Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2021 J02-032D Tafsir Al-Baqarah 237

			Then, in the next hire, another scenario is mentioned and that is what in poloxamer Hoonah Min
cobbly, Anthem Asuna and if you divorce them before you have touched them, meaning before you
consummated the marriage with them, what for up to La Hoonah for yoga, and you have already
specified for them an obligation. So what's happening over here Nika who was done? Okay, marriage
was not consummated, but the Muhammad was specified. So out of the three scenarios that I gave you,
which scenario is this? Is it the first one second one or the third one, the Muhammad was specified?
The first one exactly. Okay. Remember the three scenarios? The first scenario is the MaHA is fixed,
		

			all right, it is mentioned at the time of Nikka. You sambal Maha. The second scenario is that the
Nikka happens on the agreement that there will be no Maha okay, it is mentioned that there will be
no Maha and this is forbidden. This was an exception only for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam. And the third is that the Muhammad is not mentioned at the time of Nika. It is not agreed
upon. It is not negotiated. It is not discussed at the time of Nika. And that scenario is mentioned
in verse number 236. That male anthem Asuna Oh, definitely Lulu Hoonah Fariba Okay, now, the first
scenario is mentioned in verse 237 that were interlocked to Munna min Covenanter masoumeh Naka to La
		

			nephila Okay. And this is the more common scenario that at the time of Nica, the MaHA is specified.
So, for example, two or three days before the Nikka you know, the Wali and the groom, they have a
discussion they come to an agreement that the groom will give $10,000 as Maha for example, okay.
Now, Nica happens, okay? The agreement has been made and it was even perhaps given Okay, so, for
example, the day of the Nica the groom transfers $10,000 to the woman's bank account, okay. So, the
mod has been specified, or for example, it was specified that she will be given a certain amount of
gold jewelry, and at the time of Nica, you know, she wears that jewelry. Okay, but the marriage was
		

			not consummated. Okay, and then the divorce happened. So this is a different scenario. Now, in this
case, again, the woman has to be given something. Okay, how much Allah subhanaw taala says Phineas
Fullmer followed tomb, then give half of what you specified. Okay, give half of what you specified.
Okay, so what's happening now, remember that the general rule is that when a man marries a woman,
okay, and he gives her the Mahal, and the marriage is consumated. Okay, the marriage is consummated,
whether it is that they lived together for five years, or that they lived together for five days, or
that they were alone for five hours, marriage was consummated. The man cannot take anything back
		

			from the Mirage, okay? Even if he gave a clean pour a heap of wealth, he cannot take anything back.
Okay. However, if marriage was not consummated, and the mud was never fixed, then at the time of
divorce, the man has to give whatever it is possible for him. And if marriage was not consummated,
and the man was fixed, then the man has to give half of what he fixed to the woman at the time of
divorce. And this is something completely permissible, okay, meaning such a divorce is something
completely permissible. So what we understand is that there are four types of Metallica. Okay, there
are four types of divorced women. The first type of Metallica, meaning divorced woman. The first
		

			scenario is Nika happened. So yes, Nikka took place. Okay, Muhammad, yes, it was fixed.
consummation. Yes, the marriage was consummated. Now, when divorce happens, what does the woman get?
She gets to keep all of the mud and she also receives a mudra. In addition, Inshallah, we'll talk
about that more. Okay. So this is a typical case of divorce. Basically, what we have been reading so
far in the previous verses before the verse about the reader of a widow. The second type of
Metallica is the woman with whom Nikka happened. So yes, Nikka took place. The mod was not fixed. It
was not specified. Okay.
		

			Conservation did not happen.
		

			The second scenario is that Nika happens, Muhammad was not fixed conservation happens, okay. So,
this is the case of the day after the man realizes that he did not specify the mother, the mother
was not brought up. So now there is no negotiation happening. Okay, so how much will he give, if he
divorces her, he has to give her Maha method. Maha method is what a Maha that is equal to the amount
of Muhammad that was given to similar women. And he also has to give her a matar Matera is some
additional financial benefit. Okay. The third scenario is a third type of Metallica is the woman
with whom marriage happened, Muhammad was not fixed. And consummation also did not happen. Okay, so
		

			she receives how much she receives just a maternal just a financial benefit. And that is mentioned
in verse number 236. How much will it be it will be according to the financial capacity of the men?
The fourth scenario is that the marriage happens Muhammad was fixed, consummation did not happen.
Okay. So in this case, she will receive half of the Mahal and she will also receive a motor on top
of that, okay, so these are the four cases of different types of motor lockout, okay. Now in the
case that is mentioned in this i i a 237, where the marriage happened, okay, conservation did not
happen. Okay. And the Nikka was fixed. So the fourth case, okay, the fourth case she receives half
		

			of them are her. Okay. And in addition to you will also receive a matar. Now, there is a question,
what if the man already handed over the Moho to her, okay. Like for example, on the day of the
Nikka, he transfers you know, in the masjid, the Nikka is happening, there is a job COBOL in the
men's side, all right. And right at that time, he transfers $10,000 transfers it to her account,
okay? Or he puts the cash in an envelope, and he gives it to her, okay? And the tool, meaning the
man and the woman were never alone. Okay? And before even they leave the venue, the man just gets
angry at something and he gives the lock, okay, such incidents can happen or he discovers something.
		

			And he says Talak Okay, he discovers something and he says, Talak he gives the luck, he gives the
divorce. Now, the mud was handed over to the woman. So what will happen now? Because she receives
half of the MaHA right. So what does she have to do? She has to return half of it. So if it was
$10,000 What does she have to do? She has to return 5000 from it. Okay, so Allah subhanaw taala says
in that AR funa OER for Lady be adhering to the tunica unless they forego the right meaning unless
the woman she for goes instead of taking 5000 out of that envelope. What does she say? Take the
whole envelope back. She returns the entire 10,000 She refuses to accept that transfer. She just
		

			returns it or the jewelry whatever it was she gives all of it back. She doesn't keep half of it.
Okay. Oh, or another case is your for Lady beard here aka the tunica. The one in his hand is the
contract of marriage, meaning the man He pardons. So instead of taking 5000 back, he says no, no,
keep all of it. Okay. He says keep all of it. He doesn't take 5000 back that half of the MaHA that
was appointed. He does not take it back. Rather, he forgoes all of it. He says, keep it all. Allah
subhanaw taala says wonderful Acropolis taqwa and to forego it is nearer to righteousness. So who
will be more righteous? Who will show more Taqwa over here? Is it the man or the woman? So both
		

			parties are encouraged to fear Allah at this time and be generous, right? Be generous to the other
party. Because think about it just a little while ago, each of you wanted to be married to the other
person. The man wanted to be married to that woman. The woman wanted to be married to that men,
right? And then you know, things were so good, but then all of a sudden they didn't work out. And
Allah subhanaw taala made a way out for you of the lock. So do extern at this time. So what
unthoughtful Acropolis Taqwa because, you know, sadly, at a time like this, there are so many, you
know, arguments and hostilities.
		

			People make one another's life so difficult. where for example, the woman refuses to give any of the
mahal back. She keeps all of it, leave. There's so much lying. There's so much Fianna because people
are greedy for wealth. So we're under careful Acropolis taqwa, if you forego it, that is nearer to
righteousness. Now, one thing I want to make clear over here is that Olivia de Raka, Tunica, the one
in whose hand is the contract of marriage, this is the husband, not the Wali of the woman. Okay,
because the wedding of the woman that he does not hold the marriage contract in the sense that he
cannot undo it. He cannot end the marriage. It is only the husband that can end the marriage with
		

			Talaq okay. So what unthoughtful Acropolis Taqwa now in this is, you know an encouragement to be
forgiving, to be generous, to be easy going, even at the time of divorce. And this is from
mechanical o'clock. This is from excellent character, that a person is easy to deal with the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said that it is not permissible for Muslim to abandon his brother
for more than three days that he's not talking to him that for example, a woman is not talking to
her sister and sister is not just biological sister but sister in Islam. This brother is not his
biological brother but brother in Islam. Okay. So it is not permissible that you abandon another
		

			believer for more than three days. Okay, such that the moment you come across each other, you will
completely ignore you turn away. And the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, Well, how you don't want my
lady Yeah, but that will be Salam. The better of the two is the one who is the first to give salam
to say the salam the first to initiate conversation, the person who takes the first step to
reconcile. So here also who is going to take the first step and be generous. The Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam said that May Allah be merciful to the person who is lenient, some have either
borrow, when he is buying, and also when he is selling, and when he is demanding back his money. You
		

			know, this is so sad, some people are so difficult to deal with, when you especially, you know, have
to deal with them in terms of money. Some people negotiate so much so much that it becomes
embarrassing, you know, like this woman was telling me about how she cooks food, and you know, she
sells it to people and people begin negotiating with her over what one or $2 You know, she says it's
embarrassing that I have a fixed price. So why are you being so difficult with me when I'm working
so hard? You know, for example, if you're making burritos or Tripathi, honey, it's not easy. You're
standing in front of the stove, that you are standing for hours, you're cooking, you know, she's
		

