Yasir Qadhi – Living Through the Lens of the Seerah
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The speakers discuss the importance of stress and regret, stressing the need to avoid harm and regret, avoid loss of life and personal pain, and avoid tragedy and anxiety. They emphasize the importance of not giving up, not giving up, not giving up, not giving up, and not giving up. The principles of Allah's concern are also mentioned, including not giving up, not giving up, not giving up, not giving up, and not giving up.
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Now brothers and sisters, time is limited. This
was also my first trip to your beautiful,
beautiful country,
And the topic is very, very pertinent and
relevant. And that is practical lessons from the
Sira. How can we examine the Sira and
extract from it practical lessons from the sirah?
And in particular today's topic, I chose a
motif or a theme that is relevant to
all of us. That is relevant to every
single one of us. And that is what
does the seerah teach us
about dealing with life's problems?
Dealing with stress,
dealing with anxiety,
dealing
with grief,
dealing with pain,
anguish, depression.
What does the sierra teach us to overcome
personal tragedies? You see,
some of our youngsters,
they look at Instagram and TikTok and Facebook.
I think Facebook is old. You guys don't
use it anymore. Right? The youngsters. But they
look at social media and they follow these
celebrities online.
They follow these ideal couple or some figure
they look up to and they say to
themselves
I wish my life was like that person.
That person is living the life.
That person has no problem.
That person is always happy. The picture they
have on Instagram always smiling, always traveling, always
doing this and that. And so they think
to themselves, I wish I wanna be like
them. But they're still young.
The elders, I hope don't think like this
because I'm gonna teach you youngsters a fact
that you should understand.
There is nobody
on earth.
There is not a single
human being.
There's not one of you in this audience
including myself
except that
there are troubles in their heart.
Causes for anxiety,
stress.
There are things that bring us remorse and
regret.
There are aspects
that cause us sleepless nights.
There are issues
that whenever we have a quiet moment or
maybe even we don't have time to have
a quiet moment, these issues come up and
we start thinking and stressing and wondering how
will I solve them.
Every human being on earth
has stress inside of himself herself. Now I'm
not saying the stress is equal.
I'm not saying it's all the same. What
am I saying?
Nobody
has
full happiness
in the heart in this dunya.
Why?
Because this dunya is not the abode of
happiness.
You will not find
eternal happiness,
full happiness
in this dunya.
Anybody who thinks so is mistaken.
Every human being
is undergoing
multiple
troubles
simultaneously.
Again, I'm not saying it's the same.
I am saying if you
think
that somebody is living a stress free life,
if you think somebody is living in perpetual
daily happiness,
you are wrong,
incorrect.
Every human being
has
internal
problems,
internal conflict,
internal regret,
internal anxiety.
And usually,
in fact, the default,
we all have stress from multiple factors.
And it varies from person to person.
Subhanallah. This is the weakness how Allah created
us.
The same issue,
its absence will cause stress in one person
and its existence will cause stress in another
person.
The same issue. If we have it, stress.
If we don't have it, stress.
I'll give you the classic example,
money.
Most of us aspire to have money.
Most of us are struggling to have money.
And we think to ourselves,
oh, if I reach that goal
and what is your goal? I don't know.
1,000,000 shillings, 10,000,000 shillings, I don't know. If
we reach that goal, I will be happy.
SubhanAllah.
If you only understood,
I swear to you the people of wealth,
the number one cause of their stress is
their wealth.
The stress they have because of their wealth.
You know when the stock markets crash in
America who commit suicide? It is the multimillionaires.
It is the wealthy, the elite.
The stress of having to deal and manage
and the fear of losing that money.
And we who don't have it, we are
stressed because we don't have it.
Allah test some people they don't have children.
The stress of not having children
makes them so
anxious,
so full of and they said, if we
only had children we would be happy.
And those of us whom Allah has blessed
to have children, perhaps the number one cause
of stress is those children. This white hairs
we have, alhamdulillah, have now 3 teen well,
now the teenagers are older, but because of
those teenagers, the stress comes. Alhamdulillah. But that
is what it is. Correct?
The ones who have it, stress because of
it. The ones who don't, stress because of
it. Okay? Some of you are single, not
married.
You're stressed out thinking, oh, once I get
married,
I will have
perpetual happiness.
Those of you that are married.
So the point is,
the issue that Allah
has created in this dunya that is universal,
stress
is universal.
Anxiety
is universal.
Internal
conflict,
worrying,
always something to worry about.
This is human nature.
Because dear Muslims
to live stress free,
to live without fear,
to live without anxiety
that
is ahead of you in Jannah.
That is
darus salam.
What is darus salam? It's not the capital
of Tanzania. I mean it is but it's
not what we're talking about
here. Yes. Darus Salam.
Allah is calling to Darus Salam.
Dawus salam what does of course is Jannah.
What does dawus salam mean?
Dawus salam means
the abode
of no worry,
the abode of perpetual happiness,
the abode of peace.
Allah is calling you to darus salaam. You
will not get darus salaam in this dunya.
You have to understand this from the get
go from the beginning.
Darus Salam is what you want. That's the
goal. That's the destination.
It's not in this dunya.
So we began this talk, this is the
introduction
to clarify
that every single human being on earth and
every one of you and every one of
us including me,
internally,
there's so much that causes us worry and
pain and anguish and regret. We're worried about
the future. We're worried about finances. We're worried
about parents, we're worried about family, about job,
security,
civil society, the government, country, civil war, world
war 3, fadastiin ghazah, things go on and
on and on.
What can we benefit from the seerah
in dealing with distress and grief? That is
the topic today. Now time is limited. You
should know I have spoken about this topic
in full day lectures like 5, 7 hour
lectures. We only have now 45 minutes. I'm
gonna summarize for you some aspects inshallah. So
realize this is a much longer topic and
we have to summarize it.
InshaAllah. After salatul Isha, we have an open
Q and A. So I wanna do this
topic as a bird's eye view. I wanna
make some important points so we understand and
understand, of course, that this is a much
longer topic. Perhaps maybe Allah wills. One day
I might come back to your beautiful country
and city and Masjid and maybe give a
full day seminar where we go into a
lot more detail if this is something that
Allah wills, alhamdulillah. But what we can do
today insha'Allah will benefit collectively.
So I begin
by pointing out an important principle or rule
that we must understand.
