Manners In Islam

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			trying to help you understand Islam and Muslims now you have come to that full conviction that none
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			this is not it. There needs to be time spent learning this way of life. Same way a life that was
lived with all the messengers of God is a complete code of conduct a complete moral compass that you
go by, from when you wake up until you go to sleep. So we're going to be talking about mannerisms,
how we conduct ourselves as those who have submitted ourselves to the one God, we need to act a
certain way. We need to bid the elite in good etiquette and manners and behavior and character. This
is befitting a Muslim one who has consciously submitted to the One God so we're going to be talking
about this very, very, very important topic with our next guests. Sheikh Ibrahim is a damn when we
		

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			Why did that maybe maybe it's just to break the ice. Salaam Alaikum Peace be with you.
		

			How are you doing? I'm doing great. Now we get a lot of non Muslims non Muslims out there who are
listening to the show and just so they don't think we we said some code words, please said Al
Hamdulillah would you say means Praise be to Allah, the Creator of the heavens in here and some
people might think Oh, there they go. Tomas a moon God.
		

			Who's Allah, Allah, the one the most perfect the Most High the Almighty, nothing is the like of him
and he's the all heater they all see it. And he is the one that doesn't have a son nor a daughter is
nothing like the human beings and he's the most Merciful, the one that is over his creation over his
throne, and with his creation with his knowledge and his power and wisdom. Now before we get into
our topic, we will talk about manners etiquettes just just we want to assuage any fear because some
people might be tuning in for the first time and they hear Islam and you know, there's some hype out
there people believe you know, like, you know, Islam Muslim, and what comes next muslim terrorist.
		

			So, you know, there's all sorts of you know, corruption out there, but we know what Islam teaches
and preaches. But you got, you know, some people who don't even want to go further because they
think Oh, these people are going to brainwash me I got a strap a bomb to myself and go kill innocent
people. What do we got to say about this show? What we need to say is that people need to think and
make decisions for themselves and not to surrender their ideas and their opinions based on just some
people that have certain agendas. We have the religion of Islam saved 1400 days ago, the revelation
from Allah subhanaw taala, unlike the previous revelations, where human beings were interested with
		

			it, when it comes to Islam, the thing that was revealed to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, the Quran,
and the Sunnah, meaning his sayings and his actions, is all preserved in every single detail. So for
every human being to go back and see, read the Quran, read the life of the Prophet sallallahu
sallam, and find for yourself the purpose of our life. And, you know, being following the truth is
our duty and one of the sayings of the Prophet that he said that he was sent to complete and to
perfect mannerism on the face of Earth. So we have the perfect understanding of what mannerism is,
and we do not refer back to our opinions or our desires, or what our environment would say. It's all
		

			referred back to the pure revelation with verse after verse with Hadith after Halley, the sayings of
the Prophet peace be upon him. And it's all that all trees, but for people need to give the time and
learn and get to apply themselves. So before we dwell into this, so just for the people who've had
some negative stereotypical views about Islam, Islam has nothing to do with hurting innocent men,
women and I've had many people such as shake will leave assuming Absolutely not. There's actually a
fatwa, which is ruling been issued by the senior scars and Saudi Arabia.
		

			30 years ago, before 911, before all these half suicides, by Ambassador him a lot, they condemned
these things. And he said specifically, that it is forbidden. It is illegal, there is nothing can
justify those that specifically mentioned hijacking airplanes, attacking urban areas at civilians
and bombing them. Dr. Bella first, you know, when 911 happened? What did bush a bush was the first
one to get on the television and say,
		

			This is not an act of Islam.
		

