Yaser Birjas – The Tears Of Grief
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If you guys remember last night, we talked
in hadith 28.
We discussed,
it's alright for people who are grieving
to say words. Like, I I thought
when she was grieving over the passing of
her father, Muhammad
But what about crying?
Are you allowed to cry? Are you allowed
to shed tears?
Hadith number 29 answered this question.
And that's Hadith Abi Zayed Usama bin Zayd
ibn Haritha, Mawla Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam wahibihe
wa Abu Nuhibbe.
Usama bin Zayd ibn Haritha.
He is the the son of Zayd ibn
Haytha. Both of them are Heb Abnuhib, which
means the beloved
the son of the most beloved of Rasulullah
Rasulullah If I may ask the parents in
the back, If you guys can't keep your
kids a little bit quiet,
their brothers and sisters like to listen to
the
after we're done, you can have the masjid
all yours, inshallah. So please just bear with
us.
Boys and girls, inshallah.
So Osama bin Zayd bin Haritha was the
beloved of the most beloved to the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
He was like his son. As a matter
of fact, was like he was adopted son.
So we talk about his the son of
his adopted son, salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah
salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah salawat
She sent to him, asking him to come
over.
Arzal bintu Nabiya, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, in
nabni qadihtudr
fashhadna.
She She sent to the messenger of Allah
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and saying
that my son, kadhi htudr, which means he's
actually he is dying.
Like, his time is up. He's dying.
Please come join us. Like, I wanna I
wanna my dad, I wanna see you. Be
with us. Like, I need you to be
with me.
Obviously, this is a very difficult time for
any parents, any child, anybody. Right?
And and the daughter that we're talking about
here in the hadith is, is,
Zaynab, his eldest daughter, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
So she had a daughter. Her name was
Umama.
That was the one that the prophet, sallallahu
alaihi wasallam, was seen walking with her in
the streets,
in the marketplace.
She was the one the prophet was holding
in his salah. And when he goes to
the ruku, he puts her on the ground,
and then he goes to the sujood. And
then when he comes up, he pulls her
up again, held her
That's
Umama. But here, she had another boy, or
a child that was born for her
but that child did not survive long.
So which means she realized he's not gonna
make
it. So she said to the prophet salallahu
alaihi wa sallam, you Rasulullah,
please come. Come over. I want I want
you to be here.
Farasool
Allahu sallallahu alaihi wasalam.
So the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasalam, he sent
her salaam back and they said
He said to her, He sent to her,
whatever Allah takes away or gives belong to
Him. And everything with Him has a limited
fixed term using this world. And so she
should be patient
and anticipate Allah
reward.
And that's the words that we use usually
right now in what we call or aza.
Like, when we offer condolences to anybody,
we use these words.
To to Allah, whatever Allah takes
back, it belongs to Him. And
whatever Allah gives to you, it still belongs
to Him.
So, therefore, everything that belongs to Allah
And everything in this world
has measure,
has time. So So everything when it comes
to time expires, this is it.
Then as a result, he said,
then just make sure that you be patient
and hope for their word from Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala for that. So that was what
the prophet sent to his daughter.
What does that mean exactly to us? Look.
Islam is a very pragmatic or practical religion,
and what does that exactly mean?
If someone dies, that's part of life.
We grieve, we cry, we definitely we have
to, feel, you know, the the pain. But
then what happens after that? Life has to
move on and go on. That's why in
Islam, you can't mourn 1 or 3 days
3 nights over the death of somebody, except
for the husband.
4 months 10 days. Just have to move
on. Life has to move on as well
too. So here the prophet says, it's okay.
Allah make it easy for you. Take care
of it. As if he was busy with
something, probably maybe,
he believed it's more important to attend in
that moment.
So she sent back to the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam. And now this time she
was saying for the sake of Allah that
he should come.
Like she gave like more like an oath
on the prophet
I ask you by Allah that you should
come.
And obviously if you do that to the
prophet
he had no other option but to respond
to that.
So the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he
he he got up to go to her.
With him, he had a group of Sahaba
that he was dealing with in certain business
of the of the Ummah. He had Saadib
and Ubada,
Muad ibn Jabal, Ubayyub Nukab, Wazayyub Nuthab, Warijan
radiAllahu anhu, and many other more.
