Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 19 – L197B

Taimiyyah Zubair

An-Naml 27-44 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 27-32

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The importance of investigating oneself and avoiding giving out too strong information is emphasized. The use of stamped letters to make sure that a letter is legitimate and not fraudulent is also discussed. The importance of being direct in approaching someone and not giving too many false accusations is emphasized. The speaker emphasizes the need for individuals to be informed of their actions and that it is their duty to tell others. The importance of being mindful of one's actions and not giving too many false accusations is also emphasized.

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			Hello Jean Bismillah Ar Rahman Rahim lesson number 197. Similar to Number Number 27 to 44.
		
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			Allah, he said, salamander is Allah. When he heard the reports that the hoopoe gave, he said, Son
and we will see as a doctor, whether you were truthful, uncontaminated caddy been, or you were asked
the liars. What do we see over here?
		
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			That delay mannerism was extremely intelligent. He did not immediately call him truthful. He did not
immediately call him a liar.
		
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			What did he say? We'll find out sanim zero, we're going to see, we're going to check whether what
you have said is true. Or have you been of those who are lying?
		
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			Are you lying about all of this? Or are you truthful? Now this is something very, very important. We
might feel that over here, that sort of minor is that and he doesn't trust the bird? Oh, my God,
look at how the bird spoke in such good detail, such good things, positive things the bird said. And
look at him. It seems as though he's doubting the bird. No, this is not doubting. This is about not
being hasty in taking a step.
		
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			He is not being hasty in confirming the bird. He is not being hasty in rejecting what the bird said.
And this is something extremely important that people with authority must have.
		
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			Many times what happens just because somebody has said something to us, immediately, we take a step.
		
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			Just because one child came and said something, we start yelling at each other. Just because one
person came and gave their side of the story, we become very, very angry towards the other person,
and we don't have time to listen to what they have to say.
		
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			So it's very, very important that before we take a step in any matter, what do we need to do? Look
at both sides of the story. Don't just accept whatever one person has studied, you investigate.
		
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			Because if we do not investigate, we might do certain things which end up embarrassing us in the
near future. Like for example, if Suleiman Ernestina did not accept what the hood said over here,
and he said, No, you're lying about it? How is it possible that I don't know about these people, I'm
supposed to be the Prophet of Allah. And you're telling me I don't know about these people, and he
could have killed a bird. And later on, he could have found out about these people that these people
really exist, how embarrassing it would be for him a source of great regret for him. And similarly,
if immediately he took a step in confirming what the bird said without really investigating even
		
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			that could lead to something harmful. So, before taking a step, we see that today mannerism, he says
that he will investigate. So Dr. contaminant Academy, I want you to notice something over here. So
Dakota This is a verb and lkt been this is what is some fairy because if he had said that Orca
doctor, have you lied, then it will not be as strong. Okay, there is a difference between you have
lied, or you are a liar.
		
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			There's a huge difference. So, in this manner, strictness again is being revealed as a doctor and
contaminant category. And he says to the bird is a go Viki Tabby has a with this letter of mine,
		
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			go with this letter of mine take this letter of mine, it have been means to take. And keytab as you
know, is used for that which is written mcdu whether it's in the form of a book, or in the form of a
document or a letter. So take this letter of mine for LTE, and then cast it deliver it the * over
here indicate it this is a lemon. So for Okay, then throw it deliver it, la him to them to to the
people of Sabah, the queen of Saba and her people, some of them the one on whom turn away from them.
Turn away from who from the people of server funds load and then look, mother, your dear who what is
it that they return?
		
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			Why does he say that deliver the letter to them and then we'll learn who the one learn. When the
word The weather is followed by and it means to cease to be close, to cease to be close to someone.
		
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			And this could be by going away from them or it could be by turning your face away from them
		
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			by going far away from them moving aside from them. So the one learn well meaning don't just fly
around them, but rather stand aside, withdraw, move aside.
		
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			Why does he say this to him?
		
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			Observe the Royal Air ticket. When you're in the court when you deliver the letter to them, don't
just go on randomly flying here to there in your excitement, no. Stand aside, observe the Royal Air
ticket to one line home.
		
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			And to learn whom can also be understood as that stay aside meaning Don't let anyone see you deliver
the letter secretly, and turn away from them. Don't let anyone see you.
		
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			funzone and then watch, observe mudaliar own what is it that they return? What does it mean by this
mother, your journey on your own from Buju that what is it that they return to one another? meaning
how do they respond to one another? What do they say to one another, on receiving this letter?
		
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			And whatever they say to one another, come and give me the report of that. Or mother yelled your own
can also be understood as what is it that they returned? meaning how do they respond to this letter
of mine? How do they react? Go in look, go and check.
		
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			So today, man Anissa, he wrote a letter to the queen of Saba and her people, and he gave it to the
hood to deliver the letter.
		
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			And in this letter, basically, he addressed the queen and her people and he invited them to submit
to a loss planner.
		
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			And we see that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also, he wrote several letters to the kings of his
time, the king of Rome, the king of Persia, the kingdoms that existed at that time, he wrote letters
to the kings. Why? In order to invite them to Islam. Because remember that the Messenger of Allah,
his duty is what to call people, to Allah.
		
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			And this is why Sulaiman Arneson, he sent this letter of invitation to Islam due to these non
believing people.
		
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			So what does this show to us that a person must do Dawa in whatever way that he can? That he must
realize that if anyone is not a Muslim, it is his duty to do their work to him? We cannot say, Oh,
it's their choice, let them be? No, it's our duty to tell them to invite them, at least invite them.
		
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			Because sometimes it happens that there are people who, when they're invited to the sun, would you
like to become Muslim? When they're told they say, Okay, why did they not become Muslim before?
Nobody ever asked me? I never knew. I never really thought about it. So it's our obligation that we
must invite people to the religion of Allah, because this is the way of the prophets of Allah.
		
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			And we see that in order to invite these people, what does he do? He sends a letter.
		
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			What does that show to us? That can be done in any way. Sometimes it can be done How? Through a
conversation. Another time, it could be done How? By a speech by sharing something. And sometimes it
can also be done by letters by emails by sending something to the other.
		
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			So what happened then the bird went, it delivered the letter. And the Queen when she received the
letter or letter, she said, Yeah, a U haul mela, all Malak?
		
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			Meaning she's addressing her chiefs, her special people, her dignitaries, her counsel, her court
ears. So she says to them? Yeah, a U haul mela in the indeed. oltenia illa. Yet it has been thrown
to me meaning it has been delivered to me.
		
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			What has been delivered to me keytab. A letter and letter has been delivered to me. And this letter
is keytab Kareem. It's a noble letter. It's a royal letter. It's an honorable letter. It's not an
ordinary letter.
		
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			Now okiya What does it show? It has been delivered to me meaning I don't know who has given it. I
don't know who actually delivered it, but it has been delivered to me.
		
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			So this shows that the hood, it came and delivered the letter secretly and he during the site from
them, just as silly man or a salon had instructed him to do so.
		
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			And she the queen? She describes the letter as Kareem. Now, what does it mean by Keith Urban Kareem?
What makes a letter noble? What makes a letter? honorable, respectable? Good. There could be several
reasons.
		
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			First of all,
		
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			the sender who has sent the letter
		
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			that makes the letter noble special, like for example, when is that you received some mail from a
random advertising company. And the other is that you receive some mail from the Government of
Canada. Right? There's a difference isn't it? When you see these two letters side by side
		
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			Which one will you open first? The government one right? What is it? Is it something to do with my
taxes something to do with my work or something you get concerned and immediately you open it up? Is
everything okay? Did I do anything wrong?
		
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			So a royal letter, a noble letter? What makes it noble? First of all, the sender that who is it that
has sent it?
		
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			So over here, why was it noble? Because the sender was such a minor incident. And so a minor
listener was not just a prophet of Allah, but also a king.
		
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			Another thing that makes a letter noble is the content of the letter.
		
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			That what is it that the letter says, What is mentioned in the letter?
		
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			And this letter was noble, because of its good content? And what is the content inshallah we'll read
that very soon.
		
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			Thirdly, another thing that makes a letter noble is, it's hard to it's seal,
		
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			that if it is sealed, if it is stamped, meaning the stamp of the king, the seal of the king is given
on it, if it's there on it, then that makes it a noble letter.
		
