Waleed Basyouni – Magnificent Seven 09
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The segment discusses the exclusivity of actions and behavior during the Islam practice, including kissing and touching women and not being associated with women or a man. The importance of protecting one's ear and head, staying pure, and not touching one's shoulder or back is emphasized. The segment also emphasizes the need to stay pure and not give oneself too much opportunity to think about things, and to find a way to avoid being called without giving up on one's interests. The importance of staying pure and not giving up on one's interests is also emphasized.
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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was salam, al anbiya wa Sallim Nabina Muhammad, while he was actually a domain,
All Praise to Allah, and his praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Mohammed and his family and his companions and his followers until the day of judgment. Mighty brothers and sisters, welcome to a new episode of The Magnificent Seven. Those seven heroes, seven great men and woman, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam described them in his Hadith
seven people, Allah will put them in his shade in the day of judgment was there is no shade except a last shade. They are a just ruler, our youth grow up with the worship of Allah, a person whose heart is attached to the masjid to persons who love and meet and depart from each other, for the sake of Allah and men, who an extremely beautiful woman seduce him, but he rejects her offered by saying, I fear Allah, a person who gives charity and conceal it to the extent his left hand will not know what his right hand is giving. And finally, a person whom remember Allah subhana wa tada in solitude, and his eyes, well up.
Last time, we're talking about how can the Muslim protect his chest? How can be among those people? If he's in such position, and somebody tried to seduce him? If she's a girl, and a man tries to use her, or a man and a girl tried to seduce him? He will say no, I fear Allah subhana wa tada how slim, build a pure society, help the person to be able to control his loss, and to say no, to the color of the ship. And when he calls him to fulfill and just to follow his desires, and to obey his last
we mentioned several things, just let me remind you some of it.
We said that the Sharia talked in details about the punishment of those who commit such indecent acts like those who fornication or those who practice homosexuality, and this punishment of not only punishment in dunya, it's in this word, and also in the Hereafter, in the hereafter also mentioned that his diseases will affect such people and will strike such people. Also, we said that the Sharia told us that women need to put a job or they must wear hijab and order them to put hijab and they put hijab for their own benefit and to keep the society pure. Also, we heard last time that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the Sharia in general explained to us what we call it our
which is, there are certain parts of your body need to be covered in front of certain type of people. And this our not only related to women, also men has our need to cover likely cannot show their thighs, their private parts, in public or in front of people except their wives,
and so on. Also, one of the rules that sheds order and encourage men to be separated from women when it comes to socializing. Because this can open the door for fitna, it can lead to a relationship can be developed to reach a level which is not Hara which is not allowed in ob sallallahu Sallam said er Komodo Allah Nisa can enter two places where women are in because she might not be cover. Or also this headache could means that you're not allowed to be with a woman alone in a home or a place or an office where nobody can see you that would you call it and Shinya halwa in Navy so Salim said when there is a man and woman alone in one place the ship on will be the third person in that place.
Also Sheree told us
Lam told the woman not to go and public while she's wearing perfume. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, once you go outside wearing perfume, wearing perfume, she's as if she committed one form or one type of fornication or fornication, and any I will look at it, it also committed than there be so someone said committed one type or one form of fornication.
Also,
in ob sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said it clearly, I don't shake hand with woman, I don't touch woman who are not related to me. Also to cut or to block the person from being so close to the opposite * in a way can lead to doing what is not Haram. And by the way, it was surprised for me. When one brother told me he used to work in a bank. And he said, the owner of that bank, there is a group of people came to visit the CEO of the bank. He was shocked when the owner of the bank said that I don't shake hands with a woman.
And he said he wasn't Muslim. Actually, he was a Jew. And he said it might have legitimate love to do that. You know, also some Japanese in their tradition that they don't shake hands, woman will not shake hands or for strange men. Actually, it is also there's some people study that they said when it comes to professional relationship, that shaking hands with women not be the proper way to do it. Anyway, that's not a big deal about that. But the point is in Islam in Ibiza Sallam told us this long time ago, because he wants to keep the society pure.
So if this is about shaking hand, what about the hugging and kissing and people joking with each other, sometimes go outside partying with each other, dancing with each other, and holding each other hands, putting his hand on her shoulder and so on? Are she doing this to him, touching his face, touching her face, all this no doubt. It is not allowed in Islam, kissing and all these things, no doubt, it's not allowed. And it's a sin. And it's forbidden. So the Muslim should not do such thing. Unless he do that with his wife, or somebody from his Muharram to shake your hand or touch her hand also, and Islam, older
woman and men as well,
to lower their gaze. You know, as for men, they're not allowed to look at woman they're not related to and they should lower their gaze and they should not keep staring at women.
I'm saying this to those who keep staring at TV channels and looking at the singers and dancers of the TV without even feeling anything wrong with that. For those sisters, also looking at dancer and singers in the TV, and sometimes sports men or sports women and keeps tearing without feeling that is something even wrong with that and sometimes people look and stare with desire and here the case will be a clear cut it's not allowed and it's haram
you know, don't ever take this issue lightly. I mean, the issue of looking and staring to the to somebody is not related to you.
There is a young man he was he called then in Iraq. One day he was giving a Dan the old days you know there's no microphones so we go all the way to the manor it's and he will call the other one is in Haryana Sana Haryana Sana, he still turned his head left and he sold a beautiful girl Mashallah next door and the roof. She was washing the claws.
And when he saw her, he froze.
In a continue that he saw Mashallah beautiful girls, and he stopped then.
And he left the masjid. And he went straight to their house, knocked the door and said, I want to get married.
Then the father said, who you are, is it. I'm the mother of the mustard next door. He said, but we are not Muslims. We're not Muslims. We're Christian. And we don't give our daughter to a Muslim person. Do you have to be a Christian if you want our daughter, he said I don't mind. And he converted to Christianity. And he married the girl.
But the story goes like this and this is a true story. When he woke up in the morning, he was dead. He was dead. He lost his faith just because he saw a woman in a position that
Look, took over his heart and make him change his whole entire faith. Don't think looking doesn't mean anything. So many people said, Chip, we don't feel that soft heart. When we pray, we don't cry. Here like in the night, we need to have this soft heart. Yes, you need your heart to be soft, longer gaze, protect your gaze. Don't be looking to the head on day and night and tell me I don't enjoy reading Quran. I don't enjoy my family late in the night. Because all this has an effect on your heart.
Also in Islam, and Islam, encourage men and woman to get married. You know, it's so sad to hear some people saying, you get married you because when the moment you became married, there is no more fun in life anymore. Or love end when marriage marriage start. This is wrong. This is the people who want to spread desires in societies. Love should start with marriage, and marriage with marriage love should grow on became stronger, stronger. Marriage is one way to protect your chastity and Islam. encourage people to do that. If you can't, and Islam also give you another opportunity or another solution that you fast a lot. Because when you fast, that will help you to have self control
and to control your desire. Also in Islam,
it's from the etiquette of the prophets, Allah Allah from the teaching of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, when you're when your son or daughter reached the age of 10 years old, you should not let them sleep together in one bed cover with one blanket, you should separate between them. And somehow some people said Why? You know, with my, in my experience in the West, when I and I see so many people have been molested in their childhood. And when asked, they've been molested by some relatives, and because they use either to sleep with them in bed or because they don't cover themselves properly in front of them. And there are so many sad and bad stories like this. So this
is one of the etiquette of the profits are some of them taught us also he said don't touch don't touch somebody's shoulder or back if he has nothing on his back like people go swimming pool girls is not allowed. The woman is not allowed to put your hand on other woman's back if it's not covered, and as well as men and SubhanAllah. We see these days, we see these this those people who are attractive to the same * like a man attractive to men and woman attractive to women. And these teaching in the early time to make the heart pure, and the mind pure.
