Shaykh Yasir Qadhi provides elaborates on the Islamic principle of reconciling broken ties, bonds and kinship as exhibited in verse 63 of Surah Al-Anfal.
A secret group is permitted to be formed to bring good and that which gets the Ajar of Allah:
- If one is coming together for a charity
- Reconciliation between two fighting people or the one who have severed ties with their kith and kin.
According to a famous Hadith, there is something far better than Sadaqah, Siyam, and Salah and that is bringing those ties of kinship together.
More so, even though lying is Haram in all forms in Islam, it is till permitted to bring two people together who have not been on good terms.
The concept of bringing reconciliation between people and forming deeper relationships is emphasized, along with the importance of avoiding breaking ties and causing problems. The Prophet sallati's teachings during the month ofFinancial, including the crisis between two tribes, are discussed as critical. Forgiveness and bringing people back together are emphasized, along with providing gifts and being honest with words. forgiveness is emphasized as a key component for building deeper relationships.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Ali, he was happy he won by Allah. Am I
bad?
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Turn on verse 63, Allah subhana wa Tada. So let's unfold verse 63, which decided at the beginning of
today, Allah subhana wa tada mentions one of his signs, one of his miracles, one of his blessings.
And he says what I left her being a fool obey Him. He brought the hearts of the believers together.
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if you were to spend all the money in the world, you would not be able to bring their hearts
together. But it was a loss of Hannah, what's Allah who managed to bring their hearts together? So
the concept of bringing people's hearts together, the concept of bringing reconciliation, the
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concept of solving internal problems and coming back together again. Yes, it is true. It is a
blessing from Allah, and it comes from Allah. But Allah has commanded us to try our best to form the
bonds of brotherhood. And in this month of Ramadan, it is especially important that we look at our
heart. Who do we have a problem with? Who do we have an issue with? Whose ties have we cut off? A
lot of commands us in this same Surah Surah 10 and file verse number one? Yes, aroona cannon and
fan, put it and follow the law What are suited for telco law while asleep without
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fear Allah subhanho wa Taala while asleep without a beanie can reconcile the bonds that have been
broken between you. So Allah commands us any bonds that have been broken, and the ties of kinship
and the friendships that we had. Allah says join them back together again, reconcile them back
together, we'll also clear who that been a con. And this is an Islamic concept that Lee fell Kuru
Islam that obeying the Quran and Sunnah is full of this concept. If you have a problem with your
brother, your cousin, your uncle, your friend, if you have a problem with an acquaintance, and you
have broken off ties with them, you're no longer on speaking terms. You have a problem in your
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heart. Allah is commanding you will also do that beignet can form those ties again, get rid of that
evil that you have, and be as you were, and Allah subhana wa tada mentions in the haoran La Jolla
Rafi casita Min najwa. Home, there is no good in people meeting secretly doing things behind
people's back. There's no good in that in LA but there are exceptions. Number one, if you're coming
together for a charity project, the sada Katyn oma ruforum number two a good or number three or
trying to bring reconciliation between people, two people are fighting husband wife or having an
issue two brothers are not talking and you form a secret group not to bring worse but to bring them
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back together. Allah says whoever does this from an EFI logic whoever does this then indeed his
budget is with Allah subhanahu wa tada and therefore brothers and sisters in this month of Ramadan,
let us look at our hearts. Let us look at our relationships. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
said, and this hadith is so relevant on Ramadan, as we're praying, as we're fasting, as we're giving
charity, and it is an Abu download, our Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Do you want to know what is
far better than sadhaka and salah and Sam? Do you want to know what is better than fasting and
praying and giving charity? They said what could be better? He said his law was that till been
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bringing those ties of kinship or the ties that were broken, you bring them back together again. So
here we are standing in prayer, fasting every day, inshallah giving charity and our Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, there is something far better than all of this, and that is to
form the bonds back together again. And in fact, in a famous Hadith in Sahih Bukhari we learned that
one of the very, very few times that the Prophet system was not able to pray the Salah in his Masjid
on time while he was not traveling. As you know, when he was in Medina, he would be the Imam. Nobody
else would be the Imam when he was in Medina, unless he is outside of Medina, one of the few times
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where the prophets are some was not available and is and is, given the comments given they don't
know what to do. We learned in the Hadith in Sahih, Bahati there was a problem between two tribes
and they had fought physically together and it was outside of Koba. And so the profitsystem said,
Let us go and let us reconcile between those two tribes. So he left and the Salah was called, they
didn't know what to do, and they
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put somebody else Some say was a behavioral sciences. Okay, so do the point is our Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was delayed from coming back for the Sadat because he had something that
was bringing people together again. And Allah subhana wa tada mentions in the Quran, that of the
characteristic of the believer, while Calvin and Alba are here and in US will law who your head
bullmore sin in, there are those who they control their anger, and they forgive the problems that
have happened. And then they go beyond that. And Allah loves them more sin. And the more sin is the
one who does more than he needs to do, the more sin when somebody's broken away from you, you form
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the ties with them. So Allah says the one who controls the anger, that's the lowest level number
two, the one who then forgives. And then number three, the one who then makes up the ties. And
again, Allah says in the Quran, that woman alpha was a slur, have a Jew who Allah, the verse goes,
if somebody does a sin or a crime unto you, you have the right to do the same crime back onto him,
somebody does something bad, you can do the same thing bad. But then Allah says, from an alpha, a
slot. But if you were to forgive, and you join the bonds back together again, you make Islam back
together again for a judo who Allah Allah, that reward will be with Allah subhanho wa Taala, that is
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the highest McCombe to forgive, and not just to forgive, to forgive and forget, it's a minimal level
that's good. If you forgive and you move on with life, that's good, but the highest level to
forgive, and then to form those bonds again, to make Islam that till Bane. And it is true, that is a
blessing from Allah. But we have to try our best to form those bonds again, you know, we know in our
religion, that lying is always how long we know that we are never allowed to say something that is
not true. But our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, it is not considered kayfabe if you say
something to bring two people together again, think about that Hadith, it is not Kevin, it's not a
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lie. If you say a positive, obviously, you're going to say something nice, you're gonna say
something sweet. You're gonna say for example, you know, I was with so and so. And he regretted that
you guys had a fight. He said, you know, let's, you know, he had a bad you know, he felt guilty.
