Wael Ibrahim – Halal Intimacy #05 – Early marriage

			Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah
he Salah OLALIA Selim. Welcome back Brothers and Sisters in Islam and everyone to Halal in Tennessee
today in sha Allah Allah we are talking about early marriage and before delving into the topic, I'd
like to see your comments. Do you agree or disagree on early marriage? What's your advice to parents
who always delay marriages for various excuses, so jot down your comments below Inshallah, to Allah
and let's get started.
		

			My Brothers and Sisters in Islam, Allah subhanaw taala had created us with various desires that
whether you like it or not, whether you wanted to control these desires, or not, at one point in
life, you will have the urge to fulfill these desires and one of these intense desires is actually
our desires for sexual intimacy. And so if these desires are controlled unnecessarily, in other
words, if marriage was delayed, without really valid excuse, then our children in no long time, they
will stumble across *, they will have the urge to masturbate and worst of all, they will
commit Zina and this is the ultimate reason my brothers and sisters Islam, why marriage should not
		

			be delayed without a valid reason. But at the same time, it is our responsibilities educators and of
course, especially parents to educate their children from day one about the roles the rights and
responsibilities of marriage, we want it to create mature generation who will value that
constitution of marriage because as soon as their organs are matured, they will seek out sexual
intimacy so we better prepare them as early as possible. We must also remind our youngsters who are
maybe watching now, that erection and reaching the age of puberty are not necessarily the signs for
your maturity and readiness to get married and carry out these responsibilities. You must understand
		

			very, very clearly that sexual urge is just one part of the essential requirements for marriage
under the Sharia of Allah subhanho wa taala. So yes, we definitely recommend marriage at early age,
however, you have to also fulfill all the other essential requirements for the marriage to be
successful on all levels. So you might feel those sexual urges from time to time but my brothers and
sisters Islam our religion is the religion of patience and struggle against our evil inclination. So
if you're not fully ready for this relationship for the halal relationship with your spouse, then
you will have to follow the advice of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu, wasallam Yamashita Shadab,
		

			all young people who's whoever amongst you is capable of getting married, get married, but if you
can't then exercise patience through fasting because fasting usually curbs the sexual desires
because our deen my brothers and sisters in Islam is a very well balanced religion. It encourages
marriage Yes, but also it for Bidzina *, celibacy and having boyfriends and girlfriends
and enjoying each other without this strong bond that Allah subhanaw taala mentioned in the Quran.
mythique Lolly, the very strong bond that you create between yourselves and Allah subhanho wa taala.
It's a covenant between yourselves and Allah. So if you don't have the means to fulfill this and
		

			take that step, that patience through fasting, that's the advice given by the Prophet Muhammad SAW
Salam, it's hard. It's not easy, but it's doable in sha Allah and otherwise my brothers and sisters
in slam the consequences of these lose relationships is very, very dangerous. You may not see it now
because you're experiencing those attachment and emotions towards one another, but you will
definitely see it if you come home one day and found yourself pregnant, you definitely see it when
you see the entire world is crumbling over your head as a result of your bad choices. And that's why
my message to parents once again is please work hard from day one on educating your children to be
		

			ready for that day. I have seen a hungry lion in my counseling career. So many youngsters who were
brought up upon that direction. And when they were in uni, Allah subhanaw taala opened doors for
them to get married. The boys were very responsible to actually take small jobs in cafeterias and
restaurants and the like, while they are studying their studies never affected on the relationship,
neither their marriage affected on their studies. And in fact, until this day, they are part of my
volunteering team and mashallah Tabata cola. You can see them successful on all levels. All it takes
my brothers and sisters in Islam is courageous parents to take that approach and change that culture
		

			surrounding marriage and its expenses that makes people
		

			fear getting into that step we have made marriage the lawful relationship between spouses very, very
difficult and very expensive. While the Haram is absolutely free, may Allah subhanaw taala protect
us all. And once again comment below if you agree or disagree on early marriages May Allah subhanaw
taala save our children from any vices of that nature. I mean, I mean, I mean please don't forget to
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Allah Allah in the next episode as Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh