Waleed Basyouni – For Any Relationship Forgiveness Is Important 2
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Forgiveness is crucial to everyone's success and avoiding negative impact on their ranking and reputation. It is also crucial to building a legacy and avoiding mistakes. forgiveness is also seen as a way to establish a strong bond with others and allow people to move on quickly. It is also crucial to practicing simplification of prophets and avoiding mistakes.
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All prayers do to align His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
his companions, his family and his followers until the day of judgment.
Today, I would like to start by saying, I'm pleased and happy to be back to the central mustard in Arlington.
In this talk between me and my brothers and sisters, and ask Allah subhanaw taala to benefit us from what we say and what we hear.
There is no doubt that one of the ultimate goal of the Sharia, one of the main purpose of sending messengers and revealing the books to the, to those prophets and messengers that Allah have sent to humanity is to guide human being, to what is best for them in this dunya this world alive and hereafter,
to teach humanity's, what will make their life here in this world, they live good, put them in ease, put them in the right path, and guide them to what has been official and to warn people from what is harmful. It is to lay foundations
for humanity's to help them to establish good society, good society, strong community and solid families
and was sooner filled with filled with principles and foundations related to how we deal with each others as human, and how we deal with each other as Muslims and how we deal with each other as family as family.
And this is a very wide big subject if I pick in every principle that the Sherry emphasized on and talked about in details, it will be a very long talk. But tonight I just want to talk about one simple principle asahikawa manoussos
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which is the issue of forgiveness,
a Sharia and a Koran, an issue Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam talked so much about this issue that you will forgive others that you willing to forgive Are you willing to let things go? Are you willing to excuse others
and it is very interesting that amount of verses in the Quran just talking about this concept.
And Allah subhanho wa Taala considered this one of the best form of Eman as Allah subhanaw taala said while mmm sobre la for for in danika min azmin
those who have patient and they can forgive, they are going to forgive. This is as much more it means as I am. It means the highest. It is the strongest. It is the highest level of
a man a character and so not unfair.
Also, in Surat Al Baqarah Allah subhanaw taala said
we're in a toss.
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what utensil will follow by nickel. So Allah subhanaw taala said if you forgive that much closer to tackle that much closer to be a person who deserve that title of a tough one. femen af Our Allah,
Allah, those who are willing to forgive, and those who will forgive others, and they will fix the relationship between them and others after their hardship happen, that they're adger on the hand of Allah Subhana God, there adger belongs to Allah He knows how much reward he's the only one knows how much he would reward you for that.
But Daddy, God Allah arella hota Anopheles from mini Allah He described the believers in Allah and Ron, he said, We're sorry, Mr. Ravi Kumar. Jenna
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was an hour to an hour worried that Lehman race passed Mark towards agenda as big as the heavens and earth. And it was made for
a lady named Saba
one Cali mean la one Laffy nothingness one la hiboy Sydney. again one more time you find a loss of how to Allah say that the people who deserve to inherit our paradise, the people who deserve to be as neighbor to Mohammed salatu salam, the people who deserve to be so close to Allah subhanho wa Taala and to be saved from the fire, what their characters are one of it that they are alive in and in us though forgive others.
And philosophy subhanaw taala order Muhammad's Allah Allah Allah is Allah to forgive his companions to forgive the people. He said to him febi Ma, mira la even Tara, welcome to folk been very vocal boom, in fact, for me was comfort level for Stanford in the home, wash our home for
our gave a very clear direct order to Mohammed Susana, forgive them.
Even
this shows you that this subject is not just
an a subject, or something was mentioned even once or twice. And so many verses in the Quran talks about the importance of forgiveness. And I want you to understand that forgiveness is not a one time event.
Forgiveness is an ongoing process. It's not one time event, you forgive someone or I forgive you once, no, it's an ongoing process. It is something you practice every day, it is something you have to be willing to do with with everyone, almost the genome.
And another fact before I move forward to my talk today, that forgiveness should be your should be your manner, it should be your attitude with everyone, not only with your friends, it shouldn't be with your friends, and also with your enemy. It should be with your relatives. And it should be with the people who are strangers that you don't know them. It shouldn't be with the Muslims or non Muslims, it should be with the basically, the elders and with the young, it should be when you are in a situation or status of power. And when you are in the status of weakness.
Because some people they forgive when they are not powerful, when they basically in the status of weakness, and they have no control over you know, forgive you. Yeah. That's why when he praised this abida he said kobita to lie on the moon and even Mateen he said this kobina which it means a little tiny, small tribe. They don't whatever the moon and NASA have better have Daddy, they don't abuse others, and they don't take any money from anyone. Even if it's just a small amount of money like a grain or barley.
They will not take it away from you. You know, do you think he is praising them? He was Curtis sizing this trying that poetry was said to criticize the tribe. You know why? Because he said they are so weak that he cannot even abuse others. They are so weak that they cannot steal from others. What prevents them from being unjust or abusing other just because they are weak? It's messed up. That's right. That's it's a backwards mentality. But that's the Jay Z ATHLEAN Metallica, ladies and gentlemen. Anyway.
So we understand this two facts now. One, that forgiveness should be dealt with everyone in every situation that you're in. When you're strong when you're weak with the people close to you people fall away from you, people you like puberty don't like you forgive, that's what a lot older is to be a forgiver.
To that it is not one time event. It's an ongoing, ongoing process. It's an ongoing, basically process.
last panel data taught us a great lesson
in an incident which is I start with it as to raise the bar
His daughter is not only his his his daughter, she is his daughter, and she is his mother.
She is his daughter, and she is his mother. She is his daughter, and she is the mother of the believers,
Allah and Allah. Not only that she is the wife of the most beloved one to his heart.
He loves the prophets asylums, love, beyond your imagination,
beyond your imagination,
when his father, an old man,
in his late 80s, or 90s, came to the prophets of Salaam to give him the beta and to become to accept Islam after the conquered of Mecca.
Whenever abubaker say, Lamar is to hear the Abbey,
he is so old, that you can see all the veins of his end. And it was shaking is so old and stretching his hand to shake the process of EMS and, and to say, a shadow Allah Illallah Muhammad Rasulullah finally he accepted Islam. Finally he is willing to submit himself to Allah Subhana Allah and to the Messenger of Allah.
Do you know what's our backyard?
Comment on this was if you have a wife, a brother, a family member you love so much Alhamdulillah the became Muslim or they stopped practice lab. What would you say? Wouldn't you be so happy for that? That's all it's all about you. But listen to it. Oh vaca said Alia Rasul Allah, loaded to unnati Hillier de la te la.
Dima lmnop Kellyanne Nick, what are you curious now?
Yasser Allah, I wish that this hand was the hand of the old man not my old man. It's your own your unkillable body?
Because I know that will make you even happier. I know that will make you very happy.
If that was your uncle.
And I wish that even not my father. It's your uncle our I don't mind. If that's gonna make you happier. I don't mind.