We must understand
that if Allah
has willed that dawrul salam is ahead of
us,
then this dunya will not be
which means
which means
every human being
will be tested
with different types of stress.
And we learn from the your
iman,
listen to me carefully,
will not necessarily
protect you from the stress.
Your iman
will not necessarily
protect you from the anxiety,
from the grief.
This is a misconception
that many Muslims have.
They think to themselves,
if I am pious
Allah will give me zero stress.
They want to barter transaction with Allah. They
want to purchase happiness in this dunya by
praying fajr, by giving charity, by giving salah,
zakah. They say khalas. If I'm a good
Muslim,
0 stress.
And if they have stress,
if finances are bad,
if the marriage is failing,
if
situation of family is bad, if they have
social pressure then shaitan comes and says oh
Allah is punishing you because you're a bad
Muslim.
Because you are bad you have stress.
Dear Muslims,
look at this era.
Look at this era.
Who has the most iman in all of
human history?
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
Did he live a stress free life?
Did he have everything handed to him on
a silver platter?
Or was he tested like no other person
was tested?
Our Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam was born
an orphan, thrice orphan by the time he's
8. He struggled financially.
He worked long hours for many days to
get pennies
as a shepherd, the lowest job.
He was persecuted,
ridiculed,
mocked,
5 assassination attempts against him.
He was kicked out of his own land,
went into exile with no money, no wealth.
Allah blessed him with 7 children.
6 of them he buried with his own
hands in his lifetime. You wanna talk about
stress? You wanna talk about grief? You wanna
talk about tragedy?
Look at the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
Did
iman
prevent tragedy? Yes or no?
Yes or
no? No. Which shows you what?
It shows you what?
The trials of this dunya,
the test of this dunya
are not proportional
or inversely proportional to your iman. In fact
in fact as Muslims,
we believe
that
the general rule
is the opposite.
Hadith
If Allah loves
a person, He shall test them. Those that
are tested the most are the prophets and
then those after them and then those after
them.
When a test comes down,
when life throws you tragedies,
when you lose income, you lose a loved
one, when there's stress in your life.
Don't let shaitan come to you and say,
oh, this is Allah's punishment against me. Allah
hates me. Allah despises me. No. This is
not the way the believer thinks. The believer
has good thoughts of Allah.
Is a part of iman. The believer has
good thoughts of Allah.
You have to think good thoughts of Allah.
What do we think then?
We think
Allah is
giving me the opportunity
to cleanse myself of my sins and raise
my ranks.
Allah wants to bless me to be a
higher place in Jannah. Allah wants to raise
my maqam.
So this test
is meant to bless me to a higher
place.
How so? Because once you understand
the purpose of test,
the purpose of pain,
anguish, grief, tragedy. Why
are we tested?
Why?
Why? The purpose of tests
is to try you, give you Ibtila
to see who amongst you
is the best indeed.
We're gonna test you. Allah is saying in
the Quran, you're gonna lose life. You're gonna
lose family. You're gonna lose wealth. Allah is
saying in the Quran.
And give good news to the sabireen.
I will reward the sabireen.
Did man think he would be left alone
without being tested? Did you think Allah created
you for a joke? Allah created you for
no reason? No. We tested the people before
you. Why aren't we gonna test you? And
the purpose of the test to see who
amongst you is truthful when they say they
believe and who is faking, lying, who is
a hypocrite.
The purpose of a test is very clear.
You know I'm a professor in my day
job. I teach students. What do I do
at the end of the semester?
I test them. I give them a quiz.
What is the purpose of the test? To
see who studied, who didn't study.
To see if they know the material, they
don't know the material. Allah is saying to
us life is a test.
And the purpose of life and the test
of life,
He's gonna test you to see your aman.
Do you have iman in Allah? Do you
have sabr? Do you have yaqeen? Do you
have ikhlas? Do you have tawakul? Do you
have dua? Are all of these aspects of
iman going to be manifested at times of
tragedy? Will you demonstrate
true iman in Allah, sabr in Allah turning
to Allah?
Or will you turn your back and walk
away from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala?
This is the purpose of tests.
Tests
are meant to draw out your iman,
to show Allah I am a believer,
To show Allah I will demonstrate
all of these characteristics
of iman and taqwa and inaba and ikhlaas
and sabr and yaqeen, all of this must
be demonstrated.
How will it be demonstrated? It will be
demonstrated in your reaction
to the test.
The test itself, the tragedy itself,
the calamity
is not to sign Allah loves you or
hates you because Allah sends calamities to those
whom He loves and Allah sends calamities to
them who He hates. Understand this point. Understand
this point. Allah sends down calamities
to believers and to disbelievers.
That is not
sifting the good from the bad. The calamity,
the tragedy is not testing in and of
itself. It is the response.
The response.
Ibn al Qayyim mentions
in his famous book
in his famous book,
If
a test
and a tragedy
allows the believer
to come closer
to Allah.
Their
their
their
relationship with Allah becomes stronger.
Then realize this test
was a blessing that Allah gave to the
believer and not a punishment.
Because anything
anything
that draws you closer to Allah
is a gift that Allah gave you. How
can it be a punishment?
Anything that makes you a better Muslim,
makes you think about the purpose of life,
makes you rediscover
the beauty of salah, makes you wanna wake
up for fajr and make dua to Allah.
Any tragedy that renews your iman
is not a tragedy, it is a gift,
It is a blessing. Allah wanted to gift
you and raise your ranks.
And that is why
sabr
is demonstrated demonstrated
during tragedy.
And we'll talk about sabr later on what
exactly is it. So
the first principle or rule that we learned
from the sirrah
is that
the sirrah teaches
us life is full of tragedy.
And your iman
in and of itself has nothing to do
with the tragedy.
Allah can test you and you have good
iman, and Allah can punish you when you
have bad iman.
The the the difficulty,
the musiba,
the calamity
does not indicate Allah's mercy or Allah's adaab.
It is your response.
And if you respond in the right manner
then that calamity is a mercy in disguise.
Allah wanted you closer to himself
And so Allah azza wa Jal, we were
living heedless lives, callous lives. So Allah remove
something dear to us so that the callousness
is lifted.
Our eyes are opened. We say in America
wake up and smell the coffee,
means you're doing something you're in ghafla, you
have to wake up and be in the
real life. Sometimes
life becomes
so easy, our heart becomes hard. But Allah
knows we're better than this. And Allah wants
to raise our ranks. So Allah sends down
a small difficulty,
The loss of wealth, the loss of life,
some personal pain, some anguish, some relationship issue
and we realize we need a lot.
