the rights of the children?
		

			And how about the rights of those children who have been abused by the parents. Then she goes into a
lot of detail that I will not go into she basically says that I'll skim over it that you know that
her father was abusive to the point that when she's around him, she gets anxiety attacks. She gets
flashbacks she cannot breathe properly. Now she has moved on she's living separate and she is saying
that
		

			is it wise for me to visit to be a dutiful daughter or can I just make dua and let it be what is my
obligation to I have to serve him given that we have this past and she has some details of the abuse
so this is the question response
		

			It is obvious that
		

			the sister has had a very traumatic childhood. And my question and my answer to it is not therapy or
counseling, it is not addressing the psychological issue, it is addressing the issue, I advise this
sister and anybody in that situation that along with asking a chef and an Islamic person also
consult with a therapist and a counselor, clearly reading her email, she has a lot of trauma, it's
called, and she doesn't know how to unpack it. And chefs are not therapists, shares are not
counselors, we can give you the field, we cannot give you therapy. And it is a mistake to come to
any one of us who has Islamic knowledge with issues that require therapy, unless the person has
		

			trained in therapy, and I have not trained to be a counselor. And we need to realize that
		

			abuse comes in many forms. In this particular case, it was physical and emotional. Physical abuse is
of course, hitting in a way that is obviously you know, beyond what is normal, what is normal varies
from time to place to culture, when I grew up, it was much more common to hit. Before us it was even
more common to hit you know, and these days, you can go to jail for doing the same thing that we
would have happened maybe in the 80s. But it is something that is cultural, that how much is abuse,
and how much discipline is something and in our times, people are shying away from any type of
hitting that physical abuse means you do something that is traumatic physically, there is emotional
		

			abuse, by the way, these are five types of abuse, you should know them, there is emotional abuse,
what is emotional abuse, emotional abuse, is you undermine the individual sense of esteem, the
individual's humanity, constantly criticizing diminishing name calling, why were you born, you're a
nuisance to me. Imagine if a parent says this, in this particular case, the sister mentions her
father would always say I wish you had never been born with a biller with a biller. This is like you
haven't killed the daughter physically, you're killing her emotionally, what type of father would
say this, what type of person would say this to a biological child of theirs that you We wish you
		

			had no trouble with it. But just imagine that level, right? Constantly, any criticism comes out, I
wanted to avoid this and that whatever it is, that is being said, this is emotional abuse, where
you're constantly diminishing, what's going to happen to a child being raised in that type of
environment, how will they feel the third type of abuse is, of course, one of the worst types that
sexual abuse and we all know what that is. And the fourth type of abuse is economic abuse, economic
abuse is that a person of means and wealth does not spend of that means and wealth on the family,
when the family is not living a comfortable life, even though the bird breadwinner has enough to
		

			know obviously, if he doesn't, then they're all suffering together, we're talking about a stingy
person. And this is literally all of these are five types of boredom. This is economic abuse. And
then the fifth is psychological abuse. And psychological abuse is similar to emotional except that
over here, psychological abuse is fear of intimidation, it is a threatening, that doesn't actually
result in an actual physical, but a threat. If you do this, I'm going to burn you if you do this.
This is like psychological torture, that is done to a person. So these are five common types of
abuse. And it must be said here, parents, adults, learn to recognize these types of abuse, and
		

			monitor in your immediate families. If somebody is abusing a child, within your own family, who is
going to protect that child other than the extended family, think about this. If you have somebody
who is doing one of these types of abuse to a young person, it is our job collectively to come in
how else will this child be protected if it is being abused in its own house, and it is your cousin,
your brother, your in law, whatever, it's must be our job to monitor collectively, and then take the
necessary steps. And perhaps we might have an entire conference about this issue, because we need to
teach the community how to recognize abuse, what to do in the case of abuse, and in fact, some abuse
		

			according to the law, if you are quiet, you will be prosecuted according to the law of this country.
And honestly, it's a good law. You cannot ignore some types of abuse and you see it in front of you
and you don't do anything about it. We need to teach our community so we need to be careful about
recognizing these types of abuse and parents, the sisters email, it really shattered my heart it
really was traumatic to reach you went into detail or you already heard some I'm not going to
mention all of it even though she said you can mention the detail but I'd rather not go into the
point is that parents we need to be cognizant that our children also have Hawk over us. They have a
		

			heck over us and if we overstep that, if we crossed the line, they can complain too.
		

			Allah on judgement day that my parents did allude to me being a parent doesn't mean you get away
with anything. Being a parent means that comes with responsibility. And we see now in the case of
this daughter that she is now an adult she's left the household. She is saying visiting my father
makes me palpitate breathing his heart at an attack or do you call the panic attack? Visiting brings
back all of that. I cannot even see him because she obviously has a detail what is going on? And
what is to be said in this case, what is the 50 ruling over here? This young lady has now grown up
and her sense of self worth she has and hamdulillah she's overcome to the point of of starting a
		

			life but now when she goes back, she feels diminished. She feels deja vu all the way back. So
response to her. Firstly, dear sister, before you get to the fifth, please go see a therapist and
counselor and unpack all of this trauma that you have I cannot help you there you need to go to an
expert in this regard. Secondly, when it comes from a family perspective, ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada
mentions in the Quran, Allah you can live alone Epson Illa Wasa, no soul is burdened with more than
what it can bear. And if there are circumstances where you start suffering, panic attacks or
hyperventilating or palpitating, Allah is not calling you to do something that is unreasonable and
		

