Tim Humble – Kids Class Term 2 #09

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The speakers discuss the importance of avoiding confusion and bringing up addictions when doing things that are not good for oneself. They suggest reducing activities outside of work, creating a formula for beating addiction, and avoiding bad friends. The importance of recognizing the root of one's addiction and understanding its root, as well as learning to take time to account and avoid negative impacts. The speakers stress the need to focus on one's own success and show remorse, as well as avoiding negative behavior. They also mention the importance of following the prophesy and not doing things that cause harm.

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			There we go. Okay. We fix the problem.
		
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			Let me go back to my seat.
		
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			It happened sometimes. Let's start again. Shall we start again? Shall we just rewind us by
everything again? All right, Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Abdullah who
are Sunni
		
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			novena Mohammed
		
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			mine as salam or Aleikum, wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh
		
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			mashallah, very good is the reason you have given me a nice setup, the focus of my phone wasn't
switched on. Was that the reason? Okay?
		
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			One whiny fella today we were talking about why people do things that are haram. Okay. We said,
we're talking about a guru, Padma RC. Well, Muhammad, the things which are haram. And we'll talk
about why people do that. So I said, why do people do things haram? And you said the shaytaan
useless to them, right? So I asked the girls a question.
		
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			I said to them, If I whispered to you jump off of
		
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			him, you wouldn't do it. So why is it when some things are whispered you do them? And other things?
whispered, you don't do them? For example, if I whisper to you,
		
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			nobody does it. I wish that you do your homework. Nobody does it. So why is it something shaytan
whispers You do and other things you don't? The girl said, it's your desires. I said, Where do your
desires come from? The set from you aside from your head or your heart is set from your heart?
		
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			So in other words, you are
		
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			you are the soul, right? Agreed?
		
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			You have a nest?
		
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			What did Allah say about your nest, he said in Salah Ma.
		
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			He said Your neck is always
		
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			going towards what is wrong.
		
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			It's like, it's like you sometimes want to do things are being
		
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			the day that I want you to talk are sitting in my chair.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Sometimes you want to do things.
		
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			Sometimes you want to do things. And those things are not good for you.
		
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			More or less true, sometimes you want to do things.
		
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			And those things are not good for you.
		
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			And what does the show can do then you can rescue yourself what the CHE can do that.
		
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			When you want to do something wrong on your nest is like, we didn't want to do something which I
know is wrong. What the CHE can do.
		
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			He whispers to make it worse. He makes it like a microphone. instead of it just being a small thing
in your heart that you are thinking, oh, I want to do something a bit wrong. Change angles. Now you
really want to do it, do it, do it, do it, do it, do it, do it. And he keeps telling you, I'm
telling you I'm telling you. I'm telling you again and again and again and again. Until you start to
do it.
		
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			Why does this help us know how this works?
		
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			Bills What do you think
		
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			I agree in disagree with that the girl said so you don't fall into the trap. The problem is that you
always fall into the trap. I mean, like people make mistakes, right? People do wrong things. But
what I'm saying is, you know what it is so you recognize when it happens and you can stop it. You
recognize when she caught is whispering and let the West whistle feeling. So do what do you notice
Allah didn't say that? He didn't say
		
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			that you whisper into the shaytaan whispers into people's ears.
		
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			He didn't say he whispers into people's ears. Where did he was split into
		
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			your
		
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			into people's hearts? What's the difference between whisper in someone's ear and whisper in
someone's heart? gills?
		
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			It's harder. When it's your heart. When it's your ear. You can hear it. Do something wrong. Do
something wrong. Do you ever hear that? If you do, you might need some special medicines. Do you
ever hear someone saying do something wrong? Do something unless it's your best friend who is
telling you to do something wrong and you don't hear someone saying do something wrong. But she can
goes into your heart and says do something wrong inside your heart. And then you want to do it. This
is what we call Shaohua desires. You know it's wrong. You know it's wrong.
		
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			You know or not? You know what's wrong? When you speak to your mom and dad, do you know what's
wrong? What you don't know what's wrong.
		
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			You know what's wrong?
		
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			You don't exhaust
		
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			unshaken puts in your heart and you kind of go with it. But there's another reason people do haram
which is not to do with the heart. Like that. It's not to do with the desires and the heart like
that.
		
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			Okay very good can can we hold that one for a minute and we will talk about it in a second because
you said about the bad threatens I agree with you but we hold it yes moving
		
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			we're gonna come to that as well.
		
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			YouTubers hold your thoughts and lock it inside your head and don't let it go there's another reason
why people do things that are wrong. Do we have the girls connected Are we having a problem
		
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			okay
		
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			not designers know not not that they don't care.
		
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			It's that they don't they got what did they get confused? They don't know. Me they got confused in
mind got mixed up.
		
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			Many times people mix you up when it comes to haram. Like for example, you heard one Imam say it's
not haram why you guys getting so upset? And the other Imam said it's very harmful. Do it again. And
you got what? What happened to you? You got confused.
		
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			You got all mixed up. One of your friends told you it's okay. The other friend told you it's not
okay. Your mom said something your dad said something else. You got yourself mixed up.
		
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			This is called Shubo hat. You got yourself confused. You got yourself mixed up. You thought
something which is allowed is
		
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			not allowed. Or you thought something which is not allowed is allowed. You got the holiday
		
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			mixed up? In this case?
		
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			What should you do?
		
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			Ahmed
		
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			don't do it. Dima. Yedi Buka Illa Allah Allah your ebook. Leave that which you doubt for that what
you don't doubt go get yourself involved in things you're not sure about. And what else should you
do? Zack?
		
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			Which Imam should you not listen to?
		
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			That is a trick question. How could we be both told you wanted Hello wanted haram? You got confused?
Which one? Should you not listen to? Not listen to both. So is it? Not Hello? not haram? Yes,
hilarious how
		
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			the girl set
		
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			up the confusion.
		
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			Get knowledge and clear up the confusion as
		
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			someone who can clear up the confusion for you and help you to understand.
		
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			Sometimes people don't just get confused about the haram. They even get confused about Islam.
		
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			They even get confused about Islam. Isn't it true that you see some people they're not maybe
practicing Islam at all? And they got confused about it? To say, you know, there's things in Islam
which are bad are the things in his karma Shabbat know, what happened? How did the person thinks
something is bad in Islam? What happened to them use of
		
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			not to shape how they got themselves confused. They heard something and they didn't get proper
knowledge about it. So they followed something which was not correct. So you know, Islam is very,
very bad things in it. So what you mean, was it doesn't Islam tell you to do this? And this and
this? Which Islam? Are you talking about? You got the wrong Islam? Or I heard someone say, Yeah, you
got yourself confused, and you got yourself mixed up. Now I want to come back to
		
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			your suggestion that you had before What were you talking about before? Do you remember?
		
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			Bad friends, excellent copying people doing bad things. One of the main reasons people go wrong, is
having bad friends.
		
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			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Elmo, Allah, Dini, AVG, Solea Hadoken Manu harlots, a
person is on the religion of their close friends, your religion, your Islam is going to be like your
close friends.
		
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			So look, who did you take as a close friend? If your closest friend is not a Muslim, what do you
think you're going to behave? Like? Are you going to behave like the best Muslim in the whole world?
No. If your close friend is a Muslim, but not doing a good job, not practicing not praying, you're
going to be like that. If you're close friends that you cannot talk about the guy who's in your
class at the back of the room. I'm talking about the one you are close with them. If they are not
doing a good job, you're not going to do a good job. People influence each other right.
		
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			Do you know
		
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			On the Day of Judgment, there will be people who will come. He will say he will say
		
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			yeah late any
		
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			further than Karela
		
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			You see, I wish I never took this person as a friend
		
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			this person, they took me away from Allah guidance team, isn't it true?
		
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			took them away from the guidance. Some of you I see sadly, among the students here sometimes this
happens. One good student mashallah is sitting and listening to the duck. And then his friend comes
along beside him, what does he start to do?
		
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			Start to poke him, pinch him, make him laugh, then two of them start laughing then who do I shout
up? Both of them. But in reality, what is his mistake, his mistake is he sat next to the wrong guy.
		
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			And this happens in your life as well. If you choose the wrong friends, it's very hard for you to be
		
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			is
		
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			very hard for you to be good if you chose the wrong kind of friends. So really look at your friends.
If your friend is helping you in your day in your religion, if your friend is good for you, is
making you a good person. Stay with them. If your friend is taking you away from your religion, or
your friend makes you forget about Allah, or your friends is what you pray, or your friend is
encouraging you to do how.
		
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			Just keep your distance from them. I'm not saying be horrible to them. Just keep a distance from
them.
		
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			Salaam Alaikum. Like Ibrahim said to his father,
		
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			called a Sailor Moon says self similar cannot be he said Salah Well, I'm gonna ask Allah to forgive
you.
		
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			You and me separate now. We're not together. someone's telling you to do wrong time. Now I want to
come to the last issue that I told you to keep in your mind, which will be I told you to keep it in
your head.
		
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			We're talking about addictions. We're talking about addictions.
		
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			about addictions.
		
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			Okay, what do we mean when we're talking about addictions? What are we talking about? Yes.
		
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			So the girl said something you need excessively and you said something, you can't stop doing it?
		
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			Yeah, you can't stop doing it. That's something very true. Something you can't stop doing something
wrong.
		
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			At least we're talking about something wrong. We're not talking about something right? We're talking
about something wrong. But you can't stop doing it. You can't stop. You're trying but you can't stop
to do. So. I want to come up with a formula or a way to beat an addiction. And I want you guys to
help me out.
		
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			Do we have someone that I do have any students from telecom to the Oh, do we not enable it today?
Okay, we need to do that for next lesson so that we can get advice and help from the students who
are watching but for today, it's okay. They can follow on at home. So who can help me out?
		
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			What's the first thing I need to do to beat any addiction? Now I'm having to
		
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			stop thinking about good. Stop thinking about it.
		
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			What if you can't stop thinking about it's pretty tough. It's an addiction right? I mean, you guys
have seen people addicted to their phones addicted to their games addicted to
		
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			smoking addicted to whatever it is
		
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			addicted and they can't stop thinking about it even when they try to stop thinking about it comes in
their head. What's the first thing you can do?
		
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			Okay, so you both the girls and boys come up with a similar thing at the same time. And that is
replacing it like making an effort to replace it with something else. That's also good but that's
going to come later on to something we need in the very first time the girls actually mentioned it a
little bit, which is to make an effort but even before you make an effort you need to recognize
		
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			what do you need to know before you even start?
		
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			Lower the amount very keep that in your mind. The girls got the first one. The first thing is you
need to leave
		
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			realize that you're addicted to something and it's wrong.
		
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			Because unless you admit it, you're never going to be able to change it right? Like somebody says,
I, You Allah, you are addicted to your phone, my phone, I'm not addicted to my phone, I don't use my
phone. So the person doesn't realize he's doing something wrong is not going to change. The first
thing is you need to realize that what I'm doing is wrong. That's the very first thing. The second
thing you need to do is you need to ask Allah's help. Because if Allah doesn't give you help, you're
not going to be able to get over it. How would you get over it? If you if you didn't ask Allah to
help? You need Allah's help. You need to ask Allah to forgive you. How do you ask Allah's
		
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			forgiveness? How do we ask Allah's forgiveness? In Arabic? What do we say? If we want Allah's
forgiveness?
		
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			What do we say,
		
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			to sell Hamdulillah? Now what do we say if you are
		
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			a funeral lot, you can say a bit fiddly as well. The girl said, a selfie with
		
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			a stub good Allah. I stub to the light means for Allah. Forgive me for this mistake. Maybe I'm still
doing it. Maybe I don't know why maybe I haven't finished yet. Maybe I'm still struggling. But oh
Allah don't make something bad happened to me because of what I'm doing here. Is it possible
something bad could happen to you because of something you did?
		
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			Very bad in this life, in the next life, in the grades, on the Day of Judgment, very, very bad
things can happen to somebody because of the mistakes that they made the bad things they did. For
sure. So
		
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			you can ask Allah's forgiveness. You can ask Allah's help,
		
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			as well as help to help you to be able to
		
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			get over this problem.
		
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			So now we realize we got a problem.
		
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			And we asked Allah's help. And we asked Allah's forgiveness.
		
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			So now, what can we do? Now the next thing is we need to realize where is this problem coming from?
		
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			Could you explain to me what does that mean? For example, girls, could you explain to me, what does
it mean? You need to recognize where the problem is coming from?
		
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			Why you're doing it? Okay, that could be one part of it. Boys. What else?
		
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			Use of what do you think?
		
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			Yeah. Why? Okay. The question is,
		
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			I said to you, that part of getting rid of your addiction is that you have to realize, you got to
realize
		
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			what's making it happen? Right?
		
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			What does that mean?
		
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			So the deal said, realizing why you're doing it.
		
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			What else do you have to realize?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			So what's the reason yet?
		
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			Like, why what's happening? That's making you do it? Is it because you're not spending? You're
spending too much time in your room by yourself? Is it because you're not praying properly? Is it
because your bad friend like you mentioned that? Like, is it because you had a bad friend who was
making you do it? What is causing it to happen? For example, someone is addicted to video games,
		
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			addicted to video games. What might be some of the reasons why a person could be addicted to video
games? The girl said everyone else is doing it. That could be one thing. What else could it be?
		
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			Bored? Exactly. boredom, and too much free time. Okay, so boredom, you can solve it. Like you could
actually, if you think the reason you are addicted to video games is boredom. You can actually solve
it by by giving yourself activities to do, which are not the video games, for example, make it up,
right, I'm gonna, I'm gonna go outside the time when I normally play on my games. I'm going to spend
that time outside, I'm gonna go play football. I'm gonna go and, you know, do whatever it is I like
to do outside of school to activities or whatever, because I'm spending too much time on the games.
So I'm going to spend more time outside for example. Or it could be that the reason that you're
		
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			addicted to the game is the games consoles in front of you all the time. So you could ask your
parents
		
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			To start, look, I feel like I'm addicted to this. So what I want you to do is put the games console
away from me, and only bring it out, for
		
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			example,
		
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			half an hour in the evening, or like one hour or two hours on a weekend. And that's it. I don't I
just want it to be pulled away away from my site. What else? Could it be? Something someone
mentioned earlier, and I told them to hold that thought about, like, for example, reducing
		
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			like that you're doing too much of
		
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			like, understanding what's making this problem come about? What else could be a problem for someone
who is
		
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			playing too many video games? What could be the reason behind it?
		
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			What do you think?
		
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			Let you think about it for a second longer, no idea how to answer.
		
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			Okay,
		
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			what about what is it could be that the person feels like they don't make good friends, like the
person feels like they don't have a lot of friends like to spend time with? So they feel like they
make friends better when they are? Online? Yeah, like that could be a problem, right? So each reason
for it, you realize how can I fix it. And like you guys said, you start to reduce the amount that
you're doing. If you can stop completely Alhamdulillah. If you can't stop completely, at least start
to go less and less unless, unless, if you can't stop something completely. Maybe it's not hard.
Like not all video games are hard, right? Not every single video game is haram. But many of them are
		
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			because they contain, for example, music or they contain like images of people that are not dressed
properly. Or they contain haram, like a video game where you have to steal from somebody or a video
game, or you have to kill someone without a reason. Or a video game where you have to, you know, all
kinds of things like that, that you have things you have to do to cause these kind of things.
		
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			So if you can stop it completely stop it. If you can replace it with something else, replace it with
something else.
		
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			What kinds of things could you replace, for example, a video game? What kind of things could you
replace it with instead? And I'm not just talking about Quran? I mean, I'm not just talking about
		
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			what did you say feel sorry?
		
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			Like something a bit physical, something a bit more like, for example, a board game, but not with
the dice yet, because you're not allowed to Islamically is not allowed to play with dice.
		
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			Yeah, with dice, which know what I mean? Because if you're not allowed to play with
		
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			a ball game, something more physical, like something outdoors, where you get to go out and spend
some time in the fresh air.
		
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			You could even invite your friends around or go around to your friend's place. You could even swap
out the harm games for games that are marked. Hara writes like, if you've got a game that involves
stealing and cheating and killing people, you could swap it for a game that is like something you
know, more like
		
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			not not like that game is something different, like a car racing game or something like that. For
example, you could swap out things like that. Yeah. You need to also
		
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			what else? So you guys had ideas? I'm sorry. You had ideas? Yes.
		
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			Okay, so like, for example, swapping to a different activity, like a creative activity like drawing,
or like something like that is something creative and different. You could spend time with family
and spend time with your friends as well. Like not every time you spend time, it has to be in front
of a screen. You can spend time with your friends and family as well. Yes, arrange things you want
to do. Maybe make a bucket list of all the things you really want to do. I really wanted to go to
this place. I really wanted to go on like I don't know to go climbing or I really wanted to go
swimming or I really wanted to go like whatever it is that you really wanted to do. Make a list of
		
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			the and then try to replace those things which are not good for you with those things which are
		
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			better for you or good for you. Yep, even some things are not haram in themselves. They can become
an addiction. How do you know when something which is not haram for the girls? Something which is
not haram in itself has become an addiction for you something bad?
		
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			Let me give an example. Reading an Islamic book. Everyone agrees good to read books.
		
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			When do you realize that reading an Islamic book is bad for you?
		
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			Not when it's confusing. The book itself is really clear.
		
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			up really easy it's really beneficial when you realize it's a
		
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			tough question right?
		
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			It's not a trick question, genuine question.
		
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			Do you have an idea
		
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			No, I'm not talking about the reading itself. It could be anything could be playing football, it
could be going out with your friends when you realize something as the combat for you yes
		
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			the book is good. When you do in it so much that you actually you're actually stopped doing the
other things you're supposed to do. So for example, you're not praying because you read in that
book, you're not being good to your mind that because you read in that book, and you've you've
started to just become obsessive about it so you're not doing the thing that you're supposed to be
doing shallow we're gonna break for The?
		
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			When is it and it's a question for the girls. When is it that you might need to ask for help in
getting rid of something you're addicted to
		
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			when you can't manage it by yourself, or maybe even if it had, like a medical aspect to it, like for
example, it could be like smoking or something like that, right? Like something that you really was
struggling to do it by yourself. So you might need to ask someone's help but you couldn't manage it
by yourself. You tried to get rid of it by yourself. But you couldn't.
		
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			The problem is coming from someone else. Like I'm addicted to sweets, and chocolate and candies
because my mom and dad keep giving me sweets and chocolate and candy.
		
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			So I need to tell my mom and dad to like cut down on the on the Tandy for example, and things like
that. Okay, very good. So we spoke about addictions, there was something else that I said that we
were going to speak about today.
		
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			Does anyone remember what I said? There were two things I certainly we speak about addictions. There
was one more thing so we know I know we're going to talk about that.
		
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			Yeah, bad friends. Okay, I did say we were going to talk about AdSense in Sharla.
		
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			Okay, I've got a question for you.
		
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			Bad friends. Okay.
		
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			How do you get out of the problem of having AdSense if you look at yourself now and realize your
friends have a problem? How do you get out of that problem? Because not you can't just walk away is
walk away. You first of all, don't want to do it for you. First of all, like,
		
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			you feel like you can't do it.
		
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			Okay
		
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			try to stay away from them a little bit, okay
		
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			you could try to influence them. So I'm going to be honest with you when it comes to influencing
people.
		
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			A lot of the time you think you're helping them but actually, they're, they're the ones influencing
you. Sometimes you think, Oh no, no, I can make this person better. But actually, they're making you
worse. The first thing that I realized is realize the problem. You got to see I've got a problem.
I've got people who are causing me to struggle you're looking at the mistakes you're making in your
life. You're thinking about these mistakes into Wallah you know there is
		
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			my problem is this person Abdullah
		
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			Abdullah is an imaginary person.
		
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			Abdullah is my problem. This Abdullah is the one who is telling me to do wrong things. And whenever
I'm with him, I'm doing these wrong things. But when I'm away from him, I'm okay.
		
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			So now, the first suggestion you had start to back off, I think that's an excellent suggestion to
start with. Because sometimes hard to say to somebody had a fear or Kobe, you have a I'm not gonna
see you ever again. Or talk to you ever again. If you can do it, Mashallah. But it's not easy. So
sometimes what the first thing is, you start to lower down the amount of time you spend. You're
going to come out tonight. You know what it is? I'm not coming out tonight. Okay, what about
tomorrow? Maybe not tomorrow. Let's see later on. And you start to like, cut down, you start to cut
down? What about if you can't get away from that person? Girls? What about it's like that person is
		
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			in your class, you cannot cut down any?
		
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			Did the person your teacher told you have to sit next to in class?
		
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			Yeah, I think that's not a bad suggestion, not kind of ignore them. But don't let yourself get
involved. You know, they start with like, Oh, look at that you're making fun of somebody who will
tell you to do so just to do this, do this. Just completely switch off any board, let yourself get
involved. And eventually, they're going to get sick of it. And they're going to stop.
		
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			You could move school, but sometimes that's like, if you can do it, it's good. But it's also an easy
because some of you move school, you end up with another person like that. Like, in another place.
It could be true. It could be true like that. Okay, all of the things we spoken about so far. They
need something very important. And that's what we call more has said that to never
		
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			taking yourself to account. So boy, what do I mean when I say taking yourself to account What's the
meaning of taking yourself to? Yes, hobbies?
		
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			Nicholas self responsible? Good. I like that. What else?
		
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			Something else? Taking yourself to account?
		
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			Yeah, you girls allowed to answer.
		
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			being hard on yourself is kind of similar to what was said. Something more fundamental than that.
Yes.
		
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			Sorry.
		
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			Okay. What I'm thinking of is you need to look at yourself. You need to be like an investigator or
like an accountant or something, you need to look at your own self. And ask yourself, what good
things am I doing? So if you find yourself doing something good, what should you do?
		
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			praise yourself, take a party, celebrate know what should you do?
		
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			Keep doing if you see, because if you could have added one thing before that.
		
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			Try to do it more. Okay. One thing before that. Thank Allah praise Allah, say Alhamdulillah and try
to do more of it. If you see yourself doing something bad. Now you need to be like an investigator.
You can't just say, I'm going to stop doing it.
		
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			It doesn't work like that. Why am I doing it? What has happened to me? What caused it? Why has this
happened to me? Maybe because I was not paying attention with my salah, or I've got a bad friend or
I'm bored in the house or
		
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			one of these different reasons, then you start to deal with it. You need to ask yourself, because if
you take yourself to account now
		
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			and you make a habit of looking at your own self and what good you do and bad you do will lie when
you are old that it will be very easy in sha Allah and Yolo piano will be easy inshallah.
		
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			See? Why because you already took the exam before the exam to write the exam on your will Kiama Are
you allowed to fail? What happens if you fail?
		
