Yahya Ibrahim – Islamic Q and A 30-11-2022

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The importance of praying for health and success is discussed in Islam, including the use of words like "oppressed by Jesus" and the importance of having honest conversations about love and contentment. The speakers emphasize the need for privacy and privacy in marriage, and suggest finding opportunities for overnighters to practice good deeds and helping others overcome addiction. They also mention the importance of avoiding clothing that only men wear, as it is considered appropriate for those who are not men.

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			okay I said I wanna income for those of you who are watching on the social media stream
Alhamdulillah we're just about to begin Islam q&a with Islam channel out of London.
		
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			I will try in the break contract law to get my attention to the questions that you do put up in the
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			a Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Salam Allahu
alayhi wa sallam with that. It's a pleasure to be with you once again at Islam channel for Islamic
q&a. I'm your brother. Yeah, hey, Brahim, coming to you live from my home here in Perth, Western
Australia. Subhan Allah last week I had the honor of visiting our brothers and sisters, the OMA of
Nigeria, masha Allah Kabbalah Kabbalah it was a blessing event and meeting and I pray the loss of
Panama to add blesses Nigeria and its people allows us to return and visit that goes Abuja once
again, Allah meeting today insha Allah I'm looking forward to receiving some of your honor questions
		
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			as we have become accustomed to consider it as an act of charity that you give on to others. Perhaps
there are those who are thinking of some of the same questions that you have in mind. And perhaps
the answers that may be provided in sha Allah will be rewarded to you as they practice the good that
you have brought towards them. The evening that Dinah
		
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			there are a number of questions already waiting for us in the queue that have been emailed and or
WhatsApp in to Islam channel. Inshallah, we will try to go through a few of them while we wait for
your questions to come through over the mine in chat box.
		
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			All right, please, can you dip? We'll begin with the first question in chat lock, please can you
demonstrate to us how to sit on a chair to pray? I'm an elderly woman, and I cannot stand up for too
long. This is a magnificent question such a wonderful question. So hamdulillah it touches upon so
many different avenues of our faith.
		
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			The first point in sha Allah is that Alchemist solida, to establish the prayer is one of the duties
of every Muslim, able bodied and not so able bodied. And for us as Muslims, as long as we have a
consciousness as long as we have an awareness of the obligation of prayer, then we perform the
prayer even if we are not physically able to perform its movement. And I know that there were some
of my teachers in the final days of their life, that they were in a state of immobility, or that
they had suffered a stroke and a part of their body was non functional. And when it came time to
pray, they would be assisted to make their will do or they would make to Yemen you know, a pot of
		
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			dirt would be brought for them and they would cleanse themselves ritually with the clean soil of the
earth. And then they would pray some would just pray with the movement of their head or the blinking
of their eye for each record individually. But our sister here, just I love him. She asked, can I
describe the prayer of somebody who needs to sit in salah the first rule from the our canon of salah
of the requirements of Salah is unclear mu Malhotra to remain standing when it is required to stand
during prayer as long as one has the ability. So for example, if somebody has a hip problem, and
they're not able to make a record or sujood maybe they can stand and make record but they can't go
		
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			all the way down to the floor. They should not begin their solid seated on account of them not able
to go to sujood they should not begin their solid seated. They should begin their solid standing
make their record because
		
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			They're able and when it comes to planning for sujood, then they can sit, the chair can be near
them, between the legs and so on, then they can sit and make their sujood. So the concept of Alia is
an essential concept in the validity of the prayer, wherever you have the ability to do a movement,
or to make a statement that is a part of the essence of Salah and you failed to do it for a reason
that is not true. That is not correct. Meaning you have the ability to stand but you just chose to
sit down even though you are able to stand up for the salah you walked into the masjid you walked
into your home, but it's just I have back pain that can't go to sujood that in the place that you
		
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			can stand you should stand my dear sister haven't shared near you have the couch near you when it's
time to make a call or when that you know it's been too long and you need to sit then sit. When you
gain your strength stand again, we know this from the habit of some of the Sahaba they would even
lean at times on a rope that was attached in the masjid for some of the women, when they were doing
their voluntary prayers, they wanted to stand longer than their normal ability. So when you are
needing a device, it is permissible to use it it does not take away from the reward of those that
stand wherever you are able record whenever you are able to Jude whenever you are able. And wherever
		
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			you find pain, discomfort, inability that section Malone is where you make and cause the effect. But
keep the rest of the prayer as normal as you normally would. As the prophets I said limp said Salamu
Kamara into Moonee Valley, perform your prayers as I have been witnessed in my prayer to be
performing of it, Salam O Allah, it was Sunday,
		
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			can a Muslim woman be measured by a male tailor, I would prefer that this is not done. And sometimes
with the measurements that can be quite detailed. It's not just necessarily about the fulfillment of
the measurements correctly, sometimes you have to remove outer garment and other things like that.
My preference would be to find the seamstress, which I would hope would be much more acceptable. And
then you can provide the measurements to the tailor. So what you can ask and now there's even apps
online, on your phone where they will ask you to you know where you know, something a little bit
tighter and it'll measure for you the particular sections, you can also ask the tailor what are the
		
