Tom Facchine – Minute with a Muslim #377 – Respect Peoples Privacy

			As Muslims, we have to respect people's privacy. This is something that Allah subhanaw taala talks
about and sort of to know, and also talks about it specifically with the prophesy, Solomon sort of
Herat, that you don't get to have complete unlimited access to everybody that, you know, there are
certain barriers and boundaries that have to be met and put up. And there's reason for that, right,
because everybody's got stuff, everybody's got their own portion of sin, everybody's got their own
portion of problems. And that doesn't need to be on display in front of everybody, some things
people need to deal with by themselves and private. Right. And so one of these things is the
		

			etiquette of how you approach somebody's house. And Ibn Kathir mentions this in his tafsir of sorts
of note, when these are,
		

			you know, in relation to these particular is, so one of the things is obviously, knocking on the
door, okay?
		

			Is you're seeking permission to enter, and people back then, and this is something even Kathir
mentions, I believe, is to announce who it is.
		

			Right? Caller ID
		

			because sometimes you want to see somebody and sometimes you don't.
		

			And that's okay. Right. You need you should have be able to know about who who's coming and if
you're prepared, right? There's this kind of aspect in Islam that we have. It's an ethic of
preparing yourself for a certain situation, when asked about like something that's you know, you're
appropriate for the thing. Remember, the Hadith of the companion that instead of rushing to the
Prophet salallahu Salam, after coming back from travel, he went home first cleaned himself up,
combed his hair, then he went to the Prophet Mohammed sly said, I'm the Prophet Mohammed, listen,
I'm praised him for that. Right? Because he made himself presentable. Right, he prepared himself for
		

			that specific situation, the Sunnah of traveling, the prophecies that I would do, he would come
back,
		

			announced that he had come back or let the word get back to his wives, clean himself up, maybe go to
the masjid and then make his way home, so that his wives had a chance to prepare themselves to
present themselves, right? We think in in North America, we have this thing with authenticity, we
think, Oh, if I show up in my PJs, you know, and just like dirty, and I didn't shower yet, but
that's more real, that's more authentic. It's like, okay, like maybe, maybe in some scenarios, but
		

			maybe in others not, maybe your wife would appreciate it more, or your husband would appreciate it
more, if you present yourself a little bit more to them, or the other people that come along, you
present yourself a little more to them. Now that can be that can be taken to an extreme as well. We
don't want to fall into the other extreme, where we think that we can't invite anybody over unless
this place is absolutely spotless, and all the dishes are put away and all kids toys are picked up.
Now. Obviously, there's, you know, a middle path there. But so that's one of the things announcing
who you are knocking on the door, you're not free times, if the person doesn't answer. Or if they
		

			say Go away, you have the right, you have the right to say no to leave, go back. That's your right.
Nobody can get mad at you for that. Then the person has to leave. They can't peek through your
windows. They can't start knocking on the windows, called blowing up your phone. Where are you? I
thought no knock three times, and then leave. And if the door is open to you, this is an important
one that people don't realize, and I didn't realize until I read the Tafseer even kefir don't face
the door.
		

			Don't face the door when the doors been open to you because you don't know what you're going to see
on the inside. Maybe somebody doesn't have their hijab on yet. Maybe their kids are going around
naked, you don't know something that they might not want you to see might be going on. And so the
Sunnah is to is to look away, either to the left or the right or whatever to look to a different
side while they open the door and then you can talk to the person