So we turn to Allah,
and we
create a new
and relationship with Allah,
and we start loving that relationship
and we realize
this is why Allah sent that tragedy down
because I had lost that relationship with Allah
and Allah wanted me to rediscover that relationship.
This is not a punishment.
This is a blessing.
Now, before I move on,
question,
If when Allah loves somebody, he tests them,
as the prophet said. And if, as the
prophet said,
those that are beloved to Allah are tested
the most,
should we desire
more difficulty?
Should we ask Allah, send it down?
Yes or no?
Should we want life to be even more
difficult?
No.
You are correct. No. But then how do
we resolve this conflict? Because there seems to
be a contradiction.
What is the contradiction?
If Allah loves somebody, he test them. Do
you wanna be beloved to Allah? Yes or
no? Yes. Do you want more tests?
This is the contradiction.
How do you resolve this contradiction?
Do you understand the question? Right? How do
you resolve this contradiction?
Very simple.
Listen and listen carefully.
Our prophet
specifically
advised us to ask Allah to not be
tested.
Is a prophetic hadith.
We want hasalah.
We don't want saiyah. We don't want tests.
We don't want problems. We don't
And aafiyah
to be safe from tests.
So the Quran and the sunnah is very
clear.
We don't want
extra tests.
How then do we resolve this internal
contradiction,
conundrum, conflict,
oxymoron
response is very simple.
You do not want
extra tests
because you do not know if you will
pass the test or fail.
What if you fail? Then that's a big
problem.
Since you don't know, you say, oh, Allah,
I don't want any tests. Let me live
a simple life.
But
when Allah sends the test and he chooses
you,
you're not asking,
Allah chooses you.
When Allah chooses you for a test,
when Allah sends down a calamity you have
and nobody else has,
realize now
the game has changed.
You did not choose. Allah chose.
And when Allah chooses,
what does this indicate?
It indicates
Allah knows you can pass the test.
Because you will not be tested
more than what you can bear.
When Allah chooses you for the test,
Allah is demonstrating,
stamping
on your paper, I know you can pass.
You might not know you can pass. Allah
knows you can pass. You might doubt yourself,
I can't do it. I can't do it.
No. You can, you will and you shout.
How do you know this? Because you're in
the test and if you were in the
test Allah azza wa jal is indicating you
can pass the test. Is this clear?
The difference between you saying give give give
versus Allah choosing.
You don't want because you don't know. You
don't know If the test comes, will I
pass or fail? So I'd rather not be
tested. But if Allah chooses,
then you are guaranteed.
Now again, listen to me carefully.
When Allah chooses you for a test,
Allah knows you can pass the test. Does
this mean you will pass the test?
No.
Allah is simply
demonstrating,
I know you can pass it. Now you
might fail, that's on you.
You might turn your back and not do
what Allah wants you to do, that's on
you.
But Allah will not test you with more
than what you can bear.
Nobody is tested with more than what he
or she can bear.
Now whether you pass or fail that's a
separate issue but you are being tested within
your limit limits
and Allah will test you according to your
taqah, your qudra, your capabilities.
Okay? So is this clear?
This is the first point here. Okay. We
now move on to the second point.
Understand as well we learn from the sierra,
the second point,
that we learn from the sierra that
feeling
the pain of the test,
feeling anxiety,
crying,
feeling worried
is not
a sign of weakness of.
This is another misconception
that many Muslims have.
I'm sure many of you have witnessed this
with your own eyes or maybe even it
has happened to you or maybe even God
forbid you have done this mistake, which is
somebody is in pain. They've lost a loved
one. You know, their mother has passed away.
A child has died.
And they're sad. They're crying. And another person
comes. They mean good. They they want good
but they don't have knowledge.
And they say something
based upon emotion not knowledge. And they say,
why are you crying? Why are you sad?
If you had iman,
you wouldn't be sad.
Have you heard something like this in your
lives you experienced something like this? If you
had iman you wouldn't be crying.
And subhanAllah,
this person who wants to help
has actually created more damage they can even
imagine.
Because not only now has this person who's
crying in tragedy, they've lost their mother, they
lost a son or daughter, They're already feeling
pain. Now their best friend, their cousin, their
brother has certified them. You're a loser in
iman. You don't have iman.
Subhanallah,
brothers and sisters, wallahi, I say to you,
ignorance
causes more damage to the ummah than anything
else. Ignorant people acting in the name of
religion, defending what they think is a religion,
doing ridiculous things on behalf of the religion.
They don't have ilm. All you need to
do is open your eyes and see. Wallahi,
I say astaghfirullah, we don't even need enemies.
Within ourselves, we cause enough damage to our
own faith, aoodhubillah.
SubhanAllah,
ignorance
is one of the most dangerous
aspects that we have to deal with. And
how much damage has been caused by people
who think they're defending Islam or doing good,
but because of their ignorance, they cause more
damage to Islam. And this is one example.
This is one example.
Now
how do we know that
iman does not prevent sadness?
Again, read this eera.
Read this.
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam,
multiple times the sadness is visible on his
face. The grief, the tragedy, the crying is
happening.
When his last son, Ibrahim,
he has a son called Ibrahim. He passed
away year and a half. He's buried in
Baqir, Janatul Baqir. He's buried in Baqir Al
Qartir. If you enter Baqir Al Qartir and
you turn left and you walk just 20
meters, you will find a kabr by itself,
small kabr, that is the kabr of Ibrahim
ibn Muhammad.
Ibrahim ibn Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. He died
at the year 1 and a half years
old, Little toddler in his hand. And he
was born with asthma, breathing problem. And so
they couldn't cure asthma back then. And within
a year and a half, he passed
away. The hadith is in Sahib al Khali.
Ibrahim was brought to the prophet at the
very end gasping for breath. The doctors basically
said that we cannot do anything. And he's
he's in his hand. And he's literally gasping.
The hadith describes,
literally he's going like this. And the prophet
is holding him in his last seconds, last
minutes of his life.
What happens?
The tears begin to flow.
His beard becomes wet with tears.
And one of the Sahaba, again, innocent, doesn't
know any better, but the same mentality.
You too, You Rasulullah,
you too cry.
I mean I thought you you you should
not be crying, Crying?
