An-Naml 27-44 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 33-36
Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 19 – L197C
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The speakers discuss the importance of finding ways to overcome conflict and avoid loss, finding ways to make people feel good and achieve their goals, and giving gifts in religion to increase their sense of pleasure and love. They stress the need to show that they are not just a coworker, but also a partner. The speakers also emphasize the importance of giving gifts in a practical and practical way, avoidingMVational norms. They stress the importance of speaking the truth and not accepting gifts that do not value them.
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They said what was their response? What was their suggestion? national Aluko wedding. were men of strength were people of strength. What Ulu but since she didn't, and we are possessors of great military might, bus military might chedid, severe. Well, omro li ke, and the matter the command the decision, it is for you, meaning it belongs to you. Ultimately, you have to make the decision fundo de mer that Marine, so see what you will come in?
What are the suggesting over here?
battle war? That's how typically men think,
why do we have to submit, we have so much power, we have so much authority, we can deal with them. So let's go and fight. But again, the decision is yours. funzone mad at moody. They give their suggestion.
And they remind her of their great numbers, their strength to fight. And in a way they're telling her that if you want to fight, we can fight for you.
If you want to have a war with them, we can do that.
Now look at these people. They are so powerful, they're so mighty. But they're being ruled by who?
by a woman. Why?
Because she was very strong and mighty, she was a tyrant. And she controlled them with her anger.
And her threats. No, it was her intelligence, her wisdom. This is how she rules.
One is that you make the other person listen to you by force. And the other is that you convince the other person to listen to you how, by your love, your intelligence, your wisdom, what is more effective.
The second way, isn't it?
Especially as women, if you begin to yell at your husband, if you begin to yell at your siblings, and tell them that your work is very, very important. And you try to keep them in control by your anger and your emotions, what's going to happen.
They will say just some time and then we'll show her. Let her finish this course and then we'll deal with her.
Then people are just waiting, Let her finish. And then we'll show her.
And the other is that you take your family along with you, you win their love, what's going to happen,
they will cooperate with you.
We see that this woman is ruling over men. She is the queen and look at how much they respect her. Because she was so intelligent in the way she dealt with them.
So when you win the heart of the other person, then you have them on your side.
And it also shows that they trusted her decision because they say to her Well, I'm really lucky. The matter is for you to decide the final decision you have to make. And whatever decision you make will accepted funzone mad at a marine So see, what do you decide and tell us and we will obey
Allah? She said in melaleuca Indeed, the Kings mu Luke florala Malik.
Indeed, the kings, either the hollow Koreatown, when they enter a town, when they enter a people, what do they do have to do her, they corrupt it, they ruin it, they destroy it How? With destruction by killing by taking people as captives by destroying the buildings. What jar Lu and they make or is that a leader, as the Latin they make the honored of its people humbled or is the is the plural of Aziz and who is are these
mighty but also honorable, respected.
So they make the reserve of its people, the honorable people of that city. They make those honorable people and they laugh at Eliza florala delille, humble, lowly abased. And this is what typically happens. worker delegates are alone. And this is exactly what they do. Who the Kings
Think about it, any nation that is attacked, what happens first,
and who is harmed most. It's the elite, those with power. Those who are in high positions. They're the ones who are attacked first. They're the ones who are harmed first.
So she knew that war does not yield good. War does not lead to a good outcome.
And she didn't want to do that. She didn't want to fight with Solomon or Lisa, because she knew that it would not lead to a good outcome. Even if she was victorious. Still, it would lead to a lot of loss
because
Even if at the end of a battle, you are victorious, you have suffered losses.
So she did not want to do this rather What did she want?
She wanted.
So she wanted some form of reconciliation. Now, think about it, she could have said this at the beginning as well, without doing all of this discussion,
she could have said that, that look, these people, they want us to come to them, they want to take over us, they're calling us to Islam. But the thing is that I don't want to fight with them because of the fight with us, then it's going to lead to a lot of chaos and loss. So therefore, this is what I've decided to do.
She could have done that. But she didn't. She reaches the same conclusion, but how? By discussion, because when she discusses the matter with her people, then it makes them agree with her.
So she makes them agree by discussing the matter with
when you do shoot all with one another, then First of all, it encourages teamwork, everybody is involved in the work. Secondly, if you end up suffering some loss at the end, then who is responsible?
Everyone, it's not just the leader who is going to be held responsible, everyone is responsible. Everyone takes the blame for it.
So this is very, very important.
So the queen of Saba, she tells him over here that look, if you want to fight, remember that if we fight, it's going to lead to great loss, great facade. And it's going to harm our elite, our honorable people, they're going to be embarrassed, they're going to be belittled. And we don't want to disrespect them in any way whatsoever.
What do we see over here that whatever she says is based on reality, it's based on fact, there is no emotional behavior on her part.
Typically, women are very emotional, but she's not emotional.
If it was someone foolish in her position, what would they do?
That we have so much power, let's go and fight we have mind. So why should we submit to them, let's go ahead and fight them.
But she's very, very sensible in the decision that she makes. And the thing is that conflict, in any situation, it does not lead to a good solution. It does not yield, profit and benefit. It only results in what in facade.
And this is something true on a large scale, as well as a small scale.
Like, for example, at a large scale, a country going to a war with another country, there may be some benefits, but there's going to be great loss as well, a lot of money is going to be spent, a lot of lives are going to be taken,
a lot of houses are going to be destroyed, a lot of people are going to lose their jobs, many people are going to suffer from hunger and wounds, and so on and so forth. The list is endless. There may be some benefits, but the loss is much more.
Similarly, at a small scale.
If you have a conflict with someone,
and you start fighting with them, you start arguing with them, you start showing attitude to them, what is it going to lead to?
It's going to make you miserable, it's going to make them miserable, isn't going to solve any problem? No, you're going to want to get out of there, they're going to want to get out of there.
But if you agree that okay, this is how it is. Let's find a solution. Let's find a means a way of reconciliation,
of soil of compromise, I will compromise in this way, they will compromise in that way. And yes, it is not an ideal situation. However, we will avoid suffering loss, we will avoid causing facades, you understand what is better of the two, causing facade or compromising? compromising? Because remember, this life is temporary. It's not eternal.
And if you cause facade, by your conflict, by your fights by your arguments, then it's not just that you're making your life miserable, but you're making the lives of other people miserable, constantly disturbing them constantly making them upset and concerned as well.
So in any problem in any situation, instead of conflict, soul is much better.
And this is what she decides to do as well. But before taking the step again, she's very wise. So what does she do?
She does something first. Before going to see mine or Islam, she does seem to make sure to find out about his real motives. That does he just want to expand his kingdom and gain all our riches or is it that he's really inviting us to the worship of Allah.
So she says what anymore Scylla to LA him and I am going to send to them. Be
Had the Yeti with a gift, I am going to send a gift to them to,
to sell a man on Instagram and his people. The word howdy here is from the roof address her dad and her dad is used for a present. It's used for a gift and the word hedaya houda is also from the same group because what is it I have to go from point A to point B, right? transformation. So what was with you, when you gifted it to someone it becomes theirs, it becomes their property.
So once it becomes their property, can you tell them how would you use it?
Can you tell them they must not give it to anybody else? Can you? No You cannot.
Once you have given a gift to someone, it belongs to them. So don't impose restrictions that this you have to wear.
And you cannot give it to anybody. You have to use this you cannot give it to anybody. No, this is not the right way. Hallelujah is a gift it belongs to the other person.
So she says I'm going to send a gift to them
financially rotten, and then I'm going to look be my elderly most alone with what the most alone return with.
Beamer is actually been
that what is it that the most saloon the messengers whom I have sent? What do they come back with?
She sent the gift with who,
with more saloon will sell his own one was sent with her messengers with her envoys.
So she sent the gifts with her envoys and she says then I'm going to see what response. Do my envoys return with?
That, what do they tell me about Suleiman our listener?
What is his reaction? What is his behavior? Does he send a gift back to us? Does he rejects the gift? Does he become angry? Does he become very happy? Does he say okay, you stay in your homes just send me tax every year or every month? What is his reaction?
What is it that my envoys returned?
So we say that the Queen she wanted to find out about the real motors of today, Mona Lisa.
And this again, is what is a sign of her wisdom?
She does not retaliate immediately, nor does she submit right away.
She does not go to war. She does not say How dare you say this to us? Nor does she submit immediately. She wants to check that Who is he really? What does he really want. If he's a king, then he will accept this gift of mine. If he wants to expand his kingdom, then he will accept this gift of mine. But if he is really a profit, then he will not take the gift.
Because profits, they do not come to amass wealth. Why do they come?
Why do they come to guide people to convey the message to them.
So this is why she sends a gift.
Now we see that she's very intelligent, she's sending a gift.
But other he said that may Allah have mercy on her and be pleased with her how wise she was as a Muslim. And also before that, as a Muslim,
that she understood how gift giving has a good effect on people
that she sent a gift to test him, and to also see how he would respond how he would react. Because she knew that when you give a gift to someone, it has a good effect on them.
