Yahya Ibrahim – Islam Q & A Mental Health focus 28-10-21

			Allahumma Salli ala Nabina Muhammad
		

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			hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Salam aleikum. Warahmatullah wabarakatuh Welcome
back. Does that come along here for your patient through that intermission, we're looking forward
Inshallah, to receiving some more of your calls, we said that we wanted to end the month of October,
with our regular Wednesday sessions speaking about mental health issues. And we spoke about some of
the ways that we can deal with some of the things that affect our mental health. Today, we wanted to
end with speaking about building resilience and how we can become more proactive in even helping
others achieve greater stability as well. We begin by speaking about the importance of setting up
		

			patterns and ensuring that these are things that we save for ourselves, say for our children, a lot
of the stresses in the day, because we know what it is that comes, everything kind of blends towards
the same outcomes that we see. All of that is taken from the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was a very regular and habitual person. On Saturday mornings, he
would walk out to the magical bat and he would pray there, the prophets I send them would regularly
visit the shahada over, he was a person who have habit, some Allahu alayhi wa sallam, and the more
patterns that you set up, not in a compulsive way. But the more patterns you set up, that leaves you
		

			from having to make choices over things that are really easy to to declutter your life with, the
more streamlined it is. The second thing that I wanted to share with you today was the importance of
mastery, and mastering things is a lost art SubhanAllah. We live in a very digitized world where,
you know, the shorter a video clip is, the shorter an article is, the more people read it, the more
people engage with it. And there's even acronyms for saying this is too long to read Subhanallah
it's even too bothersome to tell someone, it's too long, I didn't read it, and the acronym is used.
So that shows you kind of the mindset of people, as technology advances, you find that that kind of
		

			work ethic of those of the past kind of dwindles away. And you know, being able to read through a
book and being able to, you know, from cover to cover is a lost art amongst our children in general,
but in society as a whole. And therefore, along with that is the concept of mastery, mastery. And
you know, having that master class approach is not really meant to be a YouTube session or video.
It's meant to be a hands on apprenticeship. It's meant to be something where you immerse yourself,
you feel the texture, you hear the sound you you experience more than one dimension. And this was
the way of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and it is the way of Islam and will
		

			remain the way of Islam, it becomes important for us to set that as a goal to seek to master certain
things because the more confident you grow in something, the more self esteem he gives you that I
have acquired something a skill set and knowledge, a tool base that perhaps others don't have. And
that allows me to be a sharer, not just one who is a receiver. And one of the best ways for you and
I to build self esteem within our young people within ourselves is to experience and to teach the
importance of mastery. Third, I wanted to speak about the problem of
		

			for many of us have identifying what's missing, and Subhanallah one of the things that really
burdens an individual and that can lead to a lot of stress on our mental health is where
		

			we misread miscommunicate misunderstand either the words the intentions, the language, the
communication, the body, tone, an image of others, to a degree that gives us a sense different to
what was initially intended. And that of course, is something that's really significant the prophets
Allah, Allah, Allah Selim, he says that one of the things that was important to him, Matt candle
Ambia, let him heart in to argue that the prophets of God, their eyes were not even deceptive, you
know, that concept of, you know, looking a look and giving somebody a wink and a nod an indication
is not from the character of the messengers in the prophets of Allah. And it becomes important for
		

			us to learn how to identify what's missing, and to learn to read between the lines and to learn to
go deeper than just the first news source that report something in the first statement that said,
very few people are actually interested in the substance or to go past the skin towards the core.
And that comes back to that idea of mastery once again. But this is something that's even of a
greater glaring proportion. If we always remain just at the surface, if we're always fed the first
bit of information and the quickest to report it is the one that everybody gives their attention to,
if we don't have what is referred to as Western and deliberation, having a you know, a heaviness
		

			within us, a state of maturity, in the type of ideals and the communication systems that we interact
with. We become of those who forfeit the right to think for themselves independently. And of course,
when a person is not thinking for themselves independently, and is fed a stream of what other people
are telling them to understand. They become quite easy to be manipulated to be distracted,
subterfuge to occur and for them to be shown one thing while other things are happening outside
their periphery. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah always in the Quran speaks about
Buster and basura. Sight and insight. The sight of the eyes can be blind but it's the heart that
		

			necessarily must never be adulterated and unable to see and Allah tells us in the Quran for inap la
Tamil Apsara Wedeck in Tamil Hulu Latif is so do that the eyes aren't unable to see but it's the
hearts that have grown dim we have our first caller on the line so I'm on a caller
		

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			Me his Salatu was set up just like a love hate for that question. Our brothers referring to some
people are mocking a tradition that they are saying is related back to the time of the prophets. I
send them that there's a statement collected by Imam Abu Dawood, that it is alleged that there was a
well in Medina where garbage and refuse and other things were thrown in it, including the carcasses
of animals or things of that nature. And when the prophets I send them was asked about the well,
that the prophets I said LEM said that it is not something that can ever become polluted. Now,
there's a number of important issues that need to be unpacked in this. We have very simple rules in
		

			terms of our fifth and in terms of our belief about the prophets, I sell them our al Qaeda. The
first thing that is important is that we're afraid that the prophets Allah, how do you sell them
whenever it is with relating to a matter of faith and practice? When magam tieguanyin Hawa he does
not speak from his own volition. In Hua Illa Yun you have that what he shares is an instruction that
is received and given to him by Allah subhanho to Allah. So if there is a verifiable report that is
authentically collected from the prophets, I send them which this one isn't there is a weakness
within its chain and we'll talk about that later. But when there is a verifiable report, even if the
		

			minds find it difficult to understand it, we submit our hearts to the prophets.
		

			Allahu alayhi wa sallam, rather than challenge the word, the correct words of the prophets I send
him or the Quran. And I can, it's important to kind of give an example. The reason you and I do not
consume swine or pork is not because we have perhaps a rational, logical understanding. And you
know, somebody will say to you, what's the difference between a pork chop and a lamb chop from a
genetic perspective, from a physical perspective, from a health and safety perspective? If this is
cooked, this is cooked. Really, it's it's something that both of them can have illness, and both of
them cannot? What's the reason? Well, there's one reason that we believe in a knowledge that is
		

			revealed that transcends the rationale and a logical understanding of why this is right. And this is
wrong, that the command of God is important. So that becomes a very important central point of al
Qaeda, never mind your brother be disturbed. Their main come to you Hadith of the prophets, I send
them that in your mind in your heart and due to our limited knowledge, we cannot reconcile it. But
rest assured there will amount of the past half an imam is shattered, he has a book called the left
will Hadith, reconciling seemingly opposite and opposing Hadith. Now, the Hadith that you mentioned
is the Hadith where the prophets I send them from our flock we know the Prophet has said in what is
		

			absolute and authentic, that water is a median, that should that does not become impure, unless
what's in it causes its impurity to change. Its its color, its taste in a way that makes it
something that is unusable. When the prophets Allah who it was, I'm not gonna understand this
particular text in two ways, when the Prophet is saying that it's something that is not no longer
and that just means that the water in it not all of it is meant to be something that can't that
can't be used, there will be parts of the water that may come later on, that there is a running
water in it, that will clear away what's there, and it will be useful for you again, when it rains,
		

			don't worry, this water will become useful for you again. So that's one of the understanding of the
roadmap. The second understanding is that we know that water that has something NetJets added to it
is no longer usable, not for will do and not for cleansing ourselves. So that becomes the base. So
anytime you hear something like this, you go back to what is basic knowledge for us. Any water that
has an additive in it, you can't use that is not just cannot be used for that which is a cleansing
purpose for ourselves. So rest assured, my dear brother, the words of the prophets of Allah who sell
them have never encouraged anyone to commit something that would enter into an agenda, something
		

			that is unclean, something that is impure, something that could be harmful to other people. But
JazakAllah say for that wonderful question. And I hope it's something that others could benefit from
Allahumma Amin, well suddenly Lahoma ala Nabina, Muhammad,
		

			mastery, therefore becomes something really important and attach to that is getting to the essence
of the issues and understanding what's missing. And then a question that we received from our dear
brother is a perfect example, a text of the words of the prophets I send them or what is referred to
the words of the prophets I send them is given. But when there's no context, no commentary, it can
lead a person who doesn't understand the essence of the issue, the actuality of the issue, to then
become confused. And that is a really important element of our faithfulness as believers. The very
first step of our engagement with Allah engagement with the Prophet Mohammed Salim tradition is that
		

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			with knowledge, Allah Subhana Allah says, so Allah, Allah to to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa
sallam to believe that Lem and hula Illa Illa Allah was still fully them big. Understand with shorty
have knowledge with surety that none is worthy of worship, but Allah nabooda Illa Allah and also
continue to ask for forgiveness for yourself and for the believers. Because although we may know
sometimes we may fall behind and not commit into practice that which we know in the best way that we
should. So those two are very important issue is mastering and going deeper than that, which is the
surface going deeper than just hearing a verse or hearing a hadith and assuming about it. Rather, we
		

			need to have basura insight into the correct text and the meaning of those statements. Another
important element that causes us to be more resilient and able to move forward in life and be able
to challenge the things that attempt
		

			to weaken us and to take away our strength, and to bring us instability with our mental health and
stress on our mind, is that A times we fail to attempt a beginning, because we don't believe that we
are competent. And self esteem is a really powerful issue. It's a really huge issue for many, many
human beings, in fact, all human beings at a certain point in time, and one of the things that I
think is very critical for us, is this false belief. And at times, it's something that we inculcate
in our children we pass on into their hearts, we share with them in a way that we really shouldn't,
is that if you're not going to be successful, it's better not to embarrass yourself, it's better not
		

			to try, you know, if you're not sure, then just sit on the sideline. If you can't do a better than
others, well, then let others go first, right, and that you can kind of see that in life in many
ways. And sadly, the education systems that underpin many of our younger experiences with with
learning is that you know, people are kind of pigeon holed and people are taught, well, if you're
not really good at that, it's probably means that you're not good at everything, and Subhanallah
sadly, there are many, many wonderful, wonderful people who are able to contribute in other ways who
are able to do amazing things that others can't do are never really given that chance because they
		

			were never taught to believe in themselves. And that's the DUA of Musa right. Could you imagine
Prophet Musa alayhis salam ala speaking to him directly in the Quran on them in a directly on the on
the mountain of Turi, saying that as he tells us in the Quran, and there is Moses he's communicating
with the Lord Almighty, the Lord of all existence. And Allah shows him magnificent signs. And Allah
says, in the hub, he left your own head now out to Pharaoh into Huhtala because he's broken all the
bounds. He's gone beyond the limits. He's gone to a place that needs to be he needs to be put in his
place and pulled back and you are to say Benny Isra in from him, and it's at that moment, Musa
		

			alayhis salam is fearful. And he says to Allah, in one place, he says to Allah, in the hotel to me
know whom Neff said for a half hour and yuck to ruin my lord. One of them that his death was on my
hands, and I left that city hall if I Utara club I was scared I was terrified. A half I'm scared Oh
my Lord, if I return, that they will put me to death. And Allah says to him latter half latter half
latter half of you in our room, don't be scared. Now Allah subhanaw taala reassures him so listen to
the drought of Musa color of Beshara Holly Saudi, oh my lord, expand my heart, expand my chest. Let
me believe that I can accomplish let me believe that I can do what it is that you have asked of me
		

			and you've set for me as a task Subhanallah self confidence and self esteem must be increased for us
to attain success and without challenging ourselves and pushing ourselves without the pain. There
can be no gain without the hurt. There can't be the growth there can't be the lessons that are most
needed in life. We have another caller on the line SLM Anakin caller How can I help
		

			Alhamdulillah my brother Rockford How can I help you today?
		

			Now the question is about how to build up kind of like how you create you're lucky enough to have
		

			so you know what the things that make a person
		

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			Allah He better fig thank you for that question. The ancient scholars of Islam have always been
those who inherited some of the things that we've seen in the Quran about the prophets of Allah. So
even without looking at you know, the scholars of trueness and in conduct and inhabit, we know that
Prophet Yusuf alayhi salam was wrongfully accused, probably
		

			loot was exiled from his land Prophet Ibrahim was moved out of his tribe and his people how we're
gonna be Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a refugee amongst the people of the unsought the
saviors in in Medina. And therefore we see that this is something that is not uncommon that there
will be moments where one one is distinct in their practice of faith, that at times there may be
moments of antagonism. But overall, the initial element and the aim of those who are calling people
to good is to help them come from the brink of their own disaster, and SubhanAllah. The True Colors
of faith are not those who are they're seeking opposition with others. They are those who are
		

			seeking betterment and rectification and the role of the Buddha Matt has always been to guide people
to that which is surrender unto our Lord. So Islam onto our maker to recognize that when we receive
guidance, and we accept it as being verified and true, that leads us to establishing what are seen
as universal values amongst everyone in terms of love and fidelity and brotherhood and generosity
and charitable pneus and penance and fasting and repentance and prayers and invocations for
ourselves and others. When you put all of that together. What you see is that the one who calls
people to good is the one who truly resembles the prophets I send them and that's why Allah Subhana
		

