Yahya Rhodus – Knowledge & Wisdom Imam alHaddad #6

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The importance of visiting the sacred gathering and finding the holy eye in the gathering is discussed, as it can benefit people in their lives. The importance of being in a place where people are connected to them and finding the holy eye is emphasized. The importance of watching others and being aware of their behavior is also emphasized. The speaker provides examples of how different people have contributed to a positive environment, including their experiences with the social environment and their personal behavior.

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			Man Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil
Alameen of Lourdes Sadat your
		
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			terminal destiny as a you dinner
Maulana Muhammad and by the end he
		
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			also have use an image marine
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			in the content animal Hakeem allah
how to go to La Villa and Alia
		
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			Alia Oline.
		
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			Mr. Mandela, so we're going to
continue on in our study of
		
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			various intentions that we should
make. And today we are going to
		
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			briefly remind ourselves of the
intentions that we can make for
		
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			visiting the shoe that is visiting
people of a lot visiting scholars
		
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			visiting righteous people. What
intention should we make when we
		
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			go to see them? In his book, have
you observed that he mentioned
		
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			about seven intentions, and again,
to repeat over and over again,
		
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			over and over again, this is in
addition to the core intentions
		
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			that we make for everything it is
that we do. And by now we should
		
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			know what those are. So we intend
all of that. In addition to that,
		
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			we also intend to benefit from
them in both religious and worldly
		
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			matters. For them, really the
religious and the worldly is
		
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			combined into one. And they don't
make that designation to begin
		
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			with, because everything that they
do that is the true shoe, the true
		
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			scholars that put their knowledge
into practice, everything they do
		
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			from worldly affairs, ultimately
is with a righteous intention.
		
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			Such that it's realities that are
as religious, even if outwardly
		
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			that it is worldly, so to benefit
from them in both religious and
		
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			worldly affairs. And so when we go
to see them, that we might have
		
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			questions, we might just benefit
from their presence, we might see
		
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			the way that they interact with
their children, we might see the
		
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			way that they conduct something to
do with their affairs, and thus
		
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			that we benefit from them. The
second intention that we can make
		
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			is to fulfill the command of the
Prophet sallallahu sallam, when he
		
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			said be in the company of the
great ones. So our Prophet taught
		
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			us a lot you sent him God soon
		
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			and that sit with the scholars but
he also told us to that
		
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			that that to visit often the
cobra, God soon will hide it will
		
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			cover up and the actually hot
little hook and that when it comes
		
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			to
		
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			that sitting with with the cobra,
which can be people that are
		
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			elderly, but also that people that
are distinguished in the religion
		
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			is that we should that be in their
company and visit them from time
		
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			to time. And so we want to
specifically the fulfill the
		
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			command of the Prophet SAW licen
and that Allah Tala also says in
		
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			the Quran, that Oh you who believe
it doc Allah, we're calling them
		
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			Assad again. have Taqwa of Allah
will Kunal Masada King be with the
		
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			people of sincerity that people
have trueness.
		
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			And this is a command from Allah
to be with them. And Allah Tada
		
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			wouldn't have commanded us to be
with Assad again and less, that it
		
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			was of great benefit. So we felt
we intend to fulfill that command.
		
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			And then we also make the
intention to attain from them ie
		
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			from being in their presence, the
mercy that descends upon them.
		
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			So we know that the great pupil of
Allah, the scholars and the
		
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			righteous people, is that mercy
descends, if mercy descends, when
		
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			you mentioned their name. What do
you think it's going to happen
		
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			when you're in their presence,
you're going to benefit greatly.
		
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			And as a store that we'd like to
quote, to encourage us to do this.
		
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			There was a man who attended the
gathering of Have you ever heard
		
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			of it, I'm gonna step off. And he
was a good man and people knew him
		
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			to be righteous. And then he
passed away shortly after visiting
		
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			have jaboticaba. In someone saw
him in a dream, that he had an
		
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			extremely lofty place in paradise.
		
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			And
		
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			the person who saw the dream said
to the man, again, it's a dream,
		
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			but you have a number of stories
like this, where people would ask
		
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			people in their dreams, matha
Allahu Beek, What did Allah do
		
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			with you? You find numerous
stories like this in our
		
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			biographical literature.
		
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			And the man that said to him,
because when he saw him in such a
		
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			lofty set, he said, We thought you
were righteous, but how did you
		
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			attain that rank? He said, I
attended one gathering of every
		
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			obstacle that was a cough. He
said, Neza led to Rama, Mercy
		
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			descended, and as a result of the
scent of that mercy, I was granted
		
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			this great rank Did you see and we
should never deem that to be
		
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			something far fetched, let alone
impossible. This is something
		
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			totally possible. If Allah Tabata
Katara wills as in anything that
		
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			we
		
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			Do or any gathering that we attend
or any person that we visit, he
		
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			can raise us to the highest of
ranks. Someone who wants to add in
		
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			if we don't think that we've had a
bad opinion of our Lord. So that's
		
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			an intention that we make is that
from being in their presence, that
		
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			mercy descends upon us, just as we
believe it to be descending upon
		
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			them. And then number four, the
call center that we just recited,
		
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			relates to this.
		
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			While we're waiting for the row,
how to start to obtain a gaze from
		
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			them by which Allah will rectify
your state, and all of your
		
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			affairs.
		
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			And there are certain scholars
that
		
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			raise their spiritual children
through gazes. And they used to
		
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			mention in the books, that there
was a particular type of turtle
		
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			and I don't know the name of this
type of turtle. But they mentioned
		
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			that there's a particular type of
turtle that can hatch it's a eggs
		
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			from a distance, and the mother
turtle, after laying her eggs
		
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			gazes at the egg from a distance.
And apparently that then hatches.
		
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			And this is why have you been up
the ramen? And I'll toss, he used
		
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			to say, I spiritually train my
students, the way that mother
		
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			turtle that trains that her
children? In other words, is it
		
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			through gazes. And this is that a
very, very real thing. While on
		
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			the set, I sat in the gathering of
Chicago Bachmann, Saddam, and he
		
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			gazed upon my gaze, I didn't see
the fruit of that gaze for 40
		
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			years. So this is why it's so
important to visit the righteous.
		
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			And if we can't find them locally,
which if we are sincere and search
		
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			hard enough, you will find them
locally. But if you can't, you
		
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			should go seek them out. And you
should travel to go visit them.
		
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			And you should make the intention
that when you're in their
		
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			gatherings that they gaze upon you
they used to tell us and how to
		
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			remote is it one of the wisdoms
why the elderly people sit at the
		
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			front of the gathering,
unfortunately, kind of where we're
		
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			at, we don't really have like a
solid wall, that we have these
		
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			chairs that people sit in up here
and that older people and
		
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			distinguished people sit at the
front and one of the wisdoms is
		
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			that they were one time sitting
facing the people that are in
		
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			front of them. So it's so that the
gaze is then connected. They grew
		
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			up in the gatherings of the
righteous and most of the
		
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			righteous people that you find if
you hear their stories, they grew
		
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			up in the gatherings of the
righteous. And then they benefit
		
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			from them. And this stems to even
toward time, one of the recent
		
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			scholars, who was originally from
Palermo to have it been chair,
		
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			Bill fucky.
		
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			He was a great scholar. And he
ended up in Abu Dhabi, when the
		
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			Communists came to holla remote.
		
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			And he continued on teaching and
giving that were there. And she
		
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			comes to use have met him way back
in so we're talking now.
		
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			You know, perhaps this is, you
know, the 80s where he met him.
		
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			And when a recent biography was
written about him, by someone in
		
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			team bought a copy in a gifted a t
shirt comes in, there's a picture
		
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			on the back of it when chef and
one of his gatherings. And she
		
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			comes to look at that picture. He
said I was in that gathering, he
		
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			said I was serving tea in that
gathering.
		
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			And subhanAllah says you don't
realize what you get, when you
		
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			frequent the gatherings of
goodness. What you can attain from
		
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			that, especially if there is
righteous people and then that you
		
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			want to receive a gaze from them,
which is a means for you
		
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			ultimately to receive a gaze of
ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada, Allah
		
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			Allah, we know that many line
Rahima today we couldn't be men or
		
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			what Alden supima. ask Allah to
Anna for a gaze from His merciful
		
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			eye, whereby which that we are
completely healed and cured from
		
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			all diseases of the heart.
		
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			And then number five, is that we
intend to be
		
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			in the gathering of the righteous.
		
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			So that relates somewhat to what
we previously talked about, we
		
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			just want to put ourselves around
good people, we're going to put
		
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			ourselves around people that are
going to bring benefit to us. And
		
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			we're the only intention we to
make, which is an additional
		
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			intention is that just to be in a
place where we don't get in
		
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			trouble, it would suffice. Because
all of us know is that when we're
		
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			idle, we're gonna get in trouble.
All you need is a phone and free
		
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			time. Or you don't even need a
phone. All you need is a little
		
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			bit of free time. Limit of
idleness. No one's around and
		
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			we're gonna get ourselves in
trouble. So it's better that we
		
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			just at least keep ourselves out
of trouble by being with good
		
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			people. And the vast majority of
the righteous that have a lot of
		
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			students, most of their students
are connected to them at
		
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			connection whereby which they're
just trying to stay out of
		
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			trouble. Not
		
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			One of the primary functions of
the Olia is to keep people out of
		
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			trouble. And we've mentioned on
more than one occasion, but it's
		
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			such an amazing story in this
light in this regard, as a mom or
		
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			Walker Adney, there used to be a
group of people during this time
		
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			where they get in trouble. He
would actually pay them he would
		
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			give them a stipend.
		
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			For them to spend time with him at
night, they weren't being hired to
		
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			do any work. They said, Look, I'm
gonna give you a stipend, just you
		
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			spend time with me. And he would
pay them to spend time with him.
		
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			And he would make the condition is
that they come to him at night,
		
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			and they stay with Him until the
morning. And so that he wanted to
		
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			prevent them from going out and
doing other things that they would
		
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			do at night. And this is their
concern for people. And they have
		
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			a special concern for people that
get themselves in trouble. And
		
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			there's a statement of Sheikh
Abdul Qadir jeelani, and lots of
		
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			other that have mercy on his soul
where he said, The righteous
		
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			belong to Allah. He said, As for
the people that are not righteous,
		
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			He said ablow there for me, I'm
going to swallow them. And what he
		
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			meant by that is, is that I'm
going to be concerned with him,
		
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			I'm going to reach out to them,
I'm going to do whatever I can to
		
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			help them. And this should be our
Himba is to help all people and to
		
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			keep people from falling into
trouble. And then intend that
		
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			Allah may purify your heart. This
is a great intention that we can
		
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			make, when we're in the gatherings
of the righteous that we purify
		
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			our hearts, especially when we're
reading books of the heart books
		
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			that hammer away, and chip away
rather from some of the diseases
		
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			that are in the heart and hammer
meanings of that submission to
		
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			Allah to Allah, and meanings of
actualization of the deen into the
		
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			heart. And then finally, intent
that Allah will bring you together
		
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			with that shift in really, as he
has brought you together
		
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			outwardly. So we intend to benefit
from them and to be with them in
		
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			this world in the next and there
are other intentions that we can
		
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			make as well. These are just a
summary of some of the few May
		
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			Allah to Allah blesses to that
always frequently gatherings of
		
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			the righteous and to have a
connection to them in this world
		
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			and in the Baba and in the
afterlife, how you don't even live
		
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			yet.
		
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			Okay, so we're going to Inshallah,
read the next chapter of knowledge
		
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			and wisdom those that are
following along with the book we
		
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			are on chapter five page 25.
		
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			The spinner spinner Mannerheim
knowledge of wisdom by Imam
		
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			Abdullah Bernard even had dad,
chapter five, watching others when
		
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			he says, These days no man of
reason and Taqwa shouldn't be
		
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			overly concerned with the opinions
of others and the expectations
		
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			when this may result in his
abandoning things which are good
		
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			for his heart, or in which he can
find some joy and comfort.
		
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			watching others and being wary of
them has become a tiresome
		
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			endeavor devoid of benefit. For
people are preoccupied with
		
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			themselves deeply committed both
inwardly and outwardly to their
		
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			worldly affairs, and generally
incapable of discernment with
		
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			which thing becomes obvious to
anyone who gives the matter the
		
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			least amount of thought. being
constantly conscious and wary of
		
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			others is something that people of
resolution and determination have
		
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			always disproved disapproved of
disapproved of. How good is the
		
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			saying of the poet, he who watches
others dies of grief. While all
		
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			pleasures belong to the bowled
watching others may have had some
		
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			benefits in the past when people
were more discerning and had the
		
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			time to ponder and reflect on what
others did. Total commitment to
		
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			worldly affairs and loss of
discernment have since caused such
		
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			people to dwindle and largely
disappear. A person of Taqwa and
		
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			reason should therefore strive
only for the good pleasure of his
		
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			Lord, his own salvation, success
in the Hereafter. And whatever
		
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			brings tranquility to the heart
and joy to His mind, as long as it
		
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			is free of sinful or basic
behavior.
		