Also, Islam asked us to take a permission before we enter in your room or any house because you don't want to walk in and a house and you see some somebody in a position maybe is not proper or is not covered in the proper way. Also to slam encourage people to make a lot of their out to supplicate to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to protect their chastity in Ibiza Salaam himself used to say that a lot of minister local who there was one FF r Lena who Allah has blessed me with FF live me Make me among those who are pure and can protect my Chesney glomerata her device and 4g Allah purify my heart and protect me from doing anything wrong. Or being involved in in any indecent Act,
or law protect me from the evil of my eyes, from the evil of my ear to eat to hear something not proper or to see something not a proper or not, I'm not allowed to see.
also protect me from the evil of my tongue. You know, there are so many ways you can do besides that to protect your chest to help you to maintain yourself and continually man and keep your soul pure. For instance, if you are attractive to somebody, and you're not supposed to have a relationship with that person, also almost remember what I told you from
how the Shetty I have explained in details that those who will do any indecent act, they will face of severe punishment in the hereafter. And also remember, when you fulfill your desires and hella and how long, you're not going to enjoy the *, you're not going to enjoy the halaal don't ever take it Don't ever
live. Don't let yourself drag in thinking about how long whenever you start thinking about how long say I'm going to ship on obagi and don't just imagine and think cut this off and always think about what is good and what is pure. Always have somebody who can advise you and remind you as the men as the profit society
I'm used to be the advisor for some young men and woman who came to the Prophet salah and complained to him and asked him and he advised them the proper advice. Find this friend who can advise you to stay pure, help you to stay pure. May Allah subhanaw taala to make all of us among those who stay pure, or sallallahu wasallam Allah and abena Sabina Mohamad
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hamdulillah Welcome back. To continue our discussion about this important issue. How can we stay pure and how can we implement that meaning that alpha, alpha alpha, it comes from the word alpha which means Kapha which it means in English, if you want to translate this is a very hard word to translate, by the way, because it doesn't have one word. It has several meanings. I thought when you protect your trusty when you try to stay pure when you abstain and prevent yourself from involving in any in any indecent act. So any indecent act you do by your tongue, like using bad and false language, or by doing what you like, doing what is harm, which is like adultery or fornication,
they're having a legal relationship with the opposite *. This is, which is called Xena, or liwa. This is all considered indecent act and Islam. So our path is to stay pure. It's not to let your sexual lust take over you or control you. It's to stay always in the limit which Islam gives you. And this is something very unique also about this religion. Islam doesn't ask you to go against your filter again, it's the way Allah created you Allah created us with last. But Allah subhanaw taala told us how to fulfill our desire in a way, which not going to harm us, when somebody go fulfill his desires in a wrong way in the wrong way, what happened, he will start seeing all these disease
spreading and the community in the society, all these problems, all these children's from wedlock, all these children has no fathers, or their mothers might dump them in the street, because there is no father to take care of them. All these problems between
families, because of the idea of accepting the idea of having girlfriend or boyfriend or a sexual relationship out of marriage, it's terrible. It is terrible thing.
And whenever there is fornication that has other things on the side, drinking
drugs, and so on. My brothers and sisters, I have mentioned some of what the shitty I came with to build a pure society to help you to say no, when the right moment come to help you to stay pure in a society where his desires and last on one of the most common things in this society. As I told you, whenever you go left or right, you will see that everything around you might call you to fall in this trap and to
obey or go and fulfill your last in the wrong way. Internet, TV, movies, magazines, friends, schools, malls, streets, it's all over the place where people can be very hard stay away from such coals.
