Yaser Birjas – Snooping Into Other PeopleS Personal Life
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The transcript describes a hadith that describes a man as being disciplined by his wife and should not be asked for reasons why they are disciplined. The transcript suggests that the hadith is not about the wife's weakness or success or success in general, but rather about privacy and privacy in one's household. The advice given is to be watchful of Allah's teachings and not to spread rumors or negative comments.
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As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.
الحمد لله رب العالمين صلى الله وسلم بارك
عن نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسلم تسليما
كثيرا ثم ما بعد Tonight's hadith is very
short and it's despicable in terms of authenticity.
Hadith number 68 in Riyad al-Saliheen on
the Book of Al-Muraqaba, again being watchful
and examining yourself.
قال امام النبي رحمه الله عن عمر بخطاب
رضي الله عنه وارضاه عن النبي صلى الله
عليه وسلم انه قال لا يسأل الرجل فيما
ضرب امرأته.
Simple message.
In this hadith he says, the Prophet صلى
الله عليه وسلم said, No man shall be
asked for the reason why he disciplined his
wife.
No man shall be asked for the reason
why he disciplined his wife.
حديث رواه ابو داود ابن ماجه امام احمد
The majority of the imams of hadith, they
deem this hadith to be weak.
Like such as Imam al-Zahabi رحمه الله
تعالى There is one particular narrator or sub
-narrator, عبد الرحمن المسلمي In which they say
he is considered matruk, like no one takes
from his hadith.
So they deem the hadith to be weak.
Even contemporary scholars like Shaykh al-Albani رحمه
الله تعالى Ahmad Shaker They also say the
hadith is considered weak in terms of narration.
However, if they say even if it was
authentic, even if it was maqbool and acceptable,
there is a meaning for it.
So they say a man should not be
asked for the reason why he should discipline
his wife or his spouse.
Now, these things happen in our life.
We don't live a perfect world.
We don't live a martial idealistic society.
Unfortunately, disputes happen between husband and wife.
And sometimes, unfortunately, men can transgress and take
disciplinary actions that are not supposed to do
that.
So the idea is not if this is
right or wrong or halal or haram right
now, as much as two things.
Number one, everybody, especially these men, they should
watch what they do and what they say.
Because in the ayat, in surah an-Nisa,
in which Allah speaks about the order of
disciplining the household, at the end he said
to the men, He said, like, if they
obey you, don't transgress.
Do not be arrogant.
Don't go beyond what's reasonable.
And if you do so, he says, remember,
that Allah azawajal is aliyan kabira.
He is the most high and he is
the greatest.
Which means what?
Don't think yourself to be stronger than Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala, more powerful than Allah
azawajal, or greater than Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala.
Like, look, you're not going to get away
with it.
Allah the aliy, the most high, he is
seeing you.
And you're nothing in comparison to Allah azawajal.
And he is the greatest subhanahu wa ta
'ala.
No matter how powerful you think you are,
he is more powerful.
So be watchful of Allah al-aliy al
-kabir when it comes to dealing with that
matter.
The other meaning the ulema, they say, is
that for us, those who hear the news,
because unfortunately, small societies sometimes, you know, like
a small community, news spread, and it's easy
among the people to start hearing, oh, did
you hear what happened with this family, and
this family, and this family?
So here they say that, look, you need
to observe the privacy of households and the
community.
Meaning we don't know what happened between them.
If you are a person of authority, or
a person of khair, someone who can really
help you reconcile, or a therapist, or someone
who can really reach out to do something
to help them out, it's okay for you
to go and ask.
It's okay to go and ask.
He said, if a person is going there
to reconcile, to help them out, to fix
a situation for them, then it's okay to
go and ask.
Investigate and ask, and go to them and
say, hey, what happened?
But if someone is just for the sake
of just kind of like, what happened, what
happened, just for the sake of getting the
rumors and the news, and just curiosity, you
need to watch Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
you need to be careful, and mind your
own business.
In the previous hadith, if you remember, One
of the signs of someone's good Islam is
leave that which doesn't concern them.
So if that happens in someone's household, it's
not your business to be involved over there,
unless you're someone who can help, someone who
can help fix, and someone who can protect,
inshallah, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
So that's the meaning of the hadith, even
if it was considered authentic.
Which means again, no one can think that
they can do whatever they want to do
and then get away with it.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is watching, Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala is Aliyun Kabir.
And the same thing for us, just don't
spread rumors.
Don't talk about other people.
Keep their privacy for themselves.
Help them reconcile, inshallah wa ta'ala, and
that should be okay.
Wallahu ta'ala a'lam.
Any questions?