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			In doing so, he should pay no
attention whatsoever to others,
		
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			since they are preoccupied only
with themselves, let him attend to
		
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			himself and that which is of
importance and benefit to him in
		
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			this world and the next, reflect
on this and be guided, and may God
		
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			take over your guidance.
		
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			Michelle? No, it's me less. So
this is a chapter titled watching
		
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			others.
		
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			And again, there's great wisdom in
these words of the mom and her
		
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			dad. And what we hope is that we
open up our hearts and minds to
		
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			this wisdom, and we have the
ability to put it into practice
		
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			being
		
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			Eli Tada. He begins by saying that
no man of reason, and Taqwa should
		
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			be overly concerned with the
opinions of others in their
		
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			expectations, when this may result
in his abandoning things which are
		
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			good for his heart, or in which he
can find some joy, in comfort. And
		
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			what he's teaching us is, is that
times obviously has changed. And
		
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			he's speaking of course, about 300
years ago about people in his
		
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			time. And keep in mind, he's in
Teddy holida multiman, which is a
		
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			very protected society, even to
this day, they used to say, is
		
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			that were the entire world to be
blind, that TuneIn would still be
		
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			able to see a little bit. It is
clearly more preserved in many
		
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			other places. And people that
aren't considered to be so
		
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			righteous there were they to come
to places outside of Geneva,
		
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			people would think that they are
that great Olia because of the way
		
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			that they follow the sunnah of our
Prophet sallallahu sallam, and
		
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			really the purity of heart that
they have, and that it really is a
		
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			blessing place as the man who went
to visit him. And when he would
		
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			keep recounting the story to his
son, story after story, he would
		
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			tell he would always end the story
by saying well whom Bismillah it
		
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			could be Asmaa. And you could
probably best translate as it is
		
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			as if they're angels, in other
words, is that they were human
		
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			beings, but it's almost like they
didn't have desire like other
		
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			people had, because of the
difficulty of life there and the
		
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			simplicity, and the housing, the
simplicity of the food and
		
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			clothing. And that's one of the
things I'd always say there
		
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			besides just let things be, just
let things you know, just relax
		
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			and let things be easy. That it
was it was just kind of like that
		
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			there wasn't a lot of the pressure
that we have here. That certainly
		
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			wasn't there in in a lot of
traditional societies that was
		
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			similar. Anyhow, he's saying that
that, whereas you have to know the
		
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			time in which you live. And if
this was his time, then what about
		
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			our time, and really, in any time,
it is important for us to
		
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			understand the way the majority of
people see the world. And the
		
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			expectations that they have, in
one of the things that happens to
		
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			us all is that we're affected by
what other people think,
		
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			especially if there's a critical
mass of people. If you grew up in
		
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			a family, and all of your brothers
and sisters, and your aunts and
		
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			your uncles and everyone else
around you,
		
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			is putting pressure on you insane
if you do not get into an Ivy
		
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			League school, you are useless.
Right and that are putting so much
		
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			pressure on you to get into a top
notch University. And then somehow
		
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			you don't get accepted to an Ivy
League school. And you have to
		
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			settle for something else and
people are looking down upon you.
		
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			Because you're still getting a
college education is not what
		
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			their expectation with, you're
going to be affected by that.
		
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			That's just one example. There are
many other examples in terms of
		
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			our career track, what it is that
we end up doing for the rest of
		
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			our life, in terms of who it is
that we marry, in terms of what
		
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			type of house that we have to live
in, or what type of car we have to
		
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			drive and all of these types of
things. It's I was just with Imam
		
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			Taha Anwar Milla to add a
blessing. And Imam Tahara
		
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			was telling me how he had had a
very nice car. And then, you know,
		
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			he grew up with a father who was
very pious, may Allah preserve his
		
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			busted father. And his father used
to tell him the way of the people
		
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			the path, which he embodied the
way the people the path used to
		
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			say, have what you want from the
world, but just don't let it get
		
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			into your heart.
		
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			And so Montana had a very nice
car, and he got rid of it. And he
		
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			bought like an older kind of used
car. And he said, people would see
		
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			him coming to the Michigan this
older car, and they come up to
		
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			him. And like, are you okay? Is
everything all right? They
		
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			thought, like, really something
was wrong with him. Because the
		
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			car that he wasn't driving that he
was driving was not like, the
		
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			first car that he was driving. And
they thought like he was going
		
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			through, like, some really
difficult time or that he was
		
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			depressed or something like that.
And subhanAllah just the
		
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			perspective of people. And I
Subhanallah I've been in
		
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			situations where
		
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			it's just the perspective that I
see some people have, it's, it's
		
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			almost like some of these things
that they're worshipped. Like, I'm
		
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			like, close. I mean, these are
Muslims who don't worship anything
		
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			other than a lot of data. But some
of these things are so dear to
		
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			them. It's almost as if they're
worshipping them. And it really is
		
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			shocking to see that and very
unhealthy. And the point of this
		
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			is, that in any time, which we
live, wherever we are, and
		
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			whatever environment that we're in
urban, suburban or any other there
		
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			are certain expectations and
understandings and perspectives
		
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			that people have
		
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			And when you grow up in that
society, who and among those
		
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			people in in those neighborhoods,
you're going to be affected by
		
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			that? You remember her dad's
advice is to step back and to
		
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			really think very carefully about
what are other people's
		
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			expectations? How does it they
think?
		
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			And understand from the standpoint
of Dean, what is the true meaning
		
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			of success? What is the things
that you need to do in your life,
		
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			to take care of yourself, and
Subhanallah sometimes people, they
		
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			can't believe the decisions people
make, to move from one area to
		
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			another to do this or to do that.
And it looks like outwardly,
		
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			they're sacrificing their career
or that they're taking a huge pay
		
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			cut to enter into the mom profit
sector, or actually remember that
		
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			a situation where the man's son
entered into the humanities, and
		
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			he really he panicked. Because he
started, like, if my son gets a
		
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			degree in history, how on earth is
he ever going to take care of me
		
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			when he's older, and he panicked.
And in a very real way people go
		
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			through these situations, I was
reading something about a
		
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			lady from a particular country
that was failing her math class.
		
