Yahya Ibrahim – Grill The Imam – Dec 6

			Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Alhamdulillah hum to share Corinne also led to a seller
more or less say even more saline say you do now whenever we whenever we you know what have you been
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Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayidina Muhammad alene wa salatu wa Sallim wa barik ala
Sayidina whenever you know Muhammad in film Allah Allah Allah or hamara mean Allah Allah Nana
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			beginning and end to make us from those who are guided who practice what they have been
		

			come to believe to be the truth of the whole and and the tradition in the suit of the prophets I
send them that a law grants us knowledge that is beneficial, that is practiced by us and called to
by us through our words, behaviors and actions and that we lead other people to that which is
righteous through it along the mean
		

			Alhamdulillah we're continuing Mashallah, we've our sessions that were live q&a for the online
Islamic school in particular, yeah, Abraham calm for those who have enrolled in the puberty program
for the young men, The Art of Manliness and the heart to heart. And this is just some of the q&a
live q&a that we have on the weekend for you in chat a lot. There's a number of things that are
going to be accelerating in the holiday season. There's some really great stuff that I look forward
to emailing you about, and the launch of launch of season two in LA. And they're just so much gonna
come together and we pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala accepted from all of us along I mean, for
		

			those of you who are listening on my Facebook page, do let us know where you're listening from. And
you are welcome in Chatelet to submit questions. Of course, those of you my students who are
[email protected], under under the video where you could see me, there's the q&a button, you can
click on that and you can send
		

			me a question. Michelle, I see my dear brother, noted Dean that we were unhedged, together? May
Allah subhanho wa Taala
		

			except from all of us Allahumma I mean, it's good to see him here as well.
		

			There are many other people Michelle law that we're getting
		

			wonderful salaams from so does a common law fair, Doctor nor
		

			martial law sister Rosita and others.
		

			I know some of you want to send private question, but I'm not going to be able to go into my message
bank through just so many emails, there will be difficult for me to go through that. For those of
you who are students online with me, you will be able to send it directly to my telegram service.
		

			I see that a couple of questions have already come in. There's a few others from the morning session
that are still there. So May Allah accept it from us inshallah. All right, let's just jump right
into it. I'm always going to prioritize we're only together for 30 minutes purposefully, I
prioritize the questions that come in through the
		

			my website. Okay, are girls allowed to post photos of themselves on social media, ignoring the whole
allowing thing, you know, people being jealous of you, and so on? Alright, so let's, uh, let's just
jump right into it.
		

			I don't like the way the question is framed. It's not our girls allowed leave the word allowed out
of it. Think of it in terms of what's best, or what's proper, and what has the least impact on your
life. So even if we were to leave it, you know, the Islamic stance for a moment, most
		

			tech experts, and people were in the field of technology will say to you, do not leave a massive
footprint online of yourself. Don't leave things that can be manipulated us that can be misconstrued
twisted, something that later on in the day, in the days that will come and as you mature in life,
that somebody can misunderstand what you posted. And you and I see this in the news all the time.
Somebody has to apologize for something that they put online, you know, 10 years ago that they
didn't think would see the light of day something they forgot about nobody knew about, but somehow
it makes itself as a centerpiece in life. So
		

			I'm not going to answer this question just from the perspective of girls, are you and I as Muslims
		

			Those who submit our will to God seeking ease, comfort, peace in life by following the laws that a
law sent following the ethics that Allah lay down for us. Should we put whatever photos we want of
ourselves online? Whatever photos we want of loved ones or others online? The answer is no. So even
with with my own children, you know, my wife, sometimes you'll say, Yeah, I don't want you to use
that photo, take that photo down, or something more, you know, those kind of things, you'll see that
even if it's in good taste, even if there's nothing questionable about it, even if there's nothing
bad about it, sometimes you need to put that in your mind, hold on a second, it could have a greater
		

			ramification, you'll see a lot of people, they'll put smiley faces on their children's face if they
put up a family photo, and so on. Why is that because it's not good to have it online. So if it's
now something personal to you, so just say you were a job, and there's a photo that you took, you
and your friends and you weren't in job, and you want to share it with other people, and you think
it's just a private group on your Instagram or on your Snapchat or on discord or whatever it is that
you know, the device or app or that you're using, I want you to know that the moment you you click
Send it is no longer your own property. It's no longer just your photo, you've chaired it on a
		

			carriage service that has made you as a part of your subscription to it, give away the rights of
them being part owners of that photo, and that the issues that relate to your privacy are very
murky, and not very clear. So anything you put online is not simply yours anymore. Be careful with
that. What I can recommend to you is that I've done a whole series called Living online and it's
built on 13 or more Hadith and the prophets, I send them where his words are really powerful in how
we should view our online experience. And that's why I always say to the students, even if you've
just joined the purity program, do backtrack and take Season One of Abraham comm forward slash
		

			school, because there's a whole thing there. There's like, you know, nearly five hours of recorded
content, and of it is something really important. How do you coexist online? How should you approach
the time you and I are spending together now? What should you put online? And what shooting you and
what are the ramifications from it from an Islamic perspective? So are men and women? are young men,
young ladies allowed to post photos of themselves? Yes, but no, yes, in a sense, if it's decent, and
in the job, and you know, you feel comfortable that it's not something offensive to yourself or
others now or into the future or of your ancestry or culture, your faith.
		

			It's a decision you make, but I would say to you is be very, very cautious. Be very, very critical
of where you share it, who you share it with. And keep that in mind. Make note of the fact that
there are governments that are nearly going to war and trade wars over apps, for example, you know,
Donald Trump, our Prime Minister here in Australia, Scott Morrison, saying that they're going to or
saying that they were going to ban tik tok from being an app used in America, they were going to be
banned in America banned in Australia, on account of what well data mining that the Chinese
government is keeping people's information, keeping people's data for what purpose? It's not
		

			something that's entirely clear, and its ramifications might be horrifying down the road. So even
ignoring the headline thing, even ignoring just an Islamic stance, don't
		

			do it without further thinking about the consequences. All right. Another question?
		

			is a girl's voice our it's coming from the same young lady. Mashallah. is a woman's voice. I wish I
could tell you, unequivocally No. The answer is no. And there's so much evidence of for this for in
the whole and in the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah speaks to the wives of
the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam in particular.
		

			And a law doesn't say to them, don't be heard. Don't be. Don't have your voices heard. Rather Allah
subhanho wa Taala says, Do not be soft in your speech. Well, God never look holy. Fire up my leg if
you call be. Don't Don't be soft in your in your in your speech. Less there should be someone who in
their heart is a disease the problem could be with the man a disease of hypocrisy or evil desire and
that they they can
		

			Use that in the wrong way or make it something that is past what it actually is. So even the wives
of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam have a higher standard of Porter, the higher standard of hijab,
they were always cloak they were always kept at a distance from others. Even they a lot doesn't say,
don't, you know, don't speak don't ever be heard by a man because the voice of a woman is not out.
Ah, the wife of the prophets I seldom in his life and after his life was a teacher, not just a
teacher of women, but a teacher of men, those who were related to her and those who weren't related
to her, and many of the Hadeeth conveyed to us by a shout out the last one, huh? The vast majority
		

			of them 99% of them are conveyed by men who heard those words from her. She would also question this
we'll have that and ask them questions after the death of the prophet SAW Selim. Once you would hear
that they had said something that the Prophet said such as many examples of Abdullah neuroma and
insignia Malik or the alarm I knew him and so on. We also know that Allah Subhana Allah shows us
that in the Quran that women would come and speak with the prophets I send them and I share with the
allow analogy would say, you know, a woman came and began to quarrel and debate with the prophets I
send them about some of the circumstances in her home and although she's in the room with the
		

			prophets, I send them next door I can't hear what they're saying. But a law from above the seven
heavens can cut send me Allah coletti to Jeju Luca visa would you have with a sticky Illallah
		

			we also know that the rightly guided whole effort who ruled after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam that they would greet
		

			men and women with a salaam aleikum and receive it back to them. We have famous incidents where
women would stand up in the masjid the prophets I send them and ask questions are very memorable
hotdogs and hamburgers. So the and earth management have found about the Allahu anhu wa so if a
woman was a young lady or a woman was to speak in a way that is not meant to be
		

			resulting in any sexual tension or sexualized commentary or words or discussion, it's the same as a
man who is not meant to use those kind of language or that type of attitude to be soft in their
words. And you know, and men are very prone to that, you know, the concept of a Casanova is the
smooth talker. So those kinds of things that is what is
		

			prohibited for us as Muslims, not professionalism, not normal speech, not teaching, not studying,
not engaging, not reciting the Quran. There's nothing wrong with reciting the Quran, even with a
melodious voice for our sisters. It's not something that was shunned at the early generations of the
Sahaba and the tambourine, or the one Allahu Allah him. What about him, where you do find
exaggerations, and that there is condemnation of a woman's voice or presence, they are usually
Hadeeth that are not verifiable back to the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		

			So returned back to that surah sort of the zap the 33rd chapter of the whole on verse number 32,
that a lot condemns using speech to be alluring, and to be inviting to immorality, but not just to
speak in a professional manner. There is nothing wrong with that whatsoever in this arena in the
deen of Allah subhanho wa Tada. Allah, Allah Allah. All right. So that's another good question from
our young sister doesn't love hair.
		

			Are there particular roles that men and women have that a law ordered? So there isn't, you know, the
the concept of patriarchy and the concept of who earns a living and who doesn't that wasn't spoken
about a lot in the forum. And in fact, you could see that a lot gives different examples. So musala
is Salaam and sawtell casas he comes out of the desert, he's fled to Egypt and Pharaoh and he comes
upon a large flock of animals and that there are two women, women do I need him immoral attorney to
do that they are trying to restrain their fraud of flock from being mixed with the other flocks of
other people at the waterwell condom bucco man, what's your what's your issue called atella News
		

			three had used earlier buena Shea from caviar. They said we're not going to bring our flock and get
stuck with all these other men that are there. The reason we're out here is that our father is an
elder in our community and he's advanced in age. So that's why we're out here. We're working you
know, we're
		

			We're farmers and we're raising our livestock. So you find evidence in the Quran that there were
women who were working, and it's something that is not condemned double. You see it also in the time
of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you see that his wife had the job of the Allah one How
was an estate owner was a trader, and she would use people to trade on her behalf. The very first
relationship you had with the prophets I sell them was that she was a boss, and he was somebody who
was in business working
		

			with her wealth as as capital
		

			to be used. So there were those business transactions. So you come to understand that rules and
regulations are really meant most of them are culturally assumed. So depending where you are in the
world, what era you're living in a lot of the culture, which is sort of, in our law is something
you're about, it's something that should be taken into consideration in the practice of the faith.
So you would never say to a working mom, to a working sister to a working father, that's not right
for you. That's not your role, you cannot leave the home, you cannot. That's not the
conceptualization of Islam. And I, you know, I really dislike it sometimes when I get a question and
		

			say, what are the conditions for a Muslim woman
		

			work conditions that she's allowed to work in? Well, it's really the same conditions as a Muslim
men, which is that there is a level of peace of security, that there is a place where you are given
an opportunity to represent yourself in a way that is not tarnished, or that you're not brought into
having to lessen your practice of your faith, wherever your interests are served, as long as it's
met with the professional conduct and the legal mechanisms that we as Muslims also pride ourselves
on, then for men and women. It's equitable. You can't say oh, no, you can't go to work. There's fit
not work. Don't you know that men and women are always mingling? Well, what's the thing about you?
		