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			And this is why we see that whenever the profits or losses and when he would also send letters, what
would he do?
		
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			He would stamp them with his seal.
		
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			Why? Because it makes a letter normal. And we see that even our best to learn who he said, that
caramel kitabi cut,
		
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			that the current the nobility of a letter is in its seal in its stamp.
		
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			Because if there is a seal on it, then what does that show that it is from someone special? Who will
put their seal who will put their stamp? Don't think about postage stamps, okay, because I see some
of you puzzled, we're not talking about those.
		
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			Earlier, what people will do is that after they completed writing a letter, they would roll it up,
they will close it and they will put hot wax in order to seal it.
		
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			And the hard wax they would put their stamp on it so that there would be an imprint of their name or
something like that. So when it is sealed like that with the wax and you have the name imprinted on
it, what does it show that it is actually from the sender. It is authentic, nobody has opened it.
Nobody has changed it, nobody has altered it. It is exactly how it was intended to be.
		
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			So in the Olympia la Akita goon Karim, that a Nobel lecture has been delivered to me.
		
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			It is also said that men cateva illa de keytab and wollombi sdmo. faqad is the hobby
		
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			that whoever writes a letter to his brother, and he does not see it properly. Then it is as though
he has belittled his friend, that he has not honored him.
		
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			Because if you truly honored him, he would put his name on it, he would put his seal on it.
		
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			So in neopia, aleja, keytab, and Kareem.
		
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			Now according to some narrations, it is said that the hood, it took the letter, and he went to the
baddest of the queen. And while she was asleep, he went and delivered the letter to her a lower
limb, how exactly he delivered it. All we know is that he somehow delivered the letter and the
Queen, she found the letter. And what did she do? She didn't just read it and disregard it. No. She
realized that it was an important letter.
		
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			And she did not want to take a step before discussing it with who were the members of her Council.
		
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			What do we see over here? So the mannerism also he was not hasty.
		
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			Similarly, over here, she is also not hasty.
		
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			A leader must possess this quality, before taking a step before taking any action. Do what is
required on your part. Sometimes we get so emotional, we get so excited, or we get so angry, that
without even discussing with other people, what do we do? We go and do whatever we want to do.
		
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			So it's part of the intelligence of a person that they share with other people, whatever concerns
them.
		
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			Now, whatever silly manner it is that I'm wrote to her was not only something between her and him,
but rather it concerned the entire nation. It concerned her entire people. This is why she did not
just read the letter and make a decision by herself, but rather she consulted her people.
		
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			And we see that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also he had this great characteristic that he
consulted with the Sahaba on every night. And he was of those people who consulted the most in any
important matter. He would not make a decision himself rather what would he do? He would always
consult with us
		
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			whenever he would go for a battle. Where do we find
		
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			From how do we find, in which manner, what technique he would always discuss with the companions.
And if you think about the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he received revelation. And he was the best of
those people. But still, he took his companions along with him. He gave them the sense of sharing
the responsibility. Because if the leader takes the steps all by himself, if he makes the decisions
all by himself and does not involve the people, then what does that build resentment in the hearts
of the subjects? They say that they don't care about me. Like, for example, if even within a
household, even within a family, if the parents they do whatever they want with themselves, and they
		
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			never, ever discuss things with the children, then what happens? The children say, No, I don't want
to do it. You never consulted me.
		
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			So it builds resentment. And when you discuss things with other people, then it's very, very easy to
take them along with you.
		
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			But unfortunately, many times we don't discuss with other people thinking that their suggestion is
not going to be good enough. They have nothing to do with it. They should just listen and accept.
They have to listen to the meat. We are the omala so they should obey us. But we see that Shura is
extremely necessary.
		
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			We don't insert the shoulder I number 38. That will unroll him sure are they know
		
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			that those believers was affair is determined by consultation among themselves, that they never take
any major step except after consulting one another. Except after discussing with one another.
		
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			Because it's quite possible that when you're thinking about something, your thinking is biased.
You're only looking at it from one angle. Your knowledge is limited, your experience is limited and
you are viewing that thing with your bias your desires. And it's quite possible you make a decision,
that's not as good.
		
