Tom Facchine – When Will We FIX Ourselves

			The nature of desire is that desire keeps moving. This is something that we get wrong. In our
society today, people are under the impression that if you if it occurs to you to want something,
then you're not going to be happy until you express that desire, you indulge that desire, you
satisfy that desire in some way. And in our tradition, both in the Quran and in the statements of
the Prophet Muhammad Ali sought out Salam. They told us that desire doesn't work like that, that
desire is a moving target. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam said that if a person had a valley of
gold, that they would want another one, and that people will not be satisfied until their mounds are
		

			filled with the dirt of the grapes. Alright, so satisfaction doesn't come from just engaging your
desires. Yes, we have to find a healthy outlet, okay? Like we're not like celibate. So we're not
monastics or anything like that, we have to find a healthy outlet for our desires, you know, but we
can't succumb to the other extreme and think that whatever we desire, we just have to satisfy it,
indulge it, act on it, and then we're going to be satisfied. No, that's not how you're supposed to,
in fact, no pre modern society, or at least the major, quote, unquote, world religions. And I don't
agree with that sort of paradigm. But if we're going to call them world religions, most faith
		

			communities, let's say, recognize that you have to interact and control and discipline your desires,
your desires can get, they can be a runaway train, it can be a snowball rolling down a hill, that
the more that you indulge them without any limits, without any discipline without any virtue, that
they're going to demand more and more and more of you. All right. And we see this a lot with
relationships, people, they're used to, you know, looking at women, or looking at men, and they're
scrolling through Facebook or for Tik Tok, or whatever. And they're looking, they're looking,
they're looking, and they're getting filled with all these desires. And in our community, the Muslim
		

			community, people like oh, just get married, it's going to solve it, and it's not going to solve it.
You've engaged your desire so much that marriage can't fix that issue that you've done with your
desire, you're going to get married, and you're still going to look at other people, you're still
going to want to be with other people. And then some people will kind of crack jokes and say, Well,
you get to marry for doesn't matter, you can marry 20. If you can't control your this, and you can't
control your desires and discipline them, it's never going to be enough because desire doesn't work
that way. Desire is always going to have another frontier that you can push it to right desire is
		

			always going to have is going to demand more and more and more. And so people need to be realistic.
They need to actually train themselves and discipline themselves and then fight against themselves
and fight against the excess excess, to the point where they can actually enjoy the legitimate and
the purposeful and the intentional satisfaction of their desire in a healthy way, according to what
Allah revealed.