			Well, what do you do when you go to work? Are you doing that mingling thing as well? And if the
answer is no, well, if you can abstain from it, others can abstain from it. Now I do caution, of
course, that it isn't a blank check where we say, you know, go do whatever you want, you know, don't
worry about being a mother or a father, don't worry about who's gonna have the kids interests in
mind. Those are things that are regulated by Islam, by the Hadith of the Prophet Mohammed sighs
element by the very biological nature that we live, we live in. Our wives are meant to be those who
become the primary caretakers, especially in the early ages of young children as they are in their
		

			formative years. That is a relationship that is sanctified in the Quran, legitimized in the Hadith
of the prophets. I said lamb could look Omar and we could look at Roger, ooh, rah, and a man is
responsible for himself for his home for his family, a woman is responsible in her husband's home,
to help and to assist and with the children, that is a duty given by Allah subhanaw taala, you can't
abdicate it, unless there is a greater essential, that lessens the need of us fulfilling that
mandate, then all of a sudden, I have to put the kids in daycare because We can't pay rent. That's a
different story. But when if everything is as it should be, then the priority must always be the
		

			children up until an age where they are able to fend for themselves, and you are able to provide
structures that can meet those needs. So that's an important conceptualization, the rules and
regulations are usually determined culturally, not necessarily religiously, the ones that are
scriptural, are very few and very general. In their perspective, there is no job that a man and
woman cannot do. So no man can say, Oh, this is a job I'm not allowed to do as a man. A man can be a
nurse, a woman can be an engineer, you know, those kind of conceptualizations or cultural
		

			breakdowns at times that happen. Another question that's come along here. Why are there so many
differences even about basic things like when we pray, I understand now that Hanafi Muslims who
follow Abu hanifa they pray us or at a different time to Shafi Muslims. So it's not that they pray
at a different time. It's they understand that the engines of time is a little bit different. So to
some people, the time for Asana is when a sticks shadow, and that's how they used to you know,
measure time
		

			When it's when it's how do you know it's longer time or the sun is at its zenith it's come to the
height is that there is no shadow for a stick that is planted in the sand once there's no shadow,
that means it's a lot of time once the shadow is cast in the opposite direction from where the
rising of the sun is, it means it's longer time when the shadow is twice the length of the length of
the stick itself. According to the Abu hanifa has opinion that is when also the enters and he takes
that from the handdyed of Asia over the long run. Hmm. And and the statements of nsmt Malik that the
sun had, you know, gone down to a certain degree that its rays came through the window, or the the
		

			passageway in the house of the prophets, I sell them, but the sun couldn't be seen. So they
estimated it, it was double the length of a staff, Alabama Shafi and the Johor magically membership
early ma'am admin, the majority opinion amongst Muslim scholars other than the mother hanifa is that
it's past its own length. So it's not it doesn't, it's past its own length, it doesn't have to be
double the length. So it's just an understanding of when salata lasser comes in. But what unifies
the oma, is that we both pray us as to do is it at 350, or is it at 430. That's a subjective
understanding that is immaterial compared to it. And that's another thing that you get with, for
		

			example, the moon sighting, some people like they like to make a joke about and call a talk about
moon fighting. I really don't like those kind of sarcastic jokes. And it's not about fighting,
there's nobody fighting with anyone, it's that we see, you know, people see jurisprudence in
different way. And they see the evidence pointing to a particular way. Both of them want to fast the
month of Ramadan, both of one one to observe late at the cloud, both of them are asking for
forgiveness, one of them is starting in accordance to what they believe is a particular time to
enter and the others, they see it No, it's a little bit too early, we're going to wait a little bit,
		

			until we're sure if we'll manickam we can't see it. So we're just gonna wait we don't need to
calculate for it. Both of them are rewarded by a law, both of them are correct. In that sense, both
of them should not condemn the other. And as Muslims, we need to rise above those kind of silly
		

			things that split us apart, and not look at what's diverging this, but look at the overall theme of
what's joining us which is fasting to Allah, going hungry to appreciate the pain of others,
submitting ourselves to an order, Allah said don't eat, I'm not going to eat, don't drink, I'm not
going to drink anywhere I am in the world. So having that perspective becomes a really important
		

			way of looking at the world.
		

			We'll take Are there any questions that have come through Facebook? Let me check the Facebook as
well.
		

