Waleed Basyouni – Do Not, a Reflection of Do Not in Surah Al Kahf

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The speaker discusses the importance of learning to forgive oneself and avoiding negative self-talk in a culture where everyone is trying to grab control. They argue that learning and embracing one's own abilities are crucial for avoiding negative consequences. The speaker also emphasizes the need for individuals to learn to accept and love oneself, and to accept and love others.

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			hamdulillah in Canada who want to stay in who want to study who want to start Pharaoh? When I was
when I'm in Shoreham fusina woman siata Marina de la Fernando de la la Allahumma you build further
howdy Allah, wa shadow Allah Allah Illallah Hola Hola, sharika wash Adana, Mohammed Abu rasuluh
Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad while he was off to be he was a limit Allahu
Mehta, Sleeman kathira. About all praise due to Alon His praise and blessings and peace be upon our
Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam his family, his companions and his followers until the
day of judgment, I bear witness that allows the only one worthy of worship and Muhammad sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam his last and final messenger,
		
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			one of the surahs that are many Muslims and hamdulillah charactery site and Friday sort of tilka
		
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			and there is a hadith been reported recommending Muslim to read and to recite sort of the calf on
the night of Friday, which is Thursday night or the day of Friday. And there is debate over the
authenticity of it, but it is widely accepted and recommended by many of the Muslim scholars. And
it's a very well known surah to many of us. And one of the things that is important for us whenever
there is something we've been asked to read or to recite, often to reflect upon them. And today I
want to just pick one thing in this order, which is the don'ts in the soil, Dawn's la sawtell calf,
when I lost my daughter says do not or one this verse that is something about do not do that or do
		
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			not do this. You find one of the basically we'll talk about There are nine of them. So the first one
you will see when Allah subhana wa tada said, fell out to Maddie fee him in euro euro.
		
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			Allah subhanho data said after he telling us how they will argue over how many
		
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			persons were in the cat in the cave. They were 457 whatever the numbers, you know and all this
debate 4567 Okay. And the eighth is their dogs which number is correct Allah subhanaw taala told the
Prophet Mohammed sauce on them. So all Mohammed Mallard is most knowing of their number. None knows
them except a few. So do not argue about them.
		
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			Do not argue about them with an except with an obvious argument Illa Mira and baja except with an
obvious obvious is it's not about translation, but also the word to me and I'm blah, Hannah, it's an
obvious argument. And also a nice argument in a bottle of coffee, and lovely lady Lisa V and Hilda
that you're not aggressive, you're not mean. So that's what Mira Avada means Allah subhanaw taala
here telling Muhammad sallahu wa salam do not argue about this. And this is something that very
interesting that because sometimes we argue over things, and we have really no facts, or we or don't
have facts about it. Nobody knows how many of them exactly are there. So sometimes we get engaged in
		
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			arguing over things that we have no knowledge of, we have no facts to back up our claim, and we
should not be engaged in such arguments. Also, this shows you that no need for arguing over
something that is not beneficial. Any what will make a difference of the order five or six, six or
eight? What will be the difference to us? The point of the story is still there. Sometimes we get
distracted into arguments that is not beneficial at all. And unless the first thing he's saying you
just don't and even he address Mohammed zasada but it's all of us. Even this is about this
particular story, but it can apply to everything in our life that we need to learn to avoid so many
		
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			of these arguments, which is waste our time waste our energy and drain us especially in a time of
social media and people engage on back and forth an argument arguing over you know matters many
times are not beneficial.
		
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			At a gentle be Shakeel ameth Moon from Orion was sin, generally speaking, arguing is something
written criticize something negative, something not been praised in the Orion and the sun.
		