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			But the moment you consult someone else, what happens,
		
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			they show you the other side of the story.
		
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			They tell you something else, which makes you think more about what you have to do. And it opens up
all those things that you never considered before.
		
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			So it's very, very essential that if we want to come to a good conclusion to a good decision, that
benefits everyone then what do we need to do?
		
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			Discuss shareware homefield. This is what the prophet SAW notice and was told. And it's extremely
important for teamwork as well.
		
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			That if you want to take everybody along with you, then again you have to discuss because if you
don't discuss then people will not work with you anymore. They will not want to go along with you,
they will be unwilling to accept.
		
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			So she says that, to me, a normal letter, a royal letter has been delivered. And then she doesn't
just tell them, or a royal letter has been delivered to me. And they're wondering, okay, what does
that letter say? And who is it from? No, she shares the entire letter with them.
		
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			Because sometimes we also have this thing that we tell people only half of the story. And the other
half they're in suspense about it. They're curious about it, they want to ask, but they don't have
the confidence to ask and we don't even tell them.
		
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			So she says to them, that in the humann Sulayman indeed it is from Sulayman. Meaning this keytab
this letter is from who said a man or listener? What in the who, and indeed it meaning it begins
with Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. It reads In the Name of Allah, the Entirely Merciful, the
Especially Merciful.
		
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			What does it show to us? That Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim is a statement that has been there for a
very, very long time.
		
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			So the manner I said I'm also use the statement.
		
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			He mentioned the name of Allah at the beginning of the letter.
		
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			And this was the way of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam as well. worth mentioning the name of Allah at
the beginning. And before saying Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim, what is mentioned?
		
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			Who the letter is from? Who the sender is.
		
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			Now many times what happens we write a long letter to someone, a long note to someone. And then
right at the end, we say, Oh, this person and sometimes we don't even write the name.
		
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			And the other person is wondering who is this from? Like, sometimes random notes come to me and I
have no idea who wrote it. I'm trying to figure out how by the writing of the person, some people's
writing I'm familiar with, but many people are not familiar with their writing.
		
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			So when you get a random note without the name of the person on it, you are left in suspense. So
what is the proper etiquette write the name
		
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			The beginning. So like, for example, these days, when you send an email to someone, what happens?
Your name shows up before the actual email. But sometimes we put such names on our email addresses
that have nothing to do with you. And the other person is wondering who is this Princess 2005.
		
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			So, don't give such names Don't make such email addresses. What's the harm in putting your name?
		
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			What's the harm?
		
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			There's no harm unless you're doing something wrong.
		
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			So put your name be confident about it. If the other person sees your name, it's only going to lead
to hype. Don't put the other people in suspense. So we see that the Prophet sallallahu sallam,
Prophet Solomon and Islam, both of them they observed this rule that whenever they sent letters, at
the beginning, at the top, what was mentioned the name of the sender, and then
Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
		
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			Because whenever a person begins any important matter? How should you do so by mentioning the name
of Allah?
		
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			And then what's the content of the letter? What does he say?
		
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			A letter Aloo or the year? Be not hearty with me. Do not exalt against me in defiance? What? dooney
muslimeen? And come to me as Muslims.
		
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			That's it. That's the entire letter. Means today, man. Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. And let our do
earlier. What Sunni Muslims?
		
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			That's all the letter is about. It's so brief. It's so clear, straight to the point.
		
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			He doesn't say, how are you doing? I'm the prophet of a law. I have heard that you live in this
country. And I have heard that you do shake. And by the way, you shouldn't do that.
		
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			No, no proofs, no evidence is no long discussions. Nothing like that. simple, clear, to the point
where it's
		
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			sometimes when we're doing that, well, we're so indirect that the other person is wondering, so what
are you trying to say? What are you trying to get at. And we gave one book after the other one big
book after the other. And the other person is wondering this big book, I was supposed to read it.
		
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			So be very, very careful in the manner that you approach the other person in a very precise way. He
says a letter lower layer.
		
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			Because you see, the more concise and brief messages, the better effect it has.
		
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			And the longer you make it, it's going to lose its effect.
		
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			Now, why does he say this a lot earlier? Why does he go straight to the purpose of do not exalt
yourself against me? What do Nemazee mean and come to me as Muslims? Why does he say that?
		
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			You see, the prophets of Allah. What was their responsibility
		
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			to call people to the worship of Allah alone?
		
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			And this is why he invited them to Islam that What do Nemazee mean? Come to me as Muslims, meaning
as once were submitting to Allah
		
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			and don't rise up against me rather you should obey me, because every prophet of Allah, he should be
obeyed.
		
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			We have learned in Surah Nisa Ayah number 64 that women are Salam it was Solon lol utara Bismillah.
We have not sent any messenger except that he should be obeyed by the permission of Allah.
		
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			So this is why he says a letter earlier don't stand up against me, rather, obey me. What do any
Muslim mean and come to me as Muslims, meaning as ones who believe in Allah submitting to Allah
completely.
		
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			So this is the reason why he said this to them, because it was his responsibility to guide them, to
call them to Islam. And he delivered the message in a very clear and precise manner, in very short
words. And we see that the speech of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was also like that how short and
to the point
		
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			because if it was very long and lengthy then we would have many, many, many books of a hadith.
		
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			But she said, Yeah, you had mela omala Oh, eminent ones. f2 nifi. Emery, advise me in my affair.
		
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			Now again, she's discussing this matter with who, with her people. She does not make a decision
herself. Rather she discusses with them.
		
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			And she shares the entire letter with them. That Yeah, a U haul mother of two knee fee of tuning
fair. Well, fatwa, what does fatwa mean?
		
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			A legal verdict.
		
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			It's a legal verdict. It is basically a solution to a difficult issue to a complicated matter.
		
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			So anything that a person says you can't call it a fatwa.
		
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			Like for example, if I asked you did you
		
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			Do your work? And you say no.
		
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			And I say, Why are you being tardy? So you say, Oh, she gave me four together and being tardy.
		
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			This is not okay for twice what a solution to a complicated issue. So just because somebody has said
something don't say, they say this fatwa they have given this letter, every other statement of a
person is not a photo. Okay? But why is only the solution to a complicated issue. You don't
understand what's going on, you don't know what to do. So you go ask someone who is knowledgeable
about that matter, and they give you a solution.
		
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			Like earlier, we have learned to SF Tunica, they ask you about, about the calella. Right? This was a
confusing matter.
		
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			So the Sahaba, they went to the prophet SAW the Lotus and I'm seeking a legal vertical, what do we
do in this case?
		
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			So similarly, over here, this was a difficult issue. This was a very important matter.
		
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			So she says, Yeah, are you Hello, I'm Tony fee, Emery. Give me an opinion in this matter of mine.
guide me, what should I do? Tell me what should I do? And she says, merkon to author I am one, I am
not one to decide a matter had whodunnit until you witness for me. Mark onto author, author and co
author, author of Bahrain, Qatar, what does Qatar mean? To cut something. And Katara is used in two
ways. First of all, in the literal sense to cut something like for example, a sidecar sidecar to a
thorough idea.
		
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			This is in the literal sense.
		
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			But the word cutter is also used in the figurative sense. And it's used for, let's say, crossing the
road, or 30. Or, for example, author is to fix to a point a matter, we need to decide that this is
what's going to be done to implement a final decision to make a decision. So Malecon to author
attend, Amman, meaning I am not going to make a final decision had whodunnit until you are present
with me meaning until you consider it. And until you give me your opinion, you have to be a part of
making this decision.
		
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			You have to be a part of making this decision, you cannot just leave it up to me.
		
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			But do we see over here
		
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			that the queen, she's not a dictator.
		
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			She doesn't say this is what I have decided, and this is what we're going to do and do bad you have
to listen to me. No. She says to them, I am not going to decide until I have your support. Until you
give your input, you have to put your share, and then we're going to mutually decide.
		
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			And this is something very, very important. And you see she's a woman. And you can see this wisdom
in her and every woman must possess this quality.
		
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			Every woman must possess this quality. If you want your family to function smoothly, if you want
your relationships to be good, then this is something very, very important.
		
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			Many times as women, we make certain decisions, and we just inform the husbands. Oh, by the way, I'm
inviting so and so please go and get this. And please stay out of the house on this particular day.
		
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			And when we do this, do we get their support? No. Sometimes we tell our parents By the way, Mom,
I've decided to do this. Will we get her support? No. If you want the support of other people,
especially as women, you have to take other people along with you.
		
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			You see she was a woman, the people could have easily overthrown her.
		
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			She was a queen, a woman after all, they could have easily overthrown her.
		
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			So look at her wisdom, look at her intelligence, that she does not make a decision herself unless
and until she consults with everybody else.
		
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			Anytime you want to do something, so very important tip that I'm giving to all of you women. Anytime
you want to do something, and you feel that people might not agree, people might not cooperate with
you. Don't go and tell them. I want to do this. By the way, I want to do that. No, say, you know,
this is the issue. What do you think about it? And then slowly and gradually, they can do what you
think and this is exactly what this woman does over you.
		
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			Because if you tell, for example, your husband, I am going to do this. He is the column, okay? And
he's going to become very upset that How dare you make a decision without telling me I'm supposed to
be the man of the house and I'm supposed to make this decision and you're supposed to be listening
to me. This is not the right way.
		
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			The right way is that you discuss with
		
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			and when you discuss with them in a decent manner without getting buried.
		
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			Emotional, and what's going to happen, they will also use your mind and come to the same agreement
with you.
		
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			So this is a very, very important thing.
		
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			And when people make decisions on their own, then what happens? They lose support from even their
family members.
		
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			They even lose support from their family members. So for example, if you have an assignment, you if
you have a test coming up, one is that, you know, you have to go somewhere with your husband, and
you say, I'm sorry, I can't go with you, I have a lot of work to do, you can go yourself, and please
stay the children as well.
		
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			If you show this behavior, what's your husband going to do?
		
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			I'm not gonna let you do the assignment. Too bad, you're not going to school? What's the proper way?
		
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			Sit down with him in a very calm manner. And you say, I have this one assignment to do, when do you
think I can do it? Do you think I could do it at this time? And then we could go later? Do you think
you keep the kids for two hours, I'll finish the assignment. And then we'll go together. There is a
difference, right?
		
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			There's a huge difference. When you discuss with them, they will support you. And when you become so
emotional, and angry and upset, and you think that everybody just listened to you, then nobody's
going to listen to you. You have to discuss things with the family members. And it's very, very
important. And it's actually a part of respecting other people. Because if you go on passing orders,
nobody's going to want to listen to you.
		
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			Similarly, you could say, I have been invited over here and here, what do you think, should I go or
not?
		
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			You know, this is what they have said, and this is what this person has requested. What do you
think, maybe I should go here and not there. Maybe I should go for some time, you understand?
		
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			So it's very important in the way you approach in the way you touch the subject.
		
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			And sometimes, you know, you may wonder that, you know, what do they know about my assignment? And
what do they know about my classes and my tests, but the thing is that once you share it with them,
you'll be amazed at the kind of suggestions they'll give you. You'll be amazed at the kind of tips
they'll give you.
		
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			For example, with me, whenever I have any problem with the class with preparing for the vessel
always discussed with my husband, when do you think I should? How do I do it from the beginning of
this course, on beginning of every course I've been discussing with my husband, and 100 Allah has
given me such excellent tips that I feel that without those tips, I don't know what I would have
been doing,
		
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			honestly.
		
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			So it's very important that we discuss these issues with them. If I were just getting upset and
angry, oh, my God, I can't get my work done. And he's coming home and seeing me upset and angry and
the kitchen is a mess and there's no food, will he cooperate with me? No way. No cooperation at all.
		
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			When you give the hook of the other person and at the same time you discuss your matters with him.
You let them feel I need your help. I depend on you. I need your help. I need your cooperation. You
tell me what to do.
		
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			Then they're going to feel very good about it and the kind of suggestions they'll give you. They'll
be very beneficial.
		
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			So we see that the Queen also she uses the same approach. She makes her mother feel that she needs
them.
		
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			I can't make this decision independently. No. I need your input on this. And I'm not doing anything
unless you tell me what to do.
		
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			This is very important.