Ramadan and Family Life
This talk was given at the Valley Ranch Islamic Center on May 17, 2017.
Yaser Birjas – The Ramadan Marathon 07
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The importance of home events during the month of developers is discussed, including the return of fall and the return of Islam to Saudi Arabia. Representatives emphasize the need for healthy activities, sharing etiquette and family history, avoiding discomfort, and privacy in society. The speakers also stress the importance of avoiding drinking alcohol and maintaining healthy eating habits, and provide daily prayer and intimate sex with others. The speakers emphasize the need for parents to cut down on their meals and drink water, and emphasize the importance of sharing experiences to improve one's mental well-being.
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theologia mama God so welcome back to part three session three on ramadan ramadan and family life just to keep things inshallah Allah connected. We started with the third part we talked about Ramadan and special occasions that happens Ramadan a special actually events that we need to look into when it comes to Ramadan. The first session we had was about Ramadan and the Quran we give details how you could benefit how you could maximize your time and Charlotte wrote the Quran during the month of Ramadan and how you could benefit from the Quran even if you didn't speak Arabic you could still benefit from that and shallow water cotana the second session was about Ramadan and busy
life living of course
in the corporate world when you work from a from from eight to five and even more as Ramadan comes you know comes in it's going to be very hard to adjust your schedule for this. So how can I benefit Mac How can I maximize my benefit from the month of Ramadan? We spoke about it last week tonight in shallow tala Ramadan and family life. Obviously we are not going to be able to cover everything about family life in Ramadan. But there are many questions coming to mind and many people regarding their children and Ramadan and also themselves specifically husband wife and how they can manage the month of Ramadan together in Charlotte to bodycote Allah. So with this we begin with Ramadan and
family life.
Why Ramadan is so important for families what's the point? I mean, why is it so important for us as families would come to the month of Ramadan? holla I mean it's part of the whole overall experience overall our responsibility as Muslims towards our own children, our own families Allah subhanho wa Taala says yeah you are Latina Am I know who I am full circle, Molly coonara or you who believe God yourself and these your family's not from Johanna Welcome to NASA zhora the fuel which is people and rocks and stones. So that is our principle as believers we know that we have a mission in this life. And that is of course to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala and ensure that we have the environment
that would enable our families as well to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala and here Allah says well Latina Emma know what the bathroom the bathroom be man and I'll have maybe Henrietta home woman let Nahum and Emily Hinman she could live in the mecca sobre in Allah subhana wa COVID is telling us in this ayah and those who believe and who was the centers for them in faith missing believe in Allah azza wa jal, we will join them together. That means we will reunite these people together in general and you deserve judgment wama Allah, Muhammad Allah him and Shay means the deeds we're not going to be taken away from them. coolum Ravi Mikasa, Brahim each will get the reward for what they have
earned in this dunya. So from this ayah, we know that as families we're responsible, we're responsible for one another, we are responsible towards one another, as part of our duty as families is as much as possible to make sure that we follow into the steps of course of the sort of logistical asylums and hopefully, our ultimate inshallah success will be found when you reunite.
To get reunited on the day of judgment in shallow, diabolical dialogue, in general, for just Allah, may Allah make it possible for all of us have allowed me. So again, Ramadan for family is important, because it's a special season that makes this mission easier. And you guys you know what I'm talking about, right? And the message is, it's hard to wake up people for failure. It's hard to make a film for Saudi Arabia. But then it's just like, it's unbelievable thing is like, like magic happens in Panama. Like magic. I mean, the whole time is the same, I mean, the 24 hours of the same 24 hours. They don't change that, that dramatically. It's just one day difference, that's all. And one day,
you're gonna see southern Russia barely four or five lines over here. The next day, out of nowhere, we don't even have space in the middle of Han Allah sent a good figure. It's so hard, so hard to wake up, people were fragile, but all of a sudden, just eight hours later, everybody Mashallah not just that we even have hard time finding parking space for the people as well. Why because everybody's coming for certain version. So Ramadan is a special season. So Hannah will lie This is the first Baraka that is the first blessings we see and we experienced with the month of Ramadan. The moment Ramadan comes in, suddenly, people wake up, people become more active, this is coming
more frequent to the methods palette, basically, a lot of put so much better and higher in the time and the effort and the money and our people. So it is a golden opportunities for people. It is a golden opportunities for families who would like to achieve this goal in this ayah during the month of Ramadan, what Medina Amman what the bottom the year to be man, those who believed and the descendants of their families. They followed them into the path of believing in Allah subhanho wa Taala. Allah promised to bring them together in general for those that are mela makers.
So once
Again, why is it so important? Because it's a golden opportunity. Ramadan changes the schedule for people, gives people Subhanallah different perspective on life and even makes people see themselves see their potential, how easy it is for them to worship Allah subhana wa tada come closer to Allah and Ramadan. So for those who would like to achieve that goal, then Ramadan is coming prepared for it. What can I do? Why Ramadan is also important for us as Muslims and as families. For us it's a bonding time.
It's bonded my because even those who claim to be busy and they cannot come before seven o'clock, when Amazon comes their home by five o'clock, probably.
Because now they need to have a nap before they break their first and so they have time for this. And those who can't even you know, wake up to pray for themselves. They wake up when they wake up everybody with them for support. And so praying together, it's bonding time. And Ramadan, we get extra time to spend with each other. We get extra time to spend with each other, whether it's for food, whether it's for activities for Tara, we whatever that is, but there's how suddenly we have extra time to spend, you know, with each other, not just that suddenly we start as family members sharing, you know, good things with each other bonding time, whether it's enabled or otherwise. The
other thing in Ramadan, we catch up with a lot of
maintaining the ties of kinship, meaning Hamed, a lot of black men and Ramadan will start inviting each other over for a thought
check on each other maybe if you have family or relatives or some other place other states, another city or the country, you call them, you check on them, you send greetings for Ramadan, and greetings for their Eden taken on this and children that Subhanallah you will suddenly find hamdulillah it's easier to start maintaining the ties of kinship. And even if there were ties that were not so good title were severed earlier. Earlier, probably people would have handed in their hearts, you know, to come and try to fix this, this relationship and maintain them and make them better vanilla historical data. Another thing that we see in Ramadan is that people are becoming more active and
subtle that they become actually more conscious of their neighbors, Muslims and non Muslims.
So we have Muslim neighbors, we invite each other for a start, like you have a thought for families, if thought for relatives, and then a thought for your neighbors, who will be becoming more conscious of their neighbors. And also in addition to that, we start becoming more conscious of the non Muslim neighbors as well. Because we would like to share with them the spirit of Ramadan, right? Whether we buy them a gift, or share with them, some of our exotic you know, food, and sweet and this and that. So we become conscious of our neighbors, all of a sudden, and that's part of the spirit of Ramadan, it's good at hamdulillah it's so important for us to start connecting with the people who are around
us. Also, Ramadan is an opportunity to learn the etiquette of the month of Ramadan from one another. The older one is the younger one. And the other one observes that learning, learning what etiquettes like what almost everything. So Paula, and this is something I noticed in Ramadan, you know, when I especially the the not so busy time, like a lot longer, for example, it's not the busiest time of Ramadan. But I observe people when they come and they bring their children, I can see them teach them what to do.
I see people see adults, they study in holding their kids, they usually actually leave them to run around, but here all of a sudden, because everybody's fasting is more spiritual. So they hold them by hand and say sit down here, do this, do that. And sometimes I see parents actually sitting in the back of the masjid, holding their kids and they have almost half on their hands. And reading together. Eventually, people start teaching each other and learning from one another. And especially the etiquettes of whether it's actually religious etiquettes or even cultural etiquettes we teach our kids that stuff. because there'll be a lot of a lot of visiting a lot of actually family
members. Because we have a lot of invitations, a lot of food actually, you know, cannot afford to eat together, we start teaching our children how to eat and what the etiquettes you know, do that when you eat and who eats first and who should be served first and all the other etiquettes when it comes to love and manners when dealing with adults and an older people. We also teach him the etiquette of a better salon. We also teach in the etiquette of drama, and as car and how to hold the most of how to recite the Quran. So we teach them a lot. It's an opportunity for parents and for adults to teach their children, many, many, many beautiful things. And that's why Ramadan is
actually it's very important for families, by the way, especially in Ramadan. So panda parents, they have hard time convincing their teenage children to to do some activity banner, and now all of a sudden becomes easier. Like hey, read your plan. Where did you arrive? Did you finish your juicer? Have you done this? Have you done that? So it becomes easier for them to instruct their children to do so. And the children also becomes easier for them to accept that Ramadan is Baraka
It's a blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that's why it's so important for us and for families. How about for kids?
Now, when it comes to kids, obviously, we have kids of different age age groups, they're not the same. The younger ones, they might be more excited, by the way than the older ones about Ramadan. The older ones, because you know, it's an obligation. The younger ones is just, you know, it means you can stay up all night, and just kind of break all the rules that they've been given when they were younger. So Ramadan is an opportunity for them to enjoy and have fun. So how can we benefit from Ramadan with our children, and specifically the fifth rulings? for our young kids? Let's see.
What are children obligated to first Ramadan? When does it become obligatory upon our kids to start fasting for the month of Ramadan? So we have two things, we have the accountability part, and then the desirability accountability, which means when does it become obligation upon these children, the first month of Ramadan, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said, that Raphael color one Salah, the pen, which means of accountability, the pen of writing their deeds, and being accountable for their deeds has been lifted, of three people, or three types of categories of people. He said, Salah silica, first of all, and now I'm
the one who's sleeping until he wakes, or she wakes up. So I'm going to sleepy, they're not accountable, whatever they say whatever they do, while they're asleep, they're not accountable for it. The second category, he said, was severe. Allah had a
woman until the child until the child reaches the age of puberty. And then he said, Why imagine what was insane? Was the faculties of the mind until they recover. So from this, how did we learn that the child, the professor says, and Alolan, please visit the child until they reach the age of puberty. So in terms of accountability, in terms of accountability, it begins with the age of puberty. Obviously, once the age of puberty, we don't necessarily mean an actual age, but we're talking about signs of puberty, boys and girls are a little bit different. And each child has their own actually time for the for the puberty. But for boys, it's actually when they have their first
*. And for the girl, when she has her first Miss, first period. So this is basically the the mark of reaching the age of puberty. And obviously, there are certain signs that comes with that sort of development, that will give an indication if the child have reached that age or not a recommendation for parents, obviously, we assume we assume that our kids will be Mashallah will know about it. And they will tell us when it happens. You know what? No, they might know that some kids are so much older, so innocent, Sony, Sony, or sometimes because of cultural taboos becomes so hard for them even to admit it or tell. So therefore, it's highly recommended for parents highly
recommended for them, if you know that this is the will most likely your child reach puberty? And how would you know that it's an indication in the family, let's say the mother, she knows that in her family, it runs around 12 years old, 13 years old, more or less. So basically, she knows your childhood girl, she's coming to that age, she will give an instruction, hey, might, you know developing this, this might happen to you? If this happens, let me know. So you can prepare her for the month of Ramadan, the rules of the month of Ramadan, because specifically, girls who will have their period for the first time, they wouldn't know what to do, they probably be fasting, because
they have no idea that they need to break their fast during this time. And they don't even know how to manage this and what how to go about it. So therefore, it's very crucial, very important to give them that crash course about it to get them ready. What does it mean? And when do they need to make up for these days because you don't want them just to break their fast and just think that it's okay, until we're done? No, they need to start continuing afterwards. And then they need to make up for these days afterwards. So the effect of that needs to be taught to these little girls actually, when they reached around that age, same thing for the boys. They didn't they also to be told needs
to be educated about it. That when this comes to you it comes closer to this age. You need to know that this is now for you that you need to start fast it's obligation upon you. It's no longer now you know if you can or not. You have too fast right now. And they also need to be taught the game and the rules. What if they have the * during the day? What if they had it after fidget for example? Does it break their fast? And the answer is no it doesn't break their fast. So if they wake up and they they had let's say the * from the night and then they woke up in the morning and they notice that is actually they had * from the night. That doesn't break their fast they
only just take a shower and start their day. Whatever they had their * when they were sleeping after the whole for instance or after after them thing doesn't break their fast so they just to take a shower and just move on continue with their day. They need to be taught these rules so they don't feel embarrassed. Don't feel guilty. Don't feel shy about them so that actually they are prepared to understand the concept of accountability. We need to teach our children that concept of the company
Ability before Allah subhanho wa Taala first and foremost, before being accountable towards you as a parent.