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			And so she's decided to go into
the humanities, and she said to
		
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			her relatives came to visit her,
as if like, someone had died in
		
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			the family. And they wanted to
console her is everything, okay.
		
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			And as if you know that people
don't have different abilities,
		
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			that these things are, I'm just
mentioning examples that some
		
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			people might be familiar with. And
there's a whole other set of
		
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			examples of sets of examples, that
people might that bring forth,
		
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			depending upon where someone lives
and what those expectations are.
		
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			But we have to be careful of that.
You can't live your life for other
		
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			people.
		
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			And I will say, and this will be a
bit controversial, even for your
		
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			parents.
		
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			Your parents cannot micromanage
your life.
		
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			As my kids are at least one of
them is in the room listening very
		
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			carefully. I'm sure of all things,
taking notes on that particular
		
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			point. But parents cannot
micromanage your life. The goal of
		
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			a parent is to help their child
develop their God given gifts, and
		
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			to use them for his sakes, upon
what data.
		
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			And we have to have the courage to
get out of this mold of this
		
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			constant worry of the system of
compulsory schooling where we feel
		
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			like if our kids don't go to this
school and do this and do that and
		
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			get deterred, or it's a race to
nowhere, and it never ends. And
		
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			they say no, no, just just in high
school, make sure you get into a
		
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			good college. It doesn't stop
there. No, no, you got to just get
		
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			least get in the door and get a
job. And then you got to at least
		
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			right? No, you're and it just
never stops until you're retired
		
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			and you're too old. You can
benefit from your money. Or if you
		
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			do Okay, you go on a few holidays,
big deal. Go on a few cruises,
		
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			okay.
		
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			That is that really what life is
all about? Where's the process,
		
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			where's the meaning. And I hope
that increasingly in countries
		
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			like the one which we live in
United States of America, that we
		
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			can provide opportunities for
young people to have career tracks
		
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			that they love they feel
passionate about, and they're also
		
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			meaningful risk will come risk is
the last of concerns. Anyone in
		
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			our society who is willing to work
and have a little bit of zoo hood,
		
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			for the most part, can get by not
always right, but for the most
		
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			part can at least get by if you're
willing to work. Now, again, that
		
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			doesn't apply to everyone. There
are certain situations where
		
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			people are in very difficult
circumstances, and they don't have
		
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			enough to get by. But for the most
part, I don't think we have to
		
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			overly worry about that. Now, what
we have to do is is that that
		
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			really help people match what they
feel passionate about with career
		
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			tracks. And that there's no doubt
the more beneficial the career
		
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			track, is that the more blessings
there will be in what it is that
		
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			they do. There's no doubt about
that. And it doesn't mean that
		
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			something's not permissible,
something could be permissible,
		
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			but something could be better and
even better. And that's really
		
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			what we want to move towards is
that when we do career, that
		
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			training with the youth, is that
we that speak from abundance and
		
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			tell them about the incredible
opportunities that they would
		
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			have. And that we have to be very
wary of the monster school system,
		
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			stifling our children's
creativity, because there's so
		
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			many opportunities that they have
where they to realize in that to
		
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			be assisted in channeling their
God given gifts to something that
		
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			would be of benefit, anyhow, that
this doesn't just relate to this
		
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			and all in all this these things
is that we have to be very careful
		
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			living up to the expectations of
people.
		
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			are living in doing what it is
that they want us to do. And so he
		
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			says, We should not be overly
concerned, we're going to be
		
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			concerned but not overly concerned
with their opinions and
		
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			expectations. And so we shouldn't
abandon things which are good for
		
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			our heart. And this is another
very strange phenomenon. I've come
		
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			across multiple people like this,
where they don't want their kids
		
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			to go down the wrong path. But
they don't want their kids to be
		
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			too religious either.
		
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			They want it to be somewhere kind
of in the middle. And they
		
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			actually get really worried when
they start to get too religious.
		
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			Because they feel like religion is
going to come in the way of their
		
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			goals for their kids, which is
very odd to me as especially as a
		
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			convert is very difficult for me
to understand that.
		
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			And, okay, if we're talking about
radicalization, okay, that's
		
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			another thing. But if we're
talking about just that religion,
		
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			how could the religion get in the
way I was a biller? If you
		
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			practice your religion, you will
be good at everything you do.
		
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			Everything we have in our
religion, if you are good in Deen,
		
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			it will give you life skills to be
good in anything you do. 100%
		
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			guaranteed if you just think about
the five daily prayers, and waking
		
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			up and praying on time, in the
systematic way that we have to go
		
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			about in that establish a regiment
in our lives to ensure that think
		
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			about all of the life skills that
you get from that, and what a plus
		
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			that is, and the way that that
relieves stress in the way that it
		
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			relieves burdens from you in the
way that that facilitates things
		
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			for you and so forth and so on.
And fasting and across the board.
		
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			The wisdoms that we have in our
deen is it will give you this it
		
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			will give you the skills that you
need in life. Just look at the
		
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			Prophet sunnah. What else do you
need? That should be the real
		
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			test. When we hire someone? How
close are they to following the
		
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			sunnah of our Prophet sizer,
everything that they're looking at
		
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			now, they used to look at IQ. Now
they look then they started
		
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			looking at EQ, which is emotional
intelligence. And now they have
		
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			these tests. That is what they
call XQ. They find these really
		
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			interesting ways to see what
traits that people have to see
		
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			whether or not they want to hire
them. And oftentimes, these are
		
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			traits that you can't learn in
school, and you're not going to
		
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			learn in school and if anything,
school might strip some of them
		
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			from you. And again, I'm not
saying that we don't go to school.
		
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			I'm just simply saying, is it
worth people to realize what we
		
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			have in our deen. It's everything
you need for not only your
		
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			religious life, but also your
worldly life. Because your worldly
		
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			life is a part of your religious
life. And this is why the prophets
		
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			who came, they came for a Salah,
and in my eyes, well, my ash, they
		
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			came to rectify our worldly lives
and our other worldly lives. So
		
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			everything is there. And so if we
know something is good for our
		
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			heart, is that we can't abandon it
because other people think we're
		
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			strange. If you have a ship if you
have a teacher, and your family
		
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			members think that's weird. Or is
that instead of taking a vacation,
		
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			you spend time going to a retreat,
you go and do something that's
		
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			like why wouldn't you go to the
Bahamas? When you could have gone
		
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			here? Why wouldn't you go when you
could have gone here, and
		
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			that we shouldn't leave it if it's
good for her or which we can find
		
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			some joy and comfort. And I'm not
sure if it may be one of the
		
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			meanings that he had that is
mentioned here.
		