And I will also like to add a few points to the points I mentioned earlier because of the importance of this issue. So many people they don't care too much about the thoughts that they have in their mind. You know, any sense thought like an idea like a thought in your mind, then it will be developed to this thought to be an idea. And this idea we'll think about it more and more and more until became something you concern about. Then after it became something you're concerned about. You will be thinking seriously to do it. And the moment you start thinking seriously to do it, it will be developed to be an action
And you start doing it. And after you start doing it for one time, second time, third time, guess what it became happened. And the moment it became habit, it might develop that you will love it so much that you will commit yourself to it as if you're slave to it, as if you're slave to it. That's how to start it's up from just the thought. So if you have a thought to check one website, don't follow that thought, sale, and change your thoughts. If you have a thought about going to a club to see, to explore what is there, don't do that. If you have an idea about dating or calling somebody, somebody give you a number and tell you the call this number that is a nice guy to call or to talk
with or to spend some time with on phone or chatting on the internet. Or there is some girl you can call her and spend some time with her. She's a good listener, a good talker, say no, I'm not gonna think about that. Just throw it away. You know, when one of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, have committed something, he did something wrong, and the prophets are seldom ordered the Muslim to buy cut him, him and other two people. That man said, I got a message, a letter from a king, which is a king, which used to be in Syria. In that time. He told him, don't stay with Mohammed, come join us and we will give you the respect that you deserve. I heard that
Mohammed treating you bad. He was a Muslim. He got an offer enough from somebody to house them to honor him, you know, the Muslim site in Medina, nobody talking to him. He says Santa Monica. Nobody said when it comes to him, nobody talking to him at all. Imagine you're living in a society, nobody talking to you. And King offered you to come join Him and He will honor you, He will take care of you. You know what he did? He didn't think he didn't even give it a thought our family member had to know I took it and throw it in the fire. And the fireplace, I throw it in the fireplace, I burned I don't want to think about that. I don't want to give myself I don't give myself a chance to think
about this is very important for you to stay pure. Fight your thoughts. Don't let that take over your mind on your thinking. Also,
always remind yourself maybe in a simple way. I know one brother and a simple and physically. I know one brother who wrote a piece of paper, and he wrote in that piece of paper, lower your gaze. Whenever he goes in any place. He looked at it before he he goes inside like a mall or when he have it in his car. So he keep looking at it. I remember one sister, she told us about her story, why she became a Muslim.
She said, I used to go to that to work out into the gym. Anyway, she said I saw that young men who used to come and also to work out. But I noticed that he never ever looked at me. And she said usually these places people will try to build a relationship, you know, start like short talk. It's a place where people build relationships. So she said he'd never tried ever, but sometimes I saw him like looking at me, but he immediately will look to the other direction. I look at it. Anyway, one day saw him praying and that time she doesn't know what's praying me. She said I approached him. And I told him what to do. He said I was praying. She said what kind of praying is that? He said, this
is also prayer. And he said, I'm Muslim, and we pray. And she explained to me she said he explained to me a little bit about praying, constantly praying what it means to be Muslim. Anyway, I asked him for a date. She said like that I told him about if we go have lunch or dinner tonight, he said I can't. She said Oh, you're busy. He said no. She said I got offended when he said no. And I told him so why don't want to go with me. You don't like me? He said no, you're so beautiful girls, Mashallah you look nice. You look seems to be very nice girl. She said so why you don't want to go with me I'm offering. He said
because of this. Then he took out from his pocket lighter, and he light it up. And he said and she said
I didn't get it. What this has to do with that. He said if I go with you, this will be my destiny. And the hereafter Allah subhanaw taala will punish me and the Hellfire if I go with you. And if I accept your call, she said I couldn't control my tear at that moment. Because it felt I'm in front of a great men, that there is something greater than just
Lost in his heart, controlling him and driving him. There is something greater than just his attract that being attractive to a woman or to to me, and I'm offering him to go for a date. He has something he believes in it. And this is the belief in Allah subhana wa Taala
my brothers and sisters, it is very important for us to remember such stories to help us to stay pure. Once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam A man came to him and he said yeah, Rasul Allah, would you give me a permission to further educate a young man I can control my desire. What do you think the profits are? Salim answer was, the prophet SAW Selim did not tell him all the all the Hadith or the verses related to the fornication and how great sin it is. He is another way, a logical way. He said, Would you accept this to happen to your own mother, or your sister? He said, No,
I wouldn't accept this. Then he said the same thing nobody would would accept it to his mother or his sister, which means any woman you're going to sleep with, she has a son, she has a brother, they wouldn't accept that job and to their mother, or to their sister as well. So this way of communicating or convincing the youth to stay pure, can be also very effective today. Think about it this way, whenever any color or your shape bond, or your soul that call you to do such indecent act, think about would accept this to happen to my own sister to my wife, to my daughter, to my mother, no one will accept that happened to him. So why would you do that to somebody else? Why would you do
that to somebody else?
Also,
remember, my brothers and sisters, that being around good friends, being around good people will always help you to stay pure. But being around bad company will always show you the way to the Heron you know bad how many bad friends they will tell you. Why don't try this. You know, I try this. There is nothing wrong with it. I have I had fun last night, come party with us. Come to visit this website. Let's go talk to this person or that girl. They always invite you They always encourage you to do what is not allowed. So stay away from the bad come Don't let them drag you to their way. Always stay around good people. If our Prophet Mohammed Salim was asked to stay around the good
people, and to stick himself with the good people. So what about yourself, also Shetty I told us something very unique. I would like to say in the end of this series, or in this episode, that she also told us that we should watch our tongue and the way we talk we should not talk in a way to try to seduce the other person. Some people when they talk to the opposite * they use unspecial tone, they change the way you talk. So the will be able to seduce the person. You see the brother Mashallah phone call came? And he said yes. Now. Hello. But if it's a girl, he immediately change. Yes. How can I help you? He also changed the tone of his voice. Because you know, this is a guy he's
talking to in the phone. So make sure when you talk to somebody, you talking to the proper tone, don't change your tone, to take over the heart of the person who's talking to you. I think these steps, these steps will help us to stay pure and to protect our chesty. May Allah subhana wa Taala to help all of us are Salallahu Salam ala nabina Muhammad
you know, also some Japanese in their tradition that they don't shake hands woman will not shake hands with a strange man. Actually, it is also some people study that they said
When it comes to professional relationship, that shaking hands with woman not be the proper way to do it. Anyway, that's not a big deal about that. But the point is in Islam in Nabhi, so someone told us this long time ago, because he wants to keep the society pure.
So if this is about shaking hand, what about the hugging and kissing and people joking with each other, sometimes God side parting with each other, dancing with each other, and holding each other hands, putting his hand on her shoulder. And so under she doing this to him, touching his face, touching her face, all this no doubt, it is not allowed in Islam, kissing and all these things, no doubt, it's not allowed. And it's a sin. And it's forbidden. So the Muslim should not do such thing. Unless he do that with his wife, or somebody from his Muharram to shake your hand or touch her hand, also, and Islam, older
woman and men as well,
to lower their gaze. You know, as for men, they're not allowed to look at woman they're not related to and they should lower their gaze and they should not keep staring at women.
I'm saying this to those who keeps tearing a TV channels and looking at the singers and dancers of the TV without even feeling anything wrong with that. For those sisters are also looking at dancer and singers and the TV and sometimes sports men or sports women and keep staring without feeling there is something even wrong with that. And sometimes people look and stare with desire. And here the case will be a clear cut. It's not allowed and it's Haram.
You know, don't ever take this issue lightly. I mean, the issue of looking and staring to the to somebody is not related to you.
There is a young man he was he called then in Iraq. One day he was giving Dan the old days you know, there's no microphones, so he got into the marriage, and he will call the other one is in Haryana sauna, Haryana sauna, he still turned his head left. And he sold the beautiful girl Mashallah next door, and the roof, she was washing the claws.
And when he saw her, he froze
it and continue that then he sold Mashallah beautiful girls, and he stopped then.
And he left the masjid. And he went straight to their house, knocked the door and said, I want to get married.