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			Only arguing are recommended if it is done by right methodology with the right intention. And not
only that, what kind of muscle How long do you have an intercooler see thus I have in the Akash when
the Kunal is a wonderful massage
		
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			Mr. Huston Nia hola sila to confirm of setup modality. So no matter human law said that three things
that has to be with the right way of arguing, so I argue with knowledge, not with no desires or
ignorance with the right intention not to just to show off, not to prove you're wrong, not to pick
on you not to, you know, prove my family or my group or whatever, my my, my canvas is correct. And
also said, third one, that there is a greater benefit. Because so many times even if your intention
is good, you want to learn the knowledge, even if you argue with evidence and stuff like that, but
so waste of time
		
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			as no no benefit that is much more important things to talk about. Here. So the these three
conditions, if you look at it, it will eliminate so many of our arguments, and I believe that this
is also a great advice for us at home. So many times we engage in argument, you know, it is such
it's a such a I know in certain age, children love to argue, love to for the sake of arguing why and
why what is this? What is that? So make sure that if you ever have to go into that argue with them,
to teach them first of all argue is not a good thing.
		
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			And t let's let's make sure that we start from home from early age, you know, debate has its own
rules and situations and Manan limited time. But he cannot transfer out of life to be all debating
one another at all. And we argue with one another all the time. And if I have to engage in such
argument, make sure that you rise your words not your voice.
		
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			Because remember, what truly makes affects on the ground is the rain not the thunder.
		
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			So make sure that you always elevate your argument. You know, you can say whatever you mean but not
in a mean way.
		
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			You can always make your point without you know disrespecting the others.
		
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			Number two, which is comes right after it. What are the stiff diffie Minh whom I had an Aveda and
Allah subhanaw taala next set and do not and that's the second one choir about them. Among the
basically from any one of them, and you don't ask about the numbers or the knowledge of the people
of El Cap the story of al Qaeda from them, don't seek knowledge from them. Why? Because they have no
knowledge. And that's also an important lessons for us in our life.
		
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			pelegrin Amanda delille Allah Adam jervois stifter nj Rama, Rama. Rama said that's a proof that you
cannot ask and seek photo from someone who is ignorant, or someone who has no knowledge.
		
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			It's like, you know, you can do that. And we know that but when it comes to religion, when it comes
to Unfortunately, many areas of our life, we don't practice what we know. We go ask and seek advice
and guidance from people who have no clue would be talking about. Also, don't ever seek an advisor,
or an aura, or a judgment or an answer from someone you know that they are bias that they are filled
with hate the odd filled with jealousy. Don't ever seek guidance from someone who follow their
desires, because they're not going to guide you.
		
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			And don't seek any knowledge from them.
		
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			The third one, what are takodana Nishi enough? Daddy Gohan Illa Yasha did not say and never say of
anything. Indeed, I will do that tomorrow. Except when adding if Allah Who else. So you're not
allowed. You don't say I will do this tomorrow. Without saying in sha Allah insha Allah is something
to be said about the future, not the past. Because if Allah wills you cannot say in sha Allah, my
name is Walid colosse. My name is really long time ago. It makes no sense. You have to use inshallah
about something in the future. It's in Charlotte's Friday. It's already Friday, unless you look and
I don't know everybody's Friday house, but it's already done. So you can't you can't
		
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			Say that and a lot of people do it, but they don't pay attention to it. But the point is, from a
loss of either telling us this, what's the point?
		
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			The point is that you connect your heart with a loss candidate in every matter of your life. No
matter how sure you are, no matter how confident you are, no matter how many precautions you took,
you still say insha Allah
		
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			you know, the story of Jehovah is a character. He was going to the market have his donkey with him
tiding the dog holding the rope and went to the dog to the in his way his friend's son, what are you
going he's going to sell my donkey? I'm gonna sell them and make some money today. They said St.
shala is in the market there. Everybody needs a donkey and I have it. You know and my
		
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			he went and he could distracted by somebody selling something there. He's planning to sell his
donkey get that new thing that you saw. Somebody came in, untied the donkey, put it on a tree, and
instead hang it on a tree and a bunch of tree and took the dog. So he came back after. After he got
his he looked for his donkey everywhere. He couldn't find it has the rope around his neck and so
sad. His headstone as we say is tails between his legs. And his friends told him Hey, what happened?
Did you sell it? He said no. He said What happened? You said you're gonna sell it. He said yeah, it
was stolen in sha Allah.
		
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			Allah. Now he's saying it doesn't work. You know, it's about the future. The point is, no matter how
confident you are about what you think you have, you should always learn to see in sha Allah. That's
the ways how love the NBA has it digitally. Insha Allah who saw built on what I see the camera,
that's moussaka his salon. It's not in color. Yeah, but if tomorrow, Saturday dooney insha Allah who
you know saw Dean that's use of out of his Sam. Hello Miss Allah insha. Allah, me Nene. You know,
Lockard sada below or pseudo Roja bellhawk lettered Harun al Masjid al Haram in sha Allah, meaning
and we're headed up in Osaka Li. So, he you see many verses upon telling us that this is how the
		
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			prophets, the messengers, this is the etiquette that we should be aware of, and we can get used to
it. One of the benefits of this any saying inshallah, it will prevent you from any form of lying,
because let's say I'm going to do this in Sharla. And he didn't do it, whatever happened that
distracted or prevented you from it. It's it's became not a lie, because you're all said, insha
Allah, that's why in when you make an oath, while law he I will do this inshallah, and he didn't do
it, you don't need to pay penalty, because you have added insha Allah to it.
		
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			Another, the fourth one, when Allah subhanaw taala said, What are tied to INR can reduce to reduce
in dunya. Allah Subhana Allah said to Mohammed Solomon, to all of us, talking about the importance
of being surrounding yourself with a good company,
		
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			and good company, start with your spouse,
		
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			your children, your family, your community,
		
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			to the friends, the circle goes bigger and bigger, even outside, like stick with people who are
good.
		
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			Be around surround yourself with people who are good people.
		
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			And a lot smarter said to Mohammed Salim and let not your eyes pass beyond them.
		
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			Desiring the dominance of the worldly life
		
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			as a very good advice for all of us is to not only be with the good people, but we don't look to
other than them. We don't design even that desire in the heart should not be there. We should fight
it. While I sometimes I know it is hard somebody told me it's hard to deal with some of the
brothers. You know what, but the audio brothers
		
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			Don't let the ship on drag you by looking for
		
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			because you didn't know where you end.
		
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			And we'll always this summer was been a layup on there's patience there is struggle
		
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			in it. And also the loss of Allah bless you the good family, good children don't just look outside,
focus because when you look far away, you never appreciate what you have next to you.
		
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			Also this verse saying, don't be seeking the adornment of this dunion Don't be make it the goal. The
goal is not the luxury of this life. The goal is to survive this life is to make sure that you go to
gender.
		
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			Then last Mandela said, while I am an alpha male, the Kareena What about the fifth don't and do not
obey one whose hearts we have made heedless of our
		
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			remembrance and who follows his desire is one though the dangerous thing you do in your life you
follow those who follow their desires and what many of them we have
		
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			a lot of people follow especially online especially no live taking role models who are just people
following their desires they have no rule of law and how long they don't follow what is right and
what's wrong we follow what is their heart You know, telling them I thought it many definitely Illa
haha
		
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			those who have taken their desires as their god, what kind of Emre who furutani Florida Animoto for
		
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			those people who have described to follow their desires that are all over the place, they cannot
concentrate, how I noticed this very clear those who follow the desires cannot build anything cannot
accomplish anything.
		
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			Those who have no you know, such unique ability to control themselves have a self discipline because
following desires as sign of no self discipline
		
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			cannot accomplish much in life. I asked a las panatela and you know, yeah, come in and how in Assam
salatu salam al
		
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			hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala Nava Hobart, the fifth, the sixth one, Allah Subhana, Allah said
about the story of a cover on most I said, ferratas elmia. And she and her daughter came into the
car. He said, to Moosa,
		
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			do not ask me about anything until I make to you, or I will give you information about it first. You
know, sometimes we rush to ask too many questions. If we became patient a lot, we're up to the judge
wants to question people's, what you need to do, just hold on, wait, on things will be clear,
especially when you deal with people have knowledge with people of, you know, expertise with the
leaders. You know, just wait until things clear up. You didn't need to judge people quickly and make
these accusations in the form of questions. And
		
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			here, this verse cannot be used by some, some people used it to say you with the leaders or the shoe
or the whatever kind of leadership you are, it means that you have no opinion you have no
objections, you have no way to say to ask questions. That's not the point from the vert the verse
and let the commercial vehicle convey it.
		