Now, this gift was in a way like a bribe.
Because when you give a gift to someone, then what happens they develop a soft corner for you.
So if he is a man who wants to make money, he's just a king, then he is going to really appreciate this gift of mine. And he will come to some kind of compromise that okay, you don't come to me, however, you send me some gift every now and then you send me tax every now and then. Because she knew that giving gifts to people. It softens their heart.
It has a good effect on them.
With a very fine point that we learned from this part of the story. Very fine point. You have to think about it. You understand? Why did she send a gift? Out of all things? Why did she send a gift in the form of a bribe? Because when you send a gift to someone, it soften their heart.
So she's really testing him? Does he get influenced by this gift? Does he end up changing his mind? Or does he remain firm on his principle?
If he changes his mind, if he gets affected by that means he's not really a prophet. He just wants to make money.
But if he remains firm, and what is it, that he is a prophet?
He wants something else from us. He doesn't want money from us he wants to become Muslim.
So what do we
See that gifts, they have a good effect on the other person.
And this is why giving gifts is highly encouraged in our religion.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, shake hands with one another, and rancor, it will disappear. Brazil,
Brazil that is in the heart, it will disappear
and give presents to each other, and love each other, and enmity will disappear.
If you give gifts to one another, and love one another, then what will disappear, enmity will disappear.
We also see that I should have read on her she said that the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he would accept gifts, and he would also give gifts in return.
What does it mean? That accepting gifts and giving gifts? What does it lead to? good relationship, healthy relationship. And the prophets, Allah doesn't remember he will not accept charity, which is why whenever something was brought to him, he would always ask if it was charity, or it was a gift. If it was a gift, he would accept it. And if it was charity, he would distribute it amongst the needy.
So we see that giving gifts is encouraged as long as the near behind that is sincere,
that you're not giving the gift to someone as a bribe, to get some other benefit out of them,
to make them give you some benefit that you don't actually deserve to compromise on the rules for your sake, to give you good marks. This is not the reason why a person should be giving gifts to other people,
what should be the reason what should be the need, just to increase love between one another, to show your appreciation to the other person, to show them that you love them, show them that you care for them. And remember that any gift, whatever that you can afford, it can be given to the other person, we have made certain standards that it has to be of a certain value, it cannot be a lesser value. And because of that we complicate our lives and we complicate the lives of other people as well. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said all Muslim women, none of you should look down upon the gift sent by her neighbor.
Even if it were the trotters, of the sheep, meaning the fleshless part of the legs of the sheep.
You know the feet of the sheep, even they're cooked the bones. So even if there's no flesh on it, and she just sends you the bones, that's all that she can send you don't look down on it.
But what have we done,
if somebody is visiting, if somebody is coming, if we're going somewhere, the gift has to be of a certain value. And if it's any lesser, then we will not give anything, or we will not show up at all. Or if they're giving a gift, we will not accept it. This is not the correct way.
You should always give whatever you can afford, how much ever Allah subhanaw taala has given you the trophy.
Like at certain occasions, we have made it compulsory that we have to give gifts to one another like for example education of marriage, education of a person having a child or something like that, at the occasion of somebody going to a new house or something like that.
We have made it mandatory upon us. Now remember that it's good to give gifts at occasions. But it's not necessary that we only give gifts at occasions, it can also be outside of occasions.
And just because someone has given a particular gift to you. It doesn't mean you have to give them a gift of equal value. or greater. It's not necessary. Because you have to look at what you can afford.
Now, if a person has given you a very expensive gift, or they have the time to cook and send you food, for example, and you don't have that skill, nor do you have the time, that doesn't mean that you have to put in so much effort and invite them over and prepare all those dishes the exact number of dishes that they prepared. No, you have to look at what you can do.
Because when we get into this, that they gave me this much, therefore I have to give them this much as well. That isn't going to increase love. No way. It's not going to increase love. It's going to increase hatred and resentment and dislike and frustration.
Like for example, at certain occasions, people have this habit that if somebody has given you a particular gift, write it down, they gave me this much money. They gave me a gift of this much value so that when their child gets married, you give them the exact amount of money and not more, not less.
Is this correct?
It happens but it's not right. Why? If they gave you $200 you can afford to give 500 Why should you give 200 when you can give 500
if they gave you 200 you can only give 50 Why should you give
100 when you can only get 50,
you understand.
So, never complicate your life like this, nor should you complicate the life of other people.
giving gifts should be a means of increasing love.
The actual problem is that we're not doing it for the sake of Allah, we're doing it just to meet certain standards or just to follow the traditions of our family. And we follow them blindly, making our lives difficult in the lives of other people difficult as well.