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			And this is something that
understood, especially when he
		
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			slightly repeats it towards the
end
		
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			is that we have to realize our
deen it takes time for us to
		
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			progress. It's like a marathon, it
is not a sprint. If you sprint,
		
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			you will get tired out. And then
we have the famous story of the
		
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			tortoise and the hare. And slow
steady consistent growth is much
		
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			better than quick Sprint's and
that's what's going to win in the
		
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			end. And we don't have a lot of
wisdom in that regard.
		
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			By way of examples before us,
oftentimes, some people more so
		
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			than others, but really how to
slowly increase in the
		
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			realization of this Deen over a
long period of time to not do too
		
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			much or to do too little. And to
know when to indulge in certain
		
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			things from the realm of the
permissible and that when to leave
		
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			other things that are offensive
and to kind of move up in the
		
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			degrees of Taqwa it takes time.
And that's something that still to
		
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			this day with much of the
dysfunctionality in the Muslim
		
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			world, this is still very much
intact. People know where they are
		
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			in the hierarchy. They know what
to do in the moment. And they
		
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			don't make things unnecessarily
difficult upon themselves. So
		
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			there's two things here. You read
the stories of the righteous and
		
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			you see what's possible, and then
you realize where you're at
		
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			And then you take a path to slowly
move in that direction. But not
		
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			everyone can move as quick as
other people can. And so it's
		
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			important. And this is what I
understand from this, to that give
		
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			yourself time to rest, to have
certain things that you do to
		
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			relieve stress, whether it's
something like exercise, or
		
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			whether someone likes to cook, or
whether someone likes to that go
		
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			visit, go hiking or something like
that, or to go visit museums or
		
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			whatever it might be, have some
type of sport, horseback riding,
		
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			or archery or something like that,
or something that will relieve
		
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			yourself from many of the burdens
that you face in life, these
		
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			things are important. And then
there might be certain times where
		
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			we leave certain things, and we
focus on other things, but learn
		
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			how to live in the key areas is
that
		
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			if there are certain things that
we know, we need to do, and again,
		
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			the condition is it's in the realm
of the permissible.
		
00:31:01 --> 00:31:04
			We can't leave those things
because other people think there's
		
00:31:04 --> 00:31:07
			something wrong with them, or they
think that they're strange. Or
		
00:31:07 --> 00:31:10
			they wonder why would that person
do that? Is it you have to be
		
00:31:10 --> 00:31:16
			comfortable in to carry yourself
in a way that you know how to
		
00:31:16 --> 00:31:18
			slowly progress over a long period
of time?
		
00:31:21 --> 00:31:24
			No, and he points out here that
watching others and being aware of
		
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			them has become a tiresome
endeavor, devoid of benefit.
		
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			He said, because the vast majority
of people is that they are just
		
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			deeply committed, both inwardly
and outwardly, to their worldly
		
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			affairs.
		
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			If you just settle for less,
		
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			and you don't upgrade your home,
or you don't upgrade your car,
		
00:31:47 --> 00:31:50
			sometimes people think you're
really strange. And in some
		
00:31:50 --> 00:31:53
			communities more than others, they
really think you're strange. If
		
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			you just, you know, don't have the
people even will judge people now
		
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			by the phones that they have.
		
00:32:02 --> 00:32:04
			Even jet like people are
embarrassed to have certain types
		
00:32:04 --> 00:32:10
			of phones. Because there that
person must be, from the Stone
		
00:32:10 --> 00:32:15
			Age, have a phone like that just
lets you know, as if something's
		
00:32:15 --> 00:32:18
			Like, seriously wrong with them or
something, because they have a
		
00:32:18 --> 00:32:23
			flip phone, or they don't have,
you know, a data package or
		
00:32:23 --> 00:32:25
			something like that on their
phone, people think that there's
		
00:32:25 --> 00:32:28
			something wrong with them. Or if
they're stuff like an iPhone five,
		
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			they haven't even gotten up to the
six yet. Right? And there's
		
00:32:31 --> 00:32:35
			eagerly waiting for the eight to
come out. Right? So that, yeah, I
		
00:32:35 --> 00:32:39
			don't want, I've had the six for
so long, and never did upgrade to
		
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			the seven. So I'm just gonna go
right up to the eight, right. And
		
00:32:43 --> 00:32:47
			anyhow, these types of things are
utterly ridiculous. They really,
		
00:32:47 --> 00:32:51
			really are ridiculous. And we got
to be very careful that letting
		
00:32:51 --> 00:32:54
			these things seep into the heart.
And even if we do have these
		
00:32:54 --> 00:32:57
			things, that the key is, is that
to be unaffected by them
		
00:32:57 --> 00:33:01
			internally, and to use them
responsibly. And so this is
		
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			really, really good advice. And he
does say here is that watching
		
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			others may have had some benefits
in the past, when people were more
		
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			discerning and had the time to
ponder and reflect on what others
		
00:33:15 --> 00:33:19
			did. Right. So people used to
there used to be more discerning.
		
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			And there's a lot that you could
learn from other people in their
		
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			dealings in the way that they did
things. And this is less and less
		
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			so is his whole point. So we have
to be careful. And we need to that
		
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			find the right examples because
the nature of someone if you're
		
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			impressed with someone or
something you're in internally
		
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			going to inclined towards
following that person or doing
		
00:33:41 --> 00:33:46
			that particular thing. This is the
way we are in that there's much in
		
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			the modern world that it faces at
face value impresses us. And then
		
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			once we're impressed by it, then
we're alert in and it could get us
		
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			in trouble. Now I'm so but in
previous times that this
		
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			oftentimes was the case, a person
of tuck one reason should
		
00:34:03 --> 00:34:08
			therefore strive only for the good
pleasure of his Lord, and have
		
00:34:08 --> 00:34:13
			this spiritual religious maturity,
to simply not care what people
		
00:34:13 --> 00:34:13
			think.
		
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			We need to get to that point where
we do not care what people think,
		
00:34:19 --> 00:34:23
			as it has been said Mahalik and
NAS illness, only people have
		
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			destroyed other people. Think
about how many people have been
		
00:34:26 --> 00:34:29
			destroyed and ruin themselves
		
00:34:30 --> 00:34:33
			over the centuries upon centuries
and 1000s and 1000s of years that
		
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			human beings have lived to impress
other people to fit in, to fit
		
00:34:38 --> 00:34:41
			into what fit into what.
		
