Yasir Qadhi – I Converted But Can’t Wear Hijab To Hide it From My Family! – Ask Shaykh YQ #165

			We have a question from sister Danielle from Austria Mashallah Tabata Kala she emails and she says
that she has converted to Islam Alhamdulillah. However, she has not told anyone of her family of her
conversion. And she is worried about the reaction. And the question is about the fact that she is
not wearing the hijab, and she is worried about the repercussions of the hijab. And the fact that
she's wearing it is going to bring repercussions and the question is the fact that she's not wearing
it is bringing her stress so much so so long email that she says that she is very stressed out,
she's crying, she's fearful of jahannam and Allah's punishment, she thinks that her conversion is
		

			not it's pointless, and it will not be accepted because she is not, you know, dressing with the
hijab. One
		

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			Dear sister in Islam, Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah, Allah azza wa jal has guided you to Islam, Allah
has blessed you with the calima Allah subhanho wa Taala has chosen you out of billions and billions
of people to be guided to this faith in a land where Muslims are very, very few in numbers, small
percentage, and in a land where Islamophobia is on the rise. Austria is the land where Hitler came
from, and the neo nazis are on the rise there. And the parliament is trying to enact things that are
very Islamophobic. By the way, most of you are probably not aware of this, but Austria is one of the
most Islamophobic places in terms of the government, right, obviously, the people that the people
		

			but in terms of the government, it is very, very difficult over there, you know, probably just one
notch less than France, France is, as we know, in terms of Europe and the Western world. There is no
competition. France is in its own category, it has waged war against the ultra symbols of Islam, and
against the religion of Islam and therefore against practicing Muslims. Right after that would be,
in my humble opinion, Austria and I could be wrong in that specific analysis. But Austria is an
Islamophobic. By and large, the government right now the current government, it is highly
Islamophobic. And the far right parties are rising, and there is a lot of tension. And in this
		

			environment, our sister Michelle, that's about a cola has a Allah has guided her to Islam in that
environment. But she is worried about you know, the fact that she has kept it hidden. Now as for the
fact that it is hidden, I have a much longer q&a, and I have gone into details. No problem. You
don't have to tell anybody if it's going to be problematic. Allah azza wa jal knows you are a
Muslim, you have said the kalama in private, and you are I'm assuming, you know, practicing to the
best of your level, in terms of salah and in terms of other things, whatever you're able to do
without causing harm to yourself. So Al Hamdulillah, Allah has guided you to Islam, and that is a
		

			blessing that is so huge and so magnificent, and so blessing that every other sin after it is
trivial compared to the blessings of being upon Islam. So realize, dear sister in Islam, that yes,
indeed modest clothing is something that we should definitely strive for, and it is a part and
parcel of our shediac and there is no denying that the default is that men should be covered in a
specific manner to a specific area of the body and women as well should be covered as much as
possible and included in that is of course, the head covering which is called the hijab and and the
entire body in a modest or loose manner. And this is something that really there's no difference of
		

			opinion on. However, dear sister, the obligation is the general rule. The obligation is the general
rule, there are a number of things you need to take into account first and foremost, by the way,
just to be technical here. Indeed it is obligatory, but the oblique obligation of the hijab for
example or of dressing modestly, for example, with loose what not, it is not to the same level as
the obligation of accepting Islam which is far more important or of praying or of Salah or of
charity, the two are not there is no comparison between them and the the the blessings of salah and
of Zakah and of Siam and the power of these rituals to forgive all sins, it's something that is well
		

			known so do not compare, you know, apples and oranges in this regard, no doubt, the hijab and
overall modestly, dressing men and women it is something that is a part and parcel of our city. But
even in the Medina and phase. The rulings of the hijab came down in the fifth year of the hedgerow.
One of the last of the major rulings to come down after all of the other rules.
		

			came down, then that ruling came down, also realize, dear sister, that the Sharia has come with a
beautiful reality of taking our circumstances into account. You see, it is one thing to speak in
general rules. And that's true, generally speaking, such and such as obligatory, but you see the
shediac is also taking into account the specifics of your situation. And therefore your situation,
you know best how difficult it is, I do not know the details of your situation, is there a genuine
fear for your safety? Is there? Are you living with your parents and if you were to publicly
announce the embracing and word that your job, they would kick you out, you might be on the streets?
		

