Yasir Qadhi – A Tragic Case of Domestic Violence An Appeal to Our Community

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			perhaps some of you have heard of the tragedy that took place a few days ago here in our city of
Dallas were very sad news that a certain brother became angry in a domestic violence case and
murdered his wife along with Stein Leila heilala. Hello, Tula villa. And the three or four children
before children then became orphans, he was put into jail we prayed the janazah for a year in this
Masjid few days ago, and the fourth quarter because there is no immediate relatives, the four
children have been taken into the foster care system and we don't know in all likelihood, they will
be given to non Muslim families. Inshallah, we're going to be giving multiple hookbaits about
		

			domestic violence but because this just happened this week, and we pray janazah right here in this
message over our system, Allah azza wa jal accept your shahada and grunter for those, it is
imperative that we just pause for a second and reflect about our own realities. So much can be said
and will be said inshallah. We'll have specific seminars for this topic in the upcoming months. But
first and foremost, one millisecond of anger changes an entire life of six people. one millisecond
of anger, the whole load of hotel Nabila. Be careful. Brothers and sisters, be careful of acting in
his fit of rage, our professors have told us anger is from shape on a horrible minute shape on when
		

			you feel angry, say our older biller say Bismillah do will do sit down don't act don't talk. Second
point will given hook buzz about this will give seminars more about this. The sad taboo of domestic
violence.
		

			You know, we are taught when you see something, say something we're taught this about terrorism,
what not, we need to start applying this within our communities and families. I speak bluntly and
loudly and clearly, every one of you in this audience are is responsible for your immediate circle
of family and friends, acquaintances and relatives. If you know your cousin, if you know your
brother, if you know your immediate friend is abusing his or her spouse and it's a two way street.
Yes, the majority of abusers are men without a doubt, but sometimes it is the women physically
abusing them. And it's a two way street. It happens on both ways. If you know somebody that is being
		

			abused in your own circle, do not stay quiet, intervene, get involved and if need be, if it is life
threatening, how can you not call the police to prevent something like this, brothers and sisters
fear Allah subhanho wa Taala for innocent young children are now in the foster care system, in all
likelihood, they're going to be raised by non Muslims.
		

			What can be said here, monitor and be aware of what is happening in your own circle, do not tolerate
domestic violence. The third point, if you yourself, are having issues with marriage, if you
yourself are having you know marital disputes, do not trivialize solving those problems before they
get to a level this is obviously extreme, but even less than this. There's nothing wrong with
counseling. It's not taboo, you know, in our cultures of back home in our cultures of our elders, we
would think that you know, these types of psychiatrists, these types of therapists, this is not for
normal people. You know, we have we now know it is meant for normal people we now know this is
		

			nothing there should be no taboo about getting therapy about going to a marriage counselor about
figuring out what is going on bringing in the Quran references a type of counseling, Allah azza wa
jal explicitly says if the two of them are about to divorce, let everyone reach out to an elder that
everyone reached out to a heck of a judge and let them all come together, spill all the beans, be
very frank in this private gathering what is happening, why is there dispute and then try to resolve
the problem internally before something like this happens, brothers and sisters as a community, we
have to raise the bar. And the final point last night we invited a family lawyer. And she explained
		

			to us the reality that as soon as something like this happens in the Muslim children get into the
foster system, the courts have no time no luxury to wait 10 months, they have to go immediately to
the First Family available, a family that has already registered to adopt children. These are foster
families. And unfortunately, in our culture and our faith communities, by and large. We don't get
involved in this system, because we don't get involved in the system. I mean, you can't really blame
the courts. These are for kids. What are you going to do with them? They need a house. They're going
to go to the first family that can take them if they can't take all four they're going to separate
		

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			Kids into different families. And the fact of the matter 99.99% of the people on that list are not
from a Muslim background, which means we need to raise the bar. So yesterday we invited the lawyer,
she told us what needs to be done, you need to register with the family services, you need to make a
phone call, you know, fill out a form, it doesn't cost any money, it cost minimal amount of time,
such that May Allah protect all and sometimes it's not even an accident could be a a tragedy, a car
accident list, it doesn't have to be a murder, sometimes things happen. And there's no family, there
are Muslim children involved. So what I'm asking those of you who are able to financially and
		

			marital wise and stability wise, if you're able to register yourself, and you have the right to say
I want people from my ethnic background, I want people from my faith community, you have that right.
And once that, may Allah protect any family. But once that happens, we want Muslim couples to be on
that list. We don't have Muslim couples on that list. And so unfortunately, these four kids in all
likelihood, we're not certain and there's confidentiality. But realistically, we spoke to the you
know, people, we there are no Muslims on this list. That's the problem. It's not that the government
is being know, what are you going to do when there's no Muslim families that want to take care of
		

			Muslim kids, it's not anybody else's fault. It's our fault. So that's why in the hotbar, I am
raising this public awareness that not just anger management, not just you know, domestic violence
and therapy, but also we need to collectively take charge of our community. So please, sisters and
brothers, husbands and wives talk to each other. If you're able to have a sponsor, have a child a
foster child, you know of our background, then go through the process, call up the necessary phone
calls, they'll come and visit you fill out the forms and have your name on the emergency list. If
anything like this happens, we want them to come to a Muslim family be raised by a Muslim couple,
		

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