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			Yeah, Johanna Hellfire if you fail, so you can't feel but now you can look at yourself you can see,
okay.
		
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			This week, I did well, I was doing good in my salon Alhamdulillah. But you know what is still was, I
was not good in this one thing, I was not being good in this thing, I still be too much of this, I
could do this one better. And inshallah it means that it will be very easy for you to make changes,
it will be very easy. Whenever you get rid of something in your life, you always need to replace it
with something else. Because if you replace it with nothing, what happens? Girls? What do you think
happens when you replace it with nothing?
		
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			You want to go back to it? What else?
		
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			shaytaan fills the gaps for you? Yeah, if you if you if you give get rid of the bad things and you
leave nothing. shaytan comes and fills the gaps and says you know what it is? You stop playing that
game, but you know what it is? There's something else you can do on all shaytaan suggestions about
you. And he tells you more and more and more. And you get addicted to something different, or you
get involved in something different. So you have to fill the time was something beneficial? Yeah.
Wallahi I tell you something. When it comes to money, money can come, money can go and money can
come back again. Agreed. You have somebody who's got no money today. Tomorrow. The guy's got so much
		
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			money. Then the next day he's got no money. Money comes and goes. But there's one thing that never
comes back again. What is it?
		
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			Money comes back again, Danny sometimes, you know, for example, you lost your money and then your
your business did really well. You got all your money back again. What never ever comes back.
		
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			Time.
		
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			Your time.
		
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			There was a famous imam of Islam. He said the other night, Adam in a year for either by Yo look.
		
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			He said oh son of Adam, you are just a few days, your life is just a few days. When one of those
days goes, part of you goes with it doesn't come back again.
		
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			When that day is gone, of doing bad things that day you wasted. It's gone. It doesn't come back
again. Doesn't matter what you do, how much do you make, doesn't matter what you ask that day will
never come back again. That day you wasted that day that you spent doing how long that day you spent
wasting your time is never going to come back again. Your money you can waste the oil and it can
still come back to you. But your time can never come back. So use it wisely. Look at what it is
you're doing and try to cut down on the bad things you do. Now the last thing I want to finish with
is even though we've talked about all these bad things people do and we've talked about how to
		
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			reduce it. At the end of the day we are human beings. And what does that mean? What to all human
beings do?
		
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			Make Mistakes
		
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			Kulu Benny, Adam
		
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			will hire you will help even at tillable all of the children of Adam make mistakes. And who are the
people that make mistakes?
		
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			The ones who repent.
		
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			So now my question is, what does it mean to repent? I'm not talking about a subtotal I mean
properly. Repent.
		
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			So the girls got two out of four. The girl said, be sorry for what you've done.
		
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			And make intention not to do it again. There's two more left boys
		
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			nearly very close.
		
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			In he stopped stopped doing it. That's one thing. So now we've got three out of four. The girl said
feel sorry.
		
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			Yeah, feel sorry.
		
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			I feel really sorry. I wish I never did nothing. I feel really bad about it. Number two, stop doing
it. There's no point saying I feel really bad about it. And then you're still doing it. Like
somebody's smoking and while they're smoking the same I feel really bad about smoking. If you feel
bad about you stop doing it right. You you make intention not to do it again. It doesn't matter.
Maybe you'll fail maybe or maybe will not be successful but you try not to do it again. There's one
more or less for the boys to get
		
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			It's a it's a hardest one.
		
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			Try not to do it anymore. That's one of them. But there's still one more.
		
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			I'm gonna hold that thought. Okay, I'm coming back to that.
		
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			The answer is, what about if what you did somebody else?
		
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			What about if what you did was against somebody else?
		
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			Then what do you need to do? And
		
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			make it up to them? Yeah, that's a good answer from the girls make up to them, like make us
forgiveness.
		