			This is an act of a small band of terrorists, you know, who are not acting according to Islam
because Islam means peace. Because they say why don't you have the scholars who will condemn such
actions and says, Don't kill women don't kill children don't kill the old people don't attack the
civilians. This is what the prophet Mohammed told us, innocent people who are dying anywhere in the
world. Life is precious. So but what is Islam? Clearly Islam has nothing to do with any acts of
terrorism. That's correct. And Islam there is no such thing in Islam as betraying one's trust and
betraying people by deceiving them and killing them by by deception and betrayal and all these types
		

			of things, has nothing to do with the religion of Islam. And people need to separate between what
Islam is the pure message from our last panel. And that if people do things out of craziness, or
whatever, there is something that should not be related to the message. Now, the fog is clear the
junk out of the trunk, and you can relax. Now we assuage any fear, we're talking about good old good
stuff. And it starts off with the foundation of worshipping the one who created you alone without
any partners, not sitting up apartment next to God, another god besides God, but at the same time,
now you've done that, you acknowledge that, look, I don't want to worship the creation. I want to
		

			worship the one who created creation simple, and I want to obey the last and final message sent to
mankind. And he said, and we'll take it from here. Did he say that I have not been sent except to
perfect good mannerisms? Is this true toss to worship? That's true? That's correct. And when we see
the statement, somebody might say, but there are other rulings in the Quran and the Sunnah of the
Prophet, not just about mannerism. So how that statement means that I have I was not sent except to
perfect the mannerism. It means that all of the religion of Islam is all about mannerism. How's that
mannerism is of three types. There is mannerism with Allah mannerism with the Messenger of Allah
		

			mannerism with the human beings mannerism with a Labine, meaning that if he's the one that created
us, he's the one that provided for us. That means worship Him. Imagine someone that he hired you to
do some work, a person going to a food place or whatever there is, and he works for them. And
instead of wearing the T shirt that they gave him to wear with the logo of the place, he wears
something else, and he calls people to eat somewhere else. That's not being fulfilling the favors of
what he has in that place. And to Allah subhanaw taala is the best example He created us he provide
for us. He's the only one worthy of worship. The mannerism would the Prophet peace be upon him that
		

			Allah Subhana Allah the Most I sent him, for people to follow. So we follow his mannerism, his
actions all of his affairs, we need to humble ourselves and to have the good mannerism with him. We
do not innovate in the religion of Islam do things that the Prophet peace be upon him didn't do
because we're having the good manners with him as a lot of the Most High orders. If people would do
these two, the easiest part of mannerism is to have the best mannerism with others. We need to have
mannerism with our own selves that we treat ourselves according to what a lot the Most High wants us
to treat it. There are things in the religion of Islam in the court and in the Sunnah of the Prophet
		

			peace be upon him, that teaches us how to deal with our own cells, how to deal with our wives and
the wife or the husband, how to deal with the children how to deal with the friends with the enemies
with the neighbors, if you are in a in a place where anybody, any relationship, any variable in our
life, and I'm not exaggerating, and this is something that people can go back and see for
themselves, you will find it in the Quran and the Sunnah of the prophet SAW seller, the perfect way
of life of having the best memories and deeds done by the heart, things to say how to speak, how to
act, how to look how to heal, how to do any move in our life, based on a perfect way of life of
		

			revolution. Now, some Muslims, I mean, we're all learning and we come back from days of ignorance,
and we got this roughness to us real rough, you know, and now we feel that to be in Islam, and this
is a misconception is it that now some people feel like you know, I'm not being you know, if I'm
soft, then you know, maybe something's wrong with me. I need to be this tough guy you know, in the
religion but if we look to the last and final messenger, wasn't he the mercy of mercies, wasn't he
teaching us
		

			Opposite of this, right? And Allah the Most High he said in the Quran febi Maharaja Mati Mina la
hillington. Oh, it is by the mercy of Allah that you are lenient to them lenient lenient to them.
And the time of the prophet SAW Selim before he was sent the Arabs that his time they were so
vicious in some of their acts, that they would kill their own doctors with their own hands. Yeah,
what is more rough than this? And these same people, I love the most I changed them by the
revelation from Allah to be the most soft and the most lenient and at the same time, they are firm.
When it comes to the orders of Allah they do not compromise anything of the religion of Allah. The
		