The second thing What about the desirable time? Okay, so we know that it's not obligation upon children too fast until they reach the age of puberty or at least develop the sign of puberty. Now then, what about recommending for children when should we recommend fast for the children? It also runs in pilot interviews. So the last element regard to the subject of Salah in certain Aveda Woods Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam said teach your children Salah when they attend the age of seven years. Paula sola, sola, Ponte alamogordo Masada, Lisa, our Moroccan besotted, etc, we need to you need to order your children to perform their salon when they become seven years old. Now, what does that
exactly mean? That means before seven years old, our children need to be taught how to perform salon. By the time they become seven. They need to be busy taught to know how to make Salah, don't wait until they become seven to teach them how to pray. But by the time they come closer to seven years old, they should know how to pray. And then he said several asylum when Muhammad
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and discipline them when they become 10. Which means if you don't praise Allah, they need to be disciplined, there will be consequences if you don't praise Allah, when they become 10 years old. From the same thing, that element is in the books of Hadith. And I'm sure that the same height can be applied for fasting as well. So we start with you see the children at seven years old, they become Mashallah you know, strong enough to know how to make out what fasting is. And they can observe the culture of, of the household and what happens in Ramadan. And because they're very smart, they do that they can even fast younger than this. Obviously, the policies is different from
the summer to the winter. But eventually, they can fast if they're taught how to fast. So if they do so, which we encourage them to start fasting at seven years old. When they become seven, we let them know that Ramadan is coming, hey, we're going to be fasting. You wouldn't want you want to fast with us. What do you think? How about you fast, and most of these children actually like to copy the adults, so most likely will do. But no pressure, no pressure. But when they become 10 years old, that will make sure that they fast. But is it obligatory? Not yet, but they still need to fast. And even if they break their fast there'll be consequences. But not to say that they have committed a
sin. It just that they need to be trained so that when they reach that age of puberty, they will shallow to either be ready for it.
Just to show that why we say that when young children needs to be encouraged to pray too fast the month of Ramadan, and the Hadith that was mentioned before the Muslim Albania when Tamara was allowed to run her. She said when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam came to Medina, when he came to Medina, one of those one of those days in the morning, they woke up and there was an announcement that an announcement was for Ashura, the 10th of the of Muharram, the 10th of Muharram, the Prophet xlsm, used to fast because he saw the Jewish community in Medina fasting that day, and when he asked him about it, they said this is the day when Allah subhanho wa Taala saved Moosa homes around the
prophets, Allah, Sam says, And Allah, we have a Muslim income, I have more rights than you do. So he ordered the Sahaba of the law determined accumulated too fast that day, that was before Ramadan was prescribed the following year. So that first year when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam arrived in Medina, the announcement was made, whoever woke up in the morning, if you ate anything, abstain, and continued on the rest of the day fasting. And if you haven't eaten anything, don't start, don't break your fast, continue until the end of the day. So the mom would come in tomorrow would have the long run. And she said, and we use the fast and make our children fast. We used to fast and make our
children fast. And we make toys for them, like we made basically made of coffee or wool. And then we take them to the masjid with us to spend the time there just to kind of like distract them from fasting. When they ask when they ask for food. We give it to them to play with it. Obviously, when you say that you're given to be given toys for children, you can understand that the age of these of these kids actually is they're very young. It's not like 15 years old, you give them a toy, or wanting to play with. It's not going to be the case, but actually it's young kids. That shows us that the Sahaba Rajaratnam used to encourage their children. Even when they were young. Help them to
fast the month of Ramadan. I used to say we used to take them with us to the masjid. And when they start complaining about you know, they're hungry and they need food. That's when we give them the toys so distract them a little bit until the time of thought. From this again, we learn
it's okay even. It's okay for young children while they're fasting to have fun.
At some people Ramadan comes in, they hide all the toys, all the video games, everything and so on. And it has to be just like, like a monastery in the house and helaas normal
Normal a normal, fun normal plague or nothing. But still the kind of games that they play the innocent games of course it's a play that's fun is part of the month of Ramadan and it's allowed for us to let our kids get distracted if they start getting hungry,
thirsty, let them have fun getting distract a little bit from that until hamdulillah they passed that phase and then they go back again to maybe the revised and worship in the month of Ramadan
So here are a few questions about children
are kids allowed to break their fast before sunset? What do you guys think?
Are they allowed Can we make you know an arrangement for our kids too fast until the whole time?
Why not? Yeah, some families they begin with their younger children when they let's see six years old seven years old. They start by allowing them to fast up to the whole time and then the following year the pheasant alasa and then the year after that when they become eight or nine they start fasting the full day so are we allowed to make arrangements for our children to break their fast before so that the mother have the answer for the younger ones of course obviously yes we can
do we make this as a fast food like we call this Ramadan fasting for them? I mean, obviously they need to understand it's because of their age that we allowing them to break their fast earlier. And they need to do to fulfill the complete fast with the sunset Of course, but yes, we are allowed to let the kids break their fast Of course, right before before I mean, sometime before the sunset. Of course obviously if your child reads Mashallah, one hour before Mughal just push them, push them a little bit, one more hour, whatever as you can give them, get them distracted again, let them play video game, that's fine. Let them play video game until the time of measure of comms and then they
can refresh everybody in Charlotte roboticle data. And so how la vida children that comes to fasting I mean kids can can can lie about anything. When it comes to fasting, they cannot they cannot lie about it. Why? Because for them when they when it comes to breaking the fast you can tell the child who complete the fast no one will complete the fast because of the excitement. Those who cheated they won't be as excited.
But those who haven't cheated and they continued fasting all day. When it comes to breaking the fast you can tell it's a great achievement for them, that they continue till sunset. So somehow they cannot lie and that is interesting, because he didn't maybe selasa Ala Moana Professor Sam says Carla was a virgin and hydrocodone
kulu Ramadan, Adam Allahu Allah song. When the Holy One as a professor singer, Lazarus says that all the good deeds of the son of Adam belongs to him. Except for fasting, it is done exclusively for me. So Subhanallah, that's a very unique characteristic about about fasting. The second thing if a child is just on fasting, but it becomes harmful for him or for her, they want to fast. She's eight years old. And she wants to fast, but we know it's summertime. It's extremely hot, she goes to school, and she gets extremely dehydrated and maybe thirsty and becomes very harmful for her to continue that fast. Should we should we force them or obligate them to break their fast. Now if they wanted to
fast and you know that it's okay for them to continue half of the day, for example, let them do it. If it becomes dangerous becomes harmful. Maybe because the doctors also advise especially if they were sick, then this case, they need to break their fast. How do you make them break their fast, obviously, as much as you can let them know that their water shallow data is calculated for them. And also reward them with something special, whether during the month of Ramadan, or after the month of Ramadan, but don't let them feel guilty for breaking the fast they need to know that it's okay for them to break their fast if they couldn't continue the
effective child does not show signs of puberty, let's say the girl she didn't she didn't have her period yet. Avoid What dream is still late. So what age what is the age limit that we consider the person or the child to be actually an adult? So that we say that says even if you didn't show the sign of puberty, you are considered now an adult and you have already reached the age of puberty the element they say actually it's 15
any child that reaches the age of puberty which is 15 is considered right now an adult according to the into the Lauren calendar, which means in our time right now will be when they're about 14 and a half almost you could say 14 the first quarter of their of their when they become 14 plus, that's when we consider them actually kind of adults and they've already reached their age of puberty. And our boys and girls are similar to the Ramadan rulings. The answer is yes in generally speaking yes in terms of obligation to fast or not in terms of the same thing as the age when it becomes obligatory upon them or not and what to observe
Fast and so forth, the same ruling, obviously, except the fact that the leadership of the girl she has a special rules when it comes to administration period. And the boy, of course, everyone has his own way. These are different separate rules that the girl in this case, she needs to break her fast when her period starts. And the boy countries actually his fast, you know, even if you had a wet dream, he's still going to continue with his fast. What if the child still goes to school? goes to school, basically. And it's Ramadan? What do you do? In this case? Let's say you have high schoolers, they go to school. And they're going to be going to school almost all day, and they come
back six 630, maybe seven, seven o'clock? An hour, an hour and a half before?