Then you go to the other person, you know, I was with so and so. And he expressed remorse. And he
wanted remorse he wanted to bring come back together. So you put these positive ideas in each
other's head, and then you bring them together, our Profit System said to do that is not considered
credit. That is not lying. Can you imagine you're allowed to say something that is not 100%
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accurate, but there's a greater goal. And that goal is to bring to people who are not talking to
people who are not on good terms. You're bringing them back together again, brothers and sisters in
this month of Ramadan. This is the month of forgiveness. Don't you want Allah to forgive you? Allah
will forgive us when we forgive others. Allah will forgive us when we have clean hearts because he's
been sending him having a pure heart with other people. This is the month of reconciliation and how
many times brothers and sisters have people fought sometimes even siblings or uncles and aunts or
whatever cousins, and then death overtakes the one of them and unfortunately, it is too late to make
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a slaw that Sylvain, nothing is so bitter. No argument is so bad that you should break the ties of
kinship because of them. This is the month of Ramadan, be the better of the two parties. Be the
higher be the one who has the upper moral ground. Do something positive send a gift send a good
word, make a phone call, send a letter or an email be the one who is of the higher ground and Allah
subhanho wa Taala says respond to evil with good lo and behold the one who was your worst enemy when
you are sweet and kind to him, he will become your best friend. And that is a station nobody can do
it except the one whom Allah subhana wa tada allow us to do. I conclude brothers and sisters by
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stating that yes, indeed, to at least one of the names of Allah yam or elephant holub is the name of
Allah indeed it comes from Allah, but we have to work to try to get it and one of the ways we do
this number one is my good speech. Good talk number two buy gifts. Our Profit System said give gifts
you will love one another. Number three, buy genuine Doha and how can Allah subhana wa tada turn
away that beautiful sincere do out when you raise your hands and you say yum or LA Falco lube. I
live by Nakuru Bina oh one who joins the hearts join our hearts back together again. Then make this
sincere do app and you know what brothers and sisters Your heart is full of anger. But when you make
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that it will dissolve that anger. Your heart is full of bitterness. You want to have thoughts of
revenge because of whatever. Well lucky every one of us we go through these things. Somebody says
something, somebody does something and it makes your heart so full of anger. What you need to do
turn to Allah for this
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sake of Allah forgive not for the sake of the other one be the better of the two and so three things
sweet words and and and gifts and then do our to Allah subhana wa tada and the rest is up to Allah
if it so happens that it doesn't you know happen at least you tried but don't give up, give it some
time as the English saying goes Time heals all wounds, give it some time then try again and then try
again and then try again. At least Allah subhana wa tada will see from few from you that you are
being the better of the two. The final point for the famous taburiente. He said that the one who
holds a grudge versus the one who forgives, the one who holds a grudge in his heart is the one who
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will suffer more. And the one who forgives is the one who will be at peace. Why? He said because the
one who holds a grudge will be tossing and turning at night thinking how can I get my revenge back
even sleep is deprived because his anger is so full in his heart and the one who forgives will be
sleeping peacefully. His heart is at ease. So even if you don't do it for the other person, do it
for your own self and your own sanity forgive have a clean heart and then try to make amends and
indeed it is from Allah subhana wa Taala but the trying is upon us and the DA is upon us. May Allah
subhana wa tada unite all of our hearts May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us with pure and clean
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hearts. May Allah subhanaw taala remove the Hickton the hazard and the zeal that is in our hearts
May Allah subhana wa tada causes us all to meet him on Judgement Day with nothing but love for our
fellow believers walk through that one and hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salaam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato