Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P28 284C Tafsir Al-Taghabun 14-18
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The Day of Judgment is a abused and risky statement related to a love for someone, not just a relationship. People in their generation may be punished and advised to forgive them. The importance of forgiveness and mercy is emphasized, and caution is necessary when dealing with people who do not support one another. Seatments and rules are emphasized, and people should show respect and understanding.
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Surah labuhan As you're familiar is a murky Surah or Madani. Surah
Exactly. Madani, but some have said that some of the verses in the Surah are murky, as we can see at the beginning of the surah. There are many things mentioned such as the fact that the day of judgment is yomo. Jim are young with the Labuan. And remember that it is a characteristic of the murky sutras to have the concept of the hate Imani yet akhira in them. So generally verses that talk about the hereafter are matters related to believe them remember that those verses are found in which sutras MKi sutras, but here we have a Monday Surah talking about matters of the Day of Judgment. And this is why some scholars have said that part of the surah maybe McKee so I number 14,
Allah subhanaw taala says Yeah, are you here Lavina Amma know all you people who have believed or people of Eman
in the mean as well as you come, indeed, some of us YG come your as watch your spouse's
what Oh, Allah decom and also your children, meaning some of your spouses, some of your children, among them, there are those who are, are do walakum an enemy to you.
Among your spouses and your children, there could be those who are in reality your enemy,
find out all of them. So, what do you have to do? You have to be cautious of them. You have to be careful, you have to be on guard.
What interval and if you pardon, if you show pardon, what does for who and you overlook what del funeral and you forgive Barton overlook the faults off and forgive who? Your spouses and your children if you deal with them in this manner, which manner forgiveness and tolerance then what will happen for in the Lucha foto Rahim then indeed Allah, He is definitely forgiving and merciful. Meaning if you show forgiveness and mercy to others than Allah who will show forgiveness and mercy to you. Even Abbas little de la Horne, who he was asked about this is that what does this I mean? I mean, when it comes to spouses and children, we see that this is a very beautiful relationship.
Right? Marriage is a blessing. And Allah subhanaw taala himself says in the Quran that woman at He it is from amongst his signs in the room that it is from amongst his signs that he has made for you your spouse's, what Darla Bina call my word Dutton, Rama, and he has put between you love and mercy, isn't it? So the relationship between husband and wife, between parents and children, is understood to be a relationship of love, a friendship, of support, of mercy of affection. Right? In the Quran, we learned through Bukhara that you are clothing for them and their clothing for you. Meaning this is a relationship between husband and wife. Over and over again, we are taught to deal with the
spouse in which manner in the manner of Martin Wolf, correct. When it comes to children, also the relationship between parents and children, we see the children are repeatedly advised in the Quran to deal with their parents in which manner in the manner of your son will bill Wiley, Dany if Santa correct. So we see that generally in the Quran, what we understand with regards to the relationship of a husband and wife with regards to the relationship of parent and child is that this is a relationship of love, respect, affection, mercy, correct. But here we see something very different being mentioned. And what is this that your spouse and your child could be your enemy? So be
careful. Now, first thing, remember, this is not a general statement. This verse is not saying that a person spouse is definitely going to be their enemy, or that their children are definitely going to be their enemy. This is not a general statement. It's a very specific statement. It is said in men as logical. Meaning it could be that a person's spouse is their enemy, it could be that their child becomes their enemy. So even our basketball Dylan one who was asked about this idea that what is the meaning of this idea? So he said that this verse was revealed concerning people who embraced Islam in Makkah, they became Muslim in Makkah, and they want it
To do Hijra to Medina, that was their intention. They wanted to migrate to Medina and what was the reason to be closer to the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam to have more freedom and ease in practicing Islam, right, in order to continue learning from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam you see at that time, you know how people learned the Quran?
How was it that every time the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam received revelation? Okay, send a message. Yeah, forward that to a group and then that's it done. News will spread like a wildfire. No, it didn't happen like that. People would learn Quran how, either by traveling to places where they were Muslim, or when Muslims were traveling, they would meet them in Makati. We learn of a hadith of a young companion, a little boy, he was at that time, who had learned Quran, they lived far from Medina and he had learned Quran from who, from people who would be traveling. So every time there were travelers passing by, he would ask them so any more students anymore Quran. And so he
memorized a lot of the Quran. So much so that he was the one who had memorized most Quran from amongst his people. And so he was appointed as their Imam. He would lead them in prayer. And he was so little so young. And you know, his family didn't really care much about his clothing because he was a little kid, right? So much so that when he would go into sujood, his private part, which Oh, from the back, His clothing was so short. So one day a lady got really upset. She said, cover your email. So everybody got together, they pitched in money, they put together something for him a dress for him, and they gave him that, that dress to wear. And he said that he was so proud of that dress
that he got, because he would wear it for Imana in order to lead people in prayer. So the reason why I'm mentioning this to you is because people would want to be in Medina or closer to Medina. Why? So that they would be able to learn the Quran, they would be able to learn Islam, remember that Quran was not revealed in one day. Right? So people living at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, if they really wanted to increase on their knowledge, they had to be closer to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in space also. So what happened? These people they wanted to migrate to Medina. Whenever they made the intention to do Hijra their wives and their children, they would
start crying, and they would refuse to allow them to go to Medina. So basically, the children said that, No, we're fine here. The wife said, No, we're fine here. It's okay. We don't want to go. We'll survive here. We don't want to leave Makkah, we have our home. Our life is set, things are established, why should we relocate? They didn't want to. So what happened eventually, after a long time, when they did go to the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. They saw that people had gained so much knowledge in the deen. And they had done so much for the deen that these people who didn't do Hijra they felt
how do you think they felt way behind? They didn't know much Quran, they didn't know much about the rulings of the dean. They had missed out on so much learning. They had missed out on so much opportunity. Why? Because they had intended to go, but who prevented them, it was their families. Right? It was their families that prevented them from going. So these people, they got so upset with their families that they intended to punish them. It was like when you get upset that I missed out on this opportunity because of you, you know what, I'm going to show it to you I'm going to punish I'm going to take some kind of revenge. So they wanted to take revenge from their families. And the
last round to reveal this idea what entire foo, what a spa who, what the whole fuel for in the love of food over him, Whatever has happened, has happened. Now be careful in the future. And for now, how should you deal with your families, you should pardon them, overlook their mistakes and forgive them and when you will deal with them in this manner than Allah who will also show mercy and forgiveness to you. In Surah Noor Ayah 22 Allah says Allah to hit buena and young Pharaoh Allahu La con, will you not like that Allah should forgive you. Now, if you think about it, this is something very true.
Why is it that so many times we get left behind or we miss out on great opportunities? What is the reason? What is the reason? Many times it is our families, isn't it? It's our loved ones that we want to be with them. We want to spend time with them, we want to take care of them. So as a result of that, who do we neglect who? ourselves
All right. And I think as women, we can understand this very well. What happens to a woman when she gets married, she will even stop her education, she will take a year off from school. And then what happens? A baby comes in, and then she never really goes back to school or she takes a long time. And then finally she goes back to school, isn't it? So many times a person wants to go for Uber or for Hajj, but that costs money, and where's their money going on their family? Right? Not that it's wrong to spend on the family. This is something that Allah has legislated. Not that it is wrong to look after your family. This is something that Allah has legislated and Allah will question us about
it. Right? However, what is meant here is that find the room. Be careful. Don't lose yourself in taking care of your families. Don't forget yourself, in showing love to your families in pleasing them. They have a right, and you have a right. While you're concerned about teaching and educating your children, you should be concerned about teaching and educating yourself also. I mean, as women or as parents, how concerned we become about teaching our children, my child is two and a half years old, he better learn how to read already. Right? We're so concerned.
But what about us?
So often it is that parents are concerned about their children learning the Quran, or memorizing the Quran, what about me? What about us. So, in the mean, as well as you can, what Allah decom I do welcome, it is quite possible that they can be an enemy to you. Now remember that our Dawa enmity, this is the first level of enmity this is basically to not be in aid of someone to not be in aid of someone. And instead, whatever they're trying to do, prevent them from accomplishing their goal. So many times it is our closest ones that hinder us
from pursuing our goals
that prevent us from going further.
Yes.
He once told us in class that you have to spend some time away from your family so that you can spend time with them forever, as an agenda. So right now, the time that you sacrifice, being away from your family, it's not necessarily a sacrifice, because inshallah you're working towards a greater goal. Yes, in sha Allah. Now, we see that the people that a person lives with the people that a person is closest to, in terms of relationship, they can become his greatest test, they can become our greatest test. In fact, if you think about it, people that we live with, they are a daily test, aren't they? I mean, if there's a person who didn't allow you to pray, right, you go to some
office, and you say, it's time for me to pray, may I please pray here? There's no, they don't allow you to pray. So you decide I'm never going back there again. Call us. I'm done. I don't like those people. I don't like that building. I don't like that office, okay.
But if it's your own family, it's motive time. And one person says, I want dinner. And another person says, Can you pass this for me? And another person wants something else, and another person wants something else? And if you keep going after them one after the other, you're going to delay your prayer, isn't it? And what happens in these times is that we lose our patients. We show anger, we become upset, we yell at them. Or sometimes we don't behave with them the way we should. So what does Allah say entire fool, what the spa who, what is therefore awful, awful is to is don't call it recover it is to not punish. And thus far, while soft, what is soft, Terkel Malama to not even let
the other person feel bad.
You know, sometimes we will put the foot on say, you know, it's time for prayer. I have my class, I have a test. I have an assignment. You know, through our manner. We let the other person know that we're doing them a favor, and that they're preventing us from doing something good. Soft is Terkel Malama to not even let the other person feel bad. Don't feel Moffat or what is McFerrin sets with them what the gel was on who just forget about it, forget about what they did and not remember tomorrow or the day after or next week. And this is what you have to do all day long. When you're dealing with your families.
You see sometimes it is the spouse or it is the children or it could be the parents it could
Be the siblings, it could be the closest family members that prevent a person from obeying Allah. Like, for example, a woman wants to wear the hijab, and she doesn't get that cooperation and support from the family.
All right, she wants to learn the Quran, and she doesn't get that support from the family. He wants to study and he doesn't get that support from the family. It happens. So, you know, when you're living with the people who are not supporting you, or who are indirectly hindering you, then what do you do? What do you have to do in the morning? direful? In the afternoon? Does for who and in the evening? Don't feel that's what you have to do all day long? Show pardon? And forgiveness? Because if you don't, you're going to be living with a heavy heart. You're going to be living with a lot of guilts Theraflu what us for who? What have you. Now, do you notice over here in this ayah, Allah
does not say that your parents could be your enemies?
Why do you think so?
Why spouse?
Because at this stage of life, when a person has their spouse and their children, then they're somewhat independent. They make their own decisions.
Their parents say you're free, or they're living on their own. Right? The girl is married off she living with her family, parents or were in a different country. Yeah, she talks to them, but they don't dictate what she does. They don't dictate what she wears. They don't dictate where she goes, she's independent. She's free. You understand? So then who is the challenge? It's the spouse and it's the children. And when it comes to parents, generally, what are the parents say, do whatever you want, I don't want anything from you. And this is one of the greatest things about parents that what they want for their children. Many times, I'm not talking about all parents, but many times
this is the case with parents, that they want their children to be happy. Which is why you will find even an old woman willing to prepare food for her son who is more than capable of going and buying food for himself. Why will she stand up and make food for her son? Because she wants good for him? Parents constantly give to their children, isn't it and spouse and children what do they do? They constantly take? Right? So parents are not mentioned over here. And if parents do prevent a person from plate, then in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala has mentioned that in total uncovered in Surah lukeman sutra uncoupled eight Allah says well we'll sign up in Santa bydd for SNA We have enjoined
upon man to be good towards his parents were injure her Dhaka little Sri kabhi mele Celica be here in Fela tutor Huma, but if they force you on their strive against you to associate partners with Allah to commit schicke, then what do you do? You don't obey them. However, we'll slug it, boom, I've had dunya meroofer live with them in this world in a good manner.
But when it comes to spouse and children than a person has a sense of authority and control over them. Right? My children, I'm the parent, right? My spouse, even as a wife, there is a certain level of control or not necessarily control but it's a different relationship. Parents, you can't leave but a spouse, you know that you can leave. You understand my point. When it comes to parents, can you ever say that said I don't know you any more Colosse we're ending our relationship here. Don't do that. But with a spouse, you can always end the relationship.
You understand? So you have some level of control over this relationship and insults. wilcon Allah says what you're annoyed about the commonly Belden fitna doesn't be rune. We have made some of you a test and trial for others. So are you going to be patient? Are you going to show patients or not?
So here Allah subhanaw taala is warning us very clearly. That Be careful in them in as well as you call. What Hola. Dico are the welcome. You have to be careful for the room for the room. Heather, what is Heather that you be careful, you are alert.
Because what your spouse says can impact you what your children say can hurt you. And as a result, you get angry, you know, with your parents, you control your tongue.
But with your spouse and with your children, you let it loose
with your parents, there's a certain level of respect. So even when you disagree with them, you'll say DG Yeah, okay, sure. But when it comes to the spouse and children, you can lash out, you can say what you want. So I thought oh home because it's very easy to destroy our deeds.
You know, on the one hand a person is
Working so hard striving so hard, I would memorize the Quran, I'm going for my Quran class. And then you come home and your child, your son or your spouse says something mean to you, and then you give it to them, and what you said, or how you dealt with them, washed away.
whatever good you had accumulated. So far the room, be careful, be on guard. There's a beautiful door that we learned. And this door is reported and associate Tulsa that Allahumma in the URL to become a Jedi Sue, will Allah I seek her protection from an evil neighbor, women zodion to share Yebo New Covenant machine. And I also seek Your protection from a spouse that will make me grow old before old age.
You understand the meaning
a spouse that will make me grow old before old age,
a source of constant worry, and distress and anxiety that a person doesn't feel relaxed at home. You know, marriage is supposed to bring sukoon
right? But sometimes marriage can be a source of a lot of pain for a person, that they're constantly worried. Here's an argument or he's going to be upset with something or she's going to be unhappy about this. And what's happening. It's like you're living with an enemy.
Instead of a companion with whom you're supposed to enjoy an intimate loving relationship. You're living with an enemy.
Woman zodion To show you when your covenant machine woman wallet in your corner Alia Robin, and Oh Allah, I seek a protection against a child that becomes a master over me, bosses me around dictates what I do. As if I have no freedom. I feel shackled. Before my children, they have overpowered me overwhelmed me. So I cannot find time to even remember you. I cannot find time to even pray with her. Sure. I cannot find time to recite the Quran. Your Coonawarra Layyah Robin, women Malin your Qunar aleja other urban, and I also seek Your protection from wealth that will become a punishment for me.
A source of constant pain and anguish for me. Lemon Calida MCIT in an ultra from a treacherous friend. I know who Torani Wacol boo Irani, whose eye looks at me, but his heart watches me. Meaning from on the surface, he appears to be very sincere. But in his heart, he's got other agendas. What's the agenda that inworld Hassan attend Dafina that if he sees something good in me, he hides it. What in the law say yet another Aha. And if you see something evil than me, he spreads it.
So he's basically just befriending me to get do find my faults, and to spread them. So the first part of this draw, that I seek Your protection against a spouse that will cause me to age before old age. Now you see this enmity with spouse and children. It's very different, very different. It's not like enmity to somebody from school, or enmity to somebody from work. It's not like that. This is very different. Because it typical enemy, you can avoid them.
Is it? You don't get along with your boss at work. Go say to them one day I quit. Right? And just, you know, just feel that relief. I quit and walk out the door. What a relief. But can you say that to your children? Can you? I quit as a mom. Bye. Can you do that? Not
you have to deal with them every day. At breakfast, they annoyed you will wait to lunch. Right? And they're bothering you when they're three and four. We would wait till they hit teenage years. Right and wait till they get married and they become their marriage problems. Do you then somebody once said to me, little kids, little problems, bigger kids bigger problems.
And it's so true. So you can't quit. You can't just walk out. Right? A typical enemy you can confront them.
But your spouse, your children, can you confront them?
You can't do that. A typical enemy. They do what they do to you out of hate and dislike
but your spouse and children. Many times they will prevent you from Dean or from doing clade y out of love. They want to be with you.
They want you they want to enjoy with you. They want to have a good time with you
And this is why they're unhappy that every weekend morning, you're gone.
You understand? They're doing it out of love, not out of dislike. There could be somebody out there who doesn't like you and doesn't want you to learn, doesn't want you to grow in your knowledge. Right? They weren't bad for you. But if your spouse is preventing you from learning, that's not because your spouse wants you to stay ignorant. Yeah, I want an ignorant wife. No, that's not the reason.
The reason is, he wants you. They want companionship, they want time together. They're doing it out of love.
And you seen many times these issues that come up why we have to dig deep, right? We have to go to the root. We get upset. Well, my husband is not supportive. My children are not supportive. Well, it's not because they hate you. It's out of love.
So you have to be very patient.
What we're in Thar fool What the FICO what they'll fill. You see, three words are mentioned over here for forgiveness. What does that mean? You have to show forgiveness all the time. Because if you keep grudges and heart and if you start getting upset over little things, you're not going to get anywhere.
So if you want to be at peace, and if you want to keep peace at home, then what do you have to do? Dot foo what else for who? What El Faro? You just have to ignore certain things. You have to pretend as if they didn't say anything to you.
You just have to be happy, happy. You have to do that. Honestly, recently, I met a sister. I don't know how she lives. Mashallah. But amazing. Her husband doesn't really talk much. Right? And he doesn't. I mean, you know, some people, they talk a lot. But if he's a little upset, he'll just be quiet like the whole day. He's not that involved in the Muslim community. He's got his lifestyle fixed his he set. And she's a very active member in her community.
She's always volunteering, going out helping out and he's, he wants to sit at home, watch a movie, he wants to go to a restaurant, eat dinner, he wants to go to his friend's house, enjoy over there.
And you know, she wears her job. He didn't want her to wear hijab, they live in the States. And they live in a place where there aren't many Muslims. He didn't want her to do that. You can imagine if you're living like this, anything could cause an argument, isn't it? Anything could cause an argument, and this is something that happens.
But I was amazed at her o'clock. She comes home happy, happy, you know, as if nothing's wrong. And when she's so perky and smiling and happy, then what will happen to the other person? What will they do?
What do you think they will also reciprocate? Right? Isn't it sad that it's the mother who sets the mood of the house or the woman who sets the mood of the house? This is so true.
Now, this doesn't mean that you just don't care about your spouse and you don't care about your children? No, it means you give them their rights. But you also give yourself your rights.
There's a time for your spouse, there is a time for your children. And that is something that you should not compromise on their rights. You cannot compromise on them. What they want from you what they need from you, you cannot compromise on that. It is not right that just because you have a class or just because you have a test. You don't give them food and you don't prepare the food and whatnot. No, you have to do your part. But that should not be what your life is all about.
There is a time for your family a time for yourself. You give them their help and you must give yourself your help. Also, in nama Anwar LUCAM indeed your wealth were allowed to come and your children Allah says they are only fitna there are only a test. You see in nama. What does it mean? Indeed only meaning this is the reality of your wealth and children. They are a test, a trial. And generally what do we think of wealth and children?
Blessing they are indeed a blessing. But they're a blessing and a test. You're like a coin has two sides. So this is the same thing. One side test one side blessing their blessing and test at the same time.
Well, Allah who are in the who? And Allah He has a Jonah alim, a great reward, how our wealth and children a test a trial if it's not there a test in the sense that they bring with them, you know, pain and hardship. Correct. You buy a car and then there's a hardship associated with it. You have to look after it
Right, you live in a house and there's a hardship associated with that you have to clean it. Alright? When it comes to children, there's hardship associated with children. Right? So they bring with them hardship, but not just that they're a fitna in the sense that they distract you. From what? from Accra. They distract you from fulfilling the purpose of your existence. They make you forget yourself. They do. Lateral Hichem unwelcome wala hola to comandi Killa. This is the fitna, they distract you from the Dhikr of Allah. And so often it's the temptation of wealth that leads a person towards haram
isn't it?
Towards unlawful?
Because it's just so tempting. It's just so beautiful. It's just everybody has it? I want it to and in order to acquire that money, or in order to acquire that property, a person will compromise on their Deen. It's a fitna that money is a fitna that houses a fitna and in order to please children in order to make them happy, again a person will
do things which are inappropriate which Allah subhanaw taala does not like is set off extravagance showing off compromising in our deen
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said in the liquidly omit in fitna, for every nation is a trial and the fitna of the Nation of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam what is that? Fitna? It is mal in his wealth.
So when it comes to Muslims when it comes to us, our one of the biggest trials in our lives is going to be what? Money
and this is so true how much people will compromise on just to get more money just to get more property in total CalFire 46 Allah says a man who will balloon Zenith or hieratic duniya welcome children are just an adornment, a decoration for this life. And you see decoration. It's meant to be temporary.
Right? We see every winter Christmas lights Christmas decorations, right? We see them now it's not just limited to the holiday season. It's throughout the year. If it's not one thing is something else going on. But those decorations they come up and then where do they go? Garbage,
temporary wealth and children. They're also temporary blessings.
Well, valkia to severely hurt and what is going to remain is good deeds, they are high donor in the Rebecca webinar. Hi, Ron MLR. So then what is the test? That who will you choose? Will you choose Allah or your money? Who will you give preference to Allah or your children?
Ibrahim and his sunnah? Was he tested with respect to his children? Yes. He was told to slaughter Izmir eel
in through two soft fat this has mentioned
so what did he do over there? Did he give preference to Allah or to his hola his wallet to Allah. Fatah up Hola Hola, Sofia, Allah must apart dome, as much as you are able is the Farah is once capacity. Whatever is within one's capacity. So fear Allah as much as you can. What does this mean? Do the best that you can.
Because many times
due to our wealth or due to our spouses or children, we are put in a position where
we have to let go of something. Right? Like for example,
a spouse is not supportive of Dean.
For instance, if there is a woman and her husband says, Don't wear this hijab.
And I remember a sister once came to me and she said that when she started wearing the hijab, her husband would just sit at just by the door. And he said as soon as you take it off, we'll leave.
When you take that off, we will leave I'm waiting here.
You understand?
Now what do you do? On the one hand is Allah's command?
And on the other hand, is your spouse telling you we're not walking out of the door until and unless you take that off? What do you do there?
You understand? And anyway, she wanted to keep her hijab on and her husband wouldn't support at all. Not at all. So initially, she said I will take it off because there was no way that I could go with that on he wouldn't allow at all. And then she said Then one day I thought, That's it. I'm gonna put my foot
Don't if he can be stubborn, I can be stubborn also. And she said I didn't remove it. He didn't want her to wear long or BaIa. So she said, Okay, fine, but this is not coming off. The Hijab is not coming off.
So for toquilla, most of our time she did her best. She did at least the bare minimum. You understand? She did at least the bare minimum, she kept this on the hijab on when he came to her bio, there was no discussion over there. I mean, he wouldn't even allow her to put this on. How do you think you would allow her to put an AR bya on? So this is for the cola, Mr. Thornton. We think that the cola Mr. Thornton, miss, somebody has given me a dirty look. Oh, I'll take it off. All right. Somebody's not seeing Wow, that looks really good. I'm so proud of you. They don't show outright support will say I won't even pray. This is not for the cola, who Mr. Thornton. For
tequila, Master thorium is that you do your best. And you do the maximum that you can do with the intention of going further with the intention of going further. So this particular sister, she said that for a long time, she would just remove her hijab when she would be with her husband. But otherwise, when she's on her own, when she's going to the store, when he's not there in the car, when he's not with her she would keep it on.
You understand for a couple of months, this happened. And then eventually she put her foot down, she put the hijab on also. And now mashallah, things are good. Yes, I know one of the couple. That girl was from a loser, she did the course she's totally changed husband was totally industrialized. And he used to stay in late nights. So in the beginning, there was a lot of fights a lot of problems. And after four or five years, she said, what I am doing what I'm earning, I'm learning Islam, and I'm making my husband happy. So with hikma, she said, What'd she do that she took the nice coats, nice jobs presentable, and she used to sleep in the afternoon, and her husband gave children
sleeping, okay, let's go out for the coffee, let's go out for the dinner. And husband was so happy after that year, she killed herself. And then she changed her husband also. Now both are so happy. And she's taking Islam side by side with him. And he's changing. So, you see many times the hurdle is inside. Right? We ourselves are weak.
We ourselves are weak. We can blame our circumstances, as we will see the following sources. We can blame our circumstances. But it's not our circumstances always that hinder us. We have the example of ESEA the wife of her own,
that fit around support her in her team. No, he tortured her, tortured her he had appointed guards to ensure that she was suffering. Those guards would get tired and they would have to go take a break.
But did she give up? No, she didn't. So the real hurdle is inside. Once you make up your mind that you want to do something, you are determined.
Allah subhanaw taala will create a way out for you.
That's what I was thinking to mention. Asya a lesson? Yes. As Allah says in the Quran that we may have tequila, Hydra, Allahu Maharaja, Whoever fears Allah, then Allah creates a way out for him. So fucked up Allah who must authority them doesn't mean that you just start compromising. Because if you start compromising, then where are you going to stop? Where
you're going to lose yourself. There is a book by Seth Godin, what are you going to do when it's your turn? And it's always your turn, long title. But it's an excellent book, in that he talks about compromise, that you know, you want to do something. And the circumstances or the people that you're dealing with, they want you to compromise on certain things. They want you to let go of certain things. But he said if you start compromising, then where are you going to start? And he gave his own example, that he was prepared an omelet, right. And it was on a certain type of a skillet, certain type of vegetables, a certain type of eggs. And that only turned out to be beautiful. Right?
And one of his friends who doesn't generally like omelette, they had it and they really enjoyed it. He said if the same omelet was going to be made in a restaurant, the reason why people don't like eating omelets at restaurants is because the skillet is not the same type. Why? Because it's difficult to wash that type of a skillet just for an omelet. Right? So you compromise on the on the tools that you're using. Right? Then the reason why omelets are not good is because they don't use the freshest of ingredients. Right? So compromise on the quality of the ingredients. You understand? And he said once you start compromising on the tools and the ingredients, then what do you have at
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lit that smells bad, and you don't want to eat it, you understand what I'm talking about?
Right? An egg that doesn't smell that good because you compromised.
And when you start compromising one thing
after the other after the other than you know what's going to happen at the end, your product is not going to be what you wanted it to be. It's not of the same quality. It's not of the same standard. And you know whose fault it is. It's your own fault. Don't blame others, because you gave them control. You let them dictate what you want it to do.
So don't blame them. For toquilla. Who must authority them does not mean start compromising? Pray here, don't pray there, because people won't like it.
Right? Don't wear hijab here, don't wear hijab there because people want like it.
Definitely there are certain situations where it becomes very tricky. So you do whatever is within your capacity with the intention to go further. This is why we make dua every night a banana Wallah wala to her Mila mela Takata Elena be that Oh our Lord do not burden us with that, which we do not have the capacity to bear. Don't put us in a test that we cannot handle.
So factor Kula hummus. Totara tone was Maru and listen, listen to what to that what you have been commanded to do. Do that what you have been ordered to do?
What Oakley Rue and obey, obey who Allah and His messenger. We just take the first part of the IO. Allah says, Allah who must authority here, it's very difficult for me, you know, I can't really help it. Everybody's drinking alcohol. So, you know, I have to everybody's shaking hands over here. So I have to as well.
You understand what I mean? We start compromising on these little little things. And then gradually, it's bigger things that we end up compromising on.
The other day, I was at this place, and I saw a Muslim guy over there, and visibly Muslim. And he was talking to a lady discussing something with her about a certain product. And at the end, she, you know, took her hand out in order to give him a handshake. And I don't know what he said. But you know, he went like this and she was apologizing. I just heard her saying sorry. So basically, he didn't shake her hand. And I was like, wow.
Wow. I was so amazed by that.
Because here's a woman attractive, right? beautifully dressed. No doubt about that. Here's a man alone. His dad's not watching him. Right. I mean, his mother's not their sisters, not their younger brothers, not their you know, nobody's no friends are there by himself.
I don't know what he said. But he said something. He saved himself for Tukwila. Mr. Thornton. He saved himself up to you obey.
You do the best that you can. And you know what, when you strive, then what happens? Allah's parents are also makes matters easy for you.
We're up to hero obey what unfuckable and spend meaning spend in the way of Allah? Why?
Why spend? Clearly and physical good for yourself. hilum can be understood as wealth because hate is used for money in the Quran. So spend money for yourselves. What does it mean? Spend money in the way of Allah to benefit yourself to help yourself? What What benefit does spending in the way of Allah bring to you, it brings forgiveness.
Because we're human we are we make mistakes. We feel so much under pressure sometimes that we say things or we do things that are inappropriate, and later on we regret
right that in that moment, somebody took their hand out we also just shook their hand. Oh, like, oh my god, what am I doing?
You understand? Somebody's being too frank. And we also become very frank. And we're like, oh my god, what am I doing? What did I just do? We forgot.
So unfuckable spend in order to earn Allah's forgiveness, wash away those sins, by spending in the way of Allah. When may you put your hand up, see, and whoever is saved from the show of his soul, the stinginess of his soul for Allah ecoman more free home then it is those who will be successful. This is the real problem. Sure. It's our own selves. What is your greed and stinginess of extreme level?
greed and stinginess. So it's our greed for the world. It's our selfishness that holds us back. So whoever is saved from it than such people are successful in Ducati Lulu, if you land Allah Corbin Hassan a good loan, a beautiful loan, meaning if you spend in the way of Allah, you'll die if hula comb, Allah will multiply that for you, He will give you reward many times, well Fiddler come and he will forgive you. Well Allah Who shall call on Haleem and Allah is most appreciative and forbearing Ali Mala AB was shahada Knower of the unseen and the witnessed. He knows everything. You see Ali willhave what does it mean? When we are in those eight from the people meaning when they can't see
us on the mom's not there when the dad's not there when the wife is not there? And the husband's not there? When the Quran teacher is not there. When the friend from Quran school is not there, you understand my point? Well, they
nobody's there, but who's watching? Allah is watching what shahada and also when everybody's watching Allah still knows Allah Aziz al Hakim, the Exalted in Might the one who has full power over us.
Al Hakim the most wise, he put you in that test knowing that you could pass it now you can leave Allah when Epson Illa was so why did you think of yourself as so weak? Why did you allow yourself to fail? Let's listen to the recitation of these verses
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