If it is that too much for them doesn't mean that we should ask, we should allow them to break their fast What do you guys think?
We should not actually allow them to break their fast you might say but they might have an exam. So what? So how about a lot around these defects, you know, in the heat of the Arabian Peninsula, and the desert is so hot life was so hard for them, and they still were ordered too fast. For us that handle a lot of damage. If you have an exam, we take an exam and Mashallah in a nice, beautiful, you know, climate, we have an AC in the room, and so on. So that is actually not an excuse to break the fast. It's not an excuse to break with us What if someone says you're going to have a very important exam, board exam or this and that and so on. So the same thing islamically, you should actually
observe first and suppose Allah, Allah, Allah put the Baraka for you, you know, when you're fasting, so that's actually better that you observe the fast and go and take the exam. Unless, of course, while you're taking the exam, if you feel dehydrated, you get tired, or sweating, whatever in this case, yes, you are allowed to break your fast. And then you can make up the day afterwards a shout out the barcode on
children taraweeh.
With regards to Should we take them to bring the
adults the parents who say no,
especially though those who don't have kids, they would say no children.
And those who have children, they say, of course, everybody shallow.
So what do we do in this case, as a community, we have to accommodate for each other.
Those parents who have kids that have a lot of galantamine, they need to understand that there are some other people who come to the masjid, they don't have kids. Maybe they do have kids, but don't bring them to the masjid because they want to make sure that they can consideration those who don't have children as well. So at least hamdulillah everybody would enjoy that.
As a community speaking as a community we need to accommodate for each other and Charlotte, Allah and will hopefully we can make the best arrangement so that we have a space for those who have children to stay with their children while they pray. Or maybe we can shut out as we usually do. We have inshallah, here in the masjid, we have the childcare, where people can drop off their kids to the daycare inshallah surgeon and then come and do the Riba and after somebody can go and pick up their kids, but should children attend taraweeh Salah? The answer is actually, yes, as long as parents observe the rules and the etiquettes of bringing to the masjid. It really it bothers me and
sometimes it surprises me. When I hear from other people from different communities, they say, when they come to the masjid during the month of Ramadan, or tarawih. In particular, they see at the door of the masjid, there's a sign sign written at the door of the measure says no children allowed during taraweeh.
Like they said, don't you're not allowed to be your kids are away. What even makes it actually worse. When the when the signature is says basically the Imam of the masjid
when the Imam of the masjid is telling people not to bring their kids, it's a problem, because the Imam is supposed to actually soften the hearts of the other people to allow those kids to bring their kids and come but we need to make some arrangement for everybody to enjoy it in Charlotte barako data. Once again, if you bring your kids to the masjid, it is your responsibility. It's your responsibility as a parent to make sure their 100 they're safe. And also they observed the etiquette and the rules of being in them. Especially if they're seven, eight years old. That means means that they need to pray and keep them next year. If there was no space for the parents and their children,
then as a parent, you need to keep your child next to you while you're making your Salah and your event. And if you know that your children are going to be making noise or going around. It is your responsibility that you keep the order in domestic agency a lot of our core data The second thing, can children have their own toys together?
Should we even encourage that. Honestly, if we have 100 young farm, it is good to do that. It's possible because most of these kids eventually Let's be practical, pragmatic about it. When we bring our kids with a message over here, most likely they will pray for Raka if not even to and then just like disappear
So they won't even actually go up to a dry car. They're on the 20 so what do you do in this case if we can bring this junk prefer to leave the salon and have the youth with them, so they could pray their own 20 record shallow data within a reasonable time that is actually much better than allowing them to come and they don't pray they might pray to rock a fork and then disappear so it's better for them to do so however, should this Can this be done in the same masala era? The answer is no, it's not in the same masala area. But if you have a handle a big center, we have multiple rooms and multiple halls and in this case, another whole another room. They can have a tearaway for the youth
in their area, that will be you can shallow Li remember as a matter of fact, when I used to live in Medina, that was in the midst of a lot of asylum, every Torah we had this Ramadan, we used to see in the back in the back
of the muscle of the Muslim, the visceral asylum, the young father, the children of the Quran, and the field school, they will be scattered all over the place in the bank. And they have their own lines and insula for each other like multiple Jamaat all over the place in the back area. Most people they leave after after actually a trigger a lot of people have developed a tracker that gives space for people in the bank. And so therefore these kids actually under the supervision of their teachers will be praying in the back area of the mother so it's okay if you can do so that's fine. It's always preferable Of course to have them all pray one Gemma with the amendment method. But if
you had to, it's okay for them to have actually their own their own. Gemma, how much financial theory do they have to finish the whole for? I mean, even the adults in the budget, they don't have to finish the entire plan. Obviously, it's better that we do hotma but that hotma is going to be too long for people that they will be exhausted and tired and not even focusing on what they're listening to. So it's better that there is at something that a man can handle and can hold can can
enjoy in terms of in terms of the sweetness of derivative spirituality and understanding. Lima Mohammed Rahim Allah Allah when he was asked about how much should the Imam read inter alia, he said there is no specific number of Ayah he said it's actually a quarter to then a shot of his Gemma which means the energy of the congregation. So that if the energy of the congregation takes to just three just five just go for it over the Gema is one just then keep it one just if the gym is less than that, basically it actually is according to the energy of the gym and obviously with the energy of the gym, it fluctuates so during the summer, during the summer, the night is short, therefore
it's better than the resuscitation be less and during the winter than it is much longer. So in this case we can add actually more to the citation of the Quran inshallah on
how to get kids excited for Ramadan. There are many ways of doing that. The first thing we always recommend for parents is to get your children involved involved with what would all what is the all the activities of the month of Ramadan. So for example, some of the activities that we need our kids to be involved with is rebellion. So now you let them know Okay, so Ramadan is coming What do you guys gonna do about taraweeh
let them plan it for themselves the weekends especially if you have an older children, youth and teenagers the weekends are coming What do you guys what's your plan for this? Maybe they start planning youth programs that's on Friday and Saturday they plan this or we have to be a different message in a different community so that's basically when they try to help and assist each other inshallah as youth together also get them involved in decorating the house and that's a question people they ask Are we allowed to have a special Ramadan decoration in the house would that be considered you know imitation of Christmas you know, decorations on the answer it's okay to have the
coalition you know in the house is a considered added as considered a specific event that and it's okay to have these decorations and shallow terracotta let the kids do the decoration let them go shop with you have you know something that they prepare for this also we know that during the month of Ramadan there are special means let's see have the kids start getting involved in preparing some of these meals
let them get get ready to start preparing for the support for example if they have a special drink especially they want to do let them get involved with that as well right before they let them get ready and start preparing the table for example for their thought any activity that you feel is important for them to get involved in let them do it. Get them get excited about the month of Ramadan inshallah Baraka The second thing prepared Ramadan puzzles, you know, I I'm still doing that at home as well. And so what we do in Ramadan, specifically in Ramadan, we buy those 1000 piece puzzles, not the small another 50 you know, piece or one No, the 1000 be the most and also the
boring because it takes a long time to do and it's a challenge.