Do you understand?
Hello, Jim.
This is unbelievable.
Unbelievable. This is his own father.
He doesn't mind even if his father didn't make that move and accepted Islam at the time. If it was the Prophet sort of uncle, he will be fine. That's how much he loves. The profits are solid, more than himself really. And more than anything related to himself.
That man, that man, his daughter, which is his daughter, the wife of his best friend, and His Messenger, the one he loves the most. And the mother of the believers. She was accused and she is the most pure woman that you can think of with adultery.
And guess who accused her somebody related to him and family member and that family member live off the donation of our backyard.
He lived off his donation he gave him money he supported and you support him and he basically ended up talking about your own daughter, talking about his mother talking about the wife of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam joining the hypocrites.
In this talk
abubaker said I will not support such person.
Allah Subhana Allah revealed and so often look what I tell you will probably mean kamasan I used to live in Misaki. In what Mahajan Nina feasability? La? Well, yeah, well yes for
Allah to Allah.
Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah.
Allah God, luckily,
our walk around he heard this versus what are lost parents and I said, Those who Allah bless them with money, they should not hold back their support. They should not hold back the money from supporting the poor people and their relatives. And in mohabbatein, let them forgive them. Forgive about it, forgive it, forgive them and basically move on. In other words,
don't you want a lot of forgive you as well? Then Oh,
have said yes I wish and I would love that Allah forgive me as well.
Not only that he start giving him he paid him back even whatever was missed from a support and he went and he gave him that money.
And Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam forbade us to buy cat one another, forbade us to hate one another. He forbade us to do any form of by cutting or cutting communication with either with each other.
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turaco Katara. And it's not enough for a Muslim to buy cat, another Muslim for more than three days reported by Bukhari and then we saw some tequila. What we see is an attempt
at NASA. In essence, female was an abuse of alcohol use and then
it's been reported that the prophets of Salaam said deal with people deal with people in good manners, in good manners.
You should always look to you should always try to forgive others kartha sallallahu alayhi wa sallam men can attend the home of lama tolyatti min Alden Omen shame, failure to handle Minho.
kubla la akuna de nada.
If you have done something wrong to your brother or sisters today, ask for forgiveness, before a day will come. When there is no money. We don't pay each other by money, we pay each other with good deeds for either Canada or I'm sorry, okay, the men who
were elliptica, who has an ad op them in Seattle, sahibi, for whom Allah Allah, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, at that time, in the Day of Judgment, it will be one of two things, either you will give him from your good deeds. And if you run out, he gives you from his bad deeds, you know what that means? What it means to take away from your good deeds.
That means your ranks and gender goes lower.
That's right.
The more I take from your reward, the less you go down. So what means to dump on you is
bad deeds. If you go to Home fire, you go deeper, you go lower as well. So it's a very bad situation. It's a very bad situation.
So the willing to forgive to your brother today, it's a great, it's a great character. And for bailing me out, a great scholar, said, Mara, I too am Bella miradry Mufasa I haven't seen a such man like this man from San Jose, which is in Iran today. He said he was sitting in invested in MK El Cap. And basically as a traveler coming from a lot of faraway they come on was with their money, you know, basically for for the trip. So they will be basically a good target
for the thief, thieves the target those traveler, because they always carry with them a lot of money, or a following guys. So he said that that's what happened to this guy. It was somebody came and he was pregnant while he's praying. Somebody came and took all his money, all his money. Then he was crying. He was crying. So one of the people in his head group or travel with him, said, Are you crying over money brother? He said, No. I'm crying over that person who took my money
that I can imagine myself now while I'm in the last house, in front of his house, in the caliber that we move off in front of a lot of the Day of Judgment.
And when I ask for my money that he took from me
and I know he has no excuse for what he did.
And in on that day, it will be taken from his good deeds. And when I just started thinking about that, that made me cry for him. What a poor guy
put himself in a position that he would regret badly in the day of judgment in the Day of Judgment.
In Nabi sallallahu Sallam himself was the great forgiver and just one example to show you that you remember in labor when a woman she put poison on the sheet, the profits
Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam forgave her. And he refused that anyone will harm this woman. He said, I forgive her, she tried to poison me, nothing happened to me, I'm forgiving her, I am forgiving her.
Before even I go farther into the subject, talking about forgiving others, I must start by saying, we need to learn how to forgive ourselves.
And that's a very important point. So many times we beat ourselves so badly, that we don't, we don't know how to forgive ourselves. And I don't mean by forgiving ourselves to justify for yourself your mistakes, no, but there is a time will come and you have to let it even go about yourself. Because if you keep beating yourself, if you keep blaming yourself, if you keep putting yourself always down, it will be very hard for you to stand up, it will be almost impossible for you to for tomorrow, to go further.
So you need to learn that to certain extent that you know, you know what, I'm willing to forgive myself. And I look almost at myself with the eye of forgiveness. So I can move to the next level. Let's say you committed a sin. And you always see yourself that evil sinner creation. Who is in the dark side? How can you move forward?
know, when you repent to Allah subhanaw taala and you have in your heart, you gain certainty that Allah smart Allah hearing you seeing you, and he knows that you're sincere about this, and you move forward. And you see you're always you see yourself in a positive manner, not in a negative manner.
And you can move forward. Maybe you've done a mistake, and that mistake led to a terrible things happen, maybe even a death or a sickness or something. You need to learn at certain point to say, you know, I need to forgive myself instead of beating her up and start moving forward and see what's next in my life.
So I can be strong, and I can basically accomplish much in my life.
What's the benefit from forgiveness? What do we benefit from this?
Or would you benefit from being a forgiving person
for being a forgiver? A person who always forgives what how this will benefit you. I'll share with you some points to encourage us to do that much after one.
If you learn how to forgive you learn how to keep your friends.
Those who don't forgive, they have no friends. As a chef who said that couldn't be asked Raja Kalia Coleman rockin will help him
for indicating the authority here. pilou waterpower the cafeteria.
If you always pick on people's and you point out their mistakes, and you're not willing to forgive them, and you see that person ended up by himself in the road.
I guarantee you if you don't know how to forgive your family, your wife, your children, your brothers, your uncle's, your parents, your your cousin's, your your colleagues in the work your friends, your Muslim brothers and your sisters, the mustards, the Imam, the community, the administration, whatever you want to call it. If you don't know how to forgive people, you cannot live with people
and part of brotherhood and sisterhood that will come closer to one another and we forgive one another and to forgive one another. There is no love without forgiveness. You impossible to imagine love between two couples between a husband and wife and they never forgive will never forgive each others.
When you hold resentment
towards someone, you are bond to that person or to that negative feeling by emotion link stronger than steel
and nothing can free you and break that link except forgiveness.