			using pure ingredients, clean food, and she says people start negotiating over 235 dollars. And it's
hard, it's difficult. So don't be so difficult with people, be easygoing, be generous, be lenient,
you know, for example, that you hire someone to cook food for you. Alright, and they say, these five
parameters are for like $15. For example, give them 20. If Allah subhanaw taala has given you Well,
be generous, be easygoing. Because if you're not easy going in these matters, how will you be easy
going in bigger matters, like, for example, the scenario that is mentioned in these verses the
scenario of divorce, because then at the time of divorce, people start counting pennies, you know,
		

			they become so stingy. For example, at the time of divorce, then people start asking the other party
that you have to pay for the expenses of the wedding. Also, that happened a year ago. That happened
six months ago, that you pay for the venue now and you pay for this expense and that expense and
they hand over an entire bill. Honey, this is so cheap. We're taught the opposite. Be generous. Who
is going to pardon who is going to forego we're untire for Accra, booty Taqwa. And remember, that
risk is in the hands of Allah. Okay? Risk is in the hands of Allah. And you never know when you are
generous to someone, how Allah will enrich you how Allah will benefit you how Allah will send it his
		

			pure way. So be generous, and where people become arrogant and stingy and selfish. Right? Then
there's shaitan and when shaitan is involved in something things will never ever turn out to be
good. What and therefore Acropolis taqwa and Allah says what I tend to I will fog Lavina calm in
Allah Habima Dharma Luna mislead and do not forget graciousness between you indeed Allah of whatever
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			Then so we'll follow Boehner comm meaning do not forget the favors that others have done to you. And
also do not forget to do favors to other people. So this means two things. Latins, I will follow
Boehner comfortable as in the funnel, the favor that was done to you or the favor that you can do to
others. Okay, well I can say I will follow by Nico because the person who forgets the favors of
others in such a way that you know, they say that I got nothing good from them, they have no good in
them. Okay, then Allah subhanaw taala does not like such individuals. In a hadith we learn that lie
under Allahu ala Marathi, that Allah will not even look at a woman who is not grateful to her
		

			husband. While she cannot be independent of him, in his she is financially dependent on him. Okay,
in so many ways, she depends on him. And she is not grateful to him, she does not show any kind of
gratitude that Allah will not even look at such a woman, any Allah subhanaw taala will be very upset
with this woman. Okay, so when someone has done you a favor, and you pretend like they never did
anything good to you. This is extreme ingratitude, and Allah subhanaw taala does not like that at
all. Now, it's understandable, you know, because of personal reasons, divorce happens, okay. But you
don't have to make it ugly. And you don't have to say that there was no good in it. There was some
		

			good in it. Remember that and appreciate that, you know, when we find out that someone is divorced,
why do we think that it must have been, you know, their fault or the other party's fault? Sometimes
it's not that there is a fault or that, you know, people are horrible. It's just that circumstances
are such that it's not ideal for the two individuals to be married, it's better for them to be
apart. So the reason why we think that divorce is always ugly and horrible is because typically,
people do horrible things at the time of divorce. People do horrible things at the time of divorce,
where they will, for example, demand, you know, the man's family will demand all of them. Or, for
		

			example, the woman's family will not return anything that they should return. Or they begin to
demand that, you know, we came for the wedding from a different country, our relatives came, they
stayed in the hotel, you know, we hosted you for dinner, and we paid you know, almost $50,000 So now
you have divorced our daughter, you give us $50,000 This is not right. Whatever you spend, you spent
it with your own, you know, Free Will you were being so generous before. Why are you being stingy?
No. So well, that answer will fog Lavina calm, do not forget the favors that were done to you. And
do not forget to do favors to others. And even at the time of divorce, don't forget to do favour to
		

			one another. Right? So for example, where the woman gets to keep half the mud, she can do a favor to
the man and not keep even that half. She can keep less of it or she can give all of it back. The man
in that case also he should do a favor where he does not take half of it back. He gives all of it to
her. So well at answer will follow by nickel. And you see one more thing. Part of a goodness to
one's parents is that you continue to pray for them and you are good to their friends after they
have passed away. Okay, why? Because you don't forget the favor that your parents do to you. You
don't forget the favor even that other people did to your parents. So this is why you are good to
		

			your parents friends. After your parents have passed away. There is Hadith in which we learn about a
blebbing or model de la Mourinho. You know, he met this Bedouin basically. And intermodal, de la
Mourinho was very nice to him. He was very generous to him. He spoke to him very nicely. And the
people that you know, he was traveling with, they were very surprised that you know, you come across
this Bedouin this random man, and you're so good to him and you give him so many of your things that
you are in need of why so if intermodal doula who I know, he explained that this man used to be a
friend to my father or mother, or the law Mourinho and because of that reason, intermodal de la
		