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			measurements that need to be taken and go to a seamstress get one of your somebody who's aware of
the details of how to measure to measure you up Insha Allah, it would be better to have something
that's a little bit requiring of alterations because the measurements were not as perfect because of
the tailor. And then you can get it remeasured and get it resized a little bit better than to find
yourself in an awkward situation. How do you perform? How do you approach the topic of Xena and
sexual deviant act with younger adult children? This is a really, you know, interesting kind of
question. There's a number of things that are attached to it. The first of them is we have sexual
		
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			ethics as Muslims. There are absolutes in what is halal. And there are absolutes in what is haram.
And there's nothing that can change those things that for us as Muslims are seen as haram. Love
doesn't change them. Emotion doesn't change them. circumstance doesn't change them. They are
commanded through Revelation through the word of God, that these are the things that are Halab
permissible. And these are the things that are how long and from the things that are haram from a
spiritual sense for us as Muslims in our relationship with Allah, they are itemized in the total
practice of Muslims and Islamic communities since the time of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
		
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			wa sallam. So having sexual activity outside marriage is seen as a spiritual sin it is considered
haram impermissible and it is seen as an act within our tradition of a deviation from the sexual
ethics that Muslims are meant to maintain. And Allah subhanaw taala specifically says in the Quran
wella takanobu Xena in network Canada, each attempt was a Sevilla do not come close to Xena sexual
misconduct, for it is an abomination. And it is an evil path when tread upon it's very difficult to
come back from it. It's very difficult to undo your the damage that may be done to your name and
reputation and ailment that can touch upon your heart from it. So it'd be
		
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			Come is really important for us to frame our concept of sexual ethics to Muslims and young Muslims
that we understand what are the limits? What are the boundaries? What is halal and what is haram?
What is good, what is bad, what is right, what is wrong within our tradition as Muslims. And of
course, this is all done without us looking at the other. Somebody who is doing it, most of them are
not doing something that we consider reprehensible that we consider sinful. It's not looking at them
as being lowly or looking at them in a way that we seem to think that we are better or above them.
It is only Allah really, who knows what is in the heart. So here's three things that I would want
		
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			you to do with your children. First, be careful in the usage of the word, how long sometimes we use
the word haram for things that are not haram. Right. And what it does, then is that when you really
mean to use the word haram, it's devalued its essence. So for example, you might be as a parent to
us, you know, you come home and your children are watching a music video. And it's indecent, and
it's immoral. And it's sinful. It's not something you would want them to see this kind of music
video and the dancing in it and the music that had lewdness and things that are inappropriate. Now
when you come home and you say, iStockphoto, Allah, this is haram. This is and you are so decisive
		
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			in your statement about it, you are so emphatic about it, and you hold it to such a degree, that it
becomes conflated with the things that Allah subhanaw taala establishes as haram in an absolute
sense. So there are things that are haram that lead to haram. There are things that are
reprehensible that lead to the Haram that Allah warned us about. And things like lewd music, things
like those music videos, those, you know, vile TV shows are some of the things that you know are
shared on social media and Tik Tok video, there are things that you know, as a Muslim, you abstain
from them. But when you label you know, all music, you know, you can't miss it. It's haram.
		
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			And then you come to use the word, you know, having * outside marriage is haram. And you put the
two together. If your son if your daughter looks out into the world, and they see millions of
Muslims listening to music, they say, Well, you know, my dad keeps saying this is haram. And he
keeps saying this is haram. Well, there's so many people that do this. I've seen my dad, my mom,
they go to a wedding, they listen to some of the same songs. They were there. You know, it wasn't
haram at that time, or they used to listen to it when they were younger. So what it does is you have
to, you know, we have to enshrine the sacredness of the absoluteness of the conceptualization of
		
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			follow up. For that reason you find the great Imam, they were very careful with the usage of that
word. And he didn't humble he had more than 30 different ways of saying something should not be done
without using the word haram. He would say Accra Hadelich I hate for this to happen, and you have to
have do people actually do something so so weird, or so, so strange as this, that he would have
Larian bevi they shouldn't be done. They shouldn't be upset. You know, there's so many different
ways he would show his dissatisfaction that this is wrong. Without using the word how long to hold
the word count on to such a great value. I remember bonito went a step further. In fact, I remember
		
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			Bonita instead of five classifications of Halal
		
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			MOBA a permissible Mundo recommended mcru hated haram. He added two extra categories, which is haram
Lila UD haram Liberty haram that is not because of it having a textual evidence to say It's haram
but its action is reprehensible. It's a haram that is minor to the Haram that Allah has sent his
home. And this was to show the importance of the word of Allah the word of the prophets I send them
that they are above what other people what is deduced as being sinful. So the first Allah says
whenever trouble Zina don't go near it, that's so the first careful with the word haram. Number two
is block the means said block the means that can lead a person to these haram activities. You know,
		