Imagine if you hate somebody,
you're not forgiving him or her or something about that person. If you
Once you link yourself to that bad thing to that bad person that you ate in the malls in a way that it's very hard to get rid of it, it connects you to a che. It's actually not a smart thing to do. But if you say you know what I forgive it, it's immediately would go out of your mind.
That's why we say forgiveness. It has its own rewards
and revenge, it has its own bunch punishments.
Learn how to forgive and see how you live free
to forgive is to set a prisoner free and discovered that there is basically
urine the the prisoner actually was you.
You're in prison to that negative emotion. To that bad habit is to that person that you don't like.
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forgiveness, it shows that you're a strong person.
It is a sign of strength. It's not a sign of weakness. Forgiveness, it's a sign of strength. The weak person never forgive. Believe me. Only strong people forgive. We personally don't forget because the old only they can do. Strong people they can forgive and they don't care.
That's why for givers, the person who forgive everybody look up to them. It is an honor.
That's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said nanaka sada
charity will never decrease your wealth, while Masada ma who abdun Walla, Masada, Lahore abdon. The f1 in less than an hour only increase your status elevate you. Every time you forgive someone. It's an honor, it's a strength is it will
as
it shows the strength on you to forgive. If you want to be a strong person, forgive others.
It's also as I said, it's an honor. It's make you an honorable people. People love to mention those so forgive. It's it's like a legacy.
When you think about the prophet SAW Selim, if you think about the most
unforgettable
moments in the life of the prophets or celebs, what are they? Yeah, let's see, what are the most memorable incidents in the Prophet Stein life, something when he talks about his life, it has to comes up.
Let's see
hedgerow here where he migrated. One to
see the second one, the concrete and look what happened in conquering Mecca.
When he gathered all the kuffar and he said, What do you think I'm going to do to you? They said you are our brothers and, and he said in tempo for anthem. of Buddha, every child knows this. Every person interested and knows the story. Because it's such a legacy. It's his an honor thing, to be a forgiving person.
Learn how to forgive and see how people will think about you. We'll talk about it. It's not about people talking about it. It's because you deserve that you know that as an Imam, a great scholar Islam and knowing at the moment knowing Rahim Allah to Allah, he was praying in the night. And while he's praying, a thief jumped into his house, he couldn't see anything in the house.
Nothing You know, or there's nothing so he fought Mashallah very nicely to leather.
Shoes.
That's the only thing valuable he saw the house. He took them. And he didn't know he finished the salt. He heard the noise. And now he's single he's not married. So he would know to someone in the house in the house. He basically noticed the guy so that they know He finished the salad. He start running and knowing basically solving took taking what the shoes the hook and running to. So no, it was like running behind him. And the thief is like running very fast. So no, it's saying
Ellsberg here had the Palookaville.
He he had the
he instilled in him to Sterling, the thief. Wait a second, wait a second. It's a gift. Say I take accept because in Islam and Islam, it cannot
give somebody it will never consider a gift unless you give it and the person accepted.
Like if I bought I mean, how came and took my watch?
Or is it house I consider this a gift chicory? No, it's not a gift.
Unless I said you, I agree I give it to you. It's like any business transaction is a form of transaction has to be between two sides approved, approved, offered acceptance and offers offer an acceptance are the following. Okay, so basically that's what it is. So now we're running behind him said, Don't worry about I don't want the shoes but I don't want you to be singing.
I don't want you to come into judgment as a thief for just the shoes. It's not worth it.
Just say, I will say I take it I accepted so you can go free.
When you read about the life
he was told your horse somebody stood outside. He raised his hand. He said that's it. He is going to make him and you know who's
the student of Massoud Massoud used to tell him if Rasulullah met you. He will love you so much for Salama wood. Yeah, and you happen to meet you, you will be one of his favorite.
This
story, one of the things stands out about him is it's an honor. This incident when somebody took away his horse, he raised his hand this
is gonna make the rounds. He said, Oh Allah, Allah who man can have an Indian federal law. Sorry, what kind of appeal on eBay? Sorry.
Yup, if this man's took my horse, because he's poor person, and want money badly, make this horse bring so much money for him. So he would never steal again, she will stop. And if he's rich, and he's doing this now because of need of money, make this horse will satisfy his desire. And he would never look for any other items again to see
me this is
this is an example of showing you that when you forgive, you just became an honorable person.
Number five.
One of the benefits of forgiving
is to allow you to move on in your life.
One day, I was telling my daughter
This is teenager, and it's very important to have a lot of communication with your friends.
So I was telling her one day, you know, daughter, this life is like the bicycle that you used to ride with the younger.
And we're like in the backyard, she said how's that I said this live is like this bicycle. You cannot keep balanced unless you keep
unless you keep
moving.
That's how you never be keep balance in life. If you stop at one point, you have to keep moving. You have to keep moving to keep balance. And why
don't stop those who are not willing to forgive this stuck at one point with one person with one incident and this stuck here there.
That's why they are out of balance. Let it go and see how I will be very smooth after that with everyone. America it's not worth it. One of the biggest benefit of learning how to forgive is to be able to move on fast in your life with people in your life and nothing stopping you. Nothing bothering you. And that leads me to number six, which is one of the most important important benefit of forgiveness, which is it will free you from bad energies and if you can, you will have less negative energy inside you.
Do you know the amount of energy that you need to use to hate someone?
It is way more than the amount of energy that to see someone's a psycho I mean move on. Have nothing in your heart about him.
Why would you poison toxin your your your heart, your Eman your brain, your mind with all this negativity? He did this to me how he committed that how evil this he did that. Remember he looked at me this way. He meant this. He insulted me he think all these negativities what it does it just make you so stressful. Full of bad and negative energy.
Clean. Yeah, cleanse yourself. Enough toxins.
That we take through coffees and and chemical stuff that we drink you know one cup one cup of coffee contain more than 100 chemicals
enough this is enough toxin that we consume
Why would you bring all this negative energy inside your body?
Do you know how many muscles you need to use to make that frowny face
so 400 muscles of mistake
Do you know how many muscle you need smile
it's nice to smile
smile
it's very nice
it's very easy making ease and sometimes we think that this life nothing worth that hates the G fill your heart with it.
My brothers sisters
the prophets are seldom said and this is number seven as one of the benefit
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those who control their anger and they will not let you have it.
Okay when he said I let him have it,
you know, he just I get it. He got it from me last night.
If you can control that anger and let things go.
let things go a lot in the Day of Judgment calling up in front of everyone in
front of everyone.
And let you introduce a need to choose from a herder in
and if it's a sister, she choose from every word from over houses servants, that she would like.
And it can be measured from LA Hobi and booni. an allusion for lack of a linear way our project. Karuna, Amira, sala
de vida sarmad on Luma elementary Haddadi What are for umbrella? What to Lehman hammock watashi Lu Mankato. Why the Joomla did have the executable?
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this statement is very common even books and theology to teach Muslims a part of their belief, correct believe they have a correct manner that the Hadith which is Pavani said that the prophets of Salaam said do you have been rated that the prophets of Salaam said do you want me to tell you what to the loss of Hannah what Allah will throw it will raise your level and will bless your communities. Yeshua will be here bonyen and disappear. Sarah sola he said, to be patient with those who are ignored, dealing with ignorance with you.
And to forgive those who have done wrong to you. And to give those who prevented who prevent you before and to fulfill
your duty towards those who are not fulfilling their duties toward you.
How can you be a forgiving person? Okay, great. Can we have a practical point that helped us to learn how to forgive? I know by the way, it's easy to say I'll forgive but it's very hard to implement.
Or lines where you say I forgive but let's let's think let somebody really hurt you. And see how you willing to forgive or not.
One? How can we do that one.
If you want to be a forgiving person, you need to learn not to be a person who pick on others.
Forgive her person who is a person who is not a person who so who pickin others that is people watch every single mistakes.
He document every single faults that you make. You know even in marriage, they said before marriage, keep your eyes wide open. And after marriage, keep your eyes half shot. Of course. You need to pick up everything and see notice every
let things go don't when you deal with your people don't analyze every single words what he means he looked at me this way he does this. He meant that his hand gesture. Just don't be like that. If you want to learn how to forgive, he let things go. Don't be picky or picking on people picking on people. You know, there is a
Alongside Ghana Mohammed
there were
a scholar his name had similar some
you know, some pattern and Assam Manhattan, the death, you know why he was called awesome. Anybody heard anybody heard this name before hotmail
hotmail awesome anybody heard his name? hotmail was very famous there's a lot of stuff. You know why he was called death?
They said one time a woman came to ask her a question
and when she was talking to him,
she release gas
and when she released gas she was so embarrassed, you know, so embarrassed
and then ensures God with sound. So she was so embarrassed in front of this imagine the woman coming to us. So he acted like a deaf person.
I cannot hear your question. So when she noticed that he is deaf, she didn't feel so embarrassed.
He doesn't want to embarrass him that he shared her just dead. So he acted like a deaf person. And after that incident, he was not as happy we'll assign
those who pick on everything and make a comment and everything and analyze everything that things happen in front of them very hard for them to be forgiving to
always remember the rewards of forgiveness.
Every time you see an incident somebody remember that he worked that waiting for you.
And he was on his deathbed
right before his death
A man came to him
with a thick clothes doesn't seem like very fancy clothes or look like a poor person.
And he said to his students, move move I want to see him.
He came so close to the magnet right and at his feet.
And he said
put down the hook. And he said
yeah
do you remember me?
He said yes I do.
You the one Walmart awesome hire
to hit me.
He said the man. One line.
I used to hit you with the whip
lash your back. If I would hit an elephant with it. I will break the back of the
bow we'll hit an elephant the same way I used to hit your back. I'll break the elephant's back.
But I was asked to do that by the holly.
And he said I'm coming here to do today asking you to forgive me.
Then he said to him, I have forgiven you long time ago.
Long time ago.
And I have prayed for you several times.
So much sun said Father.
How can you do that to somebody did all of this to you? I live in a
Tesla powerwall Allahu Tada. When Yahoo well yes for who? Allah to Allah.
While Allah He Masha Helio mushy and our minmum harati la.
He said, Son, Didn't you hear what Allah said? Forgive?
Excuse others? Don't you want the Lord to forgive you and excuse you? Today? I don't wish anything better than a loss forgiveness.
So every time you want to learn how to forgive, remember the reward like did he start thinking about the reward or forgiveness?
I know you might say my dad hurts me so much. My mom did a lot of things back to me.
My my wife she hurt me so much. My husband did so much to me. My brother's leaders disrespected me. They did this. They did that. My community I cannot This is not a friend. Remember what I was gonna say?
You don't forgive those who are good with you.
You know like, this guy is
said my wife, she is very forgiving. Or she's very humble. She always admit her mistake when she is wrong.
She's wrong. There is no end for Lila. If you're wrong, you're wrong.
Okay, three,
learn how to forgive. By practicing the simplification of the profits awesome. Allow me to
allow me to falter. Or Allah I forgive I excuse so I asked you to forgive me, excuse me.
This is not the provinces that I'm used to supplicate with.
Number four.
Learn how to have good faith and others.
find excuses for your brothers, for your sisters. find excuses for them. Always think in a mentality of a person looking for excuses. Not don't have that attitude and mentality that I want to do me like that would avoid that would avoid Roger cannon author of Tai Chi for 100 Allah
subhanho wa Taala de la nica.
Somebody was debating that you became cafard Alhamdulillah. I made I made my point. Then those of us that you had a hobby and seeing 100 law that you proved me covered? Is that make you feel happy?
We should look always not to basically win a debate. But we always look to win the hearts.
Also, number five.
Don't ever condition your forgiveness. Don't ever condition your forgiveness on that this people will forgive you as well. I forgive him as well, as long as he forgives me. No, that's not how it works. Lesson wasn't bill McAfee or colon Navy soldier. You don't treat people best. If we do good to you, you do good to them. And if they do bad to me what I do back to them.
Know the real meaning of forgiveness, to forgive because you do this for the sake of Allah, not because you want Him to forgive you or to change or now this is this is a blessing. This is something extra if it happened at hamdulillah. But you need to learn how to forgive, because you want to be a forgiving person, because you want to practice that total.
Number six,
for getting forgetting is a blessing from Allah.
I know it's very hard to forget. But try to make yourself forget what I mean by that. Don't keep remind yourself of the bad things that this person happened did to you. If you have a bad memories bad, don't bring it up every time. Don't talk about it. Don't keep remind you of the bad things. So try to let it go and hamdulillah and Allah give us nearmap bestowed upon us appointed CO and cn forget for getting that you can forget, if you don't keep remind if you don't keep reminding yourself. Number seven. If you want to forgive someone, sometimes it's a good idea to open up to that person.
Open up, tell him what hurts you fear. Tell him why you are hurt by them. Express Express express to him or to her that don't keep it only in your heart shirt. Maybe this is what I'll be to forgive. Number eight.
We need to learn how to accept people when they are different from us.
A lot of people will often what prevents us from forgiving others that we not willing to accept differences.
And we only see it from our perspective. There is a famous debate took place between Abu Walid al badji anybody knows who that person is and what he did
when he lived in Dallas, he debated a person
who you should not mess with when it comes debate is named Abu Mohammed and he had been hesitant and that was your hematoma
showing you how people have a different perspectives on religion. He became very famous colors. He became like respected by the government. Same thing as sitting together in front of the salon the king.
So operating budget told them it hasn't. Definitely my knowledge cannot be compared to yours. Mine is much more valuable than your knowledge.
He messing with the wrong guy.
He says you know why? He said
As he said, culatta dostal ilma Allah misbehave. Welcome to
Basha party.