You are crying You Rasulullah. In his mind,
iman and crying cannot go together.
In his mind, if you have iman you
will not be sad. If you have iman
you're not gonna feel grief. If you have
iman somehow you become superhuman and as your
son is dying in your hands you will
not be crying. So then he blurts out,
you too, You Rasool Allah, Awatabki You Rasool
Allah. And listen, and hadith is in Bukhari.
Crying
is a sign of Allah's rahma
that he has placed in the hearts of
his chosen servants.
Crying is a rahma.
How can you not cry and your son
is dying?
Wallahi, this would be inhumane.
Now somebody comes and would say,
if you have iman you're not gonna cry?
Read the seerah, read the seerah. The battle
of Mu'tah and the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam. It's a long story I don't have
time to get into it. He loses
Zayd ibn Haritha and what will make you
understand who is Zayd ibn Haritha. Zayd ibn
harithah was
like a sun, the prophet shalallahu alaihi wa
sallam took him as a sun in the
days of Jahiliya. Then Allah revealed this is
not allowed. Uruhumdi aba'ihim and so he reverted
to Zayd ibn harithah.
Zayd ibn harithah was raised like a a
son, love like a son, adopted in the
days of Jahiliya like a son and then
Allah abrogated and so he reverted to being
but the love was there, The love was
there throughout his life the prophet loved him
like and what did our mother Aisha radiAllahu
anha say? Our mother Aisha said, when the
prophet passed away and her father became the
khalifa, our mother Aisha radiAllahu anha said, if
Zaid were alive right now, no one would
have chosen my father over Zayd ibn Harita.
This is Aisha radiAllahu anha speaking. Do you
know who Zayd is? Allah Azzawajal
mentioned his name and only his name in
the Quran. The only companion
mentioned by name in the Quran is Falam
maqala zaydun minhawataran.
This is Zayd bin Haritha. And what will
make you understand the maqam of Zayd bin
Haritha. Zayd bin Haritha died a tragic death.
It was an unexpected death. It was a
shahid's death in the battle of Mu'tah in
the 7th year of the Hijra. And our
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam,
Allah gifted him a miracle.
And he was in Madinah. The Sahaba were
in Madinah. And Zayd was the commander, the
leader of the bad battalion in Mu'ta, which
is close to Tabuk, close to the border
of Syria and that region.
And the Sahaba, Zayd was surprised by the
Romans, the Byzantine.
Complete surprise attack. They were meant to fight
the Arabs. The Arabs chickened out. The tribes
of north chickened out and they called mercenaries
from the Byzantine. They paid money to the
Roman superpower. They paid money. Pause your footnote.
This happens in our time all the time.
Muslims inviting those, but let's not get too
political, so let's move back to the seerah.
So this these Arab tribes, the Quraish they're
not the Quraish,
the Hassanids the Hassanids, sorry. The Hassanids chickened
out. We don't wanna fight. What did they
do? They paid money to the Roman emperor.
Send us a battalion.
This was the only time, the only time
the Sahaba in the lifetime of the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam took on the superpower
directly, Byzantine, the only time. It would happen
after the death of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam many times. Right now, the first
time. Complete unexpected. They weren't prepared. The Byzantine
Empire is the superpower. They have the weapons.
They have the armor. They have the training.
They have the military. There is no way
that the Sahaba are able to win. And
so long story,
great tragedies happen, Khaled ibn al Walid managed
to save the bulk of the army and
retreat.
That was what they had to do. And
that was a victory because they weren't massacred,
but people were massacred. And the first or
one of the first to be massacred was
Zayd ibn Haritha. And our Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam Allah blessed him with a miracle, amazing
miracle. What was that miracle? He was in
Madinah, Zayd was
900 kilometers away or 750 kilometers away,
up north. And Allah
opened up
a window
from Madinah
to
Tabuk,
to Muta, close to Tabuk. And the prophet
is seeing the battle live.
And the sahaba
are around him. He's describing the battle as
he's watching it.
Play by play we say. Play by play.
He's describing the bad ul live. Our mother
Aisha radiAllahu anha is sitting in her room,
you know, you see this door over here
the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam's house was
like this door the Khminbar was here his
door was connected to the masjid, his house
the wall of his house was the wall
of the masjid. He had a private room,
a private, sorry, a private door that only
he would use. Right? Literally here. If you
go to the, the prophet salam's masjid, you
will find that the kabr is in this
area, that was his door. And our mother
Aisha is sitting behind a curtain, she's sitting
over there, she has direct access to the
prophet visually.
Hadith is in Bukhari, listen to this now.
Listen to this for those who say
if you have iman you will not be
sad. If you have iman, how will you
cry? If you have iman, how can you
be in shock? Listen to this hadith in
Sahih Bukhari. Our mother Aisha says, I was
watching
the face of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam when the news of the death of
Zayd reached him.
When he saw Zayd
martyred,
a javelin
a javelin
from the Byzantine
shoved up his entire body, picked up and
then died and collapsed. And the prophet is
watching.
Our mother Aisha radiya said,
the prophet
stopped mid sentence.
The color
drained from his face.
He couldn't continue,
and he sat down
to compose himself.
This is what we call in English
shock.
This is what we call in English shock.
Color
drained, he cannot continue the play by he
cannot. He's just seen someone who he loves
like a sun die a brutal death in
front of his eyes,
And he can no longer continue the play
by play.
The grief is clearly etched in his face.
And the tragedy and the pain is obvious
to everybody.
Can anybody come and say, well, how are
you sad? If you have iman, you're not
gonna be sad.
Of course,
the troubles of life
will bring about anxiety in the heart.
Of course, pain will cause pain.
Wounds will cause blood. Did he not bleed?
Did he not bleed in the battle of
Uhud multiple times?
Why? Because he's a human being.
And being a human, you will feel emotion.
You will feel pain. You will cry. You
will grieve. You will feel anxious.
And none of this is a sign of
weakness of iman.
None of this is a sign that your
ta'aluk with Allah is disconnected. No.
How can you not cry or feel tragedy
when there's pain around you? You are human.
You are flesh and blood.
You don't become an angel simply by becoming
pious.
In fact,
one incident of the seerah, our prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam
literally was overcome with tears.
Beautiful incident
in the 6th year of the hijrah when
the prophet was returning back from an expedition
for the treaty of Hudaybiyyah.
So they passed by
a place.