00:34:42 --> 00:34:47
			And in the end, that what's
important is is that Allah to
		
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			Allah be pleased with us.
		
00:34:49 --> 00:34:52
			His own salvation success in the
hereafter whatever brings
		
00:34:52 --> 00:34:57
			tranquility to his heart enjoy to
his mind as long as free of sinful
		
00:34:57 --> 00:34:59
			or basic behavior. In doing so he
should pay
		
00:35:00 --> 00:35:03
			no attention whatsoever to others,
since they are preoccupied with
		
00:35:03 --> 00:35:07
			themselves, let him attend to
himself, and that which is of
		
00:35:07 --> 00:35:11
			importance and benefit to him in
this world, and the next, reflect
		
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			on this and be guided, and may God
take over your guidance. So I
		
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			thought that was a really
beautiful thing. And
		
00:35:21 --> 00:35:26
			that I've been reading recently,
I'm gonna just kind of introduce
		
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			this in another time, I wanted to
go into much more detail.
		
00:35:31 --> 00:35:33
			It really relates to this.
		
00:35:35 --> 00:35:39
			Indirectly, email what was it has
in his book 100 Aberdeen whole
		
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			section where he talks about
seclusion.
		
00:35:44 --> 00:35:50
			And that, what is better secluding
yourself, or that interacting with
		
00:35:50 --> 00:35:54
			people. And he goes into the
scholary opinions about it in the
		
00:35:54 --> 00:35:59
			way of the people who came before
him. And different people have
		
00:36:00 --> 00:36:03
			that different categories that
they fit in.
		
00:36:04 --> 00:36:07
			And at different times of their
life, they might fit more in one
		
00:36:07 --> 00:36:10
			category or another. And the
categories aren't necessarily
		
00:36:10 --> 00:36:16
			static or black and white,
sometimes that you are have a
		
00:36:16 --> 00:36:18
			little bit of both, depending upon
		
00:36:19 --> 00:36:21
			the type of life that you live.
And
		
00:36:22 --> 00:36:27
			anyhow, he does mention something
really interesting, though, for
		
00:36:27 --> 00:36:32
			those that are forced to mix with
people, some of the traits that we
		
00:36:32 --> 00:36:35
			have to have. And I just thought
this was really, really
		
00:36:35 --> 00:36:41
			beneficial. So this is a device is
that the one who that has to mix
		
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			with other people or you could say
should or obligatorily has to like
		
00:36:46 --> 00:36:49
			in a religious sense, because they
have something that they give back
		
00:36:49 --> 00:36:52
			to them. These are the traits that
he mentioned these people should
		
00:36:52 --> 00:36:52
			have.
		
00:36:53 --> 00:36:58
			You also must also know that this
man and this man, the kind people
		
00:36:58 --> 00:37:00
			need in the context of religion
		
00:37:01 --> 00:37:05
			has two urgent needs of his own in
the company of his fellow
		
00:37:05 --> 00:37:11
			creatures. First of all, he needs
long, enduring patience,
		
00:37:13 --> 00:37:14
			enormous tolerance,
		
00:37:16 --> 00:37:18
			a kind in gracious attitude
		
00:37:20 --> 00:37:23
			and constant readiness to seek
help from Allah.
		
00:37:25 --> 00:37:30
			Long, enduring patience, enormous
tolerance, a kind and gracious
		
00:37:30 --> 00:37:34
			attitude and constant readiness to
seek help from Allah. Secondly, he
		
00:37:34 --> 00:37:39
			needs to be inwardly detached from
people. So this is where there's
		
00:37:39 --> 00:37:43
			overlap. So even if you're with
people outwardly, be in really
		
00:37:43 --> 00:37:48
			detached. He needs to be inwardly
detached from people, even though
		
00:37:48 --> 00:37:51
			he is together with them in
physical form.
		
00:37:52 --> 00:37:57
			If they talk to him, he will talk
to them. If they visit him, he
		
00:37:57 --> 00:38:00
			will treat them with all due
respect, and he will thank them.
		
00:38:01 --> 00:38:05
			If they say nothing to him in turn
away for him, he will take
		
00:38:05 --> 00:38:09
			advantage of that opportunity. So
he's not worried. If people aren't
		
00:38:09 --> 00:38:12
			talking to you. If you're not
accepted by people, that's an
		
00:38:12 --> 00:38:14
			opportunity, I can do something
that's going to benefit me.
		
00:38:15 --> 00:38:19
			If they're engaged in something
right and good, he will assist
		
00:38:19 --> 00:38:23
			them. If they indulge in foolish
talk and bad conduct, he will
		
00:38:23 --> 00:38:27
			contradict them and shun them, or
he may chide them and rebuke them
		
00:38:27 --> 00:38:30
			if he hopes to improve their
hearts. He will also fill all
		
00:38:30 --> 00:38:34
			their rights, including social
visits in special visits to the
		
00:38:34 --> 00:38:38
			sick, as well as taking care of
their needs presented that they
		
00:38:38 --> 00:38:43
			presented to him to the best of
his ability. He will not demand
		
00:38:43 --> 00:38:49
			any form of remuneration, or any
type of Recompense from them, nor
		
00:38:49 --> 00:38:53
			will they expect that of them. He
will not expose them to alienation
		
00:38:53 --> 00:38:57
			because of that failure to
remunerate him meaning that if
		
00:38:57 --> 00:38:59
			they don't pay him back for
something he did, he won't
		
00:38:59 --> 00:39:02
			mistreat them. They'll just leave
them. He will spend on them
		
00:39:02 --> 00:39:07
			generously if he can, and he will
be shy of accepting gifts from
		
00:39:07 --> 00:39:11
			them. He wants to give but he
doesn't want to take he will be
		
00:39:11 --> 00:39:16
			tolerant of any annoyance that
caused him, showing them a
		
00:39:16 --> 00:39:20
			cheerful face and letting them see
him in fine form conducting
		
00:39:20 --> 00:39:24
			yourself worrying that nice clean
clothes if he was able to, he will
		
00:39:24 --> 00:39:26
			hide his own needs from them,
		
00:39:27 --> 00:39:31
			injuring them by himself in
dealing with him in his heart in
		
00:39:31 --> 00:39:35
			his intervene. He also needs to
pay special attention to his own
		
00:39:35 --> 00:39:39
			person by giving an opportunity to
engage in devout worship.
		
