Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P28 278B Tafsir Al-Mujadalah 1
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The transcript describes a series of conversations and discussions on the topic of Islam and marriage. It touches on the use of "monarch" and "monarchic divorce" in the language, as well as the "has been revealed concerning these words in total" and the "has been revealed concerning these words in total." The discussion also touches on the "has been revealed concerning these words in total" and the "has been revealed concerning these words in total" in the culture of the Arab population.
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bIllahi min ash shaytani R rajim Bismillah Al Rahman Al Rahim, just number
which 128
Sula total moja de la or Surah total muda della both are correct pronunciations moja dealer means the woman who disputes the woman who fights
and more Jad della means the dispute.
Both are correct.
The surah is called moja de la hora moja de la because the first idea mentions the situation of the woman who came disputing where she disputed with the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam concerning her family situation, and she didn't give up and she turned to Allah subhanaw taala and Allah revealed a solution for her
muda de la or muda della, this is the beginning of just number 28. And remember that just number 28, it has nine sodas in it, all of which are Madani. So this surah is ultimately, we see that that just begins with the mention of moja dilla. And the Jews ends with the mention of some women also. And throughout this just we will see many verses, which talk about issues that deal with family situations or personal struggles, personal struggles. And the thing is that when you are striving in the way of Allah subhanaw taala, you have to deal with your family. Also, many times our tests are not with the outsiders, our tests are with who our own children, our own spouse, our own parents,
our own loved ones. And then we see extremes that either a person will give up on, you know, their Deen just to please their family, or a person will go to the other extreme, which is that they will completely ignore their family in order to pursue their own goals. So in total Hadid, we learned a beautiful balance that you have to make aka your goal, live by the dean. And you have to use the tools that Allah has given you. And remember that when it comes to our family, when it comes to our relationships, even they are a tool, they are a means that Allah has provided us with, not to torture us with not to hinder us, but to strengthen us. And our test is to use these tools in the
right way.
So Surah Bucha Dilla, we see that this is a very unique Surah also in that every single verse of the surah mentioned the name of Allah, every single verse of the surah mentions the name of Allah.
And you will see why as soon as we look at the first IO
Bismillah AR Rahman AR Rahim by the Samia Allahu Allah has certainly heard he has already heard. Oh Allah Leti the word of the woman who do Jad De Luca, she was disputing with you. Oh Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. What was she disputing about? Fees? Oh, Jihad concerning her Zote concerning her husband.
Allah subhanaw taala heard the plea of the woman who came arguing with you about her husband, and she argued with you, but you didn't have an answer for her. So what happened? What's the key it Allah and she was complaining to Allah. And when she complained to Allah, Allah heard her. Well, Allah will Yes, Maru. And Allah was listening to the How will Akuma the conversation of both of you mean the conversation that happened? The argument that happened? The discussion that happened? Allah heard it, in the Lucha Samir and will sleep indeed Allah is Hearing and He is believed, he is seeing.
We see many important words in this ayah first of all, I want you to look at the word semirara. But the semirara Allah has heard already heard certainly heard. And we see that Allah says Wallah who yes SmartWater ha como Allah was listening to your conversation. And then in Allah has Samir on Allah is indeed hearing three times some are has been used for who for Allah. Allah heard her, Allah was listening to you. Allah is ever hearing, always listening. There is not a word. There is not a plea. There is not a request
that is not heard by Allah. I
Allah subhanaw taala hears our most inner, our most secret and private and intimate discussions even
and cries even Allah hears it
that I want you to look at the word to Jad De Luca to Jaya De Luca from G dal G doll is to dispute it's from the word juggle and juggle is to twist a rope firmly to twist a rope firmly.
Because if it's not firmly twisted, then it's not strong enough, it's not good enough, that's going to open up it's going to break, and it's not going to fulfill the purpose that it's being used for a rope is used for tying things and if it's not made strongly, then it's useless. So G dal is to strongly dispute with someone strongly dispute very powerfully, very confidently.
Without the intention of giving up meaning you have no intention of giving up.
You came to when you came to make a point. And every time somebody says something to you, you have an answer for them.
So G dal is an argument with the purpose of convincing the other person
and such an argument takes a long time.
And this is why G dial is also used for a dispute that has prolonged
that has prolonged it's not a discussion that happened for like two minutes or three minutes. No anyone for a long time, an hour, two hours, just like a rope as you twist it firmly what happens it becomes long. So do that also is an argument that has taken a long time. So but Samir Allahu Allah, Allah T to jadie, Luca, now here they came a woman who was disputing with who with you, oh, Prophet, salallahu alayhi wa salam. And she was arguing fighting about what about fees? Oh, gee, what about her husband? Her husband had done something. And she was not happy with that. She didn't like it. She felt used. So she came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam demanding some justice because
the prophets of Allah who already was salam was also their leader. So any case, even if it was a family problem, who would decide the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, so she came to him seeking a solution. But what happened? He didn't have a solution for her.
So she turned to who what the key is Allah, she complained to Allah touch the key is from chakra. And chakra is to complain about one's case, about the weakness of one's condition. Basically, the word shockwave is used for the opening of a small waterskin think of a water bottle. Not a clear one. All right, think of something let's say that's made of metal. And it's not see through you cannot see inside the only way you can find out what's inside is from where
the opening the mouth of the bottle, right? So chakra is the opening of the small water skin. Why in order to show what is inside.
Our hearts are like water skins, they're like bottles, aren't they? People don't see from outside what we have bubbling simmering inside, do they? They have no clue. So Chautauqua is to open your heart up a little bit, to let the other person have an idea of what bad suffering you have inside.
This is chukwa. So she was complaining to who of her hurt and her grief and her sorrow and her weakness. She was complaining to Allah. And Allah heard that the How was the how of both of you the how it is from how well how and how is to return
Allahumma in the arrow to becoming and how would he burden recovery.
That Oh Allah, I seek Your protection against how bardell cold
you gave cold cold as in you wrapped up as in you assembled, you gather together my affairs. So I seek Your protection from returning to my previous condition. You guided me, I seek Your protection from returning to my previous condition. Don't let me go back to where I was.
So this is how enter how war is to return answer for answer dialogue, conversation, discussion, because she would say something to the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam and he would say something to her in response, but every time he gave an answer to her was she satisfied? No. She would bring something else up. And then he would give her an answer. And then she would say something else and then he would give it an answer. And then she would
something else. So this went on for quite some time in the last year mostly indeed Allah is Hearing and knowing. And remember some year when us for Allah subhanaw taala. What does it mean that he hears
that he listens to his servant, and that he responds to His servant, and he's believed? He watches them. And we learned that before Islam, the Arabs, they would pronounce the men they will pronounce permanent. Arab revocable divorce is a divorce after which the two cannot come together. Right. We have learned about the law of divorce earlier in the Quran that we learned that a political model Latin for that is twice meaning revocable divorces twice. So if a man would say the words of divorce to his wife, or the third time, what does that mean? They're not getting back together unless something else happens, right? We're not going to go into the detail of that. So here we learned
that the Arabs they had a certain way of pronouncing
a revocable divorce, permanent divorce.
Meaning if they said the statement of their wife that meant that their marriage was annulled forever. They could never get back together.
They could never get back together. This is not legislated by Islam. This was their culture. This was their law. This was pre Islam. And what was that statement? The man would say to his wife and Dr. Layyah Kalahari. Oh me, you are to me like the back of my mother. Meaning just as no physical relationship can ever be imagined between me and my mother. It's inconceivable. Just like that you are unlawful to me.
You are unlawful to me meaning we can never be together never. I will never touch you.
So these words, we learned that Allah subhanaw taala revealed concerning these words in total or his app is number two, where Allah says that Medina Allah Julio legitimate call benefi JioFi. Mama Darla as well. Giacomo Leigh Tula you don't I mean, who knows Oh, man article. And this way of divorcing was known as rehab because it's from lush and tiarella Kalahari omy Allah says in surah, to preserve that, those women meaning your wives, to whom you pronounce Lee how to they don't become your mother's. Just because you say to your wife, that you are to me like my mother. That doesn't make her your mother. Now, this was the only thing that was revealed concerning this situation. No ruling
was given in the sense that if a man were to say these words to his wife, then what would happen to their marriage? All right, no ruling was given concerning this issue. So an incident happened and what is that incident we find it mentioned in the books of Hadith. I shuffled along on her narrative, because she was a witness for this incident. We see that the woman the majority law, she herself narrative, this incident. In a hadith we learned that I should have done more on her. She said, that blessing is he whose hearing has encompassed all things.
Allah whose hearing has encompassed what everything she said, I heard what hola Vint salva said, so this woman who came to dispute was who? Cola Vint Thara lover. She said, I heard what she said. While some of it I could not hear
because she came to the house of eyeshadow didn't learn how because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was there at that time. And this Judah This however, it happened in the house of our shuttle, the long run.
And remember the house of our shuttle, the lower unhaul was, how big how huge was it? It was very tiny, very small. So this woman, she came and she's talking to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I shall blow on her says I was in the same room. I got some of the conversation. And some of it. I didn't catch it. I don't know what happened. Meaning I didn't hear it.