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			a mobile phone in your child's bedroom, when you're asleep is a death sentence. It can cause so much
mental health issues it can cause them to be bullied or to bully others. It can cause them to see
things. You know, the the age, the average age of a child to be to encounter *,
unintentionally or intentionally now is nine years old. So when you have the Wi Fi unfettered when
you have given them independent mobile devices that they can come and go with it and you know
they're
		
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			is no observation of it, there's no measuring of it. There's no parental controls on it. There's no
auditing of it, you are setting yourself up for disaster. Be careful, my dear brother, be careful,
my dear sister. So block the means when at the caribou don't go near it. Number three is to have
honest conversations about love, and contentment. There is this hyper phobia of the word love,
there's hyper phobia of our children having a crush and loving someone from a distance. And that for
us as Muslims is not sinful, is not haram. You know, the emotions of the heart where a person
governs them and doesn't act on them, doesn't say something about it doesn't make a movement about
		
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			it doesn't you know,
		
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			act in a sinful manner with it is not seen as sinful. But we've sometimes we pushed our kids to be
hypocritical to lie to us. And, you know, as if it's unnatural for them to fall in love. It is very
natural for your children, my children to fall in love with each other. And it's something we should
not be upset about, you know, for my son or for my daughter, or your son or your daughter, to have a
job to be, you know, to find someone attractive to find someone interesting, should not be made to
seen as that is sinful. But we should teach them the boundaries of what is halal and what is haram
how to speak with each other not to be alone with one another. Even if it's a loan on a mobile
		
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			phone, to protect their privacy to protect their I would like to protect their honor to protect
their family name, to protect their religious practice. All of those are things that need honest
conversations. All of those are things we should do with our young children, and to be very careful
in understanding what is right what is wrong ourselves before we inflict greater harm upon them.
		
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			We have a few more questions and I'm interested in sha Allah to hearing some of your questions
coming online in sha Allah please do call in when you have the ability.
		
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			Please
		
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			can okay we have another question coming in.
		
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			How do you maintain tranquility during prayer concentration or for sure during prayer? How can if I
already have some of it, improve it and add to it? Okay, so Subhan Allah Sadat, the word itself
means connection. So the concept of solder comes from Silla, which means to connect oneself to
something. So the moment you say Allahu Akbar, the essence of your prayer is that you are connecting
yourself, connecting your life, connecting your problems, connecting your successes, connecting your
hopes, connecting your fears, connecting your love, connecting your worries, connecting everything
that you are experiencing, in that moment, we are the one who has that solution for all those
		
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			problems and all those successes. Your aim and your Salah is that as you begin Allah Akbar, the NIA
of that tech Vera to Haram is Allah is greater. Allah is greater than my wealth. Allah is greater
than my worry, Allah is greater than my reputation, Allah is greater, more important than my job.
Allah is the One who I see before I seek others Allahu Akbar.
		
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			So that becomes the stepping stone to ensure that you have a magnificent understanding of the
benefits into magnificence of Allah, that you consider yourself the slave and he is the master. He
is the one who will answer your request and you are the one who is begging as a slave before that
you consider that he is the judge and you are the condemned. You were the guilty, the one who is
caught the one who is shamed, the one who knows their mistake, and the one who may have forgotten
it, but now it has come and been brought to justice. Now you're there begging for your freedom,
begging for another chance, begging for a new opportunity to better yourself to do and greater
		
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			Betterment as the days go on. That becomes the stepping stone of for sure. Usually we get to that
place of push you are aware at the end of our Salah we found a little bit of tranquility, we're you
know by the exit of Salah our heart rate is has slowed down. Our body movements are more do more. We
are more focused on the exit of the solid than the entrance. What I always say to my students is try
to transport that feeling that you get when the tranquility hits you in your Salah to capturing it
before you say Allahu Akbar. Get your heart ready is the head literal. The concept of is to handle
calm the
		
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			concept of making your heart ready
		
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			is to literally move out of your heart and mind the things that are distracting you. And to
literally say to yourself, I'm going to come back to this after my prayer. I'll continue with, I'll
make that phone call after. So that and when you give yourself a verbal cue, when you make an
affirmation, when you write down a note, so in your phone, you say, call back yet. And that's it. I
compartmentalize, I move that, right. And when you say it out loud to yourself, after sada I'm going
to go get lunch. So that's it. I'll think about lunch after so that the moment you say that to
yourself, the moment you articulate that, it's one thing taken out of your mind. So I always
		
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			recommend that as you stand in front of Allah, I need to mind the things that you're going to do
after so that okay after so that I'm going to grab some sandwich Jollof have some time I'm gonna go
grab a coffee, you know, yeah, Allah, accept this Salah for me, let me give my concentration and
Salah and bang, but you know, Bismillah that's how you begin your prayer. You know, clear your mind,
clear your heart before you say Allahu Akbar. And do the gateways that reach you to solid. So make a
fresh will do right. You know, each one of these steps is getting you to a place where your Salah
will become better, make a fresh will do you know make a steam jab before you were to cleanse
		