So we opened one of these boxes on the table, and we'll leave it there. So throughout Ramadan throughout the few days, the first few days Ramadan, the kids, they come and they start feeling the challenge. And they're trying to put the pieces together. It's frustrating makes them hungry sometimes, but makes them actually excited to just to, to finish this challenge. When we're done, we bring another one. And we have another puzzle. This is a workaround. I mean, we have some of these puzzles that handle until today, they did the master, they finished them and they put them in frames, and they're still at home.
So you can you can create different kind of, you know, games and puzzles for children during the month of Ramadan, something that the family can enjoy. And this kind of the specific these puzzles I recommend for all the members of the family because everybody would enjoy them. The younger one and the older one, it's a challenge. Even when they when they've done a lot of acetone, for example, because it's close to them, they just lead immediately there and they start actually working on that puzzle. So not puzzle in particular, but any kind of game that you think kids will enjoy. And we'll continue with them for a few days in the month of Ramadan. Let them do projects, art, crafts,
activities, whatever that actually enjoyable for them shallow data would be good to do but in the last
part of they didn't also getting involved together in the household is eating together.
eating together is very, very, very important. I mean, it's kind of a lot. A lot of the family of luck and manners and etiquette are established around the dinner table.
And if many many people they have busy schedule and they don't have family to get together for a meal, Ramadan brings them all together. So this is a golden opportunities for parents to teach their children values, to get in touch with each other, to get to know them everywhere, you've missed the opportunity, you don't really pay attention. Your kids are actually growing up faster than what you could have imagined. So therefore it's a good time that you start connecting with your children. And when your family members inshallah Tabata Kotara, volunteer.
That's another activity where you can get your kids inshallah, to Allah invoke, let them volunteer to do what whatever activity the method can actually offer. Sometimes just stand up and stand outside the door, and hand people bottle of water as decompose auditorily that doesn't require an older kid you know to do that younger kids can participate in this activity. Ask the children to decrypt the message, clean the message, for example, to help with the fall time, or whatever activity the message requires Pamela we can have our kids boys and girls get involved in shallow water towards Allah in the image, it doesn't have to be the message. They can volunteer in other
centers. Let's say we're going to be doing an A thought for the shelter for example, or serving people outside of the masjid and so on. They can participate in shallow to Allah teaching the spirit of the month of Ramadan. So it is just ideas, some ideas what we can do to shallow to Allah for our children during the month of Ramadan. Now move on to speaking about Ramadan for husband wife.
The first thing
when it comes to the month of Ramadan is a husband and wife need to learn that Ramadan is an opportunity for them to team up together.
Further guys, I tell them, Ramadan is not about your wife serving you.
Because most men, unfortunately they think Ramadan, you know, I'm busy. Fasting, I'm hungry, which means I'm angry. That's for them, what does it mean? So therefore they expect their wives to serve them. And they just, you know, wait until the third moment, and it comes in and takes place. It doesn't know it's not like that. And for the ladies as well the same thing to normal man comes and as well. They do also expect you know, the husband would provide a lot of service. So in this case, we need to understand that husband wife need to team up together so that they will share the responsibility and share the burden, especially in our time in our culture. When parents are
actually living different different lifestyle. You know, like it's not like in the past where everything was organized, it's pylon, and everything is easy for them to handle and, and, and do but in this society almost everything is actually it takes takes time to do and we don't have the assistance of a lot of family members around us. So therefore is the requirement for a husband wife to team up together and Charlotte about a quarter look at this example of the Prophet sallahu wa sallam is sharing with us in regard to the meaning of husband wife teaming up together. And this hadith the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said, the Millers panatela have a mercy on a man who
gets up at night and prays Rahim Allah hongrun commonly is that celulose Allah may Allah have mercy on a man who wakes up at night to pray the night prayer. And then when he is done, he wakes up his wife.
Now he that's he did his part and now he wants to bring actually his wife to pray and if she
refuses to wake up. If she refuses to wake up, that he will take little some water in his hand, and sprinkles that on her face. Like to cheer her up and encourage her to wake up for the Vita and for the worship. And he said sola Silla, Mohammed lahoma, may Allah have mercy on a woman who would wake up at night, and pray. And then she goes to her husband to wake him up, like sharing the head with each other, she sprinkle some water in his face, it refuses to wake up. So basically, so that they share their world and share the higher together. What do we learn from this idea
that we responsible for each other. As a husband, wife, we team up with each other. Obviously, obviously, if you want your spouse to wake up at night, to pray with you, you need to make sure that during the day, you help each other in a way that makes this moment easy for one another. I mean, obviously, if you if one of you is working during most of the work, and you get extremely exhausted and tired, and then they go to sleep, don't expect them to wake up easily. So at least we need to know how we can help each other to shell out a bottle of data to make this task so simple and so easy. That's what the professor mentioned the Hadith and I will say that the law of the land. So
having said that, if a man does this, of course, that's his interpretation of the Hadith. Allah subhana wa Jalla writes his name, right, his name,
fear alienated from the people of agenda. And a woman does that Allah subhana wa jal write your name in the book also have led the people of agenda. Obviously, that's because they're not from the heart feeling, not from those who are heedless, and those who actually who oversleep, and never wake up for the hygiene of the family.