00:39:41 --> 00:39:44
			And then he quote say no, I'm
going to help Bob who said if I
		
00:39:44 --> 00:39:48
			sleep through the night I am bound
to neglect my own self. And if I
		
00:39:48 --> 00:39:52
			sleep through the day, I am bound
to neglect those I'm responsible
		
00:39:52 --> 00:39:57
			for. So how is it for me to sleep
between these two? How can I sleep
		
00:39:57 --> 00:39:57
			that
		
00:39:58 --> 00:39:59
			he was so preoccupied
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:02
			with helping people during the
day, that he didn't have time to
		
00:40:02 --> 00:40:06
			sleep, and he was so preoccupied
with the state of his own soul
		
00:40:06 --> 00:40:10
			before Allah night, that likewise
he didn't know when he it is that
		
00:40:10 --> 00:40:15
			he would sleep. And so this is
very good advice that we're going
		
00:40:15 --> 00:40:19
			to have to interact with people,
but we have to be detached. And
		
00:40:19 --> 00:40:24
			that if we can have that
perspective, and these o'clock who
		
00:40:25 --> 00:40:27
			that are Prophet sallallahu Sallam
that said is that the one who
		
00:40:27 --> 00:40:32
			mixes with people, and is patient
with them is better than the one
		
00:40:32 --> 00:40:35
			who does not mix with people. And
so that mixing with people and
		
00:40:35 --> 00:40:39
			being patients with everything
that that brings, is a higher
		
00:40:39 --> 00:40:43
			state, in our deen May Allah to
Allah give us Tofik we'll just
		
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			read briefly from men in the
universe in sha Allah.
		
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			So this is on page 16 of this
copy, where he says,
		
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			the two poles of a dyad may belong
to the same degree of existence,
		
00:41:01 --> 00:41:05
			or to two superimposed degrees. In
other words,
		
00:41:06 --> 00:41:07
			there are horizontal,
		
00:41:08 --> 00:41:13
			as well as vertical relationships.
When a relationship is vertical,
		
00:41:13 --> 00:41:16
			the higher pole is always
predominantly active in relation
		
00:41:16 --> 00:41:20
			to the lower one, to take the
human being, for example, the soul
		
00:41:20 --> 00:41:25
			or psyche is higher than the body,
and thus in the psyche Soma pair,
		
00:41:25 --> 00:41:30
			it is predominantly active. In
relation to the spirit, however,
		
00:41:30 --> 00:41:33
			the soul is lower, and thus
chiefly passive.
		
00:41:35 --> 00:41:38
			To take a cosmic example, the
Divine Throne is active in
		
00:41:38 --> 00:41:41
			relation to the footstool, which
in turn is mostly active in
		
00:41:41 --> 00:41:44
			relation to the seven heavens
beneath it, which in turn, are
		
00:41:44 --> 00:41:49
			mainly active in relation to the
material world. The active passive
		
00:41:49 --> 00:41:53
			relationship of the pair's May, at
the lowest levels be considered
		
00:41:53 --> 00:41:57
			one of opposition, as in good
evil, for instance, in most
		
00:41:57 --> 00:42:01
			instances, however, it will be one
of complementarity, rather than
		
00:42:01 --> 00:42:06
			opposition. And this applies more
pervasively, the higher the level.
		
00:42:06 --> 00:42:09
			So again, needs so he's just
introducing these ideas to us
		
00:42:09 --> 00:42:14
			otherwise, that there is a lot of
detail that you could go into, in
		
00:42:14 --> 00:42:16
			addition to the specifics, he's
talking about different
		
00:42:16 --> 00:42:23
			categories. And as we briefly
pointed to last week, that this
		
00:42:23 --> 00:42:26
			really helps give us a very good
understanding of many things that
		
00:42:26 --> 00:42:30
			are oftentimes misunderstood,
including various outcome of the
		
00:42:30 --> 00:42:34
			Sharia. And that understanding
that everything that led to
		
00:42:34 --> 00:42:40
			adequate has created has a
passive, active type nature. And
		
00:42:40 --> 00:42:43
			some things or people that are
active in one sense in another
		
00:42:43 --> 00:42:47
			sense that they're passive, and
that ultimately, everything that a
		
00:42:47 --> 00:42:51
			lot of other content has created
in relation to him, is passive
		
00:42:51 --> 00:42:55
			SubhanaHu adatta. Also to be
mentioned, this context are the
		
00:42:55 --> 00:42:59
			arrangements of multi dyadic
relationships in complex
		
00:42:59 --> 00:43:00
			interacting systems.
		
00:43:01 --> 00:43:05
			Commentary. This perspective has
been partly studied by modern
		
00:43:05 --> 00:43:09
			systems theorists, with some
relatively valid conclusions put
		
00:43:09 --> 00:43:12
			forth. Although they're limited by
the very nature of material
		
00:43:12 --> 00:43:16
			science, each system is conceived
as composed of smaller systems and
		
00:43:16 --> 00:43:20
			forming part of a larger one.
These systems within systems are
		
00:43:20 --> 00:43:23
			in equilibrium, every equilibrium
is likely to be periodically
		
00:43:23 --> 00:43:27
			disrupted, only to be replaced by
a new balance after a period of
		
00:43:27 --> 00:43:31
			just equilibrium, which is to say
that every equilibrium is
		
00:43:31 --> 00:43:35
			relative, and carries within the
seed of future just equilibrium.
		
00:43:36 --> 00:43:41
			So he's giving us examples now of
that modern research point to that
		
00:43:41 --> 00:43:45
			talk about these active passive
pairs in these horizontal and
		
00:43:45 --> 00:43:49
			vertical relationships. Within
each system, the lighter or more
		
00:43:49 --> 00:43:51
			passive components are conceived
of as orbiting the heavier,
		
00:43:51 --> 00:43:55
			heavier or more active components.
This may be literal, as in the
		
00:43:55 --> 00:43:59
			case of electrons and protons in
suns and planets, or it may be
		
00:43:59 --> 00:44:03
			less evident as when applied at
the social individual levels. If
		
00:44:03 --> 00:44:09
			you really think about that, it's
amazing to think everyone that is
		
00:44:09 --> 00:44:13
			circumambulating, the Kaaba, every
single one of us has cells in our
		
00:44:13 --> 00:44:20
			body, and that all of the cells in
our body have molecules. And if
		
00:44:20 --> 00:44:26
			you imagine the nucleus and the
counterclockwise orbiting of the
		
00:44:26 --> 00:44:31
			electrons of the nucleus, it's the
same way that we circumnavigate
		
00:44:31 --> 00:44:34
			the Kaaba counterclockwise. And if
you grow up to the macro level,
		
00:44:34 --> 00:44:38
			and think about the way that the
planets are orbiting the sun, it's
		
00:44:38 --> 00:44:43
			counterclockwise. So everything is
harmony. at the macro level, at
		
00:44:43 --> 00:44:47
			the micro level, and everywhere in
between, everything is in unison.
		