This is also incorrect, that you give a gift to someone just so that you can get a gift back from them. This is what a bribe, this is incorrect. This is not sincerely for the sake of Allah. This is also inappropriate.
Because we have limited gift given to certain occasions what happens, people have to make these certain occasions such a big deal so that they can get great gifts. Like for example, marriage has to be a great event, there are things there has to be a great event, the birthday has to be a great event. And only when it's made an event then people will give gifts otherwise, people will not give gifts.
And sometimes children, the birthdays are made such a big deal that they wait for their birthday so that they can get some gifts. This is not appropriate, give gifts anyway, whenever you can afford.
So we have to be very careful that why is it that we're giving a gift? Is it just so that we can give back to the other person what they gave us? Is it so that we can get some benefit out of them?
Or is it just to meet certain requirements of the tradition of the culture of the family, we have to be very, very careful. Now remember that whenever you give a gift, make sure that it's a useful gift as well. Because sometimes, you know, we just make the gift expensive. And just to give a gift for the sake of giving a gift. We give things that are useless, sometimes or may not be as beneficial.
Like for example, decoration pieces.
Now, if you think about it, everybody has their own choice when it comes to decorating your house. If you know the choice of someone and you know that, okay, they don't have a wall clock in this room. So maybe giving a wall clock to my friend would be a good idea. She just moved into her house. Okay, you know, her choice to give a gift receipt, that's good. But you went to her house, you saw that the washroom is full of stuff, and still you give more stuff? What are you gonna do with it?
It becomes quite a burden on other people. So we have to be very, very careful.
And remember that the gift must be practical, not necessarily expensive, because that's the advice that the profits out of all the sudden gave us. If you look at it the feet of the sheep, are they useful? Yes, you can make soup.
But is it expensive? No. It's useful, but it's not expensive.
So always look at this criteria.
And we should also not set a condition that other people should only give us gifts of this type. Like for example, at weddings, people write this on the card in particular, no box gifts. Now, why do people write this because many times people get very useless gifts. And they become such a burden on the bride and the groom. Now, first of all, be practical in what you give, but on the side of the recipe. And he should also not set conditions only give this or only give that because the other person might not be able to give you money, but they might be able to give you something physical. So don't impose restrictions on other people. And if let's say they have given you something which
you don't really like, it's not really up to your standard don't get offended.
Just think about it this way, this is all they could afford. Because at the end of the day, it's actually the thought that counts. And if it's not that good, don't start telling other people about it, oh, they gave me this gift when they get married, and I'm going to give them that I expected something better from them. Don't be like this, don't start talking negatively about it. Ignore it, let it be, give it away to someone else if you think you don't need it.
So we have to be very, very careful. And in particular, we see that this gift was what a bribe. And remember that bribes, they are not permissible.
So in gift giving what would be a bribe, that you give a gift to someone to get a gift back you give a gift to someone to get some favor in return.
So over here she sent a gift to a man or they said and why.
Why? To see if he would be affected by it. And as a result, he would change his mind.
We see that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he cursed the one who bribes and the one who takes the bribe.
Both people are cursed, the one who offers the bribe and the one who accepts it.
Why? Because some benefit that the person does not deserve. He is going to get it as a result of that gift.
And this is why if you have given a loan to someone
You're not allowed to accept gifts from them. Why? Because if you accept a gift from them, you might feel embarrassed of asking them to return your money to you.
So by giving a gift to have made you silent, this is not appropriate. Similarly, a person, he never gave a gift to the other. But just because the other person, he got a particular post, now he's become very wealthy, and he's up there. So now they're sending them food, and they're calling them and they're giving gifts to their children, why? To get some benefit out of them. So this is inappropriate. So such gifts are not permissible. Similarly, a person might want to give a gift to their teacher, just so that the teacher becomes more nice towards them, they become special in the eyes of the teacher, this is also inappropriate, they might want to give a gift to a teacher just so
that they get good marks, even though they don't deserve them, this is also inappropriate.
So we have to be very careful that the near the intention behind giving gifts should be sincerely for whose sake for the sake of a loss.
And when we have given a gift, do not expect anything in return.
When you have given a gift to someone, do not expect anything in return. Remember that.
Because if we have expectations, then we mind that the other person did not call us and thank us. Like for example, if you've given a gift to someone, they came over to your house, you gave a gift to them. And before leaving the thank you several times
you went to somebody's wedding. And as you were leaving the bride and the groom, they thanked you for coming. Why do you expect that you should be sent a thank you card? Why? Why do you expect that you should receive a call. And the other person should say Oh, thank you so much for inviting me at such a lumpsum when they actually Thank you when they were leaving from the bottom of their heart. Why do we expect this?
When we have such expectations, then our relationships, they get affected. And many times you know what they don't even know what is expected of them. By For example, when I got married, there were certain people who invited me I went over, I thank them a lot. And when I came back, I was told by some other people that Oh, you didn't call them and they were very upset. And I was like oh my God, I thank them. I didn't have any such feelings in my heart.
So sometimes people have no idea what is expected in a particular culture in a particular family when they have tanked you isn't that sufficient? Why do we expect that they should invite us now in return, since they invited you when you got married, you should also invite them to your house. Why this is not an exchange of things is supposed to be gift giving. When I can afford I will give when I have time when I can cook, I would invite
sometimes what happens we do a favor to someone like for example, we bring water to them. And the next time we want water from them, what do we say? Look, I brought it for you. So you bring it for me. There your charity has been wasted money as a what's the point of giving that up? What's the point of giving that gift, when the other person has to be such a heavy price for it embarrassment and shame and so on and so forth. But when people behave in this way, you don't even want to talk to them. You're so embarrassed to even face them.
So, to summarize, what do we learn from here that when a person is giving the gift, he should give it sincerely for the sake of Allah which means he gives whatever he can afford the best that he can give.
And he does not expect anything in return.
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so when he came to Salomon, who, the more saloon the envoys, Allah He said today manner listened and responded to me do any DML Do you extend me with wealth? To me? Don't any mean that that is in that? Meaning? Do you aid me? Do you provide me with wealth? You're giving me money, you're giving me wealth. former attorney Allahu so whatever Allah has given me, it is higher on it is much better
than what he has given you. What Allah has given me is better than what he has given you. What does it mean by that?
I don't need your wealth. I don't need your gifts. I don't need your money. I don't need this bribe of yours.
Because whatever Allah has given me is much better than what he has given you. What is it that Allah subhanaw taala had given to sentimentalism
he had given him Prophethood, kingship authority, a great kingdom, knowledge, wisdom, and along with that, a lot of wealth.
So the wealth that Allah has given me, all of these blessings Allah has given me it's far better than what Allah has given you. Compared to you what I have is far better. It's much better.
You only have the things of this dunya you don't have been you don't have Prophethood
Well, anthem, rather you are, be her deity come with your gift for whom you all rejoice. You're very happy about this gift of yours. Why did you say that? That it is only your type of people who get influenced by gifts and presence. These things, these gifts, they don't please me. They don't interest me. They cannot silence me, they cannot make me change my mind. My mission is not to make money. So it is only people like you, who can be very happy with such gifts. But until we had the God comes after him, you cannot please me with such gifts. So what do we see over here
that he could not be misled, nor he could be silenced. He was very firm.
But there's a very fine point over here that we should notice that well, it can put the people have been in fitna
it can. So the manner in Islam, he was very strong. And this is why he did not get influenced by it. But it's quite possible that a person in greed of money in greed of wealth, he compromises on the truth. This is the reason why for a scholar, it's very, very important that he should speak the truth, he should say the help, no matter what kind of worldly benefit, he could gain or he could lose regardless of that he has to speak the truth.
And remember, this is not just for a scholar, but for any person who is working for the dean in any way whatsoever, that he has to stand by the truth. He has to stick to it, he has to observe it, he has to speak it, even if other people offer him well, otherwise.
Like for example, we learned that once the prophets are allowed Islam he sent someone to collect the cat. And when that person returned, he came back with as a god funds. And he said to the Prophet, sort of notice that this is this a cat money that I have collected from the people. And these are the gifts that they gave to me.
Why? Because he was sent by the prophet sallallahu Sallam and people liked him and people are very happy to see him that they gave him gifts.
So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that would you get these gifts? If you were in your father's house in your mother's house? No, you got them only because you went out in the way of Allah. So they don't belong to you? Who do they belong to? The beta melasma. So you have to give them into the beta man as well.
Now, if you think about it, why was it not allowed for him to take that gift? He was given that gift it wasn't that people did not give him the cat. They gave us a cat but at the same time, they also gave him personal gifts. Why was it not permissible for him to take it because if he took those gifts, then the next time he would go, he might be more lenient with the people that Oh, they gave me gifts last time. So I should not be too strict with them.
So if any gift, it prevents you from fulfilling your obligation
from fulfilling your duty, do not accept that gift. Do not take it
in whatever form it may be.
do not accept a favor from anyone. If it prevents you from fulfilling your obligation, fulfilling your duty.