Yaser Birjas – The Tears Of Grief

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The importance of not crying during difficult times is discussed, as it is a practical and pragmatic religion. A deceased's death was a result of a fixed term used in Islam and is a practical and pragmatic message. The segment emphasizes the need for patience and preparation for the aftermath of the death, while also discussing the story of the prophet's actions during the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath of the aftermath

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			If you guys remember last night, we talked
		
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			in hadith 28.
		
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			We discussed,
		
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			it's alright for people who are grieving
		
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			to say words. Like, I I thought
		
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			when she was grieving over the passing of
		
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			her father, Muhammad
		
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			But what about crying?
		
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			Are you allowed to cry? Are you allowed
		
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			to shed tears?
		
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			Hadith number 29 answered this question.
		
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			And that's Hadith Abi Zayed Usama bin Zayd
		
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			ibn Haritha, Mawla Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam wahibihe
		
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			wa Abu Nuhibbe.
		
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			Usama bin Zayd ibn Haritha.
		
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			He is the the son of Zayd ibn
		
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			Haytha. Both of them are Heb Abnuhib, which
		
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			means the beloved
		
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			the son of the most beloved of Rasulullah
		
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			Rasulullah If I may ask the parents in
		
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			the back, If you guys can't keep your
		
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			kids a little bit quiet,
		
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			their brothers and sisters like to listen to
		
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			the
		
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			after we're done, you can have the masjid
		
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			all yours, inshallah. So please just bear with
		
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			us.
		
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			Boys and girls, inshallah.
		
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			So Osama bin Zayd bin Haritha was the
		
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			beloved of the most beloved to the prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
		
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			He was like his son. As a matter
		
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			of fact, was like he was adopted son.
		
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			So we talk about his the son of
		
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			his adopted son, salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah
		
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			salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah salawat
		
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			She sent to him, asking him to come
		
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			over.
		
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			Arzal bintu Nabiya, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, in
		
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			nabni qadihtudr
		
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			fashhadna.
		
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			She She sent to the messenger of Allah
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and saying
		
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			that my son, kadhi htudr, which means he's
		
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			actually he is dying.
		
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			Like, his time is up. He's dying.
		
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			Please come join us. Like, I wanna I
		
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			wanna my dad, I wanna see you. Be
		
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			with us. Like, I need you to be
		
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			with me.
		
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			Obviously, this is a very difficult time for
		
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			any parents, any child, anybody. Right?
		
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			And and the daughter that we're talking about
		
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			here in the hadith is, is,
		
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			Zaynab, his eldest daughter, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
		
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			So she had a daughter. Her name was
		
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			Umama.
		
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			That was the one that the prophet, sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam, was seen walking with her in
		
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			the streets,
		
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			in the marketplace.
		
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			She was the one the prophet was holding
		
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			in his salah. And when he goes to
		
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			the ruku, he puts her on the ground,
		
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			and then he goes to the sujood. And
		
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			then when he comes up, he pulls her
		
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			up again, held her
		
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			That's
		
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			Umama. But here, she had another boy, or
		
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			a child that was born for her
		
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			but that child did not survive long.
		
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			So which means she realized he's not gonna
		
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			make
		
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			it. So she said to the prophet salallahu
		
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			alaihi wa sallam, you Rasulullah,
		
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			please come. Come over. I want I want
		
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			you to be here.
		
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			Farasool
		
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			Allahu sallallahu alaihi wasalam.
		
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			So the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasalam, he sent
		
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			her salaam back and they said
		
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			He said to her, He sent to her,
		
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			whatever Allah takes away or gives belong to
		
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			Him. And everything with Him has a limited
		
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			fixed term using this world. And so she
		
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			should be patient
		
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			and anticipate Allah
		
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			reward.
		
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			And that's the words that we use usually
		
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			right now in what we call or aza.
		
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			Like, when we offer condolences to anybody,
		
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			we use these words.
		
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			To to Allah, whatever Allah takes
		
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			back, it belongs to Him. And
		
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			whatever Allah gives to you, it still belongs
		
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			to Him.
		
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			So, therefore, everything that belongs to Allah
		
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			And everything in this world
		
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			has measure,
		
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			has time. So So everything when it comes
		
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			to time expires, this is it.
		
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			Then as a result, he said,
		
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			then just make sure that you be patient
		
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			and hope for their word from Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala for that. So that was what
		
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			the prophet sent to his daughter.
		
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			What does that mean exactly to us? Look.
		
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			Islam is a very pragmatic or practical religion,
		
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			and what does that exactly mean?
		
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			If someone dies, that's part of life.
		
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			We grieve, we cry, we definitely we have
		
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			to, feel, you know, the the pain. But
		
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			then what happens after that? Life has to
		
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			move on and go on. That's why in
		
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			Islam, you can't mourn 1 or 3 days
		
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			3 nights over the death of somebody, except
		
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			for the husband.
		
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			4 months 10 days. Just have to move
		
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			on. Life has to move on as well
		
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			too. So here the prophet says, it's okay.
		
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			Allah make it easy for you. Take care
		
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			of it. As if he was busy with
		
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			something, probably maybe,
		
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			he believed it's more important to attend in
		
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			that moment.
		
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			So she sent back to the prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wa sallam. And now this time she
		
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			was saying for the sake of Allah that
		
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			he should come.
		
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			Like she gave like more like an oath
		
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			on the prophet
		
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			I ask you by Allah that you should
		
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			come.
		
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			And obviously if you do that to the
		
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			prophet
		
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			he had no other option but to respond
		
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			to that.
		
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			So the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he
		
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			he he got up to go to her.
		