Then the father said, who you are, is it. I'm the mother of the mustard next door. He said, but we are not Muslims. We're not Muslims. We're Christian. And we don't give our daughter to a Muslim person. Then you have to be a Christian, if you want our daughter. He said I don't mind. And he converted to Christianity. And he married the girl. But the story goes like this. And this is a true story. When he woke up in the morning, he was dead. He was dead. He lost his faith. Just because he's so a woman in a position that look took over his heart and make him change his whole entire faith. Don't think looking doesn't mean anything. So many people said chip, we don't feel that soft
heart. When we pray, we don't cry. Here like in the night. We need to have the soft heart. Yes, you need your heart to be soft mortgage, protect your gate. Don't be looking to the hot on dead nights and tell me I don't enjoy reading Quran. I don't enjoy my pm late in the night. Because all this has an effect on your heart.
Also in Islam, and Islam, encourage men and woman to get married. You know, it's so sad to hear some people saying you get married you because when the moment you became married, there is no more fun in life anymore. Or love end when marriage marriage start. This is wrong. This is the people who want to spread desires in societies. Love should start with marriage and marriage with marriage love should grow and became stronger, stronger. Marriage is one way to protect your chastity and Islam. encourage people to do that. If you can't, and Islam also give you another opportunity or another solution that you fast a lot because when you fast that will help you to have self control and to
control your desire. Also in Islam,
it's from the etiquette of the prophets, Allah Allah from the teaching of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam
When you're when your son or daughter reached the age of 10 years old, you should not let them sleep together in one bed cover with one blanket, you should separate between them. And Subhanallah some people said why, you know, with my, in my experience in the West when I see so many people have been molested in their childhood, and when asked, they've been molested by some relatives, and because they use either to sleep with them in bed or because they don't cover themselves properly in front of them. And there are so many sad and bad story like this. So this is one of the etiquette of the profits are some of them taught us also he said don't touch, don't touch somebody's shoulder or back
if he has nothing on his back like people go swimming pool girls is not allowed. The woman is not allowed to put your hand on other woman's back if it's not covered, and as well as men, and SubhanAllah. We see these days, we see these this those people who are attractive to the same * like a man attractive to men and woman attractive to women. And these teaching in the early time to make the heart pure, and the mind pure.
Also, Islam asked us to take a permission before we enter in your room or any house because you don't want to walk in and a house and you see some somebody in a position maybe is not proper or is not covered in the proper way. Also to slam encourage people to make a lot of their out, to supplicate to Allah subhana wa to Allah to protect their chastity in the visa Salaam himself used to say that Allah Minnesota alhuda toka FF our Lena who Allah has blessed me with FF blood me Make me among those who are pure and can protect my Chester de la mapa her can be awesome 4g, Allah purify my heart, and protect me from doing anything wrong. Or being involved in in any indecent Act, or law
protect me from the evil of my eyes, from the evil of my ear to eat to hear something not proper or to see something not a proper or not, I'm not allowed to see.
also protect me from the evil of my tongue. You know, there are so many ways you can do besides that, to protect your chest, to help you to maintain yourself and continually man and keep yourself pure. For instance, if you are attractive to somebody, and you're not supposed to have a relationship with that person, also, almost remember what I told you from
how the shediac have explained in details that those who will do any indecent act, they will face of severe punishment in the hereafter. And also remember, when you fulfill your desires and hella and how long, you're not going to enjoy the Helen, you're not going to enjoy the Helen. Don't ever take it Don't ever.
Don't let yourself drag in thinking about how long whenever you start thinking about how long are we going to ship on the body. And don't just imagine and think cut this off and always think about what is good and what is pure. Always have somebody who can advise you and remind you as the men as the prophets of Salaam used to be the advisor for some young men and woman who came to the Prophet salah and complained to him and asked him and he advised them the proper advice. Find this friend who can advise you to stay pure, help you to stay pure. May Allah subhanaw taala to make all of us among those who stay pure are sallallahu wasallam Allah and Amina Mohammed.
