An-Nur 32-34 Word Analysis and Tafsir 32
Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 18 – L181B
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The importance of manhood and the law in preserving people's desire for marriage is emphasized in Islam. The natural needs of the people involved in the laws are discussed, including burying deceased or divorce, wedding, and maintaining a suitable spouse. The importance of marriage is emphasized, as it is a means of worship and provides a stable personal and social support system. The speaker emphasizes the need for women to be stable and not give up on potential spousal offers, as it can lead to rejection and negative reactions.
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What unki who I am I mean come and marry the unmarried among you was slightly Hainan, Marie Byrd Econ, ye my econ and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves get married
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In this ayah the command is being given to the earlier the guardians of those people who are single,
whether it is their parents, or it is their grandparents, or it is their family. The command is to the guardians. And it's not just for the guardians, but it's extended out to the entire Muslim community, the entire Muslim society.
So what is this command that is being given to the Muslim community? What is this command that is being given to the guardians of singles? That what angle am I minko and Kiko from the reflectors known kapha, Nika, Nika is marriage. And Anka have Yun ki who is to get someone married, it is to give someone in marriage.
So unki, who get married, give in marriage, who am
I am i is the plural of a him, a him from the root letters Hamza hear me.
And the word a Yin, is used for a person who is free, a free person. So basically, they're not a slave, free, but they do not have a spouse. They do not have a spouse. And it's the opposite of the word that you say you have is married, and a him is single.
So for example, a young could apply to a woman who does not have a husband. She could be a woman who has never been married a virgin. She could be a widow, a woman who was married when her husband passed away. She could be divorced, she was married, but now she has been divorced. So who is she, a single woman, a woman who is not in a marriage contract.
And the word also includes a man who does not have a wife. It could be a man who has never been married. It could be a man whose wife has passed away it could be a man who was divorced his wife. So am is basically a single person,
a man or a woman who is single.
So these single people, don't let them remain single. What does Allah say? And Cahill Emma minko and men coming from you Muslims.
So first of all, get them married. And secondly, who else should you get married was slightly hanaa marry vertical. And the righteous ones from your male slaves what you my econ and your female slaves are bad is the plural of our of the zoo, a servant. And over here it gives the meaning of slave and in particular male slave and Mr. equal, Emma is the plural of Amazon
and Amazon. How will you write it just as the word oma? Okay, but you will change the haircut and it's from the real veterans Hamza meanwell.
And Amazon is used for a female slave.
Was it a female slave.
So, get the single ones married, those who are free, and from among the slaves also get the Sally hain married, and obviously which slaves those were unmarried, because previously, such slaves were also owned, who were married, like a slave who had a wife, a slave woman who had a husband, that was also possible, but over here with slave women and men are being referred to those who are unmarried.
Now, one condition has been set that as for the slaves, they should be assigning him What does it mean by Salim?
That, first of all, they should be silent with regards to their religion in their Deen. They should be believers they should be righteous, they should perform the obligations and they should abstain from what is unlawful.
So for example, if a person has a slave, he prays five times a day, he does not do anything that is how long he is a righteous believing servant. So what is almost proud to say, get him married, help him guard his chastity. And secondly, slowly he also slowly in the worldly sense that he
knows how to earn a living, he is suitable for marriage, he is able to fulfill the rights of his wife. And similarly for the woman, she is also suitable for marriage, she is able to look after children, she is able to look after her husband. So a slightly heinous and everybody can what you might equal.
But what is it that stops people from getting married? What is one of the main reasons?
What finance money
that for example, if a man wants to get married, and he presents his wish to his parents, what do they say you're still in school, you don't make a single penny, you're living off of us and you want to get a wife.
Similarly, if a girl wishes to get married, if a man does send a proposal for her, what is looked at that he must be a doctor, and he must have a business and he must be of a particular age.
So many times it is the finance it is money matters that prevents people from getting married. So Allah subhanaw taala says that he akufo Cora, if they should be poor, who the unmarried ones, whether it is the AMA, or it is the unmarried ones from among the slave men and the slave women.
So it's possible that there are poor, however, a lot can change their financial situation, he can enrich them from his bounty, will law who was here in our name, and Allah is less there, in His grace in his favor, in his generosity, in his granting favors, and he is arleen he is knowing fully of his servants. He knows what people go through what single people go through, so get them married.
Now in this ayah, we learn about a very important command, a very important command, the purpose of which is to preserve the chastity of people.
We learned in the previous ayah that both men and women were commanded to lower their gaze.
Now, many times, young men, young women, they do not lower their gaze, why they're looking for a potential spouse, or they're not satisfied sexually. So they look to other men, they look to other women. So in order to help people lower their gaze,
in order to preserve their chastity, in order to prevent them from committing Zina, what should be done, help them get married. And the command is being given to who to the earlier.
Typically, the Wali is only responsible for the woman who is under his care, isn't it so that he is responsible for getting that woman married. However, over here, I am also includes men.
Because many times even if men want to get married, the parents don't allow, the parents don't cooperate, the family does not assist.
Or, for example, if a young man wishes to get married, he's not financially capable. He does not have a lot of money, that he could give a good mother to his wife and also have a walima whose financial help does he need his parents, his family. This is why the command is being given to the family it is being given to the guardians, it is being given to the Muslim community,
that it is your responsibility to get the single ones married,
you should help them get married, you should encourage them to get married in order to protect them in order to save them.
We see that nikka marriage is a form of worship in our religion. It is a way of worshipping Allah sprinter.
And in some situations, marriage becomes an obligation. It becomes felt on a person in what situation in what circumstances would it be. Like for example, a person is at the verge of committing Zina. He says that I'm sorry, I cannot control myself anymore.
So in that situation, it is obligatory for him to get married. He does not have a choice, he must get married in order to preserve his destiny in order to avoid committing Haram.
In other cases, marriage is wider. nicca is wider, meaning it is also mandatory, but it's not at the level of it's of a lesser degree. in what situation would it be, for instance, at a time at a place where there is a lot of fitna.
So for example, if a young man in his 20s if he is going to university, if he is going to a workplace, and he interacts with women all the time. In that case, he is a human being. He has some desires. And Allah has put those desires in his heart. He should not put himself in fitna he should
did not put himself in difficulty when he's surrounded with such women then what should he do? It is wired up upon him to get married so that he does not go towards heroin.
In the case where it is felt it is where a person is at the verge of committing cuddle. In the case where it is widely it is when a person could be on his way to committing heroin
and in normal situations nikka his marriage is Massoud meaning it is in following the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu
there's a statement in which it has been said that for our the Sunnah of the NBN four things are off the Sunnah of all of the prophets of Allah. And what are they? First of all modesty? Secondly, using perfume using fragrance
therapy, using the miswak cleaning your teeth.
And fourthly nikka getting married.
These are what have the Sunnah of all of the prophets of Allah.
And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also said that a Nika whom insanity that Nika is of my son, it is of my way, from alumnium ob so Nettie Felisa meanie, and whoever does not act upon my son, then he is not of me. He does not have anything to do with me.
So we see that Nika is of great importance in our religion.
It is of great importance. Now we're indigent, a person cannot say, I choose to remain single, I choose not to get married, because I want to accomplish many great things in my life. A man Buhari never got married. This is what people say. My mom even told me I did not get married. This is what people say. However, the fact is, that the scholars of the past they were not able to get married, not because they decided not to it was because they never got the chance to in the sense that they were so busy in their work. They were so busy traveling for knowledge. I've told you so many incidents about him even telling me how many times in his life he was imprisoned, how much he was
driving, he was a Mujahid, he was a scholar, he was a teacher, for a long period of his life, he was a student, and then he was writing. Now in that case, a person really does not get a chance to even think about getting married.
So those great scholars, we should not be comparing ourselves to them. Because what they did was something extraordinary. And for us, our role model should be who the profits are.
Because he was the most successful man who ever walked on the face of the earth, the most successful man
in his family life, as a political leader, as a friend, in any role as a teacher, he was the most successful, he accomplished everything that he needed to that he had to. So if he was married, if he had multiple wives, not just one, but multiple, what does it show that marriage is a part of fitrah. Getting married is a part of nature. And not getting married, is unnatural. It goes against the fitrah. There's nothing cool about it. There's nothing great about it. What is great is that a person remains as a human being and why is he and she is a human being. With those abilities. he accomplishes great things.
The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said or early, never delay three things. Never delay three things. Prayer, when it's time approaches, when the time of Salah has approached, then do not delay unnecessarily. The funeral when death is confirmed, that when a person has died, it's confirmed that they have died then do not delay the funeral. And unfortunately, funerals are delayed why relatives have to come, the body has to be sent. Whereas What do we learn that as soon as a person dies, we should be concerned about burying him as soon as possible.
And thirdly, marrying a widow or a divorce see when a suitable match is found for her.
When a suitable match is found for her, that if there is a woman whose husband died, she's a widow, or she has been divorced. Then just because she is divorced, just because she's a widow does not mean she should not be married. If a suitable spouse if a suitable match is found for then do not delay her marriage, get her married. Why?
Because marriage is one of the natural needs that Allah subhanaw taala has put in the people who he has created.
And we see that nica is greatly encouraged in our religion, and especially the youth are encouraged. The young people are encouraged. We see that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he addressed the youth, he said
All young men, whoever among you can afford to get married? Then let him marry, whoever Have you can afford to get married and what should you do? let him marry, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and protecting the private points. In the previous, as we learned the command of lowering the gaze and protecting the private parts, when can a person do that, when he or she is made?
We also see that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, there are three people who have a right to the help of Allah.
Three people who have a right that Allah should help them, they have this How can they have this right? Who Who are these three people, first of all, the one who marries out of the desire to live a chaste life.
The person who gets married, why, in order to remain chaste
in order to not commit how long in order to live a chaste life that is free from illicit relationships, that is free from wrong friendships. Secondly, the slave whose master has agreed to his buying his freedom when he wishes to pay the sum to the slave who wishes to buy his freedom, and the master has agreed. So that slave, Allah subhanaw taala helps him.
And thirdly, the one who fights in the cause of Allah. These are three people who deserve the help of Allah.
And we see that in our religion, the parents and the guardians, they're advised that they should help those who are younger than them get married. And if they do receive a good proposal for their child, for their daughter, for their son, then they should not delay unless there is a genuine, legitimate reason.
We see that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he said, when someone with whose religion and character with someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied,
asks for your daughter in marriage than accede to his request.
If you do not do so, there will be corruption and great evil on the earth.
It hasn't been said, if a social status satisfies you, if his career satisfies you, if his physical appearance satisfies you, if his family background satisfies you that he does not have many sisters, he's not the only son. So he has to look after his parents, no, these conditions have not been set, what is the condition, religion, and character.
Because these two things are the most important
because of a person who has religion, then he will be beautiful to his wife in the sense that he will give her hug, he will look after her.
If he has good character, then again, he will be good towards his wife.
And if he does not have wealth today, a lot can give him wealth tomorrow. If he does have wealth today, Allah can take it away tomorrow. Wealth should not be criteria. What should be our criteria, religion, and character? Because other things, they keep changing? They keep changing. So what are the profits or losses? What I'm saying that if someone as such proposes, and he asks for your daughter's hand in marriage, then what should you do? Accept. And if you don't, then it's going to lead to fitna it's going to lead to corruption on the earth.
And over here, we must also be very careful that sometimes sisters, they get proposals from very good brothers righteous brothers, and without any genuine reasons. They just keep rejecting one after the other. No, no, no, no. I don't know what kind of ideal man whose picture they have made in their heads when they cannot find in this dunya
I remember the story I read once that this man he went somewhere. And it was said that
there's a woman and if you go talk to her, and if you ask her that you want a wife of this type, she will find one for you. For this man, he went to her and he said I wish to get married. So the woman said okay, describe the kind of wife that you want. So he gave a very good description, beautiful, someone who has suffered from poverty so that you will be grateful, someone who is religious, he gave a lot of details which were very idealistic. So she said, okay, pray, May Allah give you such a wife engine?
Meaning I don't have a suitable spouse for you here. Your standards are very high and May Allah grant you that your wife in general, so be realistic, be realistic, because sometimes, unfortunately women also sisters also they have such highest standards, that the brother should be like this and should be like this and should be like this, and only then I'll agree to marry him. And obviously they can
not find anyone like that and unnecessarily marriage is delayed. Unnecessarily marriages delayed. What did the Prophet sallallahu Sallam say that if you do not do so there will be corruption and great evil on the earth. It's going to lead to corruption. It's going to lead to facade, it's going to lead to evil.
