Yahya Ibrahim – Live Islamic Q&A 30-09-21

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			that's the number one Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Al Hamdulillah hunter share Karim
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Subhana Allah allows your questions to go beyond your own essential needs that they are a benefit in
general, for all listeners from the era of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. While I wait for
your questions to kind of queue in, I thought I'd speak about something that maybe isn't as often
spoken about. And this is something that a times is very, very essentially necessary for us as
people of faith and people have good intention and conduct. Yet, however, we have the humanity and
our human leanings to at times make mistakes and Subhana light and authentic hadith the prophets I
		

			seldom said cool look at the Mahabharat all of the offspring all of the children of Adam are prone
to making mistakes. While Hyrule hopper in at our boon, the best of those who make those mistakes
are those who turn to Allah, our Lord Allah Subhana Allah Almighty, and seek repentance and ask for
forgiveness. I wanted in sha Allah knowing that this is a reality for myself in you may Allah
Subhana Allah cover my sins and make that what you think of me in my privacy better than what you
may know that Allah Subhana Allah forgives me what you are unaware of an unseen of that he is aware
of, and he is seeing of Allah Ameen. May Allah Subhana Allah give us hearts that are true and pure,
		

			and allow us to navigate our compass of heart back towards him, and to reconciling and restorative
justice that we establish within our homes and families and communities a lot. I mean, so the topic
that I wanted to delve into today were rules for giving a good apology rules that you and I need to
hold on to in practice taken from the sunat taken from the teachings of the prophets, I send them
but that are also very much in line with
		

			modern, common sociological and psychological studies. These are rules that when you kind of package
them together, you are a person who then stands in front of others, humbly before Allah before them,
asking for another chance and a new beginning and a new page to be turned. And then Allah Subhana
Allah may put in the hearts of those who we have offended, the opportunity for us to reignite that
trust and restart from a place where we may have sunk even below the zero line in our relationships.
These are a times difficult kinds of discussions and comments, especially because some of them are
theoretical, but at the same time they are necessary and these are building tools, especially for
		

			our younger generation to kind of absorb in how to manage conflict and how to resolve it and how to
move forward in their life when they have done wrong. Now the first rule, of course, is that as you
begin the apology is that there is an intent and the knee that is set in the heart and this Nia must
always be
		

			Seeking the pleasure of Allah, it's not to deflect it's not to shift blame, it's not to get out of
the trouble. It's not to just I just gotta say it, then I can move on with my life, rather than knee
of giving a genuine apology is that it is something that you're doing, seeking the pleasure of Allah
and that's what separates us as Muslims from others, that whatever we do an action whether it's a
statement we make even a movement of our heart, it has to be one that needs the NEA and the F laws
in the suit. The truthfulness that we seek between us and Allah and any time that you step forward
with seeking to make amends, bring peace come together for any other reason, then Allah subhanho wa
		

			Taala. And having that as a set intent, you grow further apart Allah makes this kind of clear in a
husband wife situation when there's tension, the law tells us in sort of 10 buffer up in you read
that is law when you were filter level by anathema it both of them want to bring about a good change
and rectify their mistakes, their problems, their their issues, a both of them come whole heartedly,
seeking resolution, it is only then you with 50 level, but you never know. Allah brings tofield
Allah allows what nobody thought could happen to happen. Allah bridges hearts that had found rancor
and wrath and anger between them and others. Allah can change an avowed enemy into a loyal friend
		

			and companion once again. So therefore sincerity and having a place that is between you and Allah
first becomes very important. One of the great moms and imams Sophia and Marina before he was one of
the great Hadith scholars in the era after the Sahaba whenever people would come to study from him
at him and knowledge, especially that these are the prophets, I tell him, he will give them words of
advice, three particular ones, one of them is very important in this discussion, he would say, I'll
slip my bayonet kawabe in Allah yesterday Allahumma vena cava webinar nurse, that if you are able to
fix the problem between you and Allah first, then Allah will help you fix the problem in that you
		

			aggrieved other people with and therefore when you look at any scenario where there is an apology
that is owed by you to others, set your first intent as being to fix it for Allah, Allah will make
it easy in helping you fix it, amongst others in society. Number two, when we speak about a true
apology when we speak about something that is true and sincere,
		

			it must not include the word but had it not been if you didn't, had you not said this first, if I
hadn't heard from them if I hadn't seen this or read this or the word but that one that qualifies
the one that kind of, you know, a person throws in with their apologies, I'm very sorry. And I know
you know, I know, you know, I mean it and this is from my heart, but you must also understand right
away, you've taken away the value of an unreserved apology. One that is that you know, is due one
that is required to be fulfilled, and have polluted it by doing something that is profiteering for
yourself and of self gratification and of lessening and deflecting the responsibility that you are
		