You had a land, you know, the land where the light made of gold in your home, your daddy and your mommy provided for you. And that's what you use to study in the night, I
have a lot of gold for you. Me, we have not even a Kindle in our home, I used to take the books, I used to take my books on my notebook, and go outside to the streets and use the light, the public light to read and to write, because and Dennis, all the streets were basically lightened up and during the night, the only city that you can see it, you can see light and that in Europe at that time.
I used to go to the street to use the lamb the street. That's why my knowledge is more blessed than yours.
Then if it hasn't looked at him, he said, just that point that you made, prove that my knowledge is much blessing bless than yours.
said how the Sultan said, he said he learned this knowledge. So he can have the gold lamp in his house as he has today.
You learn all this knowledge to put you in a very high status, where you have made of gold in your home, like what you have today became a rich man, I'm famous and respected judge and so forth.
But for me, I had all of this already. The only reason made me seek the knowledge is because I want the knowledge for itself.
That's what my knowledge is more blessed than yours.
together is it's interesting debate. And I think both are a blast scholars.
But sometimes you see your perspective only, and you disregard the other people perspective. And that what make you unwilling to forgive.
And if you learn how to accept people to accept different perspectives, you will let things go. Also,
you need to know how to swallow your pride.
This pride that you have, you need to swallow a little bit.
Don't make your ego is the most important thing. Even if it's anger, endure a little bit let it go.
Also, one thing that will help you to forgive which is the last point I have number 10
what people say or do
is about them.
It's not about you.
You need to learn that brothers and sisters. So many times we think everything said everything done. It is has to do with me. You know when somebody says something bad he only shaming himself. If somebody behave bad against you. Just don't don't worry people will not talk about you talk about how bad manner this person has.
You yours. Remember though, don't be worried too much. Don't take it too personal. And learn to let things as I said, Go.
Finally,
forgiveness
sometimes are confused with the concept of the lack of accountability.
Not willing to forgive because I want to hold accountable, accountable for his actions or her action. You do this with your kids sometimes. We do this with our spouse sometimes. We do this with our employees sometimes with our friends sometimes. And that's something under something else. You can hold somebody accountable for his or her action. Also, while I'm forgiving you forgiveness, it doesn't mean that you will not be held accountable for your actions. That's no that's not true.
Allah forgives you and still punish you.
Had you steal somebody's money like the woman she committed Zina, undeniably sallallahu Sallam said she is in general even the punishment applied to her. He drinks alcohol and he will be his back will be latched on the Prophet said he loves his messenger and align His Messenger love
because we still so that doesn't mean you're not be held accountable for your actions to a lot of people think
Forgiveness. It's a sign of weakness. weak people forgive no heavy. And I said that in my lecture weak people, they don't forgive strong people forgive.
Also, so many times we're not willing to forgive people. Because we think forgiveness or condition to change. I only forgive you if you change. Now that's not forgiveness.
Forgiveness means I forgive your mistake while you did it, you're doing it. It doesn't matter, you change you're not I'm still willing to forgive you. That's the highest level of forgiveness.
That's the highest level forgiveness.
Can you do it for the sake of Allah Spano Todd.
One of the machine fighting the prophets of Allah, committing the ship and the processor lamb face, covered with blood, he wiped the blood from his face and looking at it and he said, allow me to leave me
or allow your my witness I forgive my people for what they have done to me because they are ignorant.
He didn't condition that the change
sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
My brothers and sisters,
it is an important subject. And it is a very important character for the Muslims. It is one of the quality of our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that they asked Allah Subhana Allah and us open our
agenda. We are committed.
And we have been
da da Silva, Elena Vienna, Mohammed,
your woman that you can think of with adultery.
And guess who accused her somebody related to him and family member and that family member left off the donation of our backyard.
He lived off his donation he gave him money he supported and you support him and he basically ended up talking about your own daughter, talking about his mother talking about the wife of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam joining the hypocrites.
And this stop
abubaker said I will not support such person.
And Allah Subhana Allah revealed and so often look what I tell you will probably mean kamasan I used to live Misaki well, Mahajan, Nina feasability, la. Well, yeah, well, yes.
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Vaca welcome. He heard this versus what Allah Subhana Allah says, Those who Allah bless them with money, they should not hold back their support. They should not hold back the money from supporting the poor people and the relatives and in Mahajan, let them forgive them. Forgive are forgiven, forgive them and basically move on. In other words,
don't you want a lot of forgive you as well? That obok have said yes, I wish and I would love that Allah forgive me as well.
Not only that, you start giving him he paid him back, even whatever was missed, from a support and he went and he gave him that money.
And maybe sallallahu alayhi wa sallam forbade us to buy cat one another, forbade us to hate one another. He forbade us to do any form of by cutting or cutting communication with each other
laka laka laka laka Toppo coolibah de la Juana What are you to swim in any turaco Katara and it's not allowed for a Muslim to buy cut another Muslim for more than three days report by Bukhari and then we saw Salaam said it tequila. What we see is an attempt
at NASA. In essence, female was an abuse of a lot he sent them in Hades hero Academy.
It's been reported that the prophets of Salaam said deal with people deal with people in good manners, in good manners.
You should always look to you should always try to forgive others. Cada sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, men can attend the home of lama tolyatti Minato
In Omen shape, failure to handle Minho, Elio kubla, Li akuna de nada.
If you have done something wrong to your brother or sisters today, ask for forgiveness before a day will come. When there is no money, we don't pay each other by money, we pay each other with good deeds for either Canada or Amazon. Sadly, only the men who built it were elliptica, who has an ad over them in Seattle, sahibi, for whom era, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said at that time, in the Day of Judgment, it will be one of two things, either you will give him from your good deeds, and if you run out, he gives you from his bad deeds. You know what that means? What it means to take away from your good deeds.
That means your ranks and gender goes lower.
That's right.
The more I take from your reward, the less you go down. So what needs to dump on you is
bad deeds. If you go to Home fire, you go deeper, you go lower as well. So it's a very bad situation. It's a very bad situation.
So the willing to forgive to your brother today. It's a great art. It's a great character. And
a great scholar, said, Mara, I too am Bella miradry murasa I haven't seen a such man like this man from Hadassah hospital sandwiches in Iran today, he said he was sitting in a mustard and muck and camp. And basically, as a traveler coming from a lot of faraway the Come on was with their money, you know, basically for for the trip. So they will be basically a good target
for the thief, thieves the target those traveler, because they always carry with them a lot of money, or a following guys. So he said that that's what happened to this guy. It was somebody came and he was pregnant while he's praying. Somebody came and took all his money, all his money. Then he was crying. He was crying. So one of the people in his hedge group or a traveler with him, said, Are you crying over money brother? He said, No. I'm crying over that person who took my money
that I can imagine myself now while I'm in the last house, in front of his house, in the Kaaba, that we move off in front of a lot of the Day of Judgment.