			Or is there physical danger, if if the danger is such that it is to your persona, or to your
necessary livelihood or to your basic well being, in this case, it constitutes of Aurora, and you're
wearing of the hijab would actually then be exempt from you. So the general rule would be lifted up
from you, and you are absolutely sin less in that case. And again, only you know best whether it is
to that level or not, I do not know from the question. So do not make the shitty out more difficult.
Our Lord is forgiving, and our Lord is merciful. And our Lord understands that you are a young lady,
having embraced Islam, in a strange land in a foreign land, you know, very few Muslims are there.
		

			And the struggles for you in terms of your livelihood, or in terms of the far right or in terms of
your parents or whatnot, might be too much for you to bear. So if that is the case, and you know
best, then it would not be obligatory on you if there is a threat to your persona, to your sanity to
your living a regular normal life that most people there. Now, suppose is not to that level, suppose
it goes down a notch. Suppose that, you know, some doors might be shut, but others will be open
suppose that people will stare at you, but there's no physical danger. So again, in this case,
therefore, the default ruling would still apply, which is that it is it is obligatory, and you
		

			should strive your best to do it. Nonetheless, dear sister, that in case you know, you do find that
this is not something that you're able to meet. And this is something that you're falling short of
then realize that this is a sin, and all of us are sinners. And the solution to sending is not to
give up hope the solution to a sin is not to be despair, and to just say Oh ALLAH is never gonna
forgive me, the solution is to work on what you can do and increase that and the solution is to ask
Allah subhanho wa Taala to make what you're not doing possible for you to do and to give you the
strength and the courage to do that. And as you're in that interim, continue to do the good that
		

			you're doing, dear sister, your prayer to Allah subhana wa tada is infinitely more powerful and more
important than you wearing the the the veil and of course wearing the veil is important not saying
it's not but increased your prayer, increase your or on increase your charity, increase your purity
of the heart, and if you're not able to wear the headscarf because of you know the difficulties of
the land, then at least try to be modest in your clothing as much as possible. And if it just
requires a courage and you know, fortitude then work your way bit by bit incrementally as that
inshallah one day I'm going to do it and get help from other sisters right, get help from local
		

			communities, there are massages in Austria, there's some Hadrian besides that as you're wearing
there are you know thriving they're obviously minority in the line just like in most western lands,
but they are there so connect with them get help and tips from them about what can be done to battle
the Islamophobia or the far right and what not. And in the meantime, dear sister, do not despair of
Allah's mercy, your email, really, it was a very emotional email that you feel that you know you're
not your Islam is in vain or Oh, the villa sister you have accepted Islam and hamdulillah Al
Hamdulillah you're not gonna be perfect and you have to accept that because none of us is perfect.
		

			I'm not perfect. No human being is perfect. So if you put it in your mind that if I'm not perfect,
allow a surgeon will not forgive me. That is an incorrect perception. Dear sister, Allah forgives
all of us because he is the Forgiving and a lot wants to see the effort and Allah wants to see the
sincerity and Allah recognizes that we are all going to fall short. So do as much good as you can
seek Allah's forgiveness for what you cannot do, and continue to strive to better yourself, dear
sister, none of us is perfect, but as long as we believe in Allah, and as long as we lower our heads
to Allah subhana wa Tada. And as long as we recognize that we are sinful and there is no salvation
		

			for us, other than by turning to Allah and seeking His is the fall and we try to be better we aim to
be better than hamdulillah we are upon good
		

			We can hope and we should hope and we must hope for the mercy of Allah Jalla Jalla Allahu, so I hope
that this answers your question. And once again, congratulations Millbrook for having accepted this
beautiful faith and welcome to the the global brotherhood and sisterhood of the religion of Islam.