Tariq Ramadan – Chronicles of Ramadan #09 To listen
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The speaker discusses the importance of listening to oneself and others in order to repair from one's own struggles. He emphasizes the need to decentralize oneself and decouple oneself from reality to listen to others' experiences. He also encourages people to learn to love and acknowledge their own potential in order to repairing and love their lives.
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Peace be with you.
We talked about,
being and these were the first
8 chronicles.
And then we
came to a new chapter, so to speak,
which has to do with,
listening. And yesterday, we talked about
listening to ourself.
Beyond listening to ourself, which is essential in
our spiritual journey,
It's also important to listen to the people
around us,
to our parents, our father,
our
mother, our wife, our husband, our children, and
even the people around us within the community
to listen
to listen to what they are experiencing.
And this is
quite difficult
to achieve when we are deep in our
understanding of what does it mean to listen
to somebody.
To listen to somebody is not always
to listen to what she or he has
to say or he or she is saying
from our perspective,
from our viewpoint,
but from where they are
living their life and experiencing
their own reality.
It means that you have to
decentralize
yourself, to decenter yourself
from this reality in order to be able
to look at them the way they are.
It's very difficult when you have to do
this with your own father, with your own
mother, with your,
children, with the people that you love, your
wife, your husband, because you are always at
the center. I am listening
decenter yourself, say, okay.
Listen
to them from where they are
with their life, their past, their wounds,
and try to understand in which way.
By understanding them, you are going to repair
the reality of this relationship.
Because to repair is not only to repair
from where you are,
is also to understand. And this is the
very meaning of empathy.
Empathy has to do with okay. I'm going
to be.
I'm trying to understand from where you are
what you're experiencing.
And when you are used to
judge or talk to people
out of their function or their role in
your life. You are the center,
but to listen is sometimes to
avoid being the center and to come to
the reality of the others
in order to
understand
what
is
their reality
and in which way they are trying to
do their best.
And when you understand this, you understand that
to listen
means this real
spiritual conversion
where
you are not at the center
and you are not the parameter
of what is happening to others, but you
have to try to understand from where they
are. Try to do this with your father.
Try to do this with your your mother,
your wife, your husband, your children, and you'll
see that,
with this type of listening to them,
you avoid being judgmental,
and then you understand that
it might be that I don't know
everything about
what they are experiencing
and that I may, from this reality,
try to understand
better,
deeper who they are
and what they are trying to do with
their own self. And with this is the
very meaning of repairing,
is the very meaning of loving,
is the very meaning of understanding.
Don't forget to tell the people you love
that you love them. Life is fragile.