So what can parents do for tomorrow? We're part of the teaming up here. Just a little bit on that.
If you have children, which is one of the main the main tasks, you know, parents they complain about, you know, because if we have kids, what are we gonna do with our kids?
Especially, especially for I would say, for the first time mommies and daddies first moms and dads, they complain a lot about it. When the husband wife, specifically for the ladies, because not sure delivering a very active lifestyle, and the moment they become parents, now they have to spend more time at home, and they feel guilty for coming to the mother with a baby because the baby is going to be crying. So it's very hard on them to do so. So what do we do in this case, there are certain ways of doing going to Charlotte are number one to pray together at home. As husband wife, I highly recommend for husband wives, particularly young husband, wives, who have kids, and they think that
they are unable to comfortably enjoy it without you know, having to deal with all the complaints from the other parents and other people and so on. If you can take few nights off from the masjid and pray at home together. That is beautiful.
That is so beautiful. Because the Torah we are even Salah nephila, it's before it's preferable to be prayed at home. And it's actually done in them as Rasulullah Salah Sam says, kindness of Cairo Salatin model, if you obey the tuba, the best of the Salah that you perform is the one that you do that you do at home, etc, the obligatory one. So if you
come back home, and pray with your family together, do you take one night, two nights, three nights, every now and then to do that a better together at home so you could do it. And it's a bonding time spiritual moment, assisting each other make it isn't one another. It's so nice and so beautiful. Do you have to know but at least you considering the same thing. You know that what your spouse needs to, you know, to come to the message to you both of you sacrifice that to pray together at home and shallow data with their children. Number two, take alternative dates. What does that mean? Let's say on the weekends, for example, you take one day, you know one of you takes Friday, Saturday, Sunday,
and so on. Every few days, you switch you and your spouse and the other person the other party stays at home and prays at home once again, even for men when you pray at home, we still have much rewards in Charlotte, shout out about us our data. I know many people they feel lazy when they go and pray at home. Because that's what they prefer to spread the message. You know, they feel more energetic. But still though, if if that is your request for me to help each other would be great. Now people they would say But hold on a second. Is it better for the ladies to pray at home than praying at the masjid? The answer is yes. in general. Yeah, that is true. However, the prophets also also told us
let them know Allah massage the law, that if the lady wants to come to the message, you're not allowed to tell her No. So in this case, as long as we can accommodate to help each other hundreds great. The other thing is in this society here is not like living in a Muslim country where they can have access to spirituality to
to knowledge to enable that elsewhere. Now here unfortunately, the only there was probably one access to knowledge that comes into the method. So the ladies they would like to see that is spiritual environment.
They want to come to the masjid as well it's healthy for for them individually and also for the family as well and shallow diabolical diner. So take alternative this The third option is take turns every night. What does that mean? Let's say the method Mashallah priest one two.
So every night they make arrangements so that the the first a tracker, the husband goes on he prays the father goes and prays at the masjid and then after the a tracker, he goes back home, the lady she comes basically and she prays maybe the other 10 Records 12 record whatever that is, and they finished the night each one of them took share from them. The next day, maybe the opposite. She comes with the first eight and he can he comes with the other set of forgotten tarawih. Basically, they both come to the masjid every single night but they alternate Of course, the number of regard the beginning of the Torah or the end of salata. tarawih The other option I would suggest for
parents once again specifically for young parents, if they can team up with other families, they can team up with other families so that they will help each other and shallow to Allah by babysit their kids you know in one house and the others they go to pray
they pray in the middle and then they switch they alternate every every night maybe in someone else's house. So everybody has a share of taking care of the children while everybody else is actually going there for a brother and for Salah it's a community effort as also as well as family effort inshallah to Allah and husband wife effort as well.
intimacy elounda Ramadan is it allowed in Oman? And the answer is yes, it is allowed in Ramadan after Of course, sunset, which means when the thought is allowed, then they're allowed actually to be intimate with each other and the meaning of intimacy of it is the actual full actual *. Lots of Hannah Montana says hello, ella cometa to see Emma Rafa to eat Anissa echo has been made permissible for you the night preceding fasting to go to wives basically individually to be, you know, intimate with your spouse during the night. Paula remember, one day I was given a fifth of Ramadan lecture and when measured, and there was a group visiting the community from a different
state. One of the gentlemen who was attending he was in his mid 40s, probably late 40s. So when we came to this point, and I said it's okay, the husband wife to get to have intimacy during the night of the month of Ramadan. The man who stopped me He goes, excuse me, because Did I hear you right? That it's okay for husband wife to be intimate. in Ramadan center in during the night and the month of Ramadan? Because, yeah, during the night of the month of Ramadan, is it permissible? I said Yeah. Because once you get that from
I said, so the Quran Allah processen so I caught the ayah and when I caught the eye for him, I said it's okay, you could see on his face the disappointment of his face.
Like oh my god all these years.
Like he thought Ramadan is just basically completely there is no intimacy at all. I guess we mix it up with the the Hadith of the Prophet salla Selim about the last 10 nights of Ramadan, when the Prophet sallallahu sallam, when the last tenets of Ramadan used to start, you begin the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam, he would wake up his family to do the hygiene and family, he would shut up, which means he would tie his his loincloth that has the meaning of being active in Nevada, and also to abstain from you know, from intimacy in the last night of the month of Ramadan, because he's busy right now observing an isolated
so probably demand He mixed up, you know, these two things, and therefore he thought the entire month of Ramadan, that said, You are not allowed even to approach your spouse. So the answer again, yes, it's permissible for husband wife to be intimate, during the nights of the month of Ramadan? What about the last 10 nights of Ramadan? Are they allowed to be intimate with each other? The answer is, yes. Obviously, the son of the Prophet Salah Salem to abstain and get yourself busy observing the little cuddle, but it's not Haram. And it's not sinful, if actually they engage in intimate, intimate connection relationship, and the night of the last night of the month of Ramadan.
What about if they were traveling them? If they were traveling? Are they allowed to be intimate during the day of the month of Ramadan? What do you guys think? The answer is yes. If If breaking the fast was allowed for them while they're traveling, it means it's allowed for them also to be intimate with each other and it should be fine. How about affection?