And instead of continuing on the road, the
prophet turned into the desert.
He turned into the desert. By the way,
a lot of people don't know this. There
were highways or roads,
marked roads in between Mecca and Medina. There
were
traverse paths. It wasn't gravel. There wasn't tarmac.
But it was a path. You knew the
path. And there were markings and stuff. You
could see this there. The prophet turned
into the desert.
500 Sahaba
quietly
turned with him.
Not one of them said,
where are you going? The roads. Not one
of them,
this is what you call
following
the Rasool
He continues going, going, going,
and all of the
are just going behind him.
Nobody
dares
ask question,
challenge. This is what you call and
Until finally, he stops,
he pauses the camel and he disembarks,
which is not easy. Stopping the camel is
not easy. Getting off the camel, getting back
the camel is a nuisance. He does that.
And he walks
further away.
All 500 sahaba stop their camels, dismount from
their camels, walk with him. He sits down
in the middle of the desert, doesn't seem
to be anything. He sits down and all
500
sit down with him. Still nobody has raised
their hands, say, you Rasoolallah,
what are we doing? Not one. This is
what you call leadership.
This is what you call respect.
Then he points to the the ground and
he says,
This is the of my mother,
Amina.
He explains what he is doing there. This
is the kabr of my mother, Amina.
And Allah and I asked Allah permission to
visit her qabr and he gave me permission
basically that's why we're here.
This is the one and only time he's
visited
Amina's grave. One and only time. Why? Because
Amina, if you remember from the Sira, she
passed away in the middle of the desert
in an old road between Makkah and Madinah,
old road that was no longer used. The
new road that the prophet was using
was far away from the old road. So
he knew because he was 6 years old,
he has memories of Aminah, he remembers Aminah
vividly, right? He knew exactly where the Kaabr
was. This is the only time he visits
the kabr of Aminah in his whole life.
And the hadith mentions, ibn Ishaq mentions, Tirmidi
mentions, Abu Daw, all of these, even Bukhari
has the asl of the story.
They they mentioned
as the prophet sat there,
tears began to roll down his face.
Then those tears
made his full beard wet.
And then
he began to cry.
And then he began
to sob.
Sobbing.
Do you understand?
Sobbing.
Can anybody say if you have iman, you
will not be sad?
Can anybody who reads the sirrah dare say
if you have iman, your heart will be
cold and you will not feel the pain
of losing your mother?
How can he not cry when he's thinking
of his own mother?
Of course, he's going to cry. Of course,
he's going to solve. And the Sahaba, their
love for the prophet was so strong. When
they saw him cry, they began to cry.
When he began to sob, they began to
sob. 500
grown men
crying in unison because they cannot bear to
bear, his pain becomes their pain. His crying
becomes their crying. His tears become their tears.
This is what you call love for the
prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam, and that's the
love he had for his mother.
Iman
does not stop the pain of the tragedy.
Do you understand me now?
Let nobody
let nobody who thinks they know Islam teach
you otherwise.
This is a falsehood.
When you have iman,
you will still feel pain.
Just like if you have iman and a
knife cuts yours, it's not gonna bleed because
you have iman, of course, it's gonna bleed.
So then when the bleeding is internal, when
it's emotional,
won't you also feel pain,
anxiety, stress, grief?
So that is all normal.
Let nobody teach you otherwise. Jair, let us
move to our next point here.
Here's the question now that I have for
you. If iman
it's Okay. But sorry. If iman
doesn't prevent
tragedy that's rule number 1.
And if iman
doesn't
stop the pain of the tragedy, rule number
2, then the question is, what does iman
do?
And this is rule number 3 now.
Iman
will not prevent the tragedy.
Iman doesn't make you a multimillionaire.
You will have
pain. You will face financial issues. You will
face marital issues. You will face societal issues.
You will face family politics, societal politics, corporation
politics. You will face all types of issues.
Iman will be not stop it. Iman will
also not stop the pain internally of your
heart. What will Iman do? Rule number 3.
Iman
acts as
a theological
therapy
to soothe the pain,
to ease the burden,
to help you live in spite of the
pain,
and to move on to the next stage.
This is what iman does.
Iman
couches
the pain,
gives you comfort
when the world will not give you comfort,
gives you courage
when there is no source for courage, gives
you hope when the world appears hopeless. This
is what iman does.
Iman, no matter how dark and bleak and
black the world is, gives you a shining
light to look forward to. There is light
at the end of the tunnel.
Tomorrow will be better than yesterday.
Iman
gives you optimism,
courage, hope and allows you to not necessarily
overcome the pain fully
but to deal with the pain and to
move on to the next phase of your
life. This is what iman does. Iman is
theological
therapy.
Iman is like, you know, when you have
a burn, you put that ointment on, it
provides comfort. That is iman. The burn is
still there. The pain is still there. I
have to be clear here.
Iman,
your faith in Allah
does not
always
solve the burn. Sometimes it does. Sometimes
after some while the pain goes away. But
sometimes the pain remains even till the day
that you die. And that's fine.
But iman will lessen
and will allow you to carry the burden
no matter what the burden is, no matter
how difficult the tragedy, no matter how much
the pain
that iman in Allah
will allow you to pick up that pain
and move forward with your life in spite
of the pain. You might still have it.
It might go away. You don't know. But
iman
will give you the courage
and the comfort
to deal with the problems of life.
This is what iman does. This is the
difference between the mu'min and the one of
no iman. Do you understand this point here?
Iman does not stop the tragedy.
It doesn't stop the pain of the tragedy,
but it helps you recover. It helps you
deal with, it helps you navigate through tragedy.
In spite of tragedy, iman will give you
the help that you need.
And this is done how?
By all of the various aspects related to
belief in Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. So point
number 3 is quite complicated, meaning there are
many subcategories
3 a, 3 b, 3 c, 3 d,
and not the time to get into all
of them. But just understand
all of the concepts that deal with our
relationship with Allah, Tawakkul
Tawakkul
is one of them.
Trusting in Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala that whatever
happens happens for a cause and a reason.
Iman and qadr is necessary to deal with
tragedy. You have to understand nothing happens by
random. We believe in qadr, not a leaf
falls except that Allah has well willed
sabr
sabr is of the greatest ways to deal
with tragedy. And now we get to very
quickly what is sabr?
Once again, this is the misconception.
For a lot of people sabr is you
don't cry.
