Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P22 223C Tafsir Al-Ahzab 53-55

Taimiyyah Zubair
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The speakers discuss the importance of asking for something when asked to and avoiding behavior that would harm the receiver. They also touch on the idea of segregation and the need for physical protection from the environment. The speakers emphasize the importance of shaping intentions and protecting one's health and personal information. They stress the need for women to keep in touch with behavior and avoid embarrassment, and emphasize the need for women to keep in touch with their behavior and avoid embarrassment.

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			The next part of this idea is that why either and when set Oh to more Hoonah you ask them, meaning
you the addresses to the men, the Sahaba are being addressed over here, that when you will have to
ask them Hana Hana meaning the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. If you have to ask
them for a Matan matar, what is my thorough
		
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			or useful object, all right, or something of use? So, you have to ask them for something, something
that matters to you is something that's necessary for you that's useful for you.
		
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			All right. Like for example, you have to ask them, Where the Prophet salallahu Salam is, you have to
ask them about something that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam needs from his house, you have to ask
them about, let's say, some food or some money or anything like that, or even some alien. If you
have to ask them for something. First Aluna then ask them, men found Worre II behind hijab in a
screen, hijab screen. I'm not going to translate this as a veil because when we hear the word veil,
we think of this veil on your head, right? Because we use the word hijab for that. But in the Quran,
the word hijab is not used for the headscarf. It's not used for the veil that a woman wears the
		
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			white hijab in the Quran is used for a screen a partition a barrier, all right, a screen a partition
a barrier that is between for example to people, preventing them from seeing each other.
		
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			Understand, so for instance, a curtain what is a curtain? Hijab? All right, a barrier, you know,
these mustard dividers that you we have, what is that? It's a hijab, you understand? It's a screen.
		
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			This is the literal meaning of the word hijab and in the Quran also, it has been used in this way.
So when you have to ask the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam for something, then you must ask
them from behind a screen, meaning you must not directly look at them. You must not do that you must
stay behind the door, you must stay on the side and this is an etiquette that will start earlier in
Surah canoed also we learned about it, right? Where we have been taught that when you go to
somebody's house, then don't look in, isn't it stay on the side because what's inside the house and
that also includes the people of the house. You know, they are sacred in the sense that we must not
		
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			even look at them unless they allow because it's possible that in a for instance, a person is
wearing their pajamas, right? They don't want you to look at them in that way. So if you go and
bring the bell you knock the door they open the door, don't peek in and look at what they're
wearing. So this is a general etiquette, but here specifically with regards to the wives of the
prophets, a lot of southern the Sahaba were told that make sure there's a screen between you and
them.
		
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			Make sure there's a screen between you and them. All right. Why? Because the alikhan that or you all
it is a portal it is cleaner Accardo calm fahara It is cleaner, Li Kenobi comm for your heart's
water will be in and also for their hearts. This is something that will help you keep your heart
clean. And this is also something that will help them keep their hearts clean. Right? Why am I kind
of a comb and it is not permissible for you? It does not defeat you or believers. I am that to Zoo
you hurt. Rasool Allah, the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it's not correct for you
to hurt the messenger of allah sallallahu Sallam to annoy him. So keep away from any behavior that
		
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			would that would annoy him like which kind of behavior going to his house uninvited, going and
staying in his house beyond your welcome, this is something that hurts him. Wala and Nora meaning
also this is not permissible for you, this is also something that does not fit you what um, that
then get, you marry, as well as your who his wives mimbar the he after him about that ever. When he
wants the Prophet sallallahu Sallam passes away? It is not correct for you all believers to marry
the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the valley come indeed that or you all
Canada it was ever in the law he near Allah or Lima, great meaning this is an enormity a great sin
		
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			in the sight of Allah, that you even think about marrying the wives of the Prophet sallallahu
already who was salam. Now over here, let's look at this idea, part after part okay. In the first
section, we have been taught about the etiquette of entering the house of the Prophet sallallahu
Sallam meaning do not enter the house without permission. And that's what the law
		
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			And who said that I used to serve the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam and go in his house without
permission. One day I came and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said come and Taya buena.
Yeah, start where you are, oh, my dear son, meaning do not come in. Right? How come came after you.
So now do not come in without permission. Right? Meaning you have to wait, you need permission
before you enter. All right. The second thing that's mentioned in this idea is with regards to
visiting the house of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And we discussed that. The third thing
that's mentioned in this ayah is the concept of hijab or the matter of hijab, specifically with
		
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			regards to the wives of the Prophet salallahu early, who was salam. Remember that the hijab for the
wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam was slightly different, different in the sense that there had
to be complete segregation also, not just, you know, a jilbab. All right, a covering, or like, for
example, a long shawl or something like that in order to cover their faces, or their clothing or
their hair with that, in addition to that, or instead of that, rather, there was supposed to be a
barrier, meaning allowing complete segregation. So hijab over here is implying what segregation over
here. And this is the reason why anytime we see that people would go to visit even I showed the low
		
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			on huh. And she would teach them she would narrate to them, there would be a hijab, a screen. All
right, there would be a screen between her and the men.
		
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			And likewise, we learned when the wives of the prophets of Allah Edison would go out, for example,
to travel, how would they travel? They would go in a hole that what is the how that how that is like
a small mini tent on a camel. All right. I'm sure you've seen pictures of this. Maybe you've seen
this in real life, that on a camel, there isn't just a seat to sit on, but there's also a canopy to
provide you shade. But the how that was more than just the shade. It was also on the sides. All
right. Why do you think this segregation was for the wives of the Prophet? SallAllahu wasallam. You
see,
		
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			we discussed this earlier also.
		
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			The famous women
		
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			all right, for some reason, people lose basic respect even for women or fame. This is a sad reality.
		
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			It's disgusting. What kind of things people discuss about famous women. It's disgusting, about how
they will not even spare their eyelashes, or their height, or the clothing or their makeup or their
lips or anything like that. They will not spare them. It's horrible. So the wives of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were the best of women. And there were also the women of the highest
status socially. And this is the reason why Allah subhanaw taala protected them over here from the
eyes of dirty people. Because there are people like that in every society. And there is a particular
context to this. We learned that there was a man in Medina who said that once the prophets of Eliza
		
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			will pass away, I'll marry Aisha de la horna. He already had his eyes set on eyeshadow below on her
while the Prophet sallallahu sallam was alive. While Rasul allah sallallahu sallam was alive.
		
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			Right? So Allah subhanaw taala, protected the wives of the Prophet salallahu Salam in this way. And
the men are being taught over here to observe utmost respect for them. And especially what is
mentioned here, that you are forbidden from marrying them after the death of Rasulullah sallallahu
Sallam and this shows us that Allah subhanaw taala chose them.
		
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			Right, because they did such a huge sacrifice in the way of Allah. So what happened? Allah subhanaw
taala also chose them to be the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in this dunya and
also in the Accra. Allah declared a sin for any man to marry the wife of the Prophet salallahu
alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			I'm not gonna lie on who he said that I agreed with Allah in three things, or that my Lord agreed
with me and three things meaning there were three things that I wanted. And Allah subhanaw taala, he
revealed concerning those matters. And one of those matters was this reported in Behati, that I said
that all messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam good and bad people visit you all types of
people visit you.
		
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			So why don't you order? The Mothers of the Believers build hijab with hijab and hijab over here
means screening. All right.
		
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			Not the veil, because veil is for who for all women as when Shala we will see later on over here
hijab means screening, partition meaning segregation. So why don't you order your wives to do that,
but the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did not until this idea was revealed so remote of the lower and
who said that my Lord agreed with me. All right, because he wanted this for the wives of the Prophet
saw a lot of stuff because you don't want men understand men. All right, guys, no, guys. Girls don't
know. All right, we're very very naive. Seriously, we are.
		
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			Men know what goes on in the heads of other men. So over here are mortal blow and who because of his
respect and protectiveness for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he wanted this. And Allah
subhanaw taala revealed concerning this matter. All right. But is there a lesson in this for us?
Yes, this was exclusively for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. But is there a lesson for
us in this?
		
