Yaser Birjas – TaSeel #56 Q&A
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The speakers discuss the concept of fasting, which is considered a form of sedentary activities. They stress the importance of having a strong personal and religious character to achieve success in life and emphasize the need for consistency in personal and religious character. The speakers also emphasize the importance of working on one's heart and avoiding double-standing, and advise against drinking alcohol and hate actions when doing bad deeds. They stress the need to separate actions from people's deeds and avoid double-standing, and caution against anyone who is doing bad deeds and anyone who is fasting on Saturday.
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Can we intend to not fast solely Saturday
every week, and not fast and gain Ajr?
I mean, it's a tricky question over here.
So we said that fasting Saturday, fasting Saturday
is considered what, Jamal?
Those who attend the class.
Is it Haram or Makrooh?
Makrooh.
Fasting Saturday is Makrooh.
So if you do it, would you be
punished?
No, but if you don't, would you get
reward?
Yes.
So the question is, if I intend not
to fast Saturday, look at the question, Jamal.
It's not like if I intend to fast
Monday.
No.
If I intend not to fast Saturday, would
I get reward for that intention?
Like the negative intention?
But look, if you had in your mind
that I can fast, but I don't want
to fast because I know it's Makrooh, I
hope you'll get reward for that intention, inshallah
wa ta'ala.
I hope you'll get the reward for that
intention, now.
So if we say that when Rasulullah Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam forbids something, sometimes it makes it
Haram and sometimes it makes it Makrooh, depending
on the category.
How do we answer people who say we
are picking and choosing what is Haram and
what is not based on our desires?
Well, they need to study Usul al-Fiqh
to know what we're talking about.
Because how to classify something Haram, how to
classify something Makrooh, these are specific rules for
every category.
I don't know how many of you have
taken Usul al-Fiqh class with me back
in the days with the Maghreb Institute, but
yeah, we explain that in details.
So they call them statements of Haram, statements
of Makrooh.
The standard rule is that any statement of
prohibition, it should constitute Haram, unless there's an
indicator that suggests otherwise.
So if there is no indicator that to
move that prohibition from being binding to non
-binding, then it becomes Haram.
But if there is any way to find
a statement, another action of the Prophet, salallahu
alayhi wa sallam, that would suggest otherwise, then
it becomes Makrooh.
So there are specific rules.
It's not like a random selection over here.
What does this word mean from the Hadith
of Sirat, the word admonished of Allah?
Admonisher, probably.
Our own conscious, or fitrah, or taqwa.
Well, the Arabic word was, wa'idhu Allah
fi qalbi kulli bin mu'min.
Wa'idhu Allah, like the reminder, the reminder.
So who is that reminder to you?
Is it the taqwa?
Is it the fitrah?
Or is it maybe a nafs?
Because a nafs, there's nafs al-lawwama, there's
nafs al-ammara bis-su, there's nafs al
-mutma'inna.
So your nafs is the one, if it
was fed with good, like we explained that
from the Hadith, from the stories of Ibn
Qayyim, rahim Allah, from before, and in the
beginning of this series, that if the fitrah
was fed with good, or nafs, I mean,
if the nafs was fed with good, how
would it direct you to?
To what?
That which is good.
But if the nafs was fed with something
bad, it would go there.
So the same thing over here, that if
you feed your nafs well, it will always
tell you, no, don't do this.
Taghfirullah, abtaqillah.
But if you don't do this, the nafs
is gonna go with desires.
Becomes easier for it to say, yeah, why
not?
So that's the meaning of wa'adullah fi
qalbi kulli mureen mu'min.
How can we make the knowledge and religious
actions impact our hearts so that we can
perfect our character?
I have the knowledge, the friends, the actions,
but lack the consistent good character with my
spouse and children.
I lack patience at times.
May Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la
give us all the good akhlaaq with our
spouse or families, Ya Rabbil Alamin.
Now, the best way to do that is,
as you know, you have to have moments
of reflection.
Like seriously, you need to sit down every
now and then at night before Fajr, when
everybody's sleeping.
Make your wudu.
What do you mean without wudu?
Just wake up.
If you wake up in the last 10
minutes of the night, just sit down and
just make reflection.
Make reflection on your actions, your day, your
akhlaaq, your manners, your relationship with Allah Subh
'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la, because when it
comes to akhlaaq and manners, it actually comes
from the heart before anything else.
You can't fake good manners, Ibn Ma'an.
No matter how much you try, it's gonna
show.
So it has to come from the heart.
So therefore, you need to work on your
heart, not just that.
So how do you do this?
Like I said, try to have a serious
personal connection with Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta
-A'la.
Wake up at night.
Wake up at night and do tahajjud.
Fast Mondays and Thursdays.
And be conscious of your ta'a of
Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la.
Make sure to think about service of people.
The service of people will bring you closer
to Allah Azza wa Jalla.
As the Prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam mentioned,
that ahabbu nasi Allah anfa'ahum lil nas.
The most beloved people to Allah are those
who are beneficial to others.
So remember this hadith, and hopefully inshallah it
will help you, become an incentive for you
to do better with the people inshallah Azza
wa Jal.
Should tahiyyat al-masjid be done when entering
the masjid and the class is in progress?
The answer is yes.
Because if you do it in Jum'ah,
the class is also more, however, make it
short and then sit down.
From Jum'ah as well too.
I see people sometimes they enter when the
adhan is being called.
So what do they do?
They wait until the adhan is over.
Actually don't wait until the adhan is over.
If you come for Jum'ah, and you
hear the adhan is calling, pray to your
tahiyyat al-masjid, your two rak'ah tahiyyat
al-masjid.
Pray, and then sit down.
So that you attend the khutbah from the
beginning if you can.
If the imam ends a surah with a
question, like surah al-qiyam for example.
Alaysa dhalika biqad al-yuhyi al-mawta.
Isn't he capable of bringing the dead back
to life?
So some people they say something like bala,
which means absolutely or indeed.
Should we say that?
That's actually in the nafl salah or in
tahajjud you say that.
But in the fard salah you remain quiet.
Regarding good character, what if I'm good to
my spouse, but she's always stubborn and disrespectful?
Masha'Allah, Allah open doors for Jannah for
you.
And if you're the one who's masha'Allah
doing well, and she's not responding equally, may
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make it easy
for you.
That's what it means to have good akhlaq.
Because good akhlaq is not just when people
are good to us.
Good akhlaq when people are actually acting mean,
but you still keep your cool.
Because you treat them with good akhlaq and
good manners.
Besides, there's a big difference between being upset
to them being disrespectful and behaving badly.
It's okay for you to be upset of
your spouse being disrespectful.
You should be, as a matter of fact,
upset.
But that doesn't warrant you to misbehave.
Like yelling or being physical, astaghfirullah, or cursing
or cussing.
No, you should still maintain your good akhlaq
and your good manners, insha'Allah.
Is the prohibition on asking about things which
have not been mentioned by Allah specifically means
for address to the sahaba only?
We're gonna cover that in details next week,
insha'Allah.
Is it okay to break relationships with people
if they are doing haram thing?
We have fear of turning into like them?
The answer is yes.
And if you feel that being close to
them, they're gonna gravitate you towards their sins,
stay away from them.
Saying off to the parents, or urh.
If parents dislike acts of charity or any
other good deeds, in such cases can one
be allowed to have argument with them?
Now, not necessarily argument, but you can have
a conversation with them.
You don't have to listen to them in
regard to these matters because the Prophet, salallahu
alayhi wa sallam, says, innama ta'atu fil
ma'ruf.
You obey them in that which is considered
ma'ruf, which is good.
Also, la ta'atu illa makhluq fi ma'sayatil
khalaq.
There is no obedience to anybody if it
entails disobedience to Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala.
So if you would like to be charitable,
be charitable.
Your parents say, don't spend your money on
this cause.
Now, honestly, it depends.