And I just showed you from the seerah,
the prophet cried. So sabr cannot be not
crying. Correct?
Sabr has nothing to do with feeling the
pain.
This is the misconception,
if you had iman you'll have sabr and
for them sabr means you don't cry, where
are you getting this from? Who told you
sabr means no pain, sabr means no anxiety,
sabr means no crying. Where'd you get this
from? This is a misconception.
So then what is sabr? Listen to me
and listen carefully.
Listen and listen carefully.
Sabr is
an internal,
a psychological,
an intellectual
jihad
where you attach
your grief
to the reward that you expect from Allah.
This is what sabr is.
Sabr
is in your mind.
It's a big struggle
because your heart is in a vacuum.
Your existence
has potentially been ruptured. How am I going
to live after this? Sabr means that tragedy,
that pain, that grief,
you link it to what?
To the rewards from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And once you attach it to Allah's reward,
once you're expecting
Allah's reward,
all of a sudden
soothing
calmness begins.
You feel a comfort.
What Allah will give me will be more
than what has been taken away.
When I meet Allah,
Allah will give me much more
for the pain that I'm in, and it
will make the pain worth it. This is
what sabr means. So when you do this,
all of a sudden, the pain is still
there. The empty heart is still there. But
all of a sudden,
you resign
yourself to Allah's plan.
And you will say and do nothing except
what Allah is pleased with.
This is what is.
Sabr is to connect your internal pain to
the expected reward. If you can make the
connection,
you have achieved sabr.
Because
once you make that connection,
all of a sudden,
you're not gonna be happy. Nobody's happy when
tragedy happens.
But
you console yourself.
I have something to look forward to.
And that consolation
keeps your sanity.
That consolation
will allow you to move on. That consolation
demonstrates
iman in Allah like nothing else.
When you have sabr and that's why Allah
says in the Quran,
Allah will give you without counting.
And Allah mentions the highest places of jannah.
Highest levels. And Allah says the angels will
greet the people
Because you had sabr, you reached the highest
places. You see, brothers and sisters, I'm gonna
say something perhaps you haven't heard it this
way before, but wallahi, it is the truth.
Entering Jannah
is easy.
It is easy.
Allah did not make the religion difficult. You
pray your 5 prayers, you fast Ramadan, you
give your zakah, you avoid the major sins.
And even if you commit a sin, truly
repent to Allah and turn over a new
leaf. If you can avoid the major sins
or repent from major sins, and you can
do your 5 arkan,
pretty much guaranteed to enter Jannah. This is
not me speaking. Go read every single hadith
about the hadith of the bad one, arkan
al Islam, whatnot. Entering Jannah is not that
difficult.
But
entering,
now that's a different thing.
Entering the highest level, that's a different thing.
Allah separates
the a students from
do you have a, b, c grades, or
is it not like that?
The a students from what is the failing
grade?
D from the d plus c minus students.
Okay?
Allah separates the a plus from the c
minus.
To get a c minus,
just passing,
it is not that difficult.
And the bulk of the ummah, Insha'Allah.
This is not me speaking. This is the
Quran and sunnah, by the way. The bulk
of the ummah who attempt to be good,
they they try their best, they're praying their
prayers, they're fasting Ramadan, they're avoiding the major
sins, they're they're believing in Allah and His
messenger. The bulk of the ummah will insha
Allah enter Jannah. This is the process of
speaking.
But
you want
the high places,
you want firdos,
that is not
the same.
For that,
you have to do more than just do
the bare minimum. Correct?
How do you get to those high places?
Well, there are many ways to do so.
But one of the ways one of the
ways is Allah sends down
tragedies because he wants you to be up
there.
And the purpose of tragedy then is to
give you an upgrade
by you overcoming the tragedy.
Let me be real here, the people of
Gaza.
May Allah
give them sabr and bless their shuhada and
give them a way out of this
tyranny and injustice that they're facing.
Do you really think the people of Gaza
are gonna get the same place as those
of us living in luxury and ease?
Allah's testing them.
And those amongst them who are passing the
test and they are the default in the
majority of them, their iman is shining in
the the world.
Do you think it's the same? They're losing
mothers, fathers, children, losing how everything bombs falling,
no food
to eat, and still their imanil as all
of allah is so strong.
Do you think that's the same as the
rest of us here? No doubt.
That's how you earn firdhusi lah. That's how
you earn the highest level. We don't want
to be tested like that. But those whom
Allah chooses to test and they pass the
test, they will not be c minus,
they will be a plus.
So sabr means you link your tragedy
to Allah's reward. And so the third rule
or principle we learned from the seerah
is that
we turn to Allah
We
remind ourselves
of qadr, of tawakkul.
We put our trust in Allah. Allah is
doing this for wisdom and a reason. I
don't understand, I might not know but Allah
knows.
Nothing will happen to me except that Allah
has decreed it for me. And
make a note of this, look it up.
I don't have time to explain right now.
Surat Al Kahf and the story of Musa
and Khidr, the three things that happened.
Go look it up. And I have a
whole lecture on Khudbaz about this and a
book on tafsiras Surat Kahf. The 3 incidents
between Musa and Khidr,
every one of them is a tragedy in
the beginning.
But the ones who have sabr
that tragedy turns into what? A blessing.
Next time a tragedy happens to you put
yourself in the shoes of those fishermen who
lost the boat, in the shoes of the
parents who lost their child, in the shoes
of the orphans that are struggling financially.
Right now life is tough, but Allah has
a wisdom
and the end always
shows why that happens.
If you put your trust in Allah, sabr.
So category 3, you turn to Allah, you
remind yourself of the purpose of life and
death, you remind yourself of sabr, you put
the hisaab of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. You
remind iman al Qadr and all of these
concepts will help you overcome and make Insha'Allah
Wa Ta'ala easier. This is the 3rd point
insha Allah. So
point number 3 was what does iman do?
Quickly, who can tell me? What does iman
do?
It allows you to cope with the pain,
moves on with makes life bearable. It allows
you to get hope. And it is done
by all of these various aspects, dua and
ikhlas and tawakkod and iman bilqadr
and,
sabr,
all of these aspects. Now before I move
on to point number 4 and I know
time is limited, so let's be very quick
here.
How does one gain?
How does one gain?
Sometimes it has happened.
A tragedy
befalls a person,
and they say to themselves I I
I can't do this.