			trying to acknowledge in front of those who you have offended and therefore the word but is one of
the words that a loss of had I want to add in the prophets I sell them, you know, condemn, in the
example of a blease when Allah Subhana Allah says, Mammon, aka Allah tells you that the amount of
took at least what caused you not to submit in sujood giving your authority down and humbling
yourself to the authority of Adam, who I've ordered the angels and all other creation to be humbled
in front of him? Paula? Anna, he said I he gives a rush he gives a but but I'm better than him. I
have knowledge I called r&b I know you are my Lord. I know you are a lot I know you are the master.
		

			I know you are the creator. I know you're the one who is will remove me from your marriage. I know
but, but and how you don't mean I believe myself superior to him. And therefore, the the statement
of Iblees pushes him further away from the mercy of Allah subhana wa Tada. And that becomes an
essential rule. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was always unequivocal in his declarations
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			His instructions in his giving in his taking and his orders. Everything that is meant to be said was
said, and therefore you know that you're on the sooner when you say what you mean and you mean what
you say, I want I want you to hear that again, that you say what you mean. A loss of kind of
entirely taala says it's simply in an area that we hear each and every time one of the Imams
lectures us in the day of Juma. Yeah. Are you I Latina, I'm an otaku. Allah ha, hot. We're kulu
Colin sadita Oh, ye who believe in SoTL as AB, big man, mindful, conscious obedient of God, and
speak a straightforward word, no meanderings, no ifs, ands, or buts. And therefore, that becomes a
		

			second very important condition, very important instruction in offering a true and sincere apology,
that we pray, may fix some of the mistakes that we have committed towards others who are owed that
apology. Number two, at number three, excuse me as we move forward with our list is that when we
apologize that we keep focus on our actions, and not on the outcomes, so it becomes important that
when we are offering the apology, that we're speaking about ourselves, we don't put ourselves in
judgment over what other people have done, or how they've received it, or why aren't you accepting
it, you know, you must accept this for me and so on will speak about the importance of accepting
		

			sincere apologies from others, which is an a, you know, a forgotten Suna of the prophets I send them
however, when you are issuing the apology when you are speaking unto others, be very careful to make
mention of your actions, have statements that show that you've thought and reasoned and understood.
What are the problems that have been caused? And what are the outcomes that have happened from them,
and that this is the result of why you stand before people today and ask for their forgiveness. As
you have begun it with a law. You must also do it with others that are greedy, my Malema nawawi. He
says as is in the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. prophets eyes lm says it's
		

			added we all know manlam Yesh core. And NASS, let me assure Allah, the One who is incapable and
unwilling to show gratitude and thankfulness to other people can never be one who is truly thankful
to Allah subhanho. To add, if you can't say thank you to somebody who has done kindness to you that
you've benefited from it, that you've been honored by it that has been sent to you through them by
Allah. If you're not grateful to your husband and wife and your children, if you're not grateful to
the education you received your grandparents, those who met those who haven't those who have
preceded you, and how you puke incapable of showing gratitude, you are incapable then of being truly
		

			thankful to Allah numero uno, where he kind of talks about this hadith and he says the opposite is
also true. We have a teaching in our language studies and our Islamic Studies, our studies have also
shown that a Shia or out of will will do that things become even more clear, more more understood
when you reflect on what opposes them on the other side of the coin. So when you want to understand
this, you also understand that not just the one who's incapable of thinking it's the one who is
incapable of not acknowledging others for good, but acknowledging their mistakes unto others. So the
one who is incapable of retracting from a mistake they've done of making a declaration that this is
		

			wrong. And whenever I let unforeseen look at how Allah says Kunal Po, Amina Lila, stand up as a word
before God stand up for Allah, she'll had that as a weakness unto yourself, because whenever an
unforeseen come in some verses, even if it is against yourself, even if you which means even if it
makes you have to apologize, I misunderstood I spoke wrong. I did not intend this with this action.
And therefore, make sure that people know that you know what you did wrong. Many times you'll even
do this with your own children. You will say, do you understand why I'm upset? And, you know,
somebody could say I'm very sorry. Okay, what are you sorry for? What What is the apology for? Yeah,
		

			no, no, I'm really, really sorry. About what what is it about and that becomes very important. And
Allah Subhana Allah makes that, you know, one of the ways that we govern in our processes of our
		