But she said Allah heard it. She was complaining to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about her husband. And she said, Oh, Allah's Messenger. My husband, he spent my wealth. He spent my wealth because a marriage this happens a wife many times you will give her money to her husband. Right? Whatever she has. She says, we're together. We have a family, you use it. So she said, he spent my wealth. He exhausted my youth, and my womb more abundantly for him, meaning I give birth to so many children, for him. And when I have become old, and I am unable to bear any children, meaning there is no hope that anybody will marry me now I'm an older woman. He has pronounced ly hard on me.
So the husband of hola said these words of the heart to her. So she came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and she will
wanted to know, what would be the future of her marriage? Does it mean that this is permanent divorce? Or is there any hope of both of them getting back together? So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he just said that fear Allah regarding this, I have nothing for you because nothing was revealed concerning this and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would not make up anything himself. Because he would only follow revelation. Remember, he would not make anything up in religion. And when it comes to the customary traditional practices, remember that they were accepted, as long as they did not contradict anything from Islam.
So anything that regarding which there was no ruling, it was accepted. So li ha, I mean, technically, this would mean that her marriage was unknown. But she didn't think it was fair. I mean, who would think it's fair, that one day a man just gets super angry with his wife, and he says, NTR laic allottee on me and finished, everything finished forever. That relationship is finished.
Is that fair? That's not fair to her. So she complained to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he didn't have an answer. In another narration, we learn that Hola, radula Miranda, she said, that oh messenger of Allah. He, meaning my husband has consumed my youth. And I split my belly for him. Meaning this is the condition of my womb, that it's all torn up. Now.
Look at my body, it's all torn up. Now I have given birth to so many children.
With him, I have lived my life with him he has consumed my youth. And when I have gone old, he has declared really hard on me. And she said, Oh Allah, I complained to you. Oh Allah, I complained to you. And you just kept saying this, Oh Allah, I complained to you.
I complain to you about what about the situation that this is not fair.
That he has used me he has been unfair to me. I seek justice from you. Oh Allah. So what happened? She was talking to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she was complaining to Allah when these verses were revealed.
And look at how Allah subhanaw taala acknowledges a few things over here. Firstly, the fact that Allah hurt her. Allah hurt her.
There are so many women whose complaints whose please, nobody cares about. Those women can rant, they can be upset and they will be justified in what they express in the anger that they're expressing. They're justified, but nobody cares about them. What do we learn from this? I am
if you're a victim, if you have been abused in any way, Allah hears you, He will hear you, because the dua of the Muslim the dua of the oppressed, the supplication of the oppressed, is not far from being accepted. Allah subhanaw taala does he pay special attention to the dua of the oppressed? Then we see over here, that this woman, she didn't just accept the abuse that was done to her, she stood up for herself. She stood up for herself. I'm sure there are many women at that time. I mean, if this was a customary practice, such that verses were revealed concerning it, it must have been prevalent to some extent. But this woman, she didn't just accept it. That her husband said we have
to her, she went to the right source, she went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam seeking an answer. And when he didn't have it, she turned to Allah. That's the key il Allah. She was discussing her issue with Rasul Allah, but she was complaining to Allah. This is what we have to remember that when we discuss our problems with other people, whether it's a counselor, or an Imam, or a therapist, or a parent or a teacher, or whoever it is, remember, we can discuss things with them. But realize that the solution will come from WHO? Allah and only Allah
because she went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, did he have an answer for her? No, he did not.
He did not.
And you see how in this situation would happen.
The man he took advantage of the prevalent custom, right? He used it against his wife. And many times it happens that people will use the law. They will use even the Quran to abuse women
to deprive them of their rights. Right? This happens very common. But what do we learn that even if someone
is misusing the law to abuse you. They cannot go anywhere. If Allah grants you success, because Allah will create a situation for you, in which your relief will come, in which he will create a way out for you. So that's the key il Allah. She was complaining to Allah and look at the persistence that she didn't give up. The Prophet salallahu alayhi salam said, I don't have an answer.
But she didn't say Okay, fine. That's it. This is my fate. Right? She wanted good for herself. She complained to Allah and she asked Allah for an answer for a solution. And Allah sent it for her. Allah revealed the entire surah
and we need to complain to Allah also. We complain to people but we don't complain to Allah. What does it mean by complaining to Allah, complaining to Allah means that you express before him, your state of weakness and helplessness, even though he knows already I mean, who knows us better than Allah. Nobody.
He already knows about our weakness, about our helplessness, about the abuse that is being done to us. But you complain to Allah, meaning you express your weakness in front of him, you talk to him about the oppression that is done to you. Why, in order to invite his Rahama His mercy.
Look at this woman, she said, Oh Allah, I complain to you.
Oh Allah, I complain to you.
We all have heard about stories of women who have been abused in their relationships.
Right, whose wealth has been taken advantage of whose youth has been taken advantage of whose children have been taken advantage of. And these women, they are left helpless,
alone, just to cry
and live in their pain. Nobody can even do anything to help them. Because apparently, the legal system does not have something to help them. Because the other person who's abusing them use the legal system to abuse her. So now what is she supposed to do? Where she's supposed to go?
Religion is being used to abuse women. Here, the Sunnah is amazing Mojang de la. It's as if the struggle of women for their rights is being validated over here.
Majah de la, the woman who disputes for her rights, she fights for her rights because stories of women being abused. They're not just a thing of history. They're not just a thing of Eastern countries. This is in the East, in the West,
where women are abused in different ways. But what does the surah teach us? Your salvation? Your success comes from WHO? The one who can really hear your pleas? And who is that Allah? Will Allah Who Yes, Martha How would Akuma so this woman went to the right source for help. And we need to do the same thing. Because Allah sees us, He hears us, He knows our condition. And He cares for us more than anybody else. Allah subhanaw taala says Womack did have to feed him and train him for hook more. It Allah, anything that you differ in than a token should be referred to, to Allah. This is not just religious matters, this is also worldly matters. Any problem? Refer to Allah, He will
create a way out for you. He certainly will.
We see over here that a discussion like this is happening in the house of our a shuttle de la hora. And an irrational dilemma. And what did she say? I didn't hear all of it.
I didn't hear all of it. What does this teach us? Two things. Firstly, the fact that whole lot of the law on her where she was complaining about her situation, and she was fighting for her rights. She wasn't making noise.
She wasn't creating a scene.
Because if she was creating a scene, and if she was being loud, and she was screaming, it should Abdullah, Lorna would definitely hear her, isn't it? So?
What does this teach us then? That if we ever are in a situation where we have to take our problems to somebody and discuss them, let's not create a scene. Yes, it's natural to cry and it's natural to feel upset. But let's not create a scene. The more calm and composed you are, the more logical you can be.
And the more clearly you can think.
Secondly, look at eyeshadow on her. She's not taking interest in what's going on between Carla and her husband.
How curious we are about the problems of other people.
I should have below on how she says I heard part of it. I didn't hear part of it.
Then we
You also see that she came to the prophets of Allah who already was setting them. And she's talking about her complaint is directed to who,
to who, to Allah.
Her complaint is directed to Allah.
And this is what we need to remember also, that many times people that we discuss our issues with,
they can just be listeners, they can be empathetic, they can cry with us. They can say things like I feel for you, I really feel bad for you, and this should not happen. And, you know, they want to help you, but they're not able to help you.
They're not able to help you. Many times in relationships, you know, where you have a problem with your spouse, for instance, the husband doesn't care about the wife. I mean, you could go to the counselor to a marriage therapist, and they could say that your husband needs to do this. And he needs to do that. While the husband doesn't even want to come to therapy. He doesn't even want to come and discuss the issue. What good is that? You understand? Many times, people that we go to for help are just listeners, they're just silent observers. They really cannot do much they don't have much power to change our situation. Who is it that can change our situation? It is Allah.
And notice how Allah says, he heard, he was listening, he is ever hearing.
So direct your complaints to who to Allah subhanaw taala and be firm and confident. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that when one of you makes a supplication to his Lord, he should not say Oh Allah, grant me pardon if you wish. Well Allah forgive me if you want. Oh Allah, you know, make this easy for me if you wish. Don't make your own like that. He said, one should beg his lord with a will and full devotion. Because there is nothing too great in the eyes of Allah which He cannot give.
There is nothing too big for Allah which He cannot give. So how are you asking?
The Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said in a dua young Pharaoh mymaths Nasrallah, Wimmer la Mian, Zil. There are certainly benefits against that which has already happened. And that which has not yet happened.
The AI will benefit you with regards to the problems you suffered in your past and the problems you may suffer in your future. File lako Mareeba Allah He bedarra So you must you must adhere to dua are servants of Allah you are Allah servants, a welder you're going to ask? Who else are you going to turn to? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Allah, Allah Haman karimun Indeed, Allah is merciful and generous, most generous.
He is merciful. He has mercy towards you like no one else. And he is generous to you like no one else are Haman karimun yes to him in our D a yell fire in a day he some Malayala or FEMA Hydra. Allah is shy.
He doesn't like it, that his servant should lift his hands up asking Allah and then Allah would not place anything good in them. No, Allah will definitely put something good in those empty hands.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said millennia Allah Allah, young Bob Marley, whoever does not ask Allah, Allah becomes angry with him. That here you are running towards this person and that person, that Imam and that counselor, why aren't you coming to me? Why aren't you coming to Allah? Why aren't you asking him?
What can people give you? How can they help you?
So ask Allah just like this woman did.
And be amazed at the ways that Allah will open for you