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hamdulillah Welcome back. To continue our discussion about this important issue. How can we stay pure and how can we implement that meaning the alpha, alpha alpha it comes from the word alpha which means Kapha which it means in English if you want to translate this is a very hard word to translate By the way, because it doesn't have one word. It has several meanings are found when you protect your chest when you try
To stay pure, when you abstain and prevent yourself from involving in any in any indecent act. So any indecent act you do by your tongue, like using bad and false language, or by doing what you like, doing what is harm, which is like adultery or fornication, having a legal relationship with the opposite *. This is, which is called Xena, or liwa, this is all considered indecent act and Islam so far is to stay pure, it's not to let your sexual loss take over you or control you. It's to stay always in the limit which Islam gives you. And this is something very unique also about this religion. Islam doesn't ask you to go against your filter, again is the way Allah created you, Allah
created us with lust. But Allah subhanaw taala told us how to fulfill our desires in a way, which not going to harm us, when somebody go fulfill his desires in a wrong way, in the wrong way, what happened, he will start seeing all these disease spreading in the community in the society, all these problems, all these children's from work, like all these children has no fathers, or their mothers might dump them in the street, because there is no father to take care of them. All these problems between
families, because of the idea of accepting the idea of having girlfriend or boyfriend or sexual relationship out of marriage, it's terrible, it is terrible thing.
And whenever there is fornication, that is other things on the side, drinking
drugs, and so on. My brothers and sisters, I have mentioned some of what the shediac came with to build a pure society to help you to say no, when the right moment come to help you to stay pure in a society where his desires and last on one of the most common things in this society. As I told you, whenever you go left or right, you will see that everything around you might call you to fall in this trap and to
obey or go and fulfill your last in the wrong way. Internet, TV, movies, magazines, friends, schools, malls, streets, it's all over the place where people can be very hard stay away from such coals.
And I will also like to add a few points to the points I mentioned earlier, because of the importance of this issue. So many people, they don't care much about the thoughts that they have in their mind. You know, any sin start like an idea, like a thought in your mind, then it will be developed to this thought to be an idea. And this idea, we'll think about it more and more and more, until became something you concern about. Then after it became something you're concerned about, you will be thinking seriously to do it. And the moment you start thinking seriously to do it, it will be developed to be an action and you start doing it. And after you start doing it for one time,
second time, third time, guess what it became habit. And the moment it became habit, it might develop that you will love it so much that you will commit yourself to it as if you're slave to it as if you're slave to it. That's how to start from just a thought. So if you have a thought to check one website, don't follow that thought sale. gov strategy and change your thoughts. If you have a thought about going to a club to see, to explore what is there. Don't do that. If you have an idea about dating or calling somebody, somebody gives you a number until you call this number that is a nice guy to call or to talk with or to spend some time with on phone or chatting internet or there
is some girl you can call her and spend some times with her. She's a good listener, a good talker, say no, I'm not gonna think about that. Just throw it away. You know, when one of the companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, have committed something, he did something wrong and the prophet SAW Selim ordered the Muslim to bite him, him and other two people. That man said I got a message, a letter from a king, which is a king which used to be in Syria. In that time. He told him
Don't stay with Mohammed, come join us and we will give you the respect that you deserve. I heard that Mohammed treating you bad. He was a Muslim. He got an offer enough from somebody, to house them to honor him, you know, the Muslim site in Medina, nobody talking to him, he says Santa Monica, nobody said when it comes to him, nobody talking to him at all. Imagine you living in a society, nobody talking to you, and King offered you to come join Him and He will honor you, He will take care of you. You know what he did, he didn't think he didn't even give it a thought our family member had to know I took it and throw it in the fire in the fireplace, I throw it in the fireplace,
and burn. I don't want to think about that. I don't want to give myself I don't give myself a chance to think about this is very important for you to stay pure. Fight your thoughts. Don't let it take over your mind on your thinking. Also,
always remind yourself maybe in a simple way. I know one brother and a simple and physically I know one brother who wrote a piece of paper, and he wrote in that piece of paper, lower your gaze. Whenever he goes in any place. He looked at it before he he goes inside like a mall or when he have it in his car. So he keep looking at it. I remember one sister, she told us about her story, why she became a Muslim.