This is beyond me. I don't have sabr.
I never thought that this would happen to
me. I don't think I have enough sabr
for this.
How does one gain sabr?
This is
a beautiful
principle I will teach you from this era.
And if this if this is the only
fa'idah in all of today's lecture, insha'Allah ta'ala
it is more than enough of a fa'idah.
I hope there's more but if this is
the only one, good enough.
How does one gain sabr?
Our prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam taught us
a beautiful,
beautiful
beautiful
rule. Hadith
woman
woman
Whoever
sincerely
desires
will be given
by Allah.
Let me repeat that.
Whoever
sincerely
desires
will be granted by Allah.
I don't think you're understanding
the power of these words. So let me
rephrase. It's not a hadith I'm just saying.
Just saying, what if I were to say
whoever
desires
10,000,000
shillings will get 10,000,000
shillings. Do you think anybody amongst you would
not desire 10,000,000 shillings and have 10,000,000 shillings?
What if I were to say
sabr
is more beneficial to your life than 10,000,000
shillings? And wallahi, that is true by the
way. Sabr is more beneficial to your life
than all of this dunya.
And you are being told
you get it
for free.
Do you understand
the blessings?
All you need to do to get saber
is wish for it.
You wish you will get it.
Can anything be easier than this?
And this is what we learned from the
seerah, from the Quran, from
the
Quran, It's in the Quran.
Allah will give you the sabr.
If you want sabr,
all you need to do is desire it.
Sincerely
desire it, want it from Allah and Allah
will grant you that some. It's as simple
as that. So let no one ever
be deceived by shaitaan.
Shaitan comes and says, oh this is beyond
my paygrade I cannot deal with this tragedy
I don't have enough sabr because you know
what that translates into?
It translates into
I don't care enough to have sabr that's
why I don't have sabr.
That is why no matter what tragedy you
are in,
know Allah will grant you the sabr you
need. By the way, you might not have
it at the beginning of the tragedy. Okay?
Right when you hear the news, you might
not have it. But Allah is guaranteeing you,
Allah is guaranteeing you as much as you
need you'll get.
As much as you need direct direct Allah
will give it into your heart. Allah will
open up your heart and sabr will be
poured in
in proportion to how much you want it.
It's that
simple. Whoever strives and desires sabr, Allah will
grant him sabr. It's that simple. Move on
to the next point,
inshallah. Point number 4. We have 10 minutes
left. Point number 4.
The seerah teaches us another important lesson.
And that is
we never allow
a tragedy
or a pain
to cause us
to stop everything we're doing and just go
down a spiral of depression.
No.
No. No. No. No. No.
We never give
up. We never give up. We continue
moving forward.
We continue
acting and striving and living our lives. No
matter what happens, we don't just stop and
become immobile
and say I cannot do anything, I give
up. No. The entire sirrah is dealing with
one tragedy after another and moving on from
one tactic after another. You try your best
to overcome the the tragedy, the problem. If
you don't have a job, go knock on
doors, write your resumes, get a new skill.
You don't just sit at home say halaz,
I don't have a job nothing I can
do. The seerah teaches us you keep on
trying. Try plan a. Doesn't work, move on
to plan b. Doesn't work, move on to
plan c. And guaranteed as you're knocking on
all of these doors, Allah will open up
another door. You might not even have knocked
on it. Allah will open that door because
you are knocking on all of these doors.
If you were sitting at home, that wouldn't
happen. So and I don't have time for
examples, but just learn this point. The sea
and the whole sirah is really an example
for this. Never give up. Never allow a
tragedy
to just cause you to stop doing what
you're doing. You must force yourself to move
on. You must move on to the next
phase of your life. And if there's something
you can attempt to be solved, you attempt
to solve it. You keep on attempting to
solve it And you never give up until
you meet your Lord. And because in that
trying
and in that striving, that is your salvation
on the day of judgment. The sierra teaches
us you never fail.
You never ever throw in the towel. You
always have courage, determination,
drive. You continue to keep on trying to
solve the problem. Plan a, plan b, plan
c, plan d until either the problem goes
away or you meet your Lord.
There is never stopping in this regard. And
this is one of the differences between the
Mu'min and the one of no iman. The
mu'min
never gives up. The mu'min
continues to try and try and try. The
final point, inshallah, because time is limited. Point
number 5 now, the 5th point here.
The seerah teaches us
specific,
specific actions
that will help in times of tragedy,
okay?
The sierra teaches us specific rituals
and actions that will help soothe the pain,
deal with anxiety,
overcome
the grief.
So point number 5 is
specific actions that help you deal with
pain. Okay?
I'll mention a few of them as much
as time permits.
Number 1 under I say 5 a let's
say 5 a. 5 a.
Allah says after mentioning tragedy after mentioning calamity
Allah says
As for sabr, we mentioned it before. So
what is the other one? Salah.
Salah
is one of the most important mechanisms
to soothe
the anxiety in your heart.
Aisha radiAllahu anha says, whenever the prophet was
troubled with something, he would rush to stand
up in salah.
Salah
is a cure to the pain of your
heart. Salah is a soothing to the anxiety
that you feel. Salah will cater to the
grief, the worriness
in your heart.
Salah will calm it down.
And by salah, I don't just mean you
pray quickly,
I mean a true and proper salah.
Next time you're in pain, you're in tragedy,
do go
to a corner of your house and pray
and pray calmly,
pray spiritually,
pray with Khushur.
And when you fall into Sajda,
stay there little bit extra.
Subhanah
And I guarantee you, just stay there. When
you get up,
a little bit of that pain would have
been lifted off of you.
A little bit of window of hope will
come up. You'll feel a little bit better.
And if you keep on doing this over
and over and over and over again,
that pain will not disappear. I didn't say
we'll do we have to be realistic
but it will
become manageable. So 5 a salah,
5 b,
zikr
zikr.
And of the adkar in particular, 2 of
them to deal with tragedy. 2 of them
in particular
of the especially
there are more but the time is limited.
The most important zikr in times of tragic
tragedy is mentioned in the Quran.
Memorize this phrase and say it at times
of tragedy.
It will calm you down because it reminds
you
this world is temporary.
We're all gonna go back to Allah and
when I meet Allah, I will get rewarded
for this pain. We're all going back to
Allah and we were going to meet Allah
Subhanahu wa ta'ala. This is going back to
my point number 3, dealing with tragedy.