			beyond your, your bearing capability. And our Prophet sallallahu sallam said, la Bharara while there
are, this is a principle of fix, there shall be no harm inflicted, nor shall there be any harm
given. This is a general principle, no harming anybody. So if she is being harmed, psychologically,
emotionally, and in this case, her father was physically and emotionally abusive, physically, he
would discipline too harsh, and emotionally, she has these phrases in her mind drinking all the
time, this is abuse. And in this case, if she cannot overcome it, then she is only obliged to do a
bit revalidate what she is capable of doing. So if she is financially stable, and they need some
		

			money, she can send an amount, indirectly, she doesn't have to go and handle it herself. Point is,
there are still some duties, and the duties are diminished in light of the volume that has happened
to her. To the extent that if it is such a harsh form, that she is frightened for her life, there
are no duties upon her. There are parents that physically harm their children Subhanallah, every
once in a while we hear of a bizarre case where a parent would be like kills their child, this
happens, it's human nature and society, it happens it's against the fitrah. But we find this are you
going to tell the child in this society or sorry, in that circumstance, no, you still have to go,
		

			no. So listen to this rule, the more the volume increases, the less the hook are there Simple as
that, the more volume has been done to you, the less it is diminished, that you have to give back.
And you have to make a judgment call in your own conscious in front of Allah subhanho wa taala. And
		

			the Sharia does not burden you with more than you what you can bear. And that's why as we know, in
the Quran, we're either molded to suit, the demand Cotulla even that baby girl that is killed, the
father does not have the right to just kill. This is VO and Allah will call the parents to task for
them done to the children. So this is something both parties need to be aware of. As for the sister,
we say to her, that Allah has tested you to raise your ranks Be patient. And also, also,
		

			please reach out to other family members and try to get some type of intervention and
reconciliation, have somebody approach the father or whoever is the perpetrator. That is from the
family, because you never know. Maybe he might be repentant now and turn over a new leaf and ask for
forgiveness, which is the ideal situation in which case, forgive for the sake of Allah and you will
be forgiven. Or maybe maybe he doesn't realize the severity of what he's done. And he's in his own
clueless world. And he doesn't understand now why the doctor is treating us so harshly and he needs
to be told no, you did these mistakes or whatnot. Or maybe there is a perception issue where she
		

			might have perceived something more than it was all of these are possibilities. She shouldn't just
let it be. She should not be satisfied with status quo. Don't just give up. Go through cousins,
uncles, aunts, the mother, if she's still, you know, on the same side or whatever, but try your best
to see what can be done and don't just be satisfied with status quo. If it still doesn't work, and
there is adamant or arrogance or whatnot locally for long enough son in law was and you are not
obliged to do more than what is necessary. And the same goes for parents that have been missing
		

			And I've had a number of cases that come to me. And they say, for example, my father completely
abandoned us when I was born. And he completely walked out of our lives. Now, when I'm 3035 years
old, he has rediscovered us, and now he wants my money and whatnot, you know, and the brothers like,
Why should I, after he's done to my mother, and it's obvious, there's a lot of anger over there. And
the response is the same as much looting as was done to you have the right to diminish, but there's
always somehow always some hack, because in the end of the day, it is your father or your mother. So
you have to do what you can that is reasonable to do. But there is no question that somebody who has
		

			done volume does not have the same coke. As somebody who has been generous and kind. There's no
question about this loud bottle will drop. Then the final thing that needs to be said in all of
these scenarios is that
		

			make dua to Allah subhanho wa taala. Make dua don't just let it go. Do our solves everything. Our
shady AI teaches us that Allah is the One who brings hearts together. Allah is the One who can label
Karup Allah is the one law and factor Marfil are the Jimmy and MA left the bane of all obey him
Allah can Allah Allah verbena, if you tried every way to bring reconciliation, you couldn't have
done it. If you spent the whole world's money you couldn't have brought them together, Allah azza wa
jal brought them together, you do not know what will happen. So don't be satisfied with status quo.
Being satisfied with the status quo is not good. It might even be a sin. Try through your ASVAB and
		

			then through Allah azza wa jal make dua to Allah to soften his heart, your heart, try to mend ways
in this dunya before the accurate and may Allah make it easy. Final point for all of us here,
parents and children.
		

			We both have an obligation to each other in this regard. And on Judgement Day, Allah tells us that
parents and children will run away from each other in the Quran, literally, why will they run away
from each other? Why will they run away because of these records.
		

			On the Day of Judgment, the father the mother that has done volume to their own son or daughter,
when they see their son or daughter, they will run away because they will know today is the day that
Coke will be responded to. So any parent who is mistreating abusing or with a biller or with a
biller, a child or other biller. Remember, that's what the Day of Judgment is for. And you and that
child will be in front of the court of Allah azza wa jal, and everything will be plain. You don't
want that day do not do not do volume to people who cannot defend themselves. The Prophet CISM were
warned us the greatest boom is against the alpha, the people that cannot defend them. The greatest
		

			dome that you can do is against those who cannot defend a child mistreating a child or will be left
physically abusing sexually oh the villa with the villa and be monitoring this this is one of those
taboo topics we don't like to talk about. But it is a cancer in all of our societies, not just
ourselves every we know what happened in another faith tradition when it tried to hide what happened
we cannot do this. We have to address this head on and that is why maybe inshallah soon maybe before
after Ramadan, we're gonna have an entire seminar about abuse and recognizing abuse, understanding
what constitutes abuse, learning what are techniques we can deal with, because we don't want this in
		

			our community or in any community. We want to be communities of compassion and love. May Allah
subhanaw taala make all of our families families have love and compassion and protect all of our
children and women and all innocent one and a shallow Daddy will continue tomorrow in our Halakhot
cinematic Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh