Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P26 266B Tafsir Al-Hujuraat 11
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The speakers discuss the issue of making fun of people based on their appearance and the importance of respect and admiration for natural beauty. They stress the need to be careful with language and caution people about making fun of others. The use of negative nick breath and negative nicknamuns in media is discussed, and caution is advised against making fun of people and their behavior.
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Yeah, are you Halina Manu now? What is it that creates problems between people in the first place? What causes conflicts?
Okay, jealousy and
being offended, right? She offended me. He offended me how? Call me a bad name made fun of me. All right. She's so sarcastic. She's always trolling me. Alright. Allah says, yeah, uh, you her? Lavina Manu, all you who have believed lair, yes. Her Kowloon layers how he should not make fun scene called Rock. So hurry. Yeah, it is to make fun of someone in order to lower them in order to humiliate them, then it can be done by words through a gesture. All right. So layers have, he should
not make fun, who should not make fun Coleman. Any people mean common of another people, meaning any nation, any community, any group of people, any group of friends must not make fun of another group of people.
Why? Simple, because I saw perhaps in your corner that they are meaning those whom you're making fun of. It's quite possible that they are hiraman home, they are better than them.
It's quite possible that the person you're making fun of is in reality, much better than you. If you're making fun of them. You're doing something completely wrong. While Anissa and Nora women, meaning women should also not make fun of who minister in other women. Why? Same reason I sat in your COULDNA hate on men Hoonah. It is quite possible that the group of women who are being made fun off are better than those who are making fun of them. I saw a Hakuna Hiram in Hoonah. Notice over
here, calm is mentioned and Nyssa are mentioned. And the prohibition is the same, isn't it? Why is it that women are mentioned separately? Because there's a number of explanations over here. When the word Nyssa is used in contrast with calm the Nyssa is referring to group of women and calm is referring to group of men.
All right. And many times it happens that in casual gatherings where just men are sitting, or just when women are sitting, alright, then people become very relaxed, right? And as they get very relaxed, the group of guys are making fun of some other people. Right? And then the group of women friends, they're making fun of some other friends or some other women. So this is one explanation that go home group of men and Nyssa group of women. Another explanation is also given that why is it
that women are mentioned separately? You tell me
I in the smiles on your face eight. All right, we know it. For some reason, it does become very common. I'm not saying that men are free of this crime. They're not guilty of it. They are guilty of it. But many times women, when they are just concerned about gossip and talk, right? And their concern is just their fashion and their looks and their friends. Then what happens if you really analyze, you know, the typical conversations, what do they revolve around other people? And when
we're talking about other people, their clothes, right? Or their speech, or the school they go to, or what they're studying or the work they do, then what happens? We start making fun of them. So lay us her. Allah says Don't make fun, he should not make fun, it's not acceptable.
Then remember that column can also refer to a nation because sometimes what happens as a community sometimes we make fun of certain communities, or certain communities are made fun off.
Right? I mean, stereotypes again, certain groups of people or certain races, certain communities they're made fun of.
So lions are common common as a Hakuna Kira minha simple reason, Allah subhanaw taala has created each person differently, right? People are different communities are different. And people differ in many ways. So because of your differences, do not consider yourself superior. And make fun of the other person just because you're taller and they're shorter. Just because you have a certain accent and they have a different accent. Just because you are from a certain family and they're from a very
different type of a family. You're just because you live in a certain area and they live in a very different area. You went to one school and they're going to some other school. You're going to one college or university of they're in from some other college or university. These are not bases of making fun of each other. This is Jackie Lee
This is ignorance. Just because someone is different doesn't mean we make fun of them.
Difference does not mean that one is better than the other, isn't it? If you go to your cities University and somebody else goes to their cities university, that doesn't mean you're better or they're better that just means you went to the school that's closest to your house and they went to the school that's closest to their house simple right? So on on that basis, don't make fun of each other and if you're making fun of each other because of that,
then May God help you. Seriously lie Yes, her como min coalminer I sat in your corner I don't mean home.
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has given you more compared to the other, that doesn't mean that we make fun of someone, making fun of them would in reality, be making fun of Allah's decree of Allah's creation.
And remember that making fun of someone, this is a result of what pride
I am better, I am superior. This is arrogance, what's the definition of arrogance, elke blue button will help welcome to nurse it is to belittle people. So thinking that oh, because she went to that school for what is she nothing is is really a basis for looking down on someone. And if we're looking down on someone just because they are from a particular family, or just because they're from a particular race, then this shows that we have arrogance in our hearts.
It's interesting that this came up, because yesterday we were a bunch of us were talking about it. And we're seeing that how oftentimes we judge people or we praise people on things that they have no control over whatsoever, and especially in front of another person to prove a point. And we were mostly speaking in terms of skin color, you know, it's something that we're praising somebody about beauty and skin color is something that they have no control over whatsoever. And usually we end up
many times we don't even degrade another person, but we in front of them, you're praising somebody else about qualities that they may lack. And so you know, when we're humiliating somebody or praising somebody, we need to be careful that not many times, someone's something that they can control, whether it's school, whether it's illness, whether it's physical stuff, a lot of things, right, yeah, there's two types of qualities or characteristics, right? One are ascribed, meaning
those that are by birth, or just because they're just part of you, you didn't do anything to earn them, your birthday, your family, your height, your skin color, all right, your mental state, this is all that's quite. And then there are other characteristics that are acquired, that you have done something to acquire them like a skill, knowledge, you have earned those. So many times we judge people based on which characteristics ascribed that they have no control over
we find that a lot of times people are also very superficial when it comes to making fun of things like people, like be at skin color about what they wear, you know, where they're going, what they're doing. Like these things. It's like Taylor said that a lot of these things are not in control of the person. And even if they are like, what's wrong with it, right? Like, if it's not something bad, then why are you making fun of them for it? Just because you don't think it looks nice or using it
looks bad, doesn't necessarily mean that it is. I mean, for us bad is what Allah has prohibited. Right? That's the simple definition of bad what Allah has prohibited. And if there's something that Allah has permitted, then people have their choice. They can do whatever they want, isn't it?
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said it is sufficient evil for a man to look down on his Muslim brother, being if a person is looking down on his Muslim brother, and that is sufficient of a sign that this person is evil. Looking down on someone shows that a person is arrogant. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also said that all things of a Muslim are sacred. All things of a Muslim are sacred, his life, his wealth and his honor. We respect life and wealth, but sometimes we don't
respect that honor. You see how in the Sunnah, first we were taught to show respect to Allah and His messenger. And here we were being taught to show respect to one another.
So liars have the first revision is do not make fun and simple reason is, it's quite possible that they're better than you. And anytime, anytime you feel
that you are better than someone. Right? And because of that, you feel that you're right. Or that you can make fun of them. Remind yourself of this if I think I am better, but Allah knows our asset and you couldn't hire him in one, it's quite possible that this person is greater in their rank near Allah. Secondly, wala tell me zoo and fossa calm and do not insult one another. Let al Meizu tell me zoo from lamb meme ze llamas or lambs. And this is very interesting word lumps or lemmas is to find
fault in someone to find a job in someone, what kind of job what kind of fault it could be with regards to their HELOC, or the HELOC with regards to their physical attributes or their character, their manner. So it could be tangible or intangible. Finding a fault in someone whether that fault is tangible or intangible. Like for example, she's so short, he's so fat. Or for example, she speaks too fast, she speaks too slow, because she's always half asleep. She doesn't get it. She doesn't
have any sense of humor. These things are what finding a job in people, they could be tangible they could also be intangible. But remember that lungs it also means to signal with the eye it is a hidden denigration it is to basically make fun of someone find fault in them in a very subtle way to make fun of them in a very subtle way that everybody doesn't get it but the person who's being mocked at they get it
and that is very hurtful. Other people have no clue, but this person gets it.
So lateral Mizzou and forsaken. Also it is said that lemmas is to make fun of a person on their face in front of them. And that is again very hurtful and embarrassing. Allah says Lachelle Mizzou and fossa calm, do not insult one another. Do not try to uncover faults
that exist in other people. They have faults, you have faults and notice how it is said unfocus yourselves why yourselves because when you attack someone that what's going to happen, they're going to attack you remember that hadith where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said that May Allah curse the one who curses his own parents. And people said that why would a person curse his own parents and the Prophet sallallahu sallam said that he curses somebody else's parents and that
person in retaliation curses his parents, right. So Latin Mizu and fossa calm, do not try to uncover faults in other people because when you will do that, whose faults will be exposed, your own faults will be exposed, your own weaknesses will be exposed.
And also unphysical. Why? Because Muslims are supposed to be like one body. If you're making fun of someone of another Muslim in reality, you're making fun of
yourself.
And this can be understood in the literal sense also, Latin Meizu and fossa calm that literally do not insult yourself.
Because sometimes people do that to appear cool. They will make fun of themselves. Right? Or put themselves down. That's such a low level of self esteem that a person is constantly putting themselves down. I'm a loser. I'm a failure. I'll never make it. I'm always like this. This is not appropriate. This kind of thinking does not befit a believer, this type of negative thinking, Latin Meizhou and fossa calm, think positively. Don't always look for faults. Don't always highlight your
mistakes or the mistakes of other people.
So Latin Mizzou and full circle, you see insulting someone for their appearance, or their family background. This is what this is ignorance. This is Jehovah. Yeah, we learned that once. Two companions, they had a bit of an argument. And one of those companions was dark skinned. And the other companion he said, All son of a black woman, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam heard it. And he said, You are a person who has J Leija in him. You are a person who has J Lea in him, You are
insulting him, or you consider this as an insult, that you're making fun of him or you are saying this to him to hurt him. That because his mother or his skin is of a particular color.
The fact that you said this shows that you have Jamelia in you this is something that does not fit a believer.
So this is something that we have to be careful about. We learned that once someone made fun of one of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also they
You are the daughter of a Jew.
This is real. It happens in people You're the daughter of a Jew. And she got hurt by that and the Prophet sallallahu sallam said that well say that, you know in my ancestors are also Haroon and Musa alayhis salam and all of these prophets because I am from the Bani Israel so they are my relatives. Alright, so turn it into a positive thing. We also learned that our beloved Miss Rudra de la Mora, and he said that if I were to laugh at even a dog, I would fear that Allah would make me worse than
that dog.
Making fun of people not acceptable. And this is how cautious some companions were, that they didn't even find it correct to make fun of a dog.
Because sometimes we think it's okay to make fun of animals to make fun of children, to make fun of foreigners, to make fun of people who are not in our group. What does Allah say, lateral Meizu and full circle. Don't do that. If you're making fun of someone, you're going to make fun of yourself. Alright, shall deliver on has said that once an afflicted person passed by some women, and the women made fun of him. This person had some physical problem. And as he walked, the women made fun of him.
And she said that as a result, one of those women was later afflicted with the same problem with the same problem.
To Latin Meizu Infocomm You're insulting someone today, tomorrow, it will be your problem. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that a true believer is not involved in taunting, or frequently cursing others, or in indecent language or in abusing this is something that does not refer to a believer what? Taunting, frequently cursing, using indecent language and abusing other people. Now, remember that sometimes it happens that within friends, or within people with whom you
have a, you know, a certain level of frankness, a certain level of you could say trolling is acceptable. All right. It's like humor, a certain level of sarcasm is acceptable. Right? It's like humor. And it is something that only increases people in their love and in their friendship. Right. But we have to be careful, because certain jokes can actually hurt other people's feelings, isn't it? So? Be careful. Don't go too far. You understand? Don't go too far. You see, for example, once
the companions were eating dates and the prophets, Allah Loncin started putting the pits in front of our little de la horn. All right. And so basically, it was like, Oh, you ate all of them? Or you ate the most. All right? It was acceptable. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did it, isn't it? Otherwise, it's not right to say to somebody, you ate everything. You eat too much. It's not okay. It can be very hurtful. It can be offensive, right? But it depends who you're talking to? How
much can they tolerate? How much is acceptable? All right, how much is acceptable, you have to be careful about that. And this humor is something that we always have to be careful about. Because it's very easy to overstep the bounce. Very easy. So always, you know, keep it one notch down. Always. Alright, to be on, you know, on the side of caution, always keep it one notch down. Because if you think about it, what is it that hurts us also, it is other people's jokes. Think about
somebody's joke that hurt you. Somebody made fun of you. Maybe they didn't intend to hurt you, but it actually hurt you. Maybe at that time, it didn't bother you. But later on it bothered you.
Maybe you didn't really care much about it, but other people heard it and the news spread. And now it's become a catastrophe for you. Right? So be careful. Latin Meizu and forsaken.
also remembered Latin Meizu and forsaken, that if somebody is doing loans to you, they're insulting you. What should you do in response?
Insults back?
Should we?
Isn't that what we try to do or what we wish we could do? Right that just as we see on TV, that somebody made fun of someone and the other gave it back right away. We want to do the same thing. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, If a man abuses and shames you for something which he finds in you, then do not shame him for something which you find in him.
To somebody makes a lot of you saying that? Oh, you're so fat. Don't say oh, you're fatter than me. Don't do that.
Right? Don't do that.
Somebody says, Oh, you smell that? What have you smelled yourself? Don't do that. Because
When you will do that, is this going to lead to nice feelings? No, you don't add fuel to the fire. Don't make the fire girl. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he continued in that hadith, that he will bear the evil consequences for it meaning for you will be rewarded for your supper and he will have to deal with what he said.
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appoint a nickname for somebody
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what is a lack of lack of is a name that is used to refer to somebody and it's not their real name. It's not their real given name. All right. And many times the lack of is like a description.
Okay, so like Abuja Hill, Abu Lahab. These are what up? These are titles share. This is a title, this is a lockup. All right. So Allah says, Let the neighbors who will allow, do not fix offensive nicknames for each other.
Meaning do not address another believer with an offensive nickname. What is a nickname offensive? When is it offensive? When the person who's been called by that nickname doesn't like it, he simply does not like it. So if he does not like it, don't call him by that name. respect that. I remember there was a man his name was a robot.
All right, so in order to do people turn the name robot to Reza. Alright. And since he was the youngest of the family, people would call him Rosie.
He was okay with it for some time. But when he went to school, he said nobody called me Rosie at all. Was that's it. So if he doesn't like to be called Rosie, that's it. Don't call him Rosie, isn't it? Now what happened is that sometimes out of love, you know, the family if they called him Rosie wasn't that they were treating him like a girl. They just thought Rosie was cute. That's it. He was the youngest of the family and simple. Right? Now they're doing it out of love. But he gets
irritated by it. All right. Don't call him by the title that he gets irritated by. Even if you think that that title is not offensive. Understand? Do you get it?
It's not offensive. It's not like you're calling him a bad name. It's not like you're making fun of him. Just doesn't want to be called that particular word.
You understand? So Latin Abba zoo bill, I'll call. So it is basically Ism mcru. In the summer, it is that which is disliked by the listener, he doesn't want to be called by that title. Lathan Abba Zobel alcohol.
Now making fun of someone based on their Hulk or your whole look, this is something that leads to giving offensive nicknames. Also, because many times offensive nicknames are given based on what on characteristics. And I don't want to start giving examples over here. You know exactly what I'm talking about. Think about what happens within our families. Pardon? Yeah, think about what happens within our families, how sometimes we'll call our brother, our sister, or our son or our daughter in
a way that they don't like to be called. Right? Sometimes we will call our cousins in the way that they don't like to be called, a name is fixed for them. Slowpoke or things like that. Don't do that. Or sometimes at work, or at school within friends. Yes. Once I was at a social gathering, and I usually when I tried to were in a buy as much as I can. My jobs are, you know, long compared to other girls. And so one Auntie turned around and she was like, Oh, I thought you were this and that
auntie. And that Auntie is very large, you know? And so, after that incident, other people who had been there, they'd be like, Oh, why are you dressed like that auntie, like, they keep saying that every time they see me, you know, dressed Islamically
so it's hurtful. Alright, so let the numbers we'll we'll go ahead. We need to be really careful with these names as well because a lot of the times when we come up with names it starts like the person starts emulating those characteristics. So that's where like for example, in Assam, we're told to name our children really good names because the name has a huge effect on how the person will behave and act in the future.
Like if someone is repeated
even called Slowpoke in their family or within their friends then what's going to happen they're going to identify themselves as what as a slowpoke as someone who's slow, alright. So we want to encourage positive qualities. So refer to people with positive names. So Willa turnovers, who will allow Now this does not mean that you cannot call someone with a nickname. This ayah does not mean nicknames are prohibited. nicknames are not prohibited. OF ALL Hooray era or the Allahu Anhu that
was his nickname. Why? Because he loved cats. He loves kittens. Right? And in his sleeves, sometimes kittens will be found. Alright, and this is why Abu Hurayrah Can you imagine?
The prophets of Allah Sam called him about hoorah. Yeah, Abba hood IRA. This was not offensive. He liked it. He didn't mind. And it's possible that another person if he's called by the same title, he would get seriously offended by that. Right? So see, does the person like it? Do they not like it? If they're okay with it? Go ahead. nicknames are sometimes good. You know, they encourage more love and friendship within people. So see if somebody likes it. Go ahead. And if they don't like it, like
a person like me, then don't call me by any nickname. Simple. I just don't like it call us. So Latin others who will I'll call big Sally small for Su Kuba Iman. Allah says Bitsa how bad wretched is an Israel the name which name of Alpha Soup of disobedience, the name of disobedience. What is the name of disobedience? A person who is disobedient? What is he called Fasttech so it's more forsook is facet how bad it is to be looked at as a fat sick to be called a fat sick burden. Eman after Eman
meaning after you're known as a believer. How could you be known as a facet?
As someone who's crossing their limits? As someone who's making fun of others as someone who's calling others bad names as someone who is you know, insulting others. How bad is this? The two don't go together. Be serviceable for Zuko, Burdell Eman so you understand this. How bad is the name of sin? What's the name of sin? Meaning the name of a person who commit sin Fassett meaning how bad it is to be called a facet. After you have Iman Eman for a fraction of Eman is with perfection of
good character.
Not with bad character. Woman lumea to Allah says whoever does not repent for hola ICA homos Lolly more than it is those who are wrongdoers. Notice though by his mentioned, because all of us are guilty of this. We do make fun of others. We do sometimes call other people by offensive nicknames. We insult other people based on their characteristics. Now, what does Allah say? Repent? What does repentance mean? That you stop it, you stop the bad action, you apologize for it, you make amends
and do not repeat the offence. So for example, you call someone by particular nickname, The turnaround and they say no. You see the anger on their face. Now please don't call them by that nickname over and over again to tease them to irritate them.
You understand? This is what happens right? The moment we find out somebody doesn't like to be called by a particular nickname. We use that even more to irritate them. Allah says do Toba or Mala Mia talk whoever does not prevent for hola eco masala moon then it is those who are doing zoom. This is one
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making fun of others. insulting others, calling them by offensive, vulgar nicknames. This is one that is unfair.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the Muslim is a brother of another Muslim lejos de Lima who he does not do zoom on him. Luna is something that Allah has forbidden in total Azova 58 Allah says when Medina You zunar me Nina well Minette betrayed him accessible for Cadet Tama Lu Bhutan and Islamophobia a clear sin, what's a clear sin to hurt believing men and believing women and hurting them is not just by physical violence. It's also by hurting their feelings by
making fun of them, insulting them. That's listen to the recitation of this. Yeah.
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