			Mashallah, we see people are listening today from different parts of the world, from the Philippines
to Perth here in my hometown, where I'm staying at the moment.
		

			So if there are questions, do fire them through the Facebook and, or you can send them through
		

			the telegram service. All right, we have another one here. If you are struggling and sometimes
forget to ask a lot for help, but keep on not performing well. For example, on an essay or other
things, what should you do? All right. So asking a loss of Hannah with Allah for help and being
answered by Allah are two separate things. So the act of asking the act of honoring a law, the act
of worshiping a law the act of relying upon a law that's important, whether you are answered or not,
whether you receive the answer that you wanted or not, right. So I can be asking Allah subhanaw
taala for good health. And that aspect of asking the Ric the my asking of a lot that on its own is
		

			separate to whether Allah, whether I will get a cure or not. They are related only in that I'm
petitioning a law. But as a part of my request I must have in my heart, that our law I'm asking you
because you're the one be ethical, higher You are the one who goodness is in his hand. And it's in
my understanding, if you give this to me, this is something that I want, but you know what is better
and what isn't for me for my life for my home and for my family, and that's why I set out to list
harder, so powerful and asking a lot for guidance.
		

			So when you're asking a lot to forgive you, are you asking a lot to forgive you? Because you know
you've committed wrong? Are you asking a lot to forgive you because you're worried about being
punished. See, those are two different ways of looking at it. One of them is honoring a loss of
Hannah attallah. The other is honoring yourself and it's a part of your ego. Now there's nothing
wrong with wanting to escape jahannam but to escape jahannam you have to go back to that first part,
which is to recognize a lot to honor a lot. One of the most beautiful Hadith of the prophets I send
them he said low limb to neighborhoods narrated by the man Muslim. If you were not sinners, if you
		

			didn't make mistakes, let there have a lot who become Allah would remove you off the face of the
earth. Well, Jagger told me you know, boon and bring in your place those who do commit sins, way of
selfhood own a lot, but ask a lot for forgiveness fail funeral at home, and he will forgive them.
They're in a mountain discussing this. How do they say that act of asking for forgiveness is an act
of worship. It shows a law that you recognize there's nowhere to turn but to him. Lamb melda y la
manga Mina, la, la La, you have no escape, no protection, no ability to save yourself except with
the one who can punish you, and fulfill a rule in a law run away back to me to Allah. I even attend
		

			the moon, Allah says, where you think you're going? Where can you go? So keep that in your mind?
		

			asking Allah Subhana Allah is separate to whether you get the answer in the way you want or not.
It's not about the answer. It's about honoring a law. That is what produces contentment in whatever
answer you're given. So sometimes I get people to think in some of their difficult circumstances as
to why they weren't answered in the way they've wanted. You know, not because a person is suffering
an illness, and they made a sincere draw out to a love that that means that illness will go away.
That's not how it works. A loss of kinda with the island may still allow the illness to run its
course with an individual. So where so where does that fit in that do it on its own is your way of
		

			earning contentment. So if in your heart at the time you're making Do you recognize that it may not
be answered the way you want, but you're still content or the to Billa hiraga, I'm content with a
lot, even with this challenge, will Islam in my submission to a lot even with this challenge, and
with Muhammad's way, even with its challenge, then a lot puts contentment in your heart that you're
able to deal with the illness, even though it doesn't go away, but it doesn't drown you. It doesn't
pin you. It doesn't end you. It liberates you, because you've understood your place with a lot. So
what I would say to you is keep struggling, keep fighting, keep studying, keep working. And don't
		

			forget to ask a law, but ask a lot in a meaningful way for asking a law, not for receiving something
from a law. There's this powerful statement. You, you and I we need to love a law not for what we
want of him but because we are in need of him. So the need we have of a law not for our needs, but
for the need to be with him is what you drive us to increase our love of him. So Hannah went to
Allah. And it's now nearly 30 minutes that we've been together which is the time limit that we've
always set for the sessions. I pray that Allah subhanaw taala accept it from you and I look forward
to seeing you again. Get your questions down. If you haven't already registered or yourselves and
		

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