Which
means the prophet was in a very business
very serious business before that. He was with
some of these elites of the Ansar, some
serious business for the community, for the Ummah.
So when he got up everybody moved with
him and came with him.
So then when he arrived
the child was lifted up the messenger of
Allah like was brought to the prophet salallahu
alaihi wa sallam.
She said that so the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam, he put him on his on
his lap
and and and the child was was struggling
with the with his breathing, Like, very his
breath was disturbed.
And and the prophet, salallahu alayhi, salallahu alayhi,
he saw that. So upon seeing the salawatullah
salallahu alayhi, he start tearing
up. And he has softly start crying.
Now,
I mean,
I don't know about you but it's one
of those moment is so difficult to see
someone that you love died in front of
you, in your arms, let alone a child.
Now his daughter probably she thought or at
least she hoped
that the prophet
been the messenger of Allah, That we intervene
and give the chance for this child to
survive by the grace of Allah
But the prophet, he doesn't own life and
death.
And knowing that it's not in my hand,
I cannot do much for this child. So
as he was holding him, salallahu alaihi wa
sallam, looking at that baby, he starts crying.
So those soft tears starts coming down on
his cheek, salallahu alayhi salallam.
Sad, Ibn Ubada radiAllahu, looking at the messenger
of Allah, and he says, you Rasulullah,
what is this?
Because they learned from the prophet, sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam, you shouldn't be wailing.
You shouldn't be crossing the line, you know,
when someone dies and so forth. And he
thought that this is was something, you know,
inappropriate. Like, you're also you said we shouldn't
be doing this. So he was kinda like
objecting. I said, what is this? You're telling
us not to cry and and that's what
you do?
So the prophet says
because this is different, this is mercy.
It's not wailing, there's not, you know,
complaining about Allah subhanahu and rejected the Qadr.
No. He was
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has placed this mercy
in the hearts of his slaves and servants.
Like this is compassion
that God put in my heart. That's what
it means here.
Whoever Allah was.
Another narration
says, and Allah
said Allah shows mercy and compassion
only to those among his slaves who are
compassionate.
Which is basically means that if you would
like to be Yani shown Rahma and mercy
and compassion
by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, you should show
it to the people around.
If you feel that your life is rough,
everything is is difficult and hard,
maybe you should look around your around you
and see what are you doing with the
people who are around you.
How's your,
relationship with your spouse?
How's your relationship with your, with your children,
with the people around you, your friends, your
relatives,
your grandchildren? How's your relationship with your grand
granddaughter, grandson,
Your son-in-law, your daughter-in-law?
How is your treatment to them? How is
your relationship with them? If you're not showing
any mercy or rahmah to those around you,
why would you expect Allah
to bestow that mercy and compassion upon you?
So it's extremely important
if you would like to see that compassion,
that rahma from Allah, be sent upon you,
that you show it to the people around
you as well too. But from this hadith,
what we learned is that in a moment
of grief and sorrow,
crying, soft cries, I would say, is okay.
There's nothing wrong with that.
Showing that,
that sadness,
is okay.
It's not contradictory to the command of the
prophets or the prohibition of the prophet, salallahu
alayhi wasalam, from wailing or rejecting Allah's father.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect your loved
and
and fill our hearts with rahma and mercy
and compassion for one another
Allah. Any questions, Jamal?
Yes.
Congregation?
So the question, why the sahab radhiallahu anhu
from last night's actually,
khatra when the prophet passed? What we know
is that
the
did not pray in one
jama'ah, rather they prayed in actually small groups
and individuals.
Now the I remember they gave different opinions
in this matter. First of all, some of
them say it's a space, convenience.
Because the prophet was in the small room,
so they didn't could not take take him
out. So they just wanna keep it there.
So they allow the people to come individuals.
But what is more appropriate is what's what
they said that is that
so that no one would argue who should
be the leader,
because whoever's gonna lead the janaza
probably give that
And they couldn't tell who's gonna be the
leader. So therefore, they said, people, they pray
different than nazah upon the prophet individually.