00:44:48 --> 00:44:52
			Everything is imperfect balance,
in reality if we have the wisdom
		
00:44:52 --> 00:44:56
			to be able to see it. In a tribal
setting, the members of each clan
		
00:44:56 --> 00:44:59
			may be seen as moving within the
orbit of the chants. Chief clans
		
00:44:59 --> 00:44:59
			Chief 10
		
00:45:00 --> 00:45:04
			and whose authority is the main
centripetal force within each
		
00:45:04 --> 00:45:07
			clan. Each chieftain is moving
within the larger orbit of the
		
00:45:07 --> 00:45:10
			tribal chief, who was thus the
center of gravity of the whole
		
00:45:10 --> 00:45:14
			tribe. In this context the
syntrophic that the central
		
00:45:14 --> 00:45:19
			descent centrifugal forces will be
each tribe mins egoistic desires
		
00:45:19 --> 00:45:22
			in tendency to prefer in his own
wishes over the communal good of
		
00:45:22 --> 00:45:25
			the tribe. at the family level,
the members are subject to the
		
00:45:25 --> 00:45:29
			centripetal poll of the head of
the family. The dispersing
		
00:45:29 --> 00:45:33
			centrifugal forces will be each
member's perception of his self
		
00:45:33 --> 00:45:37
			interest as incongruent with that
of the family. Interest
		
00:45:37 --> 00:45:40
			psychically. The souls elements
may easily be conceived of as
		
00:45:40 --> 00:45:44
			orbiting around the center of
gravity, that is the heart. We
		
00:45:44 --> 00:45:46
			shall discuss this in more detail
in the chapter concerned with the
		
00:45:46 --> 00:45:50
			soul and spirit. It suffice it to
say here that these elements are
		
00:45:50 --> 00:45:53
			also subject to centripetal,
unifying and centrifugal
		
00:45:53 --> 00:45:58
			dispersing influences. This is why
the Quran speaks of those
		
00:45:58 --> 00:46:02
			possessed of a loop a core that is
a unifying center of
		
00:46:02 --> 00:46:06
			consciousness, somebody that he
saw it, for the power of the soul
		
00:46:06 --> 00:46:10
			lies in the harmonizing of all its
elements was to remove inner
		
00:46:10 --> 00:46:14
			conflict, work against distraction
in the dispersal of attention, in
		
00:46:14 --> 00:46:17
			order to unite the soul and the
drive to reach immutable truth.
		
00:46:18 --> 00:46:21
			This is human inner and
unification or tow heed. The Quran
		
00:46:21 --> 00:46:24
			states, surely in the creation,
the heavens in the earth, and then
		
00:46:24 --> 00:46:27
			the alternation of night and day
there are signs for those
		
00:46:27 --> 00:46:30
			possessed of course centered
minds, who remember God standing
		
00:46:30 --> 00:46:33
			sitting on their sides and reflect
upon the creation of the heavens
		
00:46:33 --> 00:46:36
			and earth or Lord, You have not
created this in vain transcendent
		
00:46:36 --> 00:46:39
			are you, so preserve us from the
torment of the Fire. These people
		
00:46:39 --> 00:46:43
			possessed us centered minds are
those who practice a remembrance
		
00:46:43 --> 00:46:47
			of God uninterruptedly, which is
here expressed by they're doing an
		
00:46:47 --> 00:46:50
			opposite, in all possible postures
standing sitting on their sides.
		
00:46:50 --> 00:46:54
			Thus, they defeat all dispersing
tendencies and when inner harmony
		
00:46:54 --> 00:46:58
			or unity at the highest level,
whether they're spiritually within
		
00:46:58 --> 00:47:02
			or cosmically, without all
complementary pairs must resolve
		
00:47:02 --> 00:47:09
			into unity, and the greatest
wisdoms of all of the Paris, as it
		
00:47:09 --> 00:47:12
			points to toe heat, and the
oneness of Our Lord Subhanallah
		
00:47:12 --> 00:47:18
			data. And as some of them have
pointed out, if you look at it
		
00:47:18 --> 00:47:22
			mathematically speaking, every
number and let's say that things
		
00:47:22 --> 00:47:27
			in creation have a number. Every
number is ultimately a series of
		
00:47:27 --> 00:47:31
			ones. So what's for one plus one
plus one plus one?
		
00:47:32 --> 00:47:35
			What is seven, one plus one plus
one plus one plus one plus one
		
00:47:35 --> 00:47:40
			plus one was one, what is 1734?
I'm not going to count all the
		
00:47:40 --> 00:47:46
			ones out. But it's all of the ones
until you reach 1734. So even
		
00:47:46 --> 00:47:49
			mathematically speaking, all
points to to heat, it points to to
		
00:47:49 --> 00:47:54
			heat, everything in existence,
that points to the oneness of Our
		
00:47:54 --> 00:47:57
			Lord subhanho wa taala. And one of
the ways that the scholars
		
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			understood this is that and
everything that a lot of AutoCAD
		
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			have created, is that we see
preponderance,
		
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			so Allah to Allah chose for us to
be able to see the sky as being
		
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			blue, if he willed, He could have
created such that we see the sky
		
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			as being
		
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			whatever color that fluorescent
pink, if you want, he could have
		
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			won, he could have chosen how that
we see the sky Subhanallah data,
		
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			but there's preponderance or he
chose it to be in a certain way,
		
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			and created as such Subhanallah
data. So this indicates that his
		
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			oneness and that his power to
political data. So may Allah Tata
		
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			connect our hearts to these
meanings to purify them and to
		
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			give us understanding of the steam
into blesses not only orthodoxy
		
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			but orthopraxy correct belief and
correct practicing we Deepu going
		
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			between knowledge and practice in
May that bequeath a state that we
		
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			live and die upon and then are
accepted by our Lord subhanaw
		
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			taala May Allah to Allah give us
Tofik in all of our different
		
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			affairs, for Salah Aloha, seated
in the Muhammad and on it suddenly
		
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			suddenly suicidal Fatiha
		
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			how that I tend to be
		
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			so we're about to