Tom Facchine – What You Do Is Not Who You Are – Make a Change

Tom Facchine
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The speaker discusses the distinction between what one is and their identity, emphasizing the importance of recognizing what one is and not just trying to paint a picture of themselves. They also mention that one can change one's behavior and that one's identity is not defined by their past experiences or past habits.

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			big misconception people have today. They conflate what you do with who you are.
		
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			And that's a really significant mistake to make. Because you are different from just what you do.
For example, if I, you know, let's say that when I get angry, then I say bad words, I curse, right?
Or I insult other people. Okay? This is an action that I do.
		
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			This is maybe even a habit that I have,
		
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			do I get to construct an identity around it? And say, you know, this is just who I am. I'm just one
of these angry person people. And of course, we're talking about normal, we're not talking about
like a medical situation, we're talking about non medical situations, right? I don't have a tick, I
don't have like, you know, like, this is,
		
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			right. Non medical scenario. This is not valid. You cannot say that this is my identity, I'm going
to make it into an identity that I do this thing. You're more than that. You're not limited. You're
not defined by that thing. Yeah, you do that thing. Maybe you've done it a lot. Maybe you're in the
habit of doing it, but that doesn't define who you are.
		
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			And this goes for everything, right? I'm a drinker. I'm an addict. I'm this I'm that. That's what
you do. That's what you're doing. That's the habit that you're in.
		
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			But you can change.
		
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			You can change if you work at it. And you're much more than that. Who you actually essentially are.
It doesn't have to do with that habit or that addiction or that thing that you're doing.
		
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			So this is an important distinction to make who you are is not the same as as what you do.