			Allah Allah, always in the Quran when He speaks to us about enjoining good and prohibiting evil,
always the word yet maroon Bill mauto they call people to that which is good they order people and
ordain upon them that which is good, is always spoken to first before Allah says way in * not and
in monka they restrict them from others. And I leave you with one very quick example, from Prophet
Harun Alia salaam Musa as he attends to the mountain, he has heard before the people of the
Israelites, and he left his brother Harun with them. And they begin to practice wickedness to the
point that they begin to worship a golden idol. And it's at that moment you would think that prophet
		

			Harun would raise his hands to Allah and say, Oh Allah, you just saved these people from Pharaoh,
you delivered them from Egypt, you destroyed the armies that gathered against them, Oh Allah destroy
them for their wickedness and disbelief in you in entering into idolatry, but it's the opposite.
What you see is how old it is Salam? He says, Yeah, call my people. It Debbie. Debbie Rooney. decom
Sevilla, Rashad, come to me and I will lead you to a right pay place in non-tobacco moonrock man,
your Lord is the Ever Merciful he doesn't say in our back home. You know, Aziz Luna calm he doesn't
say the one who will destroy you and will show vengeance. He says your Lord is a rock man for Debbie
		

			Rooney. What I'll do Emory follow my example and obey my command. Subhan Allah, always the prophets
of Allah wanted to shelter others. We have another caller on the line does that call okay for that
call? Brother Rockford? Salaam Alaikum? Caller How can I help?
		

			shape? The question is
		

			about having visitors to the house. Because obviously now with COVID.
		

			We try to limit coming into the house to limit the risk. But there is about
		

			does that come up here? My dear sister now first and foremost, since you mentioned at COVID and
visitors coming into the house and so on whatever governmental regulations are there by a part of
our submission to Allah we submit to those laws that have the betterment of public health policy in
mind. So therefore, I would always encourage you to follow whatever it is not encouraged you enjoin
upon you to follow whatever restrictions or mandates that are in place, but if they have left it
open and now you're at a place where you do have visitors who want to come and you have elderly
parents and and your in laws living with you, and you're worried Listen, I know the government
		

			hasn't said people shouldn't visit but I worry that these people are all over mixing around and
traveling and they may come with not this the levels of hygiene or on their clothing, something that
can bring ailment or illness into our home. Is it something that is okay for us to kind of suspend
visitation for a period of time. What I will say to you, my dear sister are three important
principles I guess to look at it. Allah subhanho wa Taala says to the prophets I send them yes, you
have levena M and O QU and Pooja como Alikum O E O ye who believe in
		

			To save yourself and then your family, and this is a general premise, faculty shaky layer, if you
have nothing you can give nothing if you don't protect yourself, how can I protect society and
others. So if you feel that other people may be bringing in or there's something in the community or
in a place where people are going to come and visit from, then it is better, it is righteous upon
you. And it is the sunnah to not allow people to visit at that time, there were people who the
prophets I send them would knock on his door, and the Prophet would not permit them access, not
because a person can wants to come and visit and it's our normal customers Muslims to be hospitable
		

			that it means that they have to have the inside of our home. The second Hadith that I want to share
with you is the word of the prophets, I send them a letter yet call for a letter T, let not somebody
be a regular habit of enjoying food, meaning visiting your home and just being it's as if it's their
own home, unless you are sure that they are of a righteous nature here is evidence from the sooner
that you can deter people and you can restrict those who enter into your home on account of an
estimation you have you estimate is this person, a good person for my family, should they be regular
visitors in my home, are these people having the hygiene standards necessary to protect my mom, my
		

			father, my brother, my sister, my, my mother's in law and my sister in law, are these the type of
people that I want. If not, then you are within your right to not invite and not hold those
gatherings. Number three, you can hold gatherings but hold them in a place that doesn't contaminate
the rest of the house. And that might be an addition you know, when when you're kind of your back is
to the wall and it's you know, it's gonna happen somebody these people have to visit, there's an
occasion there's something, then use your ability to kind of confine where that is going to be
perhaps have an outdoor thing perhaps just in the outer room and before anybody else goes in it, you
		