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			yourself, your private, go to the bathroom, make a fresh will do perfume yourself as a brother who's
outside in the world or is a sister in her home. You know, find the place that you pray and find
comfort in don't just you know find your will sunblock in your home in the masjid, you know get into
a state where you go into places for your prayer in sha Allah all of those steps will get you to the
place where for sure becomes more attainable. Finally, estimate the reward you will get at the end
of your prayer. You know that Salah was valuable, you know I expect a great reward from Allah azza
wa jal we have a caller on the line as Salam Alikum caller How can I help
		
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			whatever
		
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			question that has
		
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			been confusing, the term Masha Allah that will reduce it it is also an Allah has willed to claim to
understand that in some parts of the world is also used when you also don't have protection for
Allah that mashallah are
		
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			very beautiful Masha Allah in that term, I just tried to do it very very lately. I just want you to
know is that correct? In that way because I use the term mashallah frequently when it confused with
me much as lucky about a cookie that's actually a really good question sister. Many Muslims do make
this particular mistake where when they see something that is pleasing upon somebody else, they
limit their saying and saying Masha Allah which means Allah provided that for you Allah will that
for you. Really the Sunnah of the Prophet Isaiah love never never used the term Masha Allah in that
context. He used that context when it is for himself or for you to say it yourself you say Masha
		
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			Allah who therefore with this is Allah will this for me, but for others you say Barbara Kola who
like or Teva or Kumar, and you can say Masha Allah Tabasco, Nicola, or Allah, Huma Abedin the
prophets I send them with tea to the Sahaba to say, Allah mimetic, may Allah bless it for you. May
Allah increase it for you, may Allah protect it for you. So the concept of Masha Allah is an
overused concept sometimes in the wrong perspective when it doesn't attach the word baraka to it. We
should always be asking for baraka to descend for each other and that's why in our greeting, we say
a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. So that's a really good question sister. It's
		
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			something that is at times overlook the Sunnah. When you have something pleasing for yourself,
something that you have achieved, you don't attribute it to yourself, you say Masha Allah, this is
from Allah's blessing upon me, Allah will do this for me, Allah helped me get this. I'm not my own
doing. I don't have this power on my own. I'm not the one who makes the things happen. I may have
put in effort but Allah is the One who gave me the energy for the effort. I studied really hard. I
worked really hard all of that it's you're doing but because it's the will of Allah, the provision
of Allah for you. When you see something good for others, use the word bow bow or Kolak would Allah
		
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			Huma Abedin or Masha Allah Tabouleh Allah Allah Huma Baddeck Laughing Man, you know, that's what we
say when people get married bollock Allah Who likoma May Allah put Baraka between the both of you,
we make the dua of
		
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			Oh except for each other, not simply Masha Allah, Masha Allah. So the word Masha Allah should be for
ourselves to remind us what we have received is from Allah and His Generosity upon us. We'll come
back to more questions from you in sha Allah, I look forward to hearing them which is that God will
block one I'm now going to guess that was salam ala kumara Allah who a lot of care to come back in
shortly we'll be coming back to you shortly in sha Allah.
		
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			Masha Allah, Allah Allah. All right, for those who are watching live on my program on my social
media streams, if you do have questions do let me know in sha Allah will try to take them by the law
heater Allah. I'll scroll through the Instagram feed first in sha Allah, I see that there's a number
of questions and do let us know where you are viewing it from and then I'll go into my YouTube and
my Facebook in sha Allah as well. We have people from Broome, Western Australia,
		
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			masha Allah.
		
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			We have people from Toronto,
		
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			Oakville, Canada, masha Allah
		
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			I'm hamdulillah and yes, I will be having a number of classes in Toronto in sha Allah. Stay tuned,
check the method of praise shortly. We have a number of things we got people watching in India,
Nigeria, where I'm just visiting and mashallah there's a few of our brothers who are holding some
wonderful programs in Abuja we have here has ignored there we have Chicagoans relay man move dimming
for the wedding, Ibrahim deplore Mohamed salah, and a bunch of local roadmap from amongst the elite
of Nigerian scholarly class in sha Allah is going to be a wonderful, wonderful experience for all of
those who are attending Abuja this weekend. Make sure you are there. We have brothers and sisters
		
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			listening in from Kuala Lumpur, Masha, Allah India.
		
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			All over and having data here are behind me. All right, if there are any questions you put them in,
yes, here we go. Can you please advise me about breastfeeding if someone breastfeed their knees is
there a specific number of times that must be done and drinking from a bottle makes a difference? It
does not make a difference. If it's from a bottle, mostly that would amount you will find that there
are different levels of threshold of what it means to have your knees now being one who you are a
wet nurse for her. What it would mean is that she has cycled to a full of fullness of cycling. So if
she has drunk from you, whether from your breast directly or from expressing it into a bottle, if
		
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			she has had a full feed that by unanimous agreement is the lower threshold. Some people said just
three cycles, even if even if it wasn't a full feed. Some people said no, it should be on more.
		