Also, we see that the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he asked a man once, do you have a wife? And he said, No. So he asked her, do you have a slave woman? He said, No. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam then asked him, Do you have wealth? He said, Yes, I have plenty. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, then you are of the brothers of shavon, meaning you have the ability to have a wife, but you are still not married, then I don't know how you remain single,
then definitely a person is going to end up committing wrong things. Because it's impossible for a man or a woman who are adults who have physical desires, who have hormones in their body, and who get to see so much corruption all the time, in the era in the time and the place that they're living in, and they still are content remaining single, it's unnatural. And it's not possible that if a person is living like that, they will not end up doing wrong things. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, then you are of the brothers of shaitaan
you have the ability, but still you don't, you must get married.
So we say that * is highly, highly encouraged in our religion, because it is a means of preserving the chastity of people. And it is a means of helping a person, lower their gaze, it protects a person and if a person does not get married, without any legitimate reason, then he is putting himself in problems.
We see that marriage is one of the laws of a loss of
marriage nica is one of the natural things that Allah subhanaw taala has created. We learn instead of that yet I have 49 Allah subhanaw taala says woman cliche in holla can as Oh, Janie, and have everything we have created bears, we have created two partners, meaning a male and a female.
And through the male and the female, that particular creation reproduces. So this is a natural law of nature that Allah subhanaw taala has said, therefore, if a person decides that no, I'm not going to get married, they decide to remain single, this is going against fidra. This is going against the nature that Allah subhanaw taala has created.
And we see that are smiling of the learner. He reported that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, anyone among you who has the ability should get married.
anyone among you who has the ability should get married, because it helps lower the gaze and guard the private parts. And whoever cannot afford it, he should fast. Because fasting is a restraint of desire for him, is a means of restraining his desires. So we see that marriage is highly, highly recommended in our religion. And we see that it's the practice of not just the Prophet sallallahu sallam, but also of all the previous prophets. As we have learned in the Quran, Institute of Art is number 38. Allah says that what are the other sudden now lucilla min oberliga, which are another home as well as in weather.
And we have sent messengers before you and we have granted them wives and children. So the prophets of Allah, they had wives, they got married, and a prophet of Allah is of the most spiritual of the most religious people. And if they get married, then it's natural for other people who are not that religious to get married.
And remember that there is no monasticism. In our religion, there is no Vania in our religion, that a person says that no, I'm not going to Fulfill my desires, because fulfilling the sexual desire. It takes you away from spirituality. Therefore I'm going to stay like this. And I'm not going to get married. No, there is no monasticism in our religion.
We learned that Ayesha little Dylan Has she reported that hawala, the daughter of Hakeem and omega, she visited her once. And Plato was married to Earth men, even Muslim and the prophets Allah said and when he saw who Allah, he noticed that she was a very messy appearance, meaning she had not dressed her property, she didn't really take care of herself. And this was obviously before the eyes of hijab had come.
So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam asked Arusha that Dr. Ayesha or I shall what makes her way to appear so messy, and what's wrong? What's the reason why she like that? Sorry, she replied, Well as messenger this woman's has been fast during the day and he prays during the night, so it is as if she does not have a husband.
He fasts during the day and he prays during the night so it is as though she does not have a husband. Therefore, she has neglected her appearance. She does not really care about
She looks so the profits are all of a sudden he called Earth man in this room. And he said to him or a man, are you doing that because you dislike my son?
Are you doing that? Meaning the way you're living, fasting during the day, praying during the night staying away from your wife? Is it because you dislike my son? Sir, this man replied by Allah no or less messenger rather, my whole interest is to follow your Sunnah. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam then said, verily, I sleep, and I pray, I fast and I break my fast and I marry women. That's fear. And the very Allah horseman because your family has a right upon you, your guests have a right upon you, and yourself has a right upon you so fast and break the fast and pray and also sleep. So we see that if a person decides I'm not going to get married, because I want to become more religious, then
there is no religiosity in this. There is no piety in this, there is no righteousness in this righteousness as in what, in following the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu sallam.
So we see that marriage is highly recommended and off marriage. There are many, many objectives. There are many objectives of NACA, there are many benefits of nicca
of the benefits of NACA is first of all, it protects the private parts, as the Hadees mentioned, that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told the young men that get married because it is most helpful in most effective in lowering the gaze and protecting the private parts. So one of the first one of the main benefits of marriage is that it protects the private parts.