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			Need to ask for them, give charity on their behalf, make it up. Because the thing you did against
Allah, you need to ask Allah for forgiveness. And if you did something against someone else, you
need to ask Allah's forgiveness. And you need to ask their forgiveness as well, right? Because it's
separate, right? Those two things are separate, like I did something bad in Islam, but I also did
something bad against this person. Like maybe I took something or I stole it. Or maybe I spoke bad
about them, or I insulted them, or I said something bad behind their back. So I did something bad in
the sight of Allah. But I also did something bad to that person as well. So I have to ask for their
		
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			forgiveness. Now we're going to come to
		
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			Hadith which is a very important Hadith, in which the prophesy son gave us some advice.
		
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			And in his advice, he said,
		
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			and it was advice he gave from what either one of Jabberwocky Allah why
		
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			he said, tequila HydroMax
		
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			will be a has an asset and
		
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			Wahhabi canasa The following. He said, have Taqwa of Allah, wherever you are, that means try your
best to obey Allah. Try your best to keep away from haram. anywhere you are.
		
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			And this is Zack is going to tell us about because you mentioned it before, you're going to tell us
about it. Okay? One second will act as she has an attempt to follow up a bad deed.
		
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			Good deed.
		
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			And what will happen if you do a good deed after a bad one?
		
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			Replace the bad one with a good one and it will wipe out waha the fineness of the whole look in
Hudson and treat the people with the best of manners. So always follow that if you did something
wrong, always try to do something good afterwards. Okay, we did something wrong. Try to do something
good straight away afterwards. Even better. If you can do the good, which is the opposite of the bad
you did.
		
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			Tell me explain that to me.
		
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			So if you said something horrible about someone try to say something nice about them. But even if
you didn't do that, but you just try to do something good straight away after you do something bad.
So Allah will wipe you out. And Allah says that these people are Allah aka you beg Bill Allah who
say,
		
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			Allah will replace the bad things they did was good things.
		
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			Allah will replace the bad things they did with good things. Okay, just to finish up in the last
couple of minutes. Do we have any questions? First of all from the bills?
		
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			No questions are all. Tara boys. Do you have any questions?
		
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			Yes
		
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			I would, I would advise a person not to play.
		
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			Why? Because actually the word for chess in Arabic and the word for backup. And there are two games
that are played on the checker boards.
		
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			One of them is called chess and one of them is called backgammon. And in Arabic, the two words are
the same. So it seems to me and also there is a narration from Allianz and the pilot. He said, What
are these idols that you are devoted to? And you are devote like these little statues, you are
attached to them. So I would advise a person not to play, not to play chess, or backgammon. Don't
play those two games that are played on the checker board.
		
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			The Prophet sighs had mentioned in the Hadith, that rolling a dice is like dipping your hand in the
blood of a pig or close to that wording.
		
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			And the reason why it's Haram is that it's associated with gambling, and it makes enmity between
people right? You don't. You didn't say you cheated.
		
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			Me and an associated with the people who gamble. So you're copying bad people. And also it makes
friendship between people like you cheated. And you see how people when they play game you cheated
or you cheated and then they fight with each other. Yeah. So that's the reason why yes.
		
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			So the question just for everyone. So listen, is about interest, right? So for example, you borrow
10,000 from someone, and they say you have to give me back 12,000 This is one of the big sins in
Islam. It's completely haram. It's haram to pay and It's haram to take it.
		
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			And it's even haram to write the contract for it. And even It's haram to make a contract for it. So
it's not allowed in Islam ever to have a loan, which is paid back with any when the loan is given to
pay back more than the money that was borrowed. This is what we call rebar. Yeah, it's one type of
rebar is not allowed. Even if it's later even if someone says, pay me 10,000 Now and 2000 in a
year's time, it doesn't matter. It's still a big shame. Okay. Does that answer your question?
humbling. Okay, I think that's a good place for us to stop. That's what Allah made easy for me to
mention. Allah knows best for salatu salam, ALA, Mohammad wider and he will be here