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			You know, they it should be more than three, it should be an amount that it's assumed that they were
trying to get full. Even if they did not get full. What I would say is if you can have more than one
occasion, and if you can get them to suckle and have a feed in sha Allah, then that would suffice
the law to add up. And this of course is an easy way to join families together to make a job more
accessible as Manhattan for each other in sha Allah, it makes of course marriage between cousins a
little bit more difficult when that is occurred. So make sure that you do let them know that this
has happened. And that they are brothers and sisters to each other through breastfeeding. Can you
		
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			massage your feet can you make mess sorry, on your feet without socks when it's not possible to wash
the feet sink is very high or a bottle is not available to wash your feet what I would say for that
is then to make Tiempo and this seems to be the closest opinion insha Allah I would not say to you
just make a parcel a partial will do and leave another part. If you if the water is not able to
reach the places due to illness due to inability due to Inex S that means the water is not able to
reach you for will do even if there's water for you to drink. So if you cannot have somebody help
you if you're in a place where you cannot raise your foot to the sink, then make your tiny Mo and
		
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			Allah is merciful. And this is the opinion of some of their own amount that they would say you
should not ask people to help you for will do because Allah has been generous to us that if you
can't make your own will do make to Yemen, if you are unwell if you are sick, you know all of these
instances make to Yemen in sha Allah. Thank you for that sister from Nyssa Allah hepatic Viki Is it
allowed to pray
		
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			A few minutes before the prayer time starts based on an online prayer time. No, you should not a
preempt what you believe is the correct time for prayer. So if in your heart you believe, you know,
this calendar marks the prayer time, so for example, I wouldn't break my fast five minutes earlier,
because I don't want to lose a day fasting, then also don't break your method of prayer early
Inshallah, even if you're not testing, I would use that same logic. Is it allowed to pray two
minutes? Yeah. So that would be the criteria that I would hold you to inshallah.
		
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			Now, we'll take a couple more questions, if there are any.
		
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			Do the dead to get reward when you use their things, if they have left something behind, and they
have made the intention that it is for a use for other people after their departure, then yes, the
prophets lie. Selim says, for example, if somebody was to plant a tree,
		
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			they don't know who's going to eat from it, what animal what bird what B is going to pollinate it,
if somebody was to plant vegetation, which is a sunnah. And it is consumed or shading or used in
whatever way by anybody else forever, even after that person's that they will earn a reward from it.
So with that same logic than yes, the answer is yes, for the remnants that are left behind, they can
be something that earns us reward in sha Allah, especially when there are specific needs. Can you
give some general guidance for co parenting and divorce cases where a child's father ends up
marrying a non Muslim? Those are really, you know, particular kind of,
		
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			I don't want to give specific advice for something that is personal because it would be an injustice
to you. So I don't want to answer that question that you assume I'm entering about your particular
case. But I'm going to say in general, and this is not particularly because I haven't heard the full
story, what I would say is the child's interest must always be first. So the child's interest in
terms of their child protection, in terms of their safety, in terms of their spiritual safety, in
terms of their well being their mental state and mental health should be the primary factor of all
decisions that are made between the aggrieved husband and wife, who are no longer divorced, who are
		
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			now divorced and no longer together. So it should be an aspect of maturity, I would recommend a
mediation process. It's something that I do as a qualified mediator, I bring to aggrieved parties,
we, you know, we negotiate terms to make life easier not spend 1000s of dollars in courts and, and
lawyers and so on. And it becomes an art, you know, something that is agreed on, and it can become
remanded in court and accepted as a court settlement in that process. So we look at, you know, the
what, what is best in that case, so, I would highly recommend that inshallah it can be done
virtually, it doesn't have to be done in you know, you don't have to stick with each other to do it.
		
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			I do them through zoom and other means, Inshallah, but it should be something that is not that is
ironed out. And there should be boundaries and details. And it should be very specific about days
and nights and money that is spent usually money becomes the biggest pitfall as it relates to that.
May Allah subhanaw taala, Grant, ease and success Allahumma Amin put the child's interests first,
put your trust in Allah, and you're going to have to lose something to gain more, there's going to
be certain things you have to compromise. Nobody can come as we didn't just for themselves, and find
that there will be any resolution that has to be something you're willing to give up something that
		
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			you're willing to compromise on for the overall benefit of everybody involved in sha Allah. All
right.
		
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			Check me out. Allah bless you with goodness and strength every day. I mean, I mean, I love it. I
mean, and you likewise and more. What do you do when life weighs you down?
		
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			You know, subhanAllah I guess you're asking for me personally. So there's three things that are
important.
		
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			I make sure that my vicar of Allah is done to a level that is healing. So there's difference between
making Vic and then doing it asking Allah for healing asking Allah for help there, you know, your
intention is important. So even even right now I can do a reflective victory with you all of you are
listening. You know, just if you just take a moment with Allah and just say Alhamdulillah and name
what you are praising and thanking Allah for
		
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			I've haven't really learned that I have good health and haven't really learned that I visited my
brothers and sisters in Nigeria
		
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			and having to do that we had a successful day our journey and Hamdulillah that I had a job and
family waiting for me to return Hamdulillah that I arrived back safely and in good health and
Hamdulillah that I have another trip booked with my family in sha Allah upcoming for Umrah
Alhamdulillah that I am teaching the deen and teaching Islam to people who I know when people who
have not met and hamdulillah Allah has showed me favorite having to learn my parents are well
Alhamdulillah that they're recovering. And hamdulillah hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah what are the
things that you are praising Allah for so when you do that, it begins to lift the weight off you. If
		
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			you count the blessings of Allah, you will just one of the blessings of Allah Allah he will not be
able to analyze it step so be content ready to be like yo I'm happy with Allah. Oh Allah even though
life is difficult, even though I you know, I'm struggling at work and having to do that I'm ready to
be that I'm content with your Allah, I'm content with my feet. I trust you I have to work cool upon
you. Oh Allah give me better in my dunya and after Oh, Allah helped me in the struggle that I'm in,
Oh Allah, this is what is better for me. Keep it you know, allow me to see the wisdom of it, and so
on. All of that is something that helps to remove the weight that you find down be appreciated my
		
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			dear brother, my dear sister of some of the things that at times that pull through our grip that we
forget about. In fact, you can even be appreciative for some of the things that get us down. If we
understand that this is from the Mercy of Allah, alleviating something worse, that could have been
following us or assumed to be false. And that this is getting this ready for future success
Allahumma me
		
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			All right, we're giving our attention back to Islam channel I heard in the mic that they are
bringing this back soon. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah grant us Are you in sha Allah
		
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			there's a quick question here from Brother Folsom. Can you make will do in the shower after
showering without clothes? The answer is yes, your husband is actually a part of a will do. So your
host live necessitates that you are now clean for prayer. So it counts in that sense. May Allah
bless you. It's a good question like about it.
		
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			All right, we'll be getting back in sha Allah to our Islam channel. We have the last 50 minutes
together in sha Allah.
		
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			May Allah accepted from all of us Allah Amin loan would have been minute to set me up to rally.
		
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			All right, quick question sister Samira is asking when I'm praying behind the Imam when that Imam
has said Salam Alikum at the end and I am not done doing my own personal drop or my own personal
doodle with Can I postpone my salon until I am done? The answer is yes. But not to an exaggerated
degree. Not to a degree that the Imam has stopped and is turned and you are still in your sada and
you know it is better for you to finish with the imam in never geraten Imam would you maybe a
property Selim said that EMA was constituted so that we are led by them? So that's a very good
question. Allahu Baddeck VT. Good Good question natural law. We have a question by design by Allah
		
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			trip. How do you help a spouse who's addicted to watching bad things online?
		
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			How about we begin with that as a first question for everybody. buting chama are just a few seconds
away submitted up
		
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			all right, we're coming back.
		
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			Since
		
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			I said I'm on equal moral law he will work at Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah.
That Welcome back to Islamia q&a with your brother. Yeah. Hi, Brahim. Coming to you live from my
home here in Perth, Western Australia. It's coming close to 9pm here a little bit
		
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			Sooner than the 1pm anticipated in London shortly in sha Allah, it's an honor and I'm delighted to
be able to take your calls on air and there have been a number of written questions. The most recent
one is one that I wanted to answer together inshallah we'll begin with this. How do you help a
spouse who is addicted to watching bad things online?
		
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			May Allah subhanaw taala heal our hearts, may Allah protect our gaze, may Allah subhana wa Tada
allow us to be fulfilling to each other, as husbands and wives, may Allah Subhana Allah to add up,
allow us to take the means to break away from that addictive practices. May Allah subhana wa Taala
allow us to understand that these are also medical, not just spiritual problems. So let's speak
about you know, watching bad things or * in general. And I'll use the concept of
*, because that is a very serious mental health issue
		
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			that is booming. May Allah protect us in certain quarters of the Islamic world. May Allah subhanaw
taala protect our home and our children, our men and our women, our young and our old alarm, I mean,
first thing I want you to know that your brain releases chemicals. And these chemicals make us and
influence the decisions that we make. So one of the most powerful chemicals that is released when we
feel good is called dopamine. Now dopamine is something that is released when a man and woman have,
you know, a healthy, loving, sexual encounter, when you and your wife are intimate together. And it
is a loving moment, there is a rush of this dopamine that washes over your mind, your brain. And the
		
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			chemicals and hormones that are released, make you feel good. Dopamine is also released when you do
activities that you want to to reward at the end of them. It's something that you feel good, and you
sense of accomplishment, getting the job buying something, when you get a good deal on a discount,
you know, Black Friday and all that nonsense, you know, you feel that it's almost as if it's a
chemical rush, it's, it's a type of addiction. Now, what happens is, as you become
		
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			accustomed to dopamine, your body wants to cut corners to achieve it. So one of the things that
* does is that it allows you to feel a sensation of releasing that dopamine from sexual
self gratification that does not have the work that is necessary to be done in a normal, happy
physical contact with your spouse. So this becomes a very serious mental health issue. And addiction
to * is classified as a mental health issue. It is something that is very serious. And
it's something that destroys parts of the brain that can become irrepairable. So a man finds it
difficult to desire his wife, because the dopamine that is being released so regularly, so
		
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			constantly from viewing haram things and the sexual gratification May Allah forgive ALLAH forgive
all of us, that is done * and the things that are usually attached to it. It causes then
a man to be dysfunctional in bed. And I can tell you that the moment a person begins to restrict
their dates, the moment they kick out smart devices and Wi Fi is becoming cryptid. And they can't
download things like that, or watch things like that, the healthier their sexual activity get out
becomes with their spouse, with their home and with their family. So how do you support yourself a
spouse in something like this? First, is to recognize that this is more than just how long? It's not
		
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			just something haram and I gotta say It's haram don't do the Quran, I want you to understand that
there is a chemical dependency, it's as addictive, if not more, some studies say more than 20 times
the addiction rate of smoking cigarettes, right. And for some people, they've been watching this
film for years, decades, for some people, they've been watching it five years, 10 years, maybe more.
So that addiction is really great. So first point is to recognize it's not just simply, you know,
I'm going to tell them it's haram and they'll you know, they have to stop there. They're a good
Muslim, why wouldn't they stop? Why would they do? Number two is the best way for combating mistakes
		
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			that we do is to increase good deeds. So what I would recommend to you my dear brother, my dear
sister, when you're
		
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			supporting a spouse who is doing any kind of Haram is to look for opportunities for an admirable
novel. Bring to them good deeds. Allah always says good things before condemning bad things yet more
honorable Morrow with and then and then after an hour and a mocha with it and after it, tell them to
stay away from what simple. Allah speaks about Salah in salata, 10 Han Tasha on mocha Salah helps
you and prohibit you and protect you from doing haram things. If you take yourself seriously. So
look for things that they are, it's good for them to do it as an act of worship. And it might be
things like Masha Allah, even though they do this haram thing. They might be gifted with the reading
		
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			of the Quran. So tell them Look, why don't you establish a Quran school? Why don't you, you know,
teach children for five days, you teach a young adult teach young, older men who don't know how to
read the Quran. And you know, whenever somebody has a wind, whenever somebody achieves any goal, any
wind in their life, it releases the dopamine that would have been released in other things. That's
the third point. Why does a husband turn to these devices go you know, do something like this that
becomes uncovered, you know, the shame of it, everything is just so horrible. But why did they do it
is because there's things in their life where they are not winning. And if you want to help your
		
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			spouse, to overcome this, they have to feel like a winner. They have to feel love valued, you need
to help them get the dopamine released, for things that they are working hard towards, that they
gain success in. And that is acknowledged of them, praising them and elevating them and respecting
them and honoring them. For the good things that are in their life that can help them do more good
things will be a much better policy for you to help them overcome this addiction than to just
condemn them and to shame them and to make them feel worthless because of it because all that will
do is lessen their desire is increased their desire for more dopamine to make them feel better. May
		
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			Allah help us and protect us alone. I mean, I can also recommend that there is an academy called
aware Academy by a brother named where in Ibrahim wa El, he's not a relation of mine. But he's a
brother to all of us at Hamdulillah. He has a really good program about detoxifying from
*. He is an expert in this especially from an Islamic perspective. May Allah make them of
good use along with me.
		
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			I do we have another? Do we have a caller on the line?
		
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			We have a caller on the line. I said I'm on a cold caller How can I help?
		
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			Is the turban style of a headscarf for women you mean?
		
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			Yes. Now I'm not really sure.
		
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			You know, I don't want to I don't want to speak in generalities. So I'm covering the head, the word
hijab, it's not just about covering the head. So there are particular requirements for hijab, the
first one, and that'll probably be the easiest way to describe it. The first requirement is that the
body of our Muslim sisters is covered
		
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			X except for that which is necessary to be shown. And that would include the face, the hands, the
upper part of the arm, some automatically memorable Hanifa includes the feet as a you know, as being
allowed to be shown, the other three of the hip, they would recommend the top of the foot at least
be covered. Nobody says that you have to wear socks, right? So that's the first requirement you
know, the face and the hands and that comes from the hadith of ismat. An issue of the Allahu anha,
the younger sister of Isha, she entered, or the sister of God alone when I entered into the house of
the prophets, I send them work he was with his wife, Isha. And when she entered, she was wearing a
		
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			shirt that that was see through so you could see a part of her skin of her shoulder in her arms and
so on. You could see her Mashallah. So the Prophet turned away and he said, Yeah, sma 11 When, you
know, a young lady has reached a certain age, she must cover for herself of her body except the face
and the hands and this is seen as an authentic hadith by the majority of the entity in sha Allah
		
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			to add, the second condition is that it shouldn't be see through so it should be opaque and that's
for men and women as well. Right? You know, you shouldn't wear something and that you could see
beneath it
		
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			That which is meant to be hidden. And that were the prophets, I seldom said that there are those who
will be punished by Allah on the Day of Judgment Cassia turned it yet those who are dressed but
undressed, whether it's by the tight fitting this, or because it is see through the third is that it
shouldn't describe vividly the curvature, the shape and the dimensions of one's body. So you know,
spandex and yoga pants and these kinds of things is not a job to be worn without covering over it.
That's the third. And the fourth condition is that it should not be perfused so heavily, that from a
distance, the sweet scent of perfume and, you know, is alluring to others. Number four, and number
		