Another zikr that should be done at times
of tragedy,
at times of grief, at times of anxiety
You can add a quick one here, and
a third one,
These are the 3 main adkar even though
any dhikr is good, but especially these 3
at times of difficulty. Hasbunallahuaniamalwakeeel.
You can look up any khudba, any dars
about the explanation of these at count. So
this is 5 what?
5? 5 b. Let's move on to 5
c.
Salah, dhikr, 5 c, dua.
Dua is the weapon of the believer.
Dua is the weapon of the believer.
Dua is your personal conversation with Allah Subhanahu
wa ta'ala. Dua is how we overcome tragedy.
Allah Azzawajal says in the Quran,
Why didn't they make dua to us when
the tragedy came down?
Why didn't they make dua to us
when the tragedy came down?
And Allah says in the Quran,
and the surat,
surat Al Furqan,
What is it?
Yes.
That the concept of Allah's main concern for
us is we make dua to him.
Were it not for your dua, Allah
will not have that care and concern for
you. So dua is the weapon of the
believer and we turn to Allah at times
of stress by making dua and dua is
that conversation we have with Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala. Also realize brothers and sisters, no
scholar
in all of Islamic history has ever said
that dua must only be made in Arabic.
No, this this is a misconception.
Dua is done in any language by Ijma
of the ulama.
All the scholars agree, dua can be made
in any language. Dua, you raise your hands
to Allah and you ask Allah in the
language you know best.
You ask Allah in your language for what
you want. You ask Allah in Swahili. You
ask Allah in English. You ask Allah in
Arabic. Allah azza wa Jal listens to all
duas. Yes. Salah is in Arabic. Quran is
in Arabic. Yes. Dua, any language. So this
is 5 what?
C. 5 d, time is limited, I have
to finish up. 5
d. 5 d is
a shaquah illallah
complaining to Allah in times of tragedy.
Shaquah illallah
is a part of
therapy
complaining to Allah
we learned this from the Quran,
we learned this from the Quran,
Yaqoob alaihis salam what does he say?
I'm not complaining to you, I'm complaining to
Allah.
Are you, what does he say?
You Rabb, I'm in pain. Musa, what does
he say? You Rabb, I'm fakir.
You Rabb, I'm a fakir. I need something.
Zakariyah, what does he say?
You Rabb, my bones are gonna break. My
hair is spouting whiteness. You Rab, I need
an air for my progeny
complaining to Allah. What is complaining to Allah?
Complaining to Allah, you
the hadith in,
in Ta'if, the incident of 5 I just
gave a Khuba 2 weeks ago. It's online
now. The dua of Ta'if. Right?
Allah complaining to Allah complaining by the way,
don't change prepositions prepositions iman and kufr complaining
about Allah is kufr,
complaining to Allah iman, make sure the preposition
is correct, complaining about Allah, this is kufr,
complaining to Allah is iman. What is complaining
to Allah?
Literally like it sounds.
You Rabb, you see how difficult life is.
You Rabb, this situation is too much for
me to bear without you. You Rabb, I
need your help. You Rabb, my finances. You
Rabb, my marriage. You Rabb, my children. You
up whatever it might be. You complain to
Allah, You're up I need your rahma, you
look at how bad the situation is and
no one can help me except you. This
is complaining to Allah. This is a type
of dua but it is also separate. So
this is 5 what?
5d, right?
5d Khalas khitaam mumu misk let us finish
on 5e and call it an evening insha
Allahu Ta'ala. 5e,
are you all listening?
This is the pinnacle,
the queen.
This is the best action
that you can do when your heart is
in pain and suffering and it is
5 a, b, c and d combined
in the best time and the best place
and the best state, and that is salat
Salatahajjud.
Salatahajjud,
there is nothing
that will bring you more calm and more
peace at times of distress than salatul tahajjud.
Because you're doing all of the above. It
is Quran, it is dhikr, it is dua,
it is complaining to Allah, it is salah,
all of it combined.
In the middle of the night, you wake
up and you go to the corner of
your house and you do wudu, and you
open up your heart and you raise your
hand and you fall down in sajda and
you beg Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Salatatahajjud
is the ultimate
mechanism
to bring peace to your heart. And that's
why Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala mentions in the
Quran,
the second revelation,
the second revelation,
Life is gonna get tough, you Rasulullah. You
have a heavy message, you Rasulullah, you have
better break tahajjud. Notice.
You have a heavy message, you have better
break tahajjud.
Notice how the causal linkage is.
When life is difficult, when the message is
difficult, when the responsibilities
is difficult,
tahajjud
will give you the iman and the sabr
and the tawakkul and the yaqeen and the
tamaneena that you need to overcome that pain
and that grief. And that is why our
prophet
never ever skip tahajjud. Even in traveling, he
would not skip tahajjud. What a role model
he was. And that is why tahajjud
is what separates the A students from the
B and C students. Tahajjud,
salat tahajjud. Look at how the Quran describes
the Salat at Tahajjud, and you will realize
that is how you get to the high
up. And that is bringing about peace and
sakinah in this world. So to summarize, brothers
and sisters, I taught you 5 simple principles
from the sierra. Please memorize them. And there
are more, but time is limited and we
have to summarize them. Rule number 1, the
sierra teaches us that
this world is a world of test.
And just because you have iman, doesn't mean
you'll be a multimillionaire,
doesn't mean that life will be good, doesn't
mean you will have a good career and
job. On the contrary,
sometimes Allah test people because they have iman
and sometimes Allah punishes people because they don't
have iman. Remember, it is not the trial
that dictates whether it is a blessing or
a curse. It is what?
The response. This is rule number 1. Rule
number 2,
iman
doesn't stop the tears.
Iman doesn't stop the blood. Iman doesn't stop
the pain. And anybody who tells you otherwise
needs to read this. Rule number 3, what
does iman do then?
It brings about courage,
comfort,
helps you, deals, allows you to cope, and
helps you to move on. Rule number 4,
never give up.
Never give up. Never allow a pain, a
tragedy to stop you in your tracks. Never
allow a calamity
to make you incapacitated. Say, halas, I cannot
do anything. No. The seerah teaches us you
move on and on and on until you
cannot move on, until you die. And rule
number 5, there are specific things we can
do, Quran, dukh, dua,
salah, sabr, tahajjud which will all help you
cope with this. May Allah
bless us all to study
the and implement these rules.