Secondly, a person through marriage, he or she fulfills their desires through a lawful way. Because fulfilling the sexual desire is a natural thing. And remember that the word * literally means *. But this word has been chosen for marriage. Why? Because marriage is the only lawful way. It is the only lawful way of fulfilling this desire. And when a person uses a lawful way of fulfilling this desire, then this act also becomes an act of worship. So marriage is an act of worship,
then marriage is also a means of love and mercy. Between the two, between the husband and the wife, between the man and the woman. There's a hadith adjuster, which is that the best thing that can happen between two people who love his marriage,
because two people love one another. And the best thing that can happen between the two of them is marriage, because it will increase their love, it will increase their mercy for one another.
And we also see that off the benefits of marriage is that a family comes into being and then the children are given proper training within the family. And if a child is born out of wedlock, and if a child is raised by a single parent, then we see that many things are neglected. that children are raised up feeling that I belong to a broken family, I come from an incomplete family.
I remember somebody was telling me recently that a woman, she was single, and she decided to have a child. And she got pregnant through treatment. And she had no idea whose sperm she had taken. So no idea who the father of her child was. And when the child when he was growing up, and he went to school, and he saw that everybody has a dad, I don't have a dad, he would ask the mother who is my dad, who is my dad, how come I don't have a father. So we see that when a man and woman are married, they create a family and in that family, children are raised. And with that, there is confident people, stable people, stable individuals, and they get proper training, because one person alone
cannot train a child. Remember, a mother alone cannot look after her child. A father alone cannot look after his child, both are needed.
And we also see that nikka is a means of keeping the society free of many evils and corruption, that if people are married, then there would be no need to have prostitutes. There would be no need to have illegal ways of fulfilling sexual desire.
And marriage is also something that protects lineage. And it gives a woman a strong support. It provides a woman security
and it is a means through which a person preserves his faith through which a person preserves his religion. And he preserves his chastity. We learn from a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, that when a person gets married, he has bi that completed half of his faith. When a person gets married, then by that marriage he has completed half of his faith.
Let him fear and revere Allah in regard to the remaining half.
So it doesn't mean that if he marries twice, if he has two wives, then this religion is complete know that once a person is married, then half of his faith is complete in the sense that it's taken care of
many things you will be able to do now, in obedience to Allah subhanaw taala by being made.
Like for example, when a person is married, he is providing for his family, every morsel of food that he gives to his wife that he gives to his child, every penny every cent he spends, what is it? sadaqa it's written as charity for him, he's given their word of charity. So many things a person is able to do when he or she is married. And if a person is not married, they will not be able to follow many of the commands that Allah subhanaw taala has given
and marriage is something that gives a person the ability to enjoy love, to enjoy security to enjoy mercy. Allah subhanaw taala says and so the room is number 21. That woman is he and Haleakala coming and forsaken US Virgin Lita, schooner, la wa Jalla. Vina como what that and Rama in the field, Erika ettin de comida Kuru that among His Signs is that he created for you from yourself spouses, that he made well with security and peace unto them. And he said between you love and mercy, that Allah subhanaw taala is one who creates love and mercy between the spouses surely in that are Signs for those who reflect and early we read into the bacara that Hoon alabaster lako were intimately
barcelone in 187, that they are a garment for you and you are a garment for them. So we see that there are many, many benefits associated with nica. And that is why Nika is encouraged. And Xena is discouraged,
that we see that at the beginning of the surah Xena is discouraged by the punishment that has been given.
And over here and the guy has been encouraged, because nikka leads to peace, and Zina leads to chaos and corruption disorder in the society.
Now in this ayah do commands have been given that first of all, get the free ones married, and secondly, get the slaves married as well.
But from among the slaves who should be married, those who are solely hain the sila hain has specifically been mentioned. And this tells us a very, very important thing that a person who is to get married should also be ready for marriage. Because Allah hain has been mentioned in particular.
And suddenly he has mentioned in particular for slaves. Why?
Because slaves because of the life that they have lived in slavery, it's possible that they are used to many wrong things.
Like for example, in the days of Jamelia, slave women were used as prostitutes. So if a woman such as that is gotten married, she is used to sleeping with one man today with another man tomorrow. For her, it's not a big deal. So if she does get married, then what's going to happen, she will not be able to remain faithful to her husband,
it will not be a big deal for her that she's with one man today and with another man tomorrow. Society, he has a very important condition.
Similarly, we see that slaves were completely dependent on their masters.
They were not used to taking responsibility. They were not used to providing for others. And they were not able to experience many things in life, which make a person responsible, which make a person able to look after a family.
Therefore, for the slaves, what condition has been mentioned, that they should be solid, that their righteous people, they are obedient to Allah, they perform the obligations. And at the same time, in the worldly sense as well, they are good, because only then they will be able to remain faithful to their spouses, and only then marriage will be a means of peace and comfort for them. Otherwise marriage could lead them to great trouble.
Because we see that marriage is not just about fulfilling your sexual desire. Marriage is more than that. Marriage is about great responsibility that is put on the shoulders of both the man and the woman where the man is responsible to provide for his family. The woman is responsible to take care of her husband and her children.
So this shows to us that it is the responsibility of the parents of the Guardians of the Muslim community. Do also prepare people for marriage.
That it's not just that once a person hits 20 then that's it. You
Start looking for a potential spouse for them know, also prepare them for marriage. Because, for example, a boy if he is very, very dependent on his parents, that he has not even been taught the basic things as to how to manage money, how to make money, how to stand up for his wife how to take responsibility for his children, how to put money in a bank account, if he does not even have a driver's license, then Will he be able to look after his wife and children, he will not be able to.
Similarly for girl, all her life she has been taught you go to school you're studying, and she's not taught how to work in the kitchen, for example, then when she will get married, her marriage will cause her great trouble.
Unfortunately, we think that what's very, very important is that a girl should have a career should be stable, so that when she gets married in case something happens, she's able to support herself. That's very, very important. Very good idea.
However, what's more important for her is that she should be able to cook food for her children, she should be able to provide healthy meals for her family, she should be able to maintain the house, she should be able to look after herself. Because if she's not able to do this, then marriage will be a means of trouble for her. So yes, getting singles married is important. But at the same time, preparing them for marriage is also very important.
As parents, when you have a son, you have a future Father, you have a future husband in your care. When you have a daughter, you have a future wife, a future mother in your care. So don't just baby her all the time doing everything for all the time No, train her, make her learn the different things make him learn different things so that they're capable of having a family of looking after a spouse of being a good spouse, because this is the reality of life. We cannot avoid it for too long.
So before getting our children married, what should we think about preparing them for marriage. And as singles before thinking about marriage think about wising up. Because marriage is about responsibility. Marriage is not just about, you know, having a spouse is your friend with them, you do a lot of fun things and you go out, because unfortunately for many girls, I think once I get married, I'll be free, that I can do whatever I want, my husband can cook will get a maid will eat out all the time. Right? This is what girls think, in an imaginary world. And when they get married in the realities of life hit them, then it becomes very, very challenging.
I remember somebody was once telling me that when they were young, the first time, they work somewhere and they got a paycheck, the first time ever, their father said, this goes to your mother and your sisters,
you're supposed to divide this paycheck between your mother and your sisters, you're not getting any of this. And he had to do that.
Because his father was teaching him that this money you're earning. It's not so that you can buy one phone after the other. One computer after the other one gadget after the other note, you're making this money to look after your family.
So he was given this training from the beginning, that first paycheck went between his mother and his sisters.
And unfortunately, boys, they're never given the straining.
Boys will be in their mid 20s, they will be 30. But still, they're like teenagers. They don't have the sense of responsibility, because they've never been taught that they're supposed to be looking after their children.
And we see this, that the vast majority of our youth, the vast majority of our young people, within Muslims, they're not ready for marriage, which is why many times they get married. And within a year or two, the marriage comes to an end. They're not ready for marriage, neither mentally, nor physically, nor are they socially able. And they don't have that ability to take the responsibility for marriage. So it's very, very important.
And we see that a person must be trained from the very beginning, as a child as an adult, through school years through university so that they're able to get married and have a family.
And we've seen this idea that one of the major things that prevents people from getting married is financial concerns,
that I don't have enough money because it is a reality. That part of the responsibility that comes with marriage is to provide for the wife and children.
It is the responsibility of the men. He cannot say I don't have anything. However, I'd like to get married to your daughter. I don't have a job. I don't have any savings. I don't have anything. Although I would like to get married to your daughter. I know. A person must have something because it is his response.
ability to look after his wife and children.