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			That's not the point. The point is, just don't be disrespectful. Just don't be hasty. That's the
point of the verse. Also, there is another point we need to learn. Laser cool. lol mute club besar.
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			Assad.
		
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			Assad will see the wide the clinical side Oh.
		
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			What Oh, and Mr. Allah will share your message we do matters. And sometimes we think that the only
way to learn to acquire knowledge by asking questions, sometimes what you need to do to be quiet.
Just listen.
		
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			It's not always about the asking questions. Number seven, lateral thinking even NSE. Yes or No, do
not blame me for what I forgot.
		
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			How we need to learn how to forgive one another, how to have excuses for one another. If you have
not begun to be held accountable for what you forgot, in front of Allah, what about you? Think about
all those excuses for your brothers before you jump the gun.
		
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			seminar number eight, what our total health and human embryos saw. And do not cover me in my matters
with difficulty and another word, do not overburden me. And that's very true. There is people man
when you deal with them, the overburden you it became such a heavy thing to deal with them. Like
every time you know, it became like a struggle just to spend some times with them. Don't have this
kind of quality. Don't be so heavy.
		
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			You know, be a someone who was you know, when you are with someone, you're not a burden on the
person. As a matter of fact, you're the opposite. Don't ask people too much. Don't put too much
Canada on the others. That's not a good quality and unless my daughter said, teaching us through
that story not to be like that.
		
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			Number nine,
		
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			Farah to savini. Don't be my friend. Don't be in my company. You know what? That's a great lesson.
Sometimes you need to move on.
		
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			Sometimes you just say I don't want you this way. And I'm done.
		
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			Sometimes you have to make that decision in your life. And it became so hard to make the decision if
you have to make it with someone who's near to you close to you on it tell some people who have made
the decision and maybe they left their spouses
		
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			and it was the right decision don't regret it. Maybe that you did it based on right decision, you
know what move on in your life. I want to say to many people that they have broken a partnership in
business. You know what, don't regret it. If that was the right decision, move on. Maybe you are
broken a friendship with someone, you know what don't don't overburden because sometimes that's the
right course of action. I need to move on I need to leave this person behind me and and keep going.
If life moves on, we need to learn how to move on to
		
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			you know, you will evolve past certain people. So let yourself grow and past those people and grow.
		
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			And that's a very important lessons for us to learn. Sometimes we keep hanging on to some people
that they keep dragging us down, pulling us down you know what, just let it go.
		
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			I'm not encouraging to cut ties with people. No, but I'm carrying that you full, take full
responsibility of your life and to surrounding fellow to serve me. And with respect, you have
excused. Maybe we just not the best match. You know, just doesn't work. Don't make a fight don't
like ruin his life here on your life. Just move on. These are something that I do believe like,
whenever we reflect in the Koran you will see how much the Quran can relate to our daily life and
our life and can be a guidance for us in so many areas in our life. I asked the last panel data and
you Jamil in a big meeting that he always beautiful is with the best of manners and bless us and
		
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			forgive our sins all of our give all our sins forgive our sins and forgive the sins of our parents
or family members our brothers and sisters
		
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			the living in the dead and we asked you to protect us and to protect our family and our wealth and
our health and our loved one and
		
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			from all kinds of evil
		
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			in this dunya and in the fire alarm amin a llama had you know had you know half you know what for
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			could have
		
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			solomo Salima barik ala nabina Muhammad when he Asahi salami lomita Sleeman kathira
		
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			have my art class about excellence and polls and flaws of manners. Thankful knowledge will shift
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			register to vote registration to vote and Monday October 5. Zach O'Hara homeless