Yahya Ibrahim – Guidebook to God #15 – Don’t let your anger overcome you

			Overcoming anger Subhan Allah one of the great qualities, great characteristics that all of us need
to establish to complete our sense of righteousness. Our sense of devotion to a loss of Hannover to
Allah is to develop a measure of self control, especially at a time of heightened elevated emotion
and anger. The Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, a person would come and ask
him different questions people would come in, they would say Yasuda loss, or I sell them, you know,
advise me, what advice do you give to me and on one occasion, the prophets I send them could see the
demeanor of this person, he said, let them Don't let your anger overcome you. So you react and act
		

			in a way that is unbecoming. And I know in Arabic had just lucked out, don't be angry, it doesn't
mean don't get angry. It means don't let your anger sway you move you to say something you will
regret to do something you will regret or to act in a way that is unbecoming. And that's part of the
beauty of course of the Arabic language that eloquence in it. Two words, they require a whole
paragraph to kind of understand it. Allah subhanho wa Taala has also taught us in the Quran, to seek
refuge with him from the shape on who encourages us to become excessively angry and to act out
immorally in our anger. Now, I want to first separate between two types of anger. There's the one
		

			type of anger which is pleasing to a law. And then there's the other type of anger which is pleasing
to yourself in the shape on the anger that is pleasing to a loss of how to add up is the type of
anger that is justified and is a natural human emotion that is not within our remit and control to
stop ourselves from it. Allah describes Prophet musala is Salaam, Fela maseca masala vada when the
anger that had overcome Musab because his people had begun worshiping a golden idol, departed from
him and that they had returned to Allah repented to Allah. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala is consoling
to Musa alayhis salam noted that the prophet SAW Selim is also described that when he gives his hope
		

			to July hi la Sol to who was said does audible his voice would become elevated, and there would be a
sense of urgency and almost anger in his tone. When he was commending people to that which is right
if they were straying away from the path of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And being angry in a moment of
time is not negligence in our relationship with a law if it is justified for a particular reason.
Now, of course, the anger that is of self interest, the anger that is an emotional heightened state,
which causes us to lose control, the word love in the Arabic language, it begins with that letter of
lying, which is a letter that signifies the loss of something. And therefore you know, the word of
		

			heavy meaning the one's brain is wiped out a lot of means that one's brain is clouded over that
their anger has moved over their, over their mind, to make them kind of clouded in their judgment.
And therefore people in a state of hubbub may say things do things that of course, are unbecoming
and unacceptable, which they remain accountable for, in front of Allah, in front of society and in
the light of our Shetty. And that's why it's not an excuse to simply say, you know, I was angry, and
I said a word that was unacceptable. You have to be in charge and in command of ourselves, and
that's our important teaching of the prophets I set him so notice in another authentic hadith, the
		

			prophets I send them he says, If any of you becomes angry, which is natural, unnatural state of
anger, so let them fill your slot. Let them remain quiet, let them remain silent. Don't share words,
hold yourself. It's not hold your anger but hold your tongue while in a state of anger prophets,
Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he saw two of his companions, peace and blessings be upon them. They
remain unnamed, although their names are known to the Sahaba, but to hold the dignity that we have
for those a habit in general. They're not named to us. And in the measure of the prophets, I sell
him they were upset with each other and they exchanged a verbal altercation, where their words were
		

			unbecoming of the measure of the prophets, I sell them with their voices were raised and even in the
presence of the prophet SAW Selim, and he turned to a Sahaba and he said, aemilia Alamo. kalama I
know of a word that if these people were to speak at lava hub and home, that which has increased
their anger to this level, made them lose their control over themselves would depart at our host
shaytani r with a villa he min ash shaytani r rajim.
		

			And therefore, how do you protect yourself from going overboard because of your anger, it is by you
remembering that a loss
		

			pattern went to Allah has asked us to protect ourselves from the shape on and therefore you must and
I must ask a law to protect us from anger. Number four that's really important is to seek and to
hear the advice of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with a prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, he tells us that if you're angry and you're standing, sit down, and that's to limit your
physical disturbance to others. Because if you're angry and you're moving around, it's better for
you to sit and if you're sitting down, lay down. So how do I remember asking my teacher Well, what
if I'm laying down What do I do now? He said, well get up and walk away. It's not about you can't
		

			stand is that you leave the place. So if you find yourself in a state of agitation, that example of
the prophets I sell them is to change your physical state, change your place of of disturbance move
away from those who have wronged you know that you can make a mistake and I can make a mistake if we
remain in that same vicinity. Another powerful incident in the life of the prophet SAW Selim, as he
was sitting with his best friend Abu Bakr, Siddiq radi Allahu anhu sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a
man who was vile and angry and full of hatred came in abuse of profits, I sell them and these are
the early days of Mecca for somebody besides me abusing with vulgar words. Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu
		

			you know he was he became angry. How could this man say it? But he didn't say anything. The prophets
Isilon didn't make any movement or reaction the Prophet simply smiled and ignored the men. The men
left and came back and abuse the prophets I seldom abused abubaker again or the Allahu I know it's a
lie Salim and I you know, abubaker is holding the third time he left and came back and then Abu Bakr
rod de la he be with Lima call Abu Bakr, he says, I responded to this vile man with the same words
he had used. I didn't add to it, you know, he said this. So I said back to you, it's you that is
this. prophets. I seldom stood up and left. And Abu Bakr understood he had made a mistake, or the
		

			Allah No. And he chased behind the Prophet, I said, and he said, Yeah, rasulillah I couldn't control
myself. He made me so angry. He said to you something that you're unworthy of, how dare he, you
know, speak to you in such a way you are the Messenger of God. prophets. I seldom said Abu back when
this man insulted us the first time and the second time and we were quiet. We were patient, a loss
and angels who defended us. But when you spoke when you misspoke, and you return those vulgar words
back to him, a law caused the angels to depart and the shaytaan came in his place, when Allah
edgeless and I will never sit in a place where the shaytaan has arrived. It's going to make things
		

			worse. So I left. Right, it shows us that we should change our physical place, change our demeanor,
be careful with what our tongues say. Another important thing is to understand that there's a
massive reward for controlling our anger and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says, Does
Latoya kill Jenna, in an authentic hadith The Prophet said to a man, don't let your anger overcome
you, that you make sinful statements that you act in a wrong way. And I promise you on account of
you controlling your anger, that you will have a place in general, what a beautiful promise of the
prophets, I send them. So anger is something that's really important for us. And it's important to
		

			kind of learn anger management techniques that are beyond just the spiritual words. So I'm going to
give you three things that are really important to help myself in you. And this is a struggle I have
you have doesn't matter young or old, all of us will be prone to losing control and being angry. So
the first thing, first important step, when we find ourselves in a state of anger, is to remember
that we are not alone. And that the words that have angered us, even if we're not able to take back
what maybe somebody insulted us, or whatever it is, know that Allah is witness to it, and know that
you are not alone. And there are other people that can help you. And it's not you that has to solve
		

			every one of your problems. It might be that you have to come to your parents or to your spouse or
you know, whatever your life circumstance is to find somebody who can assist you. If you're at work
and you have somebody who's you know, who's spoken to you in a way that they shouldn't there's human
resources, if you're a student and your teacher is the one who's responsible for your duty of care
and your well being, every one of us is not left to their own devices. So understand that in life,
you are not always the only one obligated and responsible for your protection, your betterment and
what it is that you need out of life. Number two, and I think extremely Also important is to
		

			understand that we must submit ourselves at times to the concept that maybe we have wronged someone,
and this is a way of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah cleansing our state and de de stressing us and
know that nobody is ever brought into disrepute.
		

			With the loss of Hannah to Allah without a loss of knowledge, so I want you to begin to understand,
Well listen, I'm in this moment of anger. And there were other moments when I made other people
angry. And I need to now control myself in the way that I wanted other people to be controlled in
their return and their response to me. So put yourself in other people's shoes, put yourself in
other people's perspective, and put yourself in other people's circumstances. And number three,
learn that with anger, we can actually go completely off the rails, and we can derail ourselves from
any productivity. And if anger is something that is found in our homes and in our habits, and in our
		

			lifestyles, you will never be from those who find ease and comfort and fidelity and love in it. For
those of us who you know, mesh a lot for my young brothers and sisters, I want you to consider that
have the biggest obstacles for myself as I was growing up was not knowing when to be quiet, and not
knowing when to do nothing. And in that example that I gave to the prophets, I send him he saw two
of his companions who were angry with each other, and the Prophet didn't get up and stop them. He
didn't go and speak to them, he spoke to others. And he said, I know what word if these two people
said it, it would get caused the shaytaan to leave them. And of the great importance of the fitclub
		

			this hadith is that the prophets, I seldom let people at times argue it out and do do whatever they
had to do that they kind of sunk to that place. And then he helped them to get out of it. And it's
important for us to kind of give people space when they're angry, to kind of push back and not get
involved. And it could be that you see your parents are in a place of anger or that you and your
friends are in a place of anger. Sometimes people need that cooling off period. And that's a
prophetic wisdom that we learn from the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam know that Allah
Subhana Allah rewards those who restrain themselves in moments of anger, and may that be reason for
		

			you and I to follow that prophetic example of our now VSI Selim. If there was anyone who had a right
to be angry, it was the messenger of a loss I sell him but his life story is one of patience,
perseverance, love and forgiveness. May Allah increase those in us also lillahi wa Sallim wa barik
ala Sayyidina Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to Brother You have Rahim was Salam Alaikum
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