But we see that if a man has even some money if he has some income.
But if that income is not up to your standards, many times such men will be rejected their proposals will be rejected.
Because in our minds, especially within our cultures, we have the standard that the boy has to have completed his university, he has to have been working for the past two years, he must have his own car, he must be at the point of buying a house in the near future. He must be living independently. And if that is not the case, too bad, I cannot get married to him.
But we see that if this is the only reason that prevents parents from getting their daughters married, or getting their sons married, that this is not a legitimate reason. This is not a legitimate reason. Because Allah subhanaw taala says over here in your corner for Allah, you need him allow him and
if they are poor, Allah will enrich them from his bounty.
I remember one of my friends, when she got married, her husband had just graduated from school, just graduated.
And he had applied for work at different different places. But he hadn't yet received a response. And he was still living with his parents. He was still financially dependent on his parents, but his parents supported him. And he got married. And the day he got married, the next day, he had his job interview, and he got the job.
How often is it that people graduate and immediately they get a job? How often is it
hardly. Over here, especially today, having a bachelor's degree, having an undergrad degree is nothing, you can't get a good job with it.
You have to have, you know, one certification after the other certification, you have to have your masters at least and then you can get a good job.
And I was amazed, because this boy, he wanted to get married. His parents understood they supported him, they helped him he was a responsible boy, which is why he was applying for work. And he got his work the next day.
So never think that just because this person does not have money right now. Therefore, I don't think I'll be able to get married to him.
Because these circumstances, they can change. They can change at any time. And we see in sort of large number 26 Allah subhanaw taala says that allowable sort of his buddy Masha, Allah is the one who extends provision for whomever He wills.
So when it comes to money, when it comes to wealth, this is a law's decision. So never make it a big issue. Never make it a big issue.
And the reason why this point is stressed is because many times people delay marriage, many times people avoid marriage, or they reject potential spouse. Why? Because of financial reasons. And this is not a legitimate reason.
The problem arises when we look at what people have. And when we don't look at what Allah has. If our eyes are on the bank accounts of people, then definitely will never be content will always be afraid. But if our eyes are upon the Hosea in of Allah, then we will not have any fears.
Now, it doesn't mean you don't be practical at all, does because a man says he wishes to get married and he doesn't have any means at all. You say, okay, no, be practical, however, don't have very high conditions, very high standards, very realistic. And especially you see over here in this ayah, a Yama had been told to get my single ones have been told to get married. And usually these people are young.
And young people, they're just beginning their careers. They're just perhaps beginning their work life, their business or whatever they're doing. So at that time, there's a lot of risk involved. So don't just delay because there is a risk that is involved. Know, if they're a righteous person, a good person with good luck. Go ahead, Allah is the logic he will provide.
And just remember that whatever provision Allah has written for you, you will get it. Whether you marry a billionaire, or you marry someone who is not that rich. Whatever it is, Allah has written for you will definitely definitely get it.
And if you're confused, if you're unsure, do is to pray to Allah McGuire to him to show you the best option to give you the best option.
So in this ayah we have been given the command that the single ones, they should get married, and it's the responsibility of the Guardians of the Muslim community to help them get married. So if for instance, you know sometimes young girls, they don't like the fact that
Other people are sending proposals and they say, I don't want to get married and don't talk about marriage don't get offended. Other people are doing you a favor. Other people are doing you a favor. And sometimes people say no, but I don't wish to get married. And why do they have to look in this way? Too bad, you're a girl. And there are guys out there who wish to get married, and girls who want to get married. People want to have families. So there's nothing that has to be made a big deal. out of the situation, it's not a big deal. It doesn't mean that you talk openly about it, that if a woman is looking for a potential daughter in law, she goes on talking to girls on their faces,
asking them, you know, what are your plans? And what do you intend to do. And it's very, very important that we touch the subject in an appropriate way, in a decent way. Go through the proper channels, never go through improper meats, because it makes other people very conscious, it makes young girls very uncomfortable. So be very careful in the way that you touch the subject in the way that you approach this. And the best is that the girl should not be spoken to directly rather her parents her family, they should be spoken to. So be very careful, be very sensitive with regards to these things.
Now, what about those people who are trying to get married, but they can't find a spouse?
Or those people who want to get married but their families are not cooperating with them? The circumstances are not just adding up. What are they supposed to do?