If you're being wasteful, meaning that you're not
saving money for your hajj, you're not saving
money for your marriage, you just wanna be
charitable while you're living with your parents.
No, your parents have the right to do
that.
They have the right to tell you, don't
spend this much money.
You need this money to get married, to
do this and to do that, now.
Is it permissible, actually, I'm gonna have to
pass this.
It's not related to the discussion here.
Do we love a person when he does
a good deed and has good manners, but
hate the act, not the person when he
has bad manners or bad deed?
Well, so if the person is good and
they do bad, so we're gonna still love
the person and hate the actions.
But if someone is doing bad, but not,
basically, if one has bad manners or bad
deeds, I'm not sure I understand the question.
We need to separate, of course, there is
no doubt, separate the actions from the person.
You love the person for his Islam, for
his deen, for his good deeds, but I
just hate the bad things that they do.
And if they persist, like we learned from
the hadith, if they persist of doing these
bad deeds to the extent that it might
affect you, then stay away from them.
But if you know that they're doing it
as a weakness and they are remorseful, they're
always seeking help, then be with them and
stay with them and help them out, inshallah
wa ta'ala.
Whatever is in regard to potential in marriage
and marriage proposal, it depends what bad manners
we're talking about, what bad deeds we're talking
about.
Some of those bad deeds can really ruin
a relationship, so be careful.
Someone is asking that we need, inshallah, usul
al-fiqh class as an intensive.
As a matter of fact, it is actually
in plan, inshallah wa ta'ala, but first
of all, we start with talab al-ilm,
seek knowledge, inshallah.
Regarding singling out fasting Saturday, if the Prophet
forbade it, then why would this be considered
makrooh versus haram?
I'm not sure if the person attending the
class with us, but we said the Prophet,
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he came to the
house of Hafsa, and he saw actually, I
would think, another wife of the Prophet, sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, was with her, and they
were fasting on a Friday.
So he said to them, did you fast
yesterday?
They said no, which means Thursday.
He said, are you gonna fast in tomorrow,
which means Saturday.
They said no, he goes, okay, then break
your fast.
So he asked them if they were fasting
the next day, which means it's allowed to
fast Saturday as long as it's not singled
out now.
Can we do tahayt al-majid after the
jama'a that's already started?
The answer is no, you're just gonna enter
the salah, and that will be sufficient for
you.
Allahumma astagfirullah.
You know what, the jama'a, it's almost
every week I get this as a question
or as a remark.
So I have to bring it up, seriously.
They keep asking me that, please ask the
people when they come to the majid to
really take a shower or really use deodorant.
So if somebody's really coming from the gym
or coming from work, and they smell bad,
please don't come to the majid.
And Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, he said to
us about eating garlic or onion, don't come
to the majid because the angels will be
affected by that.
You will hurt the angels of the jama
'a.
And any other bad smell, whether it's smoke,
for example, smoking, or you did barbecue in
the backyard and you just came, masha'Allah,
straight to the majid, and you think it's
gonna smell amazing.
No, it doesn't.
You smell like a charcoal, just to let
you know.
So if someone, if you need to take
a shower, please do so.
I know you're eager to come to the
majid, I don't wanna miss Salatul Isha, but
yeah, you're gonna hurt people, you're gonna hurt
the angels, you better go ahead and take
a shower and take care of yourself.
And frankly, sometimes the strong smell comes from
the fact that the person doesn't shave under
the arms.
And I heard that some people, they heard
that, you know what, shaving under the arm
every 40 days.
No, no, no, no, Habibi.
If you can do it every single day,
that would be awesome.
Seriously.
Because leaving the hair to grow there, it's
gonna leave all the bacteria and the stinks.
So make sure to shave under the arms,
the pubic area, stay clean, and smell good,
insha'Allah, tabarak wa ta'ala.
So please, this is actually for both the
brothers and the sisters as well.
Make sure that you take care of yourself,
insha'Allah wa ta'ala.
Jazakumullah khair.
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
Jazakumullah khair.
Wa alaikumussalam.