Tamara Gray – Hub f sabli llh Story of Salman Al Farisi and Abu Darda

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The speaker discusses a story about someone who shows up at a friend's house and tries to convince them to eat. The story is about a desire for a longer one, but the speaker emphasizes the importance of being mindful of others' actions and not just being a fool. The speaker also mentions a long line between being a fool and being of service.

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			Salman al farisi, who shows up at
his friend's house, Abu darda,
		
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			whose wife is just fed up with
him. He she's just like this man.
		
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			He's just his. He doesn't eat, he
doesn't sleep. I don't know what
		
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			to do with him. She was just
frazzled, trying to figure out,
		
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			you know, how to bring him back to
Earth, so to speak. And Salman
		
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			Pharisee, he stays the night, and
he his friendship with him is
		
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			really made clear when, in this
friendship, he like he's he's,
		
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			first of all, he invites him to
eat. Abu Dhabi invites Salman, in
		
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			fantasy, to eat, may Allah please
open the bowl, and he says to him,
		
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			or Salman Pharisee is going to
eat, but Abu Dhabi is fasting, so
		
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			he says, No, you come down and sit
here and eat with me. And then
		
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			when it's time to sleep, Salman
fantasy gets up. He's not going to
		
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			sleep. He's just going to pray.
Abu tarda that does. And so Salman
		
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			pulls him down, and then he tries
again. He pulls him down. Now in
		
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			this story, I just want to make
sure I underline that in the last
		
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			third of the night, he gets up and
he starts praying, and he Salman
		
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			fares, gets up with him. So it's
not like this story is in any way
		
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			discouraging from tahajjud. It's
quite the opposite. It's a story
		
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			of tahajjud and a desire for a
longer one, but Salman Pharisee
		
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			shows how fisibilid shows that
actionable love for sudden for Abu
		
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			Dharr da when he is concerned
about his physical health and his
		
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			family relationships,
		
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			and he helps him come back to
Earth, so to speak, and reminds
		
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			him that everything has a right
upon him. And then their
		
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			relationship is very long, and we
see them writing letters to one
		
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			another and continuing to
encourage one another and also
		
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			scold one another, sometimes in
and in what they felt they could
		
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			be doing, the other could be doing
better. And all of this is part of
		
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			that. So I want you to think about
somebody that you love.
		
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			Okay, think about somebody that
you love. How are you doing in the
		
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			thinking about how to help them
spiritually?
		
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			On one hand, there can be if
there's this feeling that, well,
		
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			what are they doing for me,
		
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			which isn't harmful, that is
hopeful. Dunya,
		
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			but then there's the question of
the risk, if I am
		
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			in loving someone, how can I serve
them, and what can I do for them
		
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			and really wanting to help them?
That I think we feel like there's
		
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			a risk there somewhere,
		
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			somehow, our culture has taught us
that we have to be really careful
		
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			not to over love people,
		
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			because they'll walk all over us
or they'll hurt us. But here, I
		
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			mean, and I'm not talking about
being foolish. I'm not talking
		
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			here about knowing someone is
hurting you, or knowing someone is
		
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			spending all of your finances or
No, no, no, no, I'm not talking
		
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			about that. I'm not talking about
being a fool. But there's a long,
		
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			a big, thick line between being a
fool and being of service and of
		
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			actionable love.