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			With him, he had a group of Sahaba
		
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			that he was dealing with in certain business
		
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			of the of the Ummah. He had Saadib
		
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			and Ubada,
		
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			Muad ibn Jabal, Ubayyub Nukab, Wazayyub Nuthab, Warijan
		
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			radiAllahu anhu, and many other more.
		
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			Which
		
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			means the prophet was in a very business
		
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			very serious business before that. He was with
		
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			some of these elites of the Ansar, some
		
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			serious business for the community, for the Ummah.
		
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			So when he got up everybody moved with
		
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			him and came with him.
		
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			So then when he arrived
		
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			the child was lifted up the messenger of
		
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			Allah like was brought to the prophet salallahu
		
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			alaihi wa sallam.
		
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			She said that so the prophet sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam, he put him on his on
		
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			his lap
		
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			and and and the child was was struggling
		
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			with the with his breathing, Like, very his
		
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			breath was disturbed.
		
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			And and the prophet, salallahu alayhi, salallahu alayhi,
		
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			he saw that. So upon seeing the salawatullah
		
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			salallahu alayhi, he start tearing
		
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			up. And he has softly start crying.
		
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			Now,
		
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			I mean,
		
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			I don't know about you but it's one
		
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			of those moment is so difficult to see
		
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			someone that you love died in front of
		
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			you, in your arms, let alone a child.
		
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			Now his daughter probably she thought or at
		
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			least she hoped
		
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			that the prophet
		
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			been the messenger of Allah, That we intervene
		
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			and give the chance for this child to
		
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			survive by the grace of Allah
		
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			But the prophet, he doesn't own life and
		
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			death.
		
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			And knowing that it's not in my hand,
		
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			I cannot do much for this child. So
		
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			as he was holding him, salallahu alaihi wa
		
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			sallam, looking at that baby, he starts crying.
		
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			So those soft tears starts coming down on
		
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			his cheek, salallahu alayhi salallam.
		
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			Sad, Ibn Ubada radiAllahu, looking at the messenger
		
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			of Allah, and he says, you Rasulullah,
		
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			what is this?
		
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			Because they learned from the prophet, sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wa sallam, you shouldn't be wailing.
		
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			You shouldn't be crossing the line, you know,
		
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			when someone dies and so forth. And he
		
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			thought that this is was something, you know,
		
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			inappropriate. Like, you're also you said we shouldn't
		
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			be doing this. So he was kinda like
		
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			objecting. I said, what is this? You're telling
		
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			us not to cry and and that's what
		
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			you do?
		
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			So the prophet says
		
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			because this is different, this is mercy.
		
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			It's not wailing, there's not, you know,
		
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			complaining about Allah subhanahu and rejected the Qadr.
		
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			No. He was
		
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			Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has placed this mercy
		
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			in the hearts of his slaves and servants.
		
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			Like this is compassion
		
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			that God put in my heart. That's what
		
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			it means here.
		
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			Whoever Allah was.
		
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			Another narration
		
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			says, and Allah
		
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			said Allah shows mercy and compassion
		
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			only to those among his slaves who are
		
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			compassionate.
		
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			Which is basically means that if you would
		
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			like to be Yani shown Rahma and mercy
		
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			and compassion
		
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			by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, you should show
		
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			it to the people around.
		
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			If you feel that your life is rough,
		
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			everything is is difficult and hard,
		
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			maybe you should look around your around you
		
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			and see what are you doing with the
		
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			people who are around you.
		
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			How's your,
		
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			relationship with your spouse?
		
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			How's your relationship with your, with your children,
		
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			with the people around you, your friends, your
		
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			relatives,
		
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			your grandchildren? How's your relationship with your grand
		
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			granddaughter, grandson,
		
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			Your son-in-law, your daughter-in-law?
		
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			How is your treatment to them? How is
		
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			your relationship with them? If you're not showing
		
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			any mercy or rahmah to those around you,
		
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			why would you expect Allah
		
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			to bestow that mercy and compassion upon you?
		
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			So it's extremely important
		
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			if you would like to see that compassion,
		
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			that rahma from Allah, be sent upon you,
		
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			that you show it to the people around
		
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			you as well too. But from this hadith,
		
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			what we learned is that in a moment
		
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			of grief and sorrow,
		
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			crying, soft cries, I would say, is okay.
		
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			There's nothing wrong with that.
		
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			Showing that,
		
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			that sadness,
		
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			is okay.
		
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			It's not contradictory to the command of the
		
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			prophets or the prohibition of the prophet, salallahu
		
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			alayhi wasalam, from wailing or rejecting Allah's father.
		
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			May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect your loved
		
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			and
		
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			and fill our hearts with rahma and mercy
		
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			and compassion for one another
		
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			Allah. Any questions, Jamal?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Congregation?
		
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			So the question, why the sahab radhiallahu anhu
		
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			from last night's actually,
		
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			khatra when the prophet passed? What we know
		
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			is that
		
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			the
		
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			did not pray in one
		
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			jama'ah, rather they prayed in actually small groups
		
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			and individuals.
		
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			Now the I remember they gave different opinions
		
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			in this matter. First of all, some of
		
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			them say it's a space, convenience.
		
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			Because the prophet was in the small room,
		
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			so they didn't could not take take him
		
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			out. So they just wanna keep it there.
		
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			So they allow the people to come individuals.
		
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			But what is more appropriate is what's what
		
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			they said that is that
		
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			so that no one would argue who should
		
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			be the leader,
		
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			because whoever's gonna lead the janaza
		
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			probably give that
		
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			And they couldn't tell who's gonna be the
		
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			leader. So therefore, they said, people, they pray
		
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			different than nazah upon the prophet individually.