And when I ask for my money that he took from me,
and I know he has no excuse for what he did.
And in on that day, it will be taken from his good deeds. And when I just started thinking about that, that made me cry for him. What a poor guy
put themselves in a position that he would regret badly in the day of judgment in the Day of Judgment.
Interview Salallahu alaihe. Salam himself was the great forgiver. And just one example to show you that you remember in haber when a woman, she put poison on the sheet, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam forgave her. And he refused that anyone will harm this woman. He said, I forgive her, she tried to poison me, nothing happened to me. I'm forgiving her and forgiving her.
Before even I go farther into the subject, talking about forgiving others, I must start by saying we need to learn how to forgive ourselves.
And that's a very important point. So many times we beat ourselves so badly that we don't we don't know how to forgive ourselves. And I don't mean by forgiving ourselves to justify for yourself your mistakes. No. But there is a time will come and you have to let it even go about yourself. Because if you keep beating yourself, if you keep blaming yourself, if you keep putting yourself always down, it will be very hard for you to stand up. It will be almost impossible for you to for tomorrow to go farther.
So you need to learn that to certain extent that you know you know what, I'm willing to forgive myself. And I look almost at myself with the eye of forgiveness so I can move to the next level. Let's say you committed a sin and you always see yourself that evil sinner creation. Who is in the dark side. How can you move forward
know when you repent to
Allah subhanaw taala. And you have in your heart, your cane, certainly that almost Allah hearing you seeing you. And he knows that you're sincere about this, and you move forward and you see, you're always you see yourself in a positive manner, not in a negative manner.
And you can move forward. Maybe you've done a mistake, and that mistake led to a terrible things happen, maybe even a death or a sickness or something. You need to learn at certain point to say, you know, I need to forgive myself instead of beating her up, and start moving forward and see what's next in my life.
So I can be strong, and I can basically accomplish much in my life.
What's the benefit from forgiveness? What do we benefit from?
What would you benefit from being a forgiving person
for being a forgiving
a person who always forgives with how this will benefit you, I'll share with you some points to encourage us to do that much after one.
If you learn how to forgive you learn how to keep your friends.
Those who don't forgive, they have no friends, as a chef who said that couldn't be comin whacking. will help him
for indicating would be a threat to him your pillow water power.
If you always pick on peoples, and you point out their mistakes, and you're not willing to forgive them, and you see that person ended up by himself in the road.
I guarantee you, if you don't know how to forgive your family, your wife, your children, your brothers, your uncle's, your parents, your cousins, your colleagues in the work your friends, your Muslim brothers and your sisters, the mustards that amount, the community, the administration, whatever you want to call it. If you don't know how to forgive people, you cannot live with people,
and parts of brotherhood and sisterhood that would come close to one another, and we forgive one another. And to forgive one another. There is no love without forgiveness. You it's impossible to imagine love between two couples between a husband and wife and they never forgive will never forgive each others
to
when you hold resentment
towards someone, you are bond to that person, or to that negative feeling, by emotion link stronger than steel.
And nothing can free you and break that link except forgiveness.
Imagine if you hate somebody,
you're not forgiving him or her or something about that person. If you always you link yourself to that bad thing to that bad person that you hate in the most in a way that it's very hard to get rid of it. It connects you to a che. It's actually not a smart thing to do. But if you say you know what I forgive it, it's immediately will go out of your mind.
That's why we say forgiveness. It has its own rewards
and revenge. It has its own punish punishment.
Learn how to forgive and see how you live free
to forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that there is basically
any the the prisoner actually was you.
You were in prison to that negative emotion to that bad habit or to that person that you don't like.
Three
forgiveness. It shows that you're a strong person.
It is a sign of strength. It's not a sign of weakness. Forgiveness, it's a sign of strength. The weak person never forgive. Believe me. Only strong people forgive. We personally don't forgive because they all did this only they can do. Strong people they can forgive and they don't care.
That's why for givers, the person who forgive everybody look up to them. It says check
Honor
that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said nanaka sada
charity will never decrease your wealth. Why? Masada mahu abdon wala Masada la abdon bf when in laryssa. And Allah will only increase your status elevates you. Every time you forgive someone. It's an honor, it's a string is meant to work as easier.
It shows the strength on you to forgive. If you are to be a strong person, forgive others.
It's also as I said, it's an honor. It's make you an honorable people. People love to mention those so forgive. It's it's like a legacy.
When you think about the prophets or Santa, if you think about the most
unforgettable
moments in the life of the prophets or celebs, what are they? Yeah, let's see, what are the most memorable incidents in the Prophet Stein life, something that any when he talks about his life, it has to comes up.
Let's see
hedgerow here where he migrated. One to
see the second one, the concrete. Look what happened in conquering my cat
when he gathered all the kuffar and he said, What do you think I'm going to do to you? They said you are our brothers and and he said in trouble for anthem. of Buddha. Every child knows this. Every person interested and knows the story. Because it's such a legacy. It's is it's an honor thing to be a forgiving person.
Learn how to forgive and see how people will think about you will talk about it. It's not about people talking about it. It's because you deserve that you know that as an Imam, a great scholar Islam and knowing at the moment knowing Rahim Allah to Allah, he was praying in the night. And while he's praying a thief jump into his house, he couldn't see anything in the house.
Nothing You know, or there's nothing so he fought Mashallah. Very nicely to leather.
Shoes.
That's the only thing valuable he saw that he took them. And he Uh, no, he finished the solid. He heard the noise. And now he's single. He's not married. So he would notice someone in the house in the house. He basically noticed the guy so that the No, he finished the solid. He start running and No. Basically solving took taking what the shoes do the hook and running to. So no, it was like running behind him. And the thief is like crying very fast. So no, it's saying
he had the Palookaville.
Here Aplia he had a comment. He was telling him to Sterling, the thief. Wait a second, wait a second. It's a gift. Say I take it I accept. Because in Islam and Islam, it cannot
give somebody it will never consider a gift unless you give it and the person accepted.
Like if what I mean now came and took my watch.
Is it has I consider this a gift God? No, it's not a gift.
And blessing unless I said you I agree. I give it to you. It's like any business transaction. It's a form of transaction. It has to be between two sides approved, approved, offered acceptance and offers offer an acceptance. Are you following? Okay, so basically that's what it is. So now we're running behind him said don't worry about I don't want the shoes but I don't want you to be singing.
I don't want you to come with the depth judgment as a thief for just the shoes. It's not worth it.
Just say I will say I take it I accepted so you can go free.
When you read about the lives.
He was told your horse somebody still outside. He raised his hand. He said that said he is going to make him and you know who's
in the studio student of urban Massoud. Massoud used to tell him if rasulillah lit you he will love you so much. For so solemn would be happy to meet you. You will be one of his favorite.
This
story, one of the things stands out about him is it's an honor. This incident when somebody took away his horse, he raised his hand. He said he's gonna make it
around him. He said a lot Allahumma in Canada vahanian federal law
we're in kind of a beeline for avenue for
Europe, if this man took my horse because he's poor person and want money badly, make this horse bring so much money for him so he will never steal again, she will stop. And if he's rich and he's doing this not because of need of money, make this horse will satisfy his desire, and he would never look for any other items again to see
you Yeah, I mean, this is
this is an example of showing you that when you forgive, you just became an honorable person.
Number five,
one of the benefits of forgiving
is to allow you to move on in your life.
One day, I was telling my daughter
This is teenager, and it's very important to have a lot of communication with your teens.
So I was telling her one day, you know,
this life is like the bicycle that you used to ride with the younger
and we're like in the backyard, she said how's that I said this life is like this bicycle. You cannot keep balanced unless you keep
unless you keep
moving
this house why you never be keep balance in life. If you stop at one point, you have to keep moving. You have to keep moving to keep balance and why
don't stop those who are not willing to forgive this stuck at one point with one person with one incident and this type here there.
That's why they are out of balance. Let it go and see how life will be very smooth after that with everyone let it go it's all worth it. One of the biggest benefit of learning how to forgive is to be able to move on fast in your life with people in your life and nothing stopping you. Nothing bothering you. And that leads me to number six which is one of the most important important benefit of forgiveness which is it will free you from bad energies and if you can you will have less negative energy inside you
Do you know the amount of energy that you need to use to hate someone
it is way more than the amount of energy that to see someone's in a cycle and then move on have nothing in your heart about him
Why would you poison toxin your your heart Your Eman your brain your mind with all this negativity? He did this to me how he committed that how evil this he did that? Remember he looked at me this way he meant this He insulted me he think all these negativities what it does it just make you so stressful full of bad and negative energy.
Clean Yeah. cleanse yourself enough toxin that we take through coffees and and chemical stuff that we drink you know one cup one cup of coffee contain more than 100 chemicals.
Enough This is enough toxin that we consume.
Why would you bring all this negative energy inside your body?
Do you know how many muscles you need to use to make that frowny face
several 100 muscles of mistake
Do you know how many muscle you need smile.
It's nice to smile a
smile.
It's very nice.
It's really easy making ease and sometimes we think that this life nothing worth that hates the chief fill your heart with it.
My brothers sisters
the prophets are seldom said and this is number seven as one of the benefits.
Man Kevin Mahajan,
who is still a new leader who
had to hire a middle hearing
those who control their anger and they will not let you have it.
Okay when he said I let him have it, man. You know, he just I get it. He got it from me last night.
If you can control that anger and let things go,
let things go a lot in the Day of Judgment calling in front of everyone in
front of everyone
and let you introduce a need to choose from her in.
And if it's a sister, she choose from every word from over house and service that she would like.
And OBO can be measured for la hovi and booni. An Aleutian for La Via Lavinia why our project? Corona Mira sala
de vida de sarmad on Luma elementary hora de
feu ambala Mk what Tour de man hammock watashi Lu Mankato. Why the Joomla did happy act 30 to
30 definitely there was
this statement is very common even books and theology to teach Muslims a part of their belief correctly they have a correct manner that the Hadith which is Papa Ronnie said that the prophets of Salaam said do you have been rated that the prophets of Salaam said do you want me to tell you what what Allah subhana wa Taala will throw it will raise your level and will bless your communities Yeshua will be here bonyen and disappear sir Samba, he said to be patient with those who are ignored, dealing with ignorance with you.
And to forgive those who have done wrong to you. And to give those who prevented who prevent you before and to fulfill
the your duty towards those who are not fulfilling their duties toward you.
How can you be a forgiving person? Okay, great. Can we have a practical point that helped us to learn how to forgive? I know by the way, it's easy to say I'll forgive. But it's very hard to implement
a lie It's very, you say I forgive but let's let's think that somebody really hurt you and see how you willing to forgive or not?
One? How can we do that one.
If you want to be a forgiving person, you need to learn not to be a person who pick on others.
Forgive a person who's a person who's not a person who so who pickin others there's people watch every single mistakes.
He document every single faults that you make. You know even in marriage, they said before marriage, keep your eyes wide open. And after marriage, you keep your eyes half shut,
half closed. You need to pick up everything and see notice every
let things go don't when you deal with your people don't analyze every single words what he means he looked at me this way he does this. He meant that his hand gesture. Just don't be like that. If you want to learn how to forgive you let things go Don't be picky or picking on people picking on people. You know there is a
long sundiata Mohammed
there were
a scholar his name Hatchimal Asana
you know, awesome Hatem and Asana Manhattan, the death, you know why he was called awesome. Anybody heard? Anybody heard this name before hotmail?
hotmail awesome. Anybody heard this name? Hartman are some very famous, there's a lot of study. You know why he was called death.
They said one time a woman came to ask her a question.
And when she was talking to him,
she release gas.
And when she released gas, she was so embarrassed. You know, so embarrassed.
And there she is God with sound. So she was so embarrassed in front of the show. Imagine the woman coming to us. So he acted like a deaf person.
I cannot hear your question. So when she noticed that he is deaf, she didn't feel so embarrassed.
He doesn't want to embarrass him that he shared her just dead. So he acted like a deaf person. And after that incident, he was not as happy we'll assign
those who pick on everything and make
Comment on everything and analyze every bad things happen in front of them very hard for them to be forgiving to
always remember the rewards of forgiveness.
Every time you see an incident something, remember that reward that waiting for you.
He was on his deathbed
right before his death
and then came to him
with a thick clothes doesn't seem like very fancy clothes or look like a poor person.
And he said to his students, move, move, I want to see him.
He came so close to him.
Right and at his feet.
And he said,
Put down the hook. And he said,
Yeah.
Do you remember me?
He said, Yes, I do.
You the one Walmart awesome hire
to hit me.
This is the man. One line. I used to hit you with the whip.
lash your back. If I would hit an elephant with it. I will break the back of the elephant.
I will hit an elephant the same way I used to hit your back. I'll break the elephant's back.
But I was asked to do that by the holiday.
And he said I'm coming here to do today asking you to forgive me.
Then he said to him, I have forgiven you long time ago.
Long time ago.
And I have prayed for you several times.
So much son said Father
How can you do that to somebody did all of this to you? On a mini
Adam tessmer Allah Allah He Tada. Well, yeah, well yes, for who? Allah.
Allah Allah.
Allah He mash the Helio mushy and have a minimum herati law.
He said, Son, Didn't you hear what Allah said? Forgive?
Excuse others? Don't you want a lot to forgive you and to excuse you? Today? I don't wish anything better than a loss forgiveness.
So every time you want to learn how to forgive, remember the reward like Lima did he start thinking about very word forgiveness.
I know you might say my dad hurts me so much. My mom did a lot of things back to me.
My my wife, she hurt me so much. My husband did so much to me. My brother's leaders disrespected me. They did this the dead.
My community I cannot this is this is not a friend. Remember what I was.
You don't forgive those who are good with you.
You know, like this guy. He said, my wife, she is very forgiving. Or she's very humble. She always admits her mistake when she is wrong.
Okay, she's wrong. There is no end for Leila. If you're wrong, you're wrong.
Okay, three.
Learn how to forgive by practicing the simplification of the prophets of Allah mania fo to
alarm in year 2000 Oh Allah I forgive I excuse so I asked you to forgive me. Excuse me.
This is not the province that I'm used to supplicate with.
Number four.
Learn how to have good faith and others.
find excuses for your brothers, for your sisters. find excuses for them. Always think in a mentality of a person looking for excuses. Not don't have that attitude and mentality that I want to do me like that would avoid that would avoid Roger cannon. Talca for 100 Allah
Subhana Allah dama de la Nika for
somebody was debating the bar and said You became cafard Alhamdulillah. I made I made my point. Then Douglas palette you had a hoppy and saying 100 law that you proved me capital. Is that make you feel
Maybe
we should look old was not to basically win a debate. But we always look to win the hearts.
Also, number five,
don't ever condition your forgiveness. Don't ever condition your forgiveness on that this people will forgive you as well. I forgive him as well, as long as he forgives me. No, that's not how it works. Lesson wasn't bill McAfee calling me so solid. You don't treat people based if they do good to you, you do good to them. And if they do bad to me what I do back to them,
know, the real meaning of forgiveness, to forgive because you do this for the sake of Allah, not because you want Him to forgive you or to change or no, this is, this is a blessing. This is something extra, if it happened at hamdulillah. But you need to learn how to forgive, because you want to be a forgiving person, because you want to practice that total.
Number six,
for getting forgetting is a blessing from Allah.
I know it's very hard to forget. But try to make yourself forget what I mean by that. Don't keep remind yourself of the bad things that this person happened did to you. If you have a bad memory is bad. Don't bring it up every time. Don't talk about it. Don't keep in mind you have the bad things. So try to let it go and hamdulillah and Allah give us nearmap bestowed upon us pounded call and
forget for getting that you can forget. If you don't keep in mind if you don't keep reminding yourself. Number seven. If you want to forgive someone, sometimes it's a good idea to open up to that person.
Open up, tell him what hurt you feel to him why you are hurt by them. Express express to him or to her that don't keep it only in your heart shirt. Maybe this is what I'll be to forgive. Number eight.
We need to learn how to accept people when they are different from us.
A lot of people will often would prevent us from forgiving others that we not willing to accept differences.
And we only see it from our perspective. There is a famous debate took place between Abu Khalid al badji anybody knows who's that person is about what he did.
where he lived in Dallas Delos. He debated a person
who you should not mess with when it comes debate is named Abu Mohammed and he had been hesitant and delacy Rahim Allah
I will showing you how people have a different perspectives about religion badji became very famous colors he became like respected by the government same thing and has sitting together in front of the salon the king.
So operating budget told him it has him definitely my knowledge cannot be compared to yours. Mine is much more valuable than you're not
missing with the wrong guy.
He says you know why? He said Why? He said Carla does tell him Allah misbehave. Welcome to
Basha Perry.
You had a lamp, you know the lamp or the light made of gold in your home, your daddy and your mommy provided for you. And that's what you use to study in the night I
have a lot of gold for you. May we have not even a Kindle in our home. I used to take the books I used to take my books on my notebook and go outside to the streets and use the light the public light to read and to write because and Dennis all the streets were basically lightened up and during the night, the only city that you can see it. You can see light energy in Europe at that time.
I used to go to the street to use the lamb the street. That's why my knowledge is more blessed than yours.
than if it hasn't looked at me said just that point that you made prove that my knowledge is much blessing bless than yours.
See how the football said he said he learned this knowledge so he can have the gold lamp in his house as he has today.
Then you learn all this knowledge to put you in a very high status where you have made of gold in your home like what you have today became a rich man. I'm famous
unrespected judges so forth.
But for me, I had all of this already. The only reason made me seek the knowledge is because I want the knowledge for itself.
That's what my knowledge is more blessed than yours.
together.
It's interesting debate. I think both are a blast scholars.
But sometimes you see your perspective only, and you disregard the other people perspective. And that would make you unwilling to forgive.
And if you learn how to accept people to accept different perspectives, you will let things go. Also,
you need to know how to swallow your pride.
This pride that you have, you need to swallow a little bit.
Don't make your ego is the most important thing. Even if it's anger, endure a little bit, let it go.
Also, one of the things that will help you to forgive, which is the last point number 10.
What people say or do
is about them.
It's not about you.
You need to learn that brothers and sisters, so many times we think everything said everything done.
It has to do with me. You know, somebody says something bad, he only shaming himself. If somebody behave bad against you. Just don't Don't worry, people will not talk about you talk about how bad manner this person has
used. Remember, though, don't be worried too much. Don't take it too personal. And learn to let things as I said, Go.
Finally,
forgiveness
sometimes are confused with the concept of the lack of accountability.
I'm not willing to forgive because I want to hold accountable, accountable for his actions or her action. You do this with kids, sometimes. We do this with our spouse, sometimes. We do this with our employees sometimes with our friends sometimes. And that's something and there's something else. You can hold somebody accountable for his or her action. Also, while I'm forgiving you forgiveness, it doesn't mean that you will not be held accountable for your actions. That's no that's not true.
Allah forgives you and still punish you.
Had you seen somebody money like the woman, she committed Zina, undeniably sallallahu Sallam said she is in general, even the punishment applied to her. He drinks alcohol, and he will be his back will be latched on the Prophet said he loves along his messenger and align His Messenger love.
Because we still so that doesn't mean you're not be held accountable for your actions. to a lot of people think that forgiveness, it's a sign of weakness. weak people forgive no heavy. And I said that to my lecture. weak people they don't forgive strong people forget.
Also, so many times we're not willing to forgive people. Because we think forgiveness, our condition to change. I only forgive you if you change. Now that's not forgiveness.
Forgiveness means I forgive your mistake while you did it, you're doing it. It doesn't matter. You change or not. I'm still willing to forgive you. That's the highest level of forgiveness.
That's the highest level forgiveness.
Can you do it for the sake of Allah Spano Todd.
One of the mushrikeen fighting the prophets of Allah, committing the shift and the processor face covered with blood. He wiped the blood from his face and looking at it and he said Allahumma inni refer to me for a demo.
Or law. You're my witness. I forgive my people for what they have done to me because they are ignorant.
He didn't condition that the change
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
my brothers and sisters.
It is an important subject and it is a very important
character for the Muslims. It is one of the quality of our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that I asked Allah Subhana Allah,
Allah serene, and would have been
taqwa, Salas, Allah Allah Vienna, Mohammed