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			five is that it should not be the best chakra clothing that is seeking infamy or seeking attention.
So I'm gonna wear something that everybody's going to turn their head and say, Whoa, look at her
look at look at him. And this is for men and women, we don't wear clothing of infamy it to make us,
you know, elevated and everybody turns their gaze towards men and women. We don't wear anything that
is translucent men and women. We don't wear anything that is shaped hugging men and women, whether
it's a pair of jeans for a man who's going down into Jude and you know, Calvin Klein underwear
showing from the top of it or whatever it is, that is inappropriate and then unacceptable. We don't
		
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			allow part of our body that is ordered to be covered to show, for example, for men, the upper thigh,
exposing your upper thigh as a man is the same as you know, a young sister showing the top of her
breast bone, for example, or the you know, the top part of her of her neck and so on. It has the
same gravity in that sense. So those are things that are important. Number Number six is that we
don't wear clothing, that is exclusive clothing of another cultural and religious group. So it would
be inappropriate for me to wear a Sikh turban as a Muslim man. This is the religious and ritual
practice of another faith. It is blasphemous for me to do that. It may be considered rude and
		
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			inappropriate by them as well. So it whether it's a color, whether it's a style, whether it's a
shape, things that are known, that are particular, only worn by a particular group by a particular
faith group should not be worn by Muslims. So it would be wrong for me to wear a black suit with a
little white collar in the resemblance of, you know, a Catholic priest. That's the clothing of a
Catholic priest. Nothing wrong with a black suit. Nothing wrong with a white shirt. But having that
color, buttoning it the way it's done. That is wrong, it is break even though I'm covered. I am I'm
committing a sinful
		
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			transgression in that sense. So that's for men and women. So Muslim sisters should not wear clothing
that are known just for other cultural practice, you can dress like Mother Teresa, even though she
was fully covered that same kind of garb, you wouldn't dress in the habit of a nun, as they used to
dress anyway, and resemble the clothing of a nun that is a religious tradition outside house. Number
seven. And finally, we do not wear clothing of people of the other *. So a man is a man and a
woman is a woman and the prophets Isaiah Lim said Allah and Allah who would be had to be rejected
would petition behind them it Nyssa you know, Allah, there's a curse upon men who seek to effeminate
		
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			themselves and dress and appear as women and women to dress and appear as men in that sense. So
that's a statement of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So clothing that is known as
exclusive for women shouldn't be worn by men, clothing that only men wear should not be worn by
women. And there are examples of that, for example, I'm wearing a Juba, this is you know, styled as
a Muslim man, it's styled in as an Arabian dress. It's styled in a way that is at cut for men. If I
was to wear my wife's either Yeah, you know, a black shirt or black cloth, and it's a woman's about
it, even though it fulfills the exact same thing that I'm wearing. Now, it would be wrong for me to
		
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			do so because that is clothing that only Muslim women wear Muslim when should not wear it. It would
be wrong for a Muslim sister to wear. The clothing that only men are known to wear. For example, you
know the Saudi royal cloaks with you know the gold and that it should not be worn by a woman that
seen as traditional dress that only men wear. So hopefully that clarifies it. So the turban can be
worn but it has to meet those kinds of requirements. Does it cover the neck? Does it cover the you
know, is it styled in the way
		
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			A man's turbine, his style, the receipt turbine and all those kinds of things coming to interplay.
It's not about the shape or the color, it's the contextualization of it that would be important
inshallah.
		
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			Hopefully that is sufficient to that question. I'm not sure. Is there another caller on the line?
		
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			No callers on the line. All right, we'll go to some of the questions that have also a prime
		
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			have have arrived through the WhatsApp service.
		
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			Can I make dua for a Christian mother who has passed away? So, you know, we can certainly ask Allah
to give them what we what Allah knows they deserve. So you say Oh Allah, you are the knower of
hearts you are the knower of, of each and everyone's life. You know all of our struggles. Oh Allah
give my mother what she is deserving of you from your,
		
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			from you. Give her what you know of her. Subhan Allah to Allah, we do not make the specific dua that
is made for the believers are taught to us by the prophets I send them that are exclusive for the
believers. But can you share your lamentation Can you have an invocation where you say, Oh Allah,
you know, you are the knower of my mother's condition. I leave her in your in your in your
knowledge. Oh Allah, I leave her to you. Oh Allah, you know that expresses your your belief in Allah
expresses what you know of Allah is justice. Oh Allah you are the most just in the most knowing I
turned over what I know of my mother to you and what you know of her yeah, I'm gonna block I mean,
		
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			may Allah subhanaw taala heal your heart and and grant you ease at the passing of other loved one.
Hola me.
		
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			We have a caller I believe of the line.
		
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			That's the end of the show. So Pamela we're coming to an end now we're wrapping up. I pray that
Allah subhanaw taala grants you Hiram Baraka May Allah Subhan Allah to Allah make easy all of our
affairs and may Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah was the life and energy to see when each other again
next week on Wednesday, noon London time if the left to Allah Subhana Allah Morbihan decrescendo
Allah that relate was salam aleikum wa rahmatullah he overlock