			May Allah subhana wa tada grant us ease and comfort Aloma I mean, another important principle in
issuing a good and true sincere apology that we pray will be accepted by those we have offended is
do not overdo it with your own pain and remorse. You know sometimes people Subhana Allah, they like
dress it up it's like Hollywood May Allah protect us era and the tears in the end it's all about
them. And if you knew how deep this you know, I feel and how sad I am that this happened and I am so
so so so so and they just go on and on and on. And you know, crocodile tears and you know, these
kind of statements they come because this is a known problem, that when people come to apologize,
		

			and they feel maybe that if they don't make if they don't sell it, they don't act it well if they
don't sell it, because it's not deep down and sincere from the heart. So if I don't sell it, if they
don't buy it, then I gain nothing. And it is at this moment that you see some of the greats will
have of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam when mistakes were committed by them, they were not
people who dressed it up seeking favor of the prophets iclm or favor of the other Sahaba rather they
were people who stood up in acknowledgement of their mistakes. Now I'll give a very vivid example
from the life of our interview Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the moment have happened in
		

			nabee belta radi Allahu Allahu Allah wa Howard is one of the people who made his euro. With the
prophets I seldom he witnessed all of the battles of the prophets lie Selim beginning with the
Battle of bed, and he is one of the old mohajir and one of the early of those who came into the deen
of Islam and made great sacrifices in the path of Allah. Now, when he left Mecca, the people of
Mecca they laid siege to his home and his father and his mother and those he had to leave behind.
And they said to him, something very simple that could follow for age. They said, Listen, we're not
going to ask you to be a hypocrite or all we want is one thing that the moment you hear Mohammed so
		

			I said Lem has decided he's coming to conquer Mecca that you send us off you send us a letter to
notify us how to being a man of truthfulness and honesty he agreed. So they left his family be they
didn't you know, and he was lived with the prophets I send them for those years. And when the day of
the conquest of Mecca came in, the prophet was leaving Mecca. He made the declaration we're heading
to Mecca for for Fatima Mecca, how to send them a letter with a woman who he did in one of her
braids. She's an unbeliever, and she headed out towards Mecca. The prophet in form was informed by
Allah subhanaw taala. And he sent Ali and zubayr and others to get this letter from this woman. And
		

			they caught up to her at an oasis that the Prophet said that she would be at and just not to Harmer
but just to bring the litter when they returned with the letter evidence is there a laws inform the
prophets I send them the woman has given her testimony, physical hard evidence is there it sealed by
how to everything is clear. And no matter what the law I know, said O Messenger of Allah, this is
treason. This is a capital crime. It's punishable by death. And the prophets Allah Allah is lm said,
Omar, just I have him come see me how to grow the alarm. I know a genuine believer, this is a moment
where it's going to apologize for something and he says a messenger of Allah jakka my matter has
		

			arrived to you, Allah has informed you and I knew that Allah would not ever leave you to be in that
humiliated state. And I know that Allah will not cause your defeat and the only reason I fulfilled
This is because these people had put so much pressure on me in this sense, and I want it to be
Amanda my word so I send them the letter so that they don't say the men of Mohammed our lives. And
one of the explanation of that when I met this discusses this, and at the same time, I did not do
this, this believing in you or hiding this from you a messenger of Allah, and he issues apology of
clarity. He clarifies the matter.
		

			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that oh, let him be for Allah looked upon the people of
Bethel and said, whatever you will do after this day you are forgiven Allahu Akbar. How to bro the
Allahu anhu was one of the messengers of the Messenger of Allah. He was the man that Allah chose
that the prophets I sell and chose to deliver the message of Islam to the people of Egypt. He was,
you know, a trusted man with a prophet. I send them there after. And this shows you that if you
apologize correctly, and do it in the right way, then you will be honored in that sense. I believe
we have a caller on the line and said, I'm on a call.
		

			Not yet in chama Alright, so Alhamdulillah you know, these are important principles and rules that
as we're moving on
		

			Long we pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala grants us high yield and being able to practice them in
that sense. One of the other important principles and rules of giving a good apology apologizing in
the right capacity is don't focus on who started it, or how it began. And you know where where you
got involved in it. And I'm not the only one to blame. And sometimes Allah, when a person of
trueness to Allah Subhana, Allah to Allah steps forward to acknowledge they are willing to wit bear
the burden of the mistake. And you can see examples of this in the lives of the prophets of Allah in
that life of musante as salaam, for example. He's one who stands before Allah, and he says, Call a
		

			lot of be in the hotel to me know whom, Oh Allah, how can I go to these people when I killed the man
while I lived amongst them? Right? And I lived to them either either does he mean for many years
that I was known to them, you know, they're they're going to say, you know, this and this and this.
And so Musashi has said, understands the importance of being true to one's word. I believe we have a
caller on the line in Sharla.
		

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