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			What's the lesson?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Okay, very good, that we must maintain some physical distance. Right? Between us and non Muslim men.
There must be a gap there must be a space between us and them. Right? Because over here, you know,
if this is for the wives of the Prophet salallahu Salam, then, don't you think we need this more?
Because what's the reason for hijab given over here, Valley con? At holy Kullu Bico? What can we
begin? This is something that's pure for your hearts and also pure for their hearts? What's the
reason for hijab to keep the heart pure and clean? Because shaitan literally runs in the blood of
men. So we'll share Thawne let our heart stay clean. No, you won't. We discussed this earlier. This
		
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			is something very normal that a person looks at another and admires their looks admires their
clothing, this is something very normal, it happens. So here we are being taught that we have to try
to keep our hearts clean. How by closing the window that could possibly lead to harm
		
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			that could possibly lead to harm. All right, we learned that the Prophet saw a lot of certain ones
he stood on the member and he said, After this day, no man should enter the house of another person
in his absence, meaning while his wife is there, while his family is there, no man should enter the
other man's house while his wife is there, his family's there in his absence, but only when he is
accompanied by one person or two persons. Meaning basically that no man should be alone with with a
non Muharram. Woman. This is known as halwa being alone with somebody. And it's a technical term
being alone with somebody that you're not supposed to be alone with.
		
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			Even if it's for a professional reason, work related Reason. All right, even then,
		
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			make sure that you hold such a meeting, were in a public place. Like for example, a library or for
example, for example.
		
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			Tim Hortons, Okay,
		
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			any other place? What about in school? Or in university? What kind of a place could that be? In the
stairwell?
		
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			Is it behind the stairs? Were in an open public place, like a cafeteria or a meeting hall? Or
something like that. All right.
		
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			Why it is pure for your heart and also for their hearts? Because admitted you're a human being. You
have feelings, don't you? There are also human beings there are feelings. Here Young Blood, aren't
you?
		
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			Seriously, this is something within human being so we have to protect ourselves from wrong. You
understand? And when it comes to inclination, right, appreciating somebody's looks, their hair,
their mustache, their beard or anything like that. These feelings come in. They pop into your heart
without your control. Don't
		
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			do you think Okay, nice beard. tick mark. No, you don't logically think there. You don't tell
yourself to appreciate somebody's beard. It comes like that. It just comes naturally. Correct?
		
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			Call I need some kind of response. Either you girls are too shy. Or I'm talking about, you know,
imaginary things, things that are not real. Is this real?
		
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			Okay, thank you.
		
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			Because I don't want to be talking about weird things, okay? I know this is weird, but this is real.
So we have to accept that it's possible to feel attraction for a person of the opposite gender, this
is something that's normal, we have to accept this happens. And while this is something beautiful,
because it may lead to halal, it may also turn very ugly because it can lead to haram. It can also
turn very bad in the sense that it could constantly affect your thinking distract you from what is
important, distract you from your work, keep you thinking about somebody that you shouldn't be
thinking about, you should be thinking about your biology exam, but you're thinking about something
		
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			else. It's not good. It's not healthy.
		
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			Right? So we have to close the door that leads to haram. And what are those doors? It is being alone
with somebody. One of those is what being alone with a person who is non Muslim. All right, you
know, one is that you meet them somewhere. And the other is that you're constantly looking at them.
Constantly looking at them. This is also problematic. Like for example, if we're at school, we don't
talk to them, or we're just sitting at our table. We're just looking at them and then looking at
them there and then looking at them in class and then maybe check their Facebook profile. And then
we find out that they even make videos Oh wow. Okay, one video after the other after one picture
		
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			after the other after the other. This is also something that could lead to wrong. So Allah subhanaw
taala is telling us then he called up the halal Licola will become what could be him. That means we
have to try our best to keep our hearts clean. You know, the amazing thing is the Sahaba are being
taught. Try to keep your heart clean.
		
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			The Sahaba the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu sin are being taught, try to keep your heart clean,
close the door that could lead to fitna What about us? What about us?
		
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			Weren't the wives of the prophets otherwise? I'm already married. Of course they were. Weren't the
Sahaba married, many of them were. I mean, Jabba the low iron who he was probably a teenager when he
got married seriously, because in that society, even men married very young. All right, so majority
of the people were married anyway.
		
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			But despite that, and despite the age differences, and despite hijab and salah and the vicar and you
know being people of Taqwa still, Allah subhanaw taala orders them to observe this etiquette, in
order to keep their hearts and minds clean.
		
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			We need this as well.
		
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			Right? So the purpose of hijab is the huddle of the eyes and the heart of the heart. And the next
thing that's forbidden that's mentioned in this ayah is the prohibition of marrying the wives of the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. All right, and also another thing that's mentioned this ayah is
that it's not permissible for you to hurt the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam because in the
medina you Luna Hola, hola Sula, who, Lana, whom Allah Who for dunya will kill those people who hurt
Allah and His messenger. Allah has cursed him in this world and also in the hereafter. So it's not
permissible for a believer to do anything that would hurt the Prophet sallallahu Sallam wild Rasul
		
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			allah sallallahu Sallam is alive. Nor is it correct for a believer to do anything that would hurt
him after his death, like marrying the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam. Allah says in
taboo, if you reveal Cheyenne, anything, or tofu, you hide it, you conceal it.
		
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			Whether you show it, or you hide it for in Allaha, then indeed Allah Cana he is ever be cliche in
with everything are Lima, all knowing
		
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			you show it or you hide it. Allah knows. Why is this mentioned over here? Because we might say, we
know we might try to deceive ourselves, oh, my heart is very clean. I don't think about guys. I
don't think about them in this way or in that way. You know, we're just working together on this
project. Right? And this is why we couldn't find any quiet place. So this is why we are just, you
know, sitting in his car and doing the work. How will it Allah clean intentions, pure intentions
perfectly fine. In sha Allah, however, realize that you are human, they're human.
		
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			And Shavon is always after us.
		
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			Right? So over here, Allah says whether you show it or you hide it, Allah knows you can't hide it
from Allah. We can hide it from other people.
		
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			We can even try to hide it from ourselves by not admitting to ourselves, don't we do that sometimes.
We know in our hearts that we're guilty, we don't admit it. We don't accept it. For in Allaha can be
cliche in our Lemo. Now, of course, this is about a particular context, which is about what that man
said with regards to marrying, I shuffled the law on her. So that men he expressed it, right, he
expressed it. And it's possible that some other people also had these intentions and they did not
express them.
		
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			Right. So it's being made clear, you should or you don't, you cannot hide from Allah. And we need to
apply this to ourselves.
		
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			Anything that's wrong near Allah subhanaw taala. If we keep it in the heart, it's corrupting the
heart keeping the heart dirty. And if the heart is dirty, Allah knows about it, we should be
concerned about keeping our heart clean before Allah. And so prophet is 19 Allah says, Yarlung will
call in our uni, one or two for sudo he knows that which deceives the eyes and what the hearts
conceal. Even the deception of the eyes, Allah knows. And what the hearts conceal, Allah knows about
that also.
		
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			Then lead you know how there is no sin, I lay him on them on who on the women meaning the wives of
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam meaning there is no sin upon them nothing wrong on their
part, if they do not maintain a screen between themselves and the men that are mentioned over here,
which men feel about even concerning their fathers about is the plural off up. And when the term
alpha is used, it includes grandfather it includes uncle's also Wella and Nora Obinna ina their sons
All right, and of course this includes grandsons also when he when he hinda nor their brothers. Now
this brothers does not include cousins by the way. Okay, we think oh cousin my brother, no cousin
		
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			his cousin. Okay he's non Muharram so why not one in the northern brothers well and nor a banana at
one ina the sons of their brothers meaning nephews Wallah and nor a banana II The sons off a Hawaii
in other sisters meaning their nephews, wala and Nora Nisa in their women,
		
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			meaning the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were not required to maintain a screen
between themselves and other women, while Allah and nor my that which Malakut a man Hoonah their
right hands possess meaning slaves when it comes to slave men, the wives of the prophets, Allah's
and did not have to maintain a screen between themselves in and them. Now this might seem very
strange to us remember that the whole dynamic was different, the situation was completely different.
So this was a reality at that time, no longer for us. But at that time, this was something that
existed in front of slave men, there was no hijab. However, Allah says what the pin Allah and you
		
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			all fear Allah, notice the known the plural known, it's for feminine, so all women, fear Allah and
of course which women are these the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam have Taqwa of
Allah, in secret, and in public, in private and in public. Because without the fear of Allah, the
outward hijab will not benefit a person.
		
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			The outward hijab will not benefit a person. Because it's possible that a woman is all covered up
head to toe, even in a car was on and the gloves are on.
		
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			But then what happens? dirty feelings are being entertained in the heart. You know, recently
somebody was telling me, they were in a public place walking somewhere. And a lady approached them a
girl, let me say approached them and said, saw Whitney, you know, take a picture with me.
		
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			Okay, take a picture with me. random girl wants to take a picture with a random guy. And this random
girl is actually wearing
		
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			hijab, head to toe.
		
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			I thought, you know, these are stories that you hear.
		
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			But this is something that actually happened. All right. So we need to think about it. That hijab
should not just be something that's a part of our culture. You know, I've always seen my mom Laird,
I've always worn it as a child, and I'm wearing it. This is just something that's part of me. It's
cultural. It's not a cultural thing. It's a religious thing.
		
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			And any religious act must be done with fear of Allah. It must be done with love for Allah with hope
in Allah because remember, even the observance of hijab is an act of Riba and everybody has three
pillars. Health
		
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			Raja and her fear hope and love. This is what completes and perfects are about the any act of
worship. So when we are wearing the hijab This is not just, you know part of our clothing.
		
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			This must be done with the fear of Allah subhanaw taala would love for Allah with hope in Allah. So
what the Pina Allah fear Allah. And also remember that once we are wearing the outer hijab, Alright,
once we're wearing this clothing in order to cover our bodies, we will start to be careful about our
speech, about our laughter about our walk about our talk.
		
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			Does that conform with Taqwa? Or does that contradict the core? If it goes against the core, than
the purpose is not being fulfilled?
		
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			It's really not being fulfilled. So what the Kena Allah insha Allah Cana on a cliche in Shahida
Indeed, Allah is Ever over all things, a witness. So Allah is watching us, no matter where we are,
in private or in public, with our family or with friends, at home, or at school or work no matter
where we are, Allah is watching us. So we are to observe the proper hijab out of the fear of our
moms.
		
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			Yeah. The fear of
		
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			group in charge, or fear of somebody else, or some religious Auntie in the family, karma, maybe know
out of fear who
		
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			because this is for who? Allah
		
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			so what the cane Allah in Allaha Cana Isla Cooley che in Shahida.
		
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			Okay, now, I want you to look at the last part of it number 53. Okay, where the men are told that
when you have to speak to the women, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi, wasallam, then you
must speak to them from behind a hijab. So the command is for who?
		
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			The men,
		
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			right? But here in this idea, the command is for who?
		
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			For the women, what's the command to the women, larger now highly Hiner, there is no sin on them.
Meaning if it's other men, then it would be a sin for them.
		
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			Right? So what is the children?
		
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			The responsibility
		
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			is upon who men as well as women?
		
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			Because both are weak, both are humans both have weaknesses. Correct? Because sometimes we say
things like, men have been told to lower their gaze, so you know what, they should lower their gaze.
And I should be allowed to dress up however I want.
		
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			Okay, men are told to lower their gaze. But at the same time, women have been told to observe their
proper view also, isn't it? We have also been given rulings concerning our hijab, isn't it?
		
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			Likewise, women have been told to lower their gaze, also. So it's the responsibility of not just
men, but also also who women
		
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			and you know what each person needs to take responsibility of themselves.
		
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			Each and every one of us needs to think about who, ourselves myself that I must, you know, try to
keep my heart clean. Okay. And at the same time, I must also not be a source of you know fitna for
somebody else,
		
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			you understand. And if each person starts worrying about themselves,
		
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			then a lot of our problems will be solved. We need to be concerned about ourselves, because majority
of the time our focus is on who other people. That guy is looking, you know, these Arab men, they
have some problem they stare or these Pakistani men, they have a problem. They stare, you know what,
all men have a problem. All men do their men that simple, right? So we need to stop worrying about
men, and we need to worry about who ourselves the responsibilities upon the individual, protect
yourself. And don't be a source of sin for anybody else either. This doesn't mean that if somebody
else is committing sin, it's your fault. It's your fault if you
		
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			made it easier for them. You understand if you gave them a chance if you gave them an opportunity,
but of course for some people, even if you try your best to not give an opportunity, they will make
an opportunity. So of course it's not your fault. Each person is responsible to the point that they
are able go ahead in his verses Allah subhanaw taala
		
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			recognized isn't the nature of human beings, he recognizes and accepts the fact that this is who you
are, this is how you were made. So there's no like it despite the fact that this is who you are
naturally, there should still be some laws and rules observed to protect you from that. You can't
claim Oh, this isn't my nature and then go along with it. You still have to be careful about it.
Exactly. Yes.
		
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			Why are they looking at me and they're kind of making a fuss out of the life that somebody is
looking at them and they're telling everybody around this kind of weird.
		
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			Exactly, it happens. They're looking at me, they're looking at me, they're looking at me. Don't make
a fuss about it. Watch what you're wearing, check what you're wearing, fix yourself. And hopefully,
people won't bother you with their eyes. Alright.
		
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			You know, when I started wearing niqab, let me tell you the story. I was in the huddle. Okay. And I
was doing philosoph. All right. And my dad was there, but he was at the hotel. So me and my sister,
I believe we went to do tawaf between the Salah, between the two prayers. And you know, as as usual,
when you go there, you lose each other. Right? So that happens, I was doing pull off and I felt like
somebody was looking, you know, when you get that feeling somebody's looking. And it was not right.
This was the HUD home. I was alone. I didn't have a phone. It wasn't that busy. Because it was
between Zohar And Asa. It was extremely hot, burning hot when your feet hurt. And I felt extremely
		
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			scared.
		
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			I finished up a laugh. And I went into the women's section and I found that individual, literally
stalking me, I was looking for a shirt for somebody to complain to. But I was like, how am I going
to speak? Because they're not going to understand me, I don't know how to speak Arabic, they don't
understand English, there is no way any communication will happen. I just sat there frozen for so
long, in the women's area, and I'm like, I gotta go. So I had to cover my face and go. That's the
first time ever I covered my face. First time. Then I took it off. And then eventually, later on I
did. But that was my first experience. And then I understood why, you know, the people who
		
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			encouraged me to do it encouraged me, because in the most sacred place also, there will be
troublemakers.
		
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			This is a sad reality, because shaitan is after every single person.
		
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			Right? To Thanos after every single individual, if the Sahaba are being told, this is pure for your
heart and pure for their hearts. What about my heart?
		
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			Right? What about these random people? What about their hearts?
		
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			So anyway, we have to worry about ourselves, did you want to say something?
		
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			I was reading this thing. And it was basically by this teacher of Islam. And he was saying that he
takes a group of 100 people for RA or Hajj every year. And he was telling he wrote in that post that
many of the women they come back or like during the trip, they complained to him, that while they
were doing the wall for like, while they were doing such and such action, there were men in her arm
around them. And they would like start touching them and stuff. And then when the women would look
at the men, they would smile at them as if to say like, Yeah, I'm doing this purposely
		
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			in an inner healing.
		
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			I mean, there are people like that who exist in this world. Right? When, like we discussed earlier
that respect for women, this is a part of a man's, you know, a clock, his his morality, and this is
something that's never constant, it goes up and down. And there are times when a person will fall
and he will do such disgusting things just to satisfy his desire or or whatever it is, and a woman
gets harassed. And you know, if the most sacred place the Hassan is not spared, then what do we
think about the other places in this world? And as we can see in the news, what's happening? No
place a safe, right? So we know we should not be that naive thinking that if we are dressed in a
		
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			particular way, no man is gonna feel wrong or think about wrong thoughts about us?
		
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			Yes, just one quick point. The IRA is specific to the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam, and not only are they married, they're married to the Prophet sallahu wa salam. And you just
mentioned the man who had that thought about Aisha. So it doesn't mean that when you get married,
you got a free pass. You always have to constantly protect yourself because shaitan doesn't just go
Oh, you're married. Okay, I gotta stop. No, I don't. I'm not gonna mess with you. He's gonna mess
with you forever. So have Taqwa. It's important that you always seek protection and always have it
in the back of your head just because you're married or you're wearing hijab. There aren't people
		
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			out there nowadays, just because you're Muslim. They won't leave you alone even if you have hijab.
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			approach you. So always you have to constantly seek protection. Yeah. And this is why it's necessary
that we also watch our behavior. And we also watch the physical distance, the physical gap that we
have between ourselves and another individual. Go ahead. Also just for us to be like you were
mentioning when women are harassed, regardless of their hijab, to also keep in mind, like with *
culture, a lot of people think that if you're wearing a lot of clothes, or if you're covered that
somehow you're protected, but what happens is that sometimes people who are wearing a lot of clothes
or not wearing clothes at all, will still be attacked. And so we have this culture where we
		
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			internalize and think that it's their fault, especially with women, who you'd think it'd be like,
they're our allies, but then they still think it's the woman's fault. And like, sometimes what
happens is that you'll be wearing full hijab, it will come from someone who's like close to you. And
so like, with women within ourselves, we have to be careful to make sure that we're not blaming
other women, regardless of what they're wearing when they get attacked in this way, because they
internalize it, and it causes a lot of problems. Exactly. And this is why we see over here that you
will do your best to protect yourself to cover yourself, right. So you take a lot of measures to
		
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			cover yourself. But at the same time, you cannot control the actions of other people. If they have
done something wrong, they are guilty each person is answerable before Allah subhanaw taala. So just
because a woman is covered, that doesn't mean that she will be safe for men. She also has to watch
her behavior, the physical distance that she maintains between herself and strange men, right? What
akinola she must also watch her speech, her manner of carrying herself the way in which he interacts
with other people. Don't allow anybody to even come close to you don't allow anybody to even come
and sit next to you they come and sit next to you move away. Really do that a few times and they'll
		
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			get it I've done this myself numerous times people get it doesn't mean you have to be rude in your
words or in your speech, but in your behavior. So you do your best and of course you make dua to
Allah Allah my fellow Neyman benei the Yeoman Humphrey one You mean you aren't Shomali right that
hola you protect me from my right from my left from front of me and from behind me, you will make
sure you say you're at God for the purpose of protection. Hijab is a means it's a tool of
protection. All right, just like doors are just like your attitude, your behavior your interaction
is it's one of the tools it doesn't guarantee everything but it's something that facilitates
		
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			protection right so don't think that just because you were in your job you will be safe and
protected and this is why you can go in you know high five with guys and sit next to them and chill
with them and and then if somebody says something inappropriate then you get all angry over there.
		
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			Alright, so watch your clothing as well as your behavior
		
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			All right. We will listen to the recitation
		
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			you
		
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			do follow who you tend to be
		
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			Isla
		
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			Lena you
		
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			can either do retune or do follow for either for him to touch you.
		
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			Nisi nanny hottie
		
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			can
		
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			be various Dashie me while long is definitely mean I'll help were either
		
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			or
		
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			or Nankana
		
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			Rasul Allah
		
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			by the knee
		
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			in
		
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			the law here are we
		
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			gonna be collegia in gnarly man.
		
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			is wanting
		
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