			Ayesha the wife of the prophet SAW Selim she said that when he was will be at home he will be in the
in the help of his family. When he wants the time for the seller comes as if we do not know him. He
is fulfilling the orders of Allah. Let's cut to a break. We'll be right back with more here on the
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			Back here on the deen show with shakey Brahim sedan, we're talking about mannerisms is very
important. Okay, you worship you go to the masjid. But now you act one way in the place of worship,
but then you go outside of the masjid. And you might be lying, stealing, deceiving? Is this what
Islam is teaching us? Of course not. And the deficiency in this because of the deficiency of how
people make in their prayers. In the in the beginning of the show, he talked about a Lost Planet,
Allah the Most High and how we worship Him alone, if this is perfected, everything else after that
will be in place. And that's why if we have the proper mannerism would allow when we stand in the
		

			Salah, and we look into the place where we put our head in the sujood prostration, we recite certain
things we say certain things, Are we understanding what we're saying, is our hearts working with
what our tongue would be saying, when we humble ourselves and put our head on the ground, the head
is the most honored part of our body. And we put it on the ground not for human being but for the
Creator of the heavens in the earth. This has to do something with our heart. This is the humbleness
that we're supposed to carry with us, outside the sun. But most of us when we make the prayers, we
just want to get something done and leave. We don't think of it. We don't have the say the proper
		

			humbleness. That's why the Salah the prayers does not have an effect in our life. But in which if we
do it in the proper way, we understand that we are slaves of the Creator of the heavens and the
earth, then we would deal with people according to what Allah wants from us. The Prayer is if it's
done in the most perfect way to understand what we're seeing it for fulfill the data hit the oneness
of worship of Allah, purely and perfectly, then we'll treat each other according to what Allah the
Most High wants from us, not according to what we want with one another. And this is this is what
we're lacking, isn't it? Because we know that when the Muslims when they went to was in Indonesia,
		

			they had the best manners in business. Many people when they saw the Muslims how they were
conducting themselves, they, because they were used to this corruption from them before but when
they embraced the religion, the way of life, the complete submission to the one guy and all the
etiquettes and rules that one has to follow. Now it transformed them and people saw this the not the
non Muslim, and they ended up accepting Islam too. Is it true? That's true by the millions and
Indonesia is the number one country of Muslims when it comes to number wise, and it was not opened
with matters of the head it was by basically trade and business and things and this is manners. This
		

			is manners. Wow. And this is how the religion of Islam spread actually, is by the mannerism that
people didn't do it just to deceive people to call them to the religion. It's the mannerism that the
most high the Creator of the heavens and the earth ordered them to act in a certain way. One of the
incidences that I was mentioning yesterday, one of the early generations of Islam that many of the
Muslims do not know him. His name is Abdullah him in Mubarak. He had a Jewish neighbor next to him
and the Jewish neighbor was selling his house
		

			Somebody came in, he asked them how much you selling the house for? He said 2000 dinars, whatever
the currency. He said it's only worth 1000. He said, Yes. 1000 for the house and one sell 1000 for
the neighborhood, that you're buying basically the neighbor, which is that man, Abdullah Mubarak. So
the neighbor was understanding that this the mannerism of his neighbor, was worth money. Right. So
when Abdullah him No, no Barak, his neighbor knew about this. He gave him 1000. And he told him keep
your house. You don't need to sell your house, he gave his money to the Jewish neighbor, to keep his
house and not to leave his house. This is a mannerism who would on the face of Earth would do this.
		

			This is a Jewish neighbor, this is Jewish. Wow. Right? Because he thought that he's leaving because
he is in need of money. So the neighbor is taking care of his neighbor, because this is not
something that is of goodness of his own self. This is the order of the Creator of the heavens in
the earth, that you're not good unless you are good to your neighbors. And your neighbors. If they
go sleep when they're hungry, you will be asked in the Day of Judgment, why did they go hungry when
you are sleeping full, and not hungry? This is responsibilities that we have as Muslims on the face
of it. So this is not only to your brothers, because Is it true now, the we have brothers in faith,
		

			but also we have brothers in humanity, that we want to be our brothers and faith. So we want the
best for everybody. So sharing is because we care, we care. That's why we share. So we're trying to
share this beautiful way of life with the world. Now some might say, Well, you know, I'll act one
way with with them, then I'm going to be mean to the others, those that aren't in Islam, we have to
be kind and generous and good with with everybody is this right? Definitely. Because this is
something that the most high the Creator, the heavens and the earth ordered us. And one of the
verses of the Quran says we're cooler in St. Hosni, speak to people, people in general with
		

			goodness, it's not just saying Muslims in general, everybody speak to everybody with goodness. And
sometimes, you might be tough on your children, for example, this is goodness, why? Because you want
them to understand something and you want them to receive a certain message, especially if a person
is in the field of calling people to the truth. He needs to be the most kind and the most lenient,
not that he wants to deceive people, but he wants to rub off these types of barriers between him and
them to see the truth. He cares about them. So we need to have these types of mannerism that needs
patience. Yeah, right. The neighbor has a right on us, right? The those who we meet in our life, the
		

			more the Muslim is, whenever someone is physically close to you, he has the right to you, and the
right of you that at least he does not receive any harm from you. Yeah, and this is something that
the prophet SAW, Selim said, when he kept counting the things of good things that a person can do
even lifting something on someone's mount someone in his car, and you helped him to carry a bag to
put it in the car. This is not just out of the goodness of yourself. This is the order in the
religion, revelation came from the seventh heaven, to the human beings to do this simple act for the
sake of Allah Subhana Allah. And if people would do this, that they're fulfilling the orders of
		

			Allah subhanaw taala, when he said, then this counting these types of good deeds, the least of it,
that nobody has an excuse in it, it the prophets of Salaam said that people should not be harmed by
you. This is charity, when people do not receive any harm from you, then this is a charity. This is
a good deed. This is good mannerism. And nobody would say I don't, I cannot help myself. By
positively being something mean, of course not stay away from harming others, this is the least that
a person can do. This is amazing. And Islam, we know is the fastest growing way of life in the world
today, yesterday and tomorrow. And if we would be implementing it the right way.
		

			They would only be even growing faster. And we don't appreciate it, many of us. That's why we're
here. And we hope that everyone has a sincere, open heart open mind and they get to benefit from
this important knowledge. Now tell us, we try to give some practical examples. You know, again, some
people coming over from jaleo we were there yesterday, we're coming here today. And you know, you're
around the brother. And you know, you didn't know he spoke another language. We speak English, but
then he turns the corner and he's speaking French. And I'm not talking french fries, or French food.
I'm talking about, you know, words that shouldn't be coming out of a person's mouth. Is this good
		

			mannerisms, swearing, cursing? Can a Muslim be doing this? Of course not. And why? Because a lot the
most high for betas. And there are surah in the Quran that talks about this and mannerism. Do not
mock one another Do not call each other names. And when a person knows that this is from his
created, then the submission is different. Because if it's not from the Creator, people will deal
with one another as rewarding one another or just trying to get some benefits. But we don't do that
for the benefit of a human being. We're doing that because we need to be obedient to Allah subhanaw
taala So the issue of people when they come
		

			into the messages are coming to Islam. And there's so much jelly or ignorance they come with, they
need to take care of themselves. It takes time takes time, it takes time with building the image,
building the faith that what really becomes the ground for good mannerism, not that be kind do this
and do that if that person's heart is not full of the belief and the faith and knowing a lot, the
most high with his names and attributes and building this immense, fulfilling the obligations of a
lot of sada and so on, then it becomes just not too much of an important attitude that a person
would have unless they will do that for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. So that mouth that we use
		

			the tongue to praise the Creator, we should never curse with it. Right? That's definitely true. Yes,
doesn't trust that we have to use it in the proper way. Definitely when take a break. We'll be right
back with more. Here on today's show. I just want to say very simple message is that
		

			one of the beautiful things about our religion of Islam is the emphasis on direct ritual and prayer
to God directly. There is no intermediary, the lights will go on after the party, and the party will
end. It's very simple and very clear. There are no superstitious rituals, no strange incantations
The time is running out. And we might not make it till tomorrow. And this is something that we need
to think about.
		

			Back here on the D show with Shaykh. Ibrahim is a damn people to watch more of your shows and go to
the deen show.com, you have your own special section. And at hamdulillah. I think the creator all
things is to him that you are here with us so we can benefit from your knowledge. So it seems like
Islam, that call to acquire peace by submitting to your will to the to the owner, appease the one
God, the same God of Jesus, Moses, Abraham, Noah, that same guy that they call the people to
worship, we're talking about him. The last and final message sent him that kind of problem how much
peace be upon him? It seems like this is a comprehensive way of like nothing's left out everything,
		

			how we worship the Creator, how we deal with our neighbors etiquettes with our wives, children,
everything is there. Everything is there, everything saved. And it's not again, opinions, it's text.
This is not your opinion, when you just made up. That's right. It's all from the Quran. The verses
of the Quran and the sayings of the Prophet peace be upon him. And that's what people need to learn
and need to have the patience to apply it. Even if people are not understanding this. They're not on
the same page with you. You still supposed to be of the best mannerism because you're doing that
because you're nothing but a servant of Allah and he ordered you to do certain things in a certain a
		

			certain way. Tell us doesn't this reflect back on the Dow on your call to invite people to reflect
about their purpose of life, why they're here, but now you're acting like a clown like a fool.
You're not implementing Islam. And now you end up being and just, you know, you end up being a
hindrance. Because Isn't it like, you go ahead and you live one way in front of let's say, the
brothers or sisters in the machine, but you go out here and you're acting foolish in not
implementing Islam doesn't is now confused. People say, you don't want me to come to Islam. Why
don't you at the nightclub the other day? Don't you treat people disrespectfully? What do I have to
		

			gain by following Islam because you've been a bad example, right? And this is exactly what the
prophet peace be upon him. He said that some of you are gonna fit in meaning some of you are
repellents that make people run away from seeing the truth, which is another evil that we might fall
in without knowing. So we have to have the responsibility. If you say that I'm a Muslim, comes with
it a responsibility that you have a message on the face of Earth, you don't have to be talking to
people calling them. It's your action and your conduct when it's time for the prayer. And you leave
everything even if it's a million dollar, we leave it to obey the orders of Allah to pray, the same
		

			thing you deal with them, you buy and sell, you're truthful, you're doing the things that you're
supposed to do, because you're nothing but an obedient slave to Allah subhanaw taala that by itself
is the image that we need to do not just to get people in, but because this is the author of Allah
subhanaw taala will be asked about it in the depth just tell us now before we come to an end, it
just came to my mind that a person is it true, he can be fasting and praying and doing all these
ritual things. But on the other end, he doesn't have good ethics, morals, manners, and now on the
Day of Judgment is gonna be taken from his good deeds. He was backbiting he was doing a lot of
		

			hideous things. Isn't this this is the Hadeeth This is a single top of the Prophet peace be upon him
that he asked his companions one day he said do you know who's the bankrupt among by Oh, my mom's
dead broke that broke. They said the one that doesn't have money. So the Prophet peace be upon him
correcting their understanding and this is what we correct our understanding when we go back to the
Quran and the Sunnah. He told them, the bankrupt the broke among my oma is the one that comes in the
Day of Judgment, with prayers with fasting with all kinds of good deeds. But he came in he had
cursed so and so. And he had attacked the honor and so and so he had physically attacked someone.
		