We're talking about intimacy right now. affection, hugging, kissing, you know, being in a kind of like, you know, in a moment of cuddling and so on. Is that okay? Is that permissible? Well, I showed the Latina she reported that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam used to kiss and embrace his wife while he was fasting. And she said but however he was he had more power than any one of you to control himself
which means being affectionate with the story.
Not just not just to kind of warm affection, even actually passionate affection, it is still permissible. That is still permissible during the day of the month of Ramadan. Obviously, people need to know their boundaries. Otherwise if they cross the line and they break their fast basically they have an actual * that breaks, they're fast. And there's a fodder for this but being affectionate is okay. So what about what if, for example, have they just it's a matter of holding hands or kissing each other and this and that? Absolutely. Of course. What if? What if the lady she wants to kiss her husband and the husband says stay away from it? Let somebody complain like the guy
who turns hermit matcha during the month of Ramadan, has no touch Don't touch me. Don't Don't come leery. alarmist. I'm not to that extent. Though. Even the prophet SAW Selim, while he was fasting, he was still busy being very affectionate and very close to his wife. sallallahu wasallam. Similar similarly, if the man approaches his spouse as well, with a gentle kiss, and with passion and or compassion, it's permissible because we have the son of the Prophet salla. Selim here, again, unless they unless they know if they continue that's going across the boundaries, then they better stay away from it.
So what happens if they break their fast? What happens in this case? People that break their fast in different ways. First of all, if you break your fast, unintentionally, unintentionally, what how is that, for example, you forgot to get that you're faster, you ate some food, you ate something or you drink water? As I break the fast The answer is no. It does not break the fast. What if you saw your spouse drinking or eating in front of you? Should you alert them or not?
Like you see your wife she's drinking for example, why don't you? Should you tell her Hey, you're fasting? Or should you say that's merciful? Malala drink? I wish I should. So it was me. Right? In this case, the other matter? They they have difference of opinion. Mr. Woods comes back from a question on a soul. huddle. mckaela mckaela
mckaela. amla the accountable person? Is he accountable for the one who is not accountable or not? What does that mean? When you're forgetful, you become unaccountable.
Now, you who are not actually forgetful when you see someone in that state of unaccountability, and they start drinking water? Are you accountable to remind them about their accountability? Or not?
Like someone is sleeping, Virgin time is about to expire. The one who's sleeping is not accountable. So should you wake them up to observe their form? Because you're accountable and you're awake now? Should I observe my accountability towards them? Or not? That is the argument of the Illuminati. So based on the answer of this question, if you say yes, you are accountable for the non accountable person, then you will alert the person just stop it, you're fasting.
But if you say no, you're not accountable for them. Then in this case, let them enjoy their meal.
Then drink you know the the water and enjoy the banana or the apple that they're eating until they remember. So again, it depends on the field that you take a lot of, I believe, actually, if you see someone who's eating or drinking this, let them continue and finish. That's what I believe because actually, you're not accountable for them at this moment. This is from Allah subhanho wa Taala, NEMA Tama Milan was a calm that's, that's again an opinion. Second thing. What if they broke their fast
without any actual reason?
They just didn't want to fast. Now that is a major sin. Like someone woke up during the day and he's just like, come on. I don't know. I don't want to fast. So they grab a cup of coffee and drank coffee. They were not traveling. They're not sick, have no excuse absolute nothing, they just like none of them would. Now that is a major sin. Is there any fodder for this dilemma they say even if this person would fast entire lifetime
to compensate for the loss of this day, it wouldn't be sufficient. Why? Because it's not about breaking the fast of a day or half an hour or an hour. It's about this being Allah subhanho wa Taala
This is the major sin is the Middle East is not breaking the fast it's actually this obeying Allah subhana wa Tada. That's why nothing can experience that sin of breaking that fast than a sincere, sincere repentance returned to Allah subhanho wa Taala with remorse with commitment never to go back again to committing that sin again. And then they move on afterwards and shallow to Allah to maintain the days of fasting should that person make up for that day? Sometimes they say no, because even if they try it wouldn't actually and it wouldn't be sufficient. I don't know what to say no, they still need to make it up and shout out to Allah, asking Allah subhana wa tada for forgiveness.
Number two.
Number three, what of the fast was broken because of intimacy, husband wife during the day, they broke their fast. They were so intimate with each other, and then eventually they had *. What do you do in this case? They are the day of course, the fact that is invalid for both of them, and they need to make up a day in place of that day. However, however, there is a special kuffar for them. And it was mentioned the story of a man who came to the prophet SAW some of redwing came to the process of law ceremony was actually slapping his face on his head. And he said, Allah Allah, Allah, this man was running to professor says I'm doomed I'm doing and the purposes of so called
avoya camella. Matter of fact, what's wrong with you while she was wrong with you? Why you sensor?
Allah Allah Allah, Ramadan jasola I couldn't hold it. You know, I just, you know, I had * with my wife and Ramona sola, sola, semitone. Okay, fine. Come over here on holiday to Morocco, but
do you have any Rockabye the word Robin Arabic means neck, but it's a symbolic word for a slave. Like do you have a slave like they have a neck that you can free? naked CV can freeze the managed metadata Sorolla, the only Nic that I own is this one. Like I have no other neck but this one that I own. So the professor said fine.
Can you fast, two consecutive months like 60 days?
The massive colossal Allah wa t to elimination? I'm in trouble because of one the one with the first 60 days. Like I can't do the fine. Can Do you have anything that you have food enough to feed 60 needy people? The man who says no, I have nothing. So the professor could find wherever and after some time, people they brought the Prophet sallallaahu Selim some food and that food is was was basically you could say, rota to the fresh dates, enough to feed 60 people. So the prophet SAW was sending us where's that man who's in trouble it was looking for the for the expansion of that. And that's it. So the man who can call the professor said Okay, take this and go and look for 1680
people in Medina and give it to them feed the 60 people, them as a scholar, so Allah, Allah, Carmen elevating, you want me to look for a householders that that is that is more actually poor than my family will live. If you look at the entire Medina, if you look between la vida, which means within the entire city of Rasulullah, you won't find somebody who's more in need than us. So the Prophet says MC smiled, he laughed, because fine, take and take and feed your family. So from this headed the LMR, they say, to conclude that the cafaro, which means the expiation for someone breaking the fast because of * is this, obviously, when it comes to free, the slave, this is not for
today, number two, is come to become a number one thing is for people to go and try and they need to try to fast two consecutive months. We'll talk about lunar months, of course. And when the first two consecutive months, obviously, it's better for you to start when, after, after.
So you don't have to break your fast fridge. So it becomes actually after that. So you do two consecutive months. If the person tried and after trying couldn't then they go back to feed 1680 people. Even if you fasted one month and you're unable to fast the other month, you still need to feed to feed 1680 people you cannot fast one month and feed 30 people has to be achieved two months or 1680 people if you want to do that and hamdulillah you have done the kafala for this now the question be many people ask who is responsible for this cafaro the facet of the two months and so on
low that element of Anima they have differences of opinion. But the the fact that I actually follow on the message is that this is the responsibility of the man is the responsibility of the man's which means the woman doesn't have any data other than making up for the day. Who first six days, the two months is the man's responsibility for the two months. What about the lady? Just one day? How come? Why is it so different? So because honestly, it's because the man's responsibility. And if the man didn't have the desire, actually, it wouldn't happen. So therefore, it's his responsibility to maintain actually that and stay away, you know, from at least from from becoming overexcited that
would cause him to break his fat during the month of Ramadan
would come to the cafaro When does it need to be performed. The sooner the better. The sooner the better. And if a person has an excuse that say what the faster the two months and they had an excuse like they get sick and so on, that doesn't break the cycle for them. They can still continue and finish the two months in shallow data and adding more after it's been and
finally the etiquette of food.
Is it permissible for the for the cook to test the food? The answer is yes you are allowed to taste the food while you're cooking the food to do that, now obviously when you do so you just take a little bit and then you will notice that you spit it out and it should be fine
does that happen only once or twice as long? As much as you need to fix the taste of the food inshallah to Allah it should be fine. Is it recommended to eat less or more Arjuna What do you think less so how Ramadan is supposed to get you to weigh yourself before Ramadan begins and after Ramadan finishes
many people this the big surprise like somehow I gained more weight and Ramadan course you're going to be eating all that sugary and
at the end of a long fast obviously you are going to get you're going to get actually heavier not just that some people even they don't lose anything at all they maintain the exact same weight and it's not right. Something is wrong with your diet. So Ramadan is an opportunity to eat less eating less means what for the family it means actually more time for Ivana
because when people they insist on eating specific dishes and that much food and all that stuff Pamela they put so much pressure on their on their family that they don't enjoy Ramadan at all. And that is a message for the brothers those who especially if you have a staying at home, you know mom,
it is not fair that a man asked his wife to have a fresh meal every single night.
I haven't been people complained to me said that the husband he needs actually a freshman for a star and a fresh cooked meal for seafood.
I said one fresh million for an hour. Why can't you just take some of the leftovers of 30 you know for the seafood? No, no, no, it has to be something fresh because I'm faster the next day by the Ganga Jihad feasibility Masha, Allah, Allah.
Why so insisting on that I have no idea. Although although we should understand that Ramadan supposed to teach us, the city the meaning of eating less, because it's supposed to teach us to fill with the needy
supposed to teach the to fill with the needy. But if you're going to be fasting all day, with expecting a reward, because for them as far as expectation, so they're expecting a great reward for the good behavior throughout the day, like they're fasting, Mashallah, you're not fasting for the food azima the fasting for Allah subhanho wa Taala. Therefore, I highly recommend for parents to cut down on their on the size of their meals, and the amount of whatever that they put into their foods, pile of sugar, and other things and so on. Take it easy on each other. And and when it comes to specifically the sufferer, it doesn't have to be a full mean, I personally cannot eat a full meal
is just water data. And that's it. I'm done with them. I remember when people keep telling me that no, they have to take for me. So one day I tried that. Actually I remember one of those Ramadan's. I tried that. And I ate oatmeal. It's not even a big thing. Oatmeal. That's it. The whole day, I couldn't read the access part, the whole I just I couldn't breathe. I don't know how people do that. And it was just odd me, that's it. But when people eat a full meal about a colon, I don't know how to do that. So please make sure Ramadan to take it easy on each other so that you spend more time for spirituality than actually focusing on your body, it's time to spend extra time on your soul,
not on your body. Number three, the support you need to understand is not logical for some people to think of this Skip's heard this their fasting is invalid. No, it is not invalid. If you skips the hold your value your fasting is still valid. But how am I going to maintain How can I survive you will use survive and shallow that it's okay. And even if you crash throughout the day, then fine break your fast and you can make up that day and show that afterwards because you have an excuse right now. So don't make a big deal about it. If you miss the suffer the prophets Allah Sam says the Sahaba anniversary Baraka is the pre dawn meal which is the benefits of holy Baraka because there is
a blessing in the pre dawn meal, there is a bartender so if you can buy drinking water or eating dates and whatever that is that what you eat before Vegeta it should be fun inshallah. But it's also sooner, to delay us to her as late as possible right before the other. We do so the veteran shallows about autonomy for the work and husband wife, I suggest that you guys should help each other. Like I know that many, many people who have 100 a stay at home mom and wife, they expect a lot in terms of arrangement and food and this and that. But if you also if you have a full time job and your wife has a full time job as well, it's not fair for the man and the husband to expect from his wife to
act like she has no other thing to do as cooking you know the star under sufferance, that's not fair for them. So it's, it's very important. It's very, very important for you that you help and assist each other. Let's say you know
Whether they prepare the food or at least to prepare, you know different meals for a few days, whatever that they make actually arrangement for each other and shallow data they should do so. And finally, sharing is caring. If you're going to be cooking food, make sure to share with other people and Sharlto barcode especially if you see that the food is cooked that day is a lot and most likely is going to end up in the trash after a few days. Make sure that day before the break your fast is shared with other people, with neighbors, people in the masjid anybody else eventually tried to share the shallow data because there will be a lot of high and low Baraka as a reminder inshallah
Ramadan is not just for your body
it's also for your soul.
Meaning for those who thinks of Ramadan as it's only a time for me to slow down you know, on my eating habits, and cleaning my system, flushing basically all the toxics and so on for my body and so forth. People they focusing so much on the on the physical benefits of the month of Ramadan, that is all good.
But also we need to focus on the spiritual aspect of the month of Ramadan.
You're supposed to eat less, you're supposed to focus less on your body. You could have more time inshallah Tera vaada for spirituality, and spirituality. We spoke about part of it in the first two sessions. We talked about your time with the whole and Ramadan. And the second session we talked about for busy people, what kind of provided an act of worship you could use, you could benefit from the month of Ramadan. So I want you in this month of Ramadan and ultimate commitment that your family life is as great as beautiful. You assist each other in sha Allah to Allah to maximize your benefit from the month of Ramadan. Allah has not just by cleaning the system in your body, but also
in the system in your spirituality and your Eman. Your Eman need to be actually you know, revisited and shallow data this phenomena will be the best phenomenon ever for all of us out of alignment with law. Any questions?