			spray it, you clean it, you give an extra clean to it and you make your Tawakkol upon Allah subhana
wa Taala and know that part of Tawakkol is to take precaution. So make sure as guests come in
without any insult or disfavor that they are able to wash their hands in soapy water or you give
them antibacterial and this was actually our customers Muslims, right? When people would enter into
a tent 800 900 years ago, the first thing that would be offered was a bowl and somebody would pour
water and they would wash their hand because they're about to eat something they were traveling and
so on. So do us the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa
		

			sallam, which is Allah fer SR for that wonderful question. I wanted to add one more point, from the
things that help us maintain our sanity, our mental health, allow us to deal with some of the
stressors that may be emerging in life. And the last thing that we had spoken about was the
understanding that to fail at something is not the end of the world, to have hope in a challenge
that you can overcome it and to challenge yourself, not just to wait for things that are easy to be
done. But to go past your boundaries is from the Sunnah of the prophets, I send them.
		

			Finally, a one of the important aspects and I think it deserves time is to force yourself to ask
questions to things you assume you'll have an answer for. One of the things that we fail at as
Muslims is that we have been taught something or we heard something or somebody said something along
the way, you're we remember when we were young and Imam might have said or a teacher might have
said, we're not really sure, but we think we know an answer to a question. And that question emerges
in our life. I asked you by Allah never to hold on to a question that is not addressed. Don't let
your children have questions that you do not engage them in. And if you receive an answer that's
		

			incomplete, doesn't pass the smell test is not something that settled your heart, ask again. There's
no insult in that. And I want to share a number of important Hadith from the prophets I send them
that highlight the importance of investigation, inquiry, not seeking knowledge and asking questions.
So when he came to the prophets, I send them and that's an authentic hadith and he said yeah rasool
Allah in Egypt to upload L L. O Messenger of Allah, I've come to ask questions so that I can gain
knowledge. So the Prophet sat up salah, Isola masa, without were somewhere for Yabba and he
presented himself and he said Morrow haben Vitaly been in JOY Yes is the one who has come to ask
		

			questions and to receive knowledge in authority evaluating Anita Hill food mela iica that the angels
envelop the one who's come with their questions seeking an answer until they ride to the heavens up
above
		

			in protection of them, powerful, powerful Hadith. Second we see that the prophets I send them there
was this tragic incident in the end this hadith and Narita and Mojave I tragedy occurred. One of the
Sahaba on a journey with his companions, friends of the prophets, I send them fell off, his horse
fell off. His camel was Yogen, his head was split open, he began to bleed out and he's about to die.
He fell unconscious, his friends and hamdulillah they saved his life. They tied him up with a
turban, they tied up his head, they compress it, and he came back to to life he regained his
consciousness. And as he's traveling Now, slowly, the time of prayer arrived, and they have to pray.
		

			So he said, is it necessary for me to remove my turban and to put water on my head? Is it necessary
that I put water I have an open wound I almost died. And they said, listen, Allah said in the Quran,
for any limited you do, man for the MMO if you don't have water, then you can use the natural earth
to cleanse yourself spiritually. But we have water we don't see that this is a fitting reason.
Subhanallah this Sahabi he listened to them without asking again, although it didn't. It didn't meet
what was in his heart. He took off his turban he made will do and he died. La ilaha illa Allah may
Allah join us with them in Jenna. And when he died, they did they buried his body they came back
		

			from the journey. The prophet is told about what happened. And at that moment, the Prophet said
these incredible words. He said the kata Lu LSA Alou this, they have brought his death, they have
brought him to death. How dare they not ask How dare they not send a rider to ask and think about
this question. In the Mass Effect would use to earn the cure to ignorance is to ask a question.
Don't assume because you know the verse. Don't assume because you heard something from a friend.
Don't assume because you read something online or Google didn't answer that that is the end all of
the discussion and becomes important for us to engage and to seek knowledge past it. I pray that
		

			Allah Subhana Allah to Allah grant us all success. May Allah allow us to join again next week
Wednesday 12pm London time your brother Yeah, hey, Brahim was Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi
Wabarakatuh.
		

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