			Wow. So these people come in the day of judgment and they would take from his
		

			Good deeds, and they will put it on to them, they will take it from him till he has no more good
deeds, because the balance in the day of judgments, good deeds versus bad deeds. And still he has
some things in his account that he abused others and so on. And still, he does not have any good
deeds, they will take from their own bad deeds, and they put it on him and he will end up being
thrown into the hellfire. This is a man that came thinking that he's in the agenda straight to
paradise. But he ends up being in the Hellfire becomes an his record since that he didn't do And
Allah is the most just because of this transgression, that he transgressed the bounds and the limits
		

			and attacked others, by word of mouth by physically attacking them, that would bring the sins on him
and they would come into their judgment and take from him bad manners, bad manners. So this is very,
very emphasized in Islam, keeping your promises, of course, being a person of your word. And this is
the signs of hypocrisy. If a person doesn't the Prophet, Prophet, peace be upon them and he said,
the sign of a hypocrite is three. They don't if whenever he promises, he breaks his promise,
whenever he speaks, he lies whenever he quarrels someone, someone he is beyond the mannerism. That
means he abuses so much the quarrelsome with others, which is basically bed mannerism, signs of
		

			hypocrisy that negates the belief and the attitude of a believer that makes the belief deficient.
And that means the relationship between mannerism and belief it's not belief is not just something
in the heart. Belief in men in Islam belief is something done by the heart, something that said by
the tongue and something done by the whole parts of the body. It's all faith, it's all belief that
increases and decreases, closing comments and suggestions for those who are struggling, they want to
do the right thing, you know, and they're trying to get back past some of their bad behavior from
the past. They love this because it's increasing the amount. And this is getting more into Islam
		

			that just needs some more advice, give it to live it if there's one advice that I can say in in
seconds, turn to Allah, the Creator of the heavens and earth alone, sincerely, truthfully, that as
if you are drowning, and you seek help, you won't seek help from a human being when you're drowning,
and there's nothing around you no means you will turn sincerely to the Creator of the heavens and
earth. Turn to him with that same attitude. That he would help you to be steadfast on the truth that
will make you see the truth and make you among those who had the best mannerism. If we do that,
truthfully, we'll take the proper means and will seek the proper means from the Quran and the Sunnah
		

			of the Prophet Sal, putting our trust in Allah subhanaw taala, and learning and acting, learning and
acting, they go together, they don't separate from one another. And this is what we need to do.
mannerism is something that we need to learn. We don't know it by default, we need to learn it
according to the way of Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him on one nice thing is for Muslims and non
Muslims, the basic human right, we need to correct the understanding of what human rights is the
basic human right, people need to know about Islam. This is the right of every human being on the
face of Earth, that people don't make barriers between them. And between knowing the true message of
		

			this is their right, and we need to fulfill that right to others and to be in their service. To get
them to know the pure message of a listener. Thank you so much. I made the one guy the same God of
Abraham, Moses, Noah, and the last the final messenger met center, my counterpart, Mohammed is
behind me, He rewards you, the One God who created man and woman, but he's not a man and woman, the
one guy,
		

			thank you very much. Thank you, thank you. And we keep saying on every show, because this is the
foundation and you cannot build a house on a weak foundation is that you submit to the call to
worship the One God no buts, as if after that, not three and 11234 and five, six, just one leave it
alone. child can understand that. And then we need to perfect our mannerisms, our etiquette, how we
conduct ourselves with the Muslims and non Muslims, we have to be the best of examples. And how
you're going to do that follow your whims and desires No, you got to submit to the one who created
you. And he sat down the verbatim Word of God which is the crown and we have the last and final
		

			messenger sent the man kind of problem and peace be upon him his way his example. The authentic
hadith the same way if you were living during the time of Moses, it was the same message obey the
messenger that was sent worship the one God and obey the messenger and this is the last in front of
Mr. Sending that kind of problem on peace be upon him and we hope that you got the benefit and we'll
see you next time God one inshallah. Till then peace to you.
		

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