She said, I used to go to that to work out into the gym. Anyway, she said I saw that young men who used to come and also to work out. But I noticed that he never ever looked at me. And she said usually in these places people will try to build a relationship, you know, start like short talk. It's a place where people build relationships. So she said he'd never tried ever, but sometimes I saw him like looking at me, but he immediately will look to the art direction. I look at it. Anyway, one day saw him praying and that time she doesn't know what's praying me. She said, I approached him. And I told him what to do. He said I was praying. She said what kind of praying is that? He
said, this is also prayer. And he said, I'm Muslim, and we pray. And she explained to me, she said he explained to me a lot about praying, constantly praying and what it means to be Muslim. Anyway, I asked him for a date. She said like that I told him about if we go have lunch or dinner tonight, he said I can't. She said Oh, you're busy. He said no. She said I got offended when he said no. And I told him so why don't want to go with me. You don't like me? He said no, you're so beautiful girls, Mashallah you look nice. You look seems to be very nice girl. She said so why you don't want to go with me I'm offering. He said,
because of this. Then he took out from his pocket lighter, and he light it up. And he said and she said,
I didn't get it. What this has to do with that. He said if I go with you, this is will be my destiny. And the hereafter Allah subhanaw taala will punish me and the Hellfire if I go with you. And if I accept your call, she said I couldn't control my tear at that moment. Because I felt I'm in front of a great man, that there is something greater than just the last in his heart, controlling him and driving him. There is something greater than just his attract that being attractive to a woman or two to me, and I'm offering him to go for a date. He has something he believes in it. And this is the belief in Allah subhana wa Taala
my brothers and sisters, it is very important for us to remember such stories to help us to stay pure. Once the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam A man came to him and he said yeah, Rasul Allah, would you give me a permission to further Kate? I'm a young man, I can control my desire. What do you think the prophet SAW Selim? Answer was? The prophets of Salaam did not tell him all the all the Hadith or the verses related to the fornication and how great sin it is. He is another way, a logical way. He said, Would you accept this to happen to your own mother or your sister? He said, No jasola I wouldn't accept this. Then he said the same thing. Nobody would would accept it to his
mother or his sister, which means any woman you're going to sleep with. She has a son, she has a brother, they wouldn't accept that job into their mother or to their sister as well. So this way of communicating or convincing, the youth to stay pure, can be also very effective today.
Think about it this way, whenever any color or your shape bond, or your soul call you to do such indecent act, think about would accept this to happen to my own sister to my wife, to my daughter to my mother, no one will accept that to happen to him. So why would you do that to somebody else? Why would you do that to somebody else?
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remember my brothers and sisters, that being around good friends, being around good people will always help you to stay pure. But being around bad company will always show you the way to the Heron you know, Bad Company bad friends, they will tell you why you don't try this. You know, I try this there is nothing wrong with it. I have I had fun last night, come party with us, come to visit this website. Let's go talk to this person or that girl. They always invite you They always encourage you to do what is not allowed. So stay away from the bad come Don't let them drag you to their way. Always stay around good people. If our Prophet Mohammed Salim was asked to stay around the good
people, and to stick himself with the good people. So what about yourself? Also Sherry, I told us something very unique. I would like to say in the end of this series, or in this episode, that she also told us that we should watch our tongue and the way we talk we should not talk in a way to try to seduce the other person. Some people when they talk to the opposite * they use unspecial tone, they change the way you talk. So the will be able to seduce the person. You see the brother Mashallah phone call came? And he said, Yes, ma'am. Hello. But if it's a girl, he immediately change. Yes. How can I help you He also changed the tone of his voice. Because you know, this is a
guy he's talking to in the phone. So make sure when you talk to somebody, you're talking to the proper tone. Don't change your tone, to take over the heart of the person who's talking to you. I think these steps These steps will help us to stay pure, and to protect our chastity May Allah subhana wa Taala to help all of us are Sol Allah wa salam ala nabina Muhammad