			Mora, and who gives so much honor and respect and he showed so much generosity to that poor man. So
why Latin so we'll folklore Boehner alright your father has been so generous to you his whole life.
So now you don't forget your father's face.
		

			givers and you be generous to your father's friends, these friends you know of your father, they
were so good to him. So now you should also be generous in return. Right? We learned that the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he mentioned that many women will be in the fire. He
explained the reason for that, that they are ungrateful to their husbands. And sometimes it's the
other way around, that a man is very ungrateful to his wife. The Prophet sallallahu Urdu said he
never ever forgot the favors of Khadija de la Mourinho, even years after she had passed away. In her
DISA has mentioned about how he would slaughter an animal, he would send the meat to the Friends of
		

			her digital de la Mancha. And he would remember her he would mention her even, you know, he would
praise her, he would take her name to the point that I shall Dylan more on her. She was so jealous,
you know. And at one point, she basically expressed her jealousy she lost it, you know, she was very
angry. And she said, words that were very mean basically, about her the journal de la hora. And then
why do you remember, you know, an old woman who had no teeth? You know, that she was so old. And you
still remember her when Allah subhanaw taala has given you someone who is much better you know, I am
young I am here I am with you. And yet you mentioned your previous wife who passed away and who was
		

			so old. So I should know the law Marina. She was very, very upset. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, he got offended at that time. And he said that Allah did not give me someone who is
better than the Gerald de la junta. Because for the journal de la marinha. She believed in the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when no one believed in him. She financially supported him when
no one did. And she was there for him emotionally also, and Allah subhanaw taala gave him some love
word he said and children through her also. So remembering the good of others, this is a part of
faith. Okay, and this is very, very important what I've done so I will follow Bane aka the Prophet
		

			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at one point, he even expressed his willingness to honor the opinion of
Mataram bynner ID and miltary vinohrady was a non Muslim. Okay, he died as a non Muslim. But why did
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam express his willingness to honor the opinion of Malta and
vinohrady because multiminer already did a huge favor to the Prophet sallallahu Ortiz, you know,
when the Prophet sallallahu arisin was returning from live, and basically he needed someone's
protection in order to come back to Makkah in safety. So multiminer already granted him that
protection and the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, remember that favor of motorman? 30 years later,
		

			even when we are dealing with people, right when someone is working for us, even in that situation,
we should remember the favor that they have done to us. You know, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said that if someone works for you, then pay him. Or if someone gives you a gift, then give
him something similar, basically reciprocate the favor that was done to you. And if you're not able
to reciprocate that, then make doll for him. Right? So when can you do that when you remember the
favours of others when you remember that? Yes, they have been good to us, even to servants, the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that when your servant prepares food for you, and he brings
		

			that food to you, then feed him something from it, give him something from it, either make him sit
with you, and eat with you, or give him something so that he can eat later. Why? Because when he was
preparing that food, you know, he smelled it, he looked at it, and he tolerated the smoke and
everything. So he deserves to get something from that food. You know, you might argue that while
you're paying that person to do all that work for you, yes, you are. But still Latin, sir, will
follow by nickel. You know, it's possible that you hire someone to do some work for you. And they
say, No, I'm not available. I will not do it. Not this week, I can do it next week. So the fact that
		

			they agreed to work for you at a time that is convenient for you, or the fact that they're doing it
for you, you know, that itself is a favor, you can have 1000s of dollars sitting in your bank
account. But if you are not able to, for example, clean your house yourself, what good is that
money. So if you hire someone to work for you, and they clean your house for you, for example, and
yes, you pay them also appreciate them, thank them, honor them, let them some will fog Lavina Ko. We
learned that once the companions were traveling with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and
there was a shortage of water. People are very thirsty. So some people were sent to go and search
		

			for water nearby. And they'd be
		

			Again, searching for water and they couldn't find any water anywhere. And they came across a woman
who was, you know, taking her camels and she was basically taking water. Right? So they asked her
that, where are you coming from? And she told them about how far that place was, right where she was
bringing the waterfront. So anyway, they took her to the Prophet sallallahu earlier said them in the
Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, you know, took some of the water, he made Daraa and a whole lot of
water came out from those vessels that she had her water in. And she was given something, you know,
as payment as gratitude. Because the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam told the companions that you
		

			know, collect something for her. So people began bringing different things, you know, as gifts for
that woman because she had done a favor to them by sharing her water with them. And then, you know,
she went back home. Now, what happened is that years later, whenever the Sahaba would come across
her tribe, okay, her family, her people, they would grant them protection and safety. Why? Because
one woman from among them had given water to the Companions. So they remember that favor for so
long. The entire tribe was respected and given good treatment and was given protection, because one
woman from among them had done a favor to the Companions. What do we do we do the exact opposite. We
		

			remember, you know, the bad things, okay. Of a few individuals. And we generalize, we generalize,
like, for example, from a family that you were once acquainted with, perhaps one individual hurt
you, one individual, maybe they said mean things to you, but you canceled the entire family. That's
what we do, right? We cancel an entire people, sometimes an entire race, sometimes that entire
organization based on what based on the bad experiences that we have had with one or two
individuals. Allah subhanaw taala is teaching us to look at the other side. Well, Athens, I will
follow by Nina calm. Don't forget the favor. That was done between you. And now don't forget to do
		

			favour to one another, even at a time like divorce. In the Lucha Bhima Dharma Luna bow sleep indeed
Allah is ever seeing of whatever that you do. Allah subhanaw taala is watching everything that
you're doing. So be careful. Even at the time of divorce. Are you going to become harsh? Are you
going to become cheap and stingy and unfair? And rude? Over a couple $1,000 over some money or are
you going to be generous? Are you going to be honest? Are you going to be forgiving? What are you
going to do? Allah subhanaw taala is watching you. All right. Let's listen to the recitation of
these verses. And then we will continue
		

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			Okay, I see a few questions and comments regarding consummation of marriage. So remember that
consummation of marriage, which is basically called mus in His Ayat, touch some word am I say that
consummation of marriage happens when there are sexual *? Okay, and other intimacy that no
sexual * is not necessary, even if the man and woman are alone after Annika for a brief
time, that in itself is the consumerization of marriage, because now you're not going to ask did you
hold hands? Did you kiss you know, things like that? You're not going to ask such questions. It's
understood that when they're alone, they can do whatever they want in their privacy and what happens
		

			between a man and wife is going to remain private to them. And Subhan Allah, any people are so weird
people ask, you know, the woman, the man. They have weird traditions, and they want to know
		

			How the first night was, and how it was when they held hands. And was there blood or not? Any, this
is irrelevant to everyone what happens between a husband and wife in their privacy when they're
alone is supposed to remain with them. No third person has the right to find out what exactly
happened, okay, no third person has a right to find out or even dare to ask a question. And of
course, if there is a situation of abuse, that is different, okay? In that situation, a woman, for
example, might want to reveal what happened because this is a situation of abuse, that is a
different scenario. But anyway, consummation of marriage happens when a man and woman after Nika are
		

			alone with one another, all right, without the presence of a third individual upon consummation of
marriage, Maha is do I write my her must be given and if a man does not have the intention of giving
the MaHA then he will meet Allah as a Zanni All right. Now, if this conservation happened, all
right, and the MaHA was not specified, the mud was not specified consummation of marriage happens
and divorce also happens, then the woman has to be given something she has to be given her full
Muhammad. Now, what is that full Muhammad going to be? How would you determine the amount when no
Muhammad was agreed upon before the Nikka or even at the time of Nikka so, she will be given
		

			Muhammad method mod method is the method that is equivalent to a mod that is given to women of
similar socioeconomic status. All right. Now, there is also questions about if a woman can forgive
her Maha entirely. Yes, she can, but it will happen after she is given them a hug, okay. The any
this is not correct, that a marriage happens without Muhammad, in the sense that at the time of
Nica, it is said that there will be no Muhammad that is not correct, because the prophets of Allah
who already have some did not allow that. Okay, for remember, there was a man, you know, he wanted
to marry a woman, the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam asked him to give some Muhammad, he said I
		

			don't have anything. And basically, it was agreed that he would teach the woman some Surah of the
Quran, that would be her Maha. Okay. So, some kind of Muhammad has to be given. Now, after the
Muhammad is agreed upon. And after the method is given, can the woman return some or all of it with
her own volition? Yes, she can. Okay. So for example, a man and woman get married, the man gives
them a hug to the woman. Let's say he gives her $10,000. And what happens five months later, they
want to buy a car. And the man says, you know, he wants to pay for the car fully. He doesn't have
all that money. The woman says, You know what, you gave me all that mud. It's just sitting with me,
		

			and I'm just gonna be paying the cat on it. So why not? You know, I'll give you the money and we can
buy the car together. So it fits with her willingness. That's fine, but she should never be
compelled. Okay, directly or passively, indirectly, to give back the money. And of course, this is
in terms of a tangible Mahesh, meaning a financial amount. All right.