Yasir Qadhi – 10 Deeds to Jannah #4

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			said I want to cover how to loiter cattle hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah while he
was a llama bird. So in our yesterday's lesson, we talked about good manners and I said that of the
most important deeds that we can do because again, the whole series is about various ways to get to
Jen and various things we should be doing other the most important, good deeds that we can do. And
of the most important manifestations of good manners is to have good manners with one's owns parents
right now, I know that we have heard the topic of parents over and over again, and especially when
it comes to teenagers, whenever you bring up this topic, they roll their eyes, oh my god, not again,
		

			as a panelist, that is the reality that one day these teenagers will also have their own teenagers.
And when they give them lectures, their own teenagers will roll their eyes back at them. But that is
the circle of life that we all
		

			go through. But still Allah tells us in the Koran to remind one another and to benefit from these
reminders. And there are so many verses of the Quran and so many a hadith about the blessings of
being good to one's parents. And of course, one of the incidents that is narrated is very powerful.
Really, it's more it moves me all the time. It is a statement Have you been in the room or the last
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			was doing pull off around the cab, and a bin Omar he This is after the death of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wasallam and he saw a man in the Hajj pilgrimage, carrying an old lady on his
back. And when the man saw a gentleman and he recognized him because the people were asking him
questions, he rushed up to me said that, oh, no more. This lady is my mother. And she wanted to come
for hedge. And I didn't have the money to hire or to get a camel. So I carried her on my back. And
we are now doing hedge. Have I given the heck of my mother back to her? So can you imagine this is a
man who is doing Hajj for his mother by literally carrying the elderly lady on the back. And
		

			wherever he came from, we don't know. And he's now performing hajj. And even Omar said, No, you
haven't given her how kaback and not even a fraction of it. So the man was shocked. He said how,
like how what I did so much. And he almost gave a very, very, very powerful response that he said
that the difference is that what your mother did for you, she did out of love, wanting your life and
wanting to see you flourish and grow. And what you are doing in return, you are doing it as a burden
as a debt, you're basically repaying it back and you are waiting for her to pass on and die. There's
a big difference between the two. Right? You might have done a lot nobody's denying that. But if it
		

			were pointed out the psychological frame of mind, which is so true, Subhanallah that you know, the
the the the parents love for the child is a very different love than the child's love for the parent
and especially when the nurturing and the caring has to take place. It's a very different type of
philosophy. This is how we are when our child is sick, we will rush to the doctor with genuine love
and concern. And when it is the other way around, we will rush to the doctor but with a different
type. It's not the same type is not the same. You know, what is that common? This is the reality of
Allah's creation that the parents need to have a certain type of love to take care of their
		

			children. Right? So Allah zodion has placed that love there's nothing wrong with having different
types of love. But at the same time, we should recognize this as well just like a bit Mr. Ali Allahu
taala and who pointed out in this regard, and of course we all know that Allah azza wa jal always
pairs in the Quran, the rights of himself with the rights of the parents and this is in multiple
verses By the way, it's not just in the famous verse of certainly saw local Dora Buccola Tabitha
holiday near Santa, this is the famous verse that is always mentioned. But there are many other
verses in the Quran as well. For example, even in previous nations, the same ruling was given Allah
		

			says in the Quran, where the Cardinal mitaka Bunny is strong Isla la buena de la la hora de near
sada. We took the covenant with the children of Israel, and we said to them, You can only worship a
lot alone, and you must be good to your parents. And notice the word that is always used in the
Koran. typically use is a sign
		

			Any sign means that you give more than the rights that are due, and that you accept back less than
the rights do unto you. So it is a state of excellence. Yes, that is the highest form of generosity.
And Allah subhanho wa Taala says that the righteous are those who are giving with your son to their
parents. And there are of course, so many other you know, I don't need to go over to the blessings
of the Quran and Sunnah with regards to taking care of parents, it's just a reminder for myself and
all of you that those of you whose parents are still here, and I especially speak to you, those of
you whose parents are still here, that take advantage of this time, take advantage of this time,
		

			that Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah you have one or both of your parents, it has mentioned that a man
came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and you know, confessed of a sin and said that he
had done something so the profits of the lesson and said, Are any of your parents alive? Or any of
your parents alive? Our scholars meant in this case, he said, No. Our scholars mentioned the reason
that he said this was that this would have been the biggest good deed that he can done. He could
have done it been our bus, the Companion of the Prophet said and a man came to him and said, Oh,
even a bus. I have done a major sin. I have committed murder. I've murdered somebody. How can Allah
		

			forgive me had been busted? Is your mother alive? He said yes. He said, Go to your mother and serve
her till she passes on. Just be her servant leadership has a notice of Hannelore. The man committed
the worst crime imaginable on this earth, and he wants to do a good deed to make up for that. It'd
been a bust the cousin of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. He said that, yes, go to your mother and
help your mother out that will be the greatest good deed that you can do to try to redeem yourself
in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the famous Israel Mirage journey. When our Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in the heavens, he heard or he saw a beautiful palace. And it was so
		

			beautiful. He wanted for himself. But he said to journalists, whose policy is this? And Djibouti
responded, this palace belongs to Hardee's. Even a Norman How do you say Eben and Norman and then
the prophets of the law? Why did he was seldom said that palace was given to hard ether because he
used to be good to his mother so panela can you imagine our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is
seeing a palace that is gorgeous, beautiful, that he comes back. And he tells us the reason why that
man got the palace was because he was indeed good to his mother. And of course realized that to have
one or both parents alive is it is a very, very big blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And it
		

			shows us that the doors of gender or open up it is mentioned that one of the Sahaba when his father
passed away, that he was crying at the grave and the people consoled him. And he said I am not
crying just because my father has passed on. I am crying because the biggest door to gender has been
shut, okay, I'm crying because the biggest door to Jenna has been shut for me. Therefore the shows
us that if your parents are alive, they are the biggest door to gender for you. If one or both of
your parents are alive, there is nothing you can do to please Allah subhanho wa Taala after your
five prayers than to earn Jenna through them, and how what is to be done? Well, obviously, you know,
		

			there are financial and legal and moral obligations as physically serving them. But you don't want
to talk more about another aspect which is overlooked. And that is the emotional support. And that
is just to show love to them to be there for them to call them up to just be a part of their lives
when they need you to be a part of their lives. That that is a type of emotional support that for
many, many parents, it is much more important than just sending some check or sending some, you
know, some other type of item that they need. Sometimes that emotional, you know, love that the
child can give that the son and daughter can give just to call them up on a regular basis to visit
		

			them on a regular basis. This is something that do not trivialize and do not underestimate the joy
that your parents will have when you remember them. So many of us have had a low we never even call
our parents regularly. And then perhaps the time will come when we cannot call our parents. So
before that time comes to do your best to make sure that you are there for them in whatever way that
it is possible. If it so happens that your parents have moved on. If it so happens that they passed
on to the next life, there is still much that you can do for them. And of the things that you can do
is obviously seek forgiveness for them ask Eliza to forgive them and to fulfill any requests that
		

			they had and to give charity on their behalf and to give the old here in these days or in any days
in their name and to make the hedge under ombre
		

			In, in their name, so you go for Hajj if you've already done a hydrocele or ambala, and you gift it
to them, and to also visit their friends and their relatives as well, their friends and their
relatives as well visit them. And remember them when you go there, because our scholars mentioned
that when you visit the Friends of your parents, what is the topic of conversation going to be is
going to be your parents. And so it will bring back the memories and it will make you make do offer
them and it will overall be something that will be something that the sweetness of those days and
times it will come back. So this is one of the things that our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
		

			Many mentioned when it comes to giving the rights of the parents even after they have passed on,
therefore, of the good deeds that we should do in these 10 days, whether our parents are alive or
they have passed on is to do something for them if they're alive, much can be done, and if they
passed on, much can be done as well. I suggest to you and myself that we should do some regular good
deeds, especially if our parents have moved on, put in your calendar once a week I'm going to do
this or once a month, I'm going to do something for them special so that you know do some and you
can recite Quran for them and pass it to them as well. If they've passed on in this world, do a good
		

			deed for them. give charity in their name, do an ombre or hedge. And the least that can be done is
to raise your hands up to Allah subhana wa tada and make dua and it's too far for them. This is of
the least of the rights that a lot xojo has asked us to do. May Allah surge and make us all
righteous children of our